Fairness in Polygamy: Same Husband, Same Things?

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@fiveboys1babygirl 3 ай бұрын

I understand, thats not my issue. I have your book. I mind my marriage. Only want respect. And don't compare and try to put us under one roof. Respect to you and your family. God bless your family.

@bryanotieno7106 3 ай бұрын

Comparison is a thief of joy

@johnbermudez9932 2 ай бұрын

I understand

@gairoonishaboolay4331 3 ай бұрын

What to do if the first wife refuses to acknowledge you. I have decided to let her be. I don't attend any of the family funtions however i do get along with the siblings when we get a chance to be together. When the conversations are steered to include anything about the first wife i always say she in my duas that Allah grant us to ease and goodness. This has helped me tremendously with the mercy of Allah. Our Husband is a good person and he wants goodness for us all. Maybe one day she will see goodness. Ameen. In the meantime i have found peace in my duas with Allah. Algamdulila

@aisham1057 3 ай бұрын

SubhanAllah! 💜 "I Understand" السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I think everybody's different in their own way, sometimes you want the same thing/other times you don't. It depends on what it is. The wives don't need to know what the husband gave to the other one. keep things private to yourself. Life would be much better for all. All that asking each other what each other wants, have/need, that's shaytan. Beware of him at all costs. May الله help us all by HIS mercy اللهم امين 🧕👳‍♂️🧕

@aminkingmar 3 ай бұрын

I do understand. Tremendously.

@bryanotieno7106 3 ай бұрын

What are your thoughts on tech and how it affects relationships in polygany

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 3 ай бұрын

Tech is a is always been; a source for good or bad depending on the end user. People's attention spans have decreased to less than a goldfish and addictions are impacting us and others at a younger age.

@angrycrypto465 3 ай бұрын

Great video. I understand

@dionysus12389111 3 ай бұрын

I understand

@laurajeter 3 ай бұрын

I’ve been witness to conversations where second wives is offended or upset because the first wife wants to leave the marriage and not practice polygamy. Why are second wives offended by this?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 3 ай бұрын

The better question is to ask why a wife would desire to leave a good husband for practicing polygyny, something men have for most of human history? Perhaps she doesn't want to care for her husband 7 days a week and wants to focus on other things when he's not with her? Or perhaps she's aware that the first wife is likely using a common emotional manipulation tactic against their husband to have him act adversely against his new marriage? There are a number of reasons, but the question should be asked, "why do we think it's okay for a woman to desire to break up a marriage for no other reason than he is polygynous?" Why does that seem normal and okay?

@laurajeter 3 ай бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshiNot all women want polygamous relationships. If a woman is saying I’m not interested nobody should be offended by her personal choices. Relationships are not easy and now you have to play nice in the sandbox and share. This is a whole other responsibility that not everyone is built for emotionally or by way of intelligence. When a husband wants multiple wives doesn’t it make sense to divorce if the husband and first wife are not in alignment with the direction of the marriage? No one is saying divorce or don’t marry the incoming wife. Isn’t it unfair to force polygamy on women who don’t want it and can admit it openly without causing chaos? I understand the other wife may not want to take care of her husband 7 days a week. However to be offended because a woman doesn’t want to share a husband isn’t fair either. When this marriage may have been a secret is also unfair. Shouldn’t the second wife help her husband find wives who are in alignment with their goals? Why does a woman have to fall into alignment with a life choice that she has zero interest in? She is not allowed to say let me move on?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 3 ай бұрын

Are you a Muslimah? It matters as to context and I can't tell necessarily by your name. I did notice a few things in your response: 1. You changed the premise from a wife wanting to divorce because her husband desires polygyny to now answering a different thing, specifically, to be offended because a woman doesn’t want to share a husband isn’t fair. The two are not the same. That wasn't the original comment. 2. I answered your question with several possibilities and perhaps you just didn't like them, but skipping over the fact that many times wives use this as a form of emotional manipulation should be recognized. Simply hopping in and out of marriages isn't really practical or healthy. 2. You failed to answer my questions, in particular, 'why do some women think it's okay for a wife to break up a marriage for no other reason than her husband is polygynous?" 3. You note that not everyone is built for it emotionally or intelligently. We believe that humans can increase their emotional intelligence, maturity, and skills. Women are fully capable of this and to insinuate that it must be something they're born with aka built with is an insult to women. Interestingly, what you're saying is that some people desire to stay emotionally immature and unintelligent. To me, it appears that you may understand the wisdom of polygyny for society as a whole, but just don't like it as an individual and feel that the individual's feelings should supersede the benefit to society. Is that correct? If you're a believer, then you should also know that Allah will bot burden a soul with anything that it cannot bear. Polygyny doesn't cause chaos. If so, then you also believe in gender roles and that the husband is the imam or leader of his family and his wife's role is supportive. They have rights over each other so if a man expresses his desire to do something that is halal and has many benefits, it appears that you're saying an initial wife can then stops supporting her marriage in general and should break it up... Again, "why do we think it's okay for a woman to desire to break up a marriage for no other reason than he is polygynous?"

@misterhenley4380 3 ай бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshiI notice it was changed up too. I don't know why women who know men are polygamous try to control him with these types of threats. Apparently, women think they can control men with their threats. Shameful!

@MissIntellectual 3 ай бұрын

I'm so sick of first wives complaining and threatening to divorce and break up the family and harm the children by acting like a toddler. Leaving a good husband over your emotions will only lead to regret and pain. Smh.

@bryanotieno7106 3 ай бұрын

Polygyny will humble involved people

@africansister 3 ай бұрын

What about one husband with one wife says the bible: no jealousy no envy no pressure no fight... only peace joy and love

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 3 ай бұрын

1. The Bible doesn't say that. 2. Thinking women don't have jealousy, envy, pressure, or fighting in monogamy is delusional... Try again.

@user-kf2lp3mz9s 3 ай бұрын

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshithey had more then one wife in the Bible

@gwensalador4325 3 ай бұрын

There's that but you can also be really really unhappy in a monogamous marriage @@outstandingpersonalrelationshi

@youngstyles5478 3 ай бұрын

Your husband and wife are lucky to have you. ❤❤❤

@UmmZakareey4 3 ай бұрын

In Polygyny, the man’s wives are his wives alone. The women do not call the other women their wives, co-wives possibly.

@youngstyles5478 3 ай бұрын

@@UmmZakareey4 my apologies

@UmmZakareey4 3 ай бұрын

@@youngstyles5478 no need to apologize. I just like for others to be clear on how it works so they don’t think we are into something other than what it is. However, your recognition of the amazing benefit this sister is to her family was great.