The REAL Reason You Attract Narcissists In Your Life Feat. Dr. Ramani

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Joe Polish

Joe Polish

Күн бұрын

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@Aanframe
@Aanframe 21 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani is a Gift to Humanity❤
@georgiakritikos4955
@georgiakritikos4955 21 күн бұрын
Are u sure🤔
@FoolintheRainSDMF
@FoolintheRainSDMF 21 күн бұрын
She really is. She made me know I wasn't crazy and I'm forever thankful
@nadinetchaho2618
@nadinetchaho2618 21 күн бұрын
💯 she truly is. Her finding is a Revelation to us. Let’s stop the Carnage. Narcissistic has done enough damage
@LOVEISTRUTH300
@LOVEISTRUTH300 20 күн бұрын
LOVE💖💖💖
@patricehoward9831
@patricehoward9831 19 күн бұрын
RAMANI IS DESTROYING HUMANITY, MORON
@danarchambault8723
@danarchambault8723 21 күн бұрын
She absolutely saved my life and SANITY , I will never be able to put into words my gratitude for her channel
@orianam9835
@orianam9835 21 күн бұрын
Well done you 👍👍👍🕊🕊🕊
@mommafoxxdiaries6509
@mommafoxxdiaries6509 20 күн бұрын
❤❤❤😫😫you and her are so great!!😊
@LOVEISTRUTH300
@LOVEISTRUTH300 20 күн бұрын
Me too. She's a God send...LOVE💖💖💖
@1annettesinclair
@1annettesinclair 20 күн бұрын
Same. I love her. So grateful
@patricehoward9831
@patricehoward9831 19 күн бұрын
HER PLATFORM IS BUILT ON VIOLATION, EXPLOITAITON, STALKING, LIES, AND ENSLAVEMENT.
@sbella6719
@sbella6719 15 күн бұрын
"basically the only way the relationship works is if we quit ourselves and become what they want us to become " Wow! That's exactly what happened with me. I'm now trying to find myself again.
@trivenipatil5928
@trivenipatil5928 17 күн бұрын
Narcissist or not,if the person is a detriment to your mental health,just leave!!it might be hard but not impossible!! eventually you will realise that it was for the best!
@c78sanchez1
@c78sanchez1 20 күн бұрын
I don’t think we attract them, they come hunting for us!!!
@MayDay-yn3bw
@MayDay-yn3bw 18 күн бұрын
This!
@jeremyeblack4987
@jeremyeblack4987 18 күн бұрын
Exactly
@edmondrealestatejenniferhe6994
@edmondrealestatejenniferhe6994 18 күн бұрын
I disagree. There is something within the target that the narcissist is attracted to whether it be physical beauty, talents (singing, acting, successful business person), or a brokenness (broken from death, abandonment, illness, an emotional vulnerability) - it doesn’t matter what trauma the targeted person has experienced, even if sexually or physically abused as a child, it’s the genuine kindness and a light from within that attracts the narcissist. Sadly, the malignant covert narcissist is the chameleon who moves throughout the family, church, school, business or community manipulating people and situations to gain power through gaslighting and coercive control. It’s ALL about winning for the narcissist…..at ANY cost.
@deebee4622
@deebee4622 18 күн бұрын
True, In 1 Peter 5:8 we are warned, “Be alert and sober minded. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.
@susanmercurio1060
@susanmercurio1060 18 күн бұрын
I agree! Predators are seeking victims. Victims don't seek predators.
@emointel321
@emointel321 21 күн бұрын
My narcissist ex is a substance abuse counselor. The reality is this person is more of an addict than the people they treat. Usually the underlying issues are the same but their drug of choice is “supply” With this position they garner unlimited adoration and validation with a never ending revolving door.
@TanyaDavis954
@TanyaDavis954 21 күн бұрын
That's insane.Thanks for sharing, but it makes sense.
@Pamela-k5u
@Pamela-k5u 21 күн бұрын
Yes they look for people in difficult positions to feed off of them. Which is why staying independent is so important. It makes them feel better about themselves and feeds their grandiose ego. They can do no wrong. Look at the people I'm helping. Look at how wonderful I am. While everyone who isn't a narcissist is puking in silence.
@laraparks7018
@laraparks7018 21 күн бұрын
AA is a narcissistic playground 😢 they prey on codependents for supply😮
@ymmij388
@ymmij388 21 күн бұрын
Mine is about to become a Forensic Psychologist. She is also a porn, sex and was (possibly still is) a Meth addict. It’s frightening that they work themselves into those positions
@laraparks7018
@laraparks7018 21 күн бұрын
@ymmij388 WOW 😳
@DominieRobinson
@DominieRobinson 21 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani Literally Saved my SANITY more than once ..!
@alexm.7781
@alexm.7781 21 күн бұрын
I have so much gratitude to Dr Ramani for giving me back my sanity. I remember those early days listening to her glossary videos with the definition of each term I.e. gaslighting. Had no idea what any of it meant while I was codependent and enmeshed with my mother as a starting point, and then repeating the same pattern in other relationships too. It was draining, confusing, hurtful and extremely disempowering. To feel shame and unworthiness is a cruel experience and we all deserve better, including the abusers - but for those surviving it, please know that it is not your job to fix anybody or to tolerate their dysfunctional behaviour, however you can wish them well from a distance. Dr Ramani, thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏 ❤
@orianam9835
@orianam9835 21 күн бұрын
Well done. I started to listen to dr. Ramani 5 years ago. She also helped me . But I still love the man I have left
@littleiodine9480
@littleiodine9480 18 күн бұрын
I will not even wish them well. If they cross my mind, I abruptly change my focus to what I am grateful for or my next step in reaching one of my goals.
@AshleyS-nh4rm
@AshleyS-nh4rm 16 күн бұрын
Yesssss
@VEE-rd7cu
@VEE-rd7cu 20 күн бұрын
I am a Narcissistic magnet for both men and women... I'm exhausted...just ended a friendship with a 'covert narcissist' ; she tried to convince me that she was 'an empath', there was something, maybe her temper tantrums and threatened suicides. Thanks to the doc for the enlightenment... it's been climbing out of quicksand for over a decade....🎉
@ranglumoje5649
@ranglumoje5649 17 күн бұрын
Perhaps you should not look at the external world but examine your internal reality
@revolutionunderground
@revolutionunderground 16 күн бұрын
Extreme melanchily like threatened suicides ARE the definition of being an empath
@ireneb3433
@ireneb3433 14 күн бұрын
Do you ever get curious about what it is about You that makes you (in your words) "a narcissistic magnet for both men and women"? .. But even more-so, WHY you feel compelled to let them into your heart / house / bed / life? I would think it's easier to change something in yourself so that you can 'resist them' rather than to try to change all the narcissistic men and women out there.
@elipotter369
@elipotter369 13 күн бұрын
I seem to keep getting people who turn mean (often from jealousy),& I have to drop them. As a result, I'm focussed on learning to have a positive and lovely daily routine, so even if I have no friends at all, I can live well, with goals. I think about what can i change in me, why do I do it etc, but I also simply think there are a lot of horrid people out there marauding around looking for people to latch on to, because other people got fed up with them. And because I moved to a new city (known for being unfriendly), & I'm an individual with my own style & ideas (instead of faking what I like & think to fit in with the crowd). I also have health limitations that slow me down.
@ireneb3433
@ireneb3433 13 күн бұрын
@@elipotter369 love, Love, LOVE your approach, Eli!!! Kudos to You for turning *inwards* to see what can be done differently versus turning *outwards* to blaming and shaming and others. "Get curious WHY. YOU'RE. ATTRACTED. to these kinds of people" guys .. don't just stop at "oh, *they're* attracted to me" .. but that doesn't mean you have to let them (accept them into) your life, your home, your bed, your head .. !!!!
@LR-yu3mx
@LR-yu3mx 21 күн бұрын
I'm thankful that dr tells us WHY do we attrack narcissists.
@coletteterrasson5350
@coletteterrasson5350 18 күн бұрын
Because we need boundaries straight away.
@carolannstevens5814
@carolannstevens5814 17 күн бұрын
Married for 36 years to a narc and hearing this helps to get away.
@helenafranca4077
@helenafranca4077 17 күн бұрын
Just leave... they are energy vampires ..i left, after 26 years
@scottkeller8890
@scottkeller8890 9 күн бұрын
I made it 30 years before walking away. It's not easy but you'll heal and find happiness in being alone. 30+ years with narc is worse than prison.
@akdinako658
@akdinako658 8 күн бұрын
24 yrs and these are really great support videos and finding others who been in one just as long
@OasisJones
@OasisJones 22 күн бұрын
1:14 definition 2:07 shame 6:11 how to spot them 7:19 relationship 10:00 what they want 11:00 supply 12:53 communal 14:43 empathy 16:51 trauma bonded 19:58 schema 22:29 healthy models 23:29 authentic 26:18 sick of talking about it 27:32 discovery 31:18 Ramani being called one 33:42 being bothered 37:07 transformation 37:33 healing 41:57 entrappanuer narc 45:37 resources
@OasisJones
@OasisJones 20 күн бұрын
43:26
@prismonthethehorizon5793
@prismonthethehorizon5793 48 минут бұрын
Thank you for this time stamps, much appreciated xxx 👍
@actuallyican4250
@actuallyican4250 21 күн бұрын
I ended a 14 yr relationship finally realizing what was going. And this week cut off my parents realizing it started with them!! The enmeshment and narc mom and narc dad. Its rocked my foundation to realize exactly what my mom has been doing to me. I've been diagnosed with over 7 autoimmune diseases since childhood. I feel lighter since I finally took back my power and just to finally know what hell has been happeing. The confusion was the worst.
@mvbigmagic4048
@mvbigmagic4048 20 күн бұрын
Same with me. Minus the "7 autoimmune diseases." I'm 52 and had a come-to-Jesus moment when my narcissistic father was diagnosed with cancer last year. I realized NONE of my biological family gave a duck about me. 52 years. I've been propping up everyone else. :( To the detriment of my own finances and my own little family. This year, I went no-contact with ALL of my mother's side of the family (99% of my dad's side is already dead). It's been eye-opening. I also yeeted a bunch of narcissistic friends who'd been leeching off me for DECADES. It's been ten months, and life is still difficult, but oh so much more peaceful. You're right about the confusion.... it's been decades of gaslighting. It will take time to re-frame all the lies. :( Every day I am no-contact, I realize some other truth that was kept from me. :( Eye-opening. Life-altering. No-contact has been survival for me.
@orianam9835
@orianam9835 20 күн бұрын
Maybe limit the time with parents instead of cuting them off. They probably did the best they could to raise you ?
@TanyaDavis954
@TanyaDavis954 20 күн бұрын
I hear you and i'm with you.The confusion was the worst, but not the veil is lifted?It's all about taking care of ourselves.
@rosendungu8051
@rosendungu8051 20 күн бұрын
​@@orianam9835 When we can handle it, we'll unblock them.
@FreedomofSpeech865
@FreedomofSpeech865 20 күн бұрын
@@orianam9835I hate that assumption that people did the best, you know don’t even don’t even try! Let her go no contact if that’s what s/he needs to
@bereal6590
@bereal6590 21 күн бұрын
The out there grandiose and their opposite the sullen silent joy sucker is so true. Two extremes but ultimately the same pathology.
@connie9492
@connie9492 19 күн бұрын
JOY SUCKER......GREAT TERM!
@connie9492
@connie9492 19 күн бұрын
SULLEN SILENT JOY SUCKER! SO APT!
@sbella6719
@sbella6719 15 күн бұрын
37:00 "...the only way to heal from narcissist abuse is to not focus on the narcissist..." Thank you Dr Ramani for that because with all this focus on the narcissist I was wondering how this works. So the goal is to educate ourselves first so that we know what we're dealing with in order to heal.
@DominieRobinson
@DominieRobinson 21 күн бұрын
I learned the hard way Tocic Transactional Narcissists are prevalent kn Religious communities as well. Although I remain forEver a Deeply Spiritual Seeker, and empathic always wanting to fix, help, or rescue, after an eye opening bucket of ice water in the face shocker with very toxic predatory individuals in various Religious settings, I am currently a Loner , always reading and researching . I spend a LOT of time in Nature, excellent cup of coffee, enjoying sunrises , and occasional sunsets, loving to throw seed to birds, rabbits, squirells, and chipmunk squirealls, maybe enjoying a really good book, I tend to Steer Clear of humans at this point. I most likely Will steer completely clear of most humans for a Really Long time . I noticed I tend to want to believe the beautiful sounding, often engaging promises of toxic people and the narcissists in my life so until I figure this Out, best to Step Carefully !
@FreedomofSpeech865
@FreedomofSpeech865 20 күн бұрын
I love the understanding of the communal narcissist. I know someone like that, always available for a charity event and seems so giving but behind close doors as a relative she is self-centered, mean and cold. The cognitive empathy is the part that confused me for the longest as to what I was dealing with.
@vivianMarvin-z6k
@vivianMarvin-z6k 14 күн бұрын
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
@Yukajoseph
@Yukajoseph 14 күн бұрын
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
@vivianMarvin-z6k
@vivianMarvin-z6k 14 күн бұрын
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
@Yukajoseph
@Yukajoseph 14 күн бұрын
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@Yukajoseph
@Yukajoseph 14 күн бұрын
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
@vivianMarvin-z6k
@vivianMarvin-z6k 14 күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
@mayenessien9370
@mayenessien9370 21 күн бұрын
Reminds me of 2 Timothy 3:1-5 .Explains why there is an epidemic of this personality style. Thankfully it's the last days of the world as we know it. Very soon all wickedness will be permanently removed ( and the bad memories!). Psalms 37:10,11,29 ❤❤
@melisentiapheiffer3034
@melisentiapheiffer3034 21 күн бұрын
It's so accurate.
@madamephoebejoimack1219
@madamephoebejoimack1219 20 күн бұрын
Hey Sis❤
@LOVEISTRUTH300
@LOVEISTRUTH300 20 күн бұрын
LOVE💖💖💖
@margaretcordova3268
@margaretcordova3268 20 күн бұрын
You must be a Witness. Soon all these unhappy situations will be gone for sure. In Gods new world we will be able to trust everyone.
@orjadagjoka583
@orjadagjoka583 20 күн бұрын
That is the truth. They are lovers of themselves.
@rad9541
@rad9541 21 күн бұрын
Dr. Romani it was great to hear you say in the beginning they choose you because your attractive. This makes sense. This statement alone gave me so much self confidence
@Bisseline
@Bisseline 16 күн бұрын
Definitely. I found her channel on yt, it was the darkest time of my life, and she had the answers to all my questions and she could give me back my self assurance.
@vraiment-2024
@vraiment-2024 19 күн бұрын
"Why do you love this person?" Uhh..., well..., I uhh..., you know, it's uhh..., etc. (me talking to my therapist) Free yourself from unhealthy relationships, it takes time and is painful and you'll make mistakes, but we all do, so don't punish yourself, keep up the good work, we need people like you!
@Liciablyth
@Liciablyth 18 күн бұрын
I find people get very confused between emotion and a conscience. Psycopaths are not emotionless, but they do lack a conscience 'the complex of ethical and moral principles that controls or inhibits the actions or thoughts of an individual.' Psychopaths feel emotions, as do narcissists. Some narcissists have a lack of empathy and some moral deficiencies, but do not fulfill the complete criteria for psychopathy. Always good to hear Dr Ramani's explanations.
@RuthDavis-dv1ue
@RuthDavis-dv1ue 19 күн бұрын
I escaped by going to Cole’s to get something for dinner and with my sister waiting round the corner I took off. Still traumatised but so happy, a do believe god was helping me.✝️
@rollsroyce5400
@rollsroyce5400 11 күн бұрын
God bless you love❤
@beatrizayendemillet9801
@beatrizayendemillet9801 21 күн бұрын
❤ She is my go-to whenever I have to see or speak to my narcissistic mother.
@merin797
@merin797 17 күн бұрын
Yep. No reciprocity, unless it’s a transaction. Took me a while to realize, there were alot of ‘normal’ things that should have been there, that were missing. So I started to check that, by comparing to him to my ‘normal’ friends. Stark difference.
@sbella6719
@sbella6719 15 күн бұрын
Yes everything is a transactional relationship. Took me a long time to accept all that he did during the love bombing stage wasn't out of kindness but done to gain trust and control. It still hurts knowing that it wasn't real.
@Megan-p5j8k
@Megan-p5j8k 20 күн бұрын
Whoa~ I feel this. I have been feeling my energy being siphoned lately. Literally 😱
@lindamylne1790
@lindamylne1790 20 күн бұрын
What does it matter if it's narcissism or not If it's unhealthy it's time to think about finding a way forward & choose healing 🙏
@orianam9835
@orianam9835 20 күн бұрын
Well said
@dampergoldenrod4156
@dampergoldenrod4156 19 күн бұрын
They're using the word narcissism and it could certainly change. It was everywhere in the 1980s and it was celebrated. Now it's become so poisonous Nobody can idolize it anymore and it has spread everywhere. The worse instances are when these people are working as police teachers, mental health workers or in positions of power
@northofyou33
@northofyou33 11 күн бұрын
Well, I married a narcissist before these conversations started. Our relationship was toxic and painful and I got out because of those reasons. But I had no idea he was a narcissist at the time. When I finally realized it, I wished I had known all the things that I now know. I wouldn't have felt so depressed and so useless and so unloveable. He made me feel that way, and I had no idea why. It took a long time to com back to myself, and learning about narcissism helped me a great deal in my recovery.
@Fairgreentube
@Fairgreentube 18 күн бұрын
The irony about attracting them is, if you truly wanna weed out the ones that you feel are putting on a show, then you can always talk about this subject. Once they know you know, and they start to recognize some of the characteristics that you’re mentioning to them in themselves, they know that they can’t fool you, and then they will leave you alone leaving room for someone that will appreciate you. Now, sometimes they will shake in on their head like they understand you and you see it in them, and they refused to recognize it. That’s when you have to put up your own boundary and say to yourself that it is OK to say no. My core values are transparency, integrity, consistency, self-awareness, and accountability. If somebody doesn’t have these instilled in their core values, they very well could fit the narcissistic mold. Thank you so much Dr. Ramani for saving all of our lives.
@revolutionunderground
@revolutionunderground 16 күн бұрын
Maybe many people have these patterns without realizing it
@Fairgreentube
@Fairgreentube 15 күн бұрын
@ consciously they know, but they use their unconscious mindset to make decisions. It’s like the child inside of them makes the decision while the adult is sleeping. Eventually the adult will wake up and realize what the child is doing, but the narcissist has to hit rock bottom hard and loose all of their enablers for this to happen. Once this happens they have to self reflect and become more self aware and accountable. Then they will begin to exercise integrity and eventually become consistent and eventually more transparent.
@delicatelace8830
@delicatelace8830 16 күн бұрын
Dr Ramani explains narcs so well.
@tolubamidele1508
@tolubamidele1508 21 күн бұрын
I profiled my ex and he checked 95% of the points of being a narcissist. Unfortunately I didn’t know this when we were married and I was reading up on on psychopaths and sociopaths but he didn’t fit the profile. Once I by chance saw a video on NPD, it was boom. That’s what I’m dealing with. Thanks God .il not crazy.
@SherryTomlinson-r2y
@SherryTomlinson-r2y 19 күн бұрын
Yes the crazy word is the narcissist favorite word. Glad you see it 💕
@mzbize1
@mzbize1 18 күн бұрын
​@@SherryTomlinson-r2yThat!
@rhiannonfugatt3269
@rhiannonfugatt3269 19 күн бұрын
We do not attract them, they are attracted to us. It's not like we on purposely intentionally create the energy that draws them to us. Because we do not draw them to us. There are enough narcissists that we cross paths with them regularly and they are attracted to certain types of people. All the responsibility is on them.
@LaniBanani
@LaniBanani 18 күн бұрын
I think of it as they initially are drawn to kind people as a potential source of supply and then envy turns them into competing with you - since they can’t compete with an authentic warm person that you are - they then set about destroying your reputation and relationships (a capable, kind, popular person) so they can feel better about themselves by convincing everyone you know you are abusing and they are the victim.
@susanmercurio1060
@susanmercurio1060 18 күн бұрын
Predators are on the prowl to find victims. The victims are not putting out a wavelength to find a predator. That's blaming the victim.
@rhiannonfugatt3269
@rhiannonfugatt3269 18 күн бұрын
@@susanmercurio1060 100%
@mysticjen379
@mysticjen379 13 күн бұрын
@@LaniBananiYeah that’s been my experience. They’re always trying to be what their targets are.
@kathryncothern3433
@kathryncothern3433 21 күн бұрын
I always enjoy listening to Dr. Ramani. So much to understand. ❤
@moniquejackson7741
@moniquejackson7741 21 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani is amazing, and Joe, you bring out the BEST explanations in her. Fantastic and inspiring interview!
@joepolish2124
@joepolish2124 19 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@Windsong1
@Windsong1 20 күн бұрын
I can unequivocally state that she saved my life.
@TAnderson-s1i
@TAnderson-s1i 19 күн бұрын
Thanks so much. I'm so sick of trying to explain these behaviors to therapist. Please please keep getting your information out there 🙏
@tavarez415
@tavarez415 18 күн бұрын
I know one for 15 years and I have never seen this narcissist shed a tear!
@sbella6719
@sbella6719 15 күн бұрын
I seldom shed tears. I really wish I could cry more easily but it's hard. I think I've conditioned myself to laugh it off or vent angrily.
@loricuradeau6133
@loricuradeau6133 20 күн бұрын
I am currently in a narcissistic marriage and she is helping me to navigate through it by watching her videos. Would love a copy of your book
@shainanash8518
@shainanash8518 19 күн бұрын
I love Dr. Ramani.She saved my life. I wanted to unlive. The friends. that I had enabled him.
@MegaMARLEEN1
@MegaMARLEEN1 21 күн бұрын
Thank u dr Ramani, i admire your clear understanding on this topic more every day.
@bereal6590
@bereal6590 21 күн бұрын
Excellent vid, everything I learn about this really helps. Decades of feeling like the crazy one, so grateful to dr r, dr c and Jerry wise, helping people feel sane and supported ✌✊
@nostromois
@nostromois 19 күн бұрын
💖
@ms.texassoldier7203
@ms.texassoldier7203 10 күн бұрын
I like that part where she talks about like they’re two different type of people that might be in the same group I seen my husband help people at a restaurant pulling out chairs or carrying a baby chair whatever and then he’ll sit down and quietly talk about them behind their back right after he has helped them. I think one good way to find out who is the narcissist is by having someone that’s sincerely authentic be the leader in a room and see who tries to compete with them or to win them over because they like to win over that person so that they can find out the dirt on that person to put them downway that you can find out about a narcissist is find out what their life is on a social scale. Very rarely that I’ve ever heard make parties and like people over and help a lot on a consistent basis. I feel like they use their time more selfishly.
@Strengtheningselffirst2
@Strengtheningselffirst2 21 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani put it all in to perspective and found so much understanding into my life from childhood and in my 30 yr marriage. So grateful for her passionate, thoughtful, true knowledgeable hard work. Saved my life personally.
@helenad2923
@helenad2923 14 күн бұрын
Narcissists don't choose us, WE chose them. Because we are broken inside and this sick dynamic seems so familiar to us and feels like home. A non-traumatised person will never accept this dynamic and won't be attracted to a narcissistic dynamic.
@Sandra-mq1nb
@Sandra-mq1nb 18 күн бұрын
Gorgeous interview!!!! And I love the good vibes between the two of you🥰😘
@laneneal3510
@laneneal3510 19 күн бұрын
She’s so spot on
@shannondavis127
@shannondavis127 6 күн бұрын
"How they show up on your bad days"- thank you Dr. Ramani- I have two narcissistic parents!
@justasimplesomeone
@justasimplesomeone 18 күн бұрын
They literally scan the room - and pick out potential prey - then they groom you - work on you - love bomb you and cleverly blast into complete oblivion what your first instinctual feelings may been.
@IndigoCosmic
@IndigoCosmic 14 күн бұрын
I remember my malignant narcissistic ex on our first date was sitting and talking to me and kept saying, "You are gorgeous." At the time, I simply took this as a nice compliment, but later in the relationship, I realized that was the only reason he wanted to be with me.
@she23233
@she23233 18 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani is a God’s messenger, a helper sent to help people. Thank you so much.
@faithbaker8259
@faithbaker8259 18 күн бұрын
sometimes the angry person in the room is a beaten down spouse or victim of a covert or malignant narcissist? i am 40 years with one & im an empath soft type or was now im so angry & trapped .. these people destry you & not every one has means to leave thank you dr ramani i watch you all the time & you have helped me to cope bless you 😊
@tradslnd9872
@tradslnd9872 16 күн бұрын
Very true
@meabeck
@meabeck 21 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramani, thanks for helping me learn from being pulled into their thinking, as in the backwoods of our minds. 😮 Your generosity is beautiful.
@LDRevis
@LDRevis 21 күн бұрын
My only child, my precious daughter, is in a relationship with a narcissist. I have been trying to rescue her from this, but to no avail. She wants to get out, but he is so controlling, she can't. She books a flight home, and he forces her to cancel it. I feel so helpless. It is driving me crazy! What can I do??😢
@p_tiffanii
@p_tiffanii 18 күн бұрын
​@@LDRevisDoes she work? YOU can book the ticket and send it to her job. It may take her having to be transparent with her direct supervisor, to ensure it gets to her. But, it'll be worth it so she can get out safely.
@frankie7558
@frankie7558 18 күн бұрын
The Communal Narcissist is the information that has now let me be able to sleep at night. It just nice to be able to have someone as smart as this woman put a name to the idiotic man I was dating ! Goodluck everyone, Your doing great, Lets keep learning.
@Victoria-qk3mu
@Victoria-qk3mu 18 күн бұрын
Her wisdom is doing a service for so many people Thank you ❤
@nostromois
@nostromois 19 күн бұрын
The great Dr. Ramani. By God what a scientist and human! A gift to Humanity indeed. What a gift her tremendously impactful work, the millions of people finding finally relief and sanity - because of a great brave spirit of a great human heart. So much love and gratitude.
@fidelmashelton9491
@fidelmashelton9491 21 күн бұрын
Brilliant, and thank you. Learning so much about narcissism and how to deal with them.
@margiestephens7281
@margiestephens7281 21 күн бұрын
Just a note::STAY AWAY FROM THESE PEOPLE
@juanderuano8969
@juanderuano8969 17 күн бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
@elladonaldson-lh6nc
@elladonaldson-lh6nc 17 күн бұрын
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
@juanderuano8969
@juanderuano8969 17 күн бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/her?
@elladonaldson-lh6nc
@elladonaldson-lh6nc 17 күн бұрын
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@juanderuano8969
@juanderuano8969 17 күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@Clevelandsteamer324
@Clevelandsteamer324 17 күн бұрын
Never beg someone to stay in your life! If they want to go, open the door!
@renchemarais8419
@renchemarais8419 12 күн бұрын
If I knew about Narcissism my life would have been different. If I knew about Narcissism my children would have been saved. If I knew about the Evilness Narcissism my pets would still be alive. If I knew about Narcissism I would have beenable to help many innocent people, pets. If I knew about Narcissism I would have at least been prepared for it. Thank you Dr. D. RAMANI
@renchemarais8419
@renchemarais8419 12 күн бұрын
@theperfectautumn8781
@theperfectautumn8781 19 күн бұрын
My experience with several N's in my life has been that their _mask_ seems to fall away at three months or so, just like clockwork. Narcs can't maintain the facade much longer than that. Also, a great point Dr. Ramani made was how does the narcissist _show up_ on _your_ best days??
@matilda1505
@matilda1505 18 күн бұрын
or worst,
@jcook2433
@jcook2433 18 күн бұрын
Wow. Three months is something I noticed too. Maximum. I wondered if that was common.
@mysticjen379
@mysticjen379 13 күн бұрын
I’ve said this for years! It’s totally three months. Bizarre isn’t it!
@mindfulkarin
@mindfulkarin 18 күн бұрын
Always love listening to Dr Ramani, thank you for sharing🙏🏼❣️
@sherekabell-t9s
@sherekabell-t9s 16 күн бұрын
Dr Ramani is a blessing, I watch her speak about my life and every word she speaks is true!
@Couscous77
@Couscous77 21 күн бұрын
Finally a podcost host that asks GOOD questions that follow the train of thought of the guest! So many popular but trashh hosts just blurt out random questions.
@joepolish2124
@joepolish2124 19 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@fasikatibebu1163
@fasikatibebu1163 7 күн бұрын
Dr Ramani, i cant thank you enough for helping me understand what Narcicism and Narcicist are and decide to leave my r/ship bfeore i die mentally, emotionally and spiritually and ...Thank so much
@Silvia-ly2ge
@Silvia-ly2ge 21 күн бұрын
I appreciate so much Doc Ramani, I bought her last book and is great. However I suggest to listen and maybe interview Doc Peter Salerno too. He is very skilled and well formed on narcissism and cluster B personalities, he gives even a different perspective on some aspects like supposed shame of narcs, fragile ego and so on, based on scientific studies that really worth to listen.
@M3lCHOR
@M3lCHOR 21 күн бұрын
Could you provide details on what he said about shaming and narcissism, and identify the video or book source? Also, could you kindly share the link or reference?
@maureenb690
@maureenb690 21 күн бұрын
They don't have shame or guilt. They are not insecure deep down. They believe they are better than everyone else. If they are caught doing something bad, they are angry that they were embarrassed, but they are not sorry, do not have guilt, and are never ashamed. Those were new points other therapists aren't saying. The narc I know fits this understanding completely.
@Silvia-ly2ge
@Silvia-ly2ge 21 күн бұрын
The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism: Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder from the Perspective of Gene - Environment Interactions
@maureenb690
@maureenb690 21 күн бұрын
The embarrassment is not shame, it's more of being in a rage because they were caught and they feel like "how dare you put a chink in my public image! No one is supposed to know I do this when no one is watching!"
@hannahhughes4801
@hannahhughes4801 19 күн бұрын
​@@maureenb690they don't care enough to feel guilt either, awful people.
@SparkleAndShine-hh5vv
@SparkleAndShine-hh5vv 21 күн бұрын
This is absolutely brilliant! Thank you so much for this!
@elektraerika01
@elektraerika01 7 күн бұрын
I learned something new -- the concept of communal narcissism!! Very though-provoking!
@johnmac8525
@johnmac8525 22 күн бұрын
Great to see this interaction.
@margaretyoung4262
@margaretyoung4262 20 күн бұрын
Amazing interview,thank you both!! Articulate, insightful, helpful! Joyful blessings 👍😊🙏
@joepolish2124
@joepolish2124 19 күн бұрын
You are welcome and thank you, glad it was helpful!
@ChipDiamond-v1k
@ChipDiamond-v1k 21 күн бұрын
My Narcopath is a Professor. I am a disabled veteran. I was just convicted for Domestic Violence and I never did anything , except trying to get away..
@ChipDiamond-v1k
@ChipDiamond-v1k 21 күн бұрын
Update: My Narcopath just got arrested for 5 felonies.. Arrested on a college campus.
@iw9338
@iw9338 20 күн бұрын
So sorry for all your difficulties and trauma. Hoping for your healing 😢😮😅
@dampergoldenrod4156
@dampergoldenrod4156 19 күн бұрын
Veterans are the first to know corruption when they see it. What I hate is when they build this narrative that veteran's support wars veterans support corrupt police veterans support corrupt people in positions of power. I served for freedom and constitutional rights for everyone.
@Heather-b5n
@Heather-b5n 21 күн бұрын
Dr. Ramini is awesome
@elektraerika01
@elektraerika01 7 күн бұрын
I also think it's very important to learn about and understand the concept"Trauma bonded relationship ". Again, very thought-provoking!!!
@tatjanaelevate
@tatjanaelevate 18 күн бұрын
Dr. Rameni, thanm you so much for being here - i mean on planet Earth. An amazing human being!!!! Very interesting to listen. I never get tired. Blessings to you! ❤
@rachy2008
@rachy2008 21 күн бұрын
Need to learn more on communal in recovery settings xx
@newyorke172
@newyorke172 20 күн бұрын
Can you do a video about aggressive and demeaning behavior in a professional environment? There are lots of videos on passive aggressive but what to do with someone that’s blatantly aggressive and insulting? Only privately when no one is around.
@susanmercurio1060
@susanmercurio1060 18 күн бұрын
The management in my apartment building is like that, except that they don't care if others see them. At least, other tenants. They don't want anyone from the community to see it.
@valerieoconnor1279
@valerieoconnor1279 17 күн бұрын
Is there any help for the narcissist? What drives this behavior? I am a grandmother who is seeing these signs in my grandson. I'm heartbroken. Is there any help or hope. He is intelligent, gifted and wise beyond years. All I hear is the negative.
@valerieoconnor1279
@valerieoconnor1279 17 күн бұрын
😢
@hollycussons6637
@hollycussons6637 12 күн бұрын
Like the empath's I do I don't get to emotional now just mentally get tired but have become so much better! What a whirlwind!!
@samanthaenriquez509
@samanthaenriquez509 21 күн бұрын
Thank You so much Dr. Ramani for your book it's such a Blessing
@penne999
@penne999 18 күн бұрын
Excellent interview! ❤
@sissysp8924
@sissysp8924 17 күн бұрын
No empathy belittles flips everything back at me. He is always the victim. 4 years arguing flips back at me emotionally I learned to control my emotions it makes him bad. Empath vs narcissistic spiritual war. No spiritual connection for them cause they think they know everything and we can’t fix them. Cause they don’t see problem with self so we can’t help people that don’t want help. Married to one for 24 years working on way out. Thanks for sharing.
@notyourmanicpixie
@notyourmanicpixie 16 күн бұрын
The personality style distinction is so helpful and may have saved my life.
@minnieleec
@minnieleec 18 күн бұрын
Thank you for the inf, I just left one, I feel so feel, no more games from him, no more silence from him, would lie on top of lies and try to shut me up, it was scary and terrible. He did use me, I did give him so much of my help.
@rocio292
@rocio292 16 күн бұрын
At the 3:09 , Let's also not forget that to the outside world and extended family members, they hold a steady "balanced" personality around them to further gaslight you (the extended folks will unintentionally gaslight you) that they are decent people and something must be up with you, you are the problem therefore is what they may conclude!!
@LolaAileenVanslette
@LolaAileenVanslette 18 күн бұрын
My mother and father were both narcissistic. Maybe that's why they couldn't stay together. I thought my mom drove him away, but I think they were like magnets that repel each other.
@DoctorJanakaWannaku
@DoctorJanakaWannaku Күн бұрын
"Because you are attractive"
@MSB-yc4qv
@MSB-yc4qv 21 күн бұрын
I hear the same things repeatedly being said about narcissism. I am not a psychiatrist nor trained in the field of the mind. I am human and I live in this world. In my life experiences I have been placed in a spectator position and more times than not an unknowable innocent participant in soical psychopathic narratives. Now it seems to me that it has come to this narrative at least from my world view. The Super Structure of any society is the core relationship and reflection of the way members of that society interact as a norm with very specific narrow moral codes based on the acceptance of a picked specific personality trait that reflects the ideal submission of group identity and enforcement of that submission. Slaver in the United States is a prime example of this.
@Might-l5m
@Might-l5m 4 күн бұрын
Yes ma'am thats is true. The reason I stayed and allowed it was because I had a self image problem. Didn't think i was good enough or worth appropriate treatment.
@elizabethcurrie4920
@elizabethcurrie4920 18 күн бұрын
I can’t believe they are insecure and shameful….no sign of it.
@susanmercurio1060
@susanmercurio1060 18 күн бұрын
Dr Peter Salerno says that narcissism is hard-wired in some people and that they aren't insecure or shameful. Much as I love Dr Ramani, she is still using the old model.
@elizabethcurrie4920
@elizabethcurrie4920 18 күн бұрын
@ That’s a superior model. I’ve known a few and shame and insecurity are totally lacking. Thanks!
@NotWhoYouThinkThisBe
@NotWhoYouThinkThisBe 16 күн бұрын
If we think about it in practical terms, the fact that they feel okay with putting others down to feel better is evidence that they lack the ability to feel okay on their own. Take away their supplies and watch how they function then.
@elizabethcurrie4920
@elizabethcurrie4920 16 күн бұрын
@ They could be just feeding their grandiosity because that is their focus and obsession. They are never shameful; an exposure of a misdeed leads to anger not shame. When their ego’s are attacked they respond with anger, not hurt like someone who was insecure would react. No shame; no insecurity-just arrogance.
@justasimplesomeone
@justasimplesomeone 18 күн бұрын
And actually, I wasn’t at first attracted - they spotted my low self esteem - that’s like gold dust to them - and low self esteem is very easy prey - we succumb to that initial love bombing - then we work hard to keep up the pleasing - trying to make their gaslighting OK - making excuses for ghosting - cos we are grateful for their shitty breadcrumbs - until we are empty, finished - and have to suffer more watching them being so very sweet and kind and generous to everyone else out there! Horrible- and then we have to recover - I do not see much evidence of their collapse - no ! It’s victims that collapse!
@DominieRobinson
@DominieRobinson 21 күн бұрын
She's Got ghe "walking on eggshells " right . Narcissistic folk are walking around like ticking time bombs . God help humanity
@SaraLeee333
@SaraLeee333 21 күн бұрын
lmao!!!! wow Dr. Ramani, Guess how I knew my body told me to run before I knew what "Narcissism" was? I didn't feel comfortable going number 2 with him in the house LMAO! It took me about 4 months, and I STILL turn on the water and turn on a video while I go HAHAHA!!!
@GlamoP-w1t
@GlamoP-w1t 20 күн бұрын
What was your thinking about that made it so impossible to feel comfortable?Ex: Afraid of what might happen if you weren’t focused on him?
@DominieRobinson
@DominieRobinson 21 күн бұрын
Fantastic deep dive Interview/Discussion ! Love it !!!
@shilparathore3181
@shilparathore3181 21 күн бұрын
Thank you, Doc! Happy Diwali🎉
@damianhayes6642
@damianhayes6642 20 күн бұрын
thanks yall salute your obedience!! stay encouraged!!
@ingridheinkel
@ingridheinkel 17 күн бұрын
This interview provided much clarity and value to me and I thank you very much!
@LulamaDabula-p4z
@LulamaDabula-p4z 20 күн бұрын
What a refreshing video. Umh, I didn't want it to end. 😢 😭 😭 Thank you Joe for the great questions and thank you Dr. Ramani for the informative answers. I play this video on repeat, it's so good.
@joepolish2124
@joepolish2124 19 күн бұрын
Thank you! Also watch the first interview I did with Dr. Ramani and I think you will find that really valuable also
@LulamaDabula-p4z
@LulamaDabula-p4z 19 күн бұрын
@joepolish2124 Thank you Joe, I will check it out. 👍
@jonwardle8822
@jonwardle8822 18 күн бұрын
Thank you Joe and Doctor Ramani for this crystal clarity
@iw9338
@iw9338 20 күн бұрын
Based on a physiological panic model. Dang😮 so true.
@geoffreybester7953
@geoffreybester7953 20 күн бұрын
My BPD girlfriend destroys EVERYONE! RUN! worst part is the trauma bond is sooo powerful that I am stuck in mud.
@GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp
@GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp 7 күн бұрын
Thank you Dr Romani and you too Gentleman 🎉
@lorraiinetaylor4146
@lorraiinetaylor4146 20 күн бұрын
excellent video, Dr. Ramini is great
@elskar1
@elskar1 19 күн бұрын
It would be so fun to witness a narc with another narc😀
@romanastrasheim5226
@romanastrasheim5226 17 күн бұрын
😂😂😢
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