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[@raisaloyana3694]

Strict parents only raise sneaky kids with the ability to perfectly lie and to recognise footsteps.

[@mostautisticangel]

Csn confirm, I am listening for footsteps as I watch this

[@anphha]

I had strict parents, can confirm. I still go to visit them sometimes, but even now as an adult I tell them almost nothing about my personal life.

[@saltire_2825]

Real (I can tell exactly who is where based on the footsteps)

[@Grady1285]

Sometimes I take out my earbuds while listening to music because I mistake a beat for footsteps. My parents used to not like that I wanted to listen to music while working because according to them, it was distracting me from doing work, and they would take away my headphones sometimes lol

[@potoos.-.5605]

​@@Grady1285I pretty much listen to music all the time in the house but I also wish I didn't because it means my parents can sneak up on me... I'm an adult

[@Dazai.Simp.]

As an atheist I pray for those children

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

Same

[@YourWaterDispenser]

As a veteran atheist I beg for the return of god to save every child in the future

[@rendvl]

Agreed, my fellow atheist.

[@childeofepickness]

god save these poor children 🙏🙏🙏 -agnostic

[@the-supporter]

as a atheist I pray for these children to have cheap therapists when they're older

[@amberjewell3894]

My dad used to tell a "funny story" about how I was smart and deceptive as a baby: I cried when I didn't need anything to trick my parents into coming into the room to interact with me. This apparently demonstrated the sin nature I was born with. So he spanked me for it and eventually I learned to only cry when necessary. I am now no-contact with him.

[@MoodyMickey]

Why do parents think babies and little kids can manipulate them? Maybe an older kid, that's like, 10 years old could. But manipulation is a learned behavior. If someone's kid is being manipulative, they learned that from watching someone else do it, most likely their own parents

[@pissapocalypse]

That's fucking horrific I'm so sorry

[@Starmadien2019]

​@MoodyMickey yeah there's a book called "How to raise up a child." And it claims that when babies cry and don't need food or diaper changes. It is because they're evil and the devil is using them to manipulate the parents and test them. So the solution put forth in the book? Beat your infants, it even includes a passage reminding them to only hit areas covered by clothes and diapers so secular idiots won't call CPS on you. You know that woman The Transformed wife? She and her husband wrote that book.

[@ferretqueen2908]

What in the actual duck? Did he really believe a BABY had the cognitive ability to try and manipulate him? Babies need attention, if you can't deal with that then don't be a parent. Sorry you had to deal with that, your dad sounds like a real d-bag.

[@KaliqueClawthorne]

​@@MoodyMickey also is it really manipulation when they can't really differ between needs and wants? Which even for a young adult sometimes may be difficult.

[@Jamie-wh3ps]

I once came across a "how to raise a gifted child" family group on Facebook. All posts were like "gifted children have issues socializing" and "gifted children have sensory issues" (basically describing signs of autism). My mother is in that group. I am a gifted child.

[@RonanDahlman-ci1ql]

Shit, that means that I’m gifted too!

[@Myder_Dragon]

Ohh I remember having the "g" next to my name in school. Undiagnosed ADHD is wild man

[@lilia3944]

Gifted children do often have issues socializing, autism or not, because their interests tend to differ from their peers. That doesn't change the fact that a lot of gifted children are "twice exceptional" (have developmental disorders like autism and adhd, learning disabilities, etc), and it's easy to overlook those things.

[@BagelEnjoyer]

Was it at least normal/helpful?

[@RonanDahlman-ci1ql]

@@lilia3944 That’s kind of why I don’t like the concept of gifted children, and the concept of putting them on a pedestal, even though there’s other stuff that is going on (ADHD and Autism, both of which I have), and even though I haven’t been through this, I’ve heard horror stories about such. You can admire your child having a gift and help them build and realize that, but maybe also get them some suitable help if something’s amiss, like social skills, struggling in school and stuff. At least that’s what I think, anyway.

[@Chilloutlilbro]

Hitting a literal 20 month old with a belt to make it cry LESS is insane. The absolute worst version of "I'll give you something to cry about" which is already atrocious. How could anyone think like that?? Yikes

[@JaseekaRawr]

The child will most likely develop a personality disorder from that type of abuse, too 😢 through no fault of their own. My parents hit us with hands, belt & switch(which they made us pick ourselves from the tree, it had to be green to be "effective" & not break). I've been wondering lately how early they started hitting us 😢 At least from toddler age, but I wouldn't put it past them to have done it as an infant. 😞 My heart goes out to these children. They're innocent, no one deserves abuse!

[@naolucillerandom5280]

@@JaseekaRawr I was on the fence on whether my mother was really that bad or I was just too sensitive. Then my little sister, only 3 years old at the time, started waking up in the middle of the night crying, begging my mother in her nightmares to stop. That particular speck of hatred will never leave me.

[@RiveroftheWither]

The child probably cries in the middle of the night because they're in constant, severe pain from being beaten every damn day. These people are going to end up killing their poor child.

[@gabrote42]

Here's a handy dandy flowchart! 1) Is your kid old enough to use reason? If yes, go to 2, else go to 4 2) Then use reason. Go to 3 3) Stop beating your kids, idiot! 4) Then they won't understand why they are getting beaten. Go to 3. This one made the rounds 8 years ago. It really is that simple.

[@weasel7491]

Met someone like that. My dad's grandma. She was so polite and sweet and all cutesy, nice old lady. Then she pulled out a journal with all the records of her spanking my dad. She was proud and nostalgic over it. It started at 6 months. Same thing. In neat cursive "wouldn't stop crying." As a reason. For spanking a baby. It kind of sits with you permanently but your mind never wraps around it. People like that exist. And breathe. And have no idea what they do is wrong.

[@marissabulso6439]

I lost it when the woman confused the parenting group with the goat group. I’ve never gone from pure horror to hysterical laughing/relief so fast. 😭😭😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@lexwithbub]

That was so funny. I was thinking she seemed WAY too unphased about "losing a kid" 😂 like she dropped it into the conversation so nonchalantly. Then she said goat😂

[@ferro9926]

Fun fact! Your body won't let you starve to death willingly, instead, your brain will loosen your morals, that's one of the theories behind wendigo stories and such

[@sabinajoh]

I mean yeah makes sense When cannibalism has happened it seems to have been out of desperation

[@EepBleep]

When i see smth like this I always think of jamestown

[@linpittsburgh2375]

So-pay the babysitter more than $2 an hour or they may eat your children? Sounds correct actually

[@ferro9926]

@@linpittsburgh2375 it'll wind up being the dog or cat first (if either is present)

[@Kaceyjane123]

@@linpittsburgh2375😂😂🤌

[@nattandroses]

for the mom who wants a boy - try listening to alternative music and eating carrots, it works in the sims 🤷🏻

[@Feynix4]

You had me in the first half not gonna lie 😂

[@mapelberg]

It's a technique as good as any. 🤷

[@fanficYAOIyNOYAOI]

And strawberrys and pop music if you want a girl 😂

[@andpeg]

And for twins a cheesecake 🤩

[@FiveOnAFriday]

And if you change your hair color in the Sims, your babies will have the new color! DNA woo!

[@SpecialInterestShow]

"I was spanked as a kid and I turned out fine" Anyone who thinks hitting children is okay isn't anyone I'd consider "fine"

[@DarkFlamesDarkness]

its always someone who you dont feel comfortable alone with who says it too. I wish I knew why.

[@sopranosinger]

I am in Canada that is considered abuse here, my son is in Delaware he gets spanked so it's just stupid here

[@aahhhhhhhhh]

i was explaining a study that talked abt the effects of spanking, and my dad agreed with what it said, but then said it didnt affect me or my siblings bc it didn't hurt that much lol

[@SpecialInterestShow]

@@sopranosinger are you supporting spanking or speaking against it? I'm a little confused

[@SpecialInterestShow]

@@aahhhhhhhhh easy for him to say!!!

[@KingYoite]

Regarding the "License for having children" thing, I think an ethically acceptable option would be mandatory parenting and first aid classes(maybe some basic biology too) for ALL expecting parents. Both parents should be forced to learn how to properly raise a child and take care of their basic needs. If the parent is deemed mentally unfit to care for a child then the child could be taken.

[@thectyptid00]

not even for expecting parents, but for people who want to become parents in near future (otherwise the number of kids in orphanages and foster care system will skyrocket)

[@notmyhairyarmpits]

Hopefully the classes will be taught by diverse groups of people as well.

[@thesaltycat9493]

The only fear I have with that is the historical weaponization of calling someone "mentally unfit". There've been a lot of times in the past where queer and neurodivergent individuals who are **perfectly** capable of something are banned from that thing under the pretenses of being "mentally unfit" when in reality it was just homophobia or ableism. An example being the difficulties many queer couples worldwide have when trying to adopt (as far as I'm aware, at least). Classes though, that are at least strongly encouraged somehow, I absolutely think would be beneficial.

[@tomlxyz]

What about people who are theoretically capable but just don't care enough? Or parents who get the license but then don't apply it? I'm not sure how to fill all the holes without having mandatory sterilization for unfit people but that's unethical

[@ttintagel]

Yeah, the parenting license thing can only lead to eugenics. But you could have something like a tax penalty for parents who refuse to take a science-based parenting class. It wouldn't completely wipe out bad parenting, but it would absolutely help a lot of families. And the penalties collected from other parents would help fund things like counseling and foster care for the kids who aren't helped, plus the actual classes.

[@The_wyvern_wynnedow]

I would imagine a kid named tinderleigh would get bullied SO bad

[@jorgelotr3752]

Not if there's an AshleyMadisoneigh in the same class!

[@elin_]

​@@jorgelotr3752or literally just one named Ashley Madison.

[@christineheminger7762]

Could claim Mom just can’t spell Tenderly

[@jorgelotr3752]

@@elin_ I was going to say that, but the comments were all leaning on the "-eigh" too much.

[@elin_]

@@jorgelotr3752 Alrighteigh 😂

[@noneofyobiznizz9516]

I wish my parents had named me for where I was conceived, but I think that "BackSeatofaChevyDuringaMormonChurchDance" was just too long.

[@beththegreen]

BSOACDAMCD could be a cute nickname ❤❤

[@ajparadise6649]

OMFG as an ex mormon I DIED

[@WarpigA23]

I was conceived in the Boundary Waters Canoe Area Wilderness in northern Minnesota. I was 17 when I learned that. I did NOT ask for details!

[@chicks417]

Mine would have been "sleepingwithmarriagecouncilorpastorIamgoingto" 😂 way too long

[@ayla6854]

Mine would be "UnplannedbutWanted"

[@doggie689]

The fact that literally anyone can become a parent if they want to is terrifying.

[@arielruby13]

Even worse: someone can become a parent even if they dont want to. Which will make them resent the kid a lot

[@FrancisR420]

​​@@arielruby13Even even worse in some states someone can assault a stranger and then they will be forced by the local government to deliver a child that The r****t will have full rights too. That's the actual state of the law in America.

[@Watcher1134]

If you want a good Male role model ANSON MOUNT'S AS CHRISTOPHER PIKE!!!!!! He is the pinnacle of non-toxic masculinity

[@-epistemus]

So I know there is so many reasons why this is a bad idea: but there needs to be a test for people before they are allowed to have children.

[@waffles3629]

Sadly that's not always true, you can't always become a parent just because you want to. I'd love to be a parent, but adoption is criminally expensive.

[@owlishgamer2937]

Lol, that lady who was so adamant that her daughter wasn't pregnant because she was on the pill. I was an Accidentleigh because my own mother's pills stopped working. 😂

[@iclynnx]

I think I remember my mother had also missed the pills and my dad was in the mood. And my mother shouldn't really have had kids, she said herself, so I'm a Mistakeleigh. Don't worry too much though, she does love me and doesn't hold anything against her childrens' existence. Edit: Genuinely, why did this get likes...?

[@elaexplorer]

Yeah, they often fail to tell people that a bunch of stuff can weaken the effectiveness of the pill. Including cold medicines, so special precautions should be taken.

[@aleksabanjevic8316]

"Well, an anvil fell on them and broke their neck" "but they had a helmet" "OK, but their neck is clearly broken" "that can't be, they had a helmet on, check again"

[@amandabaker4678]

Is it wrong that it makes me feel a little better that at least we can know that one wasn't from the US?

[@Authenticallyathena]

I was too

[@carleighbeth1]

My 17 yr old told me they were worried about one of their friends ending up pregnant, because her Mom was all abstinence only chastity yada yada, my response was to hand my teen a box of condoms large enough to share.

[@Gyhldepts]

You sound a bit like my mom. Her view was "If you're going to do something, you'll do it whether or not I agree, so let me help you do these things safely". This is why my friends with controlling parents all but lived with me all through high school. They knew my house was a safe space basically.

[@Nobody_Fn_Important]

you two give me a bit of hope, that there are good people and good parents out there. thanks for posting.

[@desperadox7565]

👍

[@mamasimmerplays4702]

Good thinking. Do you have a plan for making sure they have an ongoing supply available as needed?

[@jinx18e]

My mother who had my sister at 17 told me I wasn't allowed birth control for my painful periods. They were making me miss school but she said I would just start having sex if I got birth control. I already miscarried my first pregnancy at tha point.

[@furrybastard27]

It’s wild that parents think that spanking small kids is ok at all. They *will* remember. Heck, I remember my grandma smacking my hand away with a spoon in the kitchen a little too hard when I was maybe 6. Kids always remember stuff like that, even if their parents don’t.

[@Feynix4]

The axe forgets but the tree remembers

[@aduckofsomesort]

And at that young they don’t remember the same way as older children and adults do, it will just manifest and seemingly random issues that put together greatly negatively impact their life.

[@fryingpanvan]

I literally was talking to my mom about it and pointed out that i literally can't remember why i got whooped. Just that she'd hit me. I can recall the stupid reasons ( not wearing a bra at age 9, refusing medication at age 15, getting a B) but nothing else

[@noaccount2494]

heyoooo my first memory is of me being 3 and being stripped to my underwear and tossed in a pool by my mother and told to sink or swim. I was drowning until a guy that was a friend of a friend of a friend type Id never met before pulled me to the edge of the pool. I've had life long phobia of deep water now. Yayyy parenting

[@alisemaleneohme4666]

I never liked my moms father as much as my other grandparents. Many small reasons, but the biggest I think was that time he got angry because I cut away the fat on the meat I was eating. The memory is a little sweet to me though, since my mom stood up for me. "Dear God, dad, we're not in the war anymore and she can cut away whatever she wants!"

[@kishaa819]

I was 22 when I had my baby. I lived in Detroit and was on Medicaid because I was jobless. I got all sorts of free classes about child birth and how to take care of my new baby, and after she was born, a nurse came to the house every few weeks to check on me and make sure we were doing well. It was actually really awesome. All new parents should get this.

[@indigopines]

Out of curiosity, was this because of the Medicaid, or is this a Detroit thing? It does sound awesome

[@kishaa819]

@@indigopineswell Medicaid paid for a lot of it, but the classes were a Detroit thing.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

You're fortunate and I'm soooo glad you were able to get that support! That is amazing to hear! Unfortunately, not everyone is eligible for Medicaid and each state runs their programs differently. In my state, we have the lowest income and financial guidelines in the US and it doesn't cover nearly as much as other states do. I've worked with many people with disabilities and older adults that are able to get Medicaid and many who aren't eligible or couldn't get all the services they needed. Although, there is good news, children's Medicaid here does cover a lot more than other Medicaid programs and the income guidelines are much higher than all the others. But it still doesn't cover as much as other states do. I wish things were the same everywhere so people can get these services like you did.

[@kimhohlmayer7018]

I knew a guy personally who was a fabulous human being. He was kind, caring, and a joyous gem among the gravel that is humanity. His parents smoked constantly as he grew up including in cars. He never smoked. He died of lung cancer before he was 30.

[@user-tq9pv1zw6x]

My mom smoked heavily while pregnant with me. Both my parents smoked until I was 10. I was born with Asthma and was very allergic. I was diagnosed with COPD when I was 32. I hate them for this.

[@thatdisabledprincess]

Some wholesome parents for y'all: My mom has been learning and growing lately! She's been doing some more self-reflecting and realizing where she went wrong, and our relationship is tentatively getting better. I'm a little more comfortable using my disability aids and being disabled around her.

[@worm4969]

that's great! I hope things keep improving for you two :)

[@ViktorErikFade]

Glad to hear that, I hope my mother eventually has a turn around as well Glad you can be open about using disability aids around her, I'm not personally physically disabled but I can imagine you feel much better being able to do that

[@thecatherd]

My mom is the same! We reconnected several years ago and since then she's become one of my closest friends. She's become a huge queer ally and has been very open in learning about my disabilities. Everyone is capable of change, if they so desire it. :)

[@WobblesandBean]

Congrats. I wish the rest of our moms could do the same. I know mine never will.

[@alphabetafoxtrotwolf4873]

@@thecatherd i honestly don't know if I believe everyone is capable of change if they desire it.. My parents always say how much they've changed and are growing, and learning how to be better because they want a relationship with me, but they just find different ways of doing the same behavior and then tell me I'm the problem because I'm just not giving them a chance. You may be thinking that that means they don't truly want the change then, but its more complicated than that I think. They're so utterly blind to their own behavior that I'm not sure wanting the change is enough. I'm glad that glad you've been able to reconnect though, I'm happy for you!

[@Matpit18]

“All kids should have parents, but not all parents should have kids” is a saying that I agree with more and more with each and every one of these videos

[@localloserkid]

@ my parents 😎

[@AIHumanEquality]

All parents should marry kids.

[@thestoryKeeper123]

​@@AIHumanEquality what 🤨

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@thestoryKeeper123 What?

[@Wolfie54545]

Oh god not this saying again

[@lyn6768]

It should be considered child endangerment and punishable by law when parents refuse to take kid to doctor.

[@T0xXx1k]

I don't know what country you're in but in USA there's religious exemptions. So basically if your child dies from lack of medical care cuz you believed in leaving it in 'God's hands' that's completely acceptable and not punishable. There families that have multiple kids 1 or more die from a simple sickness that a Dr visit or otc meds could solve. They do nothing but pray. The child(ren) die the remaining children aren't in any 'danger of removal. Those ppl will even have more children and in some cases lose more children etc and they tick the box for religious exemption and that's that. It's a shame..

[@SingingSealRiana]

IT IS!!! At least where I am from

[@user-tq9pv1zw6x]

Yes.

[@bkholch8179]

I related to the mom who pushed her baby out fast so she could eat!!! The first thing I asked when my daughter was born was “is she healthy?” The second was “can I have a sandwich?” And I got the best turkey sandwich, orange juice and chocolate chip cookie of my life!

[@AIHumanEquality]

Well yeah the strain that would take on your body would leave you in need of refueling.

[@blitzboy2934]

The trifecta of a Turkey sandwich, orange juice, and a cookie is something else.

[@MichelleHartzPhZ]

Re: The kid with THC in his urine... I bet his mom is an Herbalife hun. There's been some THC found in some of their CBD products. And being in an MLM would fit in perfectly with some of her other beliefs, like home birth, etc. "I don't need a doctor, I just drink a smoothie."

[@deadlymelody27]

Yeah CBD should not show up as THC on a urine screen.... unless it's a really bad product. There are so many issues with herbalife they absolutely should not be giving it to kids regardless. But also just, why are they giving cbd to their child, chances are they dont need it.

[@UnicornsPoopRainbows]

This. If your CBD stuff is legit, it won't have THC or such a little amount, it wouldn't show up in a urine test. I'd bet money that they smoke pot around their kids tho

[@thatgirl_klutz9664]

Funny you say that-QSciences is another MLM that’s in hot water right now for not disclosing that their product had THC in it. Plus a lot of these Facebook moms are part of an MLM.

[@foxoninetails_]

As a former Connor myself, I can very much confirm that it is a red flag conservative baby name. Not a big fan of Connor, he was a jackass and locked me in a closet for about a decade.

[@TheCrystallizedVoid]

Congrats on eventually breaking out XD

[@foxoninetails_]

@@AIHumanEquality No thank you, I'm married.

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@foxoninetails_ Oh two for one lockup. Even better. 😼

[@foxoninetails_]

@@AIHumanEquality Stop propositioning people for sex in the KZbin comments. It doesn't make people want to do it with you, in fact quite the opposite. Touch grass.

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@foxoninetails_ I see you're new to the internet or maybe socializing in general. This here is what we call a joke, much like you taking everything literally and seriously will get yourself labelled as one too.

[@kimielle]

When I was pregnant I had one friend who was so adamant that I should have a home birth. That hospitals destroy the 'positive energy' of becoming a new mother. I said no. So many things could go wrong in a home birth and at the time I had read some horror stories about unqualified nurses performing home birth deliveries, and even nurses who refused to call an ambulance when something went wrong. I lost that friend over the home birth argument Flash forward a few months and I had to be induced at ten months (there's a reason it went so long past due that was for the baby's health. He had a heart condition and the doctors wanted him to be as big as possible in case he needed immediate surgery upon birth). As it happened a lot went wrong. My contractions stopped completely after 1 hour. I was fully dilated but the baby was in distress. We likely both would have died if it was a home birth because I bled and bled and the contractions needed to be forced by injections of a drug, and even then the doctors had to use a pump to pull my baby out. I hope wherever she is, home birth girl is stubbing her toe and stepping on legos.

[@LenaFerrari]

In my neonatal internship (I'm a final year medical student) I was tought that the first thing to do when a mom and a baby, or a delivering mom arrives at the hospital after a home birth gone wrong is to call the cops. They need to be notified, bc the doctor who first attends the child is considered responsible, and the kid and the mom may arrive with complications from home that you need to "wash your hands" before hand by notifying it was a home birth first. In other words, home births are so dangerous that we need to be taught how to not get in trouble for it, and also this is the type of people who sue doctors that weren't able to save their child after the stupid idea they had put them in danger

[@AIHumanEquality]

Humans: Invent medical technology to make things like birth easier. Some future humans: Hospital births ruin the birthing process. Every doctor and scientist on the planet: 🤦

[@estarramanderley8172]

The good I take away from my difficult (hospital) birth, aside my son of course, is that I can shut up all my natural homeopathy crystal social network with "My son and I would have died had I given birth at home." 😊

[@loiracitr]

I hope your boy and you are doing great!

[@kimielle]

​@@loiracitr thank! He's doing amazingly well. His prognosis is good after corrective surgery and he's setting himself up academically to go into the video game industry (as much as a 14 year old can)

[@TheVarulfen]

I can't help but agree with Click's sentiment on a "parent's license", kind of like a driver's license. Maybe not forbid people from procreating, but offer additional benefits for taking extensive (government funded) courses and training.

[@LittleMaitea]

There are countries that do that. Still not everyone uses these or other services because of pride/shame. Not everyone is made for this so erasing the stigmas of abortion or giving up adoption would help there.

[@cathleenc6943]

An incentive would be good, but also just make the pregnancy/childbirthing/parenting classes free. Right now, that sort of thing is very expensive. Also, part of the rise of interest in home births and homeopathic medicine in the past few decades is the increase of working people and families without health insurance. If you want to encourage people to stop thinking that doctors are just trying to scam them for their money, make it so that people with linited funds can get heathcare without having to spend hundreds in a copay in order to get a checkup. If you add together free healthcare, free parenting classes, & free education, it would be amazing how quickly people would stop doing stupid and harmful shite to themselves and their children.

[@minestar2247]

Yum? We already forbid non married people from procreating, so it wouldn't be that much harder to make sure the fiances can actually take the responsability of raising children

[@nowitchisanisland]

@@cathleenc6943 agreed. I feel like providing community and free support for parents would eliminate so much of the dangerous BS that's common for needy/ignorant groups and leave the actually criminal parents in stark contrast.

[@ahassett37]

yeah like how in the US you pay less for auto insurance if you take driver’s ed before you turn 18

[@laurakibben4147]

At 55, i still cannot figure out for the life of me why a couple that cannot concieve and choose to adopt must go through classes, check ups, expensive fees, etc while all the fertile nutbags can just pop out on after another no questions asked. Always has been that way.

[@naamahdarling]

I think the idea is that you have a chance with adoption to MAKE future parents do the learning. So you seize on that chance to try to make a difference. The same way when you buy a pet from a reputable breeder they put a clause in specifying you WILL neuter. It's an attempted intervention intended to reduce future harm. As such, the principle seems okay. As for whether it helps or is done in an equitable way that doesn't further contribute to the massive issues surrounding adoption, I can't say. I see the logic. I just don't know if it actually helps. I tend not to trust people's ability to be normal around the issue of parenting, as the first people to be actually gatekept from becoming parents aren't people who will actually BE bad parents, but rather people deemed bad by the kinds of folks who run adoption agencies.

[@laurakibben4147]

@@naamahdarling Sadly, I don't think anyone is learning from of anything anymore where child rearing is concerned. Too many people won't listen, won't be told or advised, and obviously no one can be controlled.

[@katherinesmallbean3594]

In my (U.S) government class they went over family law, including adoption law, and a lot of that is there to prevent abuse and trafficking. Like, they don't want it to be too easy for just anyone to adopt a kid. They want it to be clear that the people actually have interest in being parents, and want to deter it from being seen as an "easy" way to get a child or two. That's why the process is made to be so rigorous.

[@laurakibben4147]

@@katherinesmallbean3594 Still should have been that way for everyone tho. Just because someone cannot conceive naturally like all the rotten ass parents out there shouldn't make them eyeballed as up to no good.

[@emileetiroletto8003]

I once joined a Facebook support group for Moms with Autistic children thinking I could connect with and support other moms and get reasonable advice on how to be better for my son's sake. Maybe the admins know something I don't, you know? But what I found was heartbreaking. The first five posts were moms ranting about things their children were doing (stimming their minds, taking clothes off, nonverbal littles screaming, etc.) and about how tired and angry they were about their kids being DISABLED. Then there was one post that opened a can of worms. A mom had a nine year old boy with severe autism, and she wanted so bad to give up. She was hopeless and said she regrets having him. The worst part, however, was the comment section. Instead of giving positive advice on what to do, or methods to calm and redirect the kid, the owner of the group and her admins were not only suggesting, but ENCOURAGING the mom to give the boy up. And I went to all the other mom rants and saw them do the same thing in every comment section, basically insinuating that none of these moms are good enough and should give up their kids to the states. They even posted age limits for Safe Haven Baby Boxes so moms had the option to be anonymous. And directions on how to call child services. I made a single post introducing myself and even I got a comment telling me to message them if I ever gave up. Then got links to the Autism Speaks website. I left the group(echo chamber) 45 minutes later, and I quit FB altogether.

[@DarkXSolver17]

As an autistic person, that echo chamber haunts me. Also, typically comments that are longer than four or five lines have the "show more"/"show less" button at the bottom because of how long they are and I'm so confused as to why yours doesn't

[@elaexplorer]

I'd rather they give the child up then hear about how they "accidentally fell in the river/lake"

[@mystoxxiide9043]

god this is awful

[@lunaequinox7333]

As a woman with autism, thank you for never letting it get in the way of loving your child. I promise when he’s my age (20) he’s going to be so grateful for it.

[@emileetiroletto8003]

@@elaexplorer of course. Raising a child is hard enough, and not everyone is equipped to handle a child on the spectrum. But it isn't always the answer. Some moms go to these groups for validation and to not feel alone. Sometimes it's a cry for help, and that's how the post 📯 was worded. If I knew of the resources I know now, I would've reached out and helped but I was so shocked by the whole thread I couldn't stay. Them defaulting to giving the child up instead of resources to help (free counseling for moms, resources for the child to learn and improve) is what I hated.

[@lyndora33864]

The baby goat advice is accurate. Kids (the goat kind) are prone to hypothermia right after birth and you have to raise the temp immediately.

[@zaciswierd8739]

I was trying to find out why click was freaking out bc when I heard the advice I immediately knew it was goat kids lol

[@lilharm]

20:21 it’s a bad idea, but my first thought was “start spanking your husband” if he believes spanking will discourage negative behavior, then spanking him will either discourage him from spanking, or show him it doesn’t discourage anything and only serves to abuse

[@lavinialadlass9432]

That’s not a bad idea actually.

[@naamahdarling]

Orrrr he discovers a whole new world of fun. Which may or may not help his attitude, but could certainly provide some leverage.

[@user-tq9pv1zw6x]

Good idea!

[@penelopeviews7335]

I feel so bad for that baby. A 14 year old mother and antivaxxer grandmother. It'll be super difficult, but I hope they'll be able to pull themself out of that situation when they get older.

[@Nobody_Fn_Important]

I think there's someone on TikTok (surprise) that had a kid at 11. so 14 isn't too early but ye gawds yeah it will be difficult i just hope she knows how to hide the vaxx charts and the doc visits.

[@missamanda2703]

My son has a tattoo strait Bs in college, backpacked Europe, studied in France, had dealt with having 4 parents, a brother with leukemia, 1 of his moms having cancer, and another with diabetes still comes home every weekend 2 with 1 set 2 with the other even with a ft job ft college and a girlfriend. I don't think he can disappoint me. He is a kind, funny, smart, adventurous, resilient, respectful, and talented young man.

[@dominiklehn2866]

4 parents? I mean, good for you guys but I'm confused if this is about divorce and remarrying or polygamy. Either way, good for you. Take care of your children and most of the time they will care about you too. even if your family situation sounds difficult at times, I hope you guys are happy and can live your lives to the fullest regardless

[@desperadox7565]

👍

[@Mother_Kairu]

These parents make me appreciate the fact that my mother actually went to counseling when she noticed raising 3 children alone was too much for her and she wasn't treating us the best but tried her best to be patient and raise us well and has excelled in being an amazing mother as years went.

[@AsheQuinn]

I got physcially ill after hearing the story about the dad who beats his 1 year old everytime he cries at night. My dad used to get beaten to a pulp by his birth parents. And you know what happened? He got taken away and is living his best life with his real, adoptive family. Fuck i hate people

[@AnimeLover-iy5bv]

That goat one got me. I had actually seen a video doing exactly as they described but the thought of doing that to a baby all i could think was "you evil person." So glad this was to help kids and not children

[@nathryl03]

Yeah, it got me too, but than I thought "wait, plastic bag?? pneumonia with low temp??, this is about a goat". I watch a couple sheep and goat farming youtubers, I'm ashamed it even took me a few seconds to figure it out lol.

[@AnimeLover-iy5bv]

@@nathryl03 lol. I usually only see the shorts so my brain was not wired for it

[@UnicornsPoopRainbows]

​@@AnimeLover-iy5bvDitto. I was like, why are we putting kids in plastic bags. Water won't hurt them, we aren't cooking the children..then saw goat and it all clicked 😂 I'm so glad she didn't delete her comment, that was gold 🤣🤣

[@Shuang_Shuang]

The one with "my husband bests our baby with a belt for waking up during the night" genuinely made me cry. I don't even have anything else to comment, it's just truly horrifying. That poor little child (honestly all the kids in this video are, but oh my god)

[@SingingSealRiana]

Yeah, IT IS so so Bad . . .i do Not even Like Kids,.never did and this makes me want to cry

[@user-tq9pv1zw6x]

I had two parents like this. My heart goes out to this child.

[@stuffedninja1337]

Commenting twice because of the Food Baby story: my cousin’s second kid, she went into labour, and her fiancé ordered a pizza, since everyone thought they were gonna be there awhile (cousin included, she was fine with it). Lo and behold, kiddo arrives before the pizza does. Warms my heart that one of her first smells was a goddamn pizza. xD

[@hemulek]

They should name kid Pepper. As pepperoni 😂

[@Roadent1241]

I think that child remembered pizza from a past life and just wanted.

[@janemiettinen5176]

I have a birth & pizza story too; my sister was having her 4th & last kid, had just ordered a pizza in a pizza place, when her water broke. She just casually waddles back to the car, yells for her husband to be sure to get the food to go “if he wants to keep living” and they drive to the hospital, sis enjoying half of said pizza on the way. Nephew is out in 45mins, sis convinces the docs to release them after two hours, she cant really sleep or eat if admitted. Docs want to keep them in for one night, but she is stubborn mommy of four now and eventually gets her way. Sis eats the other half on their drive back home, like none of this was anything major, like its everyday thing to go out for pizza and return with new family member.. I have asked what sorta pizza it was, no idea, she just remembers it was exceptionally delicious. She tells this story way better than me, but I thought it fits here perfectly, its one of my favorites :)

[@AIHumanEquality]

You don't need to announce that you're commenting twice. Commenting isn't a restriction or crime.

[@stuffedninja1337]

@@janemiettinen5176 Your sister is a goddamn hero.

[@WishGender]

If you REALLY wanted to name a girl after tinder, I'd go with Cinder. It's somewhat gender neutral and you can use the nickname Cindy.

[@christineheminger7762]

Bullies say, “Is your middle name Ella?” Sorry. Bullies will bully. One thing we can do is try not to make it easier for them to do it

[@Window4503]

@@christineheminger7762If they want to, they will anyway. They’ll change a name’s gender, shorten it to something dumb, rhyme it, make a pop culture reference…even “normal” names aren’t safe and can sometimes be worse because they’re even more flexible. I think some names are absolutely ridiculous but don’t underestimate how creative bullies can be when they want. At some point you just have to realize you can’t outname them.

[@AIHumanEquality]

Everyone would relate you to Cinder from RWBY.

[@WishGender]

@@christineheminger7762 there's not a single name you could choose that would keep bullies from bullying. besides, even if they don't make fun of someone for their name, they'll probably find some other way to do it. Also I would highly recommend not naming your child after tinder, but at least Cinder isn't Tinderleigh

[@yuki97kira]

I honestly would go with cinderella...as its associated with the fairytale princess and you can tell people that..but cinder only meant the ashes from the fireplace, which becomes cinderella's name because she slept by the fireplace and covered in ashes

[@it_steatime]

I hate this, I hate how so many people don't even consider their kids as an individual human being but just an accessory. So many people have kids just because it's expected to be the next stage in adults life and don't realise what does it even mean to have kids and raise them. This. Must. Change.

[@Keaynyx]

once found out my mother was in a mom group, how? you may be asking. well i installed facebook secretly without knowing it would recomend my moms profile to me, clicked on her profile and found out she was in a mom group for kids with mental issues ( i have anger issues ) now, me being curious i joined the group to see what she said about me. SHE SAID MY ANGER ISSUES WERE BECAUSE IM A "MASCULINE" FEMALE

[@Shava.]

NAHHH..

[@analusboxhole864]

Yikes

[@Window4503]

That’s so dumb. You can be female and feel angry without it needing to be a gender identity issue. You’re not “masculine”, you just have struggles (assuming the anger part is true and not exaggeration on your mom’s part).

[@arielruby13]

Why do people gender emotions? Anger is part of human nature. It does become an issue if it is uncontrolled and just dished out a lot

[@kenyaillianart4346]

Just put pink tutus on violent criminals and they’ll all be reformed in no time 👍

[@knowwhoiamyet]

Naming a child "Tinderleigh" because you met on Tinder is the barely more matured version of the teenage "If we Mike and Kathy had a baby it would be named Mathy" that ran rampant in my school growing up.

[@Ammiteur9]

It's also pretty self centered in my opinion. Feels like they view their child more as an extention to their love life instead of an individual.

[@evan3556]

I dated a Tarol once way back in 2000. His parents were Tom and Carol 😅

[@cleobozart9478]

I guess Mathy is better than Kike

[@flyingwaytooclosetothesun]

11:07 (the mom talking about her 20 month old) i had night terrors well into being a teenager, i’d wake up screaming and crying. my mom would fall asleep in my bed with me and when i inevitably woke up, she would stay up with me and help me calm down. i’ll never understand parents that aren’t there for their kids

[@starrycharacter]

I'm so glad you had someone to support you through that ❤ as someone who has never really gotten support I'm glad to hear stories of parents actually supporting their kids/gen

[@esmeraldaloschuetz9120]

For whoever needs to hear this: Corporal punishment absolutely does harm children. This has been a consensus in the professional community for a while now. There are studies upon studies about this. The right of every child to grow up free of violence is in the UN human rights charta since like the eighties, if I'm not mistaken, and with good reason. Most developed countries have forbidden corporal punishments at least in schools. Apart from well researched and documented psychological damage (often long-lasting) - the younger the child, the more severe physical harm can be done by even just "mild" corporal punishments. For example, there is a thing called "shaken baby syndrom". An infant's brain can literally take permanent damage up to death if the kid is being shaken violently. Children's bodies and minds are extremely fragile and sensitive. What seems "mild" to us can have a huge effect. Also: It baffles me that this has to be said, but a baby, especially an INFANT, will not "understand" that it is being "punished" or why. It doesn't have the mental framework yet for cause and effect, let alone right and wrong. It doesn't perceive time same as we, it can't interpret its surroundings or people's actions. It doesn't have a sense of self yet. It's not a dog you have to train as soon as it pops out of the womb. It is completely and utterly helpless and dependent on the caregiver. All it knows are wants / needs, and pains. Making noise is its only way to communicate, and it is done non-consciously. The infant is not evil, it is not out to get you, it is not punishing you. It's being a baby. When you think your baby is "being nasty on purpose", you are projecting your own shit on someone that wouldn't recognise themselves in the mirror. All what beatings at that early age will do is cause serious damage to the child's development and psyche, and very likely, body.

[@gabrote42]

Very well put.

[@samthescotsman]

yeah, my mum smacked me as a kid until the government said it was wrong and i eventially got her to believe it (she has always had a stupid thing where she insisnts im lying if she has not heard/seen it) and at 29 i still vividly remember how distressing it was and she did not do it that hard

[@dragonwolfzero820]

agree. Any kind of abuse and abusive punishment is permanently damaging to a child. I only received physical punishment up to the age of 7 I think. after that it was all verbal abuse the physical punishment left me with a horrible mix of touch repulse and deprivation. I'm slowly getting used to the friendly and literally harmless touches from people at work. the verbal abuse left me with the fear that nothing I have concerns about are actually real issues (specifically dealing with this about social problems at work as an adult) When I get too stressed to continue dealing with a situation or I become miserable enough in a situation I will finally find someone to talk to and they'll wonder why I didn't seek help sooner. Like you can't just tell your supervisors and managers that you always feel like you're wrong bc of how you were raised

[@esmeraldaloschuetz9120]

@@gabrote42Thanks. I made my final exam project in art school about child abuse and its effects, basically. So I've read tons about it. Horrific stuff.

[@esmeraldaloschuetz9120]

@@dragonwolfzero820 Thanks for sharing, I'm so sorry you had and have to go through that! All the strength!

[@lizzykayOT7]

Anti-vax kids do spread diseases, especially highly infectious childhood illnesses. Like measles. Anti-vax is surprisingly popular in France so when these tourists travel guess what pops up in the Caribbean and other countries they travel too?

[@IntrovertedBear]

Surprised Pikachu face.

[@AIHumanEquality]

What data do you have showing it's popular in France? You can't just make a claim with no source.

[@eiramg]

Anti vax popular in France? Nope. When the covid vaccine came out, yes there were some people who weren t keen on getting vaccinated, but just because it was a new vaccine created in a hurry. But that s it.

[@S3lkie-Gutz]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@AIHumanEquality it actually is popular over there, homeopathy was reimbursed until 2019 by the government there too. According to a survey done by Odoxa polling group in 2021 about 58% of the population was skeptical about getting the Bio-NTech vaccine from Pfizer compared to 41% in the USA and 33% in the UK. According to Statista, over 91 percent believe that alternative medicines are effective for treating minor ailments while only 31 percent believe that alternative medicines are less effective than conventional healthcare. The founder of homeopathy, Samuel Hahnemann spent the last eight years of his life in Paris and Laboratoires Boiron, a huge international homeopathy group, is based in France and has a lot of influence over there. Despite the French government taking more initiative to regulate alternative medicine the pseudoscientific mindset is still prevalent among a big part of the general population in France. Some of the hesitancy around vaccines over there have been caused by clinical trial incidents like with the hepatitis b vaccine trial and the blood contamination scare during the 90's as well as a scandal with the diabetes drug Mediator marketed for weight loss which was linked to the deaths of 2,000 people. The anti-vaxx movement is also as old as the introduction of what we know as vaccination today by Edward Jenner for smallpox in the 19th century itself.

[@Titancameraman64]

​@@AIHumanEqualitythey just said it's surprisingly popular. Not that it is popular there could be one person for every 1 million people in France that is anti-vax and if someone is expecting one for every 10 million people then that is surprisingly popular. It definitely isn't popular but it's surprisingly popular

[@FrancisR420]

The post about the guy who beats his baby for crying in the middle of the night and then they're like "why does the baby keep crying if they know they're going to be beat" Why does the adult man keep beating a child when he knows it's just going to cry again? They're nasty.

[@tomlxyz]

4:00 Like someone who said it before: A stranger who's willing to look after your kids for little money is someone who you shouldn't give your kids to

[@tyrstreehouse307]

As a trans guy, Click is definitely my comfort KZbin. He's super sweet and cheers up my day every time!

[@Myder_Dragon]

he is definitely one of the best pro lgbt youtubers on here. Certainly helps me

[@CanadianGoose92]

as a fellow trans guy, I second this

[@KaraTheGirlie]

As a trans girl, love him so much!

[@mynameisvincent.]

real

[@Caelum7913]

Also a trans guy, when I first found Click I actually thought he was trans too because of how cozy his channel is.

[@tedcoop4392]

Young woman is described by her mother as "youthfully stubborn"... I'd never seen "childish" spelled that way

[@leahh663]

A parenting licence is maybe not the way to go, but we definitely need to speak more openly about choosing to have kids or not. As a child-free person, I often get the impression that people never really question if they want to have kids at all. Some people don't even seem to be aware that it is a CHOICE. They just have kids because it is expected of them (especially women), stupid gender roles or they are afraid they will end up lonely (which can still happen, even if you have kids). There is absolutely nothing wrong with having kids but your value as a person doesn't depend on it and we need to stop making people (especially women) feel like it does. We need to stop pushing the ideal of having children/raising a family as the only valid way to live onto others from an early age. Maybe instead of telling teenagers "WHEN you have kids one day", we should tell them "IF you decide to have kids one day, but it's perfectly fine if you don't" more often. I will say this again: your value as a person does not depend on whether you have kids or not. There are many ways to lead a happy life full of love ❤

[@nowitchisanisland]

This ❤ I see where the idea for a parental license comes from but I only see it leading (possibly into eugenics) and removing personal rights, which is already a huge issue. Free parenting classes however, and a lot more support for expecting parents and throughout their child's life would help so much. Even if parents aren't wanting, they still need community and it's often very difficult to find.

[@enderkatze6129]

Tbf, If half the Population decided to Stop having children, society would start to collapse within a few decades as necessary Jobs fail to find new employees to fill the positions

[@ww3196]

YES EXACTLY I HAVE NOTICED THIS TOO. AND ITS SUCH A HUGE ISSUE!!! This was my parents (particularly my mom). And guess what? She was very abusive, an anti-vaxxer (who used all the homeopathic "remedies" and genuinely thought ADHD was caused by pesticides), and she bought into all kinds of conspiracy theories (my parents used to UNIRONICALLY watch Alex Jones)....

[@minestar2247]

True, personal freedom and all that, But, you kinda need people making children for the human race to continue. Without that, Europe and east Asia are having population crises because of the low birth rates

[@coinsilver3]

Why is everyone assuming that if given a choice, ALL women will refuse to have children? Even with good support available? Regardless if they should?

[@NoelUmbra]

Ik it's weird to be seeking medical advice online before talking to a doctor, but I get it in some cases. Here in America, doctors aren't cheap, so I get not wanting to waste money on what could potentially be "no big deal." I will say, if your child is violently vomiting from eating pillow marshmallows, *maybe* it'd be a good idea to seek help asap.

[@amandabaker4678]

Good point, although the mom with the pregnant daughter said her daughter was gaining Kilos instead of Lbs, which likely means she lives somewhere with at least some measure of universal healthcare - so she doesn't have that excuse!

[@TheElf_Online]

Always have to consult the discord server before I decide to call the doctor to see if it’s normal. Have to make sure it’s worth paying for the doctors appointment. (This is like. Only partially sarcasm)

[@JaseekaRawr]

Exactly. The popularity of antivax & alt medicine is directly linked to our for-profit, corrupt system. I remember desperately googling home remedies for UTIs when I was in the US. I'm now in a 3rd world country & have better health, mental & dental than I ever did in the US! When I first got to South India & saw how CHEAP meds are here, I was angry & disgusted, bc I realized how badly Americans are ripped off. Also I actually admin a niche mom group on FB. It's so hard to try to explain to them that you can 100% hate big pharma & its greed/corruption, but also trust science at the same time. I'm an anticapitalist so I recognize exactly *why* the system is corrupt. Boggles my mind that ppl can explain the corruption directly due to capitalism yet defend it as the "best system" at the same time!

[@NoelUmbra]

@@amandabaker4678 true

[@UnicornsPoopRainbows]

I'm in Korea and have access to affordable health care. Unfortunately, some of the older docs have wildly outdated info and some other docs bribe their way through the system so consulting some local foreign mom fb groups is really helpful. You can get an idea of what the doc might ask, what the dx might be and research it. If you have a good doc and it is their day off, you gotta be prepared for some stupid BS. Anecdote: my 6mo had a textbook fungal diaper rash. Went to a good hospital, saw the freshly graduated doc. He told us to do absolutely nothing and if it gets worse, the entire family needs to take antibiotics because if there is no bacteria, there is no infection. Big brain stuff right there. I have IBS, I don't mess with my gut biome if not necessary. Plus, our poor kid was soooo uncomfortable and my medical knowledge picked up over the years was screaming BS. It was too late for any non ER visits so I looked up the OTC meds for a fungal rash commonly prescribed in the UK (NHIS has a good website) and sent my husband to the pharmacy with a list. He came back with one and 30min later, baby's rash was 50% better already. We complained the next time we were at the hospital and that doc slowly had his hours cut until he disappeared from the pediatric unit. Now, when similar questions get raised in our local mom FB groups, I can suggest the OTC meds if it is on the weekend with a suggestion to see the doc asap but try this cream in the meantime. ER visits here are $100 and usually useless unless you are profusely bleeding. Srsly, one ER visit when my 2yo wasn't walking and kept crying when trying to put pressure on her leg resulted in "take ibuprofen and check up with a pediatrician if she still can't walk on Monday" That was my initial treatment plan I only know basic first aid ffs

[@christinamann3640]

I can already imagine Rae Cism changing his name the minute he becomes adult and proposes to his boyfriend

[@lydiaboll2872]

Plz! 😂

[@christinamann3640]

@@lydiaboll2872 it could happen

[@magical_chaos]

13:54 Yeah ! All I learned from my mother, who emotionally neglected me, invaded my privacy, ignored my boundaries and couldn't accept me for who I was were as following: 1. How to tell a lie and get away with it 2. How to listen for footsteps 3. How to hide things on my phone despite her having access to everything 4. How to hide anything in my room without her finding it (I hid a 2nd phone and charger within a pikachu plush (the tail was ripped off and fully ruined by my brother when I was 7, thus causing there to be a hole, thus I took out some stuffing, hid things in there and then put it back in the corner of my bed)

[@Temitooo]

The stuff you learnt is scarily relatable for me

[@bazzfromthebackground3696]

Don't forget the ability to move any door, or across any floor board, without making noise.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150]

Fun Fact: People in the Medieval Period actually bathed fairly regularly. Given that the majority of the population would be peasants, and the most common job was working in the fields, it was necessary for most people to wash themselves after coming home. There were communal baths, like in ancient Rome, or in Asian countries today. Special scented soaps were a common gift. Some historians have even described the Medieval Period as a bathing culture. Which means that mother who only washed her infant once a month has absolutely no excuse.

[@Nigolasy]

23:00 germany has a similar saying: "Dreck reinigt den Magen" - "dirt cleans the stomach" Definetly doesn't include toxic waste inside mattress foam

[@SomeRandomKydd]

Timestamp 25:57 - Granted "kid" originally referred exclusively to young goats, this is why medical and other official certificates still only use the word "child" in their printing. If the reference to the infants was exculsively "kid" or a species ambiguous term they could have been simply confused.

[@vanessacallahan3515]

We call those ‘crunchy mom groups’. Homeopathic, Naturopathy doctors and anti vax.

[@aleksabanjevic8316]

I think a lot of this homeopathic and home remedy things are getting a way worse rep than actually deserved cuz of this ppl. Can hot soup and tea cure cancer, no, can it help keep immunity up during a simple cold while taking medicine as well, yes. The issue isn't that all this stuff exists (except antivex) it's that some ppl wanna replace real medicine with it, while not all of it is really that bad, like essential oils and stuff, it isn't that bad, and can actually help, as long as u follow real medicine as well

[@vickypedia1308]

​​@@aleksabanjevic8316I like to take home remedies and herbal medicines along with the other stuff you get prescribed from the doctor. Regardless of if the remedies themselves actually help or not, I noticed that I tend to get pretty strong placebo effects anyway (both for positive as well as negative symptoms such as side effects), so a herbal medicine or home remedy is going to have some effect on me one way or another. It's also a good idea to take in all the options and try multiple things, as long as they're not dangerous and don't interact with each other badly. Unfortunately with the way some people are about natural medicine I always feel a bit weird when I go looking for it.

[@mineash2945]

@@aleksabanjevic8316 Exactly. Aromatherpy is one of the best things for my insomnia, but whenever i talk ab it i end up sounding crazy because of them. >:(

[@janmeyer3129]

Old fashioned aromatherapy for sleep = the smell of fresh bedclothes dried in the sun over the rosemary & lavender hedge

[@clockside]

​@@mineash2945"Holistic medicine" is when you're taking care of your body, mind, and "spirit" as a whole and often includes things like aromatherapy as part of how they encourage that. Your mind is a powerful part of sleep, after all, and the sense of smell has strong scientific evidence supporting its links to the impacts it can have on your mental state. Basically I was just thinking it might help you out with avoiding misconceptions if you look into concepts related to holistic healthcare/medicine. At the very least it's definitely supportive of what you and the person above you wrote in your comments. ^_^

[@HeySlothKid]

Honestly the cupcake thing made me laugh as without the "secret code" context it seems as if her family have very strong opinions on the high frosting-to-cake ratio of certain baked goods

[@TheShinofangirl]

You should do a bingo card for wedding shaming. Some slots might be; overly casual, crazy ex stuff, body shaming, demand money, actually wholesome, in a wedding dress but not the bride, and stealing the spotlight.

[@alexw.7097]

Ridiculous Expectations (Either the amount of money "needed" or behavior expected from guests, ie, members of the bridal party needing to modify their looks for the wedding.) Parents Causing Problems, Wedding "Pranks." I'm not familiar enough with the sub to come up with more off the top of my head.

[@stefaniewimmer7077]

Insane in laws

[@LittleMaitea]

@@alexw.7097and „I’m not paying you“ For all the poor family, friends and even regular businesses they try to force into not reviving any compensation for their extra work

[@alexw.7097]

Oh and "It's supposed to be MY PERFECT DAY"

[@LittleMaitea]

Another one maybe for the middle is „Straight to Annulment“ And „Passive Aggressive Texting“

[@peteruz8391]

I honestly don't understand what these parents are thinking. "Oh, your child is sick? Just rub onions on them!"

[@Gloomdrake]

They’re not

[@AIHumanEquality]

Thinking? You give them too much credit.

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

They are thinking with their pinky toe

[@jzpowell2108]

I mean onions are good for you… that is if they are ingested

[@tatiana4050]

They are delusional. It's clearly supposed be garlic. Due to it's antibacterial, antifungal and antivampiric properties.

[@funnyusername8635]

My parents had a similar experience to the woman who had the newborn in NICU and later became an RN because of it. They were involved in a church that was whatever the early 80s Christian version of anti-vaxx was. When I was born I almost died. I suspect my mom was convinced by the church to not get medicine during pregnancy that would have made this not happen. They advised my parents to take me out of NICU so they could pray over me at the church. I couldn't breathe on my own. I would have been dead before I even got to the church. My parents were already getting ready to jump ship on this group when I was finally discharged after a few months. The pastor and his wife came with their daughter to visit. The daughter was clearly in the early stages of whooping cough. Turns out my dad is a bit of a momma bear so he kicked them out of the apartment while my mom rushed me away from the sick kid. That was it. They were done. Science education was a regular thing in our house because of that.

[@larslionheart]

Real sigma move would be to leave the typo up. Don't correct it. Use your dyslexia to establish your dominance

[@mackback319]

it's spelled PLAUGE now

[@Trevin_Taylor]

His English is better than my Swedish.

[@thestoryKeeper123]

​@@Trevin_TaylorHis English is better than my English (first language) 😢

[@tipoqueen]

That's almost what I do Almost :(

[@janmeyer3129]

Why do you need to establish dominance?

[@loganmiles7836]

Losing your temper with kids is something that may not seem like it has that many ramifications, but it does. I love my dad so so so much, but there was one time where he was absolutely pissed at me for being probably a total difficult little shit (I was like 9 or 10, and exhausted after a swim meet, so I was absolutely being a little terror and I probably should’ve “known better”), and he grabbed me very hard by the arm and was dragging me out, and I made a scene, and he responded by lifting me off my feet by my throat. It didn’t do any physical damage and I’m pretty sure I could still breathe, but I was absolutely terrified in that moment, and I have had an underlying fear of him ever since. Nothing even remotely like that happened ever again, but that’s all it takes. One moment where your child feels unsafe with you and they may never feel safe with you ever again.

[@lawa3295]

That is heartbreaking. Sure, every parent has/had to carry their kids under their arm or other the shoulder to get them (away from) somewhere. But being lifted up by the throat is very aggressive and even more terrifying if it comes from someone you would have never thought would do so.

[@elliottlupin]

God I had practically the same thing happen to me. Accidentally stepped on my sister's foot when putting on my ski boots, she understandably starts crying, and instead of taking care of her, my dad grabs me by the collar, lifts me up, and starts screaming and swearing at me. I couldn't breathe for probably 10 seconds and it was one of the most terrifying things to happen to me. I have never felt safe or comfortable being around my dad ever since, even though it never happened again.

[@Lectrikfro]

For homeopathic snake bite, what you want to do is find a smaller snake and have it bite you too. That snake venom will kill the snake venom already in your system. Then you just repeat with smaller and smaller snakes. Alternatively, if you don't have a series of smaller snakes, you can try biting the snake back and yelling "NO U!"

[@JRDickens20]

My mom, who is a veterinarian, went to vet school with a guy who got bitten by a cotton mouth. He did bite the snake back before shoving it in the cooler he had with him (he was going fishing I believe) and hightailing it to the er. He lived but the snake died from an infection from the bacteria in his human mouth. She said he was immensely guilty about it later but that he just used whatever he could in his fight response.

[@JRDickens20]

That being said go to the doctor omg!

[@notmyselfbutme8886]

As a kid who was allergic to cigarette smoke and had a parent who used to smoke in the house, it is terrible and really not great. I got asthma in first grade and hate all forms of physical activity because some PE teachers just don't care (I had to leave school a lot for getting ill because of that crusty old man). Not to mention the other factors that second hand smoke can cause for someone who isn't even allergic to it like I am. Luckily, after I got diagnosed my mom stopped smoking in the house but she still smokes in the car sometimes and it's terrible. That stench literally sticks to your hair, let alone the clothes and the backpack. I have to rinse my hair whenever I leave her car to not smell it anymore.

[@jackharton8233]

My mom has been a chain smoker my entire life. Even as a kid, I was stuck in a house with no open windows and her smoking 4-5 packs A DAY. Even knowing me and my dad are allergic. Even when I had chronic bronchitis. My brother and I couldn't even afford school lunches but she could afford 5 packs a day and at least 6 Dr. Peppers a day. It's ridiculous.

[@schrodingerscat3741]

smoking in an enclosed space with your child is child abuse.

[@schrodingerscat3741]

Oh hey, what are the symptoms of your allergy? I've been wondering if my sensitivity to cigarettes is an actual allergy or something else.

[@notmyselfbutme8886]

@@schrodingerscat3741 Well for me if I smell or breath in cigarette smoke I immediately start coughing. It affects me for a while afterwards and can give me a terrible headache. Touching cigarettes also makes my skin tingle but that might just be a mental thing.

[@schrodingerscat3741]

@@notmyselfbutme8886 I've only had headaches and lethargy. I've never tried handling them or had the misfortune to be heavily exposed, though.

[@lalaloo6714]

I had a grandpa who would treat every illness by wearing a necklace made of garlic around his neck to sleep... He died of untreated cancer and diabetes at 60....

[@18Hongo]

Did anyone explain to him that illness is usually caused by germs and not, you know, vampires?

[@plantainsame2049]

​@@18HongoIronically the book dracula is pro listening to the doctor The only reason lucy It's because either her mother or maid didn't listen to the doctor and got rid of all the garlic flowers And opened the window Despite those being things Van helsing Was literally trying to prevent

[@MHG790]

11:32 There is another much sadder explaination. They have experienced this abuse themselves and they view it as normal.

[@KratonWolf]

To be fair about naming things what they are, I named a random horse I caught in LoZ TotK "Horse". I wasn't planning on keeping Horse (it was going to be given to an NPC as part of a sidequest. I caught the horse rather early, but that was the planned reason for it). But then I got kind of attached to Horse after our many adventures together, so when it came time to give the horse away, I ended up catching a new horse to give away instead and kept Horse.

[@bazzfromthebackground3696]

You may call her Epona, but I call her HOOOOOOORSE!

[@PurgatoryProductions1]

it makes me so upset for the kids when parents are upset about the baby's birth sex (almost always when the baby is a girl). even if gender wasn't fluid and made-up, why do they act like it's the end of the world if their baby doesn't have the right genitals? actually, i shouldn't be asking. i know why: internalised misogyny!!! yaaay!!! on a lighter note, that baby goat post sent my into hysterics. i don't doubt that some anti-vax moms would do that, but the casual mention of losing a baby slaughtered me. it's still sad to lose a baby regardless of species, but the way they casually dropped that they lost a baby without providing context is WILD. shoutout to that goat parent for making me laugh, hope the rest of their goats are doing okay.

[@ttintagel]

My father never missed an opportunity to let my sister and me know that he wanted boys instead. He tried to force us to be tomboys, but I never stopped wanting long hair and dresses. When I got too big to have my hair cut short by force, he wouldn't let my mother help me take care of my long hair. So, of course it got tangled and had to be cut again.

[@nathryl03]

@@ttintagel Wow, that's awful. I'm sorry you had to go thru that. That man doesn't deserve the title of father imo.

[@Tamara-ju3lh]

​@@ttintageloh wow that's like the reverse of girls being forced into religious rules (no pants, can't cut hair, must submit to men, etc). That's sad that he tried to change you.

[@PurgatoryProductions1]

@@ttintagel that is horrible. i am so sorry you had to deal with that growing up.

[@arielruby13]

Not mysoginy. It is based on cisheteronormativity an transphobia and cissexism. It is based on people erasing intersex people, and assuming every kid will conform to gendered expectations fhat are placed on them upon finding out which genitals the kid has.

[@brianneporchak3023]

It's not a "parenting license", but before we were allowed to leave the hospital after the birth of our daughter, both my husband and I had to watch several videos about purple crying, shaken baby syndrome, mental health and a few other topics i can't recall anymore. We were made to sign off that we watched and understood the content of the videos and given some resources for help with several things new parents never think of asking for help with. Not sure if it was just my area's health department that did it, or mandatory accross the province, but it was definitely informative.

[@WobblesandBean]

You need a license to drive, a license to sell food, even a license to go fishing. But any psychotic, anti-doctor, anti-comnon sense, abusive person can have a child.

[@dragonwolfzero820]

food is 200x easier to get right then another human being

[@theentity975]

it's ridiculous to make it illegal to get pregnant/impregnate someone else, exactly how its ridiculous to ban abortion. let people make decisions about their own bodies. the thing that would help kids the most is community. its way easier for a kid to get rescued from a bad home life when their neighbors stick up for them. its way easier to raise normal happy healthy people when there's other parents and kids around.

[@Thiefnuker]

@@theentity975 Yeah ikr its so weird how many people are like "Some people are bad parents. What could the solution be? TOTAL STATE CONTROL OF YOUR BODY!" What the fuck?!

[@kamillavalter]

In my homeland couples must go through medical examinations in order to get married. It created nothing but a huge corruption problem. I’d guess a “license to parenting” would cause the same.

[@LucasFernandez-fk8se]

The second we make it mandatory to get a license to have a kid it becomes a dystopia. Are we going to force a mother to abort her child if she’s too incompetent to pass the test? Are we going to discriminate against liberal or conservative parents? Are we going to have racial inequalities on these tests? If different races get different average SAT scores I don’t see how you could get equally distributed parent licenses. That means it could be considered a genocide of some racial demographics if it’s an unequal distribution . What if someone posts something the government dislikes? Is that a parenting license ban? What if someone gets their parenting license revoked mid parenting (aka a child that is born and between 2-18 years old)? Does that mean the child gets repossessed by the government ? There are almost unlimited ways this can turn into genocide and very few ways it can go right imo.

[@irismoon8435]

I know how we could get every single expecting parent to go to parenting and child psychology classes. Offer them for free and at graduation, give them an official certificate of completion that acts like a voucher for free birthing services at any hospital, paid for by the government. As a side effect, the government starts giving a shit about hospital fees, after they have to start footing the bill.

[@wmdkitty]

Oh, now that's a good idea!

[@mamasimmerplays4702]

Or have all essential health care covered like it is in any civilised country, and provide some other benefit for competent parents. An extra tax discount or a welfare boost would be a good incentive - people are used to the idea you get paid more to do a job if you're qualified than if you're not.

[@marvelismylife946]

25:52 omg i was honestly thinking that i saw someone do this with a lamb and it made so much sense a second later

[@mljs9245]

I follow a couple women who raise sheep so I’ve seen the lamb in a bag thing often. I was not thinking of that though when I was thinking a human baby.

[@shy2infinity]

34:04 As someone that grew up with heavy smokers I can tell you right now, TWO windows open is not nearly enough to get rid of it all. All this really amounts to is that the parental figures don't care enough to change their smoking habits for the health of their kid.

[@WarpigA23]

Absolutely! I understand that the nicotine habit can be very hard to kick, but when you can't even be bothered to go outside for the sake of others?

[@MogamiKyoko13]

Ugh, essential oil moms mixing chemicals to make their own scents without knowing anything about what they're doing is genuinely terrifying and also way too close to reality for my peace of mind.

[@S3lkie-Gutz]

All fun and games until they accidentally create mustard gas while cleaning the toilet because they think they know "better"

[@Majora404err01r]

​@@S3lkie-Gutz 💀

[@darcimcdougal966]

My exs sister had a friend that told her if she put a specific oil on her left big toe, it would cure period cramps.

[@simontheewok]

What's really sad is that all of the home ed classes at my middle and high school were cut for budget reasons because "the sciences and sports departments needed it more." We lost out on childcare classes and just general home management classes because the STEM departments needed five 3D printers and the football field needed some new turf. I graduated ten years ago and they still never brought those home ed classes back.

[@mk_squid]

sounds like a slightly different flavor of r/insaneparents, this is gonna be interesting

[@Myder_Dragon]

Parent groups are what I imaging hell must be like. Fire and demons? Not scary. Karens and healing crystals? Oh God have mercy on my soul. At least the demons have a chance to be emotionally supportive as they poke me with pitchforks

[@Sepi-chu_loves_moths]

I love how you're everywhere in the click comments and they're always good :3

[@AIHumanEquality]

Crystals can have some healing properties just not magical ones like these people think.

[@Myder_Dragon]

@@Sepi-chu_loves_moths ahh thanks! Click's content has been so heartwarming so he's one of the few channels that I have with notifications on. He also always posts around the time I'm having lunch so ye I leave a comment pretty quickly after the video goes up.

[@Myder_Dragon]

@@AIHumanEquality uranium

[@AIHumanEquality]

@@Myder_Dragon That's a mineral not a crystal.

[@thajocoth]

9:35 - I've heard of cases where a child winds up raised like a younger sibling to their mother because the mother was too young at the time, but I'm not sure if that's any better of an option in this scenario considering the grandmother that would be raising her instead if they do that. And she's only excited about her grandchild? No rage at wanting to know who the father might be? There are a lot of examples of mothers raging when they shouldn't, but this is the inverse. I'd think maybe she's just not expressing her concerns on social media if not for the fact that she uses social media to ask for major medical advice for her daughter, so I really doubt she's developed any kind of filter like that.

[@JUMALATION1]

I have an acquaintance that insists that her shoving veggies and fruits inside her socks and they darken overnight isn't because of oxidation, but because "all body toxins got dragged out". I really really thought she was smarter than this. When confronted with logic and facts, she said like "Hmph. Well, I'll go do my own research."

[@TimmyTheNerd]

There's a youtuber I watch who grew up Amish but left. He didn't have a birth certificate or social security number. He has an entire video talking about how he struggled to get an ID and such after leaving the Amish due to there not being any records of his existence.

[@aylapantswb]

36:30 I feel like a good comparison to give to this lady is to ask if she thought getting a leg amputated before pregnancy meant her kid would be born with only one leg. Because the nose assumedly got reduced in some way (even if also restructured) and not added to like breast implants. If she still said yes I would leave her to her assumptions until the baby was born so she could see for herself.

[@John_Weiss]

12:50 I once, back when I was in grad school, had to say to a woman, "You have 11, 12 years to teach a kid everything you want them to know, _including responsibility,_ because after age 11/12, the human brain stops blindly accepting and starts thinking for itself. What, are kids going to suddenly absorb resposible behavior out of the air by osmosis the day they turn 18?" The response this woman gave me [it was part of a much longer conversation, BTW], was a shocked, "Oh!"   Like seriously! The idea that you had to _teach_ your kid to be responsible … nevermind that you're under a deadline to do so … _had never crossed this woman's mind_ until that conversation! The snooping OP at 12:50 is a whole level worse: she can't comprehend that 17 year old *_IS NOT EQUAL TO_* 17 _month_ old! There's a reason why teenagers used to be called, _young _*_adults._*

[@cathleenc6943]

The nanny job math comes out to $2.28/hour. What the heck is wrong with someone that they think they can do that to an employee? I mean, this is a total setup for the parent to be taking advantage of someone who is disadvantaged or vulnerable in some way. Because only someone really desperate would even consider that position, even if accomodations were offered.

[@Madamoizillion]

Accomodations offered? It's basically slavery. I faintly remember a story from a few years ago about a wealthy American(?) family that had a live-in nanny that was from a different country (Philippines? South America??) And they gradually isolated her and reduced her wages to make her more and more dependent upon them until they were paying her nothing and keeping her basically in indentured servitude.

[@willw6504]

I also did the math and came here to say this. A 40+ hour per week job paying that little is insane. **side-eyes the entire American food service industry that relies on tips**

[@---xe5et]

21:12 To add to that, ironically when people say that "it's alright to abuse your kids since it doesn't cause any real physical harm", they are dead wrong. It does. Thoughts, memories, new knowledge and pretty much everything you do or experience plays a role in how your brain is wired, due to neuroplasticity (neurons creating new connections, shifting, or completelly new neurons being created). So those parents aren't just causing emotional/mental harm, but are literally also altering the strcuture of their child's brain for the worse. That's why childhood trauma is a main cause of mental illness and personality disorders. Not just because it hurts the victim's heart, but because the abuse has literally changed the structure of their brain, making just living a normal life very challenging and may require medication and intensive therapy to be fixed and to rewire the brain (fun fact, some popular antidepressants have been shown to increase neuroplasticity, making therapy more effective, as the new skills are learned faster). A good way to describe the extend of the damage in a scale that would be visible to the naked eye would be as if parents broke their child's bones and left them to heal in the wrong position; but they cannot see neurons, so the damage doesn't count as physical in their eyes.

[@DKTeddyBear]

Home remedies to cure serious stuff should not just be child abuse, but also mandatory reporting to the police.... Private groups doing stuff like this should get banned, because it is child abuse when there are serious problems attached...

[@elin_]

Meeting on a dating app isn't embarrassing.. but naming your child "Tinderleigh" is. There is a swedish name that is decently similar to Tinder... Tindra. That name won't get you bullied here at least.

[@ferretqueen2908]

Tbh that's a very pretty name

[@elin_]

@ferretqueen2908 Tindra? Yeah it's a decent name.. It's one of the swedish words for twinkle/glisten

[@ferretqueen2908]

@@elin_ huh, you learn something new every day. My first name is Hebrew for "born on Christmas day". Ironically I was born in May.

[@elin_]

@@ferretqueen2908 hahah nice

[@Firethorn.gaming]

And a male name could be Tanner

[@Meximagician]

25:00 This sous-vide recipe being mistaken for facebook mom advice made me realize something: Have these lunatics confused a cookbook for a medical textbook? Suddenly the fixation with garlic and spices makes much more sense...

[@astridmaack4516]

Sous-vide recipe?? It was advice on how to care for a kid (baby goat) that had a lower temp than it should have. It wasn’t a recipe for food. Idk where sous-vide came from

[@lekiscool]

I have to say the goat emergancy one was unexpectatadly wholesome.

[@RedMoon814]

All posts were more or less horrifying ☹ especially the people abusing their INFANTS, those absolutely broke me 😢

[@CurrentlyVeterinary]

As someone who had a traumatic interaction with a doctor regarding my ears when I was two years old and now flinches, tenses up, and nearly had a panic attack when anyone tries to put things near or in my ears, STOP HITTING YOUR KIDS OR LETTING PEOPLE DO SHIT TO THEM. IT DOES LAST. THEIR BODY REMEMBERS IT.

[@tzisorey]

"Being a whiny brat isnt being an Alpha male"

[@plantainsame2049]

The guy who discovered that So called phenomenon in wolves and later realize That it was bullshit And regret it Is banging his head on the wall

[@Ali-cya]

@@plantainsame2049 His mistake resulted in entire generations of people building their image and way of life on it, on something that isn't even about people, it's like making a salad, accidentally adding sugar and resulting in a nuclear bomb. It's so unbelievable, yet here we are.

[@tzisorey]

@@Ali-cya To be fair, if he hadn't made that mistake, those people would've just fixated on something else.

[@Ali-cya]

@@tzisorey Most likely, but without it they'd have a harder time to give a name to it thus be less focused and less prominent, at least at the current age which already has too many social issues to worry about.

[@MoniqueDamphousse73]

What completely dysfunctional parent allows her 14 year old child to have a baby? She's far too young to handle the responsibility, let alone to actually give birth. The physiological and psychological ramifications are monumental. SMH I don't want to live on this planet any more 😜🤪😜🤪😜

[@AIHumanEquality]

14 year olds giving birth? When did I time travel to the 1600s?

[@JaseekaRawr]

My little sister was 14 when she gave birth 🥺 I was so scared!! She was always so tiny, it was terrifying. Yes, our parents were extremely dysfunctional. I'm No Contact with them now. Sis & I are in our 30s now. If we had competent parents then they'd have gotten her an abortion. But my mom is a southern, mentally ill, Christian woman. She ended up having to raise sis's son, for obvs reasons. My sister's life would've been SO much different, had she not had a baby that young. She ended up getting on droogs(meth) for years. She's finally sober now, as am I. But her life was forever altered bc we have incompetent parents. I almost didn't make it myself. Had to leave the country entirely to survive. I'm now a first time mom, had my son at 34. Needless to say my parents won't know or meet him, bc it's my job to protect him! 🥺❤

[@elaineb7065]

Perhaps they live in a place where abortion is illegal (including several US states)

[@dragonwolfzero820]

the fact that the parent didn't mention anything about whether her daughter wanted to keep it or not is what I find the worst about the post. She wants to be a grandma and will literally sacrifice her own daughter's mental and physical health for it. for all we know she could have been assaulted and the daughter didn't feel comfortable trying the truth even if the daughter did want the child, she's likely not even emotionally mature herself and likely couldn't handle raising a kid.

[@promisemochi]

i remember in middle school, in seventh grade i knew a girl that was pregnant with her THIRD baby. third. in seventh grade. my lab partner in ninth grade was pregnant. no one was doing welfare checks on these literal children. the teachers oo'ed and aww'ed and loved seeing the baby pictures they'd bring in. and i'm like?? a twelve yr old is pregnant with her third child and no one is thinking "this shit ain't right" ??

[@minoena]

33:44 at least they care abt him. I very nicely asked my father if he would stop smoking in the car with me on the drive to school, and he yelled at me and hit me when I got home. Very nice!

[@aiden3627]

I grew up in a school district that hired teachers without teaching degrees. The rule was that they could do one year contracts and if they renewed for three consecutive years they would automatically receive a teaching license. That meant our education system was extra fucked up because some of the teachers didn’t even know how to fill out the grade book, had to ask students to help them teach, behaved weirdly with students, some were actually insane, almost all of them were wildly unqualified to be in the vicinity of children. Some did drugs with students, others prior to my time in school ran from police after doing bad stuff to kids. I graduated 3rd in my class with honors and college credits from advanced placement classes and I can’t function in university because my high school education was so incredibly bad.

[@NeoLegend9094]

33:34 Do not smoke around your kids. I don’t know how serious it could be, but I personally was diagnosed with Asthma at around 7 years old because of my family smoking so much around me. I had to use a weird breathing machine every day. Luckily it wasn’t too serious for me and I basically recovered. But I imagine it could be much worse. My younger sister was also diagnosed with asthma around the same time for the same reasons. Just don’t smoke around children. Please.

[@Skull_the_skellyton]

Secondhand smoke. 🤦‍♀️ Hopefully I’m never going to try these things. No smoking, no drugs, very little if any drinking alcohol when I’m older. Hopefully I’ll follow that.

[@scaredycat1449]

When I was little (1-4 years old) My dad would take my pants off and spank me to the point of me sobbing. I can't even remember why. He was in the navy so he was rarely home but I was terrified when he was. After my sister was born he stopped but he still makes stupid and painful jokes about hurting me and I don't know how to tell him that's not okay. He is really condescending and loves making me feel worthless and my mom just ignores it and whenever I try to talk to her about it she brushes it off and reacts like I'm just complaining because I'm a stupid teenager (15 years). It has really affected my self worth and has caused me to flinch whenever anyone touches me and I can't be intimate with my family without feeling incredibly uncomfortable. Sorry I was rambling lol.

[@FlyingBisonSuperiority]

That’s so wrong and I’m so sorry you deal with that. I hope you have a bright future once you get away from that family

[@Jacq.T]

Don't be sorry. I hope you can escape & find friends & a lovely family of your own. ❤

[@Lunasquietlife]

Pretty sure "Missy" is a pretty normal name in English speaking countries (atleast back in the day)

[@imweakfordeaky]

It’s a nickname for Melissa.

[@Pablo360able]

e.g. Missy Elliot

[@AIHumanEquality]

America? That name is European.

[@StormFreeze]

We have a cat named Missy. We call her Missy Prissy because she's spoiled

[@lindala2602]

Missy was a timelord

[@ash-ton5592]

The lady saying that spanking her 4 month old isn't doing real harm hurts me. My uncles dad started small, he ended with throwing him out a 2nd story window before he was even 1 year old and causing life changing brain and spinal damage (cerebral palsey). My uncle died at 40 from a collapsed lung,he had so many medical issues because of the abuse that started so small. He had 5 step siblings that were min 4 years older than him and was his dad's first child, apparently he would do everything to shut the baby up until he ended up trying to kill him. Luckily he survived and the neighbours witnessed it, that's how he ended up with us for the rest of his life

[@Tobertobee]

14:47 This sounds a lot like my mom, I constantly am keeping secrets from her because she has this tendency to tell others MY secrets, bare in mind I AM an adult now and learned these habit under 12. She still treats me like a child not an adult who is ready to leave the house and intent to move to a place that’s nearly 8+ hours away in my boyfriends home state. I honestly have no idea what she’s going to do without me there as she relays on me to do quite a lot (put food in the oven, feed the cats, sew/mend her clothes etc etc) The one thing that these types of parents have and eventually will be taken away is their extreme codependency on their kids.

[@cathleenc6943]

I actually deeply love the response "you couldn't have waterboarded this confession out of me." If there ever us a chance to use it, I may steal that quote.