Fear of Aging: Finding Freedom in This Impermanent World I, with Tara Brach

Fear of Aging: Finding Freedom in This Impermanent World I, with Tara Brach
While it’s natural to have fears of what’s ahead, when we learn to face the inevitability of change and loss without resistance, we discover true peace and freedom in the midst. In a very direct way, our awareness of impermanence awakens unconditional loving. These two talks explore the ways we habitually deny or resist reality, and the three interrelated pathways-refuge in the present moment, love and awareness-that liberate us.
Note: Tara quotes 14th century mystic Julian of Norwich, in her work “Revelations of Divine Love”.
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[@sally554x]

I have listened to many, but I always come back to Tara 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@estherherdink1300]

Same here 💫

[@yfoog]

Ditto 💚

[@cavewaller]

Yep!

[@ziggy5533]

Same.

[@guadalupemedina2851]

Me too.

[@lindalasley1192]

Tara tackles the hard issues of life...situations that NEED to be confronted. I find her stories funny and she helps me ease into my fears🥰Im thankful🥰

[@carolhorner9657]

Thanks please continue to give dharma talks on aging and dying Your books have helped me immensely with chronic neck and back pain from fusions and genetic issues💕

[@suebelyea7798]

As a new Sr.65 yr this will be right on time You are so loving 🥰 Tara Sincerely thankfull

[@ashleyvincent7580]

This resonated so deeply with me. I’m coming up on my fathers one year anniversary of his passing and it has been the most difficult year of my life after living out of the country and being left my a partner I thought was in it for the long haul. It’s been traumatizing to say the least and I’ve found myself after getting settled into a home being fearful of losing everyone around me eventually. I’m not afraid to die but my sensitive self is very nervous to witness all of the loss that lies ahead of me. This video helped and I’m very grateful for you Tara.

[@deweystace]

So relevant for me and others. I recently am a caretaker for my 90 year old Mother. I see the reality of impermanence.

[@susanwale8887]

Dear Tara, thank you so much for this amazing and deep message. I am 74 yrs. old and feeling knee and back pain on and off. Even going up or down stairs is harder than last year, I eat very healthy and walk 10000 step almost every day. Your words have reached me deeply since my fear of aging has increased so much lately. My husband passed away this year and your videos help me so much to keep my spirits up. ❤️🙏🏼🦋🌷

[@moniquemurphy4851]

🙏🏻

[@Alphacentauri819]

You are inspiring! I wish you peace 💛💫

[@suzyschuba5795]

Thank you Tara❤. Listened to on January 24, 2023. I have experienced many losses and a lot of body pain. I know the future holds more loss and more physical as well as emotional pain. I am grateful for your insight and peace giving talks. May you be happy and full of peace.

[@scottbartel8163]

Thankyou for your inspiring message

[@AmaraEagle]

I hope I will be walking 10,000 steps when I’m 74. You are inspiring and I hope you are having a good day 🌞

[@Ahoneywell]

I'm 67 too, I really needed this conversation/guidance. Thank you Tara

[@jameshurst8529]

How are you doing?😊

[@Dillidee]

I really needed this talk today. ❤️ I don't know how I stmbled across it since this video is over a year old. Thank you! Perfect timing.

[@susanwale8887]

We always get what we need each moment, right? We notice this when we are present and aware. ❤️

[@1holly1]

Blessed and thankful 💜

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Age is just a NUMBER. It doesn't define who you are! I'm over 50... and live life to the Fullest!

[@jennyfulcher8035]

Hi Tara: Very timely to have received your "Fear of Aging" talk on KZbin this evening. I've been struggling with my fears of aging. I've contended with a few health issues over the past year or so, which at times made me feel quite anxious until I remembered what Andy Whitfield said: "Be here now is all about being present and not fearing what you don't know." I'm turning 69 next week too. You recited one of my favorite mantras "all shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well." I found your talk about accepting impermanence, forgetting about the future, and staying anchored in the precious present very reassuring and calming. Thank you. Namaste 🙏🕊🌏 Jenny

[@madeleinecunningham6782]

I loved hearing Krishnamurti …spent time at his school …his words ..’ I don’t mind what happens ‘ I understand his words but find it hard to believe it can be accepted and appreciated by people who are vulnerable , have no money and no support while they are ageing ……

[@dianeibsen5994]

Thank you Tara. I don't currently have a home and I haven't had one of my own for the last two three years. Healing a devastating medical issue without family support. Having to ask ppl can stay in your home. It's been very tough..extremely humbling. Before that I was renting.. I've never owned a home. Living off my covid check currently one day at a time. I'm really grateful for the covid stimulus and for the kind people with that have let me stay in their home.

[@goodvibesonly1273]

God bless you and may people you to live in their homes May you be blessed with love and affection and help

[@lesliehayman5452]

Diane I wish for you nothing less than well-being!!! 🙏🌸🙏

[@Sashas-mom]

I’m so sorry for your misfortune 😞 I hope you find help.

[@queenredspecial]

I wish you luck and good fortunes. 💚✌️

[@carlosparra8976]

I truly hope you are doing OK Diane

[@Sashas-mom]

She’s so precious, so calming, I am very thankful for this content.

[@christelnielandt5117]

Love this so much. Am 55, to some I am still young, others see me as old. I find our society so fascinating and thanks to you Tara, I enjoy to keep on growing in life. Big thanks and big hug 🙏❤️

[@fraydaglass]

This teacher has come into my life at the most opportune time.

[@jeanneelliott7243]

Death doesn't concern me, but dying does. A long process of dying can be painful, time consuming for others, and expensive. We all die. But a quick death is definitely preferable.

[@watershedbarbie9685]

I am dealing with this right now. I have always looked years younger than my age. My daughters, who are 13 years apart, have always been mistaken for my sister, or "a friend." Here's the great thing: I have had a very exciting life, and have always gotten a lot of attention, and even a bit of "fame." Becoming a grandmother has made me happier than anything that has ever happened to me. I adore my grandkids, and can't wait to see them again. Covid has kept me from travelling, and I miss them sooooo much. But, yeah, giving up the power of being young looking is, well, interesting, lol

[@sallykirkstephens8415]

You came to the right place my friend . Somewhere deeper than the mirror....

[@archerlossing451]

Thank you 🙏

[@northofyou33]

@watershedbarbie, I have had the same sort of experience in my life. Though I'm not a grandmother yet. I hope I will be blessed with grandchildren one day.

[@mariasullivan6335]

Your brilliant... So full of soul... Goodness... A talented spiritual guru... Wow women never leave the Internet...

[@jjcool8252]

Thank you very much. Recently I've been troubled with the thought of my own mortality after doing a body checkup and the doctor's diagnosis kind of rattled me. My survival mind keeps thinking about what to do and what might happen. Only by anchoring myself to the present moment do I find peace. I still experience panic attacks now and then but will learn to take refuge in here, now and always. Thanks for very much for your sharing, Tara. It resonated with me and is a great help. 👍

[@rainspiritflower2385]

❤️

[@inchafune]

And Julian of Norwich near the end ... a lesson that nothing in human life has changed for centuries. Words written back in the middle ages can still resonate. Although a Buddhist, I am reading her book in the 'Thirty Day' series (ave.mariapress). So wonderful that a medieval mystic is a published author in our 21st century.

[@gailvanderwalde4814]

Omg Tara! Thank you so much for this. I recently experienced one of the most difficult periods of my life. I have come through it stronger and feeling so grateful for my life. I certainly have my fears but realize now that I am not alone. ❤️🙏👍

[@scottbartel8163]

Congratulations!

[@kimbiekheng166]

Thank you for this enlightening teaching 🙏🙏🙏🙏💕

[@teresahealy309]

Thank you, Tara, for bringing the Truth before us, so gently, so real.

[@sadiaarman363]

Theres fear, avoidance and grief when I think of aging. Avoiding making peace with reality. Numbing ourselves, eg, Spending too much time on- line. Its a survival- brain strategy. To avoid the vulnerability of aging. We do this by dominating and aggression too, and by trying to control the uncontrollable. We then lose touch of intimacy with our inner selves. So we go into a trance. We then talk of needing to take refuge in awareness of the present moment. Waking up from being in our head and coming back to our body and heart. Taking refuge by resting in Reality. Knowing that all will be well. We have to let go of our ideas of present, future and past. And just be in the present moment.

[@sadiaarman363]

Dear Tara, thank you for the great meditation. I have a tremendous fear of the death of dear ones. As i moved from the fearful abdomen to the heart it was hard and the I groaned. When you talked about the universality of that suffering I simply felt I hadnt thought this before. I felt my.heart was straining with the suffering.

[@bridgetc.marinaccio8024]

Omg! 67! Stunning and ageless!

[@carolhunt2023]

As always, Tara goes right to the heart of your deepest fears and empowers you to calm yourself. I just wish the final meditation was longer., just like her live sessions. Will be repeating this video when I need it most. So grateful.

[@dimension1to7allmine]

Thank you Tara, for openhearted sharing, and all the Love

[@Joelveach]

“…meet your edge & soften.❤

[@nancysalmon9364]

Thank you so much. Tears, deep deep emotions trying to soften the edge. Will listen to part 2.

[@Citibank639]

A person who have real true faith and believe would never be afraid of getting older or death. A true spiritual person Knows that there is no death! This is why it’s important to be religious and spiritual then you won’t be afraid of anything in life!

[@jillrossiter8757]

all is well and all will be well-Julian of Norwich

[@Jessiefernable]

I have only listened to the beginning of this talk and then I have paused it because already it is said what I need and I thank you for this. I have a condo and 4 hour driveway I have a summer mobile home where I watch horses and a mirror lake and a Creek and close to town. I married and moved here and 1991 into this area I mean and my ex husband Is in the same area. Within the next year or 2 more 3 I will have to give up this place where i summer for 5 months. I can only this because of an inheritance. I'm very thankful but I have to set my age of 74 and the fact that I don't have any family so I have to move things a little bit At a time. So thank you for your talk, already I have benefitted. Linda

[@loricameron1977]

Thank you so very much Ms. Brach for the healing I experience from your lectures. God bless.

[@annecunningham8039]

Thank you from my heart

[@inchafune]

Continually, always, I left/or was forced to leave the palace throughout my life. But I never learnt the lesson, Tara. Thanks for this, maybe I'll start learning now.

[@libbypenrod6628]

I feel the same, Tara is always so peaceful.

[@murielday4013]

You have a beautiful soul Tara. I enjoy listening to your programme Bless you

[@doresnalwanga5499]

This is eye opening to all of us men and women 🎉❤in the world 🌍 filled with attachments and innovations that make us believe that we are going to live forever!! The aging body and brain can be fixed

[@user-rh9iu7qu3j]

Thank you. As you started to speak, a peace settled in and around me. and I thought of Julian of Norwich and the words of T S Eliot Four Quartets so that your quotation at the end of the meditation arrived like a quiet, tender explosion:the words and the sentiments I love so much :you embodied them and brought to life. ❤❤❤

[@jillrossiter8757]

i have just let out a huge sigh of relief hearing you talk xx

[@susanfoster4141]

Truly a beautiful presentation; Thank-you Tara. All great teachers remind us, " know deep in your heart ❤️ that all is well and unfolding as it should/ perfectly" Robert Adams. When I focus on the heart space as you suggest, there's only love...🙏🏽 gratitude for all you do

[@gybx4094]

This was very helpful and relaxing to my fearful mind. She helped me recognize and confront the primal fears.

[@georginarandolphgirl66]

I use to think of aging as a number and only as old as one feels but then after having full hysterectomy over 8 years ago these are the thoughts that I have. The depression and anxiety are horrible.

[@lisajohnson6351]

Consider hormone replacement therapy…

[@georginarandolphgirl66]

@@lisajohnson6351 I tried bioidentical hormones and it didn't help because I didn't know that there was a private clinic until 8 years after my surgery. My family doctor didn't want me on them because of cancer risk but if I would have known then I would have taken them.

[@jillrossiter8757]

I didn't realise I was so tense about it. And a lot of people seem to reinforce the fear.

[@jillrossiter8757]

You look so young when you laugh Tara!! Doesnt that tell us all?xx

[@maya9685]

I like Iris Topfler. She is 100 years old, extravagant, fearless and colorful. Never too old for bright colors never too old for joy never too old for creavity never too old to be who you meant to be.

[@everydaykiva6377]

Thanks, Tara, for this gentle talk. As I meditated, I touched my tense areas, even soothing my tummy that I would feed her better and take care of her. It felt very nurturing, and was exactly what I needed. ❤️

[@spiritualbeinghavingahuman6035]

I’ve had 19 musculoskeletal surgeries. I was once a dancer in musical theater. Big big loss of my body. Spine fusions, joint replacements.

[@curiouskitty7972]

I can so relate to this, being an ex-dancer with spinal fusions and auto immune conditions that have me in constant chronic pain after having a supple fit body to struggling to do simple things.

[@happytraveller8953]

@@curiouskitty7972 yes, and as a former amateur bodybuilder, I can totally relate to aches and pains in places I didn't know I had. There is only so much wine one can drink and stay upright, ha ha. Turning to this spiritual path has surely helped, though I am working on deleting the wine. One day at a time, eh? Peace and blessings to you!

[@irisbaly170]

Thank you for this talk on the subject of the impermanence of life related to the fear of aging. I will listen to it often to deepen my understanding and to regularly employ the suggested practices and processes. I look forward to part 2.🙏🏾

[@chriswilcocks8485]

Thankyou. For 20 days my wife was diagnosed with the possibility of a very serious condition. Then a consultant said diagnosis was wrong. Thus can so identify with this talk.blessings

[@northofyou33]

I have a lot of anxiety about aging. I would like to have a heart that is open for everything. Right now I feel grief about my body declining, the new aches and loss of energy, and just the general fear of dying alone.

[@jillrossiter8757]

thank you dear one.I have re-played some sectionsxxx

[@dianewhalen9721]

Thankyou Tara for your timely talk on aging.Thankyou for being vulnerable in showing parts of your journey with your healthI am reading a book for our book club It’s called”The Inner Work of Age” Shifting from role to soul by Connie Zweig PHD.I am 73 and I too am aware of my aging process and health and meaning for my life.Your talk is so important that we share and talk about this time of life Thankyou looking forward to your next talk🙏🏼👍❤️

[@louisafiander4984]

Thank you for your very calm, real perspective on life!

[@sarahthomson8183]

Hanging on every wise word. Thank you.

[@theresaredmon6168]

I really needed to listen to this Now! Meeting my edge with softness and tenderness. Thank you Tara, thank you thank you

[@nessaranaable]

Thank You Tara.Your insights are profound. For creating awareness through my personal self reflection. Being Human is Being simply whole .Enjoying life as it infolds in my personal space. Thank You.

[@capwlf]

Namaste dear one. This was a wonderful video! Great sharing for sure! Great meditation. Welcome to all is well! All is good! All is! Arrived right here! Now. Yes! Quality of presence. Heart space! Coming home! Sat Chit Ananda, ever existing, ever conscious, ever new bliss. Now Ananda, Shanti, Prem. Many wonderful blessings of a peaceful birth, a peaceful life and a peaceful death to all existence. Love, light and bliss!

[@janiceweidman4693]

Thank you Tara for sharing so much and giving from your heart to help others.

[@cbcb102]

Excellent, right time right place for my situation at this time. Thank you.

[@charletteepifanio]

This was helpful beyond words. Thank you.

[@tylermadsen4771]

Literally has spiritually meaning connected to spirit moment watching these holy shift

[@NC-xl9dw]

Thank you, Tara. As I listened to your words and did the meditation, my grandmother kept coming to mind. She lived so very much in the present moment! Whenever I would worry about the past or future, she always gave me such a feeling of peace, like you just did. ❤️ 🙏

[@RandyKEsen]

Mnnmmmmmmmnnmnnmnmmmmmnn mnnmnmnnnnmmmmm

[@janiceweidman4693]

Thanks!

[@ToddSloanIAAN]

25:42 One things for sure we've worked our whole lives everyday not to face it building by habit for the future to be more secure. Painfully evaporating doesn't sound secure.

[@watershedbarbie9685]

I laugh out loud every time she tells a joke.They are soooo funny.

[@suzie1130]

Namaste and thank you, Tara.

[@JunkiesRising]

:) crazy how closely this resonates with me when I'm only 42!

[@ToddSloanIAAN]

23:19 be in control by learning detachment to comfort. Practice meditation diligently growing never ends.

[@stephenduncan8292]

An issue for my early 70's I 'try' to keep at bay, or managed, though been through two x health emergencies, but come out safely, still high-healthy. Do my best to be accepting of what will be. With some confidence, but no certainty. Adaptability is a clue, or may be the key. The underlying general principle is confidence, trust and faith NOW in a future, the future. From the Latin: 'confido'. To believe, 'to be in a place of. faith' ? One diversion you have not mentioned: 'retail therapy' ? The biggest Q: The Great Unknown, or The Great Unknowing, or The Great Unknowable. An issue seldom discussed even privately - one on one (?) Thank you Tara Brach, for bringing in this 'eternal' question - this very day

[@jillrossiter8757]

Spot on xx

[@lazitazen6882]

Thank you ever so much for this video 🌷

[@mvann5]

Boy you are speaking to me... Can't wait to see what you say. Thank you.

[@lindamtaylor2925]

Thank you for this. I felt a lot of love while you were talking. Sweet person! So nice. So real!

[@lynconetta9257]

Thank you so much for your beautiful message .. so needed this wisdom

[@sheilabannon1410]

Thank you, every word was a gem for me

[@guadalupemedina2851]

You are so awesome. Best wishes for you.

[@cloudsofwonder7004]

Thank you for sharing this Wisdom of body mind and 💝

[@seanogcon]

Thanks Tara that was great

[@3340steve]

Thank you for your insightful comments. I appreciate that you are so open to express what is real, even at the cost of getting in touch with your own inner pain. Thank you for this teaching and all your dedicated work in the past decade.

[@kristioberson3749]

Once we face this reality of loss, can’t it be a new beginning of new discovery and adaptation?

[@suebelyea7798]

Thankyou for all the support you offer It helps so thoughtfully I’m just a early Sr65 next month

[@birgitkraus2764]

I agree Wonderful gifted woman

[@jlmur54]

Thanks Tara.

[@DeborahGee]

This popped up in my feed and the topic made me bite because I have and do have a lot of what you touch upon. Thank you. I have never heard of you but all that has been coming out of your mouth resonates. Happy Thanksgiving btw. Now I have another thing to be thankful for. 💜🙏💜

[@ReginaLehdorfer]

Wow ❤

[@ozlemperon1843]

Amazing 👏 💕🙏

[@KnottyToys]

Thank you ✨💜

[@maryannebohr9306]

Thank you

[@monikakos794]

Aging has been part of my entire life, loosing health and force. Living with disabling condition. It is stunning how in modern West people are so entitled to feeling great all the time. Not part of reality Aging is part of life.

[@goodnatureart]

way to go!

[@cutzymccall7675]

Healthy and denial. Wisdom. I don’t mind.

[@bodilgreibe9499]

❤❤❤

[@pamdickey7219]

Thank you Tara, you have no idea how much you have helped me though out the years

[@jamiepoist3492]

🙏

[@MoebiusKari]

If it makes you feel any better when you said you were 67 I literally shouted at the screen “what?!” Ha. I was surprised you were 67.

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Age is just a NUMBER!

[@MBT372]

She embraces aging…

[@ameliefougner7230]

Takk!

[@spiritualbeinghavingahuman6035]

How do you go into trance Tara?

[@eldonscott9]

The truth of who we are doesn’t share the destiny of the body.