Exploring Uncomfortable Feelings

[@shiningfrominside]

..."even sometimes reading the next Advaita book or watching the next youtube clip on Non-duality, can be just a way of giving your attention away to an object, so that we dont have to fully feel this dis-ease (discomfort)"

[@roquesanta9769]

But listening to this points you the right direction, it has more benefit to listen and be reminded

[@claudelebel49]

Tricky Dicky :)

[@chocobochick5390]

@Gary Bentlage that's what he said

[@mariaquintero9397]

me watching this video haha

[@theflow8972]

@Gary Bentlage yeah i used to think that, but when you truly start to grasp it it will balance you out natuarly, doing and not doing are the same things from the point off awarness the point becomes that all off it is done from the place off peace and happiness

[@paulv7744]

Emotional discomfort always revolves around the separate self.. face it so fully that you're okay with it.. with no slightest traceable resistance..

[@Misslotusification]

4:55: The usual way to deal with uncomfortable feelings (discomfort, boredom, sadness, lack,...) is to avoid (deny) or repress them --3:30: by diverting us in many gross (entertainment, food, drink, drugs,...) or subtle ways (repetitive thinking, day-dreaming, looking at the last non-duality video,...) to stuff it up, and this is the motive of most of our actions when we're not working. Be attentive to the impulse to divert yourself. Rather face and either accept (but not to make it away, out of genuine interest and enthusiasm) or dissect the feeling on a mental level (the narrative coming after the feeling and that revolves around the separate self, the fearful self) and on a physical level (the body sensations). But whatever you do, don't do it out of obligation, discipline, don't make it a practice or a duty (what I should do to attain my goal), coz all that strengthens the separate self. Do everything out of interest or love. As E. Tolle says, refrain from doing. One damn thing after the other. Just be. Most of human madness comes from their inability to simply be with themselves.

[@MrSeriouscomic]

Thanks for summarizing so aptly

[@danielz8925]

Great summary

[@karimsabry9502]

Spot on ❤

[@alchemy1]

To me it took me awhile to see the actually the uncomfortable feelings are nothing more than the habit of what once was which are coming to light. But it took awhile to see it that is for sure. In the beginning I thought that this meditation/awareness business was making my life more difficult. It was actually just bringing or make me aware of all the shit that has been buried and neglected. That is really that simple. But you have just relax and just hang in there.

[@pwhornat]

Yes, thank you for putting into words this initially seeming paradox

[@Misslotusification]

@Anne D To get flushed.

[@nascorob]

Exercise the demons 😂😈 or Purge the devil, it's a physically painful experience but love is our driving force so it's not to hard

[@angelajanebowes]

Deepest gratitude & love Rupert ❤️🌹

[@bayusabi]

Notice the feeling, accept it as a part of you. And the feeling will start to disappear slowly and replaced by another feeling.

[@clovek456]

Sometimes it feels that this feeling of loneliness is too big..and the mind always projects it like this...But its only the scope of the resistence that makes it look so big..it is never the truth..the truth never burdens us..it just seems to be far from us..both of these approaches..word and no-word..are very useful..and only when Rupert was mentioning them I fully realised that I have been using them quite naturaly..thank you Rupert!

[@haunteddeandollsuk]

doctor rupert with his heeling words 🙏

[@ivanab6858]

Once you stop runing away from this kind of feelings and realize its not about them but your attitude towards those emotions and welcome every one of them with love I believe is the day when you become peaceful....if you cant accept then accept that you cant accept. And if you cant accept that you cant accept then accept that you cant accept that you cant accept. And keep accepting this unaccaptance.

[@dharmendarkumar9595]

Beautifully said

[@nkastropil]

Perfect timing. Terrible day today, I need to turn around and face it 🙏

[@galaxysamsung5439]

The most accurate,precise,great explanation of how to deal with fear I have found on youtube. Thank you very much, Rupert ! ❤

[@hasansarhan9296]

❤❤👍👍

[@Pascale87420]

I appreciate the simplicity of his words i'd love to go to his talks

[@HY34HU]

9:05 AMAZING INSIGHT

[@davidreynolds4942]

Î shuddered at this point (Used 'î' like that as I think it may be useful for us as a community with this understanding to start differentiating online between the body-mind I and the non-dual I)

[@malabuha]

as a teenager i would experience waves of sadness accompanied by desperation unaware of what was causing it. the sadness would tease my curiousity. i mean.. it was really heavy sadness acompanied by a crave for non existence. that helpless thinking spinned itself into a dead end street and i was forced to look at the emotion directly. what i saw shocked me. i realized that the feelings themselves were in all honesty so pleasent that in one weird way i actually enjoyed them. the sadness itself is such a gentle energy. it is so soft and mushy and teary and mellow and whining.... it envelopes the entire body just wanting to be cushioned and carressed. desperation however was a panicky feeling of being trapped. losing control. something caused desperation to prevent the experience of sadness. sadness my dear fellow men and women is so sweet. not delightful but just sweet like candy. wollow in it any time it is there. why resist it? treat yourself some sweets from time to time. but why exactly sadness is needed i dont know. all i know it can arise and when it does pamper in it... like a little baby... whine it off with pleasure. is it possible that sadness is there because we actually enjoy it? i know that crosses the boundaries of reason but from my experience it just appears so. we're all like little masochists. we enjoy it secretly

[@juliebuschvisualartist1159]

I really recognize your words and agree with you. I've lived with the waves, my whole life, they arrive about every two weeks and stays for 3-7 days. I'm a very sensitive, introverted and melancholic personality, I love big feelings, both joy, beauty and sadness. One thing I've discovered is that if I'm tired or out of balance with my everyday life structure and healthy living, the waves gets so big and intense that they can swipe me of my feet and I find my self caught up in them and has to pull my self back to regain acceptance and focus. This doesn't happen as much anymore, because of acceptance, openness and awareness to my own personality, when my emotions vibrate, I feed my senses with nature, art and music and regularly naps if needed. Love "the song of the butterfly" it can always awaken beautiful comforting feelings.

[@zain4019]

Yes, I’ve felt a similar way towards certain feelings that are seen as unsavoury. They’re honestly quite beautiful in themselves:)

[@JessMaccain]

I concur. When I feel profound sadness, I would often listen to Hilary Hahn's (a violinist) Partita No.2 Fourth Movement. That's Bach's music, through which I sense the great beauty of sadness.

[@IAn0nI]

Beautiful sharing. Thank you

[@Misslotusification]

@@juliebuschvisualartist1159 Hum, that regularity of episodes makes me think about what Eckhart Tolle calls 'The Pain-Body' (the accumulation of old emotional pain) that wakes up to feed and replenish itself...

[@AshlynnAspires]

It felt beautiful when the sense of self dropped and all that is left is the warm, raw wavelike sensation in the body. I'll surely use these two techniques but to not get rid of the uncomfortable emotion from the motivation of the separate self but to explore it in a loving approach.

[@victoriafirmenitya1242]

Wow!!❤️

[@sparkely1122]

Oh boy! Do I have a comment for y'all! I've been battling IBS C the pain is so violent and everyday. I felt everything in my Intestines. EVERYTHING!!!!!!!! It felt like 1000 toothpicks pricking my Intestines all of the time. I would bleed from my butt... Cannot poop with out having a hospital remove it. Were talking the worst case you can imagine! I was researching how to end my life. Well I'm here still :) yay. But I started doing the work Rupert is explaining... I cried so hard today, the darkness, the pain .. it's my sadness, it's my pain it's the unworthiness I've carried my whole life, it's the abandoned energy I've had my whole life. It's being spat on in jr high and bullied. It's my mom getting beat violently in front of me while growing up. It's all of that coming out in form of pain!!! Needing to be loved!!!!!!!!! I shit you not, I turned to the pain this morning, I cried to it, I told it I was so sorry I didn't see before. I told it I loved it so very much and it's ok... You can be here I touched my Intestines and no more pain. It's gone 😭 I'm sure itdll be back and THATS OKAY I love you pain so much...

[@Sun.powder]

❤️❤️❤️

[@mohdshahnawaz.australia]

Absolutely loved this video. Thank you so much for this valuable information. Lots of love from an Australian 🇦🇺❤

[@mellissalaycy6977]

Love Rupert spira!

[@razoo9]

Me too. Cheers 💕💕💕

[@Martynfrd]

Pure bliss!

[@Tjukkemarthaa]

I'm so grateful ☺

[@mariagabrielabottiglieri972]

Thank you for your clarity, for your teachings.

[@TheBigsur77]

You re great Rupert. Really appreciate your clear and quiet words. You have such an accesible way of describing such profound events

[@phantomdustx]

Thank you. I will allow my feelings

[@aksharma4304]

Happy thoughts...

[@roquesanta9769]

Thank you Rupert

[@anthonycallaghan3218]

Exploration is always revealing. Thanks Rupert

[@claudelebel49]

Can't hear this enough so tempting is the impulse to avoid, so subtle are the ways.

[@jigme800]

Incredibly useful. Thanks!

[@jeara69]

Namaste and thank you, thank you!

[@raythiwave]

Thank you Rupert.

[@MrKillerdu801]

very nice, your choice of words and the way you explain things are very clear cheers

[@DamonMacready]

Thank you, Mr. Spira. This will help me in my endeavour not to escape my thoughts and feelings.

[@letgo1064]

@5:00 👌

[@marysusa6985]

Thank you Rupert! You are so clear with your explanation. I could listen to you all day!!

[@RKFilm-ky2ug]

Gorgeous

[@KellyTmusically]

all good, with thanks

[@jaypalnitkar4400]

Superb

[@Lila-cy8qm]

Thanks a lot! ❤

[@Maugirl2]

so very interesting, thank you for posting these :)

[@JunoRodigan]

I have watched and listened to Rupert's videos and the truth and beauty of what he says is self-evident. Now then; How do I pay my bills??

[@cherryblossom8282]

look for a job

[@JunoRodigan]

@@cherryblossom8282 Got 2 already...

[@charlienne]

All of your videos are golden of course 💖

[@bjorndal62]

Hello darkness my old friend I've come to talk to you again ......... and the soundS of silence 🙏🏼

[@ravijhirwal2073]

Hii how's sound of silence is same as aweeness or conciousness ?????

[@v3g499]

I love this ❤️

[@maggieadams8600]

Thanks for hitting the nail on the head again. I really needed this one! :)

[@25pshah]

💓

[@trishaemry55]

This one touched me sooo much ! THANKYOU Rupert ! ❤️❤️❤️

[@visiblenergy]

This video alone made me quit all my vices at once!!!!!! I love being bored now 😹😹😹😹😹😹

[@katehiggins1101]

are you still ok w boredom??? !!! i’m very curious.

[@Workdove]

Terrifying, what will be left when my personality and separate self have gone...?

[@llsspp]

Workdove Everything

[@latteARCH]

that's actually you letting go of your ego. you leave that behind and gain the present self that exists now.

[@ralphzoontjens]

Useful alternative here to the more analytical self-inquiry. I always thought that the analytical insight into the self was necessary to realize the 'true Self'. It's quite foolish isn't it. Thank you.

[@drm54321]

This is extremely powerful. Thank you Rupert. Much Love for you.

[@Badboyifier]

Regarding that question at 6:32 But what would be thep point of living if you keep having to deal with this loneliness forever? Why would I wanna live If I keep having to feeel this over and over again with no prospects of it getting better

[@constipatedbowels3473]

This is Vedanupassana!...Mindful observation of emotional sensations!...

[@rajwantneena]

Thankyou so much rupert spira,i love your video it so help full.

[@Jaam276]

So bloody good!

[@tommmymason9744]

The activity of the non-motion consciousness is finite scaled measured and labeled, patterns shapes and forms, intermittent, temporarily temporal, duality, causality, temporal passed told fearful-pain spiraling madly out of control) movements of/in motion.

[@prakashdesai534]

When I do it then suffering goes away but after a while it comes back so I need to do it again again then it will take my whole day

[@cherryblossom8282]

yes, because we didn*t face it in the past

[@fhl60]

amazing!!!

[@danielbarrera8391]

This is the thing that most people will benefit from hearing and understanding... Most 'addiction' (if not all) are all rooted in this. We will all run from uncomfortable feelings through seeking some external source - a distraction. But being present with these feelings allows some relief. But avoiding them just causes them to fester and addictions (whatever they are) get stronger. I get it more now than I used to. Oh and that bit! That's the major problem with trying to allow them by thinking, "I need to heal this or 'deal' with this" and it doesn't allow them at all. It's just becoming aware of the "Ah! I'm going to the fridge right now because I'm trying to avoid some uncomfortable feeling..." is just... I don't know. It puts you in a place to actually learn to allow it, as opposed to constantly trying to 'deal' with them.

[@tl1820]

Is not every action the body or mind takes an effort to move towards or away from a feeling? Other than deep sleep when is this not the case? Even if I was an expert mind watcher, I would still need to recognize some feelings as valid calls to action such as hunger.

[@admirercp]

There is only the feeling, no other. And it miraculously started to crumble

[@ottofrinta7115]

I have little to add. First of course see that no Ego can be found and the only I is awareness. When after really strong bad feelings that pain, constriction and heaviness remains in your chest, often surrounding your heart I suggest you do this: Stand up or ideally bent over one of those large stability balls and breathe as heavy and as deep into your lower belly and pelvis as you can. As you breath feel the energy going up and down with each breath, if you breath hard with your mouth open it will be real tide waves. Bring your awareness to your body and all the pain, constriction and heaviness will be washed away, you might very well be aware of your body sensations like never before because most of us are occupied with mind all the time and spend only fraction of time living as "heart" (feelings) and body (sensations). It is just my exercise, I'm sure that there are much better ones and I never did yoga which i'm sure has much more to say to this, just a humble exercise that work wonders to me :) Also one more point: do not avoid any bad feelings and any resistance, it only builds them up - this is how you make a bad experience into a life crippling anxiety, personal experience here, hehe. Always accept it with as much awareness you can muster.

[@reinhardjung8196]

very good, thanks!

[@ljp9402]

i guess i don't understand why we have to face the feeling if it will inevitably arise again because life is full of unfortunate situations. why is it bad to use objects to distract yourself, thus temporarily subduing the feeling? it seems like facing the feeling has the same effect of subduing it?

[@Balloonbot]

When we run from the feelings it becomes this daunting demon chasing us; facing it allows you to reveal it - and then we don't need to be so strained in trying to contain or avoid it. In theory of course.

[@chocobochick5390]

@@Balloonbot True. Unfortunately, there were times when I would act in rage trying to feel my feelings (they were mainly anger). But now I know I have to just be as they say. It's gonna take some work for that one.

[@Sun.powder]

You unconsciously draw unfortunate situations to yourself when you have lots of suppressed uncomfortable feelings we are all one the feelings are trying to make themselves known and integrated by drawing these experiences to you, creating them

[@meghan42]

But if I were to ask myself if I could live with a very sad or depressed state forever, I would HAVE to say no. Forever is a very long time.

[@alilouscriptali1266]

yeah you are right , so i think you have to know the true self , from the true self there is just joy and peace and there is no ego , and the must powerfull way to get out of all emotions and depressions its to change your atention and dont give them power with your mind , ignore them and thay will go you can watch mooji videos its very clear about that , thanks

[@sfevie]

mooji

[@malabuha]

mythbuster sadness is very pleasent. there is resistance to it which is painful. one can live with sadness for ever but cant be resisting it eternaly. devote yourself to the feeling only, allow yourself to feel it fully and look at it. what you find will break any resistance to it. and it may shock you

[@patanjalibhati]

❤

[@evglenka1]

What if the feeling is so inconfortable that I cannot fully accept it? I want to, but it’s not sincere

[@bille77]

"Say more about that!" That tone... lol

[@greenJoker8]

I don't think that sadness is a discomfort. My discomfort is made of frustration and anger-like resistance. How to face the feeling if that feeling is frustration and resistance itself? No, I don't want to live forever with this resistance and frustration. This is too much. I don't see any thought aspect, any story. I see only the frustration, I don't even know WHY I have this frustration, it just is. Just this bare impulse to escape. But there seems to be nowhere to escape. I want my resistance to go away but it seems to perpetuate itself. I'll try to surrender. My reistance is trying to return. It seems that I resist something without even knowing it. Maybe I resist the impulse to do what I would really want to do inside.

[@claudelebel49]

I just got that all of the mental agitation surrounding thoughts of fear and lack simply creates and supports the illusion of a separate, needy, fearful little me. Letting go of identification with such thoughts and returning to the truth of Being-Awareness helps to break the spell allowing me as Being-Awareness to sit with uncomfortable feelings without the story of Poor me! What shall I do? In any case, my understanding just went a notch deeper and for that I am grateful. That mind created illusion of a separate little me is a tricky and tenacious one to say the least, yet all smoke and mirrors.

[@ThePlugTurtle]

Feelings promise that you will get by following them, what you instead would get by letting them free

[@connieace16]

Allow the feeling to get rid of it... Rupert Spira knows me. 🙂

[@MrPrayuda]

🙏❤️

[@tommmymason9744]

What can happen without motion?

[@Aylon5D]

Discomfort, suffering and danger is one major motivator or driver of lively movement since the very early stages of life. I know this does not sound very calming but i think if you reveal that discomfort and suffering as one of the very forces that enforced this lively movement, which is in itself an expression of joy it'll be a bit easier to accept.

[@justinsmudde2554]

Rupert, your great at explaining all of these concepts and or descriptions. Im truly blessed that I stumbled upon your content. Do you recommend I take a transcendental Meditation Workshop? Ive been seeking and journeying trying to find my way to this awareness. Months mow and have made some great progress. However, I am at a stand still a little and believe there is another level I need but the mediums im using are bits and pieces to say it plainly. I feel there is some major keys missing in all of It! Do you recommend that? There is a TM workshop here in my town. Certified teachers. I dont know if thats just another vague capitalist type of yoga or would that suffice to get me On my way? Thank you very much. Sincerely Justin

[@skipwood1353]

Justin Smudde I can’t advise you but I do practice TM and for me, it’s the easiest, quickest route to a calm mind, backed by loads of scientific studies into its benefits 👍

[@justinsmudde2554]

Skip Wood im going to take this 5 day workshop or whatever here locally by certified TM instructors. I think thats my best bet ti learn it. Apparently its not hard. Im probably already doing it just want to make sure im not missing anything or doing it wrong or whatever

[@Bhuyakasha]

What exactly is the difference between "this is good for me" and "I am interested in doing this"? Can't the second be a simple result of the first, without there being much discipline or tension involved?

[@JessMaccain]

"This is good for me" implies a hidden agenda if you think about it - you want to achieve an end result of "being good for me". "I am interested in doing this" has no agenda - you just do something, without necessarily the end resulf of actually achieving some goal. For example, you may be interested in doodling and colouring on a piece of paper for the entire afternoon, without the goal of actually painting a picture. But who is the judge to say that what you doodled and coloured on that piece of paper isn't some sort of "painting"? What is a "painting" anyway? I may look at your "work" and see great beauty there - and if I can connect with the beauty in your "work", does it matter whether or not your original intention is to paint a picture?

[@MrHamburgerHelper]

The next advaita book lol I’m totally guilty of that 🙋🏻‍♀️😂

[@momsazombie1]

This 'emotional discomfort', is it presumed to be mind-made suffering? Forgive the example (I think its necessary), but if I imagine watching my family being executed I am certain that I would experience emotional discomfort - is this revolving around the separate self? Is it a question of extent?

[@HanemanHunters]

Very cool...but suppresion is supposed to be a 'mature' defense mechanism... which is good, right? I guees Mr. Rupert meant repression.

[@yanbibiya]

Not really. Psychological mechanisms are all defence mechanisms based on a misconception that we are seperate from a source reality. Only in the Gross causal sense do defence mechanisms have any merit. In a spiritual or whole consciousness self the seperation from the 'divine' includes non duality. Psychological perception is not non duality.

[@HanemanHunters]

***** Right. Thanks!

[@Arlenez1]

Suppression is controlling the ego which is mature. Rupert talks about deeply feeling that emotion which liberates it.

[@Jesuslovedefeatevil]

Tell your feelings how to feel.

[@nypala]

What if I don't want to get rid of an uncomfortable feeling? I fully allow it to be and yet it seems to vanish completely when I do so. I'm disappointed.

[@evedotcom]

4:42 called out! oops haha.

[@dommccaffry3802]

Have any of rupert's students or retreat participants had any breakthroughs in their own journeys ?. Its ridiculous to suggest that a truly horrible feeling is going to be something that one can honestly say to oneself " i am happy to feel like this forever !?????? " ludicrous

[@mattgarrett3768]

If you sit with any feeling for long enough, you will realise it is just sensation. The story you give to this sensation creates the emotion. If you sit with and let go of the resistance to these sensations, they lose their meaning of 'horrible' etc. Once the resistance has been let go, the energy behind the feeling gets released. Courage to sit with it will empty out the well of emotion - in my experience anyway. Hope this helps!

[@WW11110]

You don't have to ask me twice... Straight to the DMT. Lol...

[@KN-eu9zs]

That lady at 10min sounds so South African 🙂, she's lucky she's known Rupert Spira for so long, I always wonder if I had known this information earlier, I'd be so different by now 😞, it's only been two weeks so far.

[@nypala]

4:42 he's talking about me right now 😟

[@jiaogulan]

Is the practice of self remembering (remembering to relax in consciousness) also something that can strengthen the seperate self when done as a discipline? How else would I do it? I've been attempting to do this as much as I can remember, and have things to remind me, such as a bracelet, and sometimes, especially when I am experiencing heavy emotions, it requires more effort and discipline. I can see how this could lead to rigidity and the strengthening of seperate self, but how else can I get to a point of remembering more and more?

[@magnamia]

He talks of the practice of exploring sensations. Does anyone know if it is present as a video or is taught online or what it is called?

[@kanishkabanerjee]

Why am I feeling a little emotional after listening to this

[@jowr2000]

Embracing “what is”, in religious terms is called surrendering to God’s will.

[@HumbleWordsmith]

Which idiot is going to do this practice. Look at the depression and say “i can happily live with this feeling forever”

[@v3g499]

[@jsingh108]

I love you Rupert, but I jumped when you said “trump” 😂😂😂

[@lukefromdenver7609]

This guy is a thief. He is stealing your potential.

[@nkastropil]

Perfect timing. Terrible day today, I need to turn around and face it 🙏