Finding Mr. Right and the meaning of marriage / HER - Women in Asia (Season 1) | DW Documentary

Meet women across South Asia who are breaking stereotypes and voicing their opinions loud and clear. Get ready for HER - great stories about stepping up, health, depression, dating, beauty and marriage filled with twists, turns and feeling.
01:25 - Finding Mr. Right
Dating is only a recent phenomenon in countries like India but now dating apps are flourishing. What role does the generation gap play in countries like Indonesia or Taiwan? Are traditional and modern lifestyles compatible? Three women tell us their experiences with online dating in this HER episode.
13:30 - The Meaning of Marriage
Marriage was once seen as a social and economic necessity. The equation that marriage makes us happy and divorce is a failure still prevails in many societies. But does one really have to get married to become happy? In this episode of HER, we want to explore the different ways women navigate the topic of marriage. What does it mean to them?
DW presents: HER
In recent years important steps have been taken to strengthen women’s position in South and South East Asian societies dependent on the extent of their economic development.
Reforms of basic rights and legal systems, demographic changes and more dynamic civil societies have made this transformation possible. Despite all progress enormous challenges in various parts of Asia still lie ahead especially concerning gender equality.
With this in mind the focus of our multimedia approach is on the lives of women from India, Pakistan, Indonesia, Malaysia and Taiwan. We show their experiences with stepping up, health, depression, dating, marriage and beauty.
Each episode focuses on one topic featuring three women from different countries and different backgrounds. The topics are universal and controversial.
Series playlist: • HER (Documentary Serie...
Finding Mr. Right and the meaning of marriage / HER (1/3): • Finding Mr. Right and ...
Beauty, body and mind / HER (2/3): • Beauty, body and mind ...
Women, mental health and equality - the challenges being faced / HER (3/3): • Women, mental health a...
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[@mmrgratitudes]

I'm glad that Filipina lady living in India found the right man for her. They seem to adore each other. I hope they last 🙏

[@h2t26]

Ya they seem pretty chill.

[@_suki_]

Yeah!!

[@TheReggaeboi]

I’m 33 and still single. I think, getting married is a big big responsibility nowadays. It’s not easy at all!

[@kamartaj3010]

Yes.

[@dotdashdotdash]

Getting married is a serious menace to your position in society & your long term survival.

[@houseofhas9355]

Marry a woman who respects you and feel comfortable speaking her mind without disrespecting you. One that lets you lead, And has faith in your leadership. Modern western woman walk all over men. I worked in grocery store, and watched wifes with their husbands you would think how has this been normalized. Once you see it you can’t unsee it. Its on tv commercials, movies, the dumb husband thats needs to be talked down to, its everywhere. I say its one of the leading factors for divorce.

[@dotdashdotdash]

@@houseofhas9355 yes, it's like a car, only one person can be the driver.

[@davesbainrps6909]

It’s not for the weak

[@just_janen_1196]

Everything about relationship is complicated and finding the right person is even more complicated cause there's no perfect human being out there.

[@nannuky1128]

and even if there were perfect partners, we'd probably eventually get bored with them, people are hard to satisfy!

[@bardanmalla193]

It's not only finding one is harder everything else depends on the person Unconditionally love should be there not who gives what and how much

[@loganwolv3393]

Yeah, but if in my opinion a good enough partner will do. For example to me it means that a good partner has at least decent emotional intelligence, somewhat of a minimalist that can appriciate small things as well, and generally a loving and faithful person. I shouldn't even mention looks, because there's countless women that have that so yeah.

[@sozbdulrhmanli3300]

Never

[@etcwhatever]

@P dot yes the defects of both need to be compatible lol.

[@mbbb1]

I am an Asian woman and I know marriage culture varies all through the continent but this is the only documentary that I've seen that presented it so well. I also agree with the lady who said that marrying someone here also means that you are marrying the family of your spouse. It could be a blessing or a curse.

[@DWDocumentary]

Thank you for watching and your positive feedback! We're glad to hear you liked this documentary :)

[@_suki_]

True

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

Without judging whether that is good or bad or where between the extremes, do you think this is so wrong given we do not live in Utopia? I would not praise forcing people, but the idea that for a lifelong relationship there should also be harmony with the family exists around the world. Do not get fooled by films and such. We might hope for romance and be a more individualistic on average here in the west, but people still know that for most people family bonds are the most reliable (There is a saying in German that blood is thicker than water.) and people take that into account. Maybe a bit less openly displayed but they do.

[@Kris-bg5nw]

This is a really interesting and entertaining documentary DW! Please do more of these

[@DWDocumentary]

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[@tiac3589]

Make this for men who is single too.

[@saoirseve]

Beyond the 5pm news of the hour and sterotypes...people are varied and vast. I am an Irish European woman living in the US and these segments make me learn every day...keep it up DW...learning, understanding and engagement that allows for multifaceted people must continue.............Yes please do.

[@DWDocumentary]

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[@defenderofdecency7218]

My advise to the 37-year old Taiwanese young woman: 1. Please tone down your 18 points you are looking in a man. Reduce it to the most important 3-5 qualities in a man (ex: loyal, family oriented, good relationship with parents, keeps promises, etc.) . 2. Don’t feel sad when you see married women with kids. They maybe unhappy & miserable in their marriages. You may never know what is happening in people’s lives. Edit: Forgot to add that the grass is not always greener on the other side, as the saying goes.

[@moisesfrias1117]

over 35 are out off the game no sound in mind man waste time in a 35 years old woman with a lot of baggage and dry eggs

[@defenderofdecency7218]

@Moises Frias Not everyone is as biased against 35+ year old women as you. Any woman or a man can find someone who accepts them and loves them regardless of their age, socio-economic status, looks, etc. So stop the nonsense.

[@moisesfrias1117]

@@defenderofdecency7218 of course I know there are a lot of stupid guys out there who pay for a used vayaya like if is new....those sucker can take all those used vags

[@dirtyhannie]

@@moisesfrias1117 So you see women just as some commodity to use? Maybe that is why you can't connect with anyone. I really feel for you and your empty life.

[@muhidinmohamed885]

MEN ARE PRIZE. DON'T BE A SIMP

[@cencknf5636]

She was 32 and already pregnant with the fifth child plus agrees to a second wife for her own husband. When misogyny is so deep rooted it makes you give up your own rights and say yes to an unequal partnership. Worst thing is they justify this unequal union with weird logic.

[@sylarfx]

DW should do the same doc for women from Europe, especially western vs eastern and northern vs southern

[@h2t26]

Nope the veil will drop and western women will be seen as the street walkers they are becoming. Though with enough editing, casting, and the right angle I'm sure they can be made out to look good or even victims of men in some way.

[@BalboaBaggins]

I'd rather have them interview MEN to tell everyone why marriage rates are dropping and why they don't date anymore. We've heard enough from women for a while.

[@shiamaria7913]

Latín America too!!! Here it’s a different world!!

[@magedeleni3140]

Yes please!

[@miltononyango]

I SUPPORT THIS

[@TheBerserk69]

I am a dude and i always wonder when most of my friends claim that family values are dead because people can date and be free.Let people live as they choose, if they just want to date and not marry is none of your business, if they failed at making a healthy family, let them divorce. Shallow people will be miserable whether they are alone or in a family. My personal motto has alway been this: Better being alone than being alone with the wrong people. But then again i am introvert XD

[@vkrgfan]

Exactly! A lot of people compromised their values and identity for marriage or were forced into it. It's not a happy place to be. I feel sad about a woman who has to be in a polygamous marriage, that wasn't her first choice and I afraid she may force her children into it.

[@suzanadee8252]

I agree with you.

[@Simpaulme]

'Shallow people' - define your terms - I always thought shallow people are more easily pleased 😉

[@anacipaulina818]

42yrs old Indonesian Single Work and lived here in Africa Happy:Yes ....very much 🤣🤣🤣🤣no pressure.

[@imutimwiti7606]

40 yrs old single and happy working in Nairobi, Kenya.

[@megaedwin2363]

@@imutimwiti7606 sasa wewe, nani ameku......... ama wacha tu

[@megaedwin2363]

@sebâstian turnayev Give me the assignment and I will do it for you. At a fee ofcourse

[@d.k87]

37 single here, the problem is until when we can survive?? tell me honestly don't u cry sometimes when u see couples with children??

[@anacipaulina818]

@@d.k87 not really..I am happy for them😆😆😆

[@RDCFemmes]

the lady explanation for polygamy can be argued in the reverse. If anything happened to her husband, what will happen to her and her children? so shall she take a second husband to provide for them?

[@nickk9499]

yea exactly.. its kind of a strange concept, not very natural, as human beings are naturally selfish

[@tysonmcduggan6870]

If Polygamy is not for you then stay in your lane

[@roshnik5137]

Ikr, I don't understand her

[@carolinammajp11]

She should have right

[@angelb17]

The Malaysian lady is a closeted Lesbian. She picked the 2nd wife that she found online. Husband really had no say.

[@livelifepassion4095]

Love is not about how perfect or match another person to you...but it's more on how much you like a person as you are willing to 'sacrifice' in accepting differences...and live with it... This is what I learned from 21 years of marriage which are still continue till this moment...got married when i was 24 and my wife was 21...a lots of differences between both of us...we quarrel a lot and more during our younger age...as we got more matured it become less....but still continues ..😁😁😁

[@h2t26]

Stop speaking truth! They don't want to hear it. If they did they would also have a male perceptive in the video but they don't. As if they were biased or had an agenda.

[@angelinestephena9739]

Nice

[@jacobblake1299]

Very well said Indeed. Thank you

[@MegaDiddlemaus]

Before finding the right one, BE THE RIGHT ONE FIRST🙄

[@nannuky1128]

ohhhh I'm saving it

[@MegaDiddlemaus]

@@nannuky1128 👍👍👍

[@tomt8709]

Right, some demand high on others first...

[@kukulroukul4698]

:)

[@kukulroukul4698]

wemenz HATE that in me ! :)

[@calli__4930]

THE ONE WITH THE LIST PLS😭

[@mugumyapaultheafricannomad9488]

18 things😄😄

[@kungabagana2748]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@etcwhatever]

Yeaj with thar attitude she will be single forever. I dont say to settle for a bad man. But the right man for life might be different from her illusions

[@remy9858]

That's the reason she is getting desperate

[@fgcfelice]

I know. Reminds me of a former friend who was like 4 feet 11 and would refuse to even look at a guy if he was below 5 9. She would also swipe left on guys who had dogs or men who had an “unconfident smile” because apparently she could tell from a photo. Then she would proceed to complain amount why she was 32 and single 😂😂

[@houseofpranks1830]

Everyone wants the perfect life partner, but human beings will never be perfect. That's the problem nowadays. And as sex became easier to get, love got harder to find.

[@shobanana1]

Actually love is easier to find because you have the freedom to find it but it’s a hard journey and not for the weak of heart. And no one says they want the “perfect” life partner, just the one they feel is perfect for them. Also, people were having lots of extra marital affairs especially men back when society was more constrained and they found love outside of marriage.

[@houseofhas9355]

What do you think happens to someone if they have been with alot of sex partners before settling down with someone. I use to have a college friend , He slept with a lot of girls and dude was a shell emotionally, empty as he described it. Couldn’t pair bond with his girlfriends. Later in life met woman who had the same issue. mile high club numbers. Do you think high partnered individual has a higher chance of divorce if married. Is a red flag if a girl has had lot of partners. Been a 304. I would say majority of men don’t take a girl like that seriously because they can’t ensure paternity. Are they father of that child?

[@houseofhas9355]

@@shobanana1 I think sex is sold to as freedom or escaping the constraints of society . Some of those constraints protect us from bad outcomes, Not all were toxic. But alot were not denying that. But now sex is seen as a consumable. Its western thinking thats quickly finding its self like a spreading virus into more traditional countries.

[@h2t26]

Well thanks to feminism that has told women they can have sex with as many man as they want. The top 10-20% of men are getting a lot of action without ever having to commit to marriage.

[@h2t26]

@@shobanana1 Of course people mean that "perfect" is what is perfect for them. The point is that idolized person doesn't exist if it's not found in reality. For example, a women it could be a man 6ft tall or taller, making six figures, and the list goes on. They won't settle for anything less not caring that only 10-15% of men are 6ft tall or taller, not to mention just how many of them actually make that kind of money. Not that all women want that just saying, that individualist sense of "perfect" isn't always realistic. Same could be said about men, but men are more likely and willing to settle for less then ideal and still appreciate what they have. If love was so much easier to find why are their nearly 50% of marriages ending in divorce? 80% of which are started by women. Why have birthrates dropped, why are more people staying single? Why are less people getting married? Why are women constantly complaining about not having a partner especially after they are past 30 or 40yrs old?

[@mdhayderrashid997]

The comments are as much fun as the documentary

[@_suki_]

😅😅

[@prajay123456]

Dw every time you come with new content...iam addicted to your documentaries,news reporting and stories...Hats off 👏 to you

[@beyrutphl]

Fact

[@DWDocumentary]

Hi @PRAVEEN A, thanks for watching!

[@claudettedelphis6476]

Life is indeed complicated 💐 As John Steinbeck said: “ And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good “. “ All that we see or seem, is but a dream within a dream “ Edgar Allan Poe 🍃🍂

[@sheleko]

listen!... marriage is not for everyone; if you don't feel like it so be it.

[@elvy9326]

divorced coz marr not for me , but trully blessed to be a mom of a young gentleman and loving every bit of it

[@pikachuthunderbolt3919]

@yeh nah but has improved her conditions Many men do domestic violence , harrassment getting divorced or staying single is far better than getting stuck in critical situation the thing is, society needs to accept new things , new way of living Atlast , u just wannabe happy and peaceful in your life In older times ,many women suffer from worst due to treating them second class citizens

[@TTBOn00bKiLleR]

@yeh nah nah, instant validation on Social media did.

[@Musman-vr2mu]

@@pikachuthunderbolt3919 women suffer because of poverty ; even today poor suffer the same and even rich patriarchy family women r enjoying freedom and sustainbility!

[@pinco40]

So true! If it works for you, great. If it doesn't, it's also great. 😊

[@dreamsofadaffodil650]

DW I can't tell how much this documentary means to those who look at love and life from a different perspective. This film affirms my view of life and also I feel happy for all of those who stay like a warrior for something they believe in. As for marriage and love, our perfect partner comes when we wait and seek him/her without compromising. Big thanks 🌷🇮🇳

[@DWDocumentary]

We're happy to hear that this documentary resonated with you. Thank you for watching :)

[@thisoldjapanesehouse]

All relationships are hard and take work. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Marriage is a journey of discovery; not for the faint hearted, and certainly won’t work out well for selfish people. You can’t put the burden of making you happy on someone else. I know it’s easy to think that you are perfect, but you’re not. And if someone is willing to love you with your imperfections, you better hold tight; And love them back, imperfections and all.

[@_suki_]

👌

[@afuayeboah9149]

@This old Japanese House. You are so spot on. Wise words

[@hanggarasudrajat2811]

The Malaysian one: She is a legend 👍😂

[@aolanikainoa552]

She is the prettiest and most beautiful one in this documentary

[@Walevolence]

2:30 The person with a checklist of 18 criteria, she'll be better off staying single, happier that way.

[@houseofhas9355]

Kevin samuels enters the chat. “Buy a dog, die alone”😂

[@sushilsharma4202]

@@houseofhas9355 Aye godfather rocks.

[@houseofhas9355]

@@sushilsharma4202 the leftover woman is global son. Invest in index funds tied to singledom. Cat/dog food companies, baby carriers but for dogs companies, and microwave food 🍱 companies. The future is singledom. lol

[@bardanmalla193]

Those type of woman never finds one

[@summergal9110]

When she meets her true love the checklist will he abandoned 🤣

[@savikgrgtilija01]

Simple but sweet...waiting another part...

[@Perception_]

Find yourself, and express that. Then you will attract what you want in a partner/friend/any kind of relation. Work hard to know yourself, instead of everybody else, because then you feel prepared for any form of interaction(and this way you will know others better because you will attract likeminded people who like to share of themself). Most people still do the opposite and thus, hardly ever feel prepared. Oh, and btw, screw all of the clichés of dating, and do what feels right to you. That's the only right way. Keep expectations low, and have long term goals.

[@Eshakochhar]

I couldn't agree more! The most vital thing in life is figuring yourself out on a fundamental and core basis.

[@mudraad7703]

I second this!

[@KushQueen9]

Absolutelyyy! People need to realise its this simple.

[@recalled_heart5491]

That list is why she's still single

[@calli__4930]

Definitely, she should let love be love

[@andrw90210]

Eaxactly she to much man 9 outta 10 she’s not gonna find that guy.

[@andrw90210]

@Pat Gomez the perfect guy she’s looking for doesn’t exist

[@andrw90210]

@sebâstian turnayev Turkic peoples, any of various peoples whose members speak languages belonging to the Turkic family within the Altaic language group. They are historically and linguistically connected with the Tujue, the name given by the Chinese to the nomadic people who in the 6th century CE founded an empire stretching from what is now Mongolia and the northern frontier of China to the Black Sea. With some exceptions, notably in the European part of Turkey and in the Volga region, the Turkic peoples live in Asia. Their most important cultural link, aside from history and language, is with Islam, for, with the exception of the Sakha (Yakut) of eastern Siberia and the Chuvash of the Volga region of Russia, the vast majority of Turkic peoples are Muslim. In addition to those groups already mentioned, contemporary peoples who are classified as Turkic include the Altai, Azerbaijanis, Balkar, Bashkir, Dolgan, Karachay, Karakalpaks, Kazakhs, Khakass, Kipchak, Kumyk, Kyrgyz, Nogay, Shor, Tatars, Tofalar, Turkmen, Turks, Tyvans (Tuvans), Uighurs, and Uzbeks.And Timurid Empire Büyük Timur İmparatorluğu 1368-1501 Mughal Empire Babür İmparatorluğu 1526-1858 Ottoman Empire Osmanlı İmparatorluğu 1299-1922

[@phillipsidhojapap1461]

😂😂😂😂

[@riturao6565]

Wow awesome documentry. Loved it

[@charmemez]

Legit question. What if the husband passes away in the polygamous marriage? Who takes care of the 2 wives then?

[@Wazzup1991]

They'll marry another man or they'll take care of each other.

[@carolinammajp11]

@@Wazzup1991 They will search other husbands unless both like that lifestyle to stay together.

[@himanshukushwah6272]

Every body wants perfect life partner. And no body is perfect in real life. You have to compromise. Life is complicated. Every body looking for sexual satisfaction also. We just look for physical appearance. We have to go beyond that. Marriage is about us.

[@Pier-wy6dd]

At 08:03 "People stop asking when you turn 35" ....this is interesting

[@ishaks8152]

It's like buying a lottery ticket so cheap but the prize money is tremendous if you strike of course.

[@angelmcmurray]

Interesting topic.. happy I watched 🌹 in the end, we all just want to be loved ..

[@tomt8709]

Well, it seems for some still status and money is more important. For love, they have a dog or cat ;-)

[@BalboaBaggins]

If women "just want to be loved", the 80/20 rule didn't exist. Stop lying to yourself.

[@ilenamutis2245]

Really interesting!!!! Thank you 🙏

[@Onelovekeepcalm]

So what happens to the Polly woman when her husband dies ?? her reasoning made no sense. she said she is scared her children wont have a mom if she dies ! I bet she is not allowed to have another man in the marriage in case her husband dies and her kids have no father anymore. smh

[@sushilsharma4202]

Islam for you.

[@belleblanch5374]

According to Islam men never die and can have mutiple wives 😂😂😂

[@defenderofdecency7218]

That is not true. She can remarry if she is divorced or widowed if she chooses to do so.

[@h2t26]

@@defenderofdecency7218 People want to criticize other religions and cultures while not even trying to learn so they don't sound ignorant.

[@Onelovekeepcalm]

@@defenderofdecency7218 Yes and her husband can remarry also so why does he need a second wife now??? Like i said! Makes no sense

[@isit1312]

Mr. Right here & everywhere without money as a matter of fact

[@sozbdulrhmanli3300]

Thanks, DW channel for this funny and interesting documentary.

[@DWDocumentary]

Glad you liked the film. We upload documentaries regularly so don’t forget to subscribe.

[@sozbdulrhmanli3300]

@@DWDocumentary 💜☺️ of course we subscribed to the channel

[@usmanxertugrul5179]

Marriage is not about sex... Marriage is about love care and respect ......if you want sexual partner don't marry...

[@BoydXplorer]

Nice vlog...interesting contents about marriage in other countries. Thanks for sharing. 👍

[@DWDocumentary]

Thank you for watching! We're glad you liked the documentary. Stay tuned for part two!

[@namratakhandelwal4426]

This is the best content , just be yourself , be comfortable to your true self ...well said !!

[@koushikdas1992]

I want to bd by myself! But people here don't want to give space a little bit!

[@houseofhas9355]

That’s horrible advice. Improve yourself, don’t be yourself. you should want to make the other person attracted to you. Look up research on what makes a woman and man attractive. Do those things. Those are external, doesn’t mean changing your personality. Its mostly improving your body.

[@pinco40]

Agree! Such good advice. Be comfortable with yourself. 👏👏

[@Simpaulme]

@@houseofhas9355 That attitude seems to result in people having abhorrent cosmetic surgery ☹️

[@AngelRamirez-vm4el]

Amazing article, thank you for bringing another point of love...!!!!!

[@cynthiawaweru7796]

Marriage is not a feeling, it's a selfless commitment. Do your part, over and above the expectation of your spouse without spending all your energy trying to change them. Spend as much time together as you can.

[@Simpaulme]

If that's so, shouldn't both partners be selfless - if selfless is even possible?

[@yogithashetty2587]

Good documentary on marriage and love ! Many varieties for different people who come from different parts of the Asia . As for as the Malaysian women with polygamy- ( May be she should find a another man in their threesome marriage, so if her husband falls ill they could depend on another Man in their marriage )

[@Mabaz]

That's forbidden in Islam. She and her husband are muslim so I don't think so.

[@_suki_]

😅😅

[@yogithashetty2587]

@@_suki_ you totally get it 👍🏻

[@dipa9243]

😂😂😂

[@aolanikainoa552]

@@yogithashetty2587 Hindu women should that because there are less Hindu women than men

[@Sapientia-hs8xx]

Very interesting documentary! It says (1/3) but I don't find other episodes here. Good that DW has covered a story of a same-sex couple as well. Relationships, marriage is mysterious and complex! Nothing is perfect - "imperfect is the new perfect".

[@h2t26]

imperfect has always been the perfect for men. There was a study done on married men of what the love move about their partner and on the top of their list was all their imperfections. From the mole on her face to you name it.

[@Sapientia-hs8xx]

@@h2t26 absolutely! It’s the imperfection creates space and opportunities for both to learn from each other , grow together and continue the journey!

[@DWDocumentary]

Hi @Sapientia 2020, thanks a lot for watching and for your comment. Here is the link to part two: Beauty, body and mind / HER (2/3): kzbin.info/www/bejne/eXTXe2eKlsRkY8U. Part three will be published on July 10. 🙂

[@Sapientia-hs8xx]

@@DWDocumentary thanks for the link. I already watched part 2 and look forward to watching part 3 😊

[@xdfckt2564]

They don't ask the guys do they 😄

[@rs5004]

I wasn't expecting them to.... every video related to such topics only focus on female perspective since its the trend always...they just assume men don't have preferences or face any problem

[@nannuky1128]

i kinda expected the second part to be about men? we'll see

[@jp4431]

That's because this is part 1 of 3. I imagine part 2 will be about men, and part 3 will be men and women coming together with a shared perspective

[@rs5004]

@@jp4431 Hope so

[@houseofhas9355]

@@jp4431 I doubt it tbh. I think just like woman, modern society’s outlets never ask, what do the men I want, Want? Whats do they want? What type of woman do majority of men want. its simple logical exercise. Alot of woman cannot ask this or think to. because of decades of propaganda-about men’s preferences being toxic and controlling. Its a form of tone policing. Mens preferences are not to be discussed because its hurt to some woman. Men on the other hand have to know woman’s wants. fit, financially stable, smart, etc etc. Because For a man not know what woman want and find attractive is literally to be single forever. Reality punishes men for not understanding woman’s desire in a partner. Difference is global society protects woman from reality’s punishment with comforting lies.

[@claramunhu5523]

The South African man that threw his arrow at his love’s bum is hilarious and his hand gestures when he was describing the breasts had me in stitches 😂😂😂

[@sriramdasarathy9089]

WHere is he? I could not find him in this video.

[@j.landry1075]

People that are unrealistic and fake will always be disappointed. Thier is no such thing as perfect we all flaws, just be yourself, and the person that is meant for you will come along. Time and place for everything.

[@sankalp5475]

this thought doesnt apply for this video series. Basic premise is to find mr/mrs RIGHT

[@vaagai9808]

Would the polygamist agree for a woman to have multiple husbands? You know, sharing the love and all.

[@zuboy4272]

Yes exactly, she said if 1st wife dies then 2nd wife will take care of ppl , what if the husband dies , shouldn't she have a backup to earn ??

[@ndondiafrika249]

what happens to the other husbands if one husband impregnates her?

[@hasnatsakib7223]

Polygamy is right.. World has more women than man... Also get a statistics... There are many single mom in America.. Who are gonna marry them.. This is where polygamy comes to rescue.

[@vaagai9808]

@@ndondiafrika249 How should that be a problem? If one man can impregnate multiple women, then one women can bear the child of multiple men. Or they can just have one kid and take care of the kid as a family.

[@zuboy4272]

@@ndondiafrika249 He will pay for the kid of his and the women he fked

[@anythingstuff4605]

Am I the only one who thinks love is a weird feeling 🤔

Hello every one from Bac Ha Việt Nam 🇻🇳

[@John_life777]

I am born Singaporean. I am 33 i never ever have any relationship. i have been rejected 1,072 time. I waiting to get married and have my own family. i always so lonely 24/7

[@summergal9110]

Sorry to tell the Malaysian lady that I cannot understand the motivation to share husband because she wants someone to take care of her children in case something happen to her… that’s a nanny role not a wife role … you can hire a nanny but getting a nanny (for free here) in disguise as second wife is sad

[@h2t26]

Many women are willing to share a man. Many women in the west do it all the time since they mostly go after the same 10-15% of men. Some of those men father many children from many different women. At least this one has a ring on her finger. It's small consolation but to her it's better then nothing. We can't take our western views and apply them to everyone else in the world. Let's focus on what issues the west has first before we start believing ourselves superior.

[@sameerakannamkotte69]

There are many women like that in west they just don't get married but share

[@sallybrite1530]

She said herself that the main concern is not to bother the man. A servant's role indeed. Whereas in some other cultures, husbands and wives share the responsibilities and help each other out (at least they try to).

[@riderpikachu7403]

@@h2t26 Yea but in west it's a free will not a Medival Desert Doctrine.

[@h2t26]

@@riderpikachu7403 "Medival Desert Doctrine" do you mean islam? If you watch the video you will she was the one who choose it to. It could be argued everything is free will.

[@mariarice4916]

To all the women seeking Mr RIGHT.... make sure his first name is not 'ALWAYS'.....(smile)

[@nannuky1128]

That woman with a list is 39?! she looks 19! 😂 maybe because she's still single haha

[@nannuky1128]

@Don Bab that's exactly my point!

[@Karim-so9jc]

My married friends don't even share a bedroom anymore

[@elsaastrid1687]

Ikr! She looks sooo young, like, early 20. East Asian women are famous for their everlasting youth! I so envy them 😂

[@h2t26]

Many Asian women age well. Part is diet and exercise, but also dedicated skin treatment regime with sunblock. When I was in college I was in a group with these two Asian women they were so youthful and easy going I asked them their age I was shocked in their 40s! They looked like they could have just gotten out of high school!

[@nannuky1128]

@@h2t26 but the aging process isn't only skin deep, it's muscles deep and bone structures deep - for example Cupid's bow length plays a huge role in looking youthful (compare small babies - not newborns! - with old people and you'll see the difference in length is huge)

[@pewpewyadead]

0:26 she just pulled out a piece of paper for her ideal man - WTF

[@johndoe-tq1rt]

The polygamous muslim wife has low self esteem and she is trying to convince herself to justify that. Secondly, the 40ties years old lady’s relationship has red flags. At 40, they shouldn’t be still casually dating after knowing each other for over a decade. Things like different religion should be considered before you waste your time. It is unfair to get into a relationship hoping to change your partner on core values. They are too old for that shit. The lady says that they are too busy to communicate yet they share the same timezone. They have to wait for weekends to video chat. Even the most powerful men like Obama and Lebron James create time for their wives. I am a pilot who travels often but I would never miss to call my fiancée first thing I get to the hotel. We create a time everyday for us to communicate. I suspect that Indian bloke has another woman. Ladies, a man that likes you will never be too busy to communicate. They will do it effortlessly.

[@h2t26]

Many women are willing to share a man. Many women in the west do it all the time since they mostly go after the same 10-15% of men. Some of those men father many children from many different women. At least this one has a ring on her finger. It's small consolation but to her it's better then nothing. We can't take our western views and apply them to everyone else in the world. Let's focus on what issues the west has first before we start believing ourselves superior. I pretty much agree with the rest though. The religious lady was a hypocrite wanting him to respect her and her views but not doing the same for hi wanting him to change his religion to satisfy her and her mother.

[@mariamemilio7951]

Thanks for that man

[@Mabaz]

why do you think she has low self esteem? she wanted that, who are you to judge? Many non muslims are in polygamous relationships and no one says anything, so shut your trap

[@sagarbhadva1118]

Voice of reason

[@dickoib6608]

,millions of married man sleep around both in WEST and other part of world , is smart of her to find her husband second wife than him sleeping around, Better have second wife than side chick hahahahah

[@tonnyanthonys2159]

One with a very long list of demands and another one in religiosity shackles.

[@britishkashmiri169]

@@stevejunior7343 🤣😂

[@Boleh888]

The world is for us to share. There are so many effective ways to share. It's in everyone hands according to thier believe, thought and practice. Make the world for the better place to live.

[@kitchen2969]

17:52 Harapan suami-suami di Malaysia bermula di sini.

[@JordiAzlan]

😂

[@dr.vijayanraju3656]

Excellent documentary........ The content of this program is pretty complex..... Thanks DW to see different perspective from around the world

[@DWDocumentary]

Hi @Dr.Vijayan Raju, thanks for watching and for the feedback!

[@ilyakutsevalov]

Thanks DW for an interesting documentary! Like for featuring Taiwan. And for Porcupine Tree at 22:36 :)

[@mohammedsaysrashid3587]

Amazing & Unique video from respectable Documentary channel its labelled to several Marriage experiments In different Cultures & Traditions through modern Communications instruments what is notable about members they are from neighboring populations & in Indo -Asian countries which having obvious economic -society crisis & huge amounts of Population Numbers

[@DWDocumentary]

Thank you for the feedback and sharing your thoughts on the topic.

[@luciamonicazaragozaanon8502]

you re one of the best docs channel. congrats

[@DWDocumentary]

Thanks a lot for watching and for your positive feedback. We appreciate you taking the time to comment and are glad you like our content!

[@VivienReacts]

There's no perfect relationship bcuz nobody's perfect, obviously! When you want to enter a relationship: - Better ask yourself, have you become the very best version of yourself and ready to give the best of yourself to your partner and expect the same from him/her. - Always know what you want and better stated it clear, don't give hints, it will gives more headache. If you just want sex, say it, if you want serious relationship, say it, if you want things to work slowly, say it. - Boundaries always work. Don't do things that your partner hates and expect the same. - Communication and compromise is essential. The very basic and the best feeling in the world, is to love and be loved 🤗☺️

[@challenger13_31]

It is noteworthy how the indonesian woman talks about loyalty & respect but is unwilling to respect faith of her partner & luring him to convert

[@gamejunkie6519]

most women do that, they talk one thing and do the other

[@rickycoker5830]

thus the 12 year courtship

[@ornachia2489]

In Indonesia IF you married with different believe it will hard to get or maybe impossible to get married registration, which leads to Family Registration card, and kid birth certificate which gonna impacted their school, their future, ID etc, basically all the civilian citizen registration will be hard to get, thats why some Indonesian with different believe decide to married in Singapore which can cost more or the simple way is just married in same believes in here just for the records, even though your not practicing the "ritual" irl.

[@ornachia2489]

@sebâstian turnayev The f$ck I care about that.

[@h2t26]

That's just a women, no surprise there.

[@mzee5533]

Was this recorded before the pandemic 😷?

[@damariowilson2350]

This was nice

[@rockeerockey6941]

18 points?? You'll never come close to your 18 points with a MAN! Perhaps you should look into interstellar space men!

[@houseofhas9355]

Naw he’s got planetary hoes. My mans got options.

[@h2t26]

A man like that wouldn't want to be with a women like her. So he might be her unicorn put dude is busy with the younger hotter less demanding women then her who are also after the same guy.

[@WorkFromHomeAfrica]

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@cinderelly00]

Glad you guys picked older women

[@spenkymengaming4998]

I was watching The life of the super-rich in Central Africa | DW Documentary why is the video being private?

[@DWDocumentary]

Hi @SpenkymenGaming & @CRAM MARC, some of our documentaries have been licensed from other production companies and distributors and therefore have limited online rights. Thanks for watching and for your question.

[@StephiSensei26]

A brief lesson in the search for inner happiness and peace with yourself and the world. Beautiful. DW yes!

[@imcuteasduc]

Okay, but question: how do we pronounce your last name?

[@StephiSensei26]

@@imcuteasduc Pronounce my name? You wouldn't think six little letters could cause so much confusion. It depends what country you're in.

[@dontbanmebrodontbanme5403]

"I have a list of things I look for in a man. There are 18 points. The most important ones are appearance, personality and social status. Men have to meet my standards, and do enough exercise." Hahahahahaha, no wonder why she's single!!!!

[@tomt8709]

Yeah, sounds like a shopping list. Will be difficult for her. Her approach has nothing to do with love. Maybe you don't marry anymore for love in Taiwan?

[@adenmatan660]

Absolutely crazy...such person needs to give up by default...list of 18 attributes in one man..maddness

[@TTBOn00bKiLleR]

man, when she took the list out, I crakced

[@Onelovekeepcalm]

@@Xtem2 Most people dont die with other people lol

[@seiwarriors]

@@tomt8709 Nah that's everywhere. Women would always have an imaginary list to what they want and will always have more than what a man wants.

[@NostalgiaOST]

Hate to say it, but this felt pointless documentary from DW.

[@temesgen01]

Hey DW question, any chance the slave trade documentary part series being uploaded again or where I can find it? It was really good

[@DWDocumentary]

Hello @Temesgen, thank you for your comment. Unfortunately, the online rights for that documentary have now expired. Thanks for watching!

[@ansunair3204]

Perfect doesn't mean perfect in all sense. Each individual's definition of perfect is different and sometimes we don't even know what we actually need, until we meet 'the one'. May be those qualities wern't there in our list all together. The right one makes us know and understand ourselves better in many ways.

[@jooniesjam7993]

1:13 damn true

[@gachzedek]

In my experience, the fastest way to unhappiness in your love life is standards. Standards change, love doesn't. Standards lead to living and loving by comparison, which quickly diminishes the joy and fulfillment in your life. If you want love, value the person, not standards.

[@ToneyCrimson]

If a girl litrally has a list...im staying away from that shit...

[@pragueexpat5106]

Every one of them has a list in their heads, that one is just stupid for writing it down showing it.. :D

[@Onelovekeepcalm]

Everyone has a list tho of standards and preferences.. she just wrote them down.

[@ToneyCrimson]

@@Onelovekeepcalm Thats why i said having a litteral list. Having prefernce is completely fine.

[@etcwhatever]

Yes....she doesnt see shes not perfect either

[@pragueexpat5106]

Women has checklists and they view at men like a character in an RPG game..

[@dotdashdotdash]

They are more entitled & spoiled than ever now, thanks to social media they've really gone overboard with that Disney Princess delusional mentality.

[@h2t26]

Hypergymany. Apps don't help since they can hook up with any man with a swipe, so they think they can get everything since the top men has given them one roll in the hay. Or they take the one part of each guy they have been with thinking they can have a guy like that.

[@wavyy]

Well, just let them become lonely cat ladies Unrealistic expectations are toxic af

[@0124ME]

Good work DW as always you dig the stories from root level

[@DWDocumentary]

Thank you for watching!

[@sophiesworld369]

Which country is this

[@XXX830115]

The person with checklist has a pretty high standard. 1. Good, attractive appearance 2. 180cm high 3.Social status, earning power, 3500 USD monthly, after tex( TW median income 1500 USD monthly, before tex) 4. Funny, humorous, attractive 5. Exercise habits 6. Share house work 7. Care about my emotion 8. Make me feel safe and respect 9. Trust and no lie 10. Good ability to sex 11. Curiosity and travel world together 12. Person who can growth together 13. Good hygiene 14. Responsible ... No offense, each points may be seen as normal, but mixed it would be difficult, there is no such a perfect one.

[@bellami86]

Tbh, she doesn't ask for something really special, maybe the money is too much but i don't know the average income in Taiwan

[@XXX830115]

About 1500 USD a month

[@imhonestruly]

As if she is have all those points

[@asmakhan7575]

i m 34 years old, single, in pakistan. i tried dating for the first time ever in my life 3 years ago. and my experience is mixed. wt saddened me most is to look at so many men cheating on their wives. it made me realise that i might experience the same if i marry in my own country. 😐

[@shubham943]

Find someone in ur friend circle who is a decent guy and you have good relations with him

[@imcuteasduc]

@@provocateurplus173 a pro gamer move, I must say. And you even got the whole other country's flag too, nice!

[@h2t26]

This topic can't be done justice without also taking the view of the males. So I can't wait for DW to also show men's perspective in find Mrs.Right and what marriage means to males. Hopefully get a good group covering all spectrum of blue, purple, red , and black pilled men. Here in the West divorce is at almost 50%, 80% of them started by women. Less people are getting married, more people are staying single, birthrates are dropping and mgtow is on the rise, there are more single mothers then ever before some women intentionally want to be single mothers, it's becoming more accepted that women are selling themselves for money, etc. A third video that covers this topic could be how the different cultures and laws effect marriage. There are already a few videos on the history of marriage. After all it takes two to get married, so makes sense to see the other side of the coin.

[@etcwhatever]

But it think they will also launch the documentary version with males!

[@h2t26]

@@etcwhatever I hope so, it will help to start having an open discussion so both men and women can come to a solution. That's if they really wanna help other wise they are placating to women for views.

[@etcwhatever]

@@h2t26 well it has HER for me it would be logical to have HIM. I do not know if its placating or not. At least i didnt see feminist nonsense in the doc except for the one in an unnatural relationship. I hope they really make the one for males as i am interested in knowing mens ideas as much as possible. I want to get married and for this i must know where man and women complement each other.

[@h2t26]

@@etcwhatever Completely agree. Now that I think of it, would be good to look at different religious belives and how they play a role to. Like does church improve people's chances of marriage and of staying married or does it make no difference? Anyway, so glad to see a women willing to hear a man's perspectives. Good luck !

[@rockykhan7944]

Wow!

[@aigatulifau6127]

Awesome Doco!!! I love Taiwan for legalising Same sex marriage..

[@sanm5219]

For me it's just being me and you come as you, then it shall be interesting. One after another interesting videos. Job well done👍🏼

[@Jakabokbotch2nd]

Couldn't agree more

[@BalboaBaggins]

Stop lying delusional woman.

[@imhonestruly]

Everyone wants perfect one as if they are perfect person

[@ozan546]

It was hard to follow. It would be nice to watch cultures in order

[@riturao6565]

Ha haa haaa it's so true, when you are married to an Indian you are married to the whole family. Sooo true

[@gurpreetbhamra9752]

😂

[@carolinammajp11]

True

[@tomt8709]

Thailand the same and I guess so in Indonesia. In Asia religion is a huge thing that doesn't make things easier.

[@sonevertheless2045]

Husbands are packaged goods.

[@Musman-vr2mu]

haha family system!

[@maskmanfive3774]

Post Corona and the great reset .... Yup ... It's getting more interesting

[@Alex-nr4xb]

Enjoyed the series but I think it jumped too quickly from one person to the next.

[@DWDocumentary]

Hi @Alex, we're really glad you like the series and appreciate your constructive feedback. Thanks for watching! 🙂

[@abdullahumar5119]

Social science is more complicated than rocket science nowadays

[@amnelie]

i met my fiance at a dating app and we plan on getting married after 2 months of dating! the world is changing now so as how you meet people

[@tiac3589]

Congratz. Hope you both find a long happy marriage always together in love....👍

[@raj1894]

vry good love has no religeion it is supreme love always overcomes let us all remember and love is everything in our life

[@fubytv731]

Why am I watching this, I'm single

[@VladmirPoopN]

Lol, started looking for Part 2 before realizing this is a new segment 🙈

[@h2t26]

I can't wait for the male perspective, after all there are two people getting married not just one.

[@chonlakarno.2471]

This documentary is just a new understanding about love for me. Can't wait to watch the next episode. 🥰

[@DWDocumentary]

Thanks for watching! :-)

[@dlewis8405]

Two wives. Double demands. No thanks

[@h2t26]

When I was in HS or college the BBC did this story on a man who had 3 wives, then divorced them all to marry one mute women. He said he was finally happy, he couldn't stand the nagging and bickering.

[@imcuteasduc]

She had a valid reason 😉 if she falls sick or something who would take care of 5 children of hers? Therefore, Polygamy would make sense 🙂😉

[@tiac3589]

@@imcuteasduc basically she is looking for a nanny...😂

[@MrDjugashvili]

This auntie with 18 points will die alone 😆