Find out why Pang (Pamela) Yang's body was taken away by her husband without a proper funeral.

[@lisazao5108]

I don't care who's right or wrong, I admire her brother for sticking by her side and speaking up for her. To me, that's loyalty & honor. I'm sure she is watching and she's proud of her brother & family for standing up for her.

[@tryfit2343]

I've known Pamela and Meng for an extremely long time now, essentially my entire life. Their relationship status had always been strained as due to Pamela being hard to please and was very demanding. Meng, on the other hand, was a passive fellow and never spoke up for himself. Pamela began seeing another man whilst she was still married to Meng. Eventually, their marriage ended up in shreds and her mother and her began their new chapter of life in Southern California. Regarding their child, Pamela and her mother DID NOT allow Meng to see her and if they did, it was on very rare occasions. Pamela knew of her cervical cancer while it was in its early stages during the first few years she was married to Meng and therefore it was benign, not too serious and she didn't get it taken care of. This resulted in her infertility. Fast forwarding a few years later to 2012, she finds out that it is in Stage 4 and she needs immediate chemotherapy. Following the doctor's orders, she received treatment. She healed, but the cancer returned in 2014 and it was too difficult to overcome with chemotherapy. Meng had filed for divorce for quite a while, but she refused to sign the papers because of the benefits that his work had offered. She was not receiving child support because she was not officially divorced and never filed for custody over her child. Again, she and her family all agreed that Meng had "abandoned" his child when in reality, she did not approve of him seeing his daughter. Now here is where Meng went wrong: Pamela had passed away and her family was requesting $20,000 of which he did not have. He went around asking family members to donate; however, her family repeatedly demanded that he give a portion of $20,000 to fund for her funeral and burial needs and clearly, this angered him. As he was asking for donations, he impulsively traveled to Southern California without his family's knowledge and retrieved her body--because he is her legal husband as the divorce papers were incomplete--and did who-knows-what with it. For those of you who do not know both sides of the story, discontinue your ignorant comments regarding Meng's family. They had no knowledge of his doing and are extremely apologetic for their son's doing. One of his brothers, however, supports his decision, but AGAIN, he didn't know about the body retrieval until it happened. Let me just say that Pamela's family are not the most sweet and honest family that there can be; though much of what her brother said was true, he had absolutely NO RIGHT to call out Meng's family and the Moua clan. It was Meng's fault that her family has to endure this tragicness, but it was not his family's. If there is anyone to blame, it should be Meng and Pamela's family for not trying to understand each other.

[@MayNas1987]

listening to the brother talk about the baby part it make me cry...

[@MEplusEVERYTHING]

Thanks for everyone who thinks what he did was wrong. I am the niece of Paj Moua and my dad is her brother in the video. We held a memorial for but unfortunately her body was not there. My family reported it to the police but because he is still the legal husband he is allowed to do that. We are still trying to find her body hopefully soon so she can rest in peace. This is such a tragic event in our family, no one ever imagined this would ever happen. Just to clarify as well, her daughter is my little sister. She was not able to have kids so my parents had a baby for her to adopt. My dads story is as clear as it can be, there is nothing hidden. He decided to come out with this so the world would know what type of guy her ex husband is.

[@BaoMuas]

I know.. what he did (taking the body away) is wrong. But the story... nothing is hidden...? wow

[@MEplusEVERYTHING]

Butterfly Muas Well nothing is hidden from our side but there's still the ex side to hear from, that's if they decide to come out or not.

[@BaoMuas]

okay then i'm hoping to hear the other side story.

[@BaoMuas]

Dao Vang yes that's what I hear too but I want to hear it from them. so that's why I think there must be something more to it.

[@duaxiong]

Butterfly Muas The cheating is irrelevant. The police are correct; her legal guardian is the husband, and his wishes will precede everyone else's. Unfortunately, it's not illegal to be a asshole. Regarding the insurance money, since the husband originated the policy and paid for the premiums, I think it was exceedingly gracious of him to consider splitting it. It must have really pissed him off to find out that his wife and her brother were trying to take all of it from him. Sorry, but the brother is SOL on this one.

[@regency08]

Please give the family some closure. I can't even imagine how her family feels.

[@kellyvue12]

No matter how bad a marriage or how bad of a divorced is NO human being deserve to be treated like this. Paj deserve a proper burial. And the elderly said "don't married other raise it will not last forever!" Nothing last forever! Hmong men can be cruel to the core too! My condolence to the family!

[@HBCTelevision]

HBCTV is bringing you this story because of its controversial matter and we believe it will help bring this case to closure. All comments made by Mr. Nao Yeng Yang, whether people believe what he tells HBCTV is true or not, it is for them to decide. Unfortunately, Wameng, Pamela's hushand, could not be reached for comments. Regardless of the outcome, who's right and who's wrong does not really matter at this point. The Yang family just wants the body of Pamela brought back so they can see her for the last time. That's all they're asking. In the case of the insurance policy, we all believe that the husband should be entitled to collect the death benefits. Clearly, we should not be blaming the entire Yang or Moua clan, but only a few individuals who had gone too far. As intense as this case may be, all parties just want to come together to heal, to come to terms with, and put this matter behind them. We hope this story is an eye opener and that we can all learn from this and prevent such thing from happening again in the future. We appreciate all of your comments. Thank you.

[@stacythor7639]

That's so sad. Wow.

[@HBCTelevision]

Part 2 is being uploaded and will be available for viewing shortly. Thanks for your patience.

[@xxxovernized]

HBCTV I don' care what she had done. I feel so sorry and so sad for her that she had her own life insurance (doesn't matter who paid for it 'cause she has her name as the owner) and she did not know how to spend it. I am sure she know how long she will live. Those life insurance agency they did not have time to tell u the policy 'cause they just want sell u policy and get out asap and any Q call 800 #. She own it all she has to do just get the Dr. signature on the paper that she has only two weeks or one month or three months to live and call her own life insurance company and tell them that just want to leave little change for her husband "'cause we had been husband and wife for 25 years" and I bet u that her husband will not come and pick up her body.

[@maikoulor240]

Ya Poa Vue

[@MrJoshuacx]

I didn't watch the whole thing but for such a beautiful Hmong woman. She deserve more then all these drama going on after her death. Her cancer was bad enough it shouldn't end up like that. They should give her a proper funeral without all these issue. As for the insurance money it doesn't matter how much you get eventually it will run out. I'm applause for the brother and his wife for the love of their sister. They even gave her a child or their own to the sister. Not many people can do that for anyone. I hope that they find her grave.

[@huecheng495]

Why is this station still in business?

[@nengvajvue]

Nej puas tau upload qhov txuas ntxiv ntawm no

[@kaxiong2451]

She is such a beautiful woman. Sorry for the loss :( My heart breaks listening to this. :(

[@lindaNxay]

There's always three sides to a story, her side, his side, and the truth.

[@chojhlubchannel007]

We need more fair and balanced reporting, not propaganda. While I sympathize for the mother not being able to know where her daughter's body is, I feel that there's more that the brother is hiding. Changing the beneficiary without both parties' consent is fraudulent activity. The brother should be careful just in case the Moua guy uses his words as evidence of insurance scam/fraud/forgery. If the brother truly loved his sister that much, they should have just gone ahead with the funeral and bury her as a Yang, one of their own, but no, they still saw her as a Moua and an outsider, and wanted her husband to come take part. This is where it doesn't make sense. At first I felt so bad for the brother and his deceased sister, but after listening/watching for awhile, everything just doesn't add up. RIP though, Pamela, amd may everyone who needs it find their closure.

[@sengdao4261]

Choj Hlub You are the man. Hmong should start to call you Txiv Vaj Pov.

[@wvang81]

Technically, they can find out where she's buried because there's resources open to the public and though they may be restricted from the husband's side of the family to know where her grave is, that doesn't restrict them from accessing to finding out where she's buried or from visiting her grave. Sad story but I believe they will eventually find out where she's buried. May her soul rest in peace.

[@suathoj1]

this is very sad.

[@michyhawj]

If I understand the youtube video her ex and the decease resides in California. If her body was taken to Fresno as the brother says I will call every cemetery there is in and around Fresno to see if she has been buried there. A burial record is public information. My prayer will be with her soul and family tonight.

[@konglao1517]

No one knows were her husband too her you know how i know because she was my,aunt and faith was my cousin

[@vajhuamsibluag]

***** How? He abandoned her for some times. I think the big issue was that her parents and brothers did not handle the case suitably.

[@suabcualis4854]

***** I thought the brother said that they were divorce legally in american way? But they aren't divorce Hmong way? If they are divorce legally I believe he can't get her body like that. Not unless they are not telling the whole story right. Because at the beginning he said that her ex wanted to divorce her the american way and not deal with her the Hmong way.

[@BLazinMami69]

Part 2 please

[@volleyballadventures3446]

Story is wishy washy!! The brother states she barely found out about her cancer in 2012 but later say the Moua family knew about it since she was 16. Also blaming the ex husband for infertility? Makes no sense to me! Who knows what really happen in the relationship. But I'm sure since the ex already got his $$ that must mean a death certificate has been issued. It's not so hard requesting for a death certificate from the city she passed away from. It will list where the funeral service was held at, as well as where the body was bury at. Rip Pamela!

[@myang1434]

Yes I'm sure she had infertility issues too like maybe some sorty of Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) or other things that causes her to be unable to conceive.

[@715basser]

I was thinking the same thing!

[@apurpledolphin]

I thought of exactly the same thing. I don't know if it's with every life insurance company, but I think they only pay out when they have been given a death certificate - and you can only get one when the deceased has been buried. It's just the saddest thing that her family, especially her mother, has to live life not knowing if their sister/daughter/mother has been properly buried. I understand his family loves him but they need to at the very minimum, let her family know what's happened to her so that they know what to do with their lives.

[@HBCTelevision]

We apologize for error that's happening. The video is being uploaded again and it will be up shortly. Thank you.

[@auyoh2299]

Dao Vang I second this motion.

[@devilflashbangvang]

Uo

[@ntxhuavlis6757]

Base on the story. Marriage and divorce through the Hmong culture is only for respect of each other, but not official. So we, as Hmong people, need to observe what is official and stick to it and eliminate a whole bunch problems. We all have to understand that once you are married, you are your own family. Husband and wife with legal paper are responsible for each other. If a couples don't get along and one dies and the other don't want to handle the funeral, then turn it to the government and let the government deal with the living spouse. If any relatives of the deceased want to change things they only stressing themselves out.

[@Azian2008]

Well said

[@bahnxapsw8053]

As i know. In WI. There is a choice whether it is Legal or not when the State sign the Policy Hmoob will do the divorce Legally.

[@ntxhuavlis6757]

Still though, legal is only the paperwork recognized by the state. Every time the state implement a sub-government it is more due you have to pay. So to me everyone just want money. So everyone should just live together if they want to and move out if they chose too. Marriage is only for those who feel more secure if they see a piece of paper that say so. But, people break those vows all the time. So get rid of all the garbage systems. Less cost and less time wasted. Work benefits should just allow one partner and children under health insurance and benefits. Some places a ready allow domestic partner the rest just have to get with it. Domestic partner is just another person that you care very much for and you like that person to be under you insurance. That is all that it means and does not have to be a husband and wife.

[@Embrac3m3]

Her brother speaks genuinely about his sister. I hope that faith finds its way to bring peace to the Yang family. Karma is never beautiful and will find its way through each family that made each member of her family shed a tear. I have seen life insurance money (nyiaj tuag, nyiaj kua muag) bring tragedy dragging family members one by one to hell. Good luck to everyone and may the truth be known and help settle this mishap.

[@rosexiong3283]

Where's the 2nd part? Can't find it

[@alyssiakayathao5491]

I feel sorry for Pamela yang, RIP.

[@sengthao9698]

Tu siab ntawm Paj lub neej kawg nawb hmoob

[@yethao9516]

When is part 2 going to be uploaded?

[@HBCTelevision]

The video seems to be loading very slow. It seems to be working now.

[@Mnvang93]

So sad. Some people are just so selfish. I hope her family will find a way to see her.

[@beeyang]

What happens to the daughter now? Sad story.

[@tryfit2343]

She's going to live with her biological parents, Pamela's brother who is interviewed in the video.

[@sammievang]

Where is part 2?

[@ryuhang6824]

very sorry to hear that... hmong moua are all like that in the us! I hope she rest in peace no more pain she don't deserved to be treated like that if I was her husband I would love her to the end of my life and also that's very nice and very loving care of her own brother to gave up a child that is so pretty and cute not much people would have that kind of heart like her brother may you rest in peace Pamela Yang next life don't settle for those hmong moua losers anymore.

[@QABZIB_]

Why cant i view it

[@dc2lover89]

It's a very sad situation. No matter whose right or wrong Pamela should get a proper burial regardless. I hope she really rest in peace..

[@hmoobneejhmoobtsaav1145]

If I were to speculate as to what caused Meng to come and take possession of Pamela’s body, this is how I think it happened. Upon her death, the Yang family called to inform the Moua family that she has passed away and they would prepare a proper funeral for her. But since the Moua did not have two representatives with $1,200 go the Yang family and properly informed them that Meng and Pamela were no longer husband and wife, (txij hnub ntawm mus Paj tuag los yog Yaj dab, ciaj los yog Yaj neeg), Meng would be responsible for the costs of the funeral at the minimum. I’m sure that Meng did not mind paying for half of the costs of the funeral or even the majority of the cost since he had a life insurance policy for her to cover the expenses. But when he contacted the insurance company, they informed him that he was no longer the beneficiary. At that point, he was not really sure about his legal recourse, so he gathered his two brothers and tried to negotiate with the Yang family for half the life insurance benefit as Pamela’s brother mentioned in the interview. And I’m pretty sure that the Yang family, armed with the knowledge that the brother was the named beneficiary, threaten Meng not to show up at the funeral or he would be shot or hurt in some way. The three brothers got upset, rounded up the police and went to take to possession of the body with little thought about what would happen or to do afterward. As we all know, this is a natural reaction to this kind of a situation. Most of the times, with advices from elders and people who have gone through similar situation, both sides would calm down and work together to get the funeral done. It didn’t happen here, and I blame both sides because they both have allowed their emotion to take over their voices of reason. Both sides allow the insurance money to could their thinking and let their greed take over their actions. In hind sight, I’m sure both families would be more willing to negotiate and have a proper funeral for Pamela. I’m sure Meng would never want to have the burden of having the body of his deceased x-wife and not knowing what to do with it. And I’m sure Pamela’s family would never want to her body to be gone without knowing what happen to it. I’m sure both families have realized what they have done wrong here though neither one will admit to it. Going forward, the bridge between these two clans will remain broken for generations to come. I feel sorry for any young couple between these two clans who have fallen in love and want to spend a life-time together. Their love, however genuine, will be greeted with the bitter story of Meng and Pamela from dust till dawn. That is how Hmong handle this kind of a disagreement for generations, and it will continue here on out.

[@sengdao4261]

Hmoobneej HmmobTsaav, this is the bottom line. Pamela died on freday the 6 then the Yang spoke person Tsav Xyum yang from garden Grove made a phone call to Dr Tony on the following sunday 1-Pamela died legally Meng is the husband and that's true because the divorce papers never finalized. 2- She came back to the yang without a peny, now there is no money for her funeral. Though, Nom Yeej Yaj ( Bee Yang ) her brother came up with 15k and zam teeb Yaj $5k. Pamela funeral will go on the following Friday with or without Meng (husband) helps but will keep all the receipts and will sue Meng after the

[@Spirit321]

Ua cas ua tau tu siab ua luaj...thov kom paj mus zoo tsis txhob nco tej niag kev iab siab muaj nyob ntiaj teb no lawm os

[@initiald22]

dam hmong people its always about the money

[@chaovang8528]

Oh I met her on facebook lately but quiet down and now found she pass away.

[@TheHmongcgi]

Blah blah blah She gave $200k to you, you gave her a child so that some day the child can inherit her property. Oldest Hmong politic!

[@bxgood80]

What a sad story. Hopefully the family will have some closure soon. God bless.

[@nkaujntse5196]

Sad story. In CA, a will does not overwrite an insurance policy's beneficiary. In the summary, it says that the husband has the insurance money. Why would the insurance pay him when the beneficiary is in the brother's name. In order for the husband to get pay, he would have to get a court order, regardless the insurance company wouldn't pay him. It must be an error on the writer's part.

[@sengdao4261]

Choua, will you marry me?.

[@NuminousChild]

I understand that Mrs. Yang's family is in desperate need of trying to find her body. But why the fuck would HBCTV cover this story without knowing the facts! I mean just stick to a missing person report and keep it clean and simple instead of manipulating everybody's way of thinking of the whole situation.

[@payl6038]

how pain full to give away a child

[@Everlasting1stlove]

This is a very sad that never had in Hmong history. My condolences to the Yang family. And Pam, I hope you find peace wherever you are, and may your soul rest at peace. I think Meng and his brother Dr. Tony were very smart that they better to take $200k insurance and will spend 12 grams or whatever Hmong said “12 lag nyiaj” to Yang family whenever they want to be relationship with them again. I think this will change when the Yang family find out what and how legal issue is. According to the legal issue of a husband or wife been separate for over 6 months, they are no longer bound to each other. It is the husband or the wife’s right to name anyone as their rightful care giver. So in this case, if Pang stay with her families and have document showing that they have been taking care of her during her sick times, then they should have the right to bury her body, not her ex-husband. One thing, if her ex. already been married no matter with or without document, the Yang family should just bring the police to her ex. door and show them how his life really is and that should be the end of this problem.

[@sengdao4261]

Meng and his brother want to split the 200k with the Yang but the Yang refused to do it. Then meng and His brothere Dr Tony got smart and say.....you guys (Yang ) take the money and we'll take the body. Another words " you the yang can have the money but you won't have the body for a funeral ". They did the funeral without her body, so what is the problem here?. Every body got what they were after?.

[@rosepetals7230]

I can't view it

[@saiyang4865]

I was living in Banning, when I watch this I flash back n say to myself. I remember her now it was sad n I CNT believe the husband took her body away from her family, it not rite for him to do that n I hope Pamela family will take Him to court..

[@darkside59]

She's such a pretty women. Sad to know that she die of cancer that can be prevented. I hope her famile find her grave, if theres a grave. Her husband is very shady and should be put down. That is really wrong.

[@konglao1517]

I know I miss her she's my aunty so as my cousin faith my name is amanda

[@jalylee7876]

What if she was so pretty and she had an affair with your husband? Would you think of her any different? You should read the other side of the story from Try Fit who is a close family member.

[@darkside59]

Jaly Lee I don't know the whole story and I don't know tge families personally, but I think what he did was wrong. Her families have the right to know where's her body is buried. By watching the video, seem like her husband was just after her insurance money. I know for a fact, hmong og are money greedy. 20+ years of marriage, they knew she have cancer, that is why they force her to get life insurance. But they were money greedy, they could have prevent her cancer to become a stage 4 cancer if they wasn't greedy about money.

[@darkside59]

Oh yea, and one thing. I don't believe what other hmong people have to say about her. I know hmong og will talk hella trash about her to make everyone think she's a whore and sleeping around other guys amd having an affair.

[@mayvang8731]

darkside59 If you don't want to believe than you should not comment so strongly on one side. People like Nao Yeng loves taking advantage of good hearted people like you that jump to judgement and would even threaten to "put down" Meng. Nao Yeng has you in palms of his hands now. Careful, you may be defending the devil. Wouldn't that be a shame…..

[@ddowhitt1]

I really like Padee Yang, excellent job. Great questions, very engaged and sympathetic in the way she speaks. Graceful and modest, she is perfect for these kind of interviews. Freedom of Speech, clear as can be. Nao yeng has the right to speak and share his story. Meng also has the right to defend and speak up for himself. I really enjoy these kind of interviews and stories, obviously others do too because it is generating a good amount of views. They are doing something right. Thank you for allowing others the chance to speak out. Please keep up the great work! Sorry for the loss of such a beautiful Hmong woman.

[@peterlauj222]

The brother is a very wise person. What he doesn't feel comfortable discussing he won't go into answering besides what he is knowledgeable of. Someone like that chooses his words wisely and tells the world he isn't hiding anything also isn't a shame of what he has to say because he knows what's right from wrong. The husband on the other hand , won't last long at doing what's he doing. What's awaiting for him is around the corner only now. My condolences to the Yang family. And Pam, I hope you find peace wherever you are, and may your soul rest at ease.

[@somsatxayalat]

Vuag cas yuav ua li tiag o! Txaus hlub ua luaj li!

[@konglao1517]

Faith was my cousin I miss them

[@ladyhmong2107]

This is sad

[@kayoualorkyl]

Hey "try fix" if you know so much where is the body!

[@TheVanglofamily]

I think it's best to report it to the police.

[@sengdao4261]

Panouchi Lo, come to daddy close you eyes and let me make love love to you.

[@jinchang1392]

We only hear from 1 party so I am not sure who is right and who is wrong.

[@chezpham1847]

I'm sure this ain't the only HMONG family going through this. Let the gal RIP. It's not all about the money ya. Sad Sad HMONG people.

[@outdoorslugger5066]

The issue is not clear at this point who is to be blamed! The brother talked as if he have something to hide. The husband has the right to that policy if he's the one who had been paying! I believed the husband's intention of taking the body was to ransom for the policy money! To resolve this issue, the wife's side need give the husband half the policy money then he'll give back the body and have both sides of the family agreed to hold her funeral!!

[@sengdao4261]

Koo and Maiv, Thank you.

[@vajhuamsibluag]

Raws mloog cov lus mas kuv xav tias Paj Yaj tog neejtsa lis cov haulwm tsis raws kis lawm. Raws kuv xav mas nws tus txiv tag cai txhua yam lawm nxov. Why brought him back to the isue?

[@sushisdoesntmatter6867]

Yes, put down the 18 clans for something they have no involvement in and is trying to help fix. In this case, they are actually helping out. If there were no legal issues, this wouldn't be so hard to fix.

[@konglao1517]

She is my aunt

[@Icexiong88]

whatever their problems were he dont have the right to take her dead body. if they were legally divorce then get the cops involved cause he has no right to take her body

[@wisconsinhmong7637]

Cov lus no zoo li tsis meej puas tsawg. Peb xav hnov 2 tog lus. Qhov tiag thiab dag peb yeej paub yog thaum hnov 2 tog lus tag. Qhov tseem yuav ua tsis tau cuav, qhov cuav yuav ua tsis tau tseeb

[@nvthao]

This is very unfortunate. I'm saddened by this story and am astonish at how the situation was handle. I cannot even fathom how I feel, I just hope that this case will be resolve. I have faith that this case will be resolved, in hopes that her family will be able to reunite with Paj. I hope that her ex-husband will find it in his heart to shed some light to Paj's family and allow them to reunite with Paj. I'm sadden at how the Hmong Community treat the Hmong women. Let's strive to make a change, to allow our girls have equal rights as the boys in our culture. To the Yang family, I am truly sorry for your lost...I hope that your family will soon be able to reunite with Paj.

[@nrhiavkojxwb]

She may have been taken back to Lompoc and buried there....!

[@chouxiong2662]

did they know what happened to her body.

[@chriskie07]

She will definitely make sure her ex-husband suffer in life or she will come get him herself. He's so stupid, he better be afraid. Heaven is not waiting for you.

[@HumbleGolds]

Hmm...too many questions. I feel the news interview report is biased. Usually these are paid circulation. I would love to hear an in-depth neutral report. A sound mind would find it very confusing, conflicting, and emotional attack speech (conflicting insurance & infertile blame). And yes, bottom line, the body shouldn't be hidden but the report needs to be fair and square. Not a lawyer here, but legally, there could be a defamation lawsuit brewing. BTW, funny how most comments are related to beauty and money. IMO, I think it came down to respect, torture, and personal. Money and beauty cause problems. Who wants problems? No question anyone will get rid of beauty and money if it keeps developing chronic problem...perhaps this is what is happening.

[@kiavang7402]

It is very sad what money does to people. What's even more sad is the fact that he is keeping her body away from her family. May she rest in peace. My condolences goes out to the family.

[@AbaoQwj]

I hope her body is at rest ASAP! RIP. She is such a beautiful young lady even when she was an teenager.

[@jalylee7876]

This is just a one sided view, I don't know what happen between her and her husband but her family made her sound like an angel, for a fact, she was having an affair w my husband for almost 3 mos. I confronted her and my husband together, and ask her to stop what she was doing because I wanted to save my marriage. I did not ask about her life or nor wanted to know her situation at the time, just ask her that, as a women to another women for respect, if she was unmarried, she should atleast respect others marriage because we are all Hmong. We have such a small community, they need to stop because it hurt me and if any one found out, it would hurt my whole family and hers. She replied saying she had other men in her life and does not need my husband. That was the last communication I had with her...

[@jalylee7876]

I've known Pamela and Meng for an extremely long time now, essentially my entire life. Their relationship status had always been strained as due to Pamela being hard to please and was very demanding. Meng, on the other hand, was a passive fellow and never spoke up for himself. Pamela began seeing another man whilst she was still married to Meng. Eventually, their marriage ended up in shreds and her mother and her began their new chapter of life in Southern California. Regarding their child, Pamela and her mother DID NOT allow Meng to see her and if they did, it was on very rare occasions. Pamela knew of her cervical cancer while it was in its early stages during the first few years she was married to Meng and therefore it was benign, not too serious and she didn't get it taken care of. This resulted in her infertility. Fast forwarding a few years later to 2012, she finds out that it is in Stage 4 and she needs immediate chemotherapy. Following the doctor's orders, she received treatment. She healed, but the cancer returned in 2014 and it was too difficult to overcome with chemotherapy. Meng had filed for divorce for quite a while, but she refused to sign the papers because of the benefits that his work had offered. She was not receiving child support because she was not officially divorced and never filed for custody over her child. Again, she and her family all agreed that Meng had "abandoned" his child when in reality, she did not approve of him seeing his daughter. Now here is where Meng went wrong: Pamela had passed away and her family was requesting $20,000 of which he did not have. He went around asking family members to donate; however, her family repeatedly demanded that he give a portion of $20,000 to fund for her funeral and burial needs and clearly, this angered him. As he was asking for donations, he impulsively traveled to Southern California without his family's knowledge and retrieved her body--because he is her legal husband as the divorce papers were incomplete--and did who-knows-what with it. For those of you who do not know both sides of the story, discontinue your ignorant comments regarding Meng's family. They had no knowledge of his doing and are extremely apologetic for their son's doing. One of his brothers, however, supports his decision, but AGAIN, he didn't know about the body retrieval until it happened. Let me just say that Pamela's family are not the most sweet and honest family that there can be; though much of what her brother said was true, he had absolutely NO RIGHT to call out Meng's family and the Moua clan. It was Meng's fault that her family has to endure this tragicness, but it was not his family's. If there is anyone to blame, it should be Meng and Pamela's family for not trying to understand each other. "THIS REPLY IS FROM TRY FIT"

[@tryfit2343]

I absolutely agree with you on the fact that her family described her as an angel when in reality, she was the complete opposite. Don't get me wrong, she was kind to only so many people, but no one could trust her. She ran her mouth, had (multiple) affair(s), etc. Her family always took her side and her mother, who also couldn't keep secrets, would spread rumors (during the marriage) that Meng is treating her like trash, not caring for her and on and on and on. She's a beautiful individual--on the surface. She flaunted herself to men, even when she was married and had a child. It's unfortunate that she got cancer and that Meng had taken her body, but with all of that anger pent up inside of him, he acted irrationally and that is that.

[@alwaysincognito8243]

If Pamela was so sexy and beautiful like some of the people are saying in here. Why does she have to resort to having multiple affairs with whom all happens to her best friend’s husband? Is she sick in the mind? Is it a fetish for her to sleep with her good friend’s husband? Pamela also had an affair with my friend’s husband too. She claimed that they are best friend only to stabbed her in the back. Pamela is not a good person as her friends or family claimed. She is a conniving bietch. She will hurt anyone to get what she wants. She doesn’t care if it’s her own family or friends. She’s proven this over and over by all the infidelities that she had with her friend’s husband and her own husband’s cousins. This is the lowest of the low. If you can get this low, you're only a muam dev. If Pamela was still here today, I can guarantee that she will not be able to deny these claims. For she have personally confided to one of her good friend of all the affairs that she’s been having. Cheating with co-workers. The men in her hometown. Her own husband’s cousin. Who knows.. maybe she even cheated with her husband’s brother too. I do not sympathize with her at all. She got exactly what she deserve! KARMA is a bietch and now you finally got what you deserved. Just like you say “What goes around will come around”. Well, I guess it finally found you. All your sins, they will last you a lifetime. There’s always a reason for everything and if you still do not believe that this is God’s way of punishing you. You still haven’t learned!

[@ppk45]

To say that Paj tus txiv muab nwg tso tseg mus hlub lwm tus tshiab lawm is not totally correct. From what I heard, Paj cheated on her husband first and then the divorce come after that. You should do more investigative before reporting and don't just take one sided.

[@gaoleevang3946]

Lawv twb nrauj tag lawm es lawv tseem xav yuav nyiaj thiab?

[@zks8798]

Tu siab heev ua cas peb cov hmoob no yuav coj cov keV cai dab qhuas haib tag npaud?yuav cais lub xeem thiab kwv tij neej tsa tag, tsis txaus tseem vais yus tus ntxhais thiab, peb poob qab heev lawm , tsis Vam meej, yuav tau hloov, coj li America coj thiaj zoo

[@hiyou7117]

If (Try Fit ) say that she got another men then why don't that men come out and say that he did talk to her when she was she marry and everything will solve the case and let see who the bad one out this video and who lie or he scared to come out

[@hmoobneejhmoobtsaav1145]

To air such a poorly researched story is purely irresponsible and should have some legal ramifications. In fact, if I’m the Moua family, I will sue XAV PAUB XAV POM for slandering. As a media source and journalist, you have an obligation to the public and the parties involved to air a story that is well researched, documented, and presented with a balance and unbiased point of views. In this case, you only allowed one party to voice his view. That is not journalism but pure propaganda. In fact, one can actually argue that Padee Yang is using her position of influence under the false pretend of a public forum to further her own clan’s agenda because it involves a member of her own Yang family. Therefore, my purpose of commenting on this interview is to shine some light onto this issue. I want to point out that I have no association with the Moua or the Yang family in any way. I just try to give the story a bit of a balance view. I’m not a journalist, and I’m not abided by the same standard that Xav Paub Xam Pom and Padee Yang are supposed to, so here is what I have heard. I live in Southern California, and the things that I’m going to say here are not news to us but facts that you, as a journalist, should know if you have done your research. Hmong in this area of the country know that Pamela is not really the loving and innocent woman that many of you who do not know her believe she was. She was not the caring and loving woman being portrayed in this interview. Because of Pamela’s beautiful look and her sociable personality, many Hmong young men in Southern California knew her when she was still a young woman, including Meng, her husband. On the surface, Pamela was pretty and appeared to be a well-rounded woman, but once you got to know her, you would quickly realize that she was not someone who you could trust or would want to forge a life-time friendship with. Her beauty can be deceiving, even to herself. She used her beauty to get men to spend money on her like water. Many would do it willingly and without any hesitation because of her flattering charm and beauty. One day, without much thought, Meng went to pick her up after school and drove her home. He paid $10k nqe tshoob for her hand. In fact, because no Hmong parents had asked for a nqe tshoob of $10K at that time and age, she was known as “nyab 10 npav” in some Hmong circles. From the very beginning, she was never committed to Meng. Soon after their wedding, she started seeing other men secretly. Even though Meng had learned about Pamela’s unfaithful secrets early on, because of his love for her, he stuck with her despite what other family members had tried to convince him otherwise. He even allowed her mother to move in to live with them after Pamela’s own brother kicked her mother out of his house. After her mother had moved in, the mother and daughter were having a grand of a time--doing nothing but stayed home, looked beautiful, and went shopping and to the casino to gamble and probably to meet other men while Meng was working hard just to make ends meet. Throughout their 25 years of marriage, Pamela had only worked for a few years. The rest of their time together, she had not held a meaningful job to help Meng with the bills. There were many rumors surrounding Pamela’s secret life. One well-publicized case was with a married man who she had secretly dated for 8 years. This man had seriously considered leaving his wife and kids to spend the rest of his life with Pamela until he found out that he was not the only man that she was seeing at the time. Despite all the swirling rumors, the straw that broke the camel’s back was the case with another Hmong married man in a town close to where they live. No one knew how long they had been seeing each other, but right before Pamela and Meng were separated, the wife found out about her husband’s extramarital affair with Pamela when Pamela accidently or may be purposely texted the wife nude pictures of herself and this woman’s husband at a hotel room. Once that story surfaced, Meng finally decided that he had had enough and wanted a divorce. After the separation, Meng did find a woman, married her (in Hmong tradition) and brought her to live with him. But his meeting this other woman did not occur prior to his separation from Pamela as it was presented in the introduction of this one-sided interview. While all this was happening, Meng continued to pay for Pamela’s health and life insurance. Once Pamela learned of his new wife, Pamela began to call and send messages through cell phone and online social media to inflame the situation, so much to the point that the new wife couldn’t stand it anymore and left Meng. He later decided to follow the new wife and moved to Sacramento. It was at that point that he decided to drop Pamela’s health insurance to keep peace with his new wife. But his cancelling of her health insurance was not the cause of her death as many of you seem to believe. The brother claimed that if Meng had not cancelled her health insurance, she would continue to receive treatment and that may keep her alive today. The truth was that she had received all the treatment that she was supposed to before he cancelled the health insurance. Over a year ago, she had posted on her FaceBook account that she was cancer free, in love, and very happy. As we all know, in fighting cancer, your chance of beating it is greatly reduced when it relapses, and it did in her case. Her odd was also not that great to begin with. At a stage four cervical cancer, your 5 years survival rate is a measly 16%. With this dimmed hope of prognosis, we all know that despite whatever level of health insurance coverage she had and whatever treatment that was available to her, it would just be a painful fight to the end. It is unfortunate, but that is what has happened here. This story has painted Meng and the Moua family as monsters who do not even deserve to be Hmong or human being while portraying Pamela as an innocent, abandoned and mistreated woman. The truth is that she mistreated Meng and the Moua family. In the end, she chose to leave on her own term. It's just unfortunate that she came down with cancer. I don’t blame the brother for saying what he has to say, and I don’t agree with how Meng handles this situation. On the other hand, we are all human being, and I can see how one may react the way these two families had when it comes to the well-being of someone we love. But I do put the responsibility on the show Xav Paub Xam Pom and its host Padee Yang. Like I mentioned at the top of my post, as journalist and media source, you are obligated to give the public a balance and unbiased view. Just do your job, research the story thoroughly, report the facts as it happened, and let your audience draw their own conclusion. Don’t try sway people’s opinions or views to your side by using an emotional party in the case as facts to justify your own view.

[@sengdao4261]

I have a $10 bill to give you. I think I know who you are but don't want to give the money to the wrong person.

[@levieyang]

This is so wrong! But is it just me or anybody else also feel like there's a lot of truth behind it that is known but not revealed by the brother? I also don't get the part where the sister is not able to have children because of the husband..but if it's because the husband is not fertile, by doing the infertility thingin', wouldn't she be able to conceive? There's always 2 sides of the story. However, how the ex-husband handle the situation is not right! She is still somebody's sister, daughter, and friend..by taking her body like that and not letting her family know is just not right. Oh well, whatever it is, may she rest in peace! Such a beautiful woman!

[@volleyballadventures3446]

Agreed!! Story doesn't make any sense!

[@myang1434]

Yes, I totally agree the story doesn't make any sense. Like if they found out she had some sort of infertility way back when they got married then wouldn't she be the one who couldn't conceive? Plus, if her side of the family thinks that the divorce between the Hmong people is finalized then why do they keep sending messages to the ex when she died. If her family kept these info to themselves then he probably wouldn't have so much information on when to come take the body. It seems like her family felt they did not want to deal with her funeral and kept bugging her ex so of course he came and took the body. These two families are both at fault for all this and yes it does sound like her brother is hiding a lot of things. Before she was diagnose with cervical cancer I really thought she was the infertile one to start with but when her family said it's her ex who is infertile just threw me off. But it's also very wrong for the ex to do this to her family. I don't understand why she let her ex continue to pay for her policy because if he's the one paying then yes in reality he should receive the money but it's wrong that he didn't stay with her until she died. Yet only wanted the money at the end. Such a sad story.

[@levieyang]

True, I do agree that if he's the one paying for the policy, he should be getting the money. They did agreed upon buying the policy that if you die, I get the $, If I die, you get the $. I just don't know what they agreed upon after divorce. And plus, regarding the part where he said the husband didn't want to help her with the health coverage through his work and purposely quit his job so she won't get coverage...according to my experience, if you no longer want to have somebody under your benefit plan, you can drop them anytime you want from the plan. You don't necessary have to quit to not cover her. Such a total mess but I am praying for both families for healing and recovery.

[@InvincibleMegaBeast]

If this was back in thailand the ex-husband would of been dead...they would send black magic his way and he dead.

[@malynamua]

Lev Van Yes true you can take anyone off your plan whenever you want, but you have to realize the couple lived in CA, CA laws are hard to refute. Normally, if you already have a spouse under your plan and you are legally married, you must keep them on the plan even after divorce, unless you go before a judge and agree to a plan of action.

[@keemua7011]

I am a Mua - I hope we all come to God's system to change our heart.

[@MsMalleyV]

This is insane! This kind of story is the ones you see on TV not in the Hmong Community. This only shows how money can make people greedy. Rest in peace Pamela!

[@jae9201]

No, disrespect, but this tradition needs to go.

[@dub_dawbmoua1874]

Padee aww, PLEASE take this clip of you tube away, or another word is please delete this clip, the whole thing is a lie . Can you tell. it is a same to see this clip again and again. We know both the family, This person that you interviewed was lie lie, as a family member it a same to us. Please I begging you to delete this clip.....

[@yeejSuab]

Try fit, am sure you know this couple well. I bet you are related to meng or one of mengs cousins. Maybe you are right about her. She's very pretty and felt that she could anyone she want. She might've put it into actions and broken her marriage with meng. My question to you is this...... If another man did this to you but taking your sisters corpse without letting you know. Just put yourself in this situation. Will you be willing to accept the behavior done by the ex husband.

[@YukkiZo]

Wow this video have been watched so many times. And the comments, man they are nasty. I'm not saying whose right or wrong, but her family has come out and talked about this matter, so I would have to side with them until he prove himself innocent. If what they are sayin is false, than he should come out and convince the hmong community and myself. I've also read a couple comments of people or a person (might or may not) impresonating guys she slept or cheated with. I find it hard to believe these comments. Who knows, it might be her ex husband following this story. .

[@alwaysincognito8243]

There's always two side to the story. However, some people refused to listen to the truth. Some people refused to know the truth so they only go base on speculations. Even when someone is speaking the truth, the rest rather just buried that truth. It's our loved ones. Our friends so of course, we will do everything in our power to protect the truth. I'm going to tell you the truth about Pamela Yang. Pamela once destroyed my friend's marriage. Pamela claimed to be her friend only to betrayed her by having an affair with her husband. YES, you may all say that it takes two to tangle. However, what she did was a sin and wrong. You don't try to be someone's friend only to backstabbed them. What kind of friend does this? My friend was devasted. Her 10 years marriage went spiral down the drain due to this act of infidelity causing them to separate. Pamela is the type of person that will smile and talk to you nicely but she has a knife sticking to your back. I've read some of the responses in here about her cheating ways and I can GUARANTEE you that Pamela is by far innocent as some of you may think. She has some dark secrets that she will take it to her grave. You may all refused to believe but she know what she did and the victims know what she did. It's not out of jealous or retialiation now that I speak of this but everyone has been trying to make her look so good. Even her own brother, which I could understand. He wants to protect her memories. What you did to others, karma is not that far from you. Meng, loved her alot. Her continious cheating habits finally led him to leave. You can't blame him. But the issues at hand is not about her CHEATING. It's about Meng taking and hiding her body. I hope that he will at least let the family know where he buried her body.

[@NtxawmV]

This is truly a sad story. How dare that devil continues to torment her after death. I hope she haunts him for the rest of his miserable life. I hope he will endure the same heartache he has caused upon her and her family.

[@rainyang08]

What a sad story. Those who are in the wrong...all I got to say is, karma. In due time, karma will do it's job. May her soul RIP.

[@sukixiong]

one thing is now that the sister is gone n now the baby knows whos the parents that even more sad too..unless the baby been knowing so its not good to show or tell that on show.

[@chaovang8528]

Cai Hmong tsis khov kiag li yom, nej cov 18 xeem na rau siab ua hauj lwm nawb

[@patricklor7825]

Pang was a great girl

[@malaesia69]

Take him to court... He has no power of attorney bcuz they r not legally married... This is one reason y we hmong pple need to be legally married so in situation like this we will not have problems. It is so wrong for her ex to do this... He has no rights whatsoever... Someone needs to take him to court n put him in jail... Shame on him... But I believe in karma ... U do someone wrong... It will come back to you 10×worse. May her family find peace n justice soon.

[@myang1434]

Wouldn't they still be considered legally married because he never signed those divorce papers? Is there a time frame between the time you file divorce papers and the time you have to get it finalized, otherwise you're considered divorced in a certain amount of years? Lets say like some states if you live together for more than 7yrs then you're considered to be in a common law marriage even if you have no legal papers.

[@tryfit2343]

Correction: she did not sign the divorce papers.

[@sengdao4261]

Malaesia Xyooj, There is different between man and a woman. A man fuck you nad they leaves, a woman stay and clean before she can leaves. But I tell you what? next time we have sex, you can leave first and I'll stay back and clean before I leave, deal?.

[@paulyang1871]

twb tau ntev npaum li lawm los...Wameng moua tseem tsis tau muab Pamela lub vec cov los ua kev cai li os nawb.....nrog tu siab kawg li ...yog lam yog li nyob ntuj qub qab ntshe tu Wmaneg moua no twb tuaj lawm.....vim yog nyob teb chaw no es nws thiaj li mauj22 ntsej muag.....tabsis muaj ib hnub twb nws yeej yuav ma ntau saib siab xwb mas...Pamela aw...koj dua twg lawm os cas koj tsis rov los coj kojm tau Wameng nrog nws tus ploj laim mus ua koj qev os....koj tsev tso ntsoov seb koj yuav ua tau dabtsi lawm xwb mi Pamela aw....yog hnov no cia li ua koj txoj huaj lwm nawb mog....mam li ntsib koj dua mog....

[@sengdao4261]

Paul 2 things you need to know: 1- kawm ntawv hmoob ntxiv kom koj haib zog tso, koj tseem ruam heev txog ntawv hmoob. 2-nej cov hmoob yaj ntshaw nyiaj zog lawm xwb es nej tus ywm yij thiaj tias.....nej yuav nyiaj es cia nws coj nej tus muam lub cev mus hlawv pov tseg no xwb. Yog nej kam faib qhov nyiaj ntawd ib leeg 100k ces nyiaj los nej tau, nej tus muam los nej tau coj mus ua ntees raw li nej nyiam. tabsis nej xav tau nyiaj tag nrho xwb es thiaj li mus zoo li no lawm xwb, pab nej tusiab nawb cov dab laug hmoob yaj RUAM.

[@blueberrysmilie1]

that's stupid and impulsive of the ex-husband. he has no rights to keep her body away from her family. and the moua family crashing a funeral and thinking they have the rights to call the cop? take them to court!!!! TAKE THEM TO COURT! what? is the insurance giving the ex-husband rights? Still have to rights know where her body is.

[@konglao1517]

That was so sad when my aunty died my name is amanda

[@bahnxapsw8053]

Blueberrysmillie1. I share both bad and good with you. For the insurance policy, if you don't know than don't talk. No time to explain but, her family can not swap it for sure if her husband did not sign the consent. In some case, it still not exist even you do so. Make sure to keep your Muslin scarf tight so when you breath the bad air won't go through.

[@blueberrysmilie1]

lol anyways...

[@chouxiong2662]

I feel so bad n sorry for her life ended up like that. she needs to hunt him down to death for what he did. Rip

[@hunterman505]

there r time when people r bad but in this case, it's jut wrong what he did.. he only want the money.. sadly that money is not going to make him rich but going to make him suffer.. it will come around.. and someone will do the same to him..

[@nenglee2339]

Mij ntsis zoo li qhov ua tau happened rau peb ib tus yawg. Xyov li tiag twb laus laus los tseem ua tau txawv ua luaj. Nws thiab peb tus pog sib nrauj. Tsis ntev tus yawg tas sis neej, tus pog thiab nws tus ntxhais tus vauv tuaj nyiag nws nws cev mus lawm. Lawv coj mus ua nws lub ntees just because of money. Zoo li tias tus yawg kuj los haunted lawv cov no. Tsis ntev peb tus pog ntawv kuj tas sim neej lawm thiab.

[@konglao1517]

What I speck Hmong but I don't know what your saying because I'm a little girl my name is amanda

[@zks8798]

Yog ua cas nkawv twb tsis nyob ua le ntev lawm, ua cas tus txiv tseem them assurance thiab? Nov kuv tsis to taub li,txoj cai lub teb chaws uas yus nyob txiav txim li cas, ces tau li ntawv. Nov yog ib zaj dab neeg ntawm ntau zaj, CIA ua qauv rau hmoob lawm.Paj tus nus hais tias qhov nws kawm tau zaj dab neeg no, yog pom tias hmoob tsis sib hlub. Nrog nws tu siab heev, txij no mus peb txhob ua thaj qub no lawm, hmoob coj li mab sua

[@moxncal]

hey, pass the popcorn!!

[@hlubkoj25]

wow over money..thaum tseem ua neeg nyob twb tsis xav yuav tiam si thaum tuag lawm es muaj nyiaj no ces ho tuaj lav lub cev...thov kom Paj rov qab los xwb laus...

[@hiyou7117]

If

[@dejsiablis690]

Koj yuam kev lawm, kawm ntawv tiav Dr. tsis tau txhais tau hais tias yog neeg zoo, txawj xav thiab ntse. Mloog cov lus xwb mas, hnov ib tog lus xwb, zoo li tsis meej pes tsawg thiab vim rau qhov twb nrauj tag ntawm Hmoob lawm. Ua cas es tus coj ntawm tsev xeem Muas ho tseem hu rau tias kom xeem Yaj tias lawv tus neeg tuag lawm. Qhov no qhia tias tshuav ib qho tsis meej. Tabsis tsis ua cas, yog tus Yaum Yij phem npaum no tiag zoo li cov lus no ces tsis txhob nyuaj siab thiab tsev xeem Muas yeej muaj chaw mus xwb.

[@neejher1119]

Kuv mloog cov lus xwb ces....tsi tag lus...neejtsa xyov puas paub qhov tseeb thiab...paj thiab meej thiaj paub qhov tseeb xwb. 99 percent paj tham hmoob tiag...temsis meej los 100 percent ruam thiab es thiaj zoo li no.

[@sengdao4261]

Tso tom e koj mas cas yuav hais tau ncaj qhov niag I ua luaj os npawg!