Ex-Army Ranger Reveals Dark Truths of War & Society | Real Ones with Jon Bernthal

Join Jon Bernthal in this full episode of 'Real Ones' featuring Tyler Grey, a former Army Ranger and Delta Force operator. Tyler opens up about his personal journey, from the battlefield to the film set, and the lessons he's learned along the way. He delves into the psychological impacts of warfare, the challenges faced by veterans, and the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. This episode is a must-watch for anyone seeking to understand the human side of war and the path to overcoming personal obstacles. Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe for more authentic conversations. #RealOnes #JonBernthal #TylerGrey #army
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[@ernestpries6992]

Tell Tyler hello, we served in 2/75 as snipers together. Great dude.

[@FreedomisworkUKR3]

Which company and what years? I’m Ukrainian SOF. We work with the international Legion and the commander of this sector’s SOF unit was former 2/75

[@ernestpries6992]

@@FreedomisworkUKR3 1994-2001, C Co then HHC 2/75.

[@FlatRangeOperator]

​@ATeamUkr brother. Do you have any access to 5.45x39mm steel core? BP or tungsten wolfram core 5.45x39? If so I'd be willing to pay a high price

[@mbsandusky]

Thank you for your service God bless

[@user-yh8we8gn4f]

Glad there's blokes like you

[@joshuastender4871]

"We lie to no one more than we lie to ourselves". Truer words, dude.

[@c.r.chandler5905]

I so needed this podcast. I didn't serve in the military but I was a police officer for thirty years with 90% of my career as a detective. Of that time as a detective 80% of that was serving as a homicide detective. The city I worked in was once labeled the most dangerous city in the United States. I remember a time when I juggled fifteen active homicide investigations at one time. My wife knew me before I became a police officer and after I had been on the job for some time, she once asked me how it became easy for me to shut my emotions off to everyone. I told her it just happened. I didn't tell her that it was a result of years of seeing babies put in ovens because their parents were high on crack or seeing a kid shot down in the street for his shoes. I truly didn't recognize the PTSD that I had because I felt that I had not earned the right to say that I had it. When I thought of PTSD, I thought of warriors such as Tyler who had done these things for our country. It's still had for me to reconcile that I have PTSD. I've been retired for going on five years and I still wonder if my mind will ever get right.

[@JarodFarrant]

I’m happy your admitting there’s a problem and you want to confront it, is the first step and I hope 🤞 yall be ok ❤

[@csmithrun2]

I relate with Tyler so much. From childhood to the military. I didn't get to serve in Special Operations but I joined up in 2004 as combat arms and went to Iraq in 2005 and 2006 and got injured. I saw true violence. It fundamentally changed me, but it's also something I wanted as a kid. I shut off my emotions because I got sick of being hurt and made fun of. I watched all the movies. I watched Saving Private Ryan and Black Hawk Down and dreamt of being a Ranger. The Army made me grow up and taught me to be strong, mentally and physically, but it also broke me in other ways. I struggle so hard to put myself out there and be social and embrace new experiences. I also completely turn off to people who I don't respect or like, once you're a turd I don't care at all. Just crazy how many parallels there are, and knowing that there's others out there like me who are reaching out and healing and trying to be better, it makes me want to work that much harder to do the same so I can be a better husband, father, and person in general. Thank you so much for this podcast, I appreciate y'all.

[@DazeGutterSlabawitz]

1 day at a time dude. Seems like you got the plan just need the encouragement to stay focused. Well being the best dad you can be is all the inspiration you need. 💪🏻

[@jackbagayoko]

Stay strong bro!

[@JohnnyD-u7]

✝️❤️🙏🏻

[@chrisheberer5635]

Hand tuff bro vets all get it

[@DMurray-cn6hp]

Irish amnesia for turds

[@mitchconner2021]

Tyler is alot more than just a former Ranger.. Dude was fucking Delta. The top of the top.

[@handroids1981]

Holy sh!t. That is ultimate peak tier.

[@LswKid]

Damn its like Tyler is putting words to everything im feeling. Its uncanny. Shout out to my boys from 3-71st Cav. I miss you brothers.

[@MadisonGrace-tv1nv]

This is EXACTLY what happened to me! I became OVERWHELMED with everyone else's problems and situations and keeping up with LIFE. I cut out all social media, cut off friends in a loving way and just focused on ME, and my hubby, daughter and immediate family. It feels AMAZING. This low info diet has helped clear my mind and allow me to reconnect spiritually. If you are thinking of doing the same, DO IT!!! You have to protect your mind/energy to have the strength to deal with this world and for what is coming. Peace and blessings to all

[@WarlordEnthusiast]

That really does not sound healthy cutting everyone out of your life

[@kgayle1]

​@@WarlordEnthusiast I don't think that is what she meant... You cut out the problems and drama not isolate.... When you realize that you only have control of you and yours it is a very powerful thing and you can begin to focus your energy where it matters.

[@Scantronacon]

​​@@WarlordEnthusiastthats all you took from that? Do you even now what its feel like to be in that position? I do and its feels very empowering, OP has a HUGE point

[@dawsonschmidt3714]

Compassion, love, forgiving. This is Our Way! We are at war. Focus on the light! This world is temporary.

[@TheInfantry98]

You are very weak and selfish to push people out of your life

[@CNosaj]

Just as I was going through past videos I haven’t watched, he blesses us with another full episode. Thank you. I hope everyone doing great out there.

[@kendramiddletonwilliams]

I NEEDED this podcast, Johnny! Tyler is such a good man with a powerful story and whether he likes it or not, his words have real impact. Everything he talked about is part of the subject matter of a book I’m writing. Having so many friends from the SOF community suffering the same problems, I mean to help in the only way I can, by writing it into a great book. Yes! Hold this W because you both earned it!!!

[@jaydencorley3512]

These are the podcasts i love to listen to. Someone whos experienced so much and been through things i can only imagine, but can make me feel a connection and relate too in a certain way. Very interesting to listen to and learn from guys like this.

[@colinwatson707]

This interview is about as raw and honest as it gets. This is clearly a man who has been through hell and back. In doing so he’s become self aware and aware of the human condition on a level a lot of people will never experience. Thank you for opening up and being brutally honest in the process.

[@rgcamsf]

Tyler's description of PTS was spot n. "How can you process something illogical?" That's the dilemma. Marcus Capone and many of his colleagues have been saved by these alternative treatments.

[@lordoffaiyum9727]

Ueah growing up in the inner city a lot of the kids have ptsd before they are 10. I saw bodies and shot being fired as early as age 5. Until you get older you realize Thats not healthy. These guys went thorugh it too but they were older. I wish people cared about the inner city kid who has ptsd before he is even 12. It is more a issue than anyone wants to ever speak on.

[@Pellagrah]

@@lordoffaiyum9727 People with PTSD are oftentimes the most ostracized members of society. You either become the victim of something too extreme to comprehend because of low socioeconomic status, or you develop PTSD and proceed to turn into the sort of dysfunctional human being that society loves to hate. Money is power, and without it you're infinitely more vulnerable to tragedy and turmoil.

[@DJ-hx8gv]

Thank you guys. I so appreciate these great interviews. I learned so much from them.

[@andybreshears]

Such a great podcast y’all! Start to finish

[@RaspberryMilkshake-zh2ns]

amazing podcast glad i stumbled on it! Couldn’t turn it off. Im glad though your art you can be safe to express your experiences and process and ultimately heal! Smart men are sooo interesting! Thanks for keeping it real. ❤

[@rossgadsby9663]

Im so glad he was honest with they "why did you join?" "To kill bad guys". Thats a legitimate reason that people dont wanna talk about outside of within military circles

[@chuckfinnley4397]

Cause that's a rotten mindset only the likes of Americans and Russians are proud of, kill now ask questions later create conflict and intervene just sums up both countries perfectly. Lost cause and cautionary tale after they rid themselves

[@jcbbb]

I don't know when it became taboo but i'm guessing the same time the military went "PC" our job is literally to out kill the enemy

[@henryward4783]

In the punisher series when it was stated the " mind can get used to anything as long as there is a pattern", the mind can compromise and justify almost anything.

[@thomas82160]

Thanks for full episode

[@vanquish6369]

This interview spoke to me on so many levels. This was awesome!!

[@kendramiddletonwilliams]

The way Tyler discusses PTS is so spot-on and relatable to so many of his peers… Brava Tyler and Johnny.

[@zachB1130]

wow, someone who addresses PTS as PTS and not PTSD… PTS is NOT a disorder!!!!! brava to YOU.

[@kendramiddletonwilliams]

@@zachB1130 thank you for your kind reply, I appreciate it. My two best friends served in the Ranger Regiment and the other served on the SEAL teams. They pointed out to me that the reference to PTS should be vocalized and normalized as such because it is indeed NOT a disorder. It’s a lingering actuated stress and needs to be called what it is. So, thank you for acknowledging that I said it correctly.

[@zachB1130]

@@kendramiddletonwilliams of course! yeah, my dad is a former naval special operator as well, (former seal) . he was actually the one that explained it to me as what it is.

[@UncleSlack]

I didn’t meet Tyler until he was a Cadre for GORUCK. He pushed my shit in on a 13hr Challenge in Vegas for my birthday. Damn glad I got to meet him and spend time learning. Thanks for sharing Tyler.

[@jefftaylor7170]

I related to this more than I thought I would. Thank you. I’ve found a little clarity about myself.

[@AkwanCynick]

This is so f'kin good! Great work guys.

[@dennyo3992]

First episode, I’ve listened to, I’m impressed and I’ll be back.

[@allorientablesurface]

Solid channel Jon, great theme and content. Thank you. 🙏🏻

[@davidmerriott7356]

Wow, just found this channel. What a great way of interviewing. Let the guest talk and just drop a few questions. Outstanding interview.

[@screwedupvisionary]

The part of the conversation that hit me the most was about his relatable traits with his father that he saw & realized was in him ultimately as well… that’s shit is a scary & honest reality check… wow. Thank god for this podcast.

[@Paul-IE-Repairs]

well said, don't make yourself miserable, worrying about things that are out of your control.

[@DazeGutterSlabawitz]

Thank you for your service & brutal honesty. Salute to you. 🇺🇸

[@MrChris2163]

Great podcast.. Loved his talk about his dad and destructive abandonment issues etc.. Love your podcast!. 👊

[@micheletotton9342]

What a thoroughly interesting guy and of course interviewed by a very engaged and engaging host, awesome job!

[@snowghillie1719]

His podcast on the Shawn Ryan show is a lot darker for those that want more. Dj Shipley on Shawn Ryan is the heaviest I heard

[@65stang98]

I must say growing up being a tyler i never heard any stories really with my name in them. Excited to watch this podcast of a Tyler who seems to be a badass.

[@imVIDOL]

Great interview Jon, big fan! If want more ideas, would be dope to have an interview on Michael Concepcion story on OG Crips and growing up in LA, getting shot put in wheelchair, and overcoming adversity growing up in the 80s LA landscape. Hmu!

[@UhRageQuit]

Early this time brother! Hope all is good

[@christopherclark1490]

I'm really liking this podcast. Thank Y'all

[@Dalpha64]

2 of my favourite people, love Jon Bernthal as an Actor and Tyler Grey are a great Human being!

[@ricardochavarriajr.7470]

Awesome interview, thank for ur service brother 🇺🇸

[@voidnotorious]

1:27:31 I relate to this so much, my dad is an alcoholic and was abusive to me growing up, I drank to cope with my emotions and things going on in life and started reminded myself of him with the little things I did, and stopped. It took me awhile to forgive him but I eventually did because I was able to relate to him in a way and just matured realizing that I can’t stay in the past and accepted him for him.

[@voidnotorious]

Now coming on 2 years sober as of Oct 30th

[@chrishobson50]

Great conversation thank you so much for speaking

[@siranodeperdeo685]

From the thumbnail i recognized this guy. Hes on Seal Team. Best show ever

[@JCTRELYRICALLEGACY]

Awesome conversation 💯👏👏

[@dougstanley7662]

Man what a kickass interview this was.Ive always been interested in hearing what makes these guys tick.Ive had some deep-rooted issues in my life I won't go into here but it's caused many years my life to be a big shit show . I've often wondered if the kinds of trauma these guys go through and what trauma I've been through could result in the same kinds of crazy thought patterns and self-destructive behavior.I am in no way comparing what veterans go though to mine I'm simply trying to figure out if mental trauma causes the same issues in different cases.

[@Wile_E._Wolf]

I'm an Australian veteran who's experienced my fair-share of trauma both from my service and regular life. One thing that resonated with me throughout therapy was the emphasis on trauma and it's effects all being relative to the individual. Before that I made the mistake of thinking I was somehow more justified in being messed up and that others couldn't relate because they'd not experienced what I had. On a scale of 1-10 for instance, if somebody experiences a 7 by being blown up in a warzone and another experiences a 7 by having an argument, the trauma is the same for both those individuals. The body's reaction and the physiological and psychological outcomes are directly comparable, despite the differing origins. You don't need to be a veteran by any stretch to experience any of the repercussions or effects and you can most definitely develop the same or similar behaviours and thought-processes as a result, we're all human mate. As meaningless as it might seem I hope you're able to process and find your own understanding in your struggles. Wishing you all the best mate.

[@michaelsteyn5325]

I have learned and recognised so much from this. Even if my experience is like, microscopic, compared to what was expressed. I did make some relatable connections. This was real deep. Thanks..

[@paulkawecki1514]

Enjoyable, interesting podcast! Thanks

[@travisgriffiths8170]

He was fucking delta! Don’t sell him short

[@btrizzle2150]

Yeah Delta Force is the top SF, for sure.

[@ronbenjamin4351]

Never an Ex Army Ranger! Always a Ranger!! Love the channel.. former 3rd Ranger Bat and 7th SFG here! New sub!!!

[@Animeherokamina]

PTSD IS NO JOKE, I suffered for many years with images of the tramitic stuff just popping in my head and i could feel it all over again, but along my journey i realized that the only one who can hurt you is you and it all eashed away

[@whiskey4609]

last 10 mins was amazing and insightful

[@MrAJDUNN]

Damn... this shit hits hard. Got the med boot in 2014 and am now really dealing with the after effects. Thanks for helping me put words to the madness.

[@clatonbigsby662]

Holy cow he actually released the whole episode on KZbin

[@c_mac7773]

I love the violence scale. That's a perfect way to describe that situation/mindset. 🇺🇸💪🏻👊🏻🤙🏼

[@polynesia8733]

cops call it use of force continuum.

[@c_mac7773]

@@polynesia8733 i'm not saying I don't like cops, but I don't like the entire policing system/mentality. Very very extremely under trained. Military special forces I have much more respect for. Just my opinion. 🇺🇸💪🏻👊🏻🤙🏼

[@polynesia8733]

@@c_mac7773 FYI, alot of cops were prior military...appreciate your input...

[@warborn704channel4]

Doooope interview!

[@ih4269]

courageous in war and courageous honesty

[@manosdepiedra_mt2757]

Crazy we have the same religious beliefs and our fathers unfortunately are addicted to Alcohol. My positive chaos is fighting in mma and the grind doing that. Thanks for sharing !

[@LRowe-ld1og]

At the end when Tyler is talking about his dad and Vietnam I believe that some that didn’t go have a guilt about not going when their friends went and didn’t come back. My dad volunteered to go and was denied for missing a finger and being flat footed but watched him break down at a traveling memorial wall because he felt the guilt of his friends going and not him. Kind of a form of survivors guilt.

[@boystainey]

My father in law was talked out of enlisting during Vietnam. He wanted to serve. He regrets it to this day. I tell him sometimes “aside from all the crazy shit, you didn’t miss much man. At least you avoided all the extra bullshit duties that you would inevitably have.”

[@bootwreck81]

Man, fucking awesome interview.

[@optiontraderdan]

Thanks for the video. so many of the mental health struggles are part of the artist REN's video Hi Ren. I think it will shed some "light"

[@mitch__tech]

"The system will always be the system."

[@LeDiamondDog]

That was intense A great actor and an elite soldier together very interesting

[@indianumberonecountry]

This is gonna be good

[@gabrielhaskins705]

Man I’m so jealous. I was like him, knew I wanted to be an elite soldier or marine since I was out of diapers. Too bad I have asthma :/ at 28 years old in finance, it still fucks with me today as I still believe it to be my true calling

[@allencowan6197]

Wow I do the same thing with movies. My emotions have been shutdown for a long time but I will cry to a movie alone. I've never heard that and it was like holy shit that's me!

[@megzer100]

Love my Jon ❤❤❤❤

[@coinfreak24]

Fantastic episode! Just a head's up though, Veterans that have honorable and or medical discharges are not Ex-Army. They are Former Army. Ex is for people that we're kicked out with bad discharges.

[@ViktoriousDead]

Doesn’t make any difference

[@slowburnritual3055]

@@ViktoriousDead There is a huge difference between kick out and an Honorable Discharge.

[@slowburnritual3055]

@coinfreak24 HOOAH!

[@ViktoriousDead]

@@slowburnritual3055 majority doesn’t know the difference, it really doesn’t matter. Most folks in the military haven’t done jack shit anyways

[@Scantronacon]

Hes right OP. Ex serviceman means former nowadays I thought the same but i just looked it up. 😅

[@ryansamuel2287]

Glad to see Tyler and Jon talk im a fan of Tyler of hus backstory and what hes done on Seal Team in real life and tv Big fan of Jon and his acting work. I pray I get my. Chance and be able to work with these guys. Listen to Tyler also on Shawn Ryan and Wilkio #actor #InTheMaking #RealOnes #Punisher #SealTeam

[@callsignblaze4388]

I started caring less a few years ago. I stopped following so much and my life has changed so much. I've accomplished more than I ever did before. I'm in better shape, smarter, more skilled and a better husband and father. I've also made friends with people I never even though I would be able to get to shake hands with.

[@maverickangel-iq5xd]

2145. 😂😂😳 I was optimistic 😂🎯🔥 hilarious. Respect ✊

[@DoodooVoodoo1]

The more i watch into this i realize he and I are nearly identical mindset wise. I'd love to sit down with this guy. my jaw keeps dropping he's explaining my childhood and the way I coped. my love for art and everything he is saying is mirroring me. Idk if it's possible but i really want to meat this guy. I've never met anyone like myself. I'm not alone! I really want to meet this guy. One the other hand maybe we are so alike that we wont have anything to talk about. One person would say something and the other would be like "yeah i agree" silence. lol. but what i'm after is his knowledge about life and just learning about his success and how I can use his experience to augment my life and maybe go somewhere. I'm just spinning my tires i have no purpose or ties but i'm not ready to "leave" just yet.

[@cl7422]

For anyone bitching about the title, any Tier 1 dude will introduce themselves as their “alma mater”. If a SF dude has to intro themselves they’ll say their former green beret, despite whether or not they were selected for delta. These are rangers, PJs, Green Berets happen to be serving in a special unit.

[@lifeabovetreeline]

1:07:30 wait what?! Damn this episode was so amazing I went back in time!!!! 🤔🫡🫥😶‍🌫️

[@FrenchMastiff]

Lots of hugs to Bam Bam !

[@chriscr21]

Yes sir, that is what it was called when I did it as well, RIP... Tough but fun as hell.

[@donbell7440]

Jon, it says something that you have no down thumbs on some of your interviews

[@Chris12987]

I had no idea Tyler who plays a navy seal on the show seal teams is ex special forces. Pretty cool

[@VASTVOiiD]

45:48 REAL ONES. A proper Name for the show.

[@chrishobson50]

Amazing Truism

[@JohnDoe-gc5hn]

You should check into how difficult it was for Christopher Walken to delve into the movie, "Deer Hunter". I heard it had a very deep lasting effect on him after completion.

[@DaNiel-ik2ew]

🔥🔥🔥

[@erikslater194]

Just wandered across this. Everything resonated but what was it that caught my attention? Trying to dig a hole with C4. My team had the same experience trying to take down trees to make landing zones. A block of C4 and several wraps of det cord and we were taking the bark off. Like everything in that country has been hardened by thousands of years of war to just resist force.

[@Generally_Specific]

Hearing this man's testimony about how he had no choice when it comes to joining the Army, code of honor/chivalry, and how Star Wars imprinted on his life...I get it, I myself and a broken down grizzled veteran (paratrooper 19D)...I get it brother...I get it. I joined during Gulf War and had a 13 year break in service and came back in 2005 to fight , 2009 went to the Stan.

[@rztricky]

It was his grandfather in WW2 that he dismissed 13:00 The icon above his father that his animal bonded too

[@BuzzNation69]

Tyler was great in Seal Team on Paramount + !!!!

[@maverickangel-iq5xd]

3030. I relate 😂 wanting that sense suffering , so to speak. Respect sir ✊🕊️🕊️🕊️bulls 👁️. It’s wild bro in retrospect processing the experience of the human conditions.

[@gman52712]

If I'm wrong I'm wrong but Tyler was so sharp and clear here. He seemed like he had a lot to drink on the SR show and that some memories were eating at him.

[@matthewwalsh7408]

I think he’s just more comfortable with jon perhaps. But I totally noticed that right away

[@DazeGutterSlabawitz]

A few things may be the cause, firstly, him and Jon are actually friends with mutual acquaintances. Also, this guy is a soldier first and foremost. Wasn’t trained in interview skills while on camera for informative and entertainment purposes. Third, being the soldier he is, a problem solver, he most likely spent the time analyzing that last episode and seeing where he can get better. And lastly, Jon, being his friend, probably sat with him prior and discussed a game plan. What to talk about, the angles to take it, etc.

[@gman52712]

@@DazeGutterSlabawitz he definitely sounds very different in this video. On the SR show he had glassy eyes was slurring, getting very emotional (obviously for good reason).

[@rascalmatt6713]

Well if you remember, he said he had broken up with someone or something had literally happened to him just 2 weeks before he did the SRS. I did remember reading comments on the SRS that said he seemed WAY off since his podcast with Mike Ritland on the "Mike Drop" podcast.

[@OVOBoopah]

Jon bernthal is such a beast the punisher is the best show I’ve ever watched!!!

[@yankbat8481]

A unique Army warrior.

[@ensporium8857]

TG is an American badass 🇺🇲🦅

[@IOgrel]

He literally made the best tactically resonating and sound show ever created... hard to watch other war movies after seals

[@btrizzle2150]

They mentioned their mutual friend who directed that movie “Shot Caller”. That was a great film all about prison and the effect it can have on the average Joe.

[@Nargle19.]

I'm driving and delivering the Mail. Jon is Stratteling harder than I am. #Eastwood

[@zacksomers1811]

i didnt know frank castle had a podcast. subscribed.

[@brenphoto8213]

I believe you're selling Tyler short in the title. Delta/CAG/ACE whatever you want to call them is the premier US Tier one Asset. The very top. Rangers are nothing to be overlooked, but being in 'The Unit' is above all else.

[@f0rumrr]

I like the dude, its so damn true, sometimes you gotta disconnect your mind from the info stream of modern society and be one with nature. Thats why i love backpacking, its just you and the people you with, and all the shit you can carry on your back. Vs nature.

[@DavidMccallister65]

I hate that he so frequently feels the need to apologize for his words before he even says them. Speak freely soldier and who gives a damn what the critics are gonna say

[@nickdacunto-vr3gr]

Deff want to see andrew lincoln on here!!! Itd be cool to see yall reconnect and talk about the walking dead!!

[@Italkmadshitlol]

No it wouldn't.

[@TheFloresj23]

I swear I thought this was on before not complaining but I think there’s a glitch in the matrix lol😂😂😂

[@maverickangel-iq5xd]

1110 , well said. It will make you miserable. N in the day of info and ai algos what family is is being blanketed by lies n misinformation, if there is a difference… great convo respect n peace . Peace only comes after war. Not just boom boom war, life in itself is a war to live .. much love ,,, always. 🤔💜🔥💜🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@r.ericbloomfield9682]

Purple Heart is called an inefficacy award by SF

[@twocupstwodrams7535]

Only a few folks are invited or have the privilege to "master a craft." The thousands of mistakes, hours of practice and the willingness to learn are what needs to collide, just to be prepared for the opportunity. It's work folks and there is no substitute for the work.