Why Husbands Should Be the Primary Initiators of S-- (Part 2)

Above all, men are built to be leaders in the home, so why wouldn't this include initiating intimacy with his wife? Join us as we unpack part 2 of this topic.
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[@demil3618]

If intimacy is _covernant_ renewal (which I agree it is), this covernant is a mutual thing. Consequently I'd expect this renewal to be a mutual desire- in the ideal state. Consequently both should equally be the initiators and if it isn't the desire of one of the partners, one might want to ask why that is. The idea that (generally speaking) wifes do _covernant_ renewal more out of duty and the husband out of desire doesn't sound healthy. God desires us to desire the covernant with him as he desires it with us. It is meant to be mutual and only due to our sinful nature it's _one_ sided.

[@Agoodname4u]

This is essentially what my husband said as well.

[@plel30]

I agree. It should be mutual.

[@christys.3912]

Well God designed many women to be responsive and men seekers. My desire starts in the the bedroom, not outside. His starts outside the bedroom, inside the bedroom, in the bathroom, in the kitchen, in the car, etc. I do not typically think about it... I have to make sure that he knows I'm available, but it takes thought and effort, because I don't think about it. Not that I don't desire my husband because I do, I'm just wired differently. I'm never hungry, until I'm eating. Was that way before marriage and still am... it only becomes a problem after marriage though, because men have no problem pursuing before marriage... that tends to stop after marriage unless they too make thoughtful effort on that front.

[@demil3618]

​@@christys.3912 That's one individual experience but can it be applied to all men. Generalisations generally don't work as there are many women whose desire starts outside the house as well, let's not forget them. So the effort is 50/50 on both sides or things won't work _long_ term.

[@christys.3912]

@@demil3618 I agree. It all depends on the individuals involved. Communication would be great if people were willing and able to try and express their desires, and understand each other and compromise. That's what is boils down to is trying to love the other for how they are and meeting their needs as well having yours met.

[@BeautifulSoulgurl]

This is good and for me as a woman I told him I want it more often I desire more often with him I feel people think it's all men who want it more often

[@carolexo7269]

Thank you for the distinction between 'servant' and 'head'. Very good! 🇨🇦

[@joeyrose1245]

Great episode! I am learning how to be that servant leader for my wife and she loves it. It makes her want to serve me more.

[@TheZanderKrugerShow]

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[@FarMorePodcast]

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[@dizzylilthing]

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