Eva Mendes Says She’s Glad She's An Older Mom | The View

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[@jordyb57]

I think people should have kids when it’s right for them

[@sweetyc031]

Period 👏🏻

[@naylas3908]

If they can adopt, fine. But biologically, no, they shouldn’t. As of age 35, your fertility starts to decline sharply, and the risks of genetic anomalies and complications during pregnancy goes up exponentially. Don’t play with your health or your child’s unnecessarily.

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

Which is more than most times when they’re not 26 and under

[@surlespasdondine]

@@naylas3908 yes sure when that works out. But so many women meet the right partner later in life.

[@ciarley1]

@@naylas3908 people should have kids when they are ready petiod

[@S.Shea2432]

Moral of the story is let people do what's best for them rather they choose to have kids early, or later in life, or not at all!! 🗣💯

[@vienicestyles]

Slow clapping 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽

[@jaysand962]

Bottom line I don’t stay in people’s business it will lead to overstepping boundaries . If your advice or assistance is needed that’s another thing . Most of the wealthy have nannies anyway and refrain from letting others in their circle of trust .

[@mariewilliams8859]

@@richardc8795l got pregnant at 37 without an issue. It depends on your dna. Going through tests..l have eggs of a 30 year old. Two of my cousins are the exact same. Same direct family my sister is the opposite. Russian egg roulette as you will. Maturity wise..l am a way better mother having waited. Patience…logically thinking through things. Not reacting to my child. I could go on and on. My ob during delivery even said to one of the interns. She prefers older moms. She would make it a requirement to be 30 and up.

[@surlespasdondine]

@@richardc8795 did SHE tell you she "chose her career first"? because there are so many other factors, lile not being with the right guy yet.

[@deiontemorrison1327]

Amen

[@sheldoncole1151]

I'm 24 years old and I think I will be a better father in my thirties or forties💯💯💯💯.

[@AS-vq3wt]

Men and women are different you beta male 😂 We can have kids in our 80s if we want.

[@missd2657]

I agree, I had my son two days after my 22nd birthday. My partner and I had little money and it took both of us much longer to move up the career ladder because juggling a child between us and investing into our jobs was hard. We haven't had anymore kids because just paying for one was so expensive. He is 26 now and we managed to get him through college and yes, we are both still young enough to do things that perhaps other empty nesters can't do so much, but it was a struggle in those early years.

[@justagirlsd3000]

Yes! Live your life now, have fun, do what you can to travel before settling down.

[@sarahobilljones]

Yes but women can't always wait until their forties, just be aware of that...

[@Andtherewaslight427]

I am 38, and I have a month old baby girl. Just like Eva, I couldn't imagine myself with a child in my 20s or my early 30s. I met a wonderful seasoned and divorced partner, and we are enjoying raising our baby so much. Each to their own, but I am glad I waited.

[@rachellejones6254]

Thank you. I am 33, 34 in two weeks and I don’t have kids yet but I appreciate your opinion.👍🏾

[@Alarik52]

My mother had me at 15, and she's said she would have it no other way.

[@user-he3op5pi6i]

He's a simp for marrying you

[@deiontemorrison1327]

​@@user-he3op5pi6i and you're generation is fucked

[@deiontemorrison1327]

​@@user-he3op5pi6i and you're generation is fucked

[@e.sanchez7561]

I always wanted to be a young mom but life played out such that I am an older mom. Not sure about which is better but I can say that being older has allowed me to savor every stage of motherhood in a healthy way.

[@kathyrama4570]

My Mom had two Kids, she had me at 40 and my brother at 42. She was a great Mom.

[@sobetobey9172]

I wish my parents had me when they were younger. They both have dementia now so it's hard. I wish I could talk to them like I did when I was younger. And I wish I had appreciated them sooner in life. 😢❤️

[@kaeleikennedy3720]

Yeah that is something no one talks about. it’s always “Wait until you are ready” “Do what’s best for your life” “You’ve got plenty of time before you need to make that decision” “There’s nothing wrong with waiting until you are ready you” “You will be able to enjoy it more” In realty you have less time with your kid, while you are still healthy. Not to mention waiting increases the likelihood of having a child with health problems and also an increased risk of Pregnancy complications. Plus both women and men experience have a decreased quality of reproductive material as they age. It gives me vibes of selfishness, of having your cake and eating it too. As a counter point to the health issues that can occur people will say “This is the 21st century you can freeze your eggs” (or if you already have a significant other embryos). Never mind the cost of course.

[@lorigravelin2081]

I was 17, 21 and 27 when I was pregnant. 50 now with grandkids.. I’m tired. 😂😂

[@lovely-mk4rt]

I’m an older parent and I think it worked out best for me. I worked and played hard in my 20’s and got understanding of myself in my 30’s. 5 daughters in my 40’s that are brilliant and beautiful ( along with independent) now I’m close to 70 and I’m so happy that I waited.

[@kinndah2519]

My mom enjoyed her youngest child in her mid 40s the most. My aunt had her youngest at age 51 & he's now a physician in the mid east. My godson was born when his mom was 44. All healthy & happy.

[@UrbanDecayLova247]

I think Ana’s right, regardless of when you have children - you don’t have anything else to compare it to (unless you have kids like 20 years apart) so what other people say in terms of which is “better” is really irrelevant.

[@shirlynmakar4129]

I had three in 75,77,79 when I was 25,27,29…. I had a forth at at 39…. It was so much easier to recoup and take care of them in my 20’s…. That 39 thing was really tougher. He , my little son, wanted me to have him a brother or sister…. It was to say, That’s not going to happen, Buddy…. He had five parents and he’s 35 now…. He’s all good.

[@kansasgoldilocks]

Joy is a bit misinformed. Yes, female fertility starts dropping in the mid-30s, but the more important thing is the male's sperm health, which actually takes a much more serious nosedive. We don't talk about that though, because fertility is all on the woman, according to society.

[@Ryan_t1290]

That doesn’t make misinformed. Her statement on female fertility was correct.

[@susisiebert5942]

Oh please!!! I had all four of my daughters in my twenties, now in my 60’s my girls are in their 40’s, late 30’s and I’ve just become a grandma…. Wouldn’t have done it any different then way!!! 😂

[@missJolie85]

The clip showing Eva, she was clearly talking about herself and her perspective of herself. She never said this is how everybody should choose. I really don't see the need for a whole discussion, including your childish comment - but also it being talked about on the view as if it has a right/wrong answer.

[@user-zr7js8pq4v]

​@missJolie85 Thank you! They have to make you feel bad about your decision This clip showed that she is happy. but no How could you be happy I loved your comment ❤

[@melindamcafee1728]

I loved and bought her clothes at NY&Company. Her style was wonderful. I wish she was still with them. I'm glad I had my children in my twenties.

[@LG-vq1qk]

I was 30 years old when my husband and I decided we wanted to have a baby. For what ever reason we were having a problem getting pregnant naturally. I went to a fertility doctor and had some unfortunate losses along the way. With 5 pregnancies, only 2 were healthy pregnancies and healthy babies. I’m 40 years old now, my son is 6 and my daughter is 1. Not everyone chooses to be older parents. For some it just works out that way. I would also like to mention the amount of years I’ve been in and out of the fertility clinic has been a lot. Not all women who are there are over 40. You’d be surprised at how many young women have problems with fertility. Age doesn’t always matter.

[@gracegreen1859]

20s are still babies and in your youth. Some of us are still in school. I personally don’t want to be a student and a mom. But some like that and good for them. I agree with Sunny let’s have the best resources for our families. Which in this economy tends to happen later in life.

[@Alarik52]

This is the premise for the movie Idiocracy.

[@sarakoob6667]

You’re not a baby in your 20s but you’re not mature enough to be in someone’s parents

[@JackieBrown93]

@@sarakoob6667 Some of us are mature enough. Everyone is different.

[@200555280]

People are expecting moms to do everything from cleaning, cooking and playing with their kids. I think motherhood is love and those tasks can be done by other people so you can focus with spending quality time

[@purple9533]

As a woman, you should learn how to clean and cook. They don’t except us to do everything. Lay off the feminine beliefs.

[@S.Shea2432]

I Love Eva & her Husband Ryan so much!! 💜💜

[@purple9533]

Why? Do you know them personally?

[@S.Shea2432]

@@purple9533, You're obviously a miserable TROLL actually I know you are from previous comments. 🗣💯

[@S.Shea2432]

@@purple9533, Why did my comment trigger you? You're a known TROLL around here!! Troll somewhere else!! 🗣💯

[@taracmonroe]

I'd be a vastly better mother now at 38 than I would've been 10-15 years ago. No question. Our 20s are hectic, confusing and for a lot of people stressful and sometimes unhappy. Have kids when you want to or not at all!

[@youngbubbles]

You're never truly prepared to have a baby until you have one lol. There is no set age and the baby will change your mindset, you will become ready, if you're a healthy functioning adult. It's just human nature. I wanted to have kids young because I wanted multiple kids and because it's safer.

[@juliawhite2250]

I agree. You'll never be ready if that's your mindset. You can rise to the occasion and be a good parent at any age.

[@Kristina-gz2wu]

When you have a responsibility like a child to care for them you mature quickly to meet the needs. At least most people do.

[@Annapurna818]

No mention of health risks in older mothers or the lack of eggs or risks of deformities . 🤔👀

[@r.p.4432]

Those risks occur in women in their younger years too. In addition, men’s sperm can also cause deformities. I think it’s ridiculous that we women are forced by society to have children in our 20s based on what you’re saying. Every situation is different. I have friends that miscarried all through their 20s but successfully conceived in their 30s. I have a few cousins with disabilities that were born when their mothers were in their early 20s. Lack of eggs is correct; but everything else you said is not completely correct. I’m glad more women are wise and having children later or not at all. Comments like yours are not helpful in letting women live their lives on their own terms.

[@sfinthecity]

Annapuma, I was thinking exactly the same thing: starting later can have increased risks.

[@naylas3908]

So let’s just ignore the risk of pregnancy past age 35, shall we? Your health as a mom and the risk to your child should be the first consideration. Your fertility starts to decline sharply at age 35, and the risk of genetic anomalies and complications during pregnancies goes up sharply. To this day, doctors still state very clearly that biologically, the best age to get pregnant is in your early twenties. Practically, that’s become impossible for most of us, but waiting until you’re 35 or older to have your first child, is not a good idea.

[@missJolie85]

The chances for complications and abnormalities goes up, but not sharply - that is an add on word from yourself. While pregnancy after 35 can have a higher risk of certain complications, most people will have smooth pregnancies and healthy babies. A pregnancy after 35 is indeed labeled as "advanced maternal age." But despite common misconceptions, you can still have a smooth pregnancy and a healthy baby after 35. Modern medicine can help people overcome many of those problems, there are extra steps doctors take for both prevention, follow up and screening. Also medical science doesn't go around stating "this is the best age to have children" they are not judgemental like that. What science do say is that +/-25 years of age is when you are most fertile, with a 25-30% chance of pregnancy each month. Furthermore men have not been privy to comparable concerns about their fertility and possible health effects on a pregnancy or the children they father. Older mothers are typically meticulously screened for possible risks to a healthy pregnancy “while the father’s role in childbirth is often ignored or forgotten. There needs to be a greater awareness of the man’s responsibility to reproductive health. Factors like obesity, chronic disease and behaviors like smoking and alcohol consumption could affect the health of a pregnancy.

[@Skarlett00]

I had my first kid at 21 and my second at 28. If I could redo it I’d start having kids in my 30s, I’ll be 38 in a few days.

[@signalfire15]

Can you explain why?

[@msetgl2003]

Everyone walks their own path. I was in my twenties when I was married and had my son, which was my journey.

[@TheDog548]

I had kids at 25, 30 and 38. I was a much less stressed and tired mom at 25.

[@ashleysmith1369]

Everyone has to do what works for them. My husband and I had out kids at 22/23 and 24/25 and it was financially hard and I probably could have been a smarter parent if I had kids now at 38, but now that I am 38 and we own a house and have good jobs and my kids are soon to be 14 and 17 this summer, I really love my life. I love that we don't need babysitters, we can go on weekend trips alone, we enjoy out kids companies and all of that stuff at THIS age. I can't image having to plan when I leave the house alone or paying for daycare or anything, or not sleep in on the weekends lol

[@tanja0411]

I really really love and respect Sara and her insights/contributions. Just wanted to put that out there :)

[@NicoliePollieOllie]

People always say they were too irresponsible and they can barely take care of themselves, which is very true for some. However, for others, if you happen to get pregnant and decide to go thru with it, you then have no choice! No matter the age. You're forced to grow up and be responsible, and if you care about this child, you'll do what you have to do. I had a baby at 22 at the worst possible time in life for me, but when he popped out everything changed. His dad and i were living in student housing doing whatever. Not caring. But once he came, we understood that we had to create a stable home and life, and we did that. You do what you have to do, not what your age dictates.

[@IMHTP]

_"Mother Nature doesn't care about any of that."_

[@missJolie85]

Mother Nature would have killed a lot more people of cancer. With technology and medical development you are given a fighting chance. Same goes for children in todays world. I froze my eggs 5 years ago after my fiancé died. Not everything in life goes as planned.

[@vmac38]

One of the more sensible things they've talked about. As a father, 8m a much better father to my stepkids because, im older. I have experiences, more patience and wisdom to handle aome of the things that come my way.

[@sheldoncole1151]

I love what she said here

[@misslanapaulford]

I agree I did function iny 20s and could barely look after and support myself. But then late 30s I grow up, knew myself more, knew more about money and provide a roof over my head...There is a reason it's called Teenage years and early 20s.. U don't know Jack, especially how to look after someone who needs you 24/7. U can have as much support as u want. But its all on U at the end of the day.

[@goldenboy366]

As a woman of her age can only do it because she is rich!!!

[@Lilah1848]

I think Joy has a very old-school view of women's fertility. It's a lie that women are super infertile past the age of 30, sure, we're not as fertile, but everyone's fertility decreases with age. As do men's, at the same rate, but they don't get half of the criticism. In fact, older fathers mean a higher chance of birth defects. Don't fall into the trap of staying home and raising kids when you're super young and immature.

[@garciaandres12]

What happened to her face?

[@LR-mh8hs]

If I'd had a child when I was in my 20's, I would have screwed up that child royally. I'm a far better parent now than I would have been then.

[@zhabjoka]

Biology is biology… any pregnancy above 40 is deemed high risk. For best chances of health of both mama and baby, having babies early is healthier.

[@rowoods6021]

Honestly my dad had me at 51 and he was old most of my life and now I’m in my 30s and he’s in his 80s and I take care of him. I think both young and old have its pros and cons.

[@beth90]

I don’t think age is the specific factor so much as the individual and whether or not they are ready at any given point in life. I had my first baby when I was 27- it was planned, my husband and I were financially stable, had good jobs, etc. We were both out of our “party era” and ready to start a family. Meanwhile we had friends and family members the same age who still partied and got blackout drunk every weekend, were financially illiterate, or were on perpetual job hunts. Obviously they weren’t ready for children. Now in our mid-30s a lot of them are wanting to settle down if they haven’t already. And some might still take a while. I love how there are no “rules” anymore!🙌🏼

[@mariewilliams8859]

Times are changing. Women in there 30s and 40s are taking better care of themselves. I surely eat better than l did in my 20s.

[@faithhudson4576]

Go Eva!!! ❤👏👏

[@jaysand962]

She got a young hubby it really doesn’t matter he bench press

[@TheRenegadeStarr]

I have a few friends who had kids in their early 20s and I don’t envy any of their lives. Drama, stress, a lot going on and none of them really have a thorough village but yes they have help. I couldn’t see myself having kids as a teenager or in my 20s.

[@eneobande7433]

What happened to Eva Mendes' face?

[@fireice1698]

For real. Beautiful lady… but get of those fillers. Does her no justice.

[@goldenboy366]

Poor kids. have grandparents as parents

[@Lee1Min-Ji]

It’s funny how we can rationalize anything we do. I disagree that 20 somethings make bad parents as that is just not true. Some of those 20 somethings are far better parents than the 30+ folks.

[@otisyoungblood]

Old women and babies is a trend i see

[@tomislavdatyrant]

younger moms are usually the hot ones. Given the options attractiveness and temptation of all those competing suitors

[@MsDisneylandlover]

She still look good ❤

[@AdamIslam-mc5nd]

Good for you.. some enjoy having it young and not having to look after babies at 40s 50s they rather have them mid 20s have them married off or secured while they enjoy the next half of their life then worry about changing nappies and running around after kids at 50

[@BlaccTony69]

There is a difference when you have children in your 20s vs 40s. In my 20s it was easy because you have so much energy with children; the negative part about it, is that in your 20s, you always want to go out to party at clubs or hang out with friends to do some drinking over friends house. Now when I had my youngest child, I was about 48-49 years old. You get much more tired compared to 20s & 30s with children. They have a lot of energy. But the difference is I’m more focused on their education, teaching them things, and worried more about my youngest child. My 20s I let older children focus on education themselves.

[@mynospinzone]

I’m busy better dad at 41 with a 8 year old n 4 year old. More loving but yes you’re more tired. But that’s why you live a healthy life

[@SmoothKenny]

Arrested Development is cool now. Got it😒

[@elisaaguilar6423]

38 and CHILDFREE! At this point, I feel too old to even give energy to another being.

[@Maryroachguilbeaux]

I legit thought the thumbnail was Jordin Sparks 💀

[@sheldoncole1151]

Yeah I would rather be 28 or older when I have my first child

[@user-or2vq1vq9w]

Im 28 and I can't see myself as a mom yet, I'm young and im tired all the time either way.

[@Arunfiable]

Cheering you’re from Iowa or any state after know what y’all did to the natives is WILD

[@user-ym7fz9xz6h]

My mom had all 5 of us kids by 23.

[@lavidamia9]

I waited to have Kids until I was 31, and I do t regret it. ❤ Write your own story.

[@kc1hotboy]

2:44 talk to’em Joy. Unfortunately WOMEN who have kids after 35 put themselves & child at risk. Not me talking, that’s Mother Nature. So yall can try to fight her, but she undefeated

[@kc1hotboy]

1:39 unfortunately we all age. It’s pros & cons to both. I wouldn’t have had a child til I was 26 & stopped at 33. I’ll leave it there

[@Kristina-gz2wu]

I agree that you have more energy when you are younger but have your babies when you want.

[@eldev4432]

Me thinks she had work done....

[@AfroMillennialMomma]

When you 40 you can afford help and avoid killing yourself trying to be supermom. I'm 42 with a 5 month old and 8 yr, and they keep me young and active. I'm way smarter, have way more money than I did 15 yrs ago and can travel with them and enjoy the special moments.

[@steves2754]

Why does Anna always stereotype Latinos?

[@artadrians]

Oh The Spew...thought it HAD been removed from TV

[@Sammy2g3]

Man, I'm gonna be 40 with a kindergartener. Screw that!!! I'm tired boss. My other kids I had in my late 20's. That's probably a better option if you can. My wife was as well. Problems when she had the child at 34 versus when she was in her 20's. But everything went well. My grandma had a baby at 38 and was fine but she didn't do to well when she had a baby in her 40's. (Rip Auntie)

[@sabridottavio945]

Who knows when the right time is like sure you’re older, wiser hopefully in your 30s and 40s than in your 20s but you don’t have as much energy as someone in their 20s…there are some people that are amazing parents no matter how old they are so as long as you feel it’s right for you and you are ready to put in the work required and be there for your kid it’s not wrong I’d say…although there are higher risks for pregnancy 🤰🏻 later in life and a higher chance of having a child with autism…we see this with older parents…I’ve never ever seen my mom even as a younger woman and being a teacher only furthered my desires to not have children lol 🤣 to each their own guess

[@Cleanse1126]

well, age is just a number, eva's health and self-care put her at least 20 years younger than her actual biological age.

[@deanbarnette1602]

❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️

[@user-ms3jz7ub7n]

Any woman over 35 who is pregnant is referred to as having a geriatric pregnancy. If the mother and baby are healthy though, that's all that really matters.

[@misslanapaulford]

The things is there are women out there in their 40s who are mentally emotionally and physically healthier than most 20 y.o..

[@misslanapaulford]

The things is there are women out there in their 40s who are mentally emotionally and physically healthier than most 20 y.o..

[@Alarik52]

@@misslanapaulford That may be, but older pregnancies do have a higher tendency for problems, as well as weaker health of the child. Might make it easier on the mother, definitely isn't the best for the child. When they are in their 20's, you'll be in your 60's, practically skipping a generation. 40 was 'over the hill' in the 80's, 90's and still imo. Especially given lifespan tends to stay near 70-80 for most.

[@user-ms3jz7ub7n]

@@Alarik52 Right! The youngest mother ever to give birth was Lina Medina from Peru who was only 5 years old and the oldest was an Indian woman who was 74! The ideal ages for pregnancy however, are probably between the ages of 20 to 35.

[@justincastillogayray]

Not this 47 year old in July. I wasn't crazy at 20.

[@serenaserena4696]

What else would she say. Older or younger she seems to have a good head ion her shoulders

[@angprt2]

Enjoy your life. Learn who you are. I had my son at 25. I don't regret him but I wish I would have waited. But it's not my time, it was God's time.

[@susanmorris3822]

Figures Sara starts first!!

[@BombshElle_7]

Are we going to ignore Eve's misshapen face? OK. Nevermind.

[@sunman1509]

What did she do to her face 😐. she looks different from the movie all about the Benjamin's.

[@dorthymcbride3384]

My sweet ANNA. You're a step mom so you do have kids by marriage, right??❤❤

[@sheldoncole1151]

I'm nowhere ready to be a father right now not at my age I'm not even twenty five years old yet

[@tasiamurbano7283]

They all have good views but Joy hit home when she spoke about healthy eggs in younger ages. Nobody wants to discuss the illness or doubles and everything else prone too at older ages

[@Mercy2Mee]

I know many that waited and regretted it due to fertility issues.

[@frankcross6958]

she caught herself a huge fish with ryan

[@brendahudson8578]

Grandparents would like to enjoy their grandkids too..the older the mom the older the Grandparents.

[@missJolie85]

No, your decision should not be based on somebody else. THIS very thing puts pressure on people and limits them, it's unhealthy. Btw, you forgot to mention - the older the dad, the older the grandparents Some men have kids in their 50s, and they also have parents.

[@ThemboCinema]

I have a food baby

[@joyo8776]

The chances of conceiving over the age of 35 continues to depreciate. Many women who choose to have children at a later time may experience the challenges of infertility which comes at a significant cost to resolve.

[@vienicestyles]

We have a generation of crazy people because people had kids too young to teach them any manners or etiquette!

[@aidasall4815]

Taylor Swift & Matty Healy?? They dated for like 2 seconds… you mean Joe Alwyn? Fake Swiftie lol.

[@user-he3op5pi6i]

She will be fine but 40 is too old 😊

[@ellahamel5619]

no most women cant afford to delay motherhood. she is lucky, her husband is a megastar, she can afford nanies, or to not work. she is delusional. she is not us, we are not her.

[@ashleighthornton976]

Her plastic surgery looks crazy

[@ragtmt15]

Why does race come into play Ana pipe down

[@bec6384]

The truth is 24 is when you’re most fertile and IVF is extremely expensive, not to mention I’m sure women are going to start to develop cancer later in life from all the hormones IVF alters.

[@user-wh9vy2fx8y]

Im voting for TRUMP

[@user-ey2ei5yv3f]

All my Democrat friends are too, they had enough of Biden, they all said their lives were better under Trump, compared to joe.

[@doitee52]

Is she still a heavy cigarette smoker?

[@jerryanderson7343]

Fantasy land the view sucks

[@Kathykatz27]

This show is crap

[@Alarik52]

Haven't studies shown the children tend to be healthier the younger the parents (or at minimum, mother) are? It's not just about the delivery time, but also the quality of the production. Older may be better for some mothers, but that doesn't necessarily make it better for the children.

[@prooveditt4839]

Lying to yourself if you believe your a better parent. Ask the kid if they prefer young or old. Mine were considered old having me in their late 30's. In your 40's that's being selfish

[@t-talk-time3582]

You’re warped in your claim to sense or lack of . Research proves you wrong. Most kids that are domestically abused. and neglected srr mostly born from parents under 30. I hope you don’t have kids because you sound like a better B! You sure are selfish in your own bitter😮

[@benb4481]

That’s a stupid statement. You should have kids when you are mentally and physically capable of taking care of them. Kids prefer parents who provide them love. You think they care about your age?

[@Alarik52]

@@benb4481 It's known that the older the parents, the higher likelihood and prevalence of health issues for the child. It is inherently selfish to consider ones own social circumstances before they consider the healthy continuation of their very genetic code. It's a useful tool to have your genetics removed from the population pool though. Worse off children, are less likely to continue your families heritage. This generation is the first in America that the children are ALREADY worse off than the parents, and the "wait till it's better for me" attitude is part (fraction) of the problem. That and the folks that wish they could tax the unborn.

[@prooveditt4839]

@@benb4481 it's easy, would you rather it was your Grandparents that raised you? Cause that's what it is. You're just telling yourself lies. People that decide to have kids (provided they are capable) after 40 are the most selfish amongst us. Sorry, sounds like your one

[@benb4481]

@@Alarik52 have you seen the rising percentage of people in their 20s and 30s getting cancer diagnosis? Increased health issues these days are not for the elderly alone. Additionally in a country where there’s barely any support for parents… it is imperative that you consider your ability to provide financially for said kids. The average American is living paycheck to paycheck with barely any financial stability