Fearful Avoidants Say THESE 5 Things When They're Falling in Love

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In today's video, Thais Gibson shares 5 key things that fearful avoidant attachment styles (disorganized attachment styles) say when they're falling in love. Watch now to find out what these 5 things are and how it may change the dynamic in your relationships as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:05 - I Feel Very Overwhelmed
00:03:54 - I Can See A Future With You, But It Scares Me
00:07:06 - I’m Afraid
00:08:08 - 14-Day Free Trial
00:08:58 - I Really Miss You
00:09:35 - What’s On Your Mind?
00:10:34 - Conclusion
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@tserafin100 Ай бұрын

Im learning more about myself than i Am about others 😂

@gigibtsurvivor3348 Ай бұрын

I’m confused and I need more time. I want to take you to a show (concerts important to him). I love that you can dance. We have a strong connection. I’m really busy today, but I am thinking of you. You were on my mind a lot. I want you in my life. You are the safest person I have ever met. Who knows what he meant. He abruptly ended things a second time.

@spacecat8511 Ай бұрын

For me admitting and showing feelings like fear and anger is a “I (want to) trust you, I think you’re safe to see this, but also this has been used to hurt me by others 99% of the time.” So…I say that. And hope the other person understands. As well as…doing my best to not take their own fearful avoidance of one step forward, fifteen steps backward personally. I’ll share what’s in my head or apologize for how I acted in a need-to-know/please please don’t take this personally I swear it’s not you I’m just…going through it. And telegraph my intentions the best I can and fiercely defend the boundaries I am aware of-and say that’s what I’m doing just in case I read the situation wrong. But…yeah. To admit any of the stuff that isn’t a Polite Mask? Gah it’s terrifying. Feeling like I owe an explanation and try to be as frank as I can without…tipping my hand. Leaving myself open to repulsion or attack or manipulation. And trying so so hard to become someone safe for others

@livlop5832 Ай бұрын

Youve so well put these feelings into words

@DobermanDanK9 Ай бұрын

I believe I’ve been through most of these (which is quite heart warming because honestly it’s an extremely confusing situation and you can easily gaslight yourself) but the one thing in my experience is that they were very shut down in terms of communication. The tests for someone who didn’t know what attachments styles were, was very confusing. Then the self sabotage came into play

@Cowface Ай бұрын

As an FA, what resonated for me is how we like to say I love you without saying I love you e.g., “You’re awesome”. Like you want to tell someone how you feel but without feeling vulnerable. I’m getting over that though, as I develop the ability to truly express myself, genuine expressions of feelings feel much better to express. Like I’m not trying to hide anything. I get so sick of hiding my feelings

@happygolucky9004 Ай бұрын

If I like someone I'm dating, I go full fraidy' cat.

@lilredheaded1 Ай бұрын

Thank you for creating and sharing.

@MM-pb8ik Ай бұрын

Mine says "I feel very confused" and I believe fully he is falling in love with me and even though I have never said the word love or asked about his feelings... he said "I dont love you" in a funny playful way one night that made my body react as if he said I LOVE YOU. Its so funny how they are. But I love him and so I am able to be patient with him. I am secure. He also asks me a lot about my thoughts about the future. He even asked me the other night, what scenarios do you see for our future. He is very masculine so he hasn't said he is afraid but I think him saying he is confused and some of his behaviors have shown his fear so I have really placed my focus on keeping the pressure OFF of him. Reeling in my energy so that it is playful, patient and easy instead of lasering him with expectations or demands. I find that doing that has lead to him feeling free and safe with me. He needs to feel free to be safe and when he is safe is when he shows love for me.

@J80199 Ай бұрын

I can relate to this with my girlfriend, I am originally an AP, that would put too much pressure on her at times because of my overwhelming needs. It didn’t put her in a safe place, but I’ve been working on myself daily and can see i resolved most of my AP attachment style that is starting to make her naturally feel safe around me. I even get that same comment, “I don’t even like you” that she says in a playful manner.

@jurgenwehner3607 Ай бұрын

Mine said ‘I’m confused’ when she was still having love and intimacy with me while engaging with another man.

@MM-pb8ik Ай бұрын

@@jurgenwehner3607 that is not the same thing as what I described. Yours wasn’t confused. She just didn’t want to tell you the truth.

@gregorystinette8271 Ай бұрын

Epic content. Woof !

@Spoodlie Ай бұрын

Someone I know said "I'm feeling full" I don't quite know what that means so I asked them and they couldn't describe what it meant either. Could this be related? ❤

@Growwithgrace101 Ай бұрын

My ex initiated saying I love you after 12 weeks and said it every week with very much feeling....but he never let me into his life fully. At the end he said he felt very emotional and was overwhelmed with a family death and a birthday milestone. He said he didn't deserve me and had wasted so much time. 5 weeks later he abruptly ended it after a normal day holding hands...said he loved me! Very confusing....and absolutely shocking to be on the receiving end.

@ummjunayd1511 28 күн бұрын

I said most of these things to my close friend and I’m starting to wonder does this mean I have romantic feelings???

@mischa0812 Ай бұрын

As an FA I have trouble missing my partner. If I haven’t been able to feel safe yet in the relationship then I will not miss them.

@eyeshadowlady Ай бұрын

I dont say most of this out koud. The what's on your mind though I do. Maybe because I'm healing, I directly ask how someone feels. Then when that goes bad, I'm out. I used to just not interact at all or keep a distance with someone I liked and never told them and only dated people I didnt like ie safe people. A lot of this involves getting too involved with someone.