Dating After Federal Prison:White Collar 101

Dating After Federal Prison :White Collar 101:
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Justin Paperny discusses dating after a federal prison term.
Should you talk about going to prison? Should you discuss it in person, through email, phone?
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Justin Paperny
Dating After Federal Prison
To be or not be’ is the opening line in Shakespeare's Hamlet. We are not talking of Hamlet today, though I will steal from that and say to tell or not tell, as it related to dating after federal prison. I am going to share my experience and some of the experiences of my clients. So, let’s get started.
Dating After Federal Prison
It’s Justin Paperny at White Collar Advice and today we’re going to talk about dating after prison. Now, I've been told by a number of really great clients my experience was easier, because I went to federal prison and I did not have children. And there's a lot of truth in that. I was 33 when I went to prison. I was single. So there is some truth to that. Incarceration is harder on your family and your loved ones and even though you're the one serving time it is harder on those that love and support you, namely your wife, your children, your husband.
Dating After Federal Prison
So, I get that, but on the flip side, while many of us go to prison divorced or single, or not married, we come home and we want to rebuild our life. We want to get this experience behind us and I believe a huge part of that, next phase of succeeding post-prison including relationships, well really is, you know go back to how well you did before you went to prison, and certainly what you did in prison, because when it comes up you want to be able to speak about it proudly and articulate- how hard you worked while away and how the experience didn't beat you down. And rather than run to clichés like, okay, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, it would be a value I think to be able to articulate a very coherent realistic way what the experience did to you, what you’ve learned from it and how are you becoming better. And, I worked hard in prison to prepare for that when I came home, knowing that at 33 I want to date and rebuild my life.
Dating After Federal Prison
Many, many months, like a year or so ago I did an interview with Esquire magazine. I frankly totally forgot that I done it and someone was released from prison and they call me. And they’re like, hey bud, I read about your quotes in Esquire magazine. I said tell me about it. He said, you are talking about dating. Then he actually sent me the magazine. Now, it is in this Esquire magazine, with Rock on the cover, talking about dating after prison. So, we are talking. He is like you know, I have a successful business, I have money, I am divorced. I was never really that happy about going to prison; not like anyone’s happy to go to prison. He didn’t think he was guilty and he take a plea, simply because he thought he’d get his ass into too much trouble.
Dating After Federal Prison
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Dating After Federal Prison

[@idealsocalhomes1934]

Two words - "Exotic Dancer!" That was a great video. I have known Justin for nearly 20 years. The guy is smart, introspective and offers sound advice and direction. I often ask him for advice and I have never been to prison. I respect and admire him, and he deserves it!!

[@MsPea]

I'm a new subscriber and am reviewing past videos. Just came across this one. I am a woman and have dated one man who had been in prison for a white-collar crime. He told me his story before our first date. In my opinion, honesty is imperative whether your date has been to prison or not. Anyone who tries to hide things about themselves doesn't respect you. (As you said.) I went on a few dates with this man, but we eventually went our own ways, but not because of his past. I hope men who have been in prison will pay attention to this video, because as a woman there's nothing more attractive than honesty and respect from a date (well looks and personality matter too, but you know what I mean).

[@Flyrabbit1]

I dated a guy who had been convicted of a financial crime…during our relationship.. I wondered after it all came out if some of the lavish life we had together was paid for by his ill gotten gains ..

[@kenmayer4659]

wonderful video, so admire your honesty and openness

[@WhiteCollarAdviceOfficial]

Thank you very much.

[@kengreenberg]

Gotta ask (since I’m currently on the site but have no criminal record): what did you convey in your JDate profile?

[@thatsammyiam13]

My fiance commited a federal white collar crime. He admitted guilt and is cooperating but has not been sentenced yet. My question for you is, how has your past effected your wife? I love him but I am concered about marriage and how it could effect me. I also saw you traveled after your conviction. I was under the impression he could not travel to certain countries with a felony such as Australia, Canada, etc. Have you run into this or is that more so for violent/drug/weapon crimes? Any and all advice is appreciated.

[@TheTroutkitty]

The opening line of Hamlet is "who's there" after an off screen "knock knock".

[@WhiteCollarAdviceOfficial]

TheTroutkitty thanks for correcting me. I thought I had remembered it correctly but I was wrong.

[@TheTroutkitty]

The soliloquies were the best bits.