Face Your Fears | Jordan B Peterson

What you need is exactly where you don't want to look.
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[@spyguythesamurai]

Peterson echoes Jung so well here when it comes to overcoming anxiety. "What you most what to find will be found where you least want to look."

[@famousace4652]

How do you find where you least want to look?

[@spyguythesamurai]

@@famousace4652 Whatever makes you feel the most fearful, vulnerable, and insecure.

[@WinChun78]

@@spyguythesamurai That also feels kinda exciting....you're travelling in the high mountains then. Gives you a lot of adrenalin energy and motivation and therein lies the paradox..

[@adamanthony7465]

@@famousace4652 by going to the place that you fear most

[@blackops6758]

His philosophy is largely influenced by Jung

[@daedra40]

I have just faced my fears of confronting my lecturer about my final year project, and stop ignoring it. I am very happy, and this video title is quite serendipitous of that!

[@aleidius192]

“A coward dies a thousand times before his death, but the valiant taste of death but once. It seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that death, a necessary end, will come when it will come.”

[@dantruth7406]

Thank you, I needed this

[@WinChun78]

Shakespeare sure had it covered...

[@anneperry9014]

Yer right 🙄

[@johnathanfaircloth9639]

Only Jordan Peterson could make me fall in love with my own feelings of Anxiety, as I now acknowledge that they are merely the itch of opportunity.

[@coreyworthingtonii9230]

Thank you for this comment. I feel grateful to Dr Peterson too. I feel like my anxiety is creeping back in slowly, but Due to Dr Peterson’s lectures, my plan is to confront my issues head on.

[@marcellelabuschagne9817]

This Jungian Arthurian concept of "entering the forest at the point that looks the darkest to you" reminds me of Stoicism, the saying that "the obstacle is the way" essentially: the thing that you think is the biggest obstacle to achieve your goal IS the exact thing you need to almost embrace in a sense, in order to overcome and get to the goal.

[@TheFusedplug]

When I first discovered Jordan Peterson around 2016/17 I was in the depths of hell at that particular time. I wont go into every sordid detail but by then I was a binge drinker that found himself addicted to crack cocaine and heroin. At the time of writing this (Feb 2021) I'll be 48 this coming March Now I'm clean and in the process of creating a path to business armed with a few thousand in the bank and it started with cleaning up the room I was in and then sorting the entire flat. There's still plenty of work to do on myself ! But I am in a much better place now thanks to this incredible bloke .. anyone else here have a similar story?

[@MasteryOrder]

There's nothing better to hear or read than a story of a man who went through hell and managed to come out of it. Good for you. Respect. Keep hustling and you'll end up in a good place in life. All the best to you!

[@gay4pay882]

You were addicted to candy cigarettes stop lying

[@coreyworthingtonii9230]

At the moment, I felt myself slipping into a period of anxiety that I hadn’t felt for several years. I had a bad health diagnosis and as well as I was separated from my now wife for over 2 years due to the coronavirus mandates. I have this fear now that I will be unwell or she will be unwell and that I’ll lose her again. Feels like I’m losing a bit of my mental focus on staying mentally strong. I’m hoping I can just eat well, exercise and pull through this period.

[@RonBaker456]

Hope things are still going great for you. Hope you found your path.

[@billwalt9026]

@@RonBaker456 me too man this Jordan guy has helped me understand why I was in my hell an addictions since childhood which took the lives of my siblings while young. Andrew Humbermen (sp?) on You tube has been a help. I listen to Jordan 76-80% of my day to help me hold course.

[@fear_less_2020]

"who the hell wants a 6 year-old 40 year-old" typical JBP humor! love him.

[@Steven-wz7sh]

"Resistance is your friend." A professor and mentor said this often.

[@jdf928]

Over the past ten years I've traveled through the depths of dark depressions, through world's of unending pain that stole my appetite, my ability to work, to shower and to sleep. I somehow managed to keep a hold of my now wife. Become more consistent in going to work. I keep up my therapy to sort out all of my past, present and future. An I continued to add Titans of thought such as Peterson, Hitchins and the like who have helped me through an opressive religious upbringing. An now I have a wife coupled with a few loyal and healthy family members and a few friends who help to support me away from the black hole of chaos that looms just outside of me giving in and allowing fear to consume me. Anyone with depression please walk down the path you least want to and find the healthy supports you need and please hang on and face your darkness. Never give up, you are more valuable and powerful than you can possibly imagine!

[@Abeliever000]

Jedon Forcet I am in the same phase of my life. I just don’t know how to get out of this rut but I know there’s light at the end of the tunnel. The thing with me is, I can bend circumstances to my likeness, it’s still not out of hands, but I don’t find the meaning in doing anything, in life itself. But now I’ve understood that meaning of life is what meaning we give it. I hope to change my life, and also know that the power lies within me, I need not look elsewhere.

[@jdf928]

@Psychonaut listening to him was only a small part of a whole network of different things that helped. But his biblical lectures helped me sort out a few key points to me getting to a functional place. No one thing cures anyone but some of his lectures really helped me out.

[@jdf928]

@@Abeliever000 that's great! I think people like Peterson are great supplements to a healthy diet of mental food to help people going through that depressive grind. Glad you are finding things and people that help!

[@cainoble]

@JedonForcet thank you for this post. I'm not sure how I got to this particular video or thread. But here I am reading your comment, while feeling once again submersed in this surreal sense of despair. I was contemplating leaving this planet again for good and yet, your comment stopped that maddening internal process of repetitivion within me --- and your Spirit spoke to places in me that haven't heard the voice of reason, or of hope, or of humanity in a very long time. My heart 💔 broken as she may be, felt the sincerity of your own heart, to push forward and through this chaos no matter how bleak the future seemingly presents itself. Please continue your journey 🙏 here, for this world has taken a dark and forlorn turn, foreseen by too many prophets and sages, to ever be truly dismissed by those who are wise. But you bring actual hope, active compassion, sincerity and kindness, most importantly the hard won ability to forthrightly :::express::: your authentic individual nature. Stay strong. Stay human. Stay true. And thank you, thank you for NOT giving up. This world, our world, needs you now more than ever before.

[@jdf928]

@Psychonaut 👍

[@fish8622]

This is so much harder to follow then just to agree to. I took this to heart a while ago harkening to its wisdom. Only to find myself five days later literally hiding under my desk shaking with fear from crippling anxiety. I reached out to someone as my state worsened and they guided me to my own fears. Facing your fears is easier said than done.

[@theodore1183]

Everything is easier said than done.

[@AnimatedDisc]

In exposure therapy, this is very well understood. Getting someone over their fear of something has to be in quarter baby steps and then even half of that. It takes a while and it's supposed to.

[@captainbeastazoid7084]

In cognitive behavioral therapy, you're supposed to face your fears step by step, not all at once. Exposing yourself to too much too quickly can be traumatizing.

[@anneperry9014]

Very true!

[@TheSocratesofAthens]

I understand. I really love what Peterson does but his advice can be very simplistic at times. For example, he says "you have to face the unknown 'voluntarily'", rather than to avoid it. But the problem is the gap between avoidance and voluntarily facing your fear. What does the word "voluntarily" mean and how do we reach that state? What I gather is that people essentially "unlearn" unhealthy thought patterns and assumptions. This enables the patient to face their fear without falling apart since they get some long withheld reassurance that they needed, probably since childhood. Further, sometimes a direct approach is not best: you have to learn to pick your battles. Again, Peterson takes us in the right direction but not always to the right conclusion. He's flawed, like most others, and it's important to put no one onto a pedestal.

[@BuyBBStonk]

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

[@colinmcmullin1154]

You can tell a man who has internalized knowledge by how infrequently he looks at notes.

[@robertkerr4635]

Yes sir. He embodies what he teaches. It truly is lived and understood knowledge and not just words learned.

[@HappyMomma412]

I agree with a caveat, though. Sometimes, when a person is very nervous they look at their notes a lot.

[@cameronmitchell9561]

I don't agree with everything Jordan says but i have to admit he makes me think, in alternatives, every single time.

[@Candlewick14]

Trying to find courage to see if my cancer returned. This is helpful.

[@anneperry9014]

Bless you. All the best!😊

[@jessejamesbm]

I’m about to host my first meeting with corporate after years of avoiding public speaking, like since middle school, wish me luck boys

[@yashb5794]

How'd it go??

[@HappyMomma412]

Yes, how was it?

[@jessejamesbm]

It was terrifying, and I messed up a lot, but after 10 more months of doing them regularly, they go much smoother now 🙂

[@yashb5794]

@@jessejamesbm Good to hear dude! Practice makes perfect

[@Dhia_Hadhri]

1:20 that guy feels personally attacked lool

[@dotdashdotdash]

he shifted uncomfortably in his seat 😏

[@dantruth7406]

It's because he rolled his eyes at 0:23. Jordan is perceptive. "What you need is what you don't want to look at" Jordan is saying that he needs him maybe lol?

[@powersdustin709]

I’m changing my career path. In the middle of the road and I’m leaving California, where the career that would’ve paid very well would’ve been. But the world is what it is and I would hate that job despite the money. So I’m leaving and I’m scared of feeling lost or getting more lost than I already am.

[@AaronMcCloud_Me]

You are brave.

[@GordonLF]

You are leaving a path that you know you would hate. Get ready for being brave enough for changing paths even when you would love what you're doing.

[@sinisterminister9920]

Work for yourself Brother remember when there is a WILL there IS a WAY.. goodluck to you!!

[@anneperry9014]

Remember, every cloud, might not seem like it at the time, but it works out

[@lavachebeadsman]

"I'm just afraid of having a tombstone that reads: HERE LIES A PROMISING OLD MAN. Potential may be worse than none, Jim." - David Foster Wallace

[@geupelboi]

Bitterly ironic that DFW took his own life

[@MojitoMatt]

Resistance is a symptom of the way things are, not the way things necessarily should be. Actual victory belongs to things that simply do not see failure.

[@thinnspeaker6123]

This mans voice calms down my anxiety

[@bryanmalsom]

Genius, And I Appreciate You Jordan💯And Everything You DO💯

[@shrimpman8422]

brilliant !! keep doing gods work

[@davidneyra2086]

8:49 "If you were an informer you were often amply rewarded by the state so if you lived on a overcrowded apartment building with three families in the same flat and you informed on the woman down the hall that you didn't like, she got shipped off to the old concentration camp and you got her apartment. That was a lovely society". I love how he puts a little cherry on top of the cake.

[@kiffsan]

@islanti Not even close, in any way, shape or form.

[@TheFusedplug]

That's the USA under Biden very soon

[@anneperry9014]

What an awful outcome!!🙄

[@BDeli123]

Take care Peterson family

[@NicholasLashway]

Commenting for support! Love JP can’t wait for his new book!!

[@starseed-dx8cq]

只听懂了很少一部分 但是看着教授这么走来走去也觉得好赏心悦目哦 这种沉稳健谈的气质 吸吸吸❤️

[@timewalker6654]

I only understand a small part of it, but it’s so pleasing to watch the professor walking around like this. This kind of calm and talkative temperament sucks and sucks

[@davidtsintsadze]

Thank You.

[@fabianozennmusic]

Awesomeness

[@jordanbpeterson-croatian3640]

Face your fear 💪

[@andreventinhas5507]

I am waiting man...keep strong 💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪💪

[@jaredengland1955]

Absolute gold

[@veronicalopes8948]

Thank you for your love kept going on and encouragement words and making way open to come in my heart and mind i just kept on believing what you said we will not leave and God work in miracles i wonder i received thanks dear love you

[@MFDElk]

Thanks!

[@peter-rq3hw]

Mr peterson nothing but love ❤️ I can loose me but you put it out there as I have said you make it real am not mad am stupid x

[@constantinandries5705]

3:40 The limitations of a being without limitations.

[@sangissong]

5:20 he starts talking about the good and the bad of the culture.... Really relevant

[@alaakamel9676]

Love you man ❤

[@flamyngoo]

They're very difficult to understand but I think it helps give the wisdom being shared more meaningful and deep. I'm struggling but learning a lot, they're very useful information and something that fills the gap in my mind but I just can't keep up 😂 I need to take atleast 3 mins break every 1 minute of this video to fully understand it and it makes my head hurt like I'm drained. So I think I was going to ask to figure out what to do no not feel that way but in the process of writing this comment, I think that found the solution to that problem 😂 Just write down my thoughts and it cleared my mind like 70%

[@shellsbignumber2]

Jordan reminds me of a lot of my teachers at school, only difference is Jordan is good at what he does and my teachers were terrible at what they done.

[@MrFlexNC]

really hope you are doing well jordan, I would also like to know your take on whole this situation that is going on right now

[@albertomoreno9795]

Rick Sanchez, I'm a huge fan of your's. Lol

[@Steven-gs8oh]

Alberto Moreno the heck

[@Sugar87Tits]

He doesn’t need words of empathy. He needs words of encouragement. Empathy only shows you want attention through others suffering.

[@Steven-gs8oh]

Swamper Jordan isn’t asking anyone to give empathy, but we should give it to him anyway to show that we care. Empathy is not something you give, in fact, it can’t be controlled. I can’t control that I have empathy for Dr. Peterson, giving encouragement isn’t a feeling though, it’s an action. I thought that was just basic 3rd grade English, but it’s fine if you forgot.

[@Sugar87Tits]

@@Steven-gs8oh Okay freak. Take that name and picture off. Randy would be disappointed in you.

[@Mousa2070]

I just read this story about batman in his book yesterday . 😅

[@HFTYKCK]

Music helps either make things better or worse. Some vibrations send calm serene thoughts & melody, some vibrations literally make panic, anxious, power ect. Im curious to learn more about what exactly im baffling at.

[@sinisterminister9920]

@5:18 My boy about to go even deeper..😂🙌🏼

[@kimonryu1]

2:18 I heard of Superman's origin story but I never thought of Superman having a "heavenly" and "earthly" set of parents. This makes Superman seem like Christ or Hercules, kind of a cross between god and man. Interesting to look at pop culture characters in a Jungian, mythological, or religious lens. Even if the hero has superpowers, he will not be relatable to the reader at all if he doesn't have at least 1 weak point, so that makes sense that they made "cryptonite", his. Not sure if Peterson is aware of the popular Japanese comic Dragon Ball, but the protagonist, Goku is very similar in the two points above. Goku got shipped off from a planet that got destroyed, and his weak point is his tail.

[@Cheapers-Vac]

And we become the product of the things we hate as they draw our energy into their mold

[@visarbilali6984]

Starts with the biggest protest one can do: against the family, since early childhood

[@dychondra]

“The living corpse of a child”.

[@joedavis4150]

... Jordan Peterson, it is important in your rules for life that you mention how useful performance enhancing drugs can be. And also how important it is to choose safe drugs.

[@kgm2182]

"I know that you must lie sometimes To hide the truth you're trying to find" -Lindsey Buckingham "Shut Us Down"

[@CloudWithoutASky]

LET ME FACE LET ME FACE LET ME FACE MY FEARS!!!

[@guitarsoundsaround]

4:40 onward ish: geography. I’ve thought too often about how geography limits our true potential. Long before I discovered JBP’s works.

[@Mskay3]

😂😍🫶🏼 love him

[@yaleskylj]

we do need a statement from JBP about current viral paranoia

[@yaleskylj]

@islanti you see - we interpret differently: I would expect not communism but fascism is coming as a result of disgust, introduced to close the all the governmental borders, not to open them

[@kiffsan]

@Slater Slater A grifting fraud, eh? What exactly are you referring to?

[@kiffsan]

@Slater Slater Slater Slater Slater Slater Not 100% sure about that; usually, Cultural Marxism is used as a synonym for extreme PC. I hate to play devil's advocate but in regards to "naming cultural marxists", I wouldn't waste my time naming the countless advocates of PC either. As far as money goes, I hear yah.

[@kiffsan]

@Slater Slater Come on Slater, it's an analogy. Don't make me do the thinking for you.

[@kiverismusic]

@Tiktaalik right ... Because trying to seek help for withdrawals after being prescribed a drug by a doctor and taking it AS PRESCRIBED is being a coward. You people are so detached from reality

[@LeeMbarrett]

What does Mr Peterson mean when he says "that's where you've kept it"? at 1:26

[@un_cog9677]

🔥

[@TheRealTrulyJulie]

Jordan needs to check his Superman timeline

[@Pppeeepppiii]

There is almost no teacher that says the simple stuff about being gratefull about the acrued bennefits of your ancesters and the protection of your nation, the culturization as well.

[@GordonLF]

On the other side, some see changing things as ungratefulness and that's also a problem.

[@badromenful]

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. - Proverbs 9:10

[@Fin4L6are]

7:56 sveiciens

[@angeltraegerocana5238]

matar

[@guitarsoundsaround]

7:03 onward: me still childishly choked I didn’t see him on tour. JBP was responsible for that, and was not fair, nor honest. I’ll never get over it 😂 after watching many lectures, embracing and supporting him, I was limited and still put the effort in. Bah!

[@metti2820]

درک نمیکنم که چرا اینقدر این معروف شده! چقدرررررر سخت حرف میزنه!

[@TheShootist]

♫where oh where are you tonight? why did you leave me here all alone?♫

[@BlackDiamond2718]

Same reason i disliked superman, sounds op and weakened by something stupid. I liked how they did it in man of steel since he was humble, inexperienced, and a proper explanation to kryptonite.

[@famousace4652]

How do you find out where you least want to go?

[@whodis375]

What do you fear the most?

[@famousace4652]

@@whodis375 burning in hell for all of eternity

[@attor90]

"Stanlin was Lenin's legitimate son"

[@miketschabrunn6012]

Imagine Jordan Peterson watching record of Ragnarok 😂😂

[@eleojimenez6398]

4:05

[@eleojimenez6398]

7:32

[@eleojimenez6398]

9:23

[@alexostlerart8349]

2nd!

[@ollydollae928]

I wonder what ron weasley is doing there

[@r.b.ratieta6111]

Taking a page from his Dad's book and studying Muggle philosophy and history.

[@theomars1433]

I would like to watch his analysis of why 'one punch man' is so popular.

[@danielreardon6453]

Jordan Peterson Is the next Messiah and no one knows it, not even him....... Give a man a fish, and he will be hungry again to-morrow; teach him to catch a fish, and he will be richer all his life

[@ornettagrezza3995]

harsh

[@Hoi4o]

Lenin was Morgoth, Stalin was Sauron.

[@ianpage2509]

And both were undone the mercy shown by a small band of people who left there home to save it. “I cannot carry it for you Mister Frodo sir, but I can carry you!” Never get in between a Hobbit and his garden.

[@ifeelfantastic8397]

Anyone saw the picture of steve jobs while playing the video?

[@thedudeabides1445]

🐱‍🐉

[@junevandermark952]

“I act as if God exists, and I’m terrified he might.” ~ Jordan Peterson

[@wagnerbertolino2]

I'm very frustrated that I couldn't see the head of the Muslim woman who sits upfront and never misses a single class.

[@EricCowan8]

a clockadile

[@themasteryocheese8133]

Reminds me of one punch man

[@MrFlexNC]

my fear is covid19, guess ill go outside then

[@kiffsan]

Daaamn, go for it guy! Put that immune system to work!

[@Aras483]

Don't be an idiot. Fear is self imposed but danger is real. You might not be in risk by your age but you could risk others by your actions. Stay calm but don't do an ignorant act just the sake of your ego. You can still do the right thing and not let fear control you at the same time.

[@nathantournear3708]

I wrote a song very similar to this! 👉kzbin.info/www/bejne/jpzIeYKabL2nrLM Excited to see you tomorrow in Minneapolis!

[@blueheron8692]

Show thee true face

[@angeltraegerocana5238]

matar en cuanto pueda

[@JETTSTACHI]

Their avoidant attachment style is not their fault (thanks patriarchy conditioning), but it is their responsibility not affect loved ones with their affliction. A person can and will change if they want to or care enough about someone or something. If they do not change, YOU ARE NOT WORTH IT TO THEM. Here is just another man telling women how to treat the king baby so HE can be happy. This is not your fix! You're not his mother and who wants to be intimate with a child?

[@panokostouros7609]

Angry Joe would like to have a word with you, doctor....

[@anneperry9014]

So in laymans terms what is he saying??🙄

[@HappyMomma412]

😂🤣 So.. I’m going to echo what a commenter a couple of comments down said. They also stated that this is very Jungian (Carl Jung). Anyway, they said he is basically saying that whatever it is that you want the most will be found wherever you want to look at the least. You know, the whole “the thing that you most need is found where you don’t want to go/ do” sort of thing. I hope this helps. I tried my best. 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@JohnCornellier]

The coward's hero.

[@justinkerrigan5863]

There’s nothing uglier than an old lobster

[@juanz7908]

It's difficult to follow him. He seems to ramble and jump topics.

[@YoungMommy14]

Jordan... Listen, brother. I've been watching quite a bit of your stuff lately. I do genuinely think that your a good guy. I think you have a good heart. But, boy oh boy... Do you ever love to 'Ramble'. When you walk out on a stage, you should always get The DJ to play 'Rambling' Man' by The Allman Brothers Band. This video was allegedly supposed to be about 'facing your fears and presumably offering suggestions to help aid in the process. Well, suffice to say, you forgot (AGAIN) to even mention the intended topic. You started out talking about The Esoteric Concept of The Holy Grail and you finished by comparing and contrasting Lennin and Stalin. I ain't mad, tho. I think it's downright hilarious Oh... And as far as 'The Holy Grail' is concerned, I've heard conflicting theories on WHAT it actually is, but I can't remember any. Either way, 'The Holy Grail' was allegedly discovered by The Knights Templar who were stationed on the Temple Mount where Solomon's Temple previously stood. In 1197 CE, Saladin and his Army tried to regain control of 'The Holy Land' and everybody was 'Kung Fu Fighting Again'... Until Fri, Oct, 13th, 1307 when The Roman Catholic Church convicted all The Knights Templar of Heresy. Many were executed, including their leader, Issues Dr Molay... The remainder of the KT fled, allegedly to Scotland, because Scotland had already been excommunicated by The Roman Catholic Church, and because bagpipes sound so utterly divine. They allegedly then formed The Order of Free masonry, and the rest... As they say, is History!

[@meinungabundance7696]

Peterson has unfortunately NO CLUE about living in a communistic country. It is not true that people lived in fear and did not say the truth. This might be correct when describing Russia at certain times, but for sure not when describing Poland or Tschechoslovakia or Yugoslavia.

[@user-cd7kh5gi1f]

Yes , you are like נראה שאתה חושב שאתה נורא חכם