Fake Positivity on Social Media

Faking positivity on social media is far from uncommon.
People who make thousands and thousands of dollars from hosting their own retreats or having a mentorship program must promote themselves as someone who knows what they’re talking about and has all the answers you’re looking for.
And the way that positivity is commonly promoted these days is very unhealthy and harmful. Instead of striving to understand and work through our emotions, we are told to suppress the unpleasant ones and focus on the positives!
Even though people mean well when they give this type of advice, it's not usually the best thing for us to do.
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[@carmarniah9360]

Yeah. Optimism is being able to see the light in darkness, not ignore the darkness.

[@pumpuppthevolume]

that sounds like realism to me tho

[@pumpuppthevolume]

@Shane Lewis well to be precise... realism is... u r feeling bad right now and knowing change in the future is possible..... positivism is.... feeling bad will definitely change in the future

[@bangsol7914]

@@pumpuppthevolume The kind of thing is not precise at all anyway. Wikipedia has a lot of explanation to offer about the definition of those words, but in the end, what is “good” or “bad” precisely? It doesn’t matter anyway. Those concepts probably aren’t going to save the planet or help anyone “feeling bad”. I do agree though that seeking opportunities in rather than ignoring problems brings you further in the long run.

[@pumpuppthevolume]

@@bangsol7914 it's not about defining good and bad .....it's about expectations of some change in the future if u have the expectation that x will definitely turn into y ...and u want y ....that's positivism realism is realising that x could change to y....and maybe there r things to do to reach y and negativism is .....x will never change to y

[@bangsol7914]

@@pumpuppthevolume If you’re talking about the use of those terms in e. g. financial forecasts where you talk about specific figures, I agree that the definition is clear. However, mapping happiness or the quality of life to some one-dimensional number is quite difficult (although yes there are things like Gross National Happiness or Human Development Index).

[@alyssajones4368]

"Fake is the new trend and a lot of people seem to be in style."

[@battygirlrachel]

So true! That trend needs to go.

[@alyssajones4368]

@@battygirlrachel Thank you! I could not agree more.

[@philipwhitcomb5358]

Sadly, what does it say about the people who are fake for the trend. It seems to me it makes them easily swayed, like sheep.

[@elysabethmuliawan9961]

Agree. "Be positive!" is another way to say "I actually don't care any single thing about you"

[@Italiangirlnj747]

Yep

[@Italiangirlnj747]

N stupid thing to say

[@thenewageriseth]

Ikr?

[@Timliu92]

Finally someone says it.

[@alyssajones4368]

Nailed it!

[@BalancedSpirit79]

Your intelligence and maturity are very refreshing. So glad that you’re on KZbin.

[@kenonerboy]

"Fake maturity on social media"

[@tankgirllovesroos]

I couldn't agree more.

[@kenonerboy]

@Sally825 it was a joke based on the videotitle

[@stellar8689]

intelligence? lol

[@Mr47steam]

ironically, this video makes me feel very positive

[@mjj7781]

Yes, just simply bc it is the thruth

[@PANTTERA1959]

Careful gurl. You start telling the truth and you become a threat.

[@MrHyonD]

Who doesn't know this ? xD

[@rainydayinparis]

two things that make people despise you: telling the truth, and thinking for yourself. people dont want you to have individuality

[@liquidsky5428]

@@MrHyonD kids

[@clorox3595]

@@rainydayinparis That’s depressing

[@JaysonT1]

@@MrHyonD ahhh, apparently 90g of the internet. Wake up!

[@Maa_8080]

I used to watch "positive" people on youtube in order feel better.. until I realised that problems should not be ignored but be resolved.

[@BackupPanic07]

Totally agree, I see my mother wasting hours of her day on Facebook and know it's not helping her outlook on life, but can't seem to get through to her; it's sickening just how addictive they've engineered their platform. Nonetheless, this video was really well produced. Keep doing you, Anna.

[@myfriendjenonline7831]

BackupPanic07 So sorry to hear. I hope you do get through to her.

[@BackupPanic07]

@@myfriendjenonline7831 Thank you for the kind words. Fingers crossed.

[@Lavenderforestfairy]

My mom too! She is so depressed becuase of it

[@imhidingasecret]

I just found this video in my recommended and totally agree. Ppl are always like "drink water ✨" and "just stop having negative 'energy' " as if that's gonna help. It's like putting a band aid on an open wound or deep cut.

[@catalinamartinezveloso6064]

You're right, or when you are sad and someone tells you "don't be sad"

[@Rolando_Cueva]

Drinking water is good, gotta stay hydrated. It makes you healthy. But it won’t solve your problems. Also it doesn’t have to be water, it can be orange, apple, lemon, or grape juice.

[@Rolando_Cueva]

Catalina Martinez veloso Does anyone actually say that?

[@justinalmorado7276]

I learned the more real you are, the less friends and likes you get on Facebook

[@kimmyjimmy1731]

Haha should I get insta?

[@Timliu92]

"We need to stop looking at pleasant emotions as good and unpleasant emotions as bad." Absolutely agree! In fact, there are times when pain is important and can even serve as a caution that something is not right in our lives so that we can act accordingly. Ignoring your negative emotions, IMO, is only going to ruin you in the long run.

[@animelover-bt4ld]

The fake positivity which we see on social media is so toxic. Especially these influencers on instagram

[@MarieJohnson]

I love this, Anna. As a mom to four homeschooled boys who are very close in age, so many of my days are overwhelming, stressful, and downright hard. My kids are "normal" kids who fight and disagree several times throughout the day. You're so right that the harder, more realistic side of life is not widely represented on social media.

[@artofmghow6419]

Thanks for this comment.

[@chattylily]

Stay brave beautiful!

[@angelawibowo1128]

more often than not, the "unpleasant feelings" are the ones that trully help us grow and become stronger, the ones that really teach us lessons that's why there isn't so much to be learnt on social media where people just keep on displaying their "bright sides of lives" thank you Anna for sharing with us 💟

[@sherry6512]

I just sometimes not understand why some people like to publish their life to others.. Everything must show.. No privacy at all...no peace. I choose Pravicy, Peace and living with Harmony healthy lifestyle. God bless you.. Nice video 🤩✌💖😍

[@sarahroberts7374]

Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion. Osho.

[@simoon1404]

WHAT an important message and such a goooood video, thankyou! I hope a lot of people watch this video

[@valentinagomezinsausti8382]

you truly have one of the most pure souls i’ve ever seen. thank you.

[@tiffanypaige3884]

It's okay to not be ok. Observe your thoughts and feelings but don't ignore them 💕

[@scosta87]

I love your videos😘.The hard truth!Life is not about been positive all the time but how we react to the negative things and accept them.That is why there are so many people depressed because they feel the pressure to be happy all the time😔

[@abcdefg-xm7dc]

You are wise beyond your years.

[@hi-bk6sy]

0:48 “if you want to get rid of all those negative thoughs, just stop thinking about them!” *wOw i NeVEr ThOugHt oF tHaT bEfoRe*

[@rayrayisfruity]

THIS is the type of content we need MORE of on social media! thank you for sharing such a meaningful message 💖

[@jamaicaorlando198]

Im starting to appreciate my life more after watching this. I realized there's nothing wrong with me. Im just being real. My life maybe the furthest thing from the standard of social media but at least its not fake.

[@clorox3595]

This should have like, a million views. The first thing I see on social media is literally fake happiness everywhere. All the stupid emojis and excessive use of unfunny comedy. It’s so irritating.

[@w0mblemania]

The way I see it: if you see someone talk about how genuine they are on KZbin, you're looking at a fraud. Genuine people don't need to tell people about how real they are. Same goes for people who tell you they are positive. Or a "humanitarian". It's all bullshit. It's just a way to project an image, usually in order to make money.

[@_self.musings_]

Exactly, she is preaching all this as if she is the most perfect person on KZbin and all others are here just to make money, which atleast they are doing expressing their thoughts and creativity. But in her case she is making money by criticizing and talking ill about others

[@misspeaches1144]

I don’t even know how to begin expressing how helpful this video was to me. I constantly feel like something is wrong with me as I sometimes have days I don’t even feel like getting out of bed. I tend to think that I’m a part of the minority that feels that way. I somewhat knew social media is not the most realistic, but you opened my eyes to the fake positivity phenomenon that more often than not makes me feel WORSE about myself that I did to begin with. You are such an intelligent beautiful soul. I’m glad I found you channel ❤️

[@JoseVargas-mn9zj]

@Vered Pinhas, no. There's nothing wrong with you whatsoever. Those are the direct or indirect results of the rampant fake positivity. Just like advertising companies who spend thousands on marketing campaigns to make a simple product appealing and making you feel bad for not having it ( fast food chains, phone commercials, clothes, makeup, you name it) it's something that has been going on since the invention of TV. It's more apparent on these platforms now. Sadly, it's more dangerous now than just advertising products, (cause let's face it, obviously we all need products to live) these fake positivity creators are playing with the mental health of people making them question their life and making them blame themselves for not leading a "happy life". I'm so glad that I just found out about this girl's channel cause it's refreshing to watch someone so kind and real.

[@niyaamulan5519]

Omg me too❤😢

[@niyaamulan5519]

Stay strong😩

[@misspeaches1144]

@@niyaamulan5519 i’m feeling much better nowadays! Once I took the pressure off of myself to be happy and positive all the time ironically I feel happier because I’m less stressed and not faking it

[@leahveal9501]

Thanks for the reminder! These types of things are important to consider when looking at social media. I've heard it said many times that social media is just the "highlights reel" of someone's life. Not necessarily the daily reality.

[@ExploreEmbraceExpress]

You are a true old soul. Your wisdom is refreshing. Your insight is right on point. You are a speaker of the soul & for the world. You have a powerful energy. Thank you for being real, raw, and vulnerable.

[@rachiboo14]

Influencers always say 'we all have bad days' 'my life isnt perfect' - this isnt enough. If they truly admitted how they felt, the influencer industry would come crashing down. The influencer industry is built on keeping people insecure.

[@shortycareface9678]

Absolutely! This is becoming a problem outside of social media as well. Suddenly, it is wrong to have any emotions which aren't "positive". I went through a breakup in January, and for a while I was without a future living space as my ex and I rented together. The amount of people who told me to "stop crying so much", "just write lists of gratitude!", "do these exercises and everything will be fine" was outstanding. I took it to heart at times because I heard it all over the place. It made me feel terrible. Not only did I resist and suppress my emotions, but I guilt tripped myself every time that natural sadness and grief came up for me. When I finally decided to stop listening to that "advice" and went head-first into the grief did it start to improve.

[@plutooliver686]

I've been off of social media for over a year and when i went back on i felt everyone seems checked out. Feels like a heavy energy of obligation and trying to influence and use instead share, inspire and be genuinely present with eachother dont get me started on the fuckery of follow unfollow what a usery toxic game.But! happy to say ditched fb and instagram for good.

[@leacanizares2073]

I am loving how raw this is. I've always really admired honesty. It's truly refreshing to see. I find myself agreeing with you, so many people despise negativity, anger, or any other emotional outburst because they believe we should merely focus on positivity. Unfortunately, life doesn't work all on our own accord. Things are very inexplicable and aren't beyond our control. We should just learn to embrace every emotion that we are feeling.

[@bethealsemere8710]

Thank you for sharing. We need this types of contents.❤

[@anthonygazzillo2700]

What a power and authentic introspection. Thank you for expressing this for your viewers.

[@plantifulalexandra]

Agree, I'm pretty honest on my Instagram and blog and feel that post where I share my struggles actually get more interaction, probably cause people can relate. :)

[@G-ra-ha-m]

Philosophy and critical thinking is so refreshing to see, great video.

[@katelynneriehl4386]

This is refreshing. Finally someone with intelligence speaking and spreading realistic advice. I live with an autoimmune disease that affects my mental health just as much as my physical health and this “be positive!” BS gets me down. Because as someone who is sick everyday, it’s pretty unrealistic. However what Anna says here is very true. There will be darkness, no matter what your situation is, but true positivity is seeing and believing that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, not ignoring the negative feelings the darkness brings you while your in that “tunnel” so to speak.

[@sarah__darlene]

Thanks for this video. 🧡 I’m currently in exactly that mood where I think a lot about what’s wrong with me, why I cannot be more positive, why things are like this and so on. If I’m in a phase where I seem far from happiness, joy and positivity it’s okay to let myself feel like this - That’s exactly what I needed to hear😊

[@jackroberts8218]

Thank you. We need more of this to expose the fake gurus and let others know of how a guru influencers work.

[@bbeech6334]

" You are not who you think you are, and you are not who others think you are. You are who you think others think you are. " Does this make sense to anyone ? To me it is a fascinating and haunting statement.

[@soniaparfum]

You are so smart, I really respect you and wish you all the best in your life! lots of love xxx

[@julianneh.wathne]

Just pure wisdom!! A message that everyone should see!

[@JiraiyaSama86]

I've had a similar talk about this in a training workshop. Since no one wanted to comment when being asked about the topic of positivity, I volunteered and mentioned that there was too much emphasis on the positives and that it's simply not real. The world is made of both the positives and the negatives and being able to accept both aspects is what will truly allow us to grow. Even right now, certain positive campaigns and attempts to eradicate the "dark aspects" of humanity is just not helping. People have to learn how to deal, and realize that there are things that will continue to exist no matter the campaign or activism. Light and darkness are one.

[@pastamethis]

Very well said. If I had to believe social media I'd think every is having the time of their lives except me. Happiness in your day is like eating. You eating something yummy that makes you happy but most of the time you're either preparing it, digesting it, pooping it or working to afford it. All a necessary part of the process. disclaimer: not saying eating is the only source of happiness

[@Amigatech]

I just wanted to tell you that I liked your conversion van build. Comments were disabled there. Anyway, you did a great job and explained everything very well.

[@jesusmaryandjoseph1]

this rings so fucking true. i’ve fallen into that trap. i’m now expressing the opposite on my IG. and i know people don’t love it but i would rather be real then promise others a fake hope .... love you

[@AlexaWilkes]

THIS video needs to go viral 💟

[@artofmghow6419]

It will, when some people could see profit in that. Which will eventually happen, I believe. But for now, I doubt it.

[@anniep2837]

The only reason I have social media is so if my ROBLOX account gets hacked, I can contact friends. The other reason I have it is for family and friends. After seeing your videos, i’ve Decided to move away from the bigger influencers. I now know how fake this world can be some times.

[@blissfulheroescommunity]

Much appreciation to you Anna for being authentic and vulnerable with yourself & sometimes it’s not easy being authentic if we care allot about our image & reputation on social media but it can cause challenges down the long run if we hide the pain away & once someone has the courage to be authentically honest & real with themselves and their audience it can open a beautiful path of absolute beauty & growth for the soul 🙏🏾

[@eveloveb2650]

Your channel is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you!

[@Cubicalfusion]

Man, finally someone that gets it. You can't free yourself from negativity if you don't face your demons first and that often times takes courage.

[@slocumb1270]

Came here from your van build video. I've stayed for your keen insight into reality and authenticity. You are really something else. That is all. Thanks.

[@beckylashua8456]

I needed to watch this. Comparing myself to positive people online has been making it harder to deal with my depression. It makes me feel even more isolated and "off". But you are right. I am comparing myself to people that don't actually exist. Excellent video.

[@moonafarms1621]

I have not had social media outside of KZbin, in years. It has been good for my overall wellbeing. It no longer is a distraction or a fuel to my anxiety.

[@CelineLinesseCL]

could not agree more. I'm thinking a lot about this, and I think by sharing your life publically, it's so easy to just not show up on the bad days, and hop back on the 'gram' when you feel better (what I tend to do). this obviously is a form of self-care for those taking time off, but at the same time portraits such an unrealistic image. so I think it's so vital to share what you just did. another think you said talking about people who literally 'selling themselves" as a brand, meaning doing retreats and mentorships, are NOT portraying their LIFE but their BUSINESS - even if its mainly themselves. they become a service instead of a person. so looking at these people we should always keep that in mind, granting them their masks as long as we recognise them as such. great video. x celine

[@lavenderflowers1075]

I think children are more real and honest when it comes to expressing their feelings.

[@Miss1Vogue]

Nowadays with social media, people are forced to be positive and everything is great. If not you're a loser, we are not robots, we have a lot of emotions that makes us mature grow and know ourselves.

[@joandarc441]

Even other AI have more emotions 😂😂😂😂

[@willtorres7250]

I can tell you worked hard on this video, thank you. Great camera work. How do you feel your content helps you?

[@elisabethfors]

This is so important ❤️

[@heauxsia]

I went through a huge bipolar episode last year + felt the need to put on a show to keep people happy. felt like I was pleasing everyone else and not myself, and then I didn't like my content. thanks for making this -- I relate to feeling the lack of balance.

[@toddyrocks]

you're a very wise young lady .. everything you say is true .. I am in my 50's and have been searching myself for well over 30 years and NEVER listen to the people you speak of .. personal experience counts for EVERYTHING ... embrace yourself as a whole .. take care

[@isaacmchale8832]

Many of us treat our social media profiles as they would a resume; curated and clean. The difference is that resumes show our work experience and achievements, and not our personality, or individual struggles and flaws. Being too honest with too many people makes us vulnerable to the worst of the internet, so I think having a "manicured" profile is a kind of social defense mechanism in order to not make waves among your 500 "friends" or 1200 "followers".

[@ingaglazova1651]

I love how for your age you are very mature! I’m 28 years old & your young beautiful self truly have made me think about life differently, I have learned so much from watching your videos on KZbin & Instagram stories. Anyways continue spreading the real honesty that you do 💜

[@bela-chan]

This needed to be said. Another thing that bothers me is that when youtubers do open up about their mental health issues it can be viewed as a way to manipulate people into feeling sorry for them. As this can certainly be the case, I still think that life's struggles shouldn't be taboo, and youtubers are certainly people, and as people they must have some normal people problems too. Talking about them can still have a positive net effect by spreading awareness and increasing understanding, and it can help normalize these feelings and encourage people to find the right tools to deal with them.

[@MichaelFlores-ix9cu]

Of course, we want to be happy most of the time, but just hiding the rest of emotions as if they are some sort of ugly scar that we are ashamed of, is going to make the cause of those emotions worse, especially, if those emotions are shame, hatred and sadness. We need to bring up those emotions even if we consider them as bad or negative emotions just to feel that we are alive, that we actually respond to our environment and how we respond to that environment is the key to define our personality.

[@waedjradi]

KZbinrs are helping the viewers to help the KZbinrs in return. What a pragmatic cycle. We need more channels like this. Only because this underlying-issue has gotten over-satiated.

[@loribarbi]

THANK you from the bottom of my heart for this amazing video.

[@morecoffee2463]

Wow I couldn’t agree more! Thank you for articulating what a lot of us are thinking

[@MatoranKane]

Thank you for making this beautiful video. Your content quality continues to rise!

[@shantanusinghYT]

Influencing by action creates positivity....this video is influencing me much to differentiate what's actually I need to follow and what I should never. Thank you

[@inferno0020]

Influencers are advertisers that sell what their target audiences desire-in general, males buy power, females buy affections, and prospect customers will have more specific desires. Authenticity doesn't sell.

[@dariyay.5400]

Anna, I am so glad I made time for myself to get acquainted with the content you’re creating. I really hope that more and more people, especially after watching this, will reach out for the “grain of salt” approach to the social media content theses days. Hope you’re all well during the strange times we are currently facing!

[@N8Burn]

I took and am still on a social media break. I really don’t feel like I compare myself to others when it comes to social media because I only follow my close friends. While I still am depressed af without social media, I don’t think it is the problem for me. Shoutout to everyone grinding through the struggle. ✌🏼

[@karenknowles1537]

There is no such thing as figuring IT out. Life is experiencing the unknown. Being in the moment and fully feeling our emotions and our environment is a full time job and that seems to be the sum total of life.

[@tristanclark1965]

If you never had bad days, then you have nothing to compare the good ones to

[@jadenalexandra4755]

I absolutely love your content and how you present.

[@artofmghow6419]

Cool video. I liked what you are doing in the background: and especially the simple moments, where you just pause. Personal suggestion: there could be longer pauses when you are speaking.

[@BrookeMonroe]

The second you stopped fake smiling when you were pretending to film a video on your other camera -- felt that SO many times. Getting frustrated while filming, or forgetting my words, or suddenly thinking "who would watch this?" and then literally sitting back while the camera is still recording and looking so annoyed or pissed off. I felt that so hard lol.

[@aakash8003]

yes... awareness

[@rubywillow2794]

Always gotta hold space for negative things in life. Balance

[@christiangarcia309]

That is an honest way of looking at things, to others and yourself

[@vedshri2876]

Finally got to realize that, there are good youtubers out here like you mam totally realistic and with precised topic to talk about.

[@prettyfancynancymsp8929]

You’re smart and clearly not brainwashed my social media. I agree with you and notice this all the time but whenever i talk social media addicts always call me a damn boomer

[@connorvibes648]

I really enjoyed watching this and hearing what you're saying. It's the truth and something that I can relate to as a musician and as a person. Your honesty and maturity is very refreshing. Thankyou

[@pumpuppthevolume]

and the next thing u know... Ana is getting in film school and or acting school not that u need it... great job on the video

[@doubtfuldreamer]

Yes!!! This needs to be a PSA. The fake positiviry bs I see on instagram is so draining.

[@astasaidak7736]

I feel you, keep making more content like this.

[@artofmghow6419]

Very refreshing video.

[@beastmode2581]

Please Continue making videos like this! It's very informative 😊

[@LucasAndrowick]

"happy" is literally an entire branch of philosophical thought. Anyone buying janky advice from weirdos on the internet needs to actually develop some critical thinking. Thank you for your effort.

[@endeavouringit]

You have to find a way to teach or share your beliefs through a book or something, although this platform is brilliant for it

[@EveArtie]

Oh dear Anna, yet AGAIN you strike us with the truth in a wise and creative way. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! Love from Australia

[@Brentt777]

Then there are backstabbing fake friends who treat you like shit, then wonder why you are so negative. What a joke they are.

[@scorpioandaries]

I really enjoyed your van build and it led me to watch a few more of your videos. I was especially amazed by the trim work and bondo and how you made templates and patterns to make it all come together. It is nice to see someone talk about the reality of life and not sugar coat it just to be popular or to sell youtube videos and get followers. I wish I had done half of what you had done by your age. or even had a clue of what i even wanted by your age. I admire your folks for allowing you and trusting in you to search for your dreams. If I had a daughter I think Id be scared to death to let her go out and see the world like they did but I guess maybe it was something they must of trusted in to encourage you. Keep up the good work. Maybe you will find the answers we all are looking for and can share and show us the way.

[@salsa83]

Just delete social media, its pointless anyway.

[@AnnasAnalysis]

Salsa but you’re on it right now 😉

[@chloecollins7513]

Vegan Earth & Soul youtube is an actually platform that doesn’t bring me negativity, but it depends on who you’re subbed to

[@salsa83]

@@AnnasAnalysis Ya this isnt social media.

[@AnnasAnalysis]

@@salsa83 social media: websites and applications that enable users to create and share content or to participate in social networking. it is indeed social media :) and sm isn't completely pointless. just depends how each person uses it

[@salsa83]

@@AnnasAnalysisI guarantee you the majority of people dont social network on youtube, or consider it social media. You wont change my mind on this.

[@rn3302]

The point is not being happy the point is knowing yourself and loving yourself for who you truly are, once you love yourself only then can you love and happiness is about spreading love nothing more .... an open heart is the key to happiness because you will have compassion and be contempt and the cure for a black heart is religion...

[@largessbeauty1159]

Thank You, say it one more time so that the people in the back can hear you. I am sooooo tired of the light and love BS. I have said this so many times. FINALLY someone gets it. Love It!😀😊😃😄

[@CrystalStackhouse]

I have the same elephant pajama pants omg!! My cousin gave em to me and I have no idea where she got them! What a find 😂

[@emilywells7415]

they're probably the ones who are hurting the most. They are all validation seekers.