Express yourself after narcissistic abuse

[@majestic.feminine]

You are so insightfully dead-on right! Thank you for reminding us about why we came here. To be ourselves. 💝✨

[@oscararmstrong1267]

Hi.. sorry for interfering on your comment section but I must say I'm impressed with your words. I hope you're having a good day

[@majestic.feminine]

Why thank you 🫶@@oscararmstrong1267

[@edgreen8140]

Distance yourself from them. You have psych and physical boundaries. It helps and do inner child work you'll be less triggered the more you work on it. When you reduce your triggers and distance emotionally your not gonna be triggered. They may try and just walk away. Silence is helpful they don't know what to do with your silence.

[@AlettaMeijer]

Very true!

[@maddymcaden6841]

Great insight! Thank you for sharing this💕. I've been following you for years now. Your video's as well as your music have helped me through the deepest and darkest moments. You have no idea how many people you're helping. A big big thank you❤

[@Inkironnrum]

Hi, Am new here. Was watching your NA documentary (10 minutes so far), and was drawn into each person’s experience. So many stories. What I noticed about each persons face is a spirit of peace. Will finish watching the documentary later today. I stopped watching (just for a moment) because my curiosity wanted to know what other content there is at this channel. When I saw that the woman, you, were speaking, the same woman sharing her experience in the documentary, I was immediately drawn into learning more about your studies and technique with self healing and self awareness. This video is on point. I fought against the speck of depression attempting to break into my spirit immediately after realizing I was discarded. I wasn’t allowing myself to hurt. Or to allow another person’s emotions, in this case the narc’s emotions-to lead me into their darkness. Those first few days and nights felt like I was climbing up a steep cliff, while heavy dust and a stream of pebbles pelted at my face. Fighting my way up, or where I was prior to meeting the narc. And I made it. Thanks to God. I will share more of my story throughout your videos. As with how each video correlates with my story. In reference with this video, I went straight back into my writing, plowing through those harsh relationship thoughts with magical words, writing sentence after sentence, bulldozing every negative thought out of my mind, out of my way, with word after word written. It worked. It took time, I believe one week it took to climb up that cliff, reaching the edge of the top with my relentless hands, to feel a noticeable difference. Your words and spirit of wisdom, of love, of caring, and of expertise with NA is a blessing among many. Thank you for dedicating yourself to spread light and awareness. God bless

[@ashleyann2173]

This has taken me so long to figure out but this video definitely validated my journey! thank you!

[@eternalrhythmflow]

I love this! So simple. So important. So true!

[@WelcomeToOzzy]

Such wise words. Thank you for helping me understand and heal

[@tjd7964]

You tube just showed me your channel. Great insight and helpful information. Keep up the good work! Thanks

[@melissavriezema1922]

Thank you so much for the work you do. Your video's are helping me every time❤

[@sylviealexandris6696]

The healing process is such a long painful road for me. It’s been a year and four months. I’m uncovering things, issues,lies daily and grieving.

[@AlettaMeijer]

Finding out about the lies and deceit is so painful, and the confusion of who this person really was and who we’ve loved needs time to settle. Stay strong, and keep talking about your feelings with people. I’m sure it will get better with time🙏🏻❤️

[@m.pellicier]

Indeed it is a long process to full recovery. But it does get better, in due time. It has been 3 years and 2 months since I had to run to save myself, and I am still recovering. But I am much, much better. You will be too! Hugs to you!

[@oscararmstrong1267]

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[@nilepearl1997]

Can you please make a video on how to deal with narcissists in life in general after abuse. It's like I see them everywhere but don't know how to deal with them in peace while being true to my authentic self ... any ideas ?

[@JH-td4mn]

Personally I deal with them by not dealing with them as much as possible. And if you have to interact with them, don't let them feed off your emotions. I find that if you don't respond to their energy draining attempts by grey rocking, they get bored and leave you alone. If it's someone you have to deal with in the workplace or in your family, show that you're sure of yourself and have strong boundaries and hopefully they will be more inclined to leave you alone. They're cowardly bullies after all.

[@I-talk-about-tough-topics]

​​​@@JH-td4mnSame. I ran into one earlier this year, the friend of the ex of a friend of the ex of someone I know. He was asked to help me out with something, a bad situation of need, and he took advantage of it. I initially thought that the person I knew had somehow told him a lot of nonsense about me, but that wasn't the case. I realized that he was manipulative and deceitful and deliberately trying to make me as miserable and uncomfortable as possible. He presented things differently to different people and he also kept texting our mutual contact and also me sometimes helpful suggestions that weren't helpful at all but likely intended to make me feel frustrated while appearing very helpful to others. One day it just clicked... Of course, also, as soon as he had agreed to help me out, he also started threatening the withdrawal of that help, which would have left me stranded and he initially seems to have thought that he might be able to groom me into a bed companion. He was obsessed with control. Anyway, he did withdraw his help, of course, when he realized that he couldn't play me. The only thing I have said to him in the end was that he was being manipulative. He didn't reply. I was grateful that I had the experience that told me that he is a narcissist and it was also very easy to see, in his case, how it had come about. Things would have been very different though if this had been a colleague that I needed to work with. I think I would have tried to move to a different department or different workplace without ever mentioning him.

[@tmking7483]

I have this problem _ they follow me around where ever I go_ call me names if they get a chance_ wear a Go Pro _ document everything _ laws are changing fast around coercive control _ get your evidence _ protect yourself from attacks_ in the age of the camera simply record all your interactions.

[@I-talk-about-tough-topics]

Aletta, how did you deal with the character assassination at the end, with the attempts to undermine you professionally? I've not been living with a narcissist but I have had something similar happen to me. I'm fed up with trying to explain it and I imagine it's also something you ran into, that people demand explanations from you but at the same time refuse to listen. I can imagine it. "What do you mean, narcissistic abuse? So he was obsessed with looking good and wore great clothes, because that is what narcissists do but what does this have to do with you?" How did you deal with your reputation being in tatters? How do you deal with things such as needing financial assistance, finding yourself forced to explain what you want to leave behind you and that people don't even want to listen to anyway?

[@I-talk-about-tough-topics]

Also, what tips do you have for how to deal with the pain if they hurt or kill pets or other animals just to spite you?

[@tmking7483]

Nothing to add _ just want to say_🙏

[@lauren.11111]

You're gorgeous 😍