FEEL SORRY FOR THE NARCISSIST? (WATCH THIS!)

[@jilross4892]

Our compassion is what they exploit

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes it is.. among many others things

[@bernadettekelly8165]

100%

[@AngeliqueTraveler]

They can hone in on our compassionate nature and have no ethics not exploit it.

[@DJ-st4rs]

If only I could make the sound of a roulette or gambling machine going off, you hit the jackpot with a few words. Its the self pity that plays on our compassion.

[@jilross4892]

@@DJ-st4rs thank you 😁

[@geofdoel2638]

Never feel sorry for soul suckers, they know exactly what they are doing and hurt empaths deliberately, we are the prize, I can find a lying cheating thief anywhere..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Great point… ☀️💪

[@phyllis9750]

Geof: I need to read.your reply. EVERY DAY!!!!!

[@ruffraff1059]

Lol. You are 100% correct.

[@Jessica-pi5rf]

Amen to you and your words.. God bless you in your beautiful healthy journey. Ty.xoxoxo

[@Dee-mj3pu]

I was not a good enough source for the narc. But that didn't stop them from pressing me beyond my boundaries. It did not make them care about my likes and needs. They just kept pressing me for their supply, even when that would be harmful to me. And as I distanced myself from them, the more I was attacked.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💯

[@jasminegallardo4625]

Thank you for using your hardship to ease someone else’s. 💜

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏😌

[@elderjonathanwhite6633]

They know what they are doing, it’s all a game to them

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree completely.. 🙌🙏I appreciate your sharing Jonathan

[@mariaalexander7037]

Yes sir, it's a game, because I heard the wicked man say"I like to confuse people and then watch them and laugh." Isn't that something? He said to me once, "if hell is on earth, it have a lot of nice people up here, and if hell is underneath, it have a lot of nice people down there." I only found out long after that he was saying,'in I ent changing. Well right now, he living in hell. Just be patient with yourself sir, you will get over the pain.

[@elainesetford549]

Definitely!

[@carriedillmann4455]

I DO NOT AND NEVER HAVE FELT SORRY FOR THE NARC!!! They know exactly what they are doing!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree Carrie 💪🙌 thank you for sharing 🙌

[@beverlytaylor1745]

I concluded that he had a thousand chances to help me but chose to hurt me instead 💔

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely Beverly 💯🙌🙏

[@sheilaking1300]

I agree with everything you’ve said Andrew. To feel sorry for them is to still be fooled by them. I am two years free today.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful growth Shelia 💯🙌🙏😊

[@simpleflight34]

Sometimes I fall into feeling sorry or nostalgic. I have to think about the Bad times and experience or read them in my journal, to remind myself to not do that.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you J M.. this is healthy and natural.. it’s therapeutic and healing ❤️‍🩹. Beautiful and honest message you wrote.. thank you 🙏

[@chandnisam1664]

I do the same. Whenever I start to sympathise I pull out the horrible memories and I feel strong again.

[@katkat4700]

Me too 👍

[@ckn9503]

I fall into that trap frequently

[@mollykayramstack6193]

Same here

[@thebigh9635]

I only feel sorry for them for their dark inner feelings of inadequacy , but not for horrible way they use people !

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your honesty.. we all feel differently about the relationship.. idea is feel authentic and genuine to yourself 🙏☀️

[@londongirl1233]

Yeah feel you

[@jeffyou6340]

Not me! It's not my fault or others fault that they're not in tune with reality

[@welshpokerman101]

100% this, abuse is never ok, but I feel sorry for their unhealed trauma to act in such a viciously cruel manner. It would be nice if they could receive the right treatment and therapy to heal - but such is the nature of the beast that they won't

[@babynarc4507]

I feel sorry for narc survivors. That's where my focus is.

[@elisabethprohl9328]

Thank you Andrew for your insight ..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌😌🙏

[@patrickallen107]

All my life I just wanted to be loved. But I am learning to love my self and Jesus more , I was so lost.

[@SLLiberty23]

That is the most beautiful and sincere reply … I’m praying for you!! 🙏🏻❤️🇨🇦

[@stuartwigmore3738]

They tend to blame their upbringing, parents, or other events in their lives (like a medical condition). And if you listen carefully to them, it's always the fact that these things "upset them" or put them at some sort of "disadvantage" - they will never directly apologise for their behaviour. The fact is that every one of us, when we become adults, are duty bound to take personal responsibility for poor behaviour towards others. We MUST own our s*** I other words. They never will.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Stuart.. I agree.. accountability and responsibility.. including ownership are attributes they don’t have..💯🎯

[@beverlytaylor1745]

Hello! I'm a little "late to the party" with this video, and enjoyed the comments as well. Yours made an impact. Thank you for. Better days ahead. 👍

[@sagebay2803]

THANK YOU!

[@songsinabsence]

It is exactly as you write! Exactly so! There is never a real excuse. There are always reasons why they could not do otherwise and in principle it is only a problem because we supposedly have no empathy for their reasons😉

[@deborahvretis3195]

Spot on!

[@sandralindsay9739]

I felt sorry for the narcissist when he claimed his daughters did him wrong. I now see they said no to him and he became angry.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@fivestaragent3123]

I don’t feel bad for the Narc because selfish individual, not considerate to the others well-being, always takes, can’t have normal conversation and very controlling.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree completely with you fivestar 💯

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

Five Star Agent, Very well said. They are so selfish its unbelievable. Lets not forget Jealous. They are the DEVILS CHILDREN.

[@myst2.0]

Beautiful, Invaluable content, especially when your just coming to your senses about this life you've been living for so long in the Covert shadows. Thank you ❣️😊

[@deb2319]

Nailed it.

[@theanniewoo2891]

My husband exactly !

[@babynarc4507]

These demons didn't throw us away. They threw us over the gates of their hell. Being discarded is the greatest (only) gift they ever gave us. #narcsurvivorsunite

[@beverlytaylor1745]

Hi Gang! Empathy will always be our gift. That's different from pity. Sometimes we have to think of words like justice. The civility we have/muster isn't because of who THEY are - it's because of who WE are. Don't give them more than they took. We wouldn't be on this channel if there was nothing worthwhile left of us. Thank you, Andrew for being the survivor you are! May all of you have Godspeed on your healing journey. 💖💖💖

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Beverly 😉🙌☀️🙏

[@lilybeth71dld57]

Thank you for sharing this perspective " )

[@trishg8852]

I agree I can empathize with the pain that caused them to become a narcissist. But, IMHO it still doesn't give them the right to treat people as they do, and not to excuse their behaviour. we can forgive them, but at the same time go no contact, especially if they turn the tables and blame you. So we need to have boundaries and heal from this relationship. amen ❤️✨🙏🙏🙏

[@gojcole]

Your so encouraging! Thank you for that valuable contribution! Much love ❤

[@beverlytaylor1745]

@@gojcole Hello 🌷 I'm glad we can encourage others. Like many 'coaches' in crisis situations, we are birds of a feather. At 65 I made it out four months ago. I feel as though I'm regenerating parts suppressed/forgotten. The sun has come out! It gets better, really. 💔 💝 💖

[@Scorpiorisingtwo]

Everytime I look back on when I had empathy for them I remind myself of how he abused me at the same time of me going through greif 3 times last year and more... He made my greif so much worse while I took full accountability for everything including myself. He is repulsive considering how many real empathic people exist on this planet. Such as one of the greatest (Andrew) 🙌 🙏💯

[@brianlane9534]

"All of these things. That's what the narcissist does." You are correct sir. The gaslighting continued up to the day I left. And the"selective hearing"? That was another big one. In the last weeks of my being in her presence, the love bombing was ramped up big time - it was like it was in the very beginning. But if/when I talked to her about something, a few times I said, "You aren't even listening to me are you?" She didn't deny it and I just walked away.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💯

[@DonnaLambeau]

EXACTLY!!!! NO, I never felt sorry for the narcissist. The thought, over the past six months, NEVER entered my mind!! I was put through hell and he knew what he was doing. God bless everyone with peace!!

[@abcxyz9419]

i'm happy that U add 1 day per 4 years...

[@laureneesterhuizen772]

I had to smile at your video now. No I don't feel sorry for any Narcissist. They put us through utter hell and degraded and used us to their own likes and needs. They must pay one day for what they are doing I'm sure but when you said about the hearing I nearly wet myself as my Naraccist had selective hearing. If you spoke he couldn't hear but if you whispered anything about him he sure as nuts could hear. I actually hate him with everything I have left in me and I always will hate him and that is utter honesty.

[@angjelolumi3410]

I had no idea what I was up to. I thought I was out of style for being kind, loyal, loving and giving person. These are sad human beings. Thank you Andrew for the great content.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌🙏💯☀️

[@tickety-bootoyou1850]

Oh my! They feel sorry enough for themselves!

[@leonablack3516]

He was a vulnerable covert narcissist, he did play on my empathy. And yes I did feel sorry until I realized the damage he was doing to me, your right Andrew they can change to suit the situation, play a role , an act to extract whatever it is they want from you.

[@roberttaylor9334]

I just broke up with a narc... Went through hell, but I make the decision to do the discard

[@hongtruong4576]

The ex Narc makes the decision to live in his deceptions, I used to fall for all his sob stories and felt sorry for him until I realized that he thrives on created uncomfortable situations for me and never showed remorse nor apologize. All I heard was how great he is and he’s smarter than everybody. Yes! He had to go! I’m aware of my anger, it comes out in waves. I’m not comfortable being angry. I ended the relationship. He attempted the hoovers with all these victims stories and you ARE the best thing that happen to me😭 I told him: I don’t care! Go tell someone who cares. Brutally honest works. He stoped showing up at church, drive by my house. It’s only been months and my energy is still low. But! I took out the garbage. Sorry! For my bluntness but the narc is a poor excuse for a human being. Thank You Andrew for being my Beacon light. My North Star 🙏❤ Stay Strong my Brothers and Sister 💪Again, I apologize for my bluntness. Namaste🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 🙌🙏😌

[@MsBrooklyn62]

Never apologize for the truth!

[@emmamonroe3311]

NO!! Never again. They are their worst enemy!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 🙌

[@jennydoucette2538]

for sure!

[@Karishma77777]

Thanks Andrew.... I really appreciate your perspective.... I searched for this video coz I was feeling sorry for leaving my narc ex but the reality is I just ignored all the mental abuse I went through, the gasligting, the cheating and that being taken for granted while occasionally getting love bombed to maintain the trauma bond, his appreciation of me was only when he wanted to get something from me, rest of the times he only mocked me and made me feel inferior to him even to the extent that I started to feel impossible even to express what I really had in mind, when I felt bad, very cunningly he used to ignore my needs and made me to keep caring for him all the time. Thanks to videos like yours when he discarded me thinking that I could never leave his charm, since I was myself wanting to leave the relationship God gave me the golden opportunity to break up smoothly with him and I went into no contact and now I am never going back, I have my stone walled boundaries where he and people like him can never enter. I am proud of being strong and moving on and yes after your video no I am not sorry for him coz he always knew what he was doing and I am not sorry for myself too coz that was a very bitter learning that was must for me to have before I choose my life partner. I m thankful to God who really saved me and people like you who provided me with right guidance to move away from such emotionless and humanityless narcs. Thanku once again and may God bless u all bearers of light.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always ☀️🙏😊💯

[@veronicafadel8693]

Only God’s mercy has kept me from crumbling all these years. My husband is a life-sucker. I am completely ready to leave this toxicity immediately, as soon as a safe opportunity arises, which I don’t currently have. I am soooooo done with him!He’s just an evil energy-leach. This morning I told him that he cannot be beautiful or happy, all he does is try to take/destroy MY beauty and happiness. No worries, God hears and sees EVERYTHING and will judge between us in the end🤲🏼😊👍🏼💖

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏

[@veronicafadel8693]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone it’s nice to be heard💝

[@marissafortunato7557]

I have numerous times in relationships...Getting better...Hoovers used to work because I felt bad because they would cry ....I would stay in relationships because I didnt want them sad or hurting themselves....was manipulated ....stronger one day at a time....keep healing Andrew n followers...🤗

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Marissa ❤️‍🩹☀️🙌.. thank you 🙏

[@londongirl1233]

Thank you for this!! Hope you're okay too!

[@Lttnggo123]

Compassion is a diamond mined by the narcissist.

[@jeffyou6340]

6:00 "I feel sorry for nobody. Not even me! I'm learning a valuable lesson." Agreed! That doesn't mean I'll give them credit for learning it because they should have never done that in the first place. I'd rather risk being called "difficult" or "paranoid" THAN EVER remotely suffering under form of semi-transparent devaluation again

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@deannebergeron6665]

I am with you , we get what we put out into the world. I just hope they are willing to receive what they put out. Thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Deanne 🙏💯🙌

[@warrior8511]

From victim to victorious..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Omg ..YES 💯❤️💪

[@alicesullivan508]

Thank you Andrew. After going through a relationship with one. "No." What they bring onto their self is what they can no longer force in my life. The only thing left for my Narcissist to do is Finnish me off. Cause my death. The stress they cause, Gaslighting , lack of sleep, emotional damage, starvation, the work you do to keep them & you afloat, the bowing to their every whim. Death of you is all that's left. NO! I do not feel sorry for him. Maybe his new victim. She will learn, hopefully faster then it took me to realize the evil from them is ungodly.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌☀️

[@nancyfeke9585]

Absolutely. I used to feel sorry for him. Sometimes I still do, when I think about how his life will be. When I think of the emotional, deliberate abuse that he inflicted upon me...NO...I do not feel sorry for him. He's a self absorbed person.

[@TR-nv3if]

Me too...feel sorry for him and the potential ending of relationship until he pulls a Jekyll Hyde again..

[@mlong3625]

Yes, I do !! It's so pathetic. How can you not. Brain is so twisted. They do even want better ! Can't even imagine life being more pleasant !!!

[@faithhope4480]

The two narcissists in my life, who have sucked the life out of me, i do feel sorry for one of them, because she's my mom... I do because i think it's a lonely life and it is sad that we are not able to share a loving relationship in our golden years. She's been influenced, groomed, or programed by a master manipulator, who is controlling her life with great intensity since the lock downs. I know she doesn't' like to be alone, so the extortionist, uses her charm, to control, and abuse the power she's been given to take care of our mother. I feel sorry for her, because she is my mom, i love her still, and i miss her at least i miss who i thought she was, even if i can never trust her and my sister again. The reality is still fresh. Thank you for all you do, you make a difference. I've been saturating myself with your videos.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@LR-yu3mx]

Thank you Andrew... As a child I believe my mother had 2 personalities. The friendly one and the cruel, hateful one. What I know today I do not feel sorry for her. She was easily capable of killing me.. Always hitting me against my head. If she walked past me and her skin brushed against my arm... I went and scrubbed my arm. When in high school I hated her. And felt guilty about it

[@angelsbackgroundsounds]

lol sounded like my mom and i she even tried to put me in the mental hospital....but we are talking again i dont visit her much but i forgave her. We are better than our parents ...i'd hate myself if anything happens to my mom and i still kept a grudge

[@lilybeth71dld57]

This is what kept me trying and trying to get through to him.. my mother is one, too. My daughter-in-law is a pro. Once educating myself after a bit.. have learned and am learning how to arm myself for each situation. Here's to all of you on this path of pulling out of the muck and finally reaching enough steady land to wash it away.. Big Hugs!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful 💯🙌💪🙏

[@kimmcdonald2022]

For a brief moment, at that time, I questioned feeling sorry for the narcissist. But, I got beyond that thought. I KNOW he knew what he was doing. I KNOW he knew right from wrong. And i KNOW he could control himself. And I KNOW he thought he was entitled to do the evil and harm that he has been doing all his life. I feel sorry for the next victim. But they have to figure that out just as I did. I wish I could prevent it from happening. Great info Andrew. Peace be with you. 🙏

[@ladygemini1389]

I'm with you Andrew I don't feel sorry for the Narcissist and I NEVER will, they are DEMONS

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌☀️

[@frankdavf4599]

Thanks for the insight. Iam personally very disapointed in seing the true face of the narc creature and realizing i lived a complete lie. That thought is what is hurting me right now. I know that it will fade away, and each day it feels less, but its just that i still dont find a good affirmation to cope with all the situation and gaves my heart and soul a soothing idea of what i got through. Thanks again for the Heads Up.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Francisco always ❤️‍🩹.. keep moving forward everyday ☀️🙌

[@shivmc4466]

Whatever pain you went through Andrew it was not in vain you have helped thousands of people with your knowledge and sharing your experience ✨️ I hope this brings great joy to your heart and each one of us can rebuild our lives and go on to save more people from the narcs. I will definitely recommend your channel if I meet an empath or someone struggling like how I was. Everything happens for a reason in life you're right ✅️ but growing, finding yourself again loving yourself, putting yourself first is one of the most incredible feelings your a true blessing 🙌🏾 ❤️ I will keep watching your videos because I have become strong 💪🏼 like a lioness 🦁I have become me God bless you 🙏🏽.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message thank you 😊☀️💯❤️🙏

[@thanasisathanasi4965]

Good words of comfort for me who suffered and lost 2 years worth of salary for a stupid narcissist !

[@karencombs6451]

@Thanasis Athanasi Wow, same here, 2 years salary. I'm still working towards getting back on my feet financially.

[@thanasisathanasi4965]

@@karencombs6451 We will win at the end !!! Take care brother !

[@jowellrivera50]

Damn right. If they could, they would keep taking and taking not caring who they destroy.

[@evam3566]

I appreciate your video and opinion, Andrew. It just brought a “Light bulb” moment to me, and I no longer feel sorry for this individual which for some reason even thought I did nothing, but take all kinds of abuse from him I at one point felt sorry for him. Thank you, Andrew. You’re so loved and appreciated.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏🙌💯😊

[@shivmc4466]

Andrew is amazing 👏 everyone here is amazing we are all amazingggggg.

[@carolynbennett2735]

I had enablers tell me the narcissists sob stories, i,e, they are having a hard time at home, they are sick. Been there, done that!

[@NancyKelly-cu2uh]

Absolutely 💯 No 🦋🫠🤗 God bless you Andrew 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯😌🙏

[@FieryKTarot]

That's a point my tarot reader has been adamant about. THAT THEY KNEW EXACTLY WHAT THEY WERE DOING. they consciously CHOSE the behavior. And did not regret it.

[@chazbickel4518]

Andrew this is a powerful video. Well said. Empathetic people feel for everyone. At times what I feel happening to others is happening to myself as well. We feel sorry for the narcissist because they are a person in our lives and we know deep down they are living a world of hurt, unwillingly we become part of the hurting. Separating our feelings from the way others feel is difficult to say the least. Eventually feeling sorry becomes learning and taking action. Then instead of feeling sorry you are doing things to stop feeling sorry. Making a change to create hope rather than dwelling in the sorrow takes you closer to acceptance and farther down the path of healing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯☀️

[@pamlangley4696]

I agree with you 100%. Every move they make is calculated, self serving and exploitive.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯😉💯

[@GinjaNinja01]

I do NOT 'feel sorry' for myself...so the Narc is not even a 'blip' in the distance on my emotional recovery 'radar'. The ensuing time frame, post my discarding them, has PROVEN that they were far more malevolent, heartless, manipulative and downright wicked than I realized at the time. Rotten...to the core. I was fooled...but as I always say..'the four wisest words are these': Absolutely Everything Is Temporary'. Great clip Andrew, many thanx

[@robertford532]

You know they know exactly what they are doing, they can treat people decently when it suits them. When you catch yourself asking yourself, why can't they be like that all the time? At that point you know. Thank you Andrew for doing God's work! Take care mate.

[@carriedillmann4455]

OMG! Everything you experienced I did too! I like your style! Thank you!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏 and thank you for sharing.. ☀️🙏

[@londongirl1233]

Me too!! He's amazing!

[@dianepinkyharman1346]

No, I don't. The narcissist took money from me... a lot.... and the person lied all the time. Do I feel sorry they are smearing my name. No. Thank you Andrew another great video.

[@marcinkaczorowski1100]

Hard to feel sorry for someone who cares only about his/her opinion and never other people's feelings. Speaking about a "self-righteous" narc from experience. Always busy, always engaged, always having a 100 point agenda "bigger than life" and "noble"and "out of the sense of duty". In the end - everybody disturbs them to attain their "vision" and they will run over you like a bulldozer.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌😉💯

[@jennydoucette2538]

dont worry, they will be roiling around in hell--that IS something for you to feel sorry for them about

[@opticalman6417]

i was raise by narcissit parents and the reason for no affection by parrents it acts as a form of punisment they use towards the child /adult they want you to feel what their feeling so they will creat drama and conflict to try to take you out of your inner peace by trying to envoke a reaction

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending positive energy and healing 🙌💯🙏

[@FieryKTarot]

I'm so sorry you had to lose your steps. I was not married to my ex and only knew his children 2 years, but that loss of them...broke my heart. I don't think that wound will ever heal...

[@FieryKTarot]

One of the reasons why I stayed in contact with the exes. To keep track of the kids. Until I knew I couldn't keep that energetic pipeline open anymore (to him by default)

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

❤️❤️

[@mathie2037]

A community of narc humiliated me and when they got wiped out by a super typhoon, surprisingly I did not feel sorry for them. They can rebuild their houses in a few months but the damage they caused me will stay a whole lot longer. And I confess that I am still angry at them. Be well to all of us.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌🙏💯

[@veronicafadel8693]

Yes, I believe that God gave EVERY HUMAN a free will to CHOOSE how to be, constructive or destructive, each moment. We shouldn’t let our beautiful empathy cloud our vision in that regard.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@squamoza]

The woman who gave birth to me is a very malign narcissist. I have no contact with her for 10 years and it was the best decision I've ever made. I don't hate her; I don't feel sorry for her either. She's got what she deserves.

[@lifewithtwokids3398]

So insightful, Andrew! I agree! 💯🙌. Keep up the great work!🙏💕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate this Nicole 🙌🙏

[@JowellRivera]

Amen brother. I do feel sorry for her at times. She asked my several weeks ago, "dont you feel sorry for me"? I responded. "Yes I do. I feel sorry you have stupid friends and you choose to make stupid choices". Done! Btw. I see her from time to time because I am still involved in raising her child that I chose to not walk away from.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 😌🙏🙌

[@bonniecraig1316]

I feel bad that there are people out there who could hurt others to the core and just move on leaving someone broken, hurt, in pain, confused , when all they did was love them and try to see the good in them. I never knew there were people so heartless. No conscience, can't love. I know about it all now and even though I knew I had to get out of there, it still plays on me how he could do what he did to me, and just walk away like the ten years never existed, I never existed. I can't think of one time through all the abuse that I ever even thought about hurting him back. I took a lot and never once did anything like that to him. I couldn't treat someone I loved like that. I feel sorry that he through away someone who truly loved him. I'm a dreamer. I always try to think positive . he might have thought he totally ruined me, I've been total blackout for almost 20 months now. I still sit here sometimes and I still think how is this possible. How could anyone do this, especially to someone you say you loved. Don't get me wrong I know what it is and I'm out now, thank god, but I think about everything he did to me in 10 years and I'm still finding out other things he did to me which at the time I never knew who hated me so much to get me fired. Set me up on dating sites which I was accused of doing. I even had cyber crime involved when my boss got an email from me telling him all about himself. I never did that but there it was. So I called cyber crime. I needed to know who and why someone would do this too me.. After they investigated I met with them, I had met with them a few times. This person had some kind of hate on for me and I had to stop it. After all was done it was traced , back to my IP address. What the hell, no way they made a mistake, I never did this. I worked there for 10 years. I'd never do that to anyone, they had to have made a mistake. No it came from my computer, to the office, to his computer. I was fired. I couldn't believe this just happened, my mind was messed up I was hurt and shocked . I never did this, my ex at the time said maybe someone hacked your computer. But I didn't know anyone who knew that much about my job and my personal feelings about my boss. But I was so confused I had nothing to fight with. So now when I look back, oh my god. He had access to my computer. I left everything opened, I had nothing to hide. It was only him and I in the house. Bingo, I got my answer. It made sense now, who would know all the personal things I talked about in private except him. Did I for 1 minute even think he could possibly have done this, never in a million years, but after I found out about narcissism and what these things are capable of, now I know. It was him. I had no enemies or people who hated me that much and it came from my email on my computer. How's that for love. I never knew someone could be so evil. But I did a lot of thinking this past 20 months and now it all makes sense. I'm finding answers to things that happened to me that before I couldn't explain. Wow , this is not human. No one could do this to anyone for nothing, what did they have to gain by getting me fired. Nothing. But it made me out to be a liar, and I had no one to turn to but him. Dear god, I know that all the things you hear about what these things are capable of but think no one who loved you could ever do something like that to you. Think again. I could write a book, I've been thinking about it, I just wouldn't know where to start. But try as he might he never destroyed me. He came pretty damn close but if he could see me now. The jokes on him. Thank you once again Andrew, god bless.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😻😻😻💕💕💕💕💕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Bonnie 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@meg-zp2tv]

i used to feel sorry for my narc until i caught on to the pity parties to get me hooked. i gave my all and he gave 0

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

The narcissist is always manipulating and controlling.. playing victim is what they are good at also… 💯💯💯

[@melobazzi]

That's true, the points you made in this video actually convinced and reassured me more that the narcissist deff knew what they were doing AND that they could of turned it Off at any time. So therefore, we should not feel sorry for them knowing they desire wicked outcomes.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Melad.. this is my view also… God bless us 🙌🙏

[@melobazzi]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I beleive this 100% because it's embedded, fixed, and ingrained in them, as part of their disorder (NPD) to manipulate others. Their NPD is sadly a survival mechanism in which they adopted, where they choose to use deception and where they beleive that by manipulating and gas lighting that they could get through life easier and more conveniently. This is their warped, twisted, and disordered thinking. For majority of them, something happened to them in their childhood development, where they made this conscious decision to take on becoming the "bully". So they all know what they are doing and aiming for. These are most commonly the reasons why^ the narc does what they do.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

@@melobazzi I appreciate this insight and sharing.. thank you 🙏..

[@simpleflight34]

He even told me he would threaten me with blocking me knowing it would upset me just to get my attention. I couldn't believe it. It's sad. It really is.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

@@simpleflight34 anything they can do for attention…🤔

[@Lttnggo123]

Yes! I have felt sorry for the narcissist, and just could not grasp the holes in logic and lack of self examination.

[@gojcole]

I do somethings feel sorry for narcissists, especially this time of year 12/19/22. Stories of a Grinch getting an big heart, Scrooge changing his heart and making Christmas a real celebration. My dad being told either his cancer would take his life or the treatment will. He lived 26 years after that prognosis. I feel like I have changed allot in life. I believe miracles have happened in the past, I belive God hears and answers prayer today. I am but a suplicant not a controller, I trust the outcome to another.. It's a fine line between being wise as a serpent, and being gentle like a dove. I'm gaining much wisdom here. Thank you Andrew and those who comment here, there are so many insights, affirmations, validations, and expressions of encouragement. This is an amazing community. Much love ❤

[@pemmylewis2861]

Wish for you your days are now full of real laughter. You help us to go fast to more healing. Time is precious! We wasted enough time!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏.. still have work to do on myself.. laughter happens here and there., slowly day by day .. 💯☀️🙏

[@kendrar3072]

I never thought of it that way! Feeling sorry for the narcissists, generally, all of them, because "they cant help it, its a big wound from childhood ect" Cant be cured. How convenient for the narcissist! "See, its NOT MY FAULT" 😂😂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@lourdesecheverria6209]

We must eventually transcend our view and understand that the "sorry" we feel is due to the larger damage done to the HUMAN RACE as a whole. I won't allow for the narcissist to CHANGE me. My pity for the narcissist is not because of who they are, is because of who I AM. NAMASTE! ❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Namaste 😌🙏🙌

[@veronicafadel8693]

Andrew, you are BEAUTIFUL!🌹💖

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

So are you 💯🙏😊

[@veronicafadel8693]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I haven’t heard that in a long time. It feels good to remember my beauty🌸

[@Lttnggo123]

I'm being terribly gaslit by landlord's agents. (Harassment). So can entities be narcissist? Makes sense. Feeling sorry for individual staff with a dismissive reflex, but not for long!

[@jacquelinemarie1078]

I was feeling sorry for him, until he said, "I know how I treat people - - - I just don't care." Now he denied saying that a few days later, but he said it. So my inclination is to feel sorry for him, but of course, I know it serves no purpose.

[@elainesetford549]

Another great video, thank you! I certainly don’t feel sorry for them! They didn’t deserve us in the first place. It’s Just a shame that we have to go though all the abuse before we realised it. They deserve to be on their own!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@clairemcmahon9392]

I have watched many of your videos but this is the first time I have viewed a video from two years ago. Andrew what a difference in you. My heart broke for you in this. However you have given Me and many many others hope that we will in our own time heal and get back grouch this. I have my moments of weakness when I almost feel sorry for Eddie but then I reign my eldest in and think, Yes they can control how they treat people. They know what they are doing no doubt about it. The Hank you once again 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 😌💯🙌🙏

[@ghostafterlivesmatter8732]

Omg. I woke up from a nightmare about him.. turned on KZbin and u were like my first video that came up. Needed this. I get scared he died or injured because I've known him since we were six. But Andrew your right. God bless.

[@juliechurch1799]

I think I thought must be awful to be the way they are . Pity I'm not sure . But it feels like he can't live without control of others like they hunt . Strange exsistance

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

This is how they live.. controlling others and manipulating is their air.. ☀️🙌

[@sweetnightingale85]

I dont feel sorry for him at all he will always be empty trying to fill that black hole that exists in the narcissist. I feel sorry for future supply they have no idea the creature they are dealing with. Im glad i noped out of there.

[@KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD]

When "narcissist" is the NEW "N" word 🥴 Andrew you have grown so much watching all your videos literally brings me peace first thing in the morning, last thing at the end of my day. I've replaced the "N" with you entirely and my life took a turn for the better. He's actually jealous of my newfound interest in something else, as if I am being disloyal to him watching KZbin videos 🤯

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

[@rebeccar189]

I often hear it said that narcissism should be taught so we wouldn’t have to go through this. I believe we wouldn’t understand it unless we’ve lived through it, in retrospect our eyes are open. I read one article on “the dance with a narcissist” and everything clicked. Unfortunately the majority of people it seems never wake up from the fog and actually believe their narc is a great person-so sad.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏🙏

[@lired70]

Andrew, I have to say that I do not feel sorry for a narcissist! After going through years of hell on earth, treating good people like garbage, there is no way I could feel bad for any of them. My mother had a saying when someone did something ugly. She said "Patricia God has lead feet,but he reaches everyone". This I believe to be true!

[@ellen_3]

Honestly I did.....I was unaware of narcissism. I had no idea everything was calculated ....nor was I aware of the consequences attached for having pity on him or anyone for that matter.

[@aleesamariev]

the part that i feel sorry for and the reason for looking beyond this to promote their self-improvement is understanding that they have likely become this way at a very young age (sometimes, but not always due to a poor environment), always seeing things in a distorted manner. and despite knowing they have issues, sometimes being so misguided by this early self-distortion that they don't understand how to care, and in turn how others truly have good in them, that not everyone has it in them to take and break someone. even if you are good, you are weak to them and unworthy. it doesn't matter if you're the best person they have met. but for some, they had been raised in poor environments and by those (usually parents) who have 'cared' for them using this lack of care and love, causing them to not learn love and empathy, but having needed that as a child. what they think they want, love, respect, acceptance, purity of others, they do not because they want to feel those character traits strengthen their void and insecurities, but do not know love well enough to want it, and so everything is a fleeting moment, or relationship. all relationships throughout life being dull and feeling meaningless, and so, when you enter their lives you are just another meaningless soul. you have it all, or just enough, you have what it takes to be a healing person, but they cannot do the introspection enough to seek help, because they think this weakens them. if they are vulnerable they are weak, if they are real about their nature people will have the upper-hand, when instead people would love them more, be able to fulfill them more, and they would know how to give that in return, thus allowing individuals as such to live happy lives amongst others. without such help and education on their end, while fully owning and looking at it from outside of themselves, looking at the pain this causes to those who only want to love them, they make others insecure like them because they take all we have left in hopes that we can temporarily aid them or mend them. but until they can be themselves and find comfort in themselves or others, they will not be able to acquire this state of being, or state of self-actualization. i feel sorry for how this was created and what it took away from their lives, causing them to have an intense false-self, when under the proper conditions mentally/genetically/environmentally, they would be their real-selves, meeting happiness and nearest to self-actualization that a more empathetic person may be able to achieve by fulfilling themselves and others just as much.

[@aleesamariev]

the part i don't feel sorry for is recognizing their terror, their tactics, their symptoms, and choosing to not seek help to prevent this harm on themselves and others. for knowing their ways, but when someone else knows them too, suddenly they aren't aware that these are their ways, because how could anyone do this to anyone? "how could THEY treat someone this way" even when they do. instead of wanting better, or wanting to prevent damage they ignore this, blame victims and those wanting to help, and they drain all energy in themselves in others doing everything but learning to undo this toxicity that they cannot bear to handle once you want to talk about it's painful and senseless effects. it is sad when all you want is for them to see the truth that they choose to not believe in or want. something that can make their life and everyone's so healthy, easygoing, pure, fulfilled, and satisfying - satisfaction being something they keep trying to fill with destruction and self-inflicted and outwardly-inflicted pain.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌☀️🙏💯

[@dannettepeters1507]

I would not be myself if I didn't feel empathy and sorrow for my ex-narc, sorrow for his broken childhood, sorrow for his children who are my step-kids. Yes, I feel great sorrow for his condition AND for what might have been. That being said, I fully know there is nothing I can do to cure him. I am free now, but others that I love are not. What else can I feel, but sorrow.

[@evelynamador1412]

Oh yes he just threw me away just like you said and I put up with it for 45 years with this crazy cuz I didn't know what he was doing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@chloerodgers692]

Mine let me go, too, after 36 years. No effort whatsoever…just let me go. That says everything.

[@3summerbreeze]

Wow so true he could turn on the charm then pure evil within minutes. I did feel sorry for him which is why I took him back 3 times, I didnt know what he was, I felt like I was going crazy and must be something wrong with me, I never knew what a narcissist is but I do now and he diffinately is). When I told him to go the 3rd time, thats when I found your videos, and have been watching ever since and getting educated. Im 4 months free now, the worst is behind me, my future looks so bright, Ive reconnect with my bestie and my family, thankyou so much, your vids help me in my recovery God bless you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Education is empowerment 🙏💯🙌💪😊

[@sosoblackfeather6504]

I felt sorry for my ex-husband…for about a minute. Then he reminded me why I left him. Note: Narcissists are made.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤔😉💯

[@Marsha22May]

I got goosebumps(in good ways)❣️ I will never feel sorry for him… I just want to tell him, don’t come close to me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌💯🙏

[@shivmc4466]

I will never feel sorry for them they ruined my life and I had to become broken in order to build back my life. I feel great inside from knowing that they will suffer without me in their lives, when you see how pathetic they are and loanly their so weak. It's such a great feeling 😌 ☺️ ✨️ to be free of these evil people and I hope it backfires on them well me walking away 😀 is the best result it keeps me feeling good 👍🏼 I am free to move on and leave the past in the past where it belongs...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌😉

[@marybarton5651]

I felt sorry for them before I knew what a narcissists was. Now, I don't. They view your kindness as weakness to be exploited, using it against you, using you, abusing you.

[@BarkingForBroccoliBG]

I feel sorry for her my wife (separated coming up on 6 months April 6th 2023) because of what I've learned was with the narcissist like that they're not born that way they're made that way from parenting/upbringing and hers is a mixture of untreated borderline personality disorder bipolar disorder and the covert narcissism blended in there. I told her that though my words to her may had seen harsh the last communication and that I wasn't invalidating her childhood traumas that made her into that but it was not an excuse for the narcissistic mental and psychological abuse that I was put through from being with her. I feel sorry for her though because she's never going to just be able to be herself and not wear a mask and be loved and have a connection and a relationship because she's always going to have to put on a mask and put on a whole act and then be exhausted. She will end up with a constant pattern of making up characters to play getting people to fall in love with the character thinking that they're in love with her and then behind the mask the real her or whatever from the mental illness is really not anything that anybody would ever fall in love with. It's like a porcupine with the pointy things wearing a care bear costume and when somebody loves them and gives them a hug the stronger the hug the stronger than love the person has for them the more they get stabbed by the pricks from the porcupine. I feel sorry for this child that went through stuff that made them into this type of an adult yet it's not an excuse abuse and trauma years ago it's not a bad excuse for abusing her partners mentally and psychologically. I can only imagine though it must be a pretty sad existence to always have to put on a front always have to be on for the camera even when there is no camera in public have that kind of pressure. I know there was a child there was a little girl at one point that was not a narcissist before trauma happened abuse bad parenting bad upbringing so that's what I feel sorry for certainly none of it was my fault because I was nowhere around and I do not meet her till all that long after all that mess happened. I was fooled by the character in The mask the same way her coworkers friends acquaintance are fooled. It was just the added element of romantic and sexual relationship that was added to that character. I realize this in the last couple months before separation that the very pleasant sweetie pie person that I saw interact with the checkout clerk at stores or her co-workers or anybody in public was the persona that I had fallen in love with the only difference was that persona used to be kept up behind closed doors and private as well but when the mass came off I saw that that was not her at all and was a total act hence the description of a porcupine wearing a care bear costume in public

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate you sharing this insight 🙏💯🙌

[@barbarafowler4533]

I agree that bpd is often at the core of these individuals having experienced traumatic childhood events. Scans of their brains a Often show anomalies. It seems the child is a victim of being neuroatypical and victim of abuse in early developmental stages. Personality forms many times by age 2. Personality disorders are very difficult to treat also. For this reason I have a bit pity for them. But pity does not help them. They need extensive psychs also. And treatment.

[@donnadunn3372]

Yes, they know what they are doing for sure!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@ilgenis]

I don't even want to feel sorry for the narcissists even if the feeling comes naturally.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate this and agree Kong 🎯💯

[@ruffraff1059]

Yes Andrew. They know exactly what they do.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯💯💯

[@lauriemendoza4671]

I did feel sorry for him in the beginning because of the childhood trauma filled stories he told and his tails of whoa as an immigrant to this country. BUT after years of being mistreated, manipulated and used I don't feel sorry or any other kind of way for him. I now know who and what he is. That's why he is out of my life. I am getting stronger and happier by the day. I am loving the peaceful moments and looking forward to the future.

[@paulettebrown8554]

Thank you for sharing as I too am a survivor of Narcisstic Mom and two husbands.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏