Fewer Rules in Parenting? | Doug Wilson

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[@MicahMeads]

The "few" rules we have for our children: 1) Do not lie. 2) Selflessly Love Your Family. 3) Take care of the things God gave us. 4) Respect your Mom and Dad. 5) Listen to & Obey Mom and Dad, and any grown-up that we put in authority over you. Most, if not all of the discipline we need to provide our young children fits under one of those rules.

[@ronnied1172]

This helps a lot. I have an 18 month old and oh man... He's already testing his boundaries.

[@sayloltothetroll6806]

Duuuuude, you're going to go batty in about a year.

[@ronnied1172]

@@sayloltothetroll6806 I rebuke those words lol.

[@Lunkenville]

Haha! As Voddie Baucham says, "That's not a little angel, that's a viper in a diaper!"

[@ronnied1172]

@@Lunkenville That's a good one! So true though. I prayed for patience and the Lord has answered!

[@nobodygh]

Our 21 month old is the same

[@steelwarrior105]

I love how Dr. Merkel is becoming Old Man Merkel, his most powerful form

[@clintonstephens273]

Teaching Principles vs mandating behavior

[@Richardcontramundum]

Great video! I'm so doing this. Sadly I know we have too many rules in our home. (Sad but true)

[@aliencasinobartender8735]

It is so refreshing to sit and listen to this. Thank you for this ministry.

[@clintonstephens273]

Parents should back each other’s play in front of their children and discuss things later.

[@jjjjjjjjj323]

So long as they apologize to the kids in a manner that is at least as public as their play was if they were in the wrong. I agree with your point

[@Lunkenville]

Absolutely!

[@Lunkenville]

@@jjjjjjjjj323 Yes! Parents need to recognize their own sin and have their children witness them repent of that sin. With the help of the Holy Spirit they will learn by example.

[@junior3402]

My house has 2 rules, inspired by other brothers in Christ’s house rules, which in turn were inspired by the “greatest commandment”. 1: do what you know is right 2: do everything out of love I’ve found that most often when the disastrous “he said” “she said” blame game begins, if I stop them and my children if they followed these 2 rules, they are very capable of answering and answering accurately. By the by, 9 times out of 10 there are 2 (or more) guilty parties and we can work that out instead of unilaterally admonishing the one with whom the grievance was brought to us about.

[@gw2993]

I really enjoy these discussions!

[@sarahdeason5875]

So simple. So true. So good.

[@hughorr4Jesus]

Helpful

[@johnroe9298]

"Privileges of freedom and the security of slavery" - great line!

[@jonathanowen9917]

Valuable information. Thanks for these tips!

[@zondervangreek]

Excellent work.

[@caedmonnoeske3931]

Is that John Darby in your profile pic?

[@troysgt]

One fantastically covered topic!!! Talks through parenting and its implications. Are we slaves in society? Are we raising slaves or wise men and women able to think and reason and deduce logically the implications of their actions upon themselves and others. The why matters, let us raise our children to be Men And Women after the heart of God, in His likeness, willing, able, and firm (on the foundation of Christ) to fight against the evils of this present age, in His standards, for His glory.

[@cruzsaldivar7371]

Thanks, Appreciate the practical advice

[@roshnijoan5172]

Good stuff!

[@jonpietrowski]

Why are these newer Ask Dougs not on the Cannon App? Just curious.

[@margiedenavarre7919]

Should I assume that when Doug's dad said, "Respect your mother," this is really a euphemism for "Respect adults, particularly your parents, and as your father I especially better see you respecting your mother because I love her and she loves you?" I guess, that's how I'm interpreting it and wonder if others are too. Appreciate feedback.

[@rebekahguilder602]

My kids always take the cushions off the couch and jump on them on the floor. 🤣

[@jerodculpepper2138]

The grey beard on Ben is freaking me out.

[@Sarutaru06]

Now what do you do when a parent is far too swift to punish made-up rules pretending to be in keeping with the principle (not consistant but typically an emotional response)?

[@Wayfarerpilgrim]

Can’t wait for the school year- We have 3 rules. Simply repeat after me and act accordingly.

[@jmf796]

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[@kuzivaj.z]

Very insightful! And the other form of instruction is modelling I suppose. Listening to this I couldn't help but think of how generalisations are abhorred in our culture today. You can't make deductions and common sense conclusions without being called judgemental or something else, we can't make connections. I guess we are being primed for slavery

[@newnessoflife9926]

I'd rather have: TELL THE TRUTH, OBEY YOUR PARENTS, and RESPECT YOUR MOTHER.

[@hannahrolen4989]

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[@robertcoeymanjr.2550]

Legal positivism versus natural law.

[@nicholasgee9127]

We have 3 rules in our house. 1. We worship the Lord. 2. Be good to Mom. 3. Don't wreck my house.

[@wendygreenfield9631]

That is funny

[@wenmoonson]

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[@guitarplayer1434]

IMO.. The best verse in the Bible on parenting is" let your yes be yes, and your no mean no"

[@laurabeseth3943]

Does he mean his dad punched his face? Why does he laugh when he says that?

[@briendoyle4680]

Keep the lies of gods away from children! Religious children are less able to distinguish fantasy from reality... young children with a religious background are less able to distinguish between fantasy and reality compared with their secular counterparts.

[@conservativeriot5939]

Marijuana is good for many people, including me. It shouldn't be in the same class as alcohol.

[@clintonstephens273]

That’s a very alcoholic statement you just made to defend your pothead ways. I have worked with drunks and I have worked with potheads. The drunks still show up to work and will not get you injured on the job

[@sayloltothetroll6806]

That's a very ignorant thing to say.

[@conservativeriot5939]

@@clintonstephens273 I run a team in an IT business and have been employed by them for 5 years and have never been injured on the job. I've held 3 jobs in my life longer than 5 years with no workplace accidents, and I'm 32. Just because some are negatively affected doesn't mean it's bad for all. You don't deal with people like me because I don't have problems with it.

[@conservativeriot5939]

@@sayloltothetroll6806 please educate me then, so I can no longer be ignorant.

[@sayloltothetroll6806]

@@conservativeriot5939 I think you're a little beyond that point.

[@createyourpattern2773]

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