(Fe)Male Gazing | Drew Afualo ft. Brittany Broski | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 5

[@randomaccessmemories8912]

Im so glad they found each other after being separated at birth. Touching.

[@sarahjune8127]

I just cackled

[@dogs9858]

This made me LOL

[@soggycookie345]

LMFAO

[@valerievelez7699]

Facts

[@wednesday8161]

LMAOO 😭😭

[@danielleswartz1457]

This makes me feel like I'm sitting on the floor in my room while my older sisters are chatting on the bed, I am so comfy and safe :)

[@bernadetterogers4006]

aww dis cute

[@Carissaa]

Pretty sure I'm older than both of them, but SAME

[@thearlgrey]

Ahhh sameeeeee!

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

I know I’m a month late, but I had to reply to you. Your comment was so sweet! I feel the same way, but I feel more like they’re my peers, they’re my friends. But I’m a little bit older than that, so that makes sense! Keeping your sweet Self!

[@mariya_tortilla]

Reminds me of hanging out/being babysat by my older cousins on her bed while she talked to her friends. She always involved me and i really appreciated that

[@grumpyunicorn3069]

Fun fact… Cleopatra would soak the sails of her ships in Jasmine perfume/essential oil so that when she went on diplomatic missions you could smell her coming before you even saw her ships…. Talk about making an entrance and making a power play! I like to think our perfume obsessed preteen selves are tapping into that kind of energy as we try to find ourselves lol

[@julianamaia939]

Or, again, it could be so she would be desirable to men. She used a scent to feel attractive. The male gaze.

[@a.j.1819]

@@julianamaia939 Not really. If she did it to be desirable, she did it to profit off of the male gaze. She was a smart woman and used mens attraction to her to secure political power.

[@julianamaia939]

@@a.j.1819 how exactly is displaying your attractiveness/womanly characteristics to secure your political power not misoginistic? She wasnt respected because she was a “smart woman”, she was respected bc she was beautiful. That IS the male gaze.

[@yupyup1435]

@@julianamaia939 well she had really fin large army. And the world doesn't revolve around men, if I finna feel like looking good that's for ME and not for you.

[@val0_____________279]

@@yupyup1435 slay.

[@Awwwtumn]

I saw a tiktok where a man asked a woman “why are woman qualified to speak on masculinity” and she replied with… “The same way you are the most qualified to speak about whiteness. That you as a black man understand whiteness far more than I ever will. and that’s not to say it’s your labor or your work but you actually can teach us way more, because you have had to deal with it every single minute. When your the oppressed group, you know everything about the oppressor. You know things that they don't even know about themselves.”

[@sailoraries8086]

that's from the Man Enough podcast by Justin Baldoni

[@milacvetkovic8835]

@@sailoraries8086 do you know which episode or maybe a timestamp? would love to watch that conversation

[@milacvetkovic8835]

@@sailoraries8086 thank you!!

[@imbobimbob]

Whoever said that is 100% correct and it's so unfortunate other oppressed groups can't just support each other.

[@ko-lq7vu]

damn

[@freudianslipp]

“hurr durr does feminism mean i can hit women??” as if they aren’t already hitting us.

[@pinkkfloydd]

The domestic violence abuse split is about 65-35. And lesbian couples have the highest rates of domestic violence.

[@jujumama]

@@pinkkfloydd guess that makes it ok then!! 🖕

[@biancadesousa]

@@pinkkfloydd thats from one study and its very inaccurate and no actual professional would take it serious

[@Jheneaaiko]

@@pinkkfloydd thank you sir

[@Jheneaaiko]

@@jujumama he's not saying it makes it ok, he's saying men aren't the only ones to blame

[@thekalamari]

“it’s like men want that emotional support, and they want to cosplay a relationship, but when it actually comes down to committing and accountability, like, are you someone in my life that i can rely on? immediately no. and then they make YOU feel CRAZY!” girl, ain’t that the damn truth, wow. I LOVED THIS POD 🙌🏼💗

[@MarcianMarshmallows]

That part scratched my brain in ways I couldn’t even imagine were possible. I love them so much

[@emmanemz5824]

this is so damn true. I've had quite a few guys want every benefit in a relationship but they don't even have to be loyal to me cause they don't want to commit and be responsible. and then paint me as the crazy one cause I want to see it going somewhere

[@seds94]

For sure. Men dont take accountability like women do. Women also communicate better and more direct and are always the first to apologize. And men are so emotional too like they cant control it. If only men were more like women the world would be a better place for sure

[@sayeeed1303]

Men are monogamous out of necessity, not choice. No men want to be sexually exclusive. If every men had the choice to attract multiple women, they would never settle

[@sayeeed1303]

@@emmanemz5824 it has nothing to do with responsibility. You just don't have anything to offer except your body. If you want a men to commit to you, you have to make him desire to want to commit. This is where most women fail.

[@rue-bee9916]

As a teenage girl watching this podcast has really made me realize how I think about /am effected by the actions of men around me. I didn’t know how much I change myself every day for men, Who value me less then bit coin and only talk about themselves… I feel like I am finding myself.

[@kir-is-here]

from one internet stranger to another, i’m so proud of you for doing that self-reflection!! hope you have a good week and that you love continuing to find yourself♥️

[@rue-bee9916]

@@kir-is-here from one internet stranger to another. Thank you, and I hope you have a great week

[@XTheBeautyGuruX]

Yes bestie, welcome to the journey! It's gonna be a wild ride, and there's gonna be a lot to unlearn, but damn you're gonna be free.

[@rue-bee9916]

@@XTheBeautyGuruX :) damn I want to be free so bad. And I’ll work for it

[@astro_funky13]

go off queen

[@OOICIDE]

girl you gotta turn your mics volume up in the final cut of these. it’s so quiet then an ad comes and it’s screaming at me 😂🖤

[@pluckyfox]

Agree, my TV volume is at 100 and Drew is kind of hard to hear.

[@gabrielerainee]

Yess I listen in the shower and can't hear 😩 lol

[@ryangray8075]

deadass omg

[@pilarrrita]

Lmaoooo I was looking for this comment. Had to throw my headphones in questioning if I gotta go see the ENT 😅

[@hotsexyangel]

YESSS I was hoping someone else would say something omg

[@ceciliomendoza5138]

I'm a gay stripper. And the story's I hear from straight men locker rooms has 100% surpassed anything I've seen or done😳

[@Fronko_]

SPILL? 😳

[@imbobimbob]

Could you tell us a bit more about that?

[@loveoflife3081]

Lol no !!!!😆

[@nunpho]

I'm curious 🤔

[@lio8194]

Please give us more reasons to despise cis straight men

[@breem2999]

I just realized that instead of dressing for the male gaze in middle school, I dressed to hide from it. Baggy pants and shirts because I thought I was fat and ugly and didn't want to draw any attention to myself. Then later in HS and college as I gained confidence, I dressed more to satisfy the male gaze and took pride in it. I don't think I really started dressing for myself until almost 30.

[@123leenaaa]

yup. Also being so hung up on sizes most of my clothes didn’t fit well. Yikes what a journey we’ve come

[@Plaine9]

@@123leenaaa honestly same

[@Musiyca]

Same. Growing up I was dressing to hide. Especially after being objectified at family gatherings once my breasts started to grow. I literally just wanted to feel safe at home. I hated my hourglass/spoon shapes, because I knew I would be drooled at by nasty older men. As an adult I love my shapes and I play with clothes, but still keeping it mostly safe and baggy and flowy to have air going easly through the fabric.

[@HelloBombshell21]

Me too, my 90lbs self thought I was fat, and knew if I dressed feminine I’d be a HUGE target. I then embraced it. Even at also 30, I look 16 and predatory men are obsessive.

[@silverrandl6504]

I was thinking the exact same thing while watching that bit. I remember trying to bind my chest as much as possible to avoid harassment at 14 and 15 yrs old.

[@carolineuhh7644]

Can we also talk about how men want a girl who likes the same things they like but once they find one who is truly into cars/sports/fitness they’re so quick to tear them down acting like women can’t realistically understand those topics like men do. They want a man to the core lmao

[@user-np8yf8fj2w]

Omg ikr, I saw a TikTok abt a girl talking abt stocks and the comments were filled with men saying stuff like “I’d be heartbroken if my girl knew this much abt stocks” insinuating that the only way a woman can know anything abt the stock market is through a past ex, but then they put women down for “being dumb” and apparently not knowing anything abt such topics, it’s so stupid.

[@Letnaturelive]

THIS!!!!! Suddenly it’s not cool to be interested in football or some other guy had to show you ect. Like hello i am a human with interests ?!

[@soggycookie345]

PREACHHHHH

[@carolineuhh7644]

@@Letnaturelive sUdDEnlY I KnOw mOre thAN You bECaUsE IM mAn gO Do mAkeUp!!!

[@carolineuhh7644]

@@user-np8yf8fj2w like do they expects girls to be born knowing everything about stocks?? Lmao it’s hilarious how unaware they are of their stupidity

[@scswenson]

your energies together is magic PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF FANFIC DO A PODCAST TOGETHER. I would give so much money pls

[@bgingerich]

I would HAPPILY sacrifice my Netflix subscription for tickets to that show 😍😍😍

[@tlmjjs1339]

YESSSSSSS i came here to comment this!!!

[@batbabysitter3533]

Did u know that all the podcast shows brittany have been to, all the comment section ask her to be a permanent host. The girl is just popping.

[@kyokostorm]

OH MY GOOOOOOD!!! A podcast with the 2 of them would be perfect!

[@rachelmichele7697]

Brittany already has a podcast with her roomie Sarah schauer! Dreaming of an episode where they talk about misogyny online and drew is a guest🥰

[@Amanda-js9cw]

“Women are art.” Absolutely. Period. 1000000%. Hands down. Big purr.

[@cez_is_typing]

As someone who is attracted to both men and women I find men attractive sure But women are like SO aesthetically pleasing to look at Literally Greek goddesses, all of em

[@seds94]

@@cez_is_typing i agree 100% women are so beautiful to look at but thats about it

[@cez_is_typing]

@@seds94 that is not what I said lmao, women are beautiful inside and out, men usually have like, 2 hobbies and don't wash themselves correctly lmao

[@seds94]

@@cez_is_typing how you gonna be beautiful on the inside and not look up to men. Idk if that's possible but i agree with the 2 hobbies thing. Better to master one thing in my opinion

[@omegaaura3082]

@@seds94 What? There’s plenty of ways to be a good and beautiful person without looking up to men?

[@sarahnason5994]

Re: dress code, I remember feeling so confused in junior high because the dress code said no short shorts, but that’s all the teen girls’ stores sold. I literally didn’t know what to do. Now I realize this was one of my first experiences with the constantly opposing expectations of women that make it impossible for us to exist!

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

So very true.

[@TheReMorseCode]

Not to be on my radfem moment but... Men uphold a patriarchal standard that sexualizes young women and then shame women for abiding by that standard BECAUSE shame and humiliation is part of control. The same men who shame women and girls when they dress provocatively secretly love it when women drsss that way. The average person's concept of their own sexuality is SO unhealthy and full of this shame and contradiction, whether inflicted on others or inflicted on themselves.

[@mina-op8ql]

@@TheReMorseCode i know this is a year later, but pls continue being on ur radfem moment because i literally never thought abt this. i distinctly remember wondering why i couldnt wear shorts at like 8 yrs old even though thats literally majority of the pants section at the store for girls

[@simoneblue12]

8:04 Drew: “Selena Gomez..” Brittany: “Naturally.” UNDERRATED JOKE

[@k8bug_]

so glad y’all noticed this too haha

[@emmalwooten]

watching drew laugh the same way i laugh at brittany's jokes is incredible

[@Krazykara610]

This so SO good! Brittany’s ability to just vibe with anyone is unmatched!

[@emilyanne6872]

I was literally just thinking this. Every podcast I’ve seen her on it’s like she’s best friends with the host. I love it!!

[@bbymoon]

I was just thinking this. One of the best things about her. Brittany is just amazing and vibes with anyyoonnee!!!

[@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa333]

Is there a word for that?

[@ChronicaErys]

@@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa333 I think chemistry?

[@monikabun]

i know this episode was nearly an hour...but it wasn't long enough. i need more of this duo in my life.

[@teahopotae5991]

I absolutely love how effortless this convo flowed. The authenticity of Drew and Brittany's relationship really showed. Chemistry was top notch and super engaging.

[@julieherrmann6801]

as a plus sized girlie still trying to kill the male gaze in my brain, this was SO incredibly healing ❤️‍🩹 love you guys

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

Totally agree. I was a size 10 to 12 most of my adult life, and I’ve recently started actually eating and enjoying my life, and now I’m an 18 and I’m trying to get comfortable with myself! This podcast is so healing. Love you, thicc sister!

[@taylor.yrn2359]

@@noodlepoodlegirlsize 18????😳

[@norg6090]

the way brittany talks about sarah’s perspective is so heartwarming, really making me tear up how understanding and amazed she is about it :,)

[@soggycookie345]

Do you know what Sarah she’s talking about

[@norg6090]

Soggy Cookie sarah schauer (her roommate) :)

[@soggycookie345]

@@norg6090 okay ty

[@Grimrose_04]

@@norg6090 and cousin 😍 /j lol

[@emilylouraine341]

I saw a TikTok that said, "Are you attracted to men, or are you attracted to the way men's attention makes you feel?" and that's what pushed me over the line from bisexual to a lesbian, which I think a LOT of girls need to ask themselves today.

[@nataliekramer5187]

DAMN. DAMN. I gotta go reflect now as a bi woman

[@user-np8yf8fj2w]

I’m so painfully straight 😞

[@daniellew.7928]

I really wish there was a non straight bone in my body.

[@emmanemz5824]

@@daniellew.7928 I'm bi and I really understand what you mean because I hate men so so much. But if you think about it, it's so isolating. When I came out I felt so unaccepted and alone. I would be so much more comfortable holding my man's hand in public or taking him home to my parents than i would with a woman. Still so many judgmental and hateful people in the world and it's a terrible feeling. Girls are so much nicer (most of the time) and better emotionally and they're so beautiful and funny and thoughtful but it's so hard to be open

[@emilylouraine341]

@@emmanemz5824 very much how i'm feeling. I love that I'm not straight, but it has NOT been as easy as the straights think it is lmao

[@Notnotdani]

This episode did not disappoint!!! Couldn’t stop laughing 😂

[@Pandadown9244]

for real I was where have you been all my life.

[@Notnotdani]

@@Pandadown9244 right!! Imagine a whole series with them! A dream 🙌🏻

[@PikaPeaks]

“They want all the perks of a relationship without the actual accountability of a relationship.” That in itself explains my ex I just broke up with. I have never been so triggered by words lol

[@choosehappy9224]

It's funny how Drew gets so much hate when you can see she's clearly a sweetheart. Be a good person and she'll be good back, it's not that hard.

[@miguelber1997]

Interesting point about Timothee, two of his most famous acting jobs have been written and directed by a woman. Little Women and Lady Bird were written and directed by Greta Gerwig. So I would say that a lot of his characters have been done through the female gaze and people confuse that with his actual personality (which we the audience don’t really know)

[@Thisisholly]

Also his biggest movie call me by your name was directed by a gay male, so that probably contributes as well

[@RachelIlacqua14]

This was an interesting comment, good point.

[@laurencollins829]

"if they weren't circumcised, they are now" I LITERALLY HAD TO PAUSE AND LAUGH PLEASEJUAOFOUANDF

[@fricketyfracktraintrack]

Same 💀

[@Amy_Elizabeth]

I need Chris klemens on this podcast asap WITH Brittany! The trio I dream of.

[@tanikohata]

YESSSS

[@kimberlyjimenez9636]

YES

[@joshpyman9678]

I love Chris but he would DESTROY the mellow, funny vibe here 😂 Chris is chaos

[@Ekstussy]

I think they filmed one with him!

[@kalpic11]

Sooo true cause he's the other person that just clicked with Brittany.

[@vic8626]

I was literally crying watching this, I haven't laughed that hard in a minute. Probably because there isn't enough female podcasts. Women are so fucking funny man

[@maryjaneshoes4life]

i wish this ep was 8 hours long, omfg i could listen to y’all talk forever

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

Me too! I would love to have a couple episodes that were several hours long. We literally can’t get enough of a good thing.

[@canonrazi]

the whole pick me girl thing has always driven me crazy, because in my mind it all stemmed from the fact that women were always made fun of for liking the things they liked (whether it was stereotypical "girly things" or more "boy things"). no matter what women like, they get made fun of for it. and constantly trying to "prove" themselves. exhausting. now women are coming up and being proud of what they like and do, and the boys cant cope. any girl reading this, do what you like, be kind, and embrace your power. you're way cooler than the bigots in the back!

[@aabracadavra]

I partly agree with your analysis. But I think this phenomenon is far more convoluted. First off, what is femininity? How much of it is nature and how much is social conditioning. Characteristics such as "pretty, soft, fragile" are often times associated with femininity, and yet when you actually consider the intrinsically and biologically female characteristics such as the ability to create and birth humans, menstruation, the physiology of the female brain and its functions, nothing about it really is exclusively fragile, soft, pretty. Childbearing is not defined by frailty. It’s transformative, aggressive and spiritual. Having to go trough the symptoms of having your uterus lining breaking down, bleeding and being in pain every month does not require softness, it requires strength and resilience. Raising a human also requires cognitive complexity, mental strength, discipline and a deep sensitivity to subtle cues, the ability to understand human experience and psychology, and heightened emotional intelligence. Nature works by refining itself to reach efficiency, and such rigorous and complex tasks given to females also require granting women the ability to fulfill them. Otherwise we wouldn’t’ve survived. So those beforementioned required characteristics must be present in women. This is not to say that women show their worth by being mothers, but to try and find femininity through objective and scientific means, as opposed to ideological. Because as it stands, the narrative we hear doesn’t seem to fit reality. Prettiness is not intrinsically feminine either, nor is it required exclusively of women, since physical attraction benefits both men and women. It is, however, mostly expected of women. I would argue that the definition of femininity currently propagated is a mockery, to put it briefly. Looking at how men react to free and independent women, I’d say it’s imperative for them that femininity is curated and presented as a set of behavioral traits which keep women “non-threatening”. So, I find it necessary that we examine who’s norms are we following when we decide to go against the pick-me phenomenon, in order to limit the risk of placing ourselves in another trap.

[@canonrazi]

@@aabracadavra I loved this. I don’t often comment on videos but I felt a nagging feeling and wanted to share my frustration. I wasn’t as nuanced as you in sharing those feelings but I can say that your comment here was truly relatable! All the things running around in my head that I couldn’t properly articulate, you did so clearly. I hope my comment didn’t rub anyone the wrong way, I just didn’t have the words, or maybe a bit too clumsy with my words.

[@aabracadavra]

@@canonrazi You were perfectly clear in your argumentation, and also correct since women truly are vilified and belittled no matter what they do. Your frustration is justified as well. I just find it hypocritical of them to criticize so called "feminine" behavior when it's pretty clear to me that this behavior was to some extent forced on women, by men, so they could feel comfortable in their equally fabricated portrayal of masculinity. I also saw it as an opportunity to raise awareness and potentially help other women escape those traps. I know it helped me. Since I was both a pick me and a "feminine" girl in my life. I'm currently in the process of becoming myself, and redefining femininity. I also know how hard it is to find yourself in media or the system as a woman, since it's heavily patriarchal and oppressive. Seeing that you found my commentary relatable makes my day. It's the least I can do.

[@maliciousqueefer3427]

@@aabracadavra There's too much words that I'm not reading but you both slayed 😍😍

[@ghosty8193]

The thing with 'pick me girls' is more about putting other women down to appease men. Like wearing makeup is fine. Not wearing makeup is also fine. It's when girls who don't wear makeup say 'oh well I don't wear makeup because I'm all natural and don't want to deceive men with makeup.' Another example: girls who play sports vs girlier girls. Both are fine but if the other puts down the other for what they prefer to appease men, then it's 'pick me' behaviour.

[@jamiehumphries2527]

I'm obsessed with the ongoing Broski podcast tour era. Always a huge serotonin boost 🙏

[@Notnotdani]

Let’s fucking go!!!! My dream collaboration right here!!!! Ahhh I’m so pumped!!!

[@emmabowers4394]

I love being able to relate to now grown women about the Wattpad stage in my life. Girl the things I learned on that app, the absolute smut I wrote at 13-15. Cultural reset for my life honestly

[@sayeeed1303]

Men watch porn, women read porn (wattpad)

[@kamjohnson6877]

The stuff I wrote and read at 13-15 was wild lmao but honestly wattpad had a great community

[@Abhishekxsahu]

@@sayeeed1303 the way u just gave male vs female gaze example 😭

[@mayahernandez3007]

They are both so freaking well spoken!! This whole conversation is a masterpiece

[@cestaimee]

Read this comment as Brittany said: “do it be jiggling from the back?” 😂

[@portiagreenwood5225]

I love this episode. These two are gold together. The audio was really low though. I could barely hear it in my car at full volume.

[@helendrew3640]

I had the same thing. Great episode though.

[@meheenruby]

was looking for this comment lol it's so hard to hear

[@molsondutch93]

Same, no matter how high I turned it up it's SO QUIET

[@Sha_NaLeaaaa]

Dude I was looking for this comment!

[@laurenknabel]

no but drew’s whole look today was stunning

[@MissSeedy]

My lizzie Maguire 90s/00s fantasy 😍

[@Person1865]

It reminds me of what was popular when I was when in middle school but attractive.

[@whatsupwashingtonitsmeohio8301]

I realized I relate to them so much because they lived a “normal” teenage and early 20s life. I feel like I’m listening to my friends talk.

[@thevermontbudgeter420]

i just love drew so much. as someone who has a very loud and distinct laugh, i was heavily harassed and bullied. i love listening to drew cackle, it makes me happy that she’s authentic & i wish i had her when i was younger

[@sofiastukalsky8549]

It’s unbelievable how every single podcast episode I listen to that has invited Britney, even if I haven’t listened to any of their episodes before, I love it just with her being there. She has chemistry with literally everyone. Can’t get enough. The Coke socks? LIVING

[@restlessmelody]

this felt like watching two women instantly become best friends it was so fun you both are always entertaining wish you two could be podcast partners as well

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

I think Brittany should be a guest Andrea show routinely, like once a month or something! I love Brittany with Sarah, but Brittany with Drew was so, so good too!

[@megan7506]

Got catcalled by a guy in his car on my walk today. I immediately wished I could have called to Drew like the Batman call.

[@hannahbarbarian6786]

Be your own Drew girlie but carry mace bc guys are crazy

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

@@hannahbarbarian6786 ya wanna hear something crazy? Mace and any kind of self defense weapons that you imagine the gals, gays and theys could benefit from are illegal in the UK. Its considered carrying a weapon. TRULY.

[@mariac1984]

@@RealElongatedMuskrat what do you have to protect yourself? just your fists?

[@aquariussolaris2492]

Bark at them

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

@@mariac1984 pretty much! The UK Gov be like: oh you're worried about SA and trying to protect yourself? Cry about it 😘✨

[@esmieadele8865]

This was SOO healing for me… I needed this laughter at male gaze, I’m recovering from SA and needed y’all’s company! Giggled so much✨

[@angel127_]

hope ur doing ok🤞❤️ sending love to u

[@esmieadele8865]

@@angel127_ awe appreciate that a lot, thank you!✨💞

[@georgiakuchinsky]

blessings bestie, you deserve all the healing and laughter 🥰

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

me too friend, I've just started therapy after chickening out for years because I didn't wanna relive it but I'm reliving it every day by not dealing with the fall out so hey. Hit me wit it. Sending you love and healing energy ❤️

[@esmieadele8865]

@@georgiakuchinsky thank youuu I needed this today!🥰

[@MommaBara]

My two comfort women. I need more of y’all just chatting. It’s such a blessing.

[@stefani92]

“Do it jiggle” made me loseeeeee it 😂 These two together are perfect!

[@MD-dh5yu]

LOVE THIS but the audio is very hard to hear, volume is max and still very low

[@mikaylaraee]

I experienced the same thing. Love these girls but was def a little hard to hear 🥲

[@Isflyaj]

girl same my car volume was on max and almost crashed when the ads screamed at me

[@SatanicKhaos]

I was wondering if I was the only one.

[@meaganmike8063]

Is that her natural voice too? Its very raspy and hard to hear sometimes too where as Brittany was so loud haha

[@halfbr00taldiamonds]

The way y’all say “we’re twins”, look nothing alike but then look at each other and laugh the same way at the same time. I’m done. 😂🤣😂

[@carlyfasoldt]

I’ve been rejected by men my whole life too. The minute I start dating a woman, all the men I ever talked to or had crushes on suddenly contacted me and practically begged me to be with them. 🙃 I didn’t lmao.

[@Musiyca]

I find it ironic that the most attractive women are usually the taken ones. I mean it that once you're in a relationship and you build that emotional intimacy and trust and safety, suddenly all the guys can see your glow and get attracted like a magnet.

[@pinkkfloydd]

Press X to doubt.

[@harrypike731]

You got rejected by the men that *you* wanted, you mean? There's nothing wrong w rejection tbf. We aren't gonna be attractive to everyone, and that's ok. If that's you in your profile pic, you seem like a very regular-looking person (as are most people) so I doubt there were ZERO men interested in you. They just probably weren't on your radar. I have some girl friends like this lol. They constantly bemoan being single and no guys being into them etc, meanwhile they have all these different guys in their messages and who they go for brunch with and stuff who clearly wanna date her but she'll just ignore it 😂😂

[@cherrycokee]

@@harrypike731bro what

[@harrypike731]

@@cherrycokee my comment was in clear English. Sorry your reading comprehension skills are lacking

[@clairebradley4906]

8:18 can I just say. I HATED when I was reading a fanfic and all of a sudden there a pregnancy scare or real pregnancy. Immediately killed the vibe. I would immediately stop reading. The rest of the plot tho sounds aware winning💀

[@BubsGirl291]

This podcast was eye-opening for me when it comes to coming to terms with the types of people that I am *truly* attracted to. All my life I have said that I like really tall and muscular guys, but never really felt attracted to any of the ones that I have encountered. But now, I am in college, and I have started to really like this guy who is more feminine and comfortable in his masculinity. He cares about his fashion sense, cares about keeping his living space clean and well-kept, and always goes out of his way to make me feel comfortable, and hell, his hair is longer than mine. At first, I was apprehensive to admit that I liked him, because he is not "my type." But that's the thing. He *is* my type--my actual type--and I was just saying that I liked tall muscular men because society told me to.

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

Super insightful and a bit of a love story!

[@maddiesonalynnn]

Literally crying at the transformers part omg y’all are incredible together

[@kelleyc3983]

Y’all describing seventh graders smellin like an onion farm had me cackling omfg

[@ladosis5596]

Last time someone asked me why I was single (in a genuine way, he's a friend) I just said "I got so tired of men and I'm not into women". I hadn't articulated it before, but that's the god honest truth.

[@selene7032]

I ENJOYED EVERY SINGLE SECOND 😭 these women are blessings!!

[@samwalker6571]

High key want a part two to this with a gay or bi man talking about the male gaze in the gay community. It gets into the whole masc for masc culture and is extremely toxic. This was such a good ep I want more hahaha

[@BozeDoesGodsWork]

THIS! I most definitely want a video about it

[@willowgarko5369]

The way you guys bounce ideas off each other is SO entertaining

[@whatsupwashingtonitsmeohio8301]

I relate to these two so deeply. Tumblr, fanfictions, MySpace coding, escaping corporate America. I’m so glad I finally found the other girlies from Wattpad 🧡

[@ashtynfletcher4030]

when i was a kid i was living in Texas and saw a bunch of trucks with “fat girls can’t jump” stickers on them and when i asked my mom what it meant she said “they’re making fun of women because they’re sad about themselves; never pay boys like that any mind” and i will never forget that for as long as i live

[@kaylaw5184]

Britney is the ultimate podcast guest. Any podcast I see her on I watch! And y’all vibe so well together too!

[@tackrobinson831]

What I love about this show is that it tackles serious and long-standing topics like this, but does it in a way that's funny, open, and not pretentious 😩 like it's a way for everyone to relate to it and enjoy the conversation without impostor syndrome

[@TheBee123]

Please have Hila from H3 on this podcast but only Hila no Ethan. I feel like Hila has a lot of good things to say and stories to tell especially from her experience growing up and from being in the fashion industry

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

ooo that would be so good! I don't know if that would happen any time soon with Bruce just being born, though. Hopefully some day!

[@sylvia9290]

Yes!!

[@mellowmead]

Yessssss leave Ethan out of it fr love him tho

[@TheBee123]

@@mellowmead yes! Hila doesn’t get to talk nearly enough! (Ethan is the main but i just need more Hila content)

[@jobrown1040]

omg yes I love Hila!!!

[@marleewardd9097]

most relatable thing, i NEED another episode with these two together!!

[@erineckenrode5634]

My first fanfic was pencil and paper and it was about The Fault in Our Stars. I wrote on pencil and paper for about three years before Wattpad came into my life. I still have my notebooks and I go back and read a story when I’m feeling super down. Love these women.

[@carissadrum1364]

i’m gonna need a part 2 cuz this is the greatest thing i’ve ever witnessed

[@ppapas6457]

I got dress coded in highschool for wearing my school soccer team sweatpants and my school tennis team sports tank top. On "spirit day". When the cheer team got to wear their uniform, tank top and sport skirt. But because I have big tits and hips, I was inappropriate. IN MY SCHOOL SPORTS UNIFORM. Explain that plz.

[@XTheBeautyGuruX]

Misogyny ✨

[@ppapas6457]

@@XTheBeautyGuruX I mean no one had a problem with the cheerleaders

[@XTheBeautyGuruX]

@@ppapas6457 you're saying you were developed, and that's why they dress coded you. But you were a minor. That makes them kinda sketchy pedo no?

[@maiadraconica6488]

cause the adult men who run the school think youre attractive and they wanna shame you for it

[@Shelbynrose]

@@ppapas6457 that’s the misogyny

[@harmonyquinn2557]

What I find hilarious ab the red-pilled, goofy looking, incel male gaze: they’ll go on and on ab our standards being so high, but they’re really only talking ab _very attractive_ women. The irony bc they’re not trying to date the average woman.

[@lilscenechick1995]

@Hayley Bagels Girl are you okay? You're all over this comment section defending misogyny, objectification and hypermasculintiy.

[@wutangclandamn]

@@lilscenechick1995 girl she not ok, we lost one, just gotta chop it up to the game

[@sayeeed1303]

@@wutangclandamn she is being realistic. Most women who complain about misogynistic men, fucbois or masculine men always end up sleeping with them.

[@jt-eh3pz]

@Hayley Bagels is that like ur kink or something… being objectified?

[@ripabigfatoneforme]

@Hayley Bagels that is genuinely embarrassing please never admit that to anyone

[@sophiagull4603]

Love watching this and knowing Brittany finally met Harry 😂👏🏻

[@anaijaime5222]

when she said that i was like "oop. who's gonna tell her ??"

[@AriaIndy]

Absolutely loved this podcast. I think of myself as pansexual but feel more attracted to masc women. I also work in s*x work industry and profit off of the male gaze. It’s made me realize so many things about men and sometimes it’s mentally draining to be what they want and not educate them. Maybe someday I’ll be comfortable enough to be out publicly about my job and share everything I’ve seen and learned on social media/a podcast.

[@ChristinaSimpson]

Please do!!!

[@cleokaiba9597]

This whole episode was so good! It's interesting to hear people actually talk about the male and female gaze. ♥

[@meghanmccrary9317]

I’m so happy that young girls are going to see this and VALUE THEMSELVES 👏🏻

[@skillzzzzzzzzz]

now i need drew on violating community guidelines PAAALLEEEAAASEEEE!!!!!

[@kiddkenaii]

Y’all should collab more 😂 you feed off each other so well, the sense of humor is immaculate

[@kileyhall7805]

every time i convince myself i’m crazy and overthinking the toxic situationship i was in i need to come back to this video bc DAMN y’all set me straight in 5 seconds flat

[@hannahdennington9697]

They really are twin flames. They spark joy in my soul the same exact way, like soooo fucking funny and smart

[@muchomango11]

Bro you h a v e to have Brittany back on, the energy in the room was EVERYTHING

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

Agreed! Let’s make it a regular thing! I loved it, and I’ve only read enthusiastically adoring comments.

[@ioannaatsikatsou6610]

I can't fucking believe it, THIS is the best collab ever!!!! Your energies just combine so well and there's such amazing proximity, I felt like I was there too having a chat with you!... Love you both!

[@vaibh4vi]

y’all’s chemistry is so good u better bring brittany back

[@emilymaexo_]

He let out a ✨breathe✨ 😂😂 (the way I cackled this ENTIRE episode. Loved it.)

[@sofiav7791]

I rarely laugh out loud at videos but this had me SCREAMING. The way my two favourite internet women perfectly encompassed the confusing feminine experience was so satisfying. This was art dude

[@caraline6636]

They should also touch on men’s weird unanimous attraction Ryan Reynolds

[@anaccaivy3005]

This! And Mark Wahlberg

[@ryangray8075]

OMFG FR

[@caraline6636]

@Hayley Bagels look who got defensive for no reason. he’s a middle aged average looking man. And I’m 💅 so I disagree but regardless it’s not about me liking him it’s about even straight men saying they think he’s hot when he’s taken and almost fifty. I just find it strange that even straight men apparently like an average looking man I think they’re just trying to be one of The Boys or are in the closet. I never said men had to be straight it’s that straight men apparently like this dude because everyone else does.

[@ryangray8075]

@Hayley Bagels why are we arguing over this

[@caraline6636]

@@ryangray8075 exactly

[@frydfish4934]

Just for the men who are thinking it: yes, they're only talking about certain men. It's OK to feel defensive but don't get wacky. And yes, the majority of history being terrible for women does mean sexisim to them does have more power, not that you don't have your own problems

[@paramorenthusiast]

Very well put.

[@seds94]

Repeal the 19th asap. Yesterday

[@nunpho]

Thank yoooouuuuuuu!! So many guys respond in that way and it's frustrating.

[@tinalyzhen]

it's only the shitty men who get all defensive about it, but the actual decent guys can tell that women aren't meaning ALL men and they'll sympathize and move on. but these shitty guys ong... anal about anything slightly negative towards masculinity lmao

[@floopinz4283]

Thanks. Ik a lot if comments are attacking all men tho and its kinda annoying

[@alizeriojas4747]

i had this saved to my watch later waiting for the perfect moment & atmosphere to watch it. A deep cleaned cozy room & ice cream seemed like it was time. Yall did not disappoint omg i need more of you two together!!

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

That sounds amazing, and like you enjoyed it!

[@rosebechdel158]

I am so mad because nothing will ever be as good as this. Can you two please do more things together? I want to hear more about men’s thought process and dating.

[@leahst.7852]

First time listening to this podcast and the fact that it exists really makes me happy. It really brings a balance between the sexist and misogynistic podcasts "alpha males" put out where they know nothing about women.

[@stripygummybear5533]

We need a Drew, Sarah and Brittany epsiode i'm begging you please this was the funniest thing ever

[@noodlepoodlegirl]

I hundred percent guarantee that if all three did an episode together, several listeners would literally die from laughing too hard. Dead. Myself included.

[@RyanBartlitt]

As a former Olive Garden server, nothing was more aggravating, time wasting, and just straight up obnoxious than when I had to shred an entire block of cheese over your CUP of soup and then for the salad, and then for your entrees. They might as well just give me carpal tunnel with the $3 tip they’ll leave. Literally the main reason I quit that god forsaken noodle shack

[@TheKiri1998]

I always get so confused when I read about the server grating cheese over your food lol. It's not a thing in europe, usually they bring out already grated parmesan in a little dish to your table so you can serve yourself all through the meal. But glad you got out of there lol, sounds awful especially for a tip like that 😬

[@RyanBartlitt]

@@TheKiri1998 it is specific to one chain of restaurants lol. And Olive Garden just sells mediocre American-Italian food. But yeah it’s obviously not a great company to work for and their customer-base was just not great people

[@aureliahansen]

@@RyanBartlitt you literally couldn’t have worded this better 😵‍💫 I’m a server at OG

[@caitling1392]

I wish they would just have Parmesan on the table like every other place so I don’t have to sit through the awkward “say when “ cheese thing lol

[@TheBookNerd11]

I’ve loved every episode. But this one? This one is the best so far. You two vibe off each other so easily. I would watch all the episodes with both of you.

[@sammidebussy]

The ironic part is straight men don't really like women at all, but we're not ready for that conversation

[@Idkanymore12369yt]

They really don’t though

[@juice6494]

I'm new to this podcast and I laughed so fucking hard. Is this the format? Is Brittany just a guest this time? Can't Brittany be on again? Please, PLEASE do more, this is everything I could ever hope for and more, so much truth in 58 minutes and 24 seconds. Holy SHITE I cried.

[@madelinemismash7084]

the talk about fanfiction is one of my favorite parts because even though I'm 19, I still read fanfiction for fandoms I'm in now. Like archive of our own is so much more sophisticated than wattpad soemtimes and you can really find masterpieces on there. These 16 year olds are writing works of /art/ about two men falling in love and I forget it's fanfiction like dayummm!! but that wattpad genre is still so entertaining like the dramaaaaa. teenage fanfic writers the the backbone of our society.

[@deandragriffiths3137]

Keep doing you girly. I'm 22 and I've never stopped. Talk about works of art lol

[@boredcat9206]

The way they build a whole complex story with two characters and it's FREE. Insane.

[@mangalover0149]

I'm pretty sure the original story of my favourite book series was written on Wattpad when the author was 16.

[@rainwater4650]

Pls do more episodes together. Because y’all are HILARIOUS together! Loved it!

[@jacki4621]

I need this collab/podcast weekly injected into my brain. I’ve never laughed so hard in my entire life

[@boixgenius]

God i swear I've never laughed so hard. I need a whole podcast of just you two together fr match made in comedy heaven

[@nataliescelsi3894]

I love this show so much the only thing is that I have a really hard time hearing it so if the producers could turn it up that would be great :)

[@zonk35]

Brittany is my favorite person ever.

[@ryndrake5097]

This is the second time I’ve seen you guys together and it’s literally the best duo ever! 🙌🏽

[@mousescribner8641]

i genuinely feel like i could be actual besties with both of them and i love it

[@mousescribner8641]

like fr if youre 18+ and similar to these two or seriously relate to them pls i need friends LMAO

[@katierodenkirch5278]

It’s 10:30 pm on a Sunday, I just got back from a work outing, and I’m getting stoned and listening to y’all. Thanks for the good vibes ❤️❤️

[@Peepee4brain]

I feel like Pete Davidson/Chalamet type female-gaze people are also soooo like…. Stuck in the beauty standard of white and skinny. Like it completely excludes men of color, fat men, disabled men like even the female gaze in popular media is problematic

[@T_Cup]

Probably because it's still intrinsically tied into patriarchy, which upholds white as the conventional beauty standard. When cinema started moving away from the typical popular white jock ideal and toward the fragile geek turned knight/superhero ideal, it really just transferred a lot of the same standards onto a different body/personality type while leading girls and women to the same conclusion about men = white is right.

[@Musiyca]

@@T_Cup I was about to say that the halyu wave, which is the korean culture boom we're having, portrays it slightly different. But then I remembered the korean beauty standards where most singers and actors till this day bleach their skin in a way just to be as close to white as possible... They've been brainwashed by hollywood as well, althought some stars are starting to rock their natural skin tone with more confidence.

[@peacelife81]

True but I think in terms of weight it is different for men who are fat. They are still seen as more desirable then fat women. For example dad bods Homer Simpson and marge. Like I know many fat men who have a skinny girlfriend and everyone roots for them. Versus when it’s a fat women with a skinny man ppl feel bad for the guy and tell him to get out of the relationship. Also aging is different men can age and women shouldn’t. Ppl are calling Selena Gomez old looking

[@peacelife81]

True but I think in terms of weight it is different for men who are fat. They are still seen as more desirable then fat women. For example dad bods Homer Simpson and marge. Like I know many fat men who have a skinny girlfriend and everyone roots for them. Versus when it’s a fat women with a skinny man ppl feel bad for the guy and tell him to get out of the relationship. Also aging is different men can age and women shouldn’t. Ppl are calling Selena Gomez old looking

[@T_Cup]

@@Musiyca The halyu trend might be a trickle-down affect of the male gaze, which exotifies Asian beauty. This is rooted in racism and classism because there's this old, lingering belief that Asians (typically women) live to serve their western "superiors" (typically men), particularly in maintaining their beauty. And when you look at the way Kpop artists interact with their fans, this idea is prevalent = the live-to-serve attitude and the heavy focus on maintaining looks, weight and overall appearance, even among the male artists, is thriving.

[@ethanselvester3296]

drews facial expression when they simultaneously look at the camera like twins killed me off 🤣