Is Social Media Hurting Your Mental Health? | Bailey Parnell | TEDxRyersonU

Scrolling through our social media feeds feels like a harmless part of our daily lives. But is it actually as harmless at seems? According to social media expert Bailey Parnell, our growing and unchecked obsession with social media has unintended long term consequences on our mental health. As social media continues to become part of the fabric of modern life - the “digital layer” - abstinence is becoming less of an option. Bailey think it’s high time we learned to practice safe social before it’s too late. What are the common triggers? How are they affecting you over time? How can you create a more positive experience online? Bailey covers this and more in “Is Social Media Hurting Your Mental Health?”
Bailey Parnell was recently named one of Canada's Top 100 Most Powerful Women. She is an award-winning digital marketer, public speaker and businesswoman with a talent for helping people tell better stories. Her work and expertise have been featured on CBC, CTV & in other local Toronto media. Bailey recently founded SkillsCamp, a soft skills training company where they help people develop the essential skills needed for professional success. She also currently works in digital marketing at Ryerson University.
Bailey is a frequent public speaker having spoken to more than 10 thousand people. She primarily speaks about social media, personal branding, and media and mental health. She guest lectured her first MBA class at 21-years-old and has been the youngest speaker as multiple academic conferences. She is currently pursuing her Masters in Communication and Culture with a research focus on social media and mental health, and holds an honours BA from the RTA School of Media at Ryerson.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@lexis2637]

the first thing I noticed when I quit social media is how much everyone looks at their phones

[@MrBurns-im6ou]

True!. I don't use Instagram for more than 6 mounts. It's so much easyer to live and expirience nature widouth social media!.

[@MayurHill]

Awesome!

[@tahakavak6164]

I know right !

[@maineindividual5202]

Only one ive ever had is Facebook and permenantly deleted it three weeks ago. Amazing feeling! People were ripping each other apart saying things on there to other people they didnt know nor would they dare to say in PERSON. I feel very liberated. Also gave up my smart phone as my primary phone and got a land line. Cell stays in car for emergencies only

[@alaalfa8839]

I was thinking of that I dont remember wha tI was doing all day 20 years ago when the social media didnt exist...actually I was watching tv movies, or drawing or going to stores looking what junk they are selling. As my colleague said she bought bunch of cheap equipments for kitchen and home stuff then she felt like why did I buy this I dont need it.

[@michelle-gb9el]

“In social media WE are the product, and we are letting others attribute value to us” Very powerful

[@kumaraayush8959]

michelle silva so stop being as product for others. ....

[@michelle-gb9el]

kumar Aayush i no longer have social media, highly recommend it very liberating :)

[@misslaura1291]

I couldn't agree more

[@snail007y069]

@@michelle-gb9el KZbin is a social medium, unless you think otherwise...

[@onuraydogdu2245]

@@snail007y069 Yes, KZbin, indeed, is a social media but whether you use it for good things is up to you. There are good things on KZbin and there are also bad things too. The choice is yours :)

[@sang01me]

Reading the comments feels good. I'm not the only one who is avoiding social media.

[@jaswanth2078]

Are you referring to Instagram?

[@sang01me]

@@jaswanth2078 Comments on KZbin. Social media, in general.

[@randomuser1725]

@@sang01me 😹

[@dhyanshah2164]

I m too with u

[@dontknowwhattoputhere5576]

@Parker Family It can be argued that KZbin is primarily a video streaming platform and to those who don't use the comments section, it can mitigate some of the downsides to Social Media. Although when comments are used, the argument for KZbin being social media is very compelling.

[@joannaj.2787]

I am 16, always been very insecure. I quit instagram 4 months ago and most of my insecurities went away. I feel like instagram can make even the most confident person very insecure. Besides, if someone feels the need to post on sm all the time, then they are faking their confidence. True confidence is quiet

[@B.D.E.]

"Besides, if someone feels the need to post on sm all the time, then they are faking their confidence. True confidence is quiet" That's a very wise insight for a 16 year old.

[@poejavelski148]

Yup very true. People who feel the need to share their accomplishments and whatnot are insecure deep down. The people who give little fucks are the true winners.

[@friedchickenhotcheetos]

Lol I see what you mean but i think we can’t generalize that Not all quiet confidence is true and not all „not quiet“ confidence is fake

[@friedchickenhotcheetos]

Also i know that instgram can harm us mentally but not for all and it depends on how you use it and if you compare yourself with others or not

[@poejavelski148]

@@friedchickenhotcheetos Yup but it is very hard to use it properly. The like button itself has harmed so many teens, something so simple yet unavoidable to anyone who used the app when it used to show the number of likes. Theoretically one could use it cautiously, but it’s a booby trap.

[@suzannescorner199]

I'm scared to delete my social media. I'm afraid I'll miss out and end up lonely or bored. But strangely enough I probably feel lonelier because of social media.

[@nitrojanks2977]

Delete it, now!

[@suzannescorner199]

@@nitrojanks2977 I have that very strong fear of missing out. I'm so scared I'll lose all contact with some of my far-away friends and also miss up on social events. Maybe I'm finding excuses for myself but I feel like it severe my ties to all these possible opportunities ... It's basically anxiety that's preventing me

[@nitrojanks2977]

Suzanne's Corner sounds to me like it’s anxiety staying on it worrying about that stuff

[@suzannescorner199]

@@nitrojanks2977 You're absolutely right!! I think I will start little by little . Maybe just switching off for 5 days and then going up to a full week and so on. Have you had this experience?

[@nitrojanks2977]

Suzanne's Corner I deleted my fb at the start of 2019, and all my anxiety and depression has gone. I now catch up with real friends in real life, and couldn’t care less what the rest of the world is up too, nor do I want them knowing my business either. Privacy is now a virtue

[@novaglore5361]

The only social media I find the most inspiring and made up of the best useful content is KZbin

[@gloriaagidee7240]

nova glore you should try Quora...it's a wonderful app

[@lexie02jones25]

I think I should take a break from KZbin too! I deleted all my social and now it should be KZbin too because I spend TOO MUCH TIME on it!!😑😑😑

[@priyasindhu9044]

Ooh my God. Same here😀

[@oumaimanadif8495]

@@lexie02jones25 Ignore the problem is not like fix the problem, you can try to take it and use it less and in a motivational way. I't only an advice, i don't want to tell you what to do

[@lexie02jones25]

OUMAIMA FAOUZI true, because sometimes I need KZbin for school and work purposes.

[@imsamiurrahman]

If you want to stay happy in life just delete social media. Trust me you'll be happier than ever.

[@myrondean3315]

Good Idea. But me had cut the Internet some slack of sometimes. I use it still but lessen the use of it, thanks.

[@essay4285]

We do not care

[@danielmoore4024]

@@essay4285 Social media is one of the main causes of the mass rapid increase of health disorders in general, physical as well as mental. All the depression, anxiety and stress are the cause of so many of the diseases and illnesses that have developed or/and increased in the 21st century. This goes further, people hurting themselves don't even know that they're hurting themselves. How many people know that watching the television, phone and tablet before going to bed harms physical and mental health? How many people know that aerobic exercise before sleep causes health issues? How many people know that looking at magazine covers harms mental health? The list goes on and on. This period of been bombarded with information and misuse of advanced technology has caused more health issues, since technology advanced in the 21st century that's why we've had this rapid upshoot of both physical and mental health issues in the 21st century.

[@ilovejcolee]

yep 100000%

[@myrondean3315]

@@ilovejcolee Good job

[@ishanipathak5001]

im celebrating an year without social media. feels like I actually LIVED this year

[@fiazelven7059]

Proud of you , I'm just starting 😁

[@Salmahhafid]

@@fiazelven7059 proud of you too ahahah, just started today

[@riddhi1623]

Lol...u r still using KZbin so yeahh u r using social media😂😂

[@cianmcmahonlynch2127]

@@riddhi1623 tbh if you comment on it and talk to people about the subject of the video then yes I would say KZbin is a social media platform. But if you use it purely to just watch videos I would disagree that it is a social media platform, because watching just KZbin videos without making a comment or liking/disliking the video is like watching normal television.

[@riddhi1623]

@@cianmcmahonlynch2127 but on KZbin unlike TV u can sesrch stuff which is really social....any anyways u end up commenting and sharing....thats what social media is about u can t resist it

[@BaileyParnell]

Hi Everyone, Thanks so much for watching my talk and leaving your thoughts. It's really interesting to hear how everyone has encountered the dark side of social media in one way or another, and what you did to overcome it. I hope this talks make us all (and especially our young kids) think about this more.

[@TheDanDiamondShow]

Bailey Parnell I deleted all my social media around end of 2016 and ever since then I've had no Facebook no Instagram and no Twitter and I can tell you this it is a massive switch As far as talking to people or wondering what other people are doing you are definitely on Island .

[@Catholicdadof4]

Bailey Parnell I enjoyed your talk. Well done!

[@MrHitessh]

Great talk Bailey.Every point was bang on. I'm sharing this with all my friends.

[@VegitoBlackk]

Bailey Parnell Very good presentation; outside of KZbin I have no other social media and it's made me a better person socially... I now notice so many who lack the ability to socialize normally..I see so many people on dates at restaurants and can't stay off of their phones longer than 8 minutes and up and down the roads; heads down as they walk the sidewalks not paying attention even driving.. currently I live in the high desert area of Cali but everywhere is the same . Sad

[@AbdelrhmanElsayed]

you're right, this is the dark side of people not the social media.

[@dominikaxy]

Social media made us closer to people that are far away and made us to be far away from those who are just next to us!

[@nthn0011]

Get their phone numbers and call them... you don’t need social media to do that

[@teccash3507]

True

[@teccash3507]

@A L 100% ppl really lost

[@mattberrill1063]

So true 👍

[@Artlove8900]

Even if u get closrr to someone far away. You cant call it real connection as someone next to you. Its an illusion and imagine you get so use to that person and they become your fav but suddenly started ghosting you or just leaving you on seen and you were just never important to them in first place. It would hurt so much more right. Believe me its just an illusion

[@GarynJanet]

The happiest times of my life were the moments I wasn't on social media. That just speaks for itself.

[@noahhaas2194]

This hit home

[@blacklyfe5543]

Same

[@barrykarey1469]

The happiest times in your life are when you are leading a REAL LIFE not the fake social media life

[@Karamelaki]

Me:I need to reduce my online presence 2020: online classes, FaceTime, zoom calls, online tours...

[@mousiesolace2193]

i felt that so bad bro

[@lillysteinerr]

Omg hahahhaha

[@kunaltamang1286]

Online tours??

[@Karamelaki]

kunal tamang yeah like hermitage museum was having lives on Instagram hahahah

[@sang01me]

Ikr. Soooo true.

[@blackcatt10]

i deleted my personal instagram account. I don't have a lot of friends because of my social anxiety. and it hurt to see everyone else having a social life, and friends and it feels so lonely. Let me just say ever since i deleted my personal instagram i feel 40 times happier, face to face relationships are the best.and my grades have improved. It helped me to not care so much about what people think. Instagram is not as important as mental health. take care of yourself first

[@orange-qb8bn]

LMAO IM SO GLAD SOMEONE ELSE MENTIONED THIS !! I have autism and don't know how to make friends so even though I'm wAy more functioning than I was a year ago (my social anxiety has improved a lOt and I can talk to people now) I feel empty because the people I follow on Instagram are always hanging out with friends and going to parties.

[@proplayer-yb4xi]

I feel you

[@snoopdagg7900]

house of beans like how is your social anxiety now? you still not using social media?

[@poetryjones7946]

Same! 👍🏼🌹

[@snigdharohilla3660]

I feel you! I feel the same!!

[@beautybywadzi]

Social media seriously harms your mental health

[@Lisa.bp143]

Yes..

[@kesjerdna]

@@Lisa.bp143 Yes if you let them to harm your mental health.

[@saunders_daniel]

@@kesjerdna lol...i agree

[@hahdb1061]

beautybywadzi it did mine so i had to quit it now its been 2 years i dont use anything and im so so happy !

[@kasumipsycho324]

I hate KZbin comment sections because of some jerks I really need to quit reading and commenting them because it’s hurting me but I guess my real life is too boring that it’s making me addicted lol

[@ruthvibangera7221]

I thought i was weird and unsocial for doing this, but this comment section made me sooooo happy. I guess ill accept myself and not doubt my decision. And yes i deleted social media and i am mentally very happy 💯

[@jaswanth2078]

But you'll girls get more followers than boys🙄😭

[@ruthvibangera7221]

@@jaswanth2078 its 2020 and this still is a topic of discussion? Ill leave you alone with your thoughts 🙂 anyways what was your point because I said something totally different🤔

[@k1ra_12]

So happy for you!

[@sainthunter3350]

@@ruthvibangera7221 happy for you mam

[@chikoo7584]

stay blessed

[@shikhatruth5204]

Ever since I left social media, I get up at 7 am instead of 4 and I still have time to work out, eat breakfast at home and read the bible. No more 4 am mornings :)

[@ohmy9479]

Why were you waking up at 4am?

[@kabhisharma3464]

Great habit

[@pppatel177]

I am an Indian, In my childhood, my teacher taught me that, there is a simple definition of poison, anything excessive is called poison whether it may be food, internet, love or anything. And to fix the limit for your self you need intelligence and perception.

[@magnavitae4736]

It is paracelsus' quote

[@puddleduck1405]

Your teacher sounds very wise

[@rajnishjha4405]

@@magnavitae4736 it's from bhagwat geeta bro...

[@latte5882]

@@rajnishjha4405 Theodore Levitt Quote: “Anything in excess is a poison.”

[@anusuadas2024]

Really very well said👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@SemOnAir]

social media is making us unsocial, that's the truth. i remember the sign at the cafe “We do not have WiFi…talk to each other, pretend it’s 1995.” that was hilarious... i don't know you, but i miss those days, back in 90's.

[@deadartist8827]

Me too. Good times

[@michaelhofby]

That´s a funny but actually tragic sign :D

[@sergyxyz]

That's Chiang Mai!

[@veganmarie4737]

So true

[@Mayrita77]

That’s very sad

[@shreenjandutta]

"We struggle with insecurity because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." Very Powerful

[@darrellkavan_93]

👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@isabel6554]

I quit all social media in April 2020. I’ve never felt better. My time spent with friends and loved ones is special. I am a lot more efficient at work. I don’t reach for my phone nearly as much. I listen more when people talk to me. When I travel I live in the moment, I savor each experience without worrying about the perfect post. I read more books and relax more on the weekend. I no lover have FOMO. I have JOMO (joy of missing out).

[@apieceoflife2732]

People who are obsessed with Social media mostly don't have friends

[@ian3525]

I'm glad to hear that, I'm happy for you too, cheers 😊

[@Jeff_Biden]

Damn

[@ketwannawalker4106]

So far it's been 1 whole year since deleting my Twitter, Instagram and Facebook! My self-esteem has gotten so much better and my outlook on life is much clearer.

[@KINGDOMKONCEPT]

KeTwanna Walker Alright now!!!

[@redruby747]

Good 4u

[@shwetabajaj2444]

KeTwanna Walker You go girl :) I deleted my insta a week ago and it kind of feels liberating.

[@sw9979]

Smart. Stay off

[@frankservant5754]

I'm left with Facebook

[@rafsoto6760]

Social media broke my spirit. i am always comparing myself too other peoples highlights, my confidence is low...

[@reneerenee1783]

Leave social media. You deserve to be happy and confident

[@nenadmitkovski]

You'll increase your confidence once your remove all these addictive apps and so forth and start working and focusing only on yourself (especially in the beginning). Work on creating new and better habits, implement a daily training routine, find a clean diet that works for you in the long run, focus on improving these things and as you see desired results, you'll regain confidence again.

[@bigjawline9235]

my confidence always low it didnt make a difference lmao

[@koshlynne8888]

Raf Soto delete it dawg

[@nourdjihenziani1466]

I feel the same .

[@charlieandhali4090]

Like I spend 11hrs + on socials. If I spent 11 hrs a day learning a language for example instead of going on my phone I could’ve been fluent in speaking another language! Social media has instant highs on your mental health but in the long run it’s rlly bad.

[@alexiswilson7359]

Since being off all social medias I have noticed a huge shift in my insecurities, being more present, less anxiety and I don't compare myself to others! I also just feel smarter and much wiser now ahha

[@amazonqueen5694]

i feel a lifting of the social media fog. and more outside time for me.

[@stevo6891]

I think people act fake on social media

[@MentalHealthForUs]

The anxiety alone is something to think about.

[@BaileyParnell]

You're exactly right. Even one of these stressors is cause for concern, and when you combine them all together, you have a recipe for disaster if you're not careful. Thank you for watching!

[@nitishmahto2627]

Disadvantage of social media 1.Knowledge (information) distraction. What is knowledge distract ion?

[@morganlily.]

I don’t have Instagram and sometimes I’m proud of it. However sometimes it can make you feel isolated, especially when all of your friends are on social media. But at the same time , not having social media let’s you see the impact it has on others.

[@thecontentproducer]

I agree

[@alexwhiteside]

Find better friends

[@juliasplash4007]

you could have it. You just need to know the numbers of minutes or hours want to spend on it. Not everyone needs to follow the same path as others :)

[@blacktajmahal1297]

I see exactly what you mean I'm really proud to not have it but yea I was sometimes wondering that when you dont have it it's like so weird for others to understand but anyways I'm happy and all these videos confirm well my good decision !

[@luismiguelmartinezsanchez4069]

te aseguro que tus amigos que estan en las redes sociales estan mas aislados que tu

[@gabymcknight3291]

My peers often make me feel as if I'm the only one who is affected negatively by social media, like I have a problem or something. Its nice to know there are other people out there who feel the same way as me.

[@RomanianRantMachine]

Hey Gaby! I want to assure you that everyone goes through SM depression and has the feelings you are talking about. I for one disabled all political stuff on FB, even though it got me to unlike everything I previously liked in terms of books, people, etc. I don't know your peers, but it might be due to one or more of a series of scenarios. 0. EQ: You just are a sensible soul and have more compassion for the world and the people living in it (you have a higher level of Emotional Intelligence) 1. Some people have such a strong humanity compass and self awareness that SM just doesn't affect them; 2. Truth: they are lying in order to not seem lesser (extremely common human behaviour); 3. Volume: they aren't paying as much attention to SM as you might be, in terms of screen time. 4. Stoics: Some people feed off negative energy trying to dissipate (I for one also am motivated by harsher conditions & adversity). 5. Some people feed off negative energy trying to replicate it. In my country sometimes I go back to schools and universities to teach different life lessons learned in my professional career. One thing I avidly militate for is SM reduction or removal and the introduction of law that mandates a MINIMUM 16 YEARS AGE LIMIT till a person is allowed on SM, or similar platforms. (the young are most affected)

[@andyto1781]

Hi! I've been having a hard time thanks to social media, I wanted to let you know that you're not alone! Many, if not all of us, have been affected by social media. You don't have a problem, you're just human. I hope you are okay!

[@amankaur4471]

I agree you have to think about yourself for me it makes my anxiety worse so screw what others say 😂but no one’s really judged me for it I don’t know if cause I am older

[@sebastiandpy]

I deleted mine for almost 1 week now, i must say it's boring without it but i realized that there are so many things to do than wasting my time on social media. I realized that having tons of like or followers don't matter in your life, we are obsessed with empty compliments that is boosting our ego for a while. I literally cried while watching this video! what a wonderful message

[@Pamela-qz4gn]

Deleted Instagram. Made me feel depressed for almost 5 years. Thankyou for this

[@paladindragoongirl18]

Pamela I made the mistake of following my co workers on Instagram. It made me feel A LOT WORSE about myself. That’s why I deleted Instagram. After that, I actually feel better about myself.

[@shehzoremangi9940]

I never installed instagram and snapchat, just because of. The same reason.

[@na_ha_ru]

Why dear?

[@purpletube7773]

I can’t tell if y’all are capping or nah.

[@afreenjamal4045]

I first thought your deleting Instagram made you feel depressed for 5 years after that.

[@vikplaysguitar]

Who all are watching this in 2020 ? Let us start practicing 'Social Media Distancing' !

[@sineshabalala6249]

I'm game

[@vikplaysguitar]

Sine Shabalala yesss 😎

[@ansumansai2383]

Count me in

[@UnknownGodOfCelestia]

Isn't KZbin a social media too?

[@imdadood5705]

Park Chim Chim It is. I use KZbin mainly to learn something. Unlike, Instagram or Facebook, KZbin’s elements of distractions are not obvious. One can sharpen their skills using KZbin, let it be writing or programming. In my opinion, KZbin is much more productive for a determined individual than Facebook or Instagram.

[@rohitjain6370]

I was addicted to Instagram, facebook, twitter 2 months ago. I deleted all these apps from my phone. Now I am addicted to KZbin.

[@fastronaut909]

It’s difficult to let go of social media as a business owner. There’s another great TED talk on why you don’t need social media to have a successful business and it is so relieving to watch.

[@Limonshirtguy]

where is this? I need to watch lol

[@ReemSaeed-xn3ft]

Could you please write the name of this vedio?

[@gianghuong6492]

Do you have a link?

[@srikrishnan1708]

Not sure if this is the one the commenter meant, but it's a great talk nonetheless. "Cal Newport: why you should quit social media"

[@HollyHargreaves]

I quit Instagram a month ago & I feel awesome. No more wasting time checking who has liked my photo😀

[@saikomiko9032]

No one is gonna like if you don't post.

[@Theforeveraloneguy]

Now you'll only waste time checking who liked or commented on this post! ;)

[@nubiaaglae2443]

@@Theforeveraloneguy 🤣🤣😜

[@CoreyEmills]

Holly Hargreaves 9 months later how do you feel

[@SirDella]

Update pls

[@harryhosenhurz6820]

According to all the comments, i got the feeling that “i quit social media 4 months ago and feel fine” is the new generation’s version of “i’m clean”. It’s alarming.

[@yabloko6649]

Interesting! Would you mind to elaborate?

[@bloodymirpoutin3825]

@@yabloko6649 Social media is like a drug..

[@larabardot6836]

Omg literally my thought as well! I have a feeling that in the near future there will be a lot more research about the dark side of social media and that it will actually be frowned upon as cigarettes are today while in the 90’s it was cool to smoke and a lot of people were doing it

[@emilyemily266]

and i just found this video 3 years later, where have I been :(

[@trixieareja8108]

Same

[@edmarebido]

😭

[@sumerrbliss.28]

We all think that social media is the platform where everyone just interact with each other and post pictures but in reality social media is too much toxic and nowadays it's highly toxic! I just got addicted to it that i used to spent my half day scrolling and being more and more insecure about myself so i decided to deactivate it temporarily and after that i felt so better infact i learned lot of things and used my time productively and my life got happier. Deactivating social media was one of the best decision!

[@TheXrythmicXtongue]

"Social Media hasn't changed us, it has exposed us." - Gary Vee

[@kiran97k]

He is a busimessman

[@bradw2k]

But it does change people.

[@veganmarie4737]

💯💯💯

[@mansijain3842]

Thanks

[@jhilmilgil4512]

Maybe both...

[@ranamudassar4805]

I used social media. I realised I'm just wasting my time. Then i tried to leave social media. It was a hard decision. But i beat it. Now i just use WhatsApp for communication and KZbin for knowledge. 1- Ted talk 2- jay shety 3- Prince ea 4- Bright side 5- Be inspired These are my favorite channels. There are some other channels are also, but they are not in my mind now. Movies and TV shows are my business in leisure. KZbin changed my life. I learned more from it than school.

[@hannansadaquat1590]

Can u tell me how u left social media. I am trying but i can't

[@ranamudassar4805]

@Star Monroe going to check it out. Thank you for your suggestion ✌️❤️

[@jantenzshreztha4826]

@@hannansadaquat1590 initial step is deleting the account and uninstalling the apps.

[@hannansadaquat1590]

@@jantenzshreztha4826 i will do

[@insightuk]

Check out Rebel Wisdom

[@leccionesdevida.podcast]

TODAY is the day we quit social media for a month!! Good luck everyone let's all do this, it will help us so much!

[@elissao.6585]

Heck yeah! 🙌

[@lilychristopoulos4480]

Denisse Murillo how did it go? :)

[@fiorebella3179]

I have told this to some friends: " You are becoming an addict to your phone" I saw the same reaction from all of them, aggressiveness, anger and denial, try it with people and you will se the same thing.

[@silviu.iordache]

deleted Instagram, Facebook and Twitter 8 months ago. Never looked back and never felt better.

[@timowerner6518]

How do you spend your day then i want to do the same

[@DBDYAKU]

@@timowerner6518 well this my advice in your day go read books do some sports watch some series or movies give time to your family plan your future hope it's works

[@shine2678]

@Lubhavna Goel yes!! I won't use fb n insta.Most of these activities I do. And I'm active and productive more than before☺☺

[@gichiraserah8469]

I did that just today

[@autismstrong9069]

Instagram destroyed me .... deleting it never felt better I'm just me I have a life again

[@victoriaeyog]

I thought I was the only one so depressed to see everyone having their life altogether on social media. The perfect spouse, the perfect relationship, the perfect job, everything they want or need, and me feeling miserable for what I don't have, and them boasting about what they have. I felt so bad for comparing, now I understand I trained myself to do so through social media. May God help me

[@tracyhendley17]

Victoria Marie same with me. I am way too caught up in it.

[@shereekidson9323]

Social media is a bit like money, can make you comfortable up to a point, and after that just causes you bigger problems.

[@bhuvaneshwarij1326]

True

[@gee_ruiz]

At least you see it. There are plenty of people in denial of what you realize you’re experiencing through social media. A lot of us do this.

[@vikasSingh-iq1tn]

Who is here after watching the social dilemma

[@tinahoban9721]

I just watched it last week. Deleted my IG. Deactivated my FB. Feeling great. I am able to focus on my school. Start reading books. Social dilemma is the best documentary I’ve ever watched. I wish I had watched it 6 years ago. Lol. But it just came out recently.

[@chloed.g.velasco6945]

Omo me.same

[@yogamurti5317]

what is that ? is that a movie ?

[@tinahoban9721]

Yoga Murti not movie. It’s a documentary about Social media.

[@chloed.g.velasco6945]

In netflix

[@cupidslover3]

I've deleted Twitter and feel so much better..so much white noise I don't need in my brain. I deleted Instagram and Facebook apps and only log in every now and then. For me it's just about looking at them rationally...they're just online platforms and not real life.

[@kabiralade2483]

Social media simply destroyed you...! Fear of missing out..Misinterpretation and especially comparing people with all the fake post.! Giving up social media is the best thing that happened to me. I'm happier than ever!

[@ian3525]

Im glad to hear that. Cheers mate

[@no_more_free_nicks]

What I really hate about Facebook is that they make it on purpose difficult to delete the account.

[@ObservantOtaku]

Exactly. That's why I uninstalled the app though the account is still there

[@kiwi8476]

When I was deactivating my Facebook, I selected that I was using it too much, and next thing that they use is try limiting Facebook emails. Like... who checks emails and see's an email about Facebook to get on now a days? That's a pretty lame tactic.

[@Authorthings]

Mmhmm. Deactivate it, delete the app, and never logon again. Just like MySpace!

[@hsaunghninhtwe8905]

I have deactivated my fb acc for more than 1 month after recognizing my situation. I feel JOMO the joy of missing out!

[@smallstudiodesign]

With social media I’ve connected with people across the globe. Meanwhile, because of social media, I’ve become disconnected from those nearby.

[@htaedWhoKnew]

The worst part of it all is when you do delete Instagram and or other platforms people will question/bully you for it. Or find it weird and think “oh he/she must not do anything worth posting lol”....

[@Jonjs99]

indeed my friend

[@8v71buses]

I don't blame you for deleting your Instagram all you simply did what was best for you. Screw them let them continue to the mentally enslaved and addicted to Instagram while they suffer from their own mental, emotional, spiritual health and if they're not careful it can even impact their physical health too. Congrats to you and keep up the good work

[@georgegorse8483]

South Park did a pisstake episode about how people are on social media it's hilarious

[@shine2678]

Yes, it's common, just say u r not interested and you have not gained anything from that!

[@leccionesdevida.podcast]

ignore them my friend

[@WiWillemijn]

I wish there was a 'follow but not really follow' button for all the people and friends I have to follow out of politeness

[@mirapbella]

Wimsem - Tekenen & Knutselen same!

[@YTBraxxGaming]

For Twitter, just follow, then mute the person.

[@clairhall602]

Block? lol

[@SomethinAintRightHere]

there is... you just remove their notifications from your timeline

[@lolavelmar2996]

Wimsem - Tekenen & Knutselen the problem is you don't need social media if your finance don't depend on it.

[@BenNuProductions]

This is why Reddit & KZbin are the GOATs of social media. No highlight reel effect, no fomo.

[@gokulkandel6470]

I struggled quitting social media multiple times. I would always go back after 3/4 days or a week at max. I felt emptiness without social media because there was nothing else to do after work and studies. Especially since there was covid and everything was closed. Not this time though. It's been over a month and I only use messenger and whatsapp to communicate with my friends and families. This time I stopped using social media gradually. I quit one app at a time and that was reducing my overall usage time without even me realising. I slowly found other ways to be productive such as reading books and I joined gym too. I enjoy them. I wish I had this sooner but at the same time it's better late than never. I wish all of you trying to quit become successful and see the life through different lenses.

[@paulinagarza6677]

Gave up all social media one week ago except for KZbin. I am healing, less anxiety, less depression, less having to prove myself to anybody. Living and working on myself.

[@stevo6891]

I just see to much negativity on Facebook

[@ninjapirate123]

Good on you

[@Davislietuvietis]

I feel like i’m the only 14 year boy in my city who understands that social media is very bad for you and that life is so much better about it

[@dara1611]

I feel like i’m the only 16 year old girl in my city who thinks this way

[@lixie4817]

wow, you both have a wise insight

[@makmutov9003]

Youre gonna be the next Elon musk kid 💪

[@acyelle_8094]

(2)

[@patrickbatemanfromohio]

Same but most of our generation people will disagree

[@haileybri4578]

This definitely hits hard. I started using social media at a very young age , and sometimes the pressure of it makes me feel out of reality, I hide my insecurities there but I now know that that’s not my life not my real life.

[@bethshamblin]

You make so many great points. I hope we can all get to the place where we hold boldly to a confidence that comes 0% from knowing others approve of us and 100% from the fact that we know ourselves and truly like ourselves.

[@suredeydo]

Her voice is so soothing and beautiful.

[@sunbaths.]

Kitty Koehn was just thinking the same thing! I wish I had her voice

[@nomfundonkambule8225]

Right!?

[@EmoSceneQuees100]

@Zain844 example A for what she's talking about in the video. Her voice is soothing and made it easier to listen to.

[@SirDella]

She is beautiful too

[@rizkia.4728]

i agree :3

[@daryl2665]

2 hours? I spend like 6 hours a day on my phone... I have a problem

[@aymenmaamri1896]

Same 😥😓 and sometimes more

[@kashty024]

Felix Zwart says the guy who’s name’s Felix

[@bakugokatsuki908]

I spend like 8

[@anahifuentes6403]

I thought the same thing more like 8 hrs😂🥺

[@rockandspace]

10 hours for me 😓

[@huongduongthithu3253]

This is such an inspiring talk that Bailey could give. Let's give her a BIG applause. I DO wanna get rid of the phone but it is so hard nowadays when our work is attached to it. All those contacts and tasks and assignments are getting me sick.

[@dhruvisoni9279]

Its been a year since i had quit Social Media and to be honest its the best feeling ever. It feels like you're far away from the negativity

[@alejandromoreno5056]

social media actually does make people act their worst.

[@lindagray1809]

You don't have to be your worst just because you're given the opportunity. We all have control of our actions. There is no rule that we have to post about ourselves on social media...

[@Feber2001]

Our phones are 'Buffers.'

[@aaalavi94]

Linda Gray the topic is too complicated for you clearly

[@georgegorse8483]

Social media feeds people's sense of entitlement and narcissism

[@walterbutler8698]

I just deleted my account. I can admit it does cause depression. As soon as I deleted it, I felt a load off my shoulders. I'm now living in my moment of happiness.

[@MorobTrustNone]

Just came across this video for my Communications class and I must say she made me realize how addicted I am to social media. She dropped some real gems in this public speech

[@jsilva01]

This was a really good presentation of how social media effects all of us. It made me feel better knowing others obsess over the exact same things I do when it comes to social media.

[@WitchidWitchid]

My biggest issue with social media is that it's making me lose all my faith in humanity. When I go on social media I quickly get the impression that humanity is starved for intelligence and rational and logical thought. I end up reading the crazy commentaries and the rebuttals when I could better spend my time on relevant work.

[@curlwhurl8054]

That is what makes me want to leave too. So many people just use it to unleash their nastiness.....

[@preshitabarai5778]

Literally the same thing is happening to me now, I just want to get rid of it and focus on things that are actually good for me

[@todd92371]

I'ts the comments section that makes me want to run for the hills.

[@AleXia-wv5iw]

Same and i hate it i regret it... since 2019. I just want to quit social media because... i dont want but i tempted many times and i know im not the only one like this gen z was miserable

[@irenee800]

I also used to think renouncing social media was not an option since it played such a big role in my life. On my 30th birthday, I decided to leave it. That was four months ago. Many times, I forget that Facebook or Twitter even exist. That is how quickly you can move on from the clutches of social media. I still travel, have fun, go to parties etc.. all in the abscence of social media. Funny enough I also still have friends!

[@BaileyParnell]

It's interesting to see everyone's personal stories. You seem to have a good community. On the other side, I've heard people who feel really lonely and disconnected when they left social. That's sad. :(

[@asmitachatterjee5146]

WOW. You inspired me!

[@deanVodkahouse]

Do you still take photos at parties and nights out? Or if you do, do you take less now or none some nights ?

[@Alexis-ec9cl]

Brabazon I can answer this. I deleted all social media. Erode my 25th birthday. I still take pics with friends, not so much the little things

[@TheNickyVera]

Then those people need to find new friends @@BaileyParnell

[@keropoulou]

This woman really is to the point of the problem. I was experiencing too, social media addiction. I quit, for a period of time and I can clearly see how much time and impact had in my life. Social media out of our lives, for a healthier and happier life !

[@megancantley2949]

This is undeniably true. I’ve never felt healthier than when I came off social media. I can relate to this so much and can literally feel my mental health dip when I go on social media, Unbelievable.

[@orreoninja1234]

Omg good thing i permanently deleted my instagram, snapchat, twitter and now i feel better.

[@rodb66]

Oreo oh I've already deleted Snapchat and I plan on deleting Instagram today but I'll keep Twitter. Instagram has been my biggest distraction for the last three years.

[@BaileyParnell]

I don't want you all to think you HAVE to delete these accounts to be happy. Sometimes, it's about redesigning the experience you have on there - for example by following TEDx vs. [insert whoever you don't like]. Thanks so much for watching!

[@rodb66]

Bailey Parnell I've decided to delete Snapchat, take a 90 day break from Instagram, which is my biggest addiction, continue twitter and Facebook.

[@integrity5140]

so u still have Facebook

[@BaileyParnell]

How's the break going so far, Rodney?

[@sabah4123]

Worst thing invented for human society, we are less social & more lonely. No lifestyle! 👎🤷‍♂️🇦🇺

[@misguidednuke2143]

Sabah Eternity I really agree with you 100% I have never seen a more lethal device. I would have to say the invention of nuclear weapons doesn't hold a candle to where this social media is taking us. Alarming.

[@jusayenso8186]

Sabah Eternity ....True. Just one obvious example is by truly noticing people in public. They do not talk to each other. There is no way this should happen IF social media develops people into allegedly being more social. I am lucky I can compare this to 30 years ago due to my age. People used their free time in public (on a train to work, in line at a store, lunchroom cafeterias at large companies like banks or hospitals, at airport terminals etcetera.) There is no way people are talking to others more now the right way....face to face. You can learn so much more to judge others face to face. Here, a freak psychopath covered in tattoos smoking crack can participate in this so called conversation! I don't he/she would get many listeners face to face. You simply have way less ability to sift through comments and figure out the source! Perfect example.....who gets married dating someone for a year but never talking once face to face? I use this extreme example to help make my point. Nobody out of million people gets married like this. Yet look how people have flocked to what big businesses put in front of them. They think they are being "social"? Social media rewards idiots and freaks to vent here since they are those eerily weird acting people in public people stay away from.

[@mirellelevoe3339]

. wayttha be toselvesthem owall whooplepe eth lyOn. Wtf. Not going back to correct. Hahaha

[@jusayenso8186]

@@mirellelevoe3339 ....You and instagram man are proving the commenters point. Narcissists love using social media too.

[@ronanmoon7861]

fair point social media has good and bad affect depends on how you look at it

[@raksimachandrakulsiri5312]

As she had mentioned that her life is social media: personally, professionally and academically made m positively agree. Learning, playing, relaxing or even receiving news for me are all done through social media or the new media. My entire life is living on it. I could not imagine my life with out it. This video demonstrates why and how I could decrease my usage before getting hurt by it. Thank you so much.

[@krystalchen9410]

I still have social media. I had thought about leaving it several times, but i think its a tool for you to stay connected with the world. However I only get on social media sometimes when i feel like i want to know what's going on in the world. sometimes I do end up comparing myself to others' highlight but I live my life mostly off social media, and this works for me. You dont have to get off social media completely, just find something that works for you.

[@MrHitessh]

I gave up Facebook,twitter,Instagram 6 months ago.Despite vociferous protests by my family,I also uninstalled WhatsApp.And guess what? I haven't missed a thing till now. People who love me still remember my birthday despite FB not reminding them. People who want to reach out call me instead of Whatsapping me. I do get those occasional pangs where I want to be on fb real bad. Instead, I meditate or go for a run or read a book or virtually do anything I wish to instead of snuggling up in bed typing away to glory on my phone. Give it up guys, give it up. I say that as an addict myself. You'll realize what you were into only when you give it up.

[@NoName-mm6gh]

hitesh mahato I left whatsapp too

[@lifesthat19]

thank you for sharing! good points there, I agree with you. Live life and enjoy it upfront not on a screen

[@lastella1994]

You're soo right I'm addicted to instagram I'm even tired of it.The nonsense is too much people even post pictures of their tea or Cofee in their stories it's really annoying social media is a real waste of time!!!Insta and Fb have become more addictive with their stories.

[@jaykingston2171]

hitesh mahato Have you swapped the above social media channels for an addiction to info and videos?? KZbin addiction is real and everyone who gets addicted dumps fb and Twitter! How many hours a day u watching vids??

[@gpwahyunanda]

Please can you teach me to make this habit?

[@awake5650]

this video hit me on a deeper level, today starts my first day of my social media detox. i went to the gym today, and i left my phone in the car. I was able to fully focus on my workout, but i couldn't help but notice all the other cell phone zombies wondering around the gym, its almost as if people are afraid to be alone with their own thoughts, they need a distraction.

[@malikgray6615]

Thank you for speaking out about the real issues on social media

[@roshansamuel6069]

I have to tell this out there that this is one of the best talks i have heard from Ted on effects of social media and how to use it for yourself that makes you inspired and doesn't eat a big chunk of your day. For my case it was a chunk of day, my screentime for just Instagram was 7 hours a day and not a single scroll made me feel better.

[@AvantGardeBSC]

I’m here because social media is affecting my mental health and I want to get out of it. I will. I want to be healthy and have peace already.

[@motso5121]

Today I am quitting social media

[@Oyzatt]

How is it going ? 😂😂

[@jinupk5355]

Me💪

[@Showurfaceboo]

I think she deleted KZbin as well

[@youtubeuser7761]

Hello?

[@8v71buses]

Great and best of luck to ya :)

[@chunyinanimation]

Quitting Facebook was the highlight of my last decade, it's a life changing experience.

[@karmanshah11]

She was so confident and like every word she said really was so clear!

[@aads1823]

i try to avoid social media like the plague it gives me anxiety

[@NoName-mm6gh]

A DS me too. I was looking for someone with the same thing

[@Josh-ct6ue]

Micah Taylor thank you

[@redruby747]

M2

[@poetryjones7946]

Yes! The farther away I am from social media & the more time I spend in nature the Happier I am! 🌲🌺🌙🌧🌊

[@Pj-oq2eb]

Me tooo

[@marktwain8668]

If you want to destroy someone show him the way to social media ! He doesn't need any enemy. He will destroy himself. 👍

[@lordschild3618]

I totally agree

[@Ms-kj2qh]

😂😂😂

[@ewanko831]

Lol

[@NetSkillNavigator]

Damn..

[@serenasmith1662]

Couldnt have said it better

[@vickireeve1236]

i needed this..not for the reasons i thought, but for genuine reflection of my values and how to better it all

[@loreolmedo508]

i´ve been on and off social media for 3 years, it has given me anxiety, depression and stress and when I finally think I've learnt how to cop with it a major crisis appears. Like she said, I don't think quitting social media is the answer, because we are part of a generation that communicates through it, creates relationships and meets new opportunities. I have met a lot of amazing people thanks to social media, I´ve also been given the opportunity to work in amazing projects, I've found inspiration from a lot of people I wouldn't have known if it weren't for the internet. I'm really grateful for this speech, I find it quite illuminating when it comes to social safety awareness.

[@dyah2960]

12 months without instagram, i got the best feeling in life. in 12 months i try to accept my self, not to judge who ever I'm.

[@claudiayanirarojas1808]

It’s been 6 months no social media! And I realized how much time and anxiety I had build up because of it. It’s crazy how much I don’t miss it. Loved this video, thank you.

[@jasminefranco1229]

Why or how did it give you anxiety?

[@____yzzy]

Are you on social media now? It’s about to be a month since I gave up social media

[@praava2446]

I want to be like you..😭

[@meribarseghyan842]

Whether we want it or not social media impacts our way of thinking and decisions. It is really important to have a detox from social media from time to time. I really liked this part of your speech: “In social media, we are the product, and we are letting others attribute value to us”.

[@maranata1484]

This is the only video I've ever seen on youtube that has helped me thank you. I stopped useing social media from today.

[@Trininerdxd]

I notice my relationships fail whenever i activate my social media just to keep up with them. I’m officially done with social media

[@StutiRajguru]

I used to be a social media addict for as long as I can remember. But ever since I deactivated Facebook and Instagram, my life has gotten so much better. The anxiety, depression and frequent worries have gone done drastically. I now feel this sense of fulfillment and satisfaction, even with the little things. It's like, I got my life back.

[@fathimashifanakk7749]

True

[@priyankasalelkar3564]

Great decision!

[@benpetsopoulos]

you really inspired me to write a fantastic argumentative essay for my English class, thanks for all the great ideas!!!

[@alharsoosi]

Social media Top three diagnosis on university campuses 1- Anxiety 2- Depression 3- Stress Four stressors on social media 1- Highlight reel, all the time. 2- Social currency, “Economy of attention” but we’re the products. 3- F.O.M.O 4- Online Harassment “Micro moments over time become macro problem” Addiction* *Abstinence is not an option, but you can “practice safe social” Social media in neither good or bad! Dark side of people (not social media!) We need preventative strategies and coping strategies. 4 steps to social media wellness 1- Recognize the problem. As awareness is critical 2- Audit your social media diet 3- Create a better online experience 4- Model good behavior

[@roughryder5]

Social media is anything but social.

[@MrJOKELA]

Beautiful talk! I loved the part where she said you don't have to follow your friends. That is true, some of my friends are too different on social media compared to real life.

[@luismiguelmartinezsanchez4069]

porque la gente ahora se esconde detras de un algoritmo y ahora te puede hablar y decir todo lo que le de la gana sin que tu le cuestiones sociedad acobardada te dicen por redes cosas que a la cara no tienen el valor de decirtelo

[@theramilakarki4010]

Truth!

[@mariagratiainviolata7820]

I agree with you

[@Kim-oo1rb]

Oh, I've noticed that a LOT with many of my "friends" or former schoolmates. I start questioning whether their online persona is their actual true selves, or if they are just putting up a mask for the others to see. But then I start questioning myself why I care so much, and why I still keep on following all these people even if I've barely had a straight conversation with them before. Social media really distorts our perception of others and ourselves. I'm trying to be less caught up in the online world, and only go on it for practical purposes.

[@ian3525]

@@Kim-oo1rb 👍, I feel you too,

[@bonjourcherie5425]

I think this is by far the best video i've seen regarding opinions on social media

[@RafaFerrer]

I was tearing in the end. This is so true. We live in a vacant age. Most of people are pretending...

[@AppDevD]

You explained it very well Mam. I used to feel down seeing other people partying or visiting beautiful places. I used to curse my life but I been away from social media for last couple of months and I am happy now.

[@sunsfan8535]

Dhruv Patel Meanwhile, I just traveled 7 different countries and gained a ton of knowledge and culture. Kidding, Maybe one day. :(

[@painexotic3757]

Same here lol. I fell into depression seeing people my age living good lives, while I felt left behind smh. Meanwhile, the stats don't lie. The majority of people my age are broke or in debt. It's all a facade!

[@umarchowdhury7752]

"Look at those below you and do not look at those above you, because it is more suitable that you do not despise the blessings of Allah" The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam)

[@mdshahrear]

This is certainly one the best TedTalk I've seen. Really helpful and inspiring, Thank you, Bailey Parnell for this wonderdul video.

[@gabrielincognito8855]

It's not, if you think this is "one of the best"... I have bad news for your intellectual status. But then again you probably knew that.

[@rajshreegautam4636]

It’s been 1yr almost..I haven’t even used a inch of social media... Already positive engulfed me..

[@JklHints-Tips]

Watching TEDx Talks is a good and positive side of social media.