Feeling Sad For No Reason? The Nature of "Negative" Emotions

[@johnmayerful]

Your new haircut is flawless!

[@psychepeteschannel5500]

Haha, thank you very much Karel!! :-)

[@nickname9377]

I have never been satisfied with anything I achieved, it is normal in my Life. But I am satisfied when others achieve a Goal they have worked for a long time for. I am very happy for you... a Master... uh, it is even in my field of expertise. Well done. It is good

[@psychepeteschannel5500]

Nick, that is a brilliant example of what I was talking about :-) This realization is a huge pointer for you, is it not? How is it possible, that you can see other people achieving something and being happy for them, while not feeling the same for yourself? There must be an underlying belief dictating this. In my case - i Know I dont want to rely on the title, so the title itself does not fill me with joy. I am ok with this "value setting" of mine, because that is what I believe and I would not want to continue on this university journey for any longer - that is the benefit of accepting this emotion. When I see what you wrote... Is there a value you hold, that is hateful towards yourself, that dismissed you as a human being? Or are your values A-OK and the nature of your achievements is not optimal, it is not what you trully desire in life? What do you think? Or are there other options? And Thank you for commenting! -Pete

[@nickname9377]

@@psychepeteschannel5500 Subject: My Value... it is not of me to decide or evaluate what value I have reached until this moment in my life and there are probably many years to come anyway, it is very hard for me to say it is Good or it is not Good. (For now, yes you are right, I am not near Good but there are many years to come... I believe, it is about what impact I had during my whole LIFE/BEING. (The Total RESULT at the end after I passed away...) Everything I learn I see as a Tool I decided to earn in order to use, it does not give me more value, everything I do will impact my character and my thinking, my view of the world....the person who I am. If I don't lie, don't cheat, don't steal, if I am honest to myself and to everyone I interact with, if I face and welcome adversity if I am able to listen and understand if I am strong enough to resist temptations of whatever kind, then I maid reach my goal and like myself ... but for the moment, I am happy with every step I go in order to become one day the person I would like to be... everything I did wrong DID INPACT my character and can't be erased, it is a process that will take my whole life to answer. ... Hey I really like listening to you... thank you for caring, I don't have many people asking me these questions... totally new to me :-)

[@psychepeteschannel5500]

@@nickname9377 Hi Nick, very beautifully written about moral consideration I agree that these are very important pointers and qualities. And in regards of value - you have absolute value, there is no doubt about that in my mind :-) I come from the premise, that all people are fully able of being happy and successful, that people are beautiful and creative... and the only real problem they have are things they believe... that have been passed from incorrect and damaging opinions of others - often the others meant well, but really did not DO well :-) - When I meantioned Values, I meant those thoughts and beliefs that you hold most dear and most true - the ones you mentioned are indeed great, but they are all about what you HAVE to do in relation to other people, they are not about who you actually are - if there was no society to think about, if there were no intrusive thoughts, plans about future or trauma of the past - who then is Nick? Are there values (there always are :-) ) that are deeper, than the other thoughts? that are more important to You, Nick, than the opinions of others? Values, that provide stable foundations for the creations you can achieve in your life? :) Btw. these kinds of questions and conversations are exactly what I do as a coach. Of course, in a YT comment section I can only do so much :D Consider dropping me an email, we could actually continue the conversation - if you think it would be beneficial to re-allign some of these older values and beliefs, for "better results" :-) Have a great day' - Pete

[@MegaABHI16]

Are you still taking Strattera? How long it will take to react?

[@psychepeteschannel5500]

Hi, no - I stopped about 8 months ago - I got depressed rather than better. Strattera acted in kind of a placebo way it seems. I went on ritalin afteward, and then stopped medication completely, because I found my actual working solution in changing my mindset through coaching :-) (general info on strattera is 3 weeks for full effect, but again, that is not really my experience in the long run)