Exes: Maybe That’s Not In Our Story | {THE AND} Joanne & Ahmad

[@jeannambassa6469]

Never let a man tell you he don’t want you more than once

[@ChelseaChronicles]

Helllllo👏👏

[@sweetvictory89]

Baaaaaby I learned that in an uncomfortable way

[@marylenehall405]

Exactly

[@kensonduckworth]

*anyone this is non gender wise. The prize is right there no take backs

[@TASHAS_CROWN]

I can't grasp why I didn't listen 👂 to my gut and git the fuk on hell I'm the 🏆🏆🏆🏆

[@Sincerely_lolo]

Friendship should not be a severance package for a failed relationship!!

[@thegingershotman]

💯

[@ChrissyAnn85]

Yeah no. No friends 😂 we good

[@TASHAS_CROWN]

Thankyou 🥰 QUEEN

[@sunkissed6413]

I agree. I did this and it caused more damage. I recently blocked him and have no plans of speaking to again

[@stanleyb2320]

absolutely. Not playing that.

[@kaylabryant456]

She needs to apply for princess tiana at Disney 😭😍

[@4LADYSWEET]

🎯

[@newnimprovesT3]

She’s gorgeous. Seriously the reason I clicked the video.

[@Powersasha]

lmaooo i had that sameee thoughtt!!!

[@HaahmayanShaalManasseh]

I am not kissing a frog and eating a bug in the same day 😂 Be right back sugar 😏 I love this movie she would fit the character PERFECT!

[@lamarlamar1524]

Mo like princess daisy!!!!

[@Tam974eva]

SHES GORGEOUS. She looks like a Disney princess. And she seems like a genuine kind heart. Goes to show cheating has nothing to do with the one cheated on.

[@Hagar-yn8jm]

Absolutely

[@kaye4099]

I don't think he cheated, I believe he kissed a girl while they were broken up but still friends that saw each other. I think lying about it was the worst part.

[@ronalddowdell9231]

Oh, she takes your breath away..... don't know what was wrong with him.

[@saucyfaces]

My tolerance of even remotely attempting to understand someone who can't identify a great thing when it's smack dab in their face, is deficient at this point in my life. I will NEVER again try to understand why someone would choose to play pretend in anyone's life when it's not what they actually want. Leave people alone if you are not ready. Figure yourself out independently. It's unfair to "figure yourself out" while in the midst of someone's genuine love for you. It's terribly selfish. You can literally ruin a person like that.

[@oshinofalakoju5749]

GIRL!! THIS IS A SERMON IN ITSELF. A thousand times yes to this comment.

[@minorperez5998]

Aren't you always trying to fugue yourself out? People can be overly enfatuated with someone at a time, but nothing is certain until it is. Unfortunately, there are time you want something to work out. You can waste time, hoping things will somehow fix themselves. There's so many scenarios that it's crazy but at the end of it all, always go with your gut feeling

[@saucyfaces]

@@minorperez5998 You waste time until you know better. When you know better, you do better...or at least you're supposed to. I've lived enough life to know that these particular people are a waste of my time. There's being hopeful and then there's just being naive... I've been both. This is something I don't have to learn about myself actively. It's something that I've already learned about myself.

[@ednaidatipote5602]

Well said..I'm the same too

[@PerrisN]

Thankful you typed this WHEW

[@vanessabernard2227]

Protect your peace. He said he’s always honest with you after you said he lied about kissing another woman for a week. He’s not ready for a healthy mature friendship or relationship, especially if he told you he can’t wait for you to get a man. Trust your gut and move on for yourself.

[@BellJ213]

Agreed!! He is a waste of energy and she is too available for him.

[@MegaLadylove2012]

Silly men reality of tht happening is gonna smack him so hard in the face

[@heartspeaks]

Honey, that’s a lot of our experiences

[@wonderfulmee]

Don't understand why their trying to keep a close friendship once it's over it's over This dude got a big ego and if he was all that he would had a women already just because you love somebody doesn't mean you're in love with that person she needs to move on Too Many real man that would desire to be with her

[@taylormiller6195]

​@@wonderfulmeeexactly and it's codependency at its best. It's over for obvious reasons I think he wants to be on tv. He doesn't and didn't want to be there. She talking like they still together and in love. Quit mistaking codependency for love

[@danitabernal4988]

That birthday moment brought tears to her eyes immediately. See this is why lovers can not be friends. She will carry him like luggage into a beautiful relationship. He says that he is giving her time to heal... NOPE... He is not because he is continuing to be a person in her life playing the good guy. He can see he worth and she recognizes that she is dependent on him. But for what Joanne. He keeps using the "US" when he explains things. It's a form of keeping her engaged to his feelings

[@misslynda82]

So true. He is keeping her in his life cos he likes her, maybe even love on a platonic level. But what is evident is that he doesn't see her as "the one". She still loves him and possibly hoping he will change and choose her. She is so beautiful and kind... She deserves a KING who wants her 10000%. They need to cut the codependency. She needs space from him. He even wants that cos of that comment he said about he can't wait for her to meet someone new. Sis needs distance from this man.

[@moniqueuu8777]

And he smiled the whole time she told that hurtful story.

[@aselyne5631]

She is allowing him in her life

[@misslynda82]

@@aselyne5631 allowing him in her life is blocking her from meeting other potential partner

[@taylormiller6195]

Exactlyyyyyy. He know what he doing. And I wouldn't even there fool we broke up THAT WAS THE CLOSURE

[@monaturals9315]

He is careless with her heart and hanging on to her while keeping his options open. Such a beautiful young lady.

[@ashes2beauti]

She is deserving of someone who loves her like she should be loved.

[@MYFATHEREMMANUEL]

Do agree.

[@blossomofcurls]

He doesn’t deserve her ...when a man shows you what he wants by his actions believe him !! She’s such a beautiful and genuine soul...a very rare person and she deserves the world and he’s not even willing to meet her halfway... protect yourself young lady and always guard that amazing heart you’re carry around ❣️

[@theehardpill]

Him trying not to smile as she talks about the birthday incident in itself is a HUGE red flag. Narcs will NARC.

[@maryw1735]

Absolutely, I saw the smirk too

[@MushD718]

Okay... so I was not misreading his body language because I seen that also.

[@theehardpill]

@@MushD718 nope. He ain't sh*t! And couldn't hide it one bit.

[@SONGbyrdRYzing]

That could have been embarrassment tho…

[@blacktinabelcher2265]

@@SONGbyrdRYzing one could only hope that's what it truly was...

[@jbaby007]

Girl, leave that raggamuffin behind. You know you can do better. Wishing you the best.

[@maryjane2965]

Raggamuffin 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@meggzmicheal]

Ahahahah you gotta be from the Caribbean

[@HaahmayanShaalManasseh]

🤣🤣🤣 woooii my chest!

[@kuambakuakuvi]

Not Raggamuffin 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Jeremiah0809]

@@HaahmayanShaalManasseh 😂😂😂😂😂

[@MaddoxohMaddox]

Girl. Block, delete, and move on. You deserve more and better. He kissed another woman on his birthday.... An event where HE invited you.

[@tj7855]

And it sounds like she put work into planning for his birthday! They lost me there. She deserves better 😢 he’ll just continue to treat her however she allows him to

[@hereforit2347]

THAT part. 💯

[@moniqueuu8777]

No, she planned that bday for him and he did that (and in the beginning of their relationship).

[@Beautifullyaberrant]

If I feel like I would tell my past self to *run* from you romantically.. we certainly can’t be friends.

[@Okra_winfrey]

Thank you. You couldn't PAY me to sit across from him in a video like this after what he did. Not a knock on her though. Maybe she thinks people will learn something from this.

[@yagerr4279]

Right. This was perplexing

[@anuthomas5104]

​@@Okra_winfrey she felt this will make him realise just how much they should be together

[@moniqueuu8777]

@@anuthomas5104 She said she doesn't wantto be with him, but he wants that.

[@SaharaColeman]

She’s very pretty and her smile makes me smile. Ahmad has always been that name associated with someone you should’ve never even been checking for. 😭

[@Charmed42674]

😂

[@Opinions.of.Rih.]

Nooo that’s my man’s name 😂

[@syd6126]

@@Opinions.of.Rih. giiiiirl hmm

[@syd6126]

LOL you had me in the first half

[@funnygay]

@@Opinions.of.Rih. m

[@hiddengym_]

It’s obvious that she’s still deeply involved with this man emotionally. Every chance she gets she tells him how much she loves him. I need my girl to take her advice and RUN. She’s still in waaay too deep. And the sad part is…he knows her worth but would never acknowledge it because he wants to keep her stuck emotionally. So sad

[@edgecotchick]

Couldn't of said it any better

[@kaye4099]

girl you knocked the nail right on the head.

[@tizzbabe4386]

They are exes she is not. Leave that girl alone leave women alone. He’s a shitty person this isn’t about her at all

[@flygirl3544]

Sis I was in your situation ONCE, and never again! Get back your power and trust me, your King is waiting! ❤

[@adelatemakhubedu9242]

The whole time I couldn’t stop looking at her eyes. How she communicates with them. How she smiles with her eyes. Oooouuuu😭😭😭

[@DiamondTia17]

This video makes me realise that I’m happy I walked away from someone I was in a situationship. I don’t ever wanna be “friends” with someone again after a failed relationship. It’s HELL. Forgiving yourself when you knew better.

[@chamutesi1791]

She is so peaceful, it's soothing to see how she communicates, so much grace and growth. she's goals.

[@bggtst]

She is beautiful. Staying friends will keep her stuck because she wants more, but he's not emotionally available. I pray for her healing because she needs someone who is emotionally aligned with her

[@straighttothemusic]

Thank you for praying for her healing and send payers up for mine as well. I promise you she will be fine and so will I (whether you care or not) lol .She will not be stuck in a loop or an infinite vortex because she knows better is learning who she is and won’t settle for anything else other then greatness Thank you Ahmad

[@lindseyferguson4372]

@@straighttothemusic you are demon you don’t need prayer you need an exorcist

[@aleina223]

You can’t be friends with an ex that hurt you and showed you he didn’t want you the first time. It’s detrimental to her mental and spiritual growth. I’ve been here just to get hurt further…. It grew resentment in me overtime. I hope that she finds the strength to block him, cut him off, and let him figure himself out while she figures out her life too.

[@BellJ213]

Hope she reads the comments. You don't need this type of person as your man or friend. Only people who recognize your worth deserve to be up in your space. Reciprocity. You treat him well and you deserve the same in return.

[@MaameAma]

When someone says they can’t wait till you find a man, girl just let it go

[@alisaben1]

Girl...KEEP running. Leaving the past in the past is ok. Love isn't enough....you have to be facing the same direction, respect, and understanding have to be there.

[@Charmed42674]

OMGEEEE, she is stunning and seems really genuine. He missed out big time.

[@yoanneM]

The whole time i’m watching the video i’m like 😢

[@marylenehall405]

Like J Cole said “Love yourself girl or nobody will”.People can tell when a person is insecure or loves them more than they love themselves.The wrong person will prey on the weak hearted this video is a perfect example especially when the person does things to continuously hurt u and u still stay.

[@MimiMoments]

Didn’t they say “fit,feminine,& friendly”. She is all of that. Stunning AND STILL. so many of them are incapable of discipline of commitment and integrity.

[@straighttothemusic]

Hey I’m Ahmad and a member of the “them” category 😂. I promise there are men & black men specifically that are capable of all of the above. But you also should strive to be a women of those same things with or without a man And I guarantee you’ll find him. She is very beautiful and she knows it! Blessings, Ahmad

[@MimiMoments]

@@straighttothemusic I’m happily married so I’m okay here. However I was careful not to generalize so I don’t think advice from men who are not described is necessary. Best of luck to you.

[@straighttothemusic]

@@MimiMoments best of luck to you as well . Greatful for your love ❤️

[@nikkic1984]

These men are feminine themselves, no ounce of integrity or to protect a woman who they claim to 'love'.

[@themarathoncontinues4211]

@@MimiMoments you did generalise us tho. Trying to say we’re incapable of discipline or integrity is doing exactly that

[@nia4842]

This isn't healthy. One will struggle with unrequited love while one will withhold their true love due to past hurt. Cut the cord. Catch up once a year. Maybe send holiday greetings but move on. He's going to continue to say hurtful things because he's hurt she won't give it another shot. She'll stick around because she truly does love him and wants some form of a relationship, if not romantic. It's only going to get worse if they get in other relationships.

[@tessamack6195]

period

[@NikNaks1308]

I had to screenshot this because you hit the nail on the head. So important to let go at the end of a relationship, it’s hard but it’s necessary

[@gab19guerin72]

He is gonna cry once he realizes what he let go. He is young and foolish. I pray she finds someone that loves her and is able to respect and receive her love. This young lady is stunning and her heart is golden. Dude you dumb! Ain’t no way any man with common sense would let that beautiful, good hearted woman leave- NO WAY!

[@instrinsiclove]

Originally, I adored this postive ex relationship….but idk I’m a tad shocked that she is very much fully invested in keeping a friendship with him. She mentioned codependency and I think it MAY be that for her, even if it isn’t for him. I feel like she likes the security of him always being there.

[@straighttothemusic]

This is an interesting perspective that you’ve given here. Maybe something for me to think about as well. I appreciate it. Everything is a work in progress, and you learn best through experience Ahmad

[@jadaleverette3731]

I totally agree

[@Jomirecc]

​@@straighttothemusic u are an evil man let her go

[@brashellbradford3816]

I thought the codependency comment was towards him especially with her saying she didn’t see them getting back together and him still trying to say “well you don’t know so I like to keep things open”. He definitely is codependent and wants her to heal from what he caused so he can get back together.

[@ArabellaCharm]

Her eyes! She's literally a living doll ❤

[@jeenajoan]

You said it yourself RUN GIRL RUN! Take your own advice. You had it. Protect your heart, your selfrespect and your peace!

[@kimberleymgd]

Her natural face ❤. Her face when she smiles ❤❤.

[@nailahdawkins]

She's very pretty without makeup added. She needs self-love and to face reality. He brought another girl to his birthday function, SHE planned and had the nerve to kiss the other girl. Then she slept with him and he continued lying. Yet, she wants to remain friends. Something's wrong there...

[@Aboagyeman1]

Sis, don't even waste your time. You are even giving him too much power telling him you still love him. Cut him out your life and move on and watch how quickly you heal. You deserve SOOOOO much more than what this guy is offering (which is nothing IMO). There is another willing and deserving guy who will love you the way you ought to be loved and will do more than bring you soup on your bad cycles. I have so many friends who have been in similar situations and its never worth it, you will be shutting yourself off from love entertaining him, whilst claiming youre not in that space to go back to him whilst you basically acting like bf and gf. Meanwhile because the boundaries are so murky he will move on and get another girl and youll be hurt all over again and he will tell you that you knew what it was all along. He is only chasing and acting heartbroken because youre no longer want him - although your actions are saying otherwise.

[@kabelontobo303]

She still loves him.

[@shanesemathis5568]

@@kabelontobo303 Love is not enough.

[@Mr.Oct___]

​@shanesemathis5568 Love is more than enough... stupid. You just don't know how to recognize, perform it, or attract it. So you make dumbazz statements like this.

[@angelamwirigi1765]

Please Repeat ❤️!

[@1245que]

💯

[@harmowknee]

All I’ll say is that she’s beautiful and seems to have a genuinely loving heart for people. 🙂

[@KapQueen]

If she doesn't protect that, she'll be bitter in 5-10 years

[@isaywhatiwanttosay2025-4eva]

@@KapQueen And you know this how? You're surely talking about yourself.

[@syd6126]

Man, having been in a relationship these videos have definetely lost some of their appeal. I never really though exes should be friends, but this is really solidifying that. Like, why are you yelling at someone who is not your man anymore? And it's hard to call an unhealthy relationship from the past a "friend:, because very few of us would allow a friendship to continue after emotional abuse, romantic neglect, even self development can distance you from friends. Like she said (and he refuted), it's giving codependence.

[@opulence_prime]

He’s dog walking her to put it harshly. He knows exactly what he’s done and the codependency is out of guilt.

[@clbell21]

I said the same thing, how and why do you want to be friends with someone that's done you wrong, I understand ppl change but no, this is so toxic, and the issues are staring them both in the face and yet they are ignoring them, sis needs to move on and let go or he gone keep her stagnant. I feel like they are codependent and infatuated with one another and don't see nothing wrong with it.

[@ndlovs]

These people have no business being friends. That man doesn’t love that woman. She deserves so much better, even in friendship.

[@samihahamdi2905]

wow, she is so articulate, brave, compassionate, and self reflective. I was surprised by her! She's so graceful and very strong and knows herself. honestly she's inspiring

[@TheSkinDeep]

We're super glad to know you find it inspiring ❤️

[@GigiLaBelleTV]

That weird ass smirk he had while describing what was so hurtful to her?🤯 Keep RUNNING Sis!!!!!!

[@texasgoddess323]

Sweetheart, go to where the love is, and do not give more than someone gives to you. Put yourself first, as you navigate your relationship with him. All love!❤

[@kdogg1372]

Girl run now.....seriously yall need some space especially her.

[@straighttothemusic]

She ran and so did I. But sooner or later reconciliation was needed. We’ve had our time and have taken our space. It’s all love. This was only one moment out of a book of moments. Hope you find perspective and healing, Ahmad

[@justgloriao617]

Her eyes are so bright and honest looking

[@aoc349]

Him excusing his mistakes saying he allowed certain things in his space that he shouldn't have rather than saying he actively cheated and lied after she went through the story and how it hurt her, even worse he ended it with a compliment to himself, "I'm a very patient person". So dodgy, his communication is very manipulative. "You saying you don't know kind of knawing at me sometimes but it's cool", like he is judging her for putting up her boundaries and guilting her for her power. Do not get back with him, he has not changed, just biding his time and putting on new masks until he gets you back. He is worrying.

[@sinqobilem]

Very scary indeed. I’m using these videos as communication analysis

[@twostepsbackwards4992]

Fr same exact thing I thought as he was speaking

[@blessedlovedandprospered1181]

Yes and he jst rambeling no real depth or heart in it and when she had tears in her eyes tokin abt that horrible thing he did its like he wanted to smile ..scary dude

[@its_jess91]

Run even from the friendship!!! That open door is trouble!

[@_heyimbritt]

I understand them wanting to be friends but sometimes even if things end amicably it’s best to just completely walk away w/no contact to really sever ties emotionally.

[@tellemtribetarot]

When he said, “We can’t live life without each other.” He was really saying, I don’t want to let you go. This friendship will diminish through natural selection. Energetically, they reflect each other “at this time.” It’s an energy of fear and complacency. When she finally sees her own worth, she’ll cut him off and be disgusted with herself for dragging this on for so long. He needs to go work on himself on his own time. His healing is not her responsibility and Vice versa. You will not find peace in the same space that took it away. You have to make a clean break and sacrifice what you want for what you deserve. You have to fight the urge to hang on to what’s familiar until your peace coolly seeps from within. Once you get a taste of that succulent, untapped peace, anything or anyone who challenges it, will feel like a swarm of gnats in your face at a bbq. Much love to anyone who is struggling to let go of what is familiar, for peace sake. 🧡✨ #TRIBE

[@laj4186]

He doesn’t feel worthy of you. He knows he’s not worthy of you. He’s shown you and told you AGAIN & AGAIN. Do not waste your youth. Focus on your womanhood and move on. I can promise based on what you both stated he’s not the one. Your time has passed. Take your own advice and RUN QUICK AS THE WIND because this is codependency. You’re ‘Longing’. ~Advice from a woman in love with her husband whom she only manifested because she let **** like this go❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Realtalknewyorkwithjanique]

I’m so proud of her confidence 🥰 she’s too good for him!

[@simini1837]

She has such a beautiful smile!

[@i_DayDream_]

EX & FRIENDS are two words I NEVER put in the same sentence . . Once the chapter of our “love story” has ended . . . I close the book . . No need for a sequel! Kudos to the people who are still friends with their exes , because I C A N N O T! God bless y’all lol

[@vbankseleven8843]

I love her. I hope she find healing and make the right Decision for herself.

[@maiamalibusdiary9688]

Black men need to get it together fr. A beautiful, smart, natural and sweet black girl not being treated correctly. No matter what we have it’s still not enough.

[@michaelam7832]

Beautiful young lady she is so well spoken and gentle hearted… I love that they could come together and talk about it…

[@preparea8698]

GIIIIRL The way you need to realize you're so far beyond this man. Let. Him. Go. It's giving he's trying to do things for you and stay in your life so that you don't go looking for someone who is soooo much better suited for you. LEAVE HIM ALONE. Y'all don't need to be friends. Let him grow on his own, that's not your job, girl. Let him go.

[@anuthomas5104]

He's not even trying to stay in her life, she said codependency and he replied No, they can be independent of each other. She mentioned him saying he can't wait for her to get her own man, he did not really deny it or explain that it was a misinterpretation. Her consolation gift was I see you and I see all you're doing.. more like I know you want this relationship badly but I am not feeling it and I love myself too much to subject myself to such. May God help we the daughters of Eve, once our heart speaks we keep moving without looking at any hazard signs.

[@thalittguru7697]

Factsss

[@MonifaAdebola]

He's saying we when he means just himself. Run girl Run. There's better out there for you.

[@StephanieGleam]

If he really cared about her, he wouldn't do anything to risk losing her. He showed that he DOESN'T care in the beginning of their relationship...How are you going to flirt with your female friend right in-front of me, and then go kiss her??? Girl, block him on everything. I know it hurts because you just find it unnatural to go from lovers to strangers, but as soon as you fully heal, you will realize how lame he is in the first place.

[@stephenlawrence9429]

Lord she is beautiful those eyes are striking 😭 bro lost a good thing . Her spirit seems so gentle

[@Hannah-zg3wj]

How on earth can he not see how gentle, loving , soft and amazing she is. Very sad. But I know someone will snap her up.

[@arriannac8444]

This reminds me of hurt bae she loved him dearly he was her best friend but this was more respectful and genuine

[@pinkfr1day]

Joanne girl you deserve so much better. Please leave him alone and continue being the sweet girl you are.

[@breannamadeus5269]

I appreciate videos and relationships like this . There was a lot of thing that went wrong but accountability and communication was something I sense in this video . Glad you guys were able to create a friendship after it all . Doesn’t matter what we think or say they figured out something that works for them both .

[@EboniFlowers]

But is it really ‘Working’ though?? Or are they forcing something that’s screaming at them Both, to let go…?

[@davinauche3195]

@@EboniFlowersthank you!!! I’m so glad that a lot of the comments calling the bs !! And I’m glad they aren’t being as dismissive as some people. She’s beautiful and amazingly good at communication. However she’s gonna have to learn the hard way. I get that she loves him. Time to heal also means lol moving on completely.

[@noonelikeyou13]

My darling ! You are THE final definition of STUNNING 😍 ! Like God is really out here creating beautiful 😍 people & how can a brother mess up with someone like this!? She’s so sweet and a doll!

[@joannamugerwa5529]

This girl's voice and calmness 🤗 I don't know but before even hearing that they broke up i just felt it that they are not a couple this boy is just not serious

[@mphomohala6152]

I think she hasn't moved on and keep having a "friendship" with just to be with him in another way. He doesn't love her at all.

[@corina6772]

Totally agree She’s codependent on a friendship that didn’t and doesn’t exist 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@straighttothemusic]

Thank you for your thoughts 💭 and I do love her very much. But we are also not perfect human beings and are figuring it out in our own time, as we all have too Be great Ahmad

[@straighttothemusic]

@@corina6772 thanks for your thought. But I promise you all that’s there isn’t all that needs to be seen and known for context. Make sure to take the tips for your relationship as well beloved Be great, Ahmad

[@corina6772]

@@straighttothemusic wishing you well on your journey in love and respect 🙏🏽

[@cruisecontrol7911]

AT ALLLLLL 😩🙏🏿

[@camryisaac]

He said he’s understanding and allows time to process right after she said he didn’t with the birthday situation. He said he’s honest and always tells her what’s on his mind, but waited a week to tell her about kissing another girl. They both said they have a good friendship, then made several points about how they’re not on the same page about the friendship

[@ajokeemmanuel4649]

This is beautiful to watch in that they are communicating their feelings. In life we live and we learn and I hope for the best for the both of them. It is important for young men especially to embrace love, when a lady is showing you all the affection, care and love it is not to be abused but to be embraced or reciprocated if the feelings are genuine if not leave her alone for the right person. Men and women, please let us stop taking one another for granted.

[@yourbighomeysbighomey6226]

Shorty blocking her blessing by keeping him around. She won’t have the capacity to receive or give new love. Gotta clear that residue out

[@Denchanter]

He is not being sincere. He is controlling. I’m not saying he means to be. He may not know what he’s doing. She needs to move away from him in order to ‘grow’. This is affecting her confidence. It’s sad to watch. Apparently he is always open with her, except when he’s lying

[@straighttothemusic]

Lmaoo yo y’all are giving it to me in these comments. I promise you I’ve never been controlling if anything I always try to encourage her to speak her truth. Even before this I attempted to let her know that she could say what she felt and be honest. This was supposed to be a moment of transparency and reflection. She has grown and will continue to grow and so will I. Ahmad

[@Denchanter]

@@straighttothemusic I believe that you mean well but this situation doesn’t seem like it’s best for her

[@platinumblackservices]

It's obvious they are young but are willing to learn as they grow and mature. I can appreciate honest conversations like this. It's not ONLY important to know what you do like but to also know what you don't like. Hopefully, they will find the right partner as they move forward in life.

[@codiumyt]

Interesting video! It really highlights the importance of communication in relationships. Even though things may not work out, it's important to talk openly and honestly with each other.

[@MrsSoftLifeGirly]

She's pretty

[@yahainHotPink]

You are too!! 😄 And she really is

[@buddystylediff2941]

Too much ey her eyes😊

[@MrsSoftLifeGirly]

@@yahainHotPink haha thank you

[@straighttothemusic]

She is. I will let her know the great comments you guys are leaving for her. Thank you

[@Emfrar3110]

@@straighttothemusic no, stop talking to her and trying to be her friend💀

[@AriSimone]

SHES GORGEOUSSSSSS! as soon as she smiled my heart smiled🥺🥺

[@Solitude1990]

He's a mess and she's genuinely a sweet person. Hope her the best and that would be moving with her life as well as never going back to this dude. There was no emotion in his eyes when she was talking about him cheating on her; he even laughed about it prior to her even saying anything. This dude needs therapy before ever getting with anyone again

[@straighttothemusic]

Good evening. Thank you for your comment and also the assumptions you have made in conjunction with this video. Emotion isn’t always shown in the eyes but in the heart. Also this is a conversation that we both have had a plethora of times prior to this setup which we both agreed on. This was just her time to speak and that’s okay. They focused more on her with this edit and that’s also fine. Lastly, I’ve been in therapy for the past almost 3 years so when someone speaks you allow them to speak no matter how you feel currently. It’s their time & not yours. And when it’s your time you speak. That’s maturity and growth. Thank you and have a great day ☺️👍🏾

[@lindseyferguson4372]

@@straighttothemusic your emotion was shown when you laughed about cheating

[@yyyannuuu]

How to deflect accountability: a tutorial by Ahmad.

[@tj7855]

😂😂

[@straighttothemusic]

Now you’re too pretty for a comment like this! lol Damn don’t nobody see my accountability?! And you got a glasses filter on. This is crazy 😂🤦🏽‍♂️. I promise accountability is taken Ahmad

[@yoshithetalent]

@@straighttothemusic let’s be honest don’t string the girl along

[@lindseyferguson4372]

@@yoshithetalent exactly if he was really accountable he’d leave her alone

[@yoshithetalent]

@@lindseyferguson4372 yep

[@hautecocoa4743]

she is stunning❤ I don’t see how she benefits in this friendship with him tbh

[@dreamy63]

She's gorgeous 😍 Don't settle sis, let the right one find you!

[@fatsani27]

She is too nice! Guard your heart girl, because out of it flows the issues of life… Nice girls ALWAYS come last.

[@euridicecuesta]

Chile this was the most underwhelming emotional relationship. Homey not once expressed how he felt, he just regurgitated what she said 🙄

[@haleydavis8752]

He said he bought the best out of her .. “ Because she sets boundaries for herself .” Wow very telling … not because she found her purpose in life etc. but b/c she set boundaries for the stuff he use to do to her ! She needs to leave asap !

[@BlaqueRose23]

She's breaking doown and he's saying "it's all good." Girl, pay attention to what he's NOT saying and doing and decide you deserve more! Run, sis!

[@tshimonasu]

She's so gorgeous, I literally can't 😭😍

[@milkmariee4734]

I love having conversations like this and witnessing these types of conversations, even if all else fails.... The emotions were processed, less trauma to deal with.... If you have a conversation like this and you walk away still holding on to emotions, they were not processed.... With their relationship I feel like ... There comes a time , when you know you need to let go, but you afraid to lose what was once yours! Attachment, codependency... All comes from the ego! (The false self) .... Love with no expectations, you never know what the future holds

[@keebahgarnett509]

This comment is screaming at me rn

[@milkmariee4734]

@@keebahgarnett509 why? Lol

[@shae.the.gymini]

She is such a cutie pie & so well spoken! I’m so glad she chose to break things off with him but I wish she would’ve chose to cut off all contact! Just for her own emotional well being, he’s clearly not deserving

[@straighttothemusic]

Although I obviously don’t agree with your comment but I could see how you received this from the video . And are you sure she was the one that cut it off ? 🧐 maybe it was me?? or maybe it was mutual? 👀 So many questions that we just don’t have the answer too 🤷🏾‍♂️😂 Ahmad

[@shae.the.gymini]

@@straighttothemusic well being that he was the one who cheated & with the degree of how hurt she was from it, plus she stated she couldn’t be in a relationship again with him seems like she was the one to cut tides but didn’t mind keeping a friendship… that’s where my assumption came from … could be wrong tho 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@MsJeanVieve]

@@straighttothemusicyou a loser period

[@MRJLS15]

I Respect her open honesty and seeing how she is healing, he wasn't ready at all.

[@ricchfe8347]

People really out here fumbling good people

[@mzmeshelle]

She has not let go of him for healing. Distance, no communication and work on self is needed. He has already moved on.

[@Eva_H]

I give it 50/50 if they end up back together down the road, Whether they should or not… In the end, they’re both going to do what they’re going to do as adults, regardless of what we in the comment section think or feel.

[@AsiyaFreeman]

She was holding bck tears the whole time

[@Ninatyler]

Thanks everyone for there comments on here. I was thinking about being a friend with my ex . But y’all comments are helping me. .. even though the situation is different. But thank you . Sometimes it’s good knowing that other people go through the same sad stuff

[@ellenanthem]

It is SO much easier to see from the outside!

[@Thatbul]

I want you instead

[@keymoon420]

Sis… no. Let go completely. You can’t completely heal having him lingering around knowing damn well he wants to be with you. Clear your space. Clear your energy field. LET GO. He disrespected tf outta you. Ain’t no “I love you still” shit. Uh uh.

[@justme8885]

Ughhhh im so mad at him for her! She's so beautiful and i see her smiling thru her pain... love is so crazy and i wish we could sometimes turn it off like a light switch. Your prince charming is coming sweet girl🙏💛💛💛💛

[@fp8237]

Im 40 in a few months and watching their "friendship " reminds me of past exes and lingering friendship emotion... I wasted years being friends.. wish i got out of my comfort zone and just let them loose and left them in the dust. He comes across manipulative and waste of time imo.. he knows her hearr ans continues to be a prick. Wish her the best and wish she would stop declaring her love for him.. pure codependancy here and very unhealthy for them both

[@user-qf9qd8pl8b]

The reason they're still friends it's cause no one has found a good partner to settle down with. The girl needs to do herself a favour and cut ties in order to heal completely. Dude is there cause he knows she's a good girl but he doesn't want her and at the same time feels bad he did her dirty. That's the only reason he still has ties with. To give himself self assurance that he's actually not that bad. Girl! Run

[@josephineroulet2094]

I felt angry watching this. This person hasn’t really been listening to what she was trying to tell him. He wants reconciliation but hasn’t said sorry once on this video for his poor behaviour. So upsetting to watch. He is taking most of the air time and not taking this as an opportunity to listen to what SHE has to say or how she feels. I hope she finds someone who treats her better ❤️ I wish him to make progress and become self aware 🙏

[@keemah28]

Ummm

[@MrsSoftLifeGirly]

Narcissistic

[@ivy4298]

I know, right? I got mad watching too and it's because my first boyfriend was like this. He wasn't ready for love but just wanted someone to stick around and stroke his ego, just like this guy. This young woman needs to protect her peace and leave this narcissist alone.

[@straighttothemusic]

My love I thank you for your comment. But I want you to know that this event occurred years ago & we have talked about it plethora of times. I’ve taken accountability on my part years ago. And if you got the full video ( which sadly you didn’t) you would know that this is a declaration to that. But thank you for your thoughts, but I assure you all you see is not reality Be blessed 😇

[@mllm412]

Her eyes are amazing they’re so big

[@nicolekennedy22]

God really sends all lessons through people and it hurts and I really feel for her.

[@splendorvuyanzi9728]

I watched this entire thing just because I wanted to look at her 😭

[@ellenanthem]

At 9.17 he says that she use to not be a vocal person but now that she has become someone who speaks her mind. But at some point in the video she says that she now sometimes SCREAMS - now he is hearing. I think she was always vocal - he just didn't want to hear it. People that push your buttons until you are forced to scream to be heard are not someone to stay friends with.

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

No, they most definitely aren't.

[@naturale_appeal2790]

She is so gorgeous and has a humble humble kind spirit! She should model for Colgate or Crest!

[@sydlaw2941]

I am truly hoping that the "friendship" is extremely platonic. Most of the time the man has no problem being your friend once things are over when they are the wrongdoer. But most women who are in this type of friendship sometimes stay around with the hope that he would come around. Ladies, please don't do that it is a waste of your time and a delay in your healing. Take a couple of years apart and then try the friendship thing later. If it is meant to end it will regardless of you attempt to delay it.