Ladies please never forget that when you're dating someone it's your responsibility to study their culture, LOOK AT THEIR FAMILY DYNAMICS, look at how his family treats him, this will determine how they will treat you, does he have a healthy detachment and boundaries with his family? Is his mother overbearing? His father? Siblings? NEVER FORGET THAT YOU ARE ALSO INTERVIEWING THEM!! ARE THEY GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU? DO YOU FEEL SAFE AROUND THEM? DO THEY GOSSIP ABOUT OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS? ARE YOU MARRYING INTO A TOXIC FAMILY? me and mines come together and created our own traditions (he is Jewish) and we decide how we want extended families to be involved in our lives, not the other way around. Nobody is forced to do nothing they don't want to do and we free to live our lives from stress of extended family obligations. It's about knowing yourselves as a couple and you two becoming family. Never be desperate for any man to point where you will overlook the red flags of his family or his behavior. You have to protect each other from your extended families. ❤✌🏾
@tressiesmuse10308 ай бұрын
So TRUE THANKS 🎉
@myso-calledfastinglife95618 ай бұрын
EXCELLENT POINTS! I think that many divorces result from marriages where this didn't happen.
@Neta_25258 ай бұрын
“Hear, hear”
@divadiva18158 ай бұрын
Well said
@JJohnson26878 ай бұрын
It is also THEIR JOB to study your culture as well. So that they are aware how to protect you.
@jasminealexia8 ай бұрын
I dated outside my race for the first time last year. The guy was half Italian. Several dates in we made dinner at my place together in which he brought some homemade bread to go with my Cajun pasta dish. The bread was delicious! My favorite part about Mathew was his emotional availability and his intellectual ability. This is something I’ve never quite experienced within my own race. I honestly went in with Matt not expecting very much at all as I was not all that interested in the beginning not knowing that I’d later fall for him completely. Unfortunately we weren’t a good fit for eachother but the experience left me more open minded now than I was before! Cheers!
@shelly8965luv8 ай бұрын
I had a similar experience with a full blooded Italian man. I was not interested in him at the beginning but I started to fall for him. After I expressed that i was falling for him and asked him where the relationship was headed, he told me that he was not sure what he wanted so I just moved on but we are still friends
@lastdragonx8 ай бұрын
@jasmineestafia. So you basically got pumped and dumped by someone outside your race. Shocking
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
Yes ,we limite yourself to black men ONLY ,black men have BE dating outside Forever,but they dont want you to do it .
@jasminealexia8 ай бұрын
@@shelly8965luvwow sounds very similar.. keep going sis! I pray you come across the right one ❤😊
@lastdragonx8 ай бұрын
@@mariaseidi4023 We don't have a problem with you doing it. We just don't like wet hot girls like Halle Berry date out cause we want those ones lol.
@Mscocoapuffz8 ай бұрын
I dated an Italian man a few years ago and it was an interesting experience. He was great at cooking, career oriented, and had friends and hobbies outside of dating. He just came to the US so his family wasn’t around but his parent called him every morning, yes he did answer those calls. He wasn’t perfect, but neither was I so it didn’t work. He wad the first man in my life to ever raise my standards when it comes to men.
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
Men from Spain are also Nice .
@lastdragonx8 ай бұрын
So he just had sex with you and left. Figures
@lastdragonx8 ай бұрын
@@mariaseidi4023 Why aren't they marrying you then?
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
@@lastdragonx Black men have been dating out as they please ,passport brothers and others ,why cant black women date out too ,we live in a global world ,people travel meet diferent people ,if it work out or not only God knows ,black men dont Marry either,and live many single mums everywhere,free your mind the rest Will follow...
@lastdragonx8 ай бұрын
@@mariaseidi4023 Black women can do whatever they want but the evidence is clear. White and Non black men are not marrying you all. They are pumping and dumping you.
@shantelwhite87818 ай бұрын
My fiancé is Italian. I think most Italian men are passionate, generous, and very sexy
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
Really i live in Germany ,im african 😂 love men from Spain,they are so sweet and sexy i have automatic atraction to then , i like this type dark hair ,olive skin ,brow eyes😂.And the accent first time i went to Spain i was schock how handsome the men are😂...
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
@@mariaseidi4023 That's how it was when I went to Italy. It was eye candy all day. Never saw so many super handsome, well dressed men who were hetero!
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OG 😁😁😁Spanish men are very attentive,loving ,family oriented and guive you complements all the time ( i dont say they are perfect angels )... Sisters get your passort,sametimes you need to Change of scenery ,enougth of strugle love ...Greetings from Germany
@selfishgirlsgofirst8 ай бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OG Italian men dress so well!!!
@joederocco93217 ай бұрын
yes@@selfishgirlsgofirst
@racheltherg17668 ай бұрын
Hi Chris , I‘m married to an Italian from Tuscany, as your guest said they are all about family.I met his family 3 weeks after we met. Started learning the language immensely thereafter .If you want to bond easily with the family you should get aquianted with their culture,their way of life and their language. Speaking their language is a plus, then the older women of the family will see you in a different light, then communication is of atmost importance, the women of the family want you to communicated with them directly and not thru your partner.It‘s 17 years since I’ve met my husband and it‘s great, my Italian family were here in Germany where my husband , our son( from my first marriage) and I resides for Christmas , believe me we had a ball😊 During their stay we all spoke mostly Italian and of course went to church services, then this is very important to them.. Fact is if you meet an Italian and he falls in loves with you, he will set the tone of how he wishes for you to be treated, his family will recognize how important you are to him, the way he treats you will reflects how he sees you .Chris is right there are some great similarities between Italians and BP . Italy is not perfect, there is racism there, but personally I’ve not experienced it, we have a place in Tuscany and Sardinien , and I’m friends in Italy very often during Sommer and it’s been great.My son is biracial and has travel Italy without problems, ladies donot allow other people’s experience weight you down. Racism is everywhere , but you cannot allow it to dictate your life. Go out and date, use the dating apps they are wonderful and enjoy life at it’s fullest.
@Over50andMe8 ай бұрын
Grazie mille 🙏🏽.
@shelly8965luv8 ай бұрын
Great advice! Thanks for sharing your experiences ❤️
@tessy2822 күн бұрын
Yes that's why I started learning Polish to communicate with my husband to be's parents.
@rosewatersweettea8 ай бұрын
Jewish or German men next please! I’ve dated both and have had excellent luck, my man is Jewish and obsessed with me ❤
@melaninchocolate65528 ай бұрын
Same!! So wonderful to be their number #1! To be adored and even worshipped lol 🥰❤️
@Lorenzo-e7m6 ай бұрын
@@melaninchocolate6552it only works in small percentages. Y’all are wasting black womens time lol Europeans are race loyal. They want kids that look like them.
@karateebodyАй бұрын
Being obsessed or worshipped by anyone isn’t a flex. It’s dangerous and very unhealthy. These are ways I’d think a young and immature person would speak, not someone my age.
@Bloombaby998 ай бұрын
Sidenote: My niece wants to travel to China to try all their foods. She never expressed such a desire until I came to live with her, her sisters, and her mom (I'd been teaching the girls different languages and cultures). She said she is hesitant to go to China because her mom said "Chinese people hate black people." I told her: "Where isn't there racism, colorism, sexism, etc? It's everywhere! The second you let other people deter you from what you want is the second you lose a piece of yourself. Don't be your own bully. You're so much better than that and you deserve fulfillment in your experiences." We live in a northern state that is so bland it's not even funny. Living here will have you thinking black people belong at the bottom and they should be happy about it. I have to retrain her/their way of thinking.
@Smith888d7 ай бұрын
I had an AMAZING time in China. We did a tour as it wasn’t the easiest to navigate especially getting the best food. A small group Intrepid tour was amazing
@reginapolo33572 ай бұрын
You are so on. Thank you for being the wind beneath uour niece wings, you have done something incredible.
@saltnpeppanatural19318 ай бұрын
It’s black women that are traditional. Not black men.
@seattleboyz52085 ай бұрын
Only thing “traditional” about bw is ya’ll traitorous nature!!
@user-ut1en2lt8l4 ай бұрын
That’s a generalization. I’ve been married to my black wife for 31 years. Here in Columbus there are a lot of Black men that have been married to Black women for decades.
@gregorybennings87183 ай бұрын
@@user-ut1en2lt8l This is a black male hate channel. Don't expect any rational people here.
@NBALLCАй бұрын
Im a white giy and i got too say black men achived wayy more look at the rap game they dominante it
@NBALLCАй бұрын
Comedy they dominante basketbal etc.
@nae9908 ай бұрын
A Bronx Tale is my favorite movie 😍😅 But seriously though, I really enjoyed this interview. I love hearing mens opinions when they're delivered respectfully and in kindness
@thedreetaylor6 ай бұрын
Literally ❤🤭
@JessicAShaneE118 күн бұрын
I love this movie too!
@shelly8965luv8 ай бұрын
Hi Chris! Great interview. I have dated a few Italian men and I was absolutely smitten with them. Great guys. The ones that I have dated had been married or dated other black women. What I love about them is how family oriented they are and they are always eager to please their woman. The men that I dated also was would invite me to their home and make dinner for me which I absolutely loved!
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤
@dearestdarling94678 ай бұрын
Thank you for bringing Frank on, Christelyn! I appreciate you both taking the time to enlighten us on different cultures. This was very informative (…and it doesn’t hurt that he is handsome with a nice voice😉)
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
Can you believe he's 61?! He looks amazing.
@dearestdarling94678 ай бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OG whattt?! No way! I’m 30 and I would definitely date him. He seems very youthful in looks and spirit.
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
@@dearestdarling9467 He's truly a very nice man. Great friend.
@dearestdarling94678 ай бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OG you two seem to have great chemistry so as a friend or something more, I approve! lol ❤
@joederocco93217 ай бұрын
im italian frim new york and i only date black women. that is my prefernce cause i think we have a chemistry between us like no other ,and of course they have a very nice look
@istudysuccess8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! It was quite insightful. One of my childhood friends is Italian and I absolutely adore the tribal nature of his family. Whenever I see his mother, she is still so kind to me. This video reminded me that the Italian culture and family dynamics are in alignment with my values and could be a healthy relationship option. ❤🙏🏽 Thank you, CK!
@kida7588 ай бұрын
Phenomenal idea 💡 for your “Archetype” series CK! You should interview Various nationalities of men who usually ‘gel’ well with BW just like this guy! It’s also great that you chose an Italian-American 🇮🇹 🇺🇸 as he provided fantastic insight on both the US & Italy. Next up Please: Jewish Men ✡️ , British Men 🇬🇧 & Their dynamic with AA 🇺🇸 Women (they’re my f-ing Jam! They love me 😎), Persian Men 🇮🇷 (esp in California), French Men 🇫🇷, Armenian 🇦🇲 Men, French-Canadian 🇨🇦,Greek 🇬🇷, etc. In addition to Italian men. Living in LA 🌴- Men from those origins are ALWAYS hitting me up & talking me out on dates! Wayy more than “POC” 🙄 such as Asian/Latino/Blk men who have an ingrained “aspirational white or light” mentality! I wouldn’t bother with them.
@kida7588 ай бұрын
Also for future reference-Please do Scandinavian Men 🇩🇰 🇸🇪 🇳🇴 & their specific perception of AA Women 🇺🇸 in particular!
@myso-calledfastinglife95618 ай бұрын
Yes, I believe we are good on men who have personally manifested toxic cultural beliefs, such as "whitening of the race," ethnic cast systems, deeply entrenched colorist ideology, toxic/hyper-masculenity... no need to deep-dive on those men. We are well-acquainted, unfortunately.
@kida7588 ай бұрын
@@myso-calledfastinglife9561💯✨…Amen. I’ll go where I’m wanted & treated well. And completely ignore/divest from groups who go out of their way (both overly & covertly) to show that they presume me to be inferior. Especially when I can date/be courted by the VERY same man atop of their delusional hierarchies…that they’re vying to be! 🤣 Lol, no thank you. 😎
@tressiesmuse10308 ай бұрын
@@kida758ABSOLUTELY 💯
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
Just remember ladies, you will STILL have to individually vet all the men regardless of the stereotypes/archetypes/reputation of each ethnicity. This series is an exercise in 'broad strokes' that attempts to take a deeper dive than the superficial content about black women dating other races conversation to date. I'm going to point out the positives and potential negatives with all the archetypes in hopes to gives a more wholistic view.
@monalisa_18648 ай бұрын
Thank you for this interview with an Italian man. He did share some interesting points about their culture. I am open to other cultures of men. I’m not experienced in preparing Italian dishes but open to learn.
@BelAge8 ай бұрын
That's what KZbin is for. Tons of italian recipes on here.
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
@@BelAge I find learning new Italian cuisine to be fun to experiment with. Every year I grow my garden vegetables for the ultimate pasta sauce: sweet and hot peppers, Roma tomatoes, onions, garlic, basil, rosemary, thyme, parsley etc. Super fun and rewarding.
@clelaw99308 ай бұрын
This was a great conversation, C.K! A big thank you to your guest for participating in this conversation as well. Btw, you two make a nice-looking pair.😊
@madamelogicbombdropperblac77998 ай бұрын
Wow! What an interview😊 I watch a lot of Black Female Solo Travel Vlogs and Italy is a popular destination for black ladies. Sicily is is also popular for traveling black ladies. I had no idea how many black ladies are married to Italian men in Italy. The gentleman you interviewed was so nice, and his masculinity was so polarized. Please bring more handsome masculine non black men on your show. 2024 is going to be a great year for black ladies when it comes to traveling overseas and finding love. The world is open to us and the world is ours for the taking. DATE OUT! MARRY UP! EMBRACE TH GOOD LIFE! 🥳
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
I love men fromSpain
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Like black women ❤
@Zarrie9298 ай бұрын
Christelyn, thank you agian and agian for this feature. I have followed you since your Beyond Black and White blog. Your sincere love for black girls and women is a blessing and much appreciated. I have been married to a 3rd generation Italian American man for twenty years. Italian men are passionate, extremely expressive, traditional and mens men. And yes, ladies they are excellent providers and protectors. They also take their passion to the bedroom and he will want to please you,......and he definitely WILL please you., agian, agian, and agian.😉 I personally believe Italian men are the sexist race of men. Italy is known for their cuisine, art, Roman culture like tbe leaning tower of Pizazza, Venice, wine country, expensive sports cars, and the Pope and Vatican city. Like all race, they also have distinct similarities. They love family and are devout Catholics. Before we were married I converted into the Catholic religion. Our son went to Catholic school since kindergarten. As a family we attend Mass on Sunday. I love being Catholic and was married in a huge historical and beautiful Cathedral church. Some races of men are intimidated by black men. Italian men have just as much swag and are NOT concerned about black men,.....at all! My husband is fair skinned with sky blue eyes and curly blond thick hair. Yet his strong Italian last name and expressive mannerism screams Italian. My husbands mothers family is from Northern Italy, Milan. His father is half Sicilian and Irish. His mothers northern Italy family had issues with her dating a Scilian man for several years. My son looks like my husband with fair skin, light eyes and dark curly hair. My husband said growing up his parents found racism towards black Americans unexceptable. When we first started dating my mother in law was totally against It took my husband fr to put his foot down andalso the birth of our son. We ended up being very close and they adore our son. Family is very important with Italian culture. Also ladies my husband is the cook and he is great one. Yet, my husband is still a alpha man that protects and financially provides. White men are not all alike. German, Irish, French, and Italian cultures are different.
@inmybed087 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing your experience. You said your in-laws find racism towards black people unacceptable, but your MIL was against you dating? Sounds like she had a double standard. Hopefully she didn't cause you grief! 🙏🏾
@Zarrie9297 ай бұрын
@@inmybed08 I appreciate your comment. Yes, his mother definitely did. She is like many white people. They have no issue until their child wants a relationship with a black person. 🤷 I definitely felt some type of way about her adding unnecessary drama onto our relationship. My husband always put me first but it hurt him because he loved his mother. When she came around we had a wonderful relationship. I had always thought how 🤔 can she be a bad person when she raised such a wonderful son. My mother in law was a lovely lady, extremely sweet. She has passed but my son loved his Nana and she adored him.
@caressaclark10425 ай бұрын
I was closely involved with an older Italian man who waited over 10 years before taking me home to meet his mother😂.. I wasn't offended, it was for my own good. I finally met her when she was very old, in her 80s, and she was very sweet towards me. She and I got along great, and kept in touch after he died in 2018, and up until she died in 2021. HOWEVER.. he told me that his mother was extremely bigoted in her younger days. He said he tried bringing home a black woman in the 1970s, and it went horribly.❤
@Zarrie9295 ай бұрын
@@caressaclark1042 Ten years he kept you away from his mother. When you finally met her, she was kind to you. You both developed a relationship. How sad that she denied her son ten years of peace because of her own stubbornness. She wanted to punish him because he did not choose the woman she wanted. She expected her son to want a woman like her. I am sorry to hear they are both gone but glad she opened up. I have a beautiful son who is in college. I have no idea what type of girl he will bring home. Right now they are all " friends." I have never suggested a type. I just want him to be happy. And I want her to be a nice girl who loves my son ( wink 😉). I know, I sound like a old school momma but I really feel that way.
@divestedconservative268 ай бұрын
This was a beautiful idea and I absolutely LOVE what you're doing as a whole. However, may I add a suggestion? It was a bit too much focus on racism and colorism. He seemed a little uncomfortable. As Blk women who date and marry whte men, we should concentrate more on our similarities and what turns us on, rather than our differences. ❤❤❤
@trxphywaif8 ай бұрын
I feel the same way. I find it embarrassing when bw date non black men and immediately spew their insecurities on them. This obsession with the topic of racism and colorism especially when dating non bm needs to be retired. I’m a dsbw but I’ve NEVER brought up colorism with my bf and our relationship is just fine lmao
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤❤
@smiller46598 ай бұрын
This was outstanding. Frank’s insights were great. I’m from an immigrant family, large 22 first cousins, English not the first language. But, being Black, there was no such culture of women staying home raising kids. The woman, even to this day, works 40 hours a week out of the home, cooks amazing meals (no leftovers rarely takeout) , are primary caregivers of children. Life expectancy is shorter for women in my family because of it. When Frank described the “soft landing” after work with good smells in the house etc, how lovely is that? Btw, we are Catholic, too, and the expectations are real for marriage within the church, baptism, etc. it could even be that a family like Frank’s might be even more accepting of a Black woman if she’s Catholic. Also, respect his mother!! Praise cooking and learn because she’s not trying to give her son to a take-out lady. :-)
@npk200Cola8 ай бұрын
He's handsome, and I love the bass in his voice.
@drtruth52918 ай бұрын
The view that the Italians that came to America jumped in w those at the top of the race dynamic makes a lot of sense. I dare say all cultures/ethnicities including Africans try to do the same to the extent that they can.
@ABlackBeauty8 ай бұрын
My fiancé was Italian before he passed in 2015 ever since then I can’t find a decent man to give my life to…. Food in Germany 🇩🇪 is horrible too.
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
I live in germany Stuttgart ,where do you live ?
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
I love men from Spain,
@proxymoron2158 ай бұрын
Aren't you married to a Nigerian? Lol
@istudysuccess8 ай бұрын
My condolences to you, hun. ❤
@lovelylana76148 ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏
@tressiesmuse10308 ай бұрын
You are doing really good work for all of us and I greatly appreciate it!🎉 I will get my application out to you again.😊 Oh yes also please add to your archetype of men the Scandinavians karma in particular the Norwegians or Norwegian Americans 🇧🇻 Thank you much ❤
@journeythrough30878 ай бұрын
This was interesting! I’ve been attracting South Asian men lately, maybe there can be a video on that particular archetype?
@Tigerheiress3 ай бұрын
Me too but it’s bc they think I’m south Asian 😂
@myso-calledfastinglife95618 ай бұрын
I think it would be VERY WORTH WATCHING a panel of desirable, traditional men, some who have cheated, others who haven't. I want to hear what they suggest as the remedy of staleness in traditional marraiges/committed relationships. If they go out and work, develop themselves, become more worldy, etc but they have a SAHW/SAHM as a partner who begins to bore them. What do traditional men want they wives to do? Will they support her personal growth? Will they support her taking courses or creating a business or engaginging in community or professional associations? Will they maintain interest in still growing with her and being intentional with maintaining spark and romance?
@Eternaldayz8 ай бұрын
Disgusting now how many of them except y'all that's the funny part about it 0.1%if that.... Yall the most embarrassing disgraceful things that's ever walked ..
@karmameetsworld8 ай бұрын
Loved this!!! Both of my exes were from Italy and Italian American, and this is spot on!!!! I think the two cultures have a lot in common, if we can all see past our few perceived differences.
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
Hey girl hey!
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi❤❤
@Spanish-Armada8 ай бұрын
Maybe the Italian men in America. Italians are lovely, romantic etc however those ones in Italy can be extremely racist especially their family members. Do not rush into relationship without studying the man well.
@lovelylana76148 ай бұрын
Really? I was just telling about my experience. It's been the reverse. The Italian American guys were hesitant and shady with me, but not the Italian guys from Italy. Huh? This is really interesting.
@Spanish-Armada8 ай бұрын
@@lovelylana7614 Obviously I am not talking in absolute but majority are.
@b.williams94738 ай бұрын
@@lovelylana7614My experience as well. The American ones, most of them want to be white, so they tend to marry light/white.
@biegebythesea67757 ай бұрын
Yeh, Italians are attracted to black women but they are quite racist. It's so weird hearing men born in america call themselves 'italian'. They're not. They're Italian-American.
@jsmaelsartor5952 ай бұрын
@@lovelylana7614because we are not all the same
@islaedmonson-brown42308 ай бұрын
Hello Chris! I know of a few that sure did welcome African American etc. My sister was once engaged to J. Farina. The actor D. Farina's nephew. D.F RIP. My sister and J.F lived together. I was blessed to meet D. Farina's Sister Bernadette RIP sweet one. His sister was so kind. Very welcoming family. I have a cousin who's married to an Italian and they share a child. They are still married.
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤
@idivas_Tricia8 ай бұрын
Italian men often exude a robust and unfiltered charm, embodying a distinct cultural persona. Many of them may exhibit a more straightforward communication style, emphasizing the importance of gestures and emotions over an expansive vocabulary. The frequent use of profanity can be a turn-off for me. Their inclination towards a narrower culinary scope, predominantly favoring Italian cuisine, speaks to a deep-rooted connection to their heritage, but it may also reflect a limited exposure to other cultures. If you choose to date an Italian man, consider those in professional fields, as they tend to be less rough around the edges compared to the average Joe, such as a construction worker.
@elegantlady83128 ай бұрын
From the sounds of this, “Franco” should definitely not allow his sister to date a group of men who don’t believe in marriage and make babies they don’t take care of. Perhaps everything is not just racism and bigotry 🤷🏽♀️
@twilight149718 ай бұрын
Happy New Year CK! Italian men are handsome and have a certain swag to them. Also, I’m not sure if you’ve done a video about this before on black mom biracial vs white mom or non black mom biracial. It’s all over tik tok. What reminds me of this is the fact that Naomi Osaka sister Mari Osaka just blasted their father and is threatening to kill him. The difference between biracial of black moms vs non black moms is truly night and day.
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
I haven't but I'll check it out! And Happy New Year.
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤❤
@jtorie18 ай бұрын
My mother in law and her hubby are Italian and have always considered themselves white, as does my husband, who is half Italian half Romanian. A lot of these eastern europeans and Italians seem to be oblivious to the fact that in America they were not considered white until after the industrial revolution. Whites segregated themselves from Italians, just as they did Blacks, and would be refused of services due to their Italian heritage. For a time, they were very often lynched as well. I'm from Louisiana and New Orleans was home to a large population of Italian immigrants in the late 1800s as well. Many of them came as a result of reconstruction and took over the jobs of freed slaves. There were and still are a prominent family called Gambino and I believe they were connected to the Italian mob. Anyhow the largest lynching of Italian Americans took place in New Orleans in the 1890s following several Sicilians being acquitted for a white policeman's murder. The perps were never charged. Their families at least did at least get reparations. This lynching inspired Columbus Day so that American whites could more readily identify with Italians. Of course whites wanted to take credit for "discovering" America.
@mtngrl58598 ай бұрын
Just to add context to Italy & migrants from Africa, its not a color dynamic, its a religious-cultural dynamic. Many of these migrants are non-Christian and they are mostly single men, this sets families on edge. Europe in general are having issues with these migrants. Denmark is paying migrants to leave & recent elections are moving towards a conservative trend as well in many European nations. Recently, Italy has been in opposition to the general EU guidelines & made it a ruling that only biological women can participate in the Miss Italy contest, in opposition to this Miss Netherlands is a transgender male. So, this has set Italians in opposition to dictates of the EU.
@afyacain69367 ай бұрын
That one part about how Italian men being into women that are nurturing that might be the reason they look at me.
@iwhippedcreamcode46428 ай бұрын
NO CHEATERS LADIEZ! YOU DESERVE MORE THAN THAT!
@Bloombaby998 ай бұрын
A lot of dating and marriage has more to do with cultural similarities than skin color because I've attracted abd been attracted to all men who shared my values, traditions, beliefs, cultural settings, etc. They just so happened to be nonblack.
@mislou1008 ай бұрын
This was a very interesting video.I’ve always been interested in Italian culture and now I’m even more curious to know more about them, especially Southern Italy . Thanks for sharing.
@Luckimee8 ай бұрын
Italian men are my preference. My mom used to crush on Andy Garcia. I love Robert Deniro. I dated an African Italian man and it was captivating when he spoke. Nothing is more attractive than an Italian man.
@djlivvy468 ай бұрын
Have you ever been to Italy?
@Blissful-es1kk8 ай бұрын
I have to do research on Robert Deniro's Italian background. Is his family from Northern or Southern Italy? I really can't tell.
@lovelylana76148 ай бұрын
Andy Garcia surprisingly is Cuban. He is a gorgeous man, and he always played Italian in the movies. My favorite is Al Pacino. In his younger years, he was so cute. I can just watch the Godfather and Scarface all day. 😻😻😻
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
Girl me too. Give me young Al Pacino any day.
@soleilantillean306 ай бұрын
@@lovelylana7614 Cuban is a relatively new culture. All of Cubans came from somewhere else Europe, Africa, and the Arawak and Taino Indians are the only natives. That's to say I would not be surprised if Italian showed up in his DNA.
@03Heaven907 ай бұрын
I don't want to be horrible here but my experience with Italian men are different. the ones from UK are NOT generous at all! and when I share my experience about Italians with other women I realised we all have the same experience. they don't like to spend and they even feel comfortable asking for money.
@SimplyMilli28 күн бұрын
Italian men were my first preference from a young age till now.
@sharonphelps43008 ай бұрын
Love this topic! Thank you
@SamriBliss8 ай бұрын
27:08 - Franc makes a good point about how cheating is viewed differently between the USA 🇺🇸 and Europe and elsewhere. A great book on that topic is “Lust in Translation” by Pamela Druckerman
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤❤
@nicford5488 ай бұрын
What the hell was this? Chris, please do better!
@mtngrl58598 ай бұрын
Even within Italy, Sicilians are looked down on by Northern Italians. Back in the 1930's in the US, Italians were classified as minorities. Anything north of Naples is considered Northern Italy, depending on the individual Naples may or may not be considered Southern Italian.
@elegantz17798 ай бұрын
You are glowing Chris!
@jtorie18 ай бұрын
My hubby is literally Giovani 😆 his mother is Italian and remarried to a fully Italian man. But be careful ladies: franco is out here making baby mommas too. My step father in law has 2 sons. They all live in Italy and are educated, from decent families, have good jobs etc. Unfortunately, they both have been with their significant others for over 10 years and have 2 kids each with no plans of a wedding in sight. Apparently this mindset has infected some parts of Italy as well.
@Tyda7778 ай бұрын
I like the Real Millionaire speak serie better...anyway plz comment on Rachel Lindsay divorce. I think he got fed up of her pro black, activist, argumentative personna. 🙄
@paulemerick8661Ай бұрын
We Italians or of Italian descent, especially southern Italians are very family oriented. I think as long as the person from the outside so to speak embraces that then it will make a world of difference.
@mackyd9558 ай бұрын
I'd guess it depends on if you're from northern or southern Italy. The northerners frowned upon the southerners because they mixed with their slaves back in the day. Hence why the southern Italians are darker skinned. With that said Id guess the southern Italians would be way more accepting
@elegantempress13958 ай бұрын
They are also darker because they are in a warmer climate that’s literally closer to North Africa/Middle East (lol)
@soulspirationgoddess8 ай бұрын
@@elegantempress1395yes but he’s also right Siciliana are part black somewhere in they’re family tree and it’s not only bc of slavery. The moors had a hand in it as well. I personally think the Sicilians are better looking but maybe I’m biased 😆
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
@@soulspirationgoddess Yes Frank did his DNA and his lineage has African ancestry, and his father is Sicilian.
@mackyd9558 ай бұрын
@@elegantempress1395 if that were the case everyone in PA (roughly 40 latitude = southern tip of Italy) and below would all have dark skin which is not the case. I'll stick with the history
@paulemerick8661Ай бұрын
One distinction to also point out is that northern Italians tend to have more of the white ‘Northern’ ancestry from Germanics and Celtic people. Southern Italians tend to have more of the native Italic ancestry as well as a blend of that and ancestry from parts of the Mediterranean including Greece, north Africa, and the Middle East.
@reesepeese25748 ай бұрын
U guys make an amazing couple😊😊😊❤❤
@smiller46598 ай бұрын
Could you do an archetype profile of a White “pointdexter”? Very book smart, science, math, sci fi, but a bit socially awkward needing plenty of time to peel back layers of his personality? I’m married to one for 17 years and our first date was awkward with a capital A. But, he was romantic, funny, and protective, too.
@missfranniepants8 ай бұрын
This man sounds sooooo good. You should interview him for like 3 hours or just ask him to read us a novel or something. My goodness.
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
You should hear him speak in Italian. He makes a grocery list sound so good.
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤❤❤
@biegebythesea67757 ай бұрын
is he single? he's sexy. I don't vibe with his idea that the man going out to work is working hard but the mother looking after the kids is somehow not doing that. If you want your wife to be stimulating and give you her time, you need to help with childcare because you know, they're your children too...
@deadcell123 күн бұрын
If i have to work 70-90 hours a week to provide for my family then my woman is doing 100% of the childcare. If she wants me to help out then she better get a job and go 50/50 with the bills.
@biegebythesea677522 күн бұрын
@@deadcell1 'if i have to' 'she better get' 'my woman'. please do not do anywhere near women. Thanks.
@deadcell122 күн бұрын
@@biegebythesea6775 Sounds like to me a simp without a backbone will be your ideal man.
@BradsBabygirl20248 ай бұрын
I’ve only had a few heavy make-out sessions with Italian young men, and really enjoyed them!🥰 That’s all I’ve got to contribute.❤
@jojoone10998 ай бұрын
I'd like to see how intercultural dating differences could play out in terms of age. I would think that young women would have more adapting to do than older women. I appreciate Franco's honesty and Chris' mention of some the history between Italians and Black people in the US.
@FindYourFree8 ай бұрын
now we're talking
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi I’m Tyler Randall
@SullyQ17 ай бұрын
For those of you who came here after the TikTok clip on interracial dating, black man vs black woman, it’s here 38:38.
@mjptpill8406Ай бұрын
It seems your comment stems from a place of misunderstanding. I have to say, it's disheartening to see you choosing to date outside of our race. I imagine that you might receive some disapproving looks from others in our community, and I would likely feel similarly if I saw you in public. I believe in the importance of embracing our culture and history, and I hope you’ll take some time to reflect on that. As a strong Black woman, I encourage you to seek out and embrace Black love, which is deeply rooted in our shared heritage.
@angelicahenderson46046 ай бұрын
Hi Chris! I'm wondering if there will be a follow up for the successful networking for introverts program.
@AffordableREI8 ай бұрын
My ex was italina. Very family oriented. Dorced, but greatfather and coparent, and he appreciates my coparenting skills: we both believe both parents are integral and we make sure we both are present. I like them, but this time im looking french 🤷🏾♀️ ive always dates strategically by what i want and desire in the culture of the men. French because I appreciate the refinement and class.
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
Darling ,i live in Germany ,i like Spanish,french,italian i dont know ...i love Spanish men Im very atracted to then in every way .
@tiffanycotter96758 ай бұрын
I hope the Chicago mayor heard your point that we’re not immigrants.
@876me78 ай бұрын
This man is handsome. Love his voice!
@drtruth52918 ай бұрын
Wow. Those percentages are wild and scary.
@orangecat9998 ай бұрын
Italian men do not respect men who create fatherless homes. Call it the influence of the church or 'patriarchy" or whatever, but over there, men actually gate-keep each other (and women do the same among themselves as well). When I think about it, it doesn't mean the women are let off the hook to be irresponsible. It just means that women's lives are made a little easier---i.e., it's easier to "choose better". Out-of -wedlock births are not uncommon, especially in the north, but from what I've seen, people still stay together, but don't necessarily get married, i.e., mother is single on paper but the father is in the home. I'm not sure how these couples are counted in the stats, but regardless, Italy has way, way, way less of the social problems created by the lack of fathers in the home. Juicy (but sad) story: My husband was a consultant for a small regional airline that needed to reassign pilots to new routes. Pilots also don't have a great reputation, either; and let's just say, of the Italian and German pilots for this one route, of course a few Italian pilots (but no German ones) were outed for having families on each side of the border!! Che storia!
@FM-yk1yr8 ай бұрын
So good!
@OpulentAristocrat8 ай бұрын
Applauses ❤
@topnotchtn45388 ай бұрын
Hey Christelyn, can you do a video on Alfre Woodard?
@Mindsetolympics6 ай бұрын
Feels like a lot of marriages were kinda fake back in the day, (and still are) people just accepted marriage as the norm because people moved in similar religious groups that binded them to marriage. Now our society is so much more emotionally/psychologically advanced and women are requiring less from men commitment wise and have babies out of wedlock more often. Society has always been in a moral deficit and division, but more so now because people are veering off into their own way of beliefs and values (more than before) and now marriage is not a bandaid solution to that anymore with our freedom as women. And a lot of people back in the day were unhappily married and people dont have to tolerate that and society is not telling them to anymore.
@dionneking88 ай бұрын
Corbin bleu is black and his mom is italian real world stars irilanan and i forget the other girls name ate black and Italian so it depends
@kida7588 ай бұрын
The Italian Man/BW combo is more common. FINE ass Taimak Guerrillo, RDK’s kids, etc.
@doll.ov.poetrii46827 ай бұрын
He's biracial.
@GinaCriv8 ай бұрын
Just watch some Spike Lee movies..."Do the Right Thing", "Jungle Fever"...those will give you a true depiction of the Italian American-Black American dynamics. Like Spike Lee, I grew up in Brooklyn (Flatbush=Caribbean immigrants), probably the most ethnically diverse "city" in the world; every ethnic group had their own neighborhood...Bed Stuy=Black, Sheepshead Bay=Jewish, Bensonhurst=Italian, etc, but as far as Bensonhurst there was a well known unwritten rule that black people better not go into Bensonhurst!!! I appreciate Frank's honesty on the racial dynamics (sorry, but I think Chris was trying to minimize and romanticize it a bit). I'm black and married to a northern Italian (born/raised in Italy), and even he sees the HUGE difference between American Italians (very clanish/borish) and continental Italians (they don't make a deal about being Italian, they just are)...he can not relate. And trust me, ladies, Italian men (Italy) are not out "looking" for black women. If they happen to meet one that they like and vibe with her, then they seem to have no problem with it. One big exception I must state is that Italians look upon Black Americans and Black Africans VERY differently, your American-ness goes a long way. Sorry for the long post.
@TheJazzy19808 ай бұрын
thank you for your realistic take on this. some of these "swirlers", and their followers, live in delulu land.
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Want married ❤❤
@subaruford3344Ай бұрын
Girls! I really need your help! There's this BEAUTIFUL black woman in my church congregation and we said hi. I talked to her a little bit and learned her parents are both Congolese. My goodness! She's amazing! How do I ask her out? What do I do?
@ThePinkPill_OGАй бұрын
Talk to her first. Spark a conversation and see what she's in to. Then plan a date based on those things and suggest it. Good luck!
@subaruford3344Ай бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OG Let's gooooooooo!!!!! Thank you so much Christelyn! Love your channel! Really helpful!
@fitnessfoodbyvchen97352 ай бұрын
Italian Men are🔥😘
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤❤ I’m USA 🇺🇸
@fitnessfoodbyvchen9735Ай бұрын
@@TylerRandall-o4m you are 🔥🥰🤗😅
@drtruth52918 ай бұрын
They are cut from the same cloth as Afro men including in some cases colorists
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
I visited Italy in 2019 with 30 Pink Pill members, and we are mostly dark skinned. We were welcomed with open arms and the men literally chased me lol...I didn't get that vibe at all.
@drtruth52918 ай бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OGgood to know. Others have a diff experience. Maybe it’s the area within the country
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
@@drtruth5291 Could be. We went first to Rome, and then Sorrento/Amalfi Coast.
@LAW-Nineteen8 ай бұрын
I find them somewhat rakish, not colorist. They love black women and just women in general
@biegebythesea67757 ай бұрын
@@drtruth5291 Might be to do with Featurism. I don't think black women with larger features are treated in the same way. They're also not respectful to black men. One actually killed a Nigerian man in broad daylight in Rome a few years back.
@blessedfromtx.19108 ай бұрын
Hello Christelyn, he is very handsome! I appreciated this interview with Frank, great story. More videos like this would be awesome. Thanks.🙂
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤❤
@PinkWillow18 ай бұрын
It's interesting how he mentioned church may have a lot to do with the Italian men marrying.
@genovasquez83618 ай бұрын
Productive = Slavery Laise Faire = Paradise
@Veronika77778 ай бұрын
Great video. Thank You, this was quite interesting and insightful. 💜
@russellbayle8 ай бұрын
I like the idea of living somewhere slow paced and not driven by success and grind at least for a little
@staysmooth30487 ай бұрын
It's Crazy How They Separated The Blk Family. I'll Nvr Dilute My Blood With Them Although I Know A Lot Of Us Do. It's Sad How We Fight Each Other Instead Of Loving Each Other. I Know A Blk Man You Once Loved Hurted You And You'll Probably Never Break That Soultide No Matter How Many Europeans You Sleep With, But I'm Not Mad At You, It's Your Choice. I Understand Blk Women Rage & Disappointment With Us Blk Men. It's Your Giving Rights To Date Outside. All This Self-Hate On BOTH Sides Will End Soon In The Future Generations.
@selfishgirlsgofirst8 ай бұрын
CK you look so beautiful and radiant feminine. You will never age. Yes Italian men love bw. I love Italy and the men are 🤌. Definitely now open to date outside my race.
@entertainingsportshighligh75258 ай бұрын
They can play LOU FERIGNO and WHITNEY HOUSTON in a Movie Biopic
@loveself63968 ай бұрын
He’s hot ❤
@biegebythesea67757 ай бұрын
thank you! yeh he's hot. Can totally imagine him in bed.
@TylerRandall-o4mАй бұрын
Hi ❤❤
@seekingtruth12543 ай бұрын
Hey Chris miss you on KZbin looks like Rachel Lindsay and Bryan abasallo from the bachelorette broke up I remember you covering this story now I am so sad and losing hope please make a video on this
@Nanaimac8 ай бұрын
Yes when Italians peoples come in USA, they have to fight because the government wanted to classified them as black. People who come from Iran faced the same problem too.
@VirgosGroove38 ай бұрын
I want an Italian husband and a baby named Giovanni ❤ time to plan another trip to Italy lol
@ThePinkPill_OG8 ай бұрын
Ha!
@mariaseidi40238 ай бұрын
Come to Spain ,Spanish men are also gorgeouse
@lodersracing8 ай бұрын
Great video. I would absolutely love to learn Italian and buy a place there. Beautiful language and country. Something for the future.
@jacopofbargellini40054 күн бұрын
Hoiw can you explain what is about dating italian men and talking about italoamericans? There is a HUGE difference. Come to Italy and interview real italians
@NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTimeАй бұрын
Man, she’s just a shell of herself since Brad left her 😂😂😂
@ThePinkPill_OGАй бұрын
Am I? LOL...you wish
@NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTimeАй бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OG where’s the passion fam lol
@ThePinkPill_OGАй бұрын
@@NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTime I don't feel the need to clarify my life to the nameless and faceless.
@NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTimeАй бұрын
@@ThePinkPill_OG you absolutely don’t. This entire pink pill saga has been a great piece of insight into a segment of black women’s thought process. You’ve said more than enough and clarified more than enough. You’ll find a nice, good black man to settle down with and it will be hilarious to see the effect that has on your following 🤣
@-Datboijj-25 күн бұрын
@@NobodyHasToAgreeAllTheTime
@jaselaetienne64328 ай бұрын
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@edoganaАй бұрын
Buongiorno ragazze, sarò che sono italiano e quindi non capisco molto questa storia di essere nero e essere bianco , che secondo me è molto USA . Io vedo una donna meravigliosamente intelligente , con tanto buon senso e anche molto femminile e sexy. Un abbraccio dall' Italia .
@kelugu37768 ай бұрын
Errrm! Sorry to put a spanner in the works, but almost all ancient civilizations, with the exception of China, were in the Southern hemisphere. Even ancient Greece and Rome began in southern Europe. In fact the Greeks thought northern Europeans very stupid and lazy😂. How perceptions change.
@bridgettedenise8 ай бұрын
I thought they lived in New Jersey
@TylerRandall-o4m4 күн бұрын
Want black women. Happy me ❤❤
@DesireeDenise20242 ай бұрын
@pinkpill is that your husband? 😊❤ His face when he turns to the side 😁 Your face when you turn to the side 😊
@colstonlchinese3 ай бұрын
What is casual racism?
@Bloombaby998 ай бұрын
🇨🇵 men next, please. Then 🇬🇷 men. 😋🤤
@kwameoluwasomi7 ай бұрын
You have the same theory as me :) It's one of the reasons I scoff at people who'll go as far as saying black people are cursed. On the contrary - we're blessed to be of a land that provides for us spontaneously. We're blessed to not have to rely on 'development' for our survival. Of course, without that drive, we're likely to remain the poorest demographic in the world... but we own the cradle of humanity and we're the oldest living phenotype. No war or breakdown of global commerce will threaten our survival. On the flipside -- Jews, the smartest and most productive of us, are living in a perpetual, existential crisis. The Hans nearly starved to death (and could actually in the near future), and the Caucasians way up north were whittled down to but a handful of vicious Vikings before finally managing to develop out of frozen hell. They remain today, cold, both figuratively and literally. Generally, Blacks have had it easiest... and STILL, when we show up to the US and UK our Nigerians and Ugandans kick academic and financial ass. Just subscribed :)