Managing the Early Stages of Grief (An Update After Losing Mum)

[@emmakateholder5626]

Hey finn, you are an amazing kind loving giving man, please be gentle on yourself, what you are going through is the worse thing anyone of us can go through. You are amazingly strong, stronger than you realise. As always sending you so so much love and hugs. I am so so glad you have such a wonderful man in your life to give you the support you need. Lots of love xxxx

[@friendoftherese1]

You are wonderfully brave my friend. I can see how the spiritual foundation of A.A. is so vital to your well being at the moment (well, it always is, but it is particularly beneficial to you as you grieve and deal with your fragile emotions right now.) Thank GOD for that program. Cling to your Higher Power, one day at at time, and recite the serenity prayer constantly! Love you!

[@mauriziavilla3958]

My dear Finn please take care of yourself, I know this is a difficult moment but you'll find the force to react. You had an enormous force to complete the transition also living bad moments. Sooo be strong you are an inspiration for many persons. I send lots of love. 😘❤️

[@jamesfinlay5147]

I know you are struggling but I think you are managing yourself so much better than you were a few years ago when you lost your dear friend. Well done, you can do it. : )

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you so much my friend

[@krismiller4092]

You are worth waiting for. On day, on minute and one second if you have too. Hugs 🤗 I’m proud of you my friend.

[@lynnemorris1111]

So proud of you! You are doing so much better than you think. Just Keep Going Finn. Much Love xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks lovely xx

[@Moosh207]

Even the strongest people have what looks like set backs. If anyone can find their way through this lower time in life, you can. You have a magnificent mind that you've cultivated and armed with navigation skills and is yours to own. You've put in all the hard work, now is the time to understand that you really deserve the empowerment of making decisions that make sense to you and your well being, and they don't necessarily need to make sense to anyone else. Your journey is like a stock market graph, if I can use this analogy for explanation sake. When youre on a journey of authenticity your graph is going to climb, and along the way you will take a few steps back for self analysis, searching internally to see what's going on and sort it out, and when your ready your graph will start climbing again stronger because you will be armed with a new sense of knowledge that you needed to know and didn't know before. Thinking outside the square, I kinda see your Friday Finnstalments as actually being current, because you are currently finding your way through grief and part of the nature of grief can feel like sludging through mud and that the reality that you knew has suddenly been shaken up. So if this is your current reality, and your nature is to be a true teacher of authenticity thank you for staying present in that and not feeling the need to cover things up with shiny lights and giving yourself permission to feel. You are an amazing person. I'm glad you're off the citriline since you feel comfortable with your decision too. To find out who we are, no matter how difficult it gets, we need our emotions. But you know what's best and how to navigate your emotions as you need them. Something that you definitely have around you these days are people who genuinely love you, who know what your goals for yourself are, and who will not let you achieve anything less than that no matter how long it takes. You've also got people who know themselves and who know what it's like to go through darker times like you are at the moment. We won't abandon you because we really want to see where you are meant to be in your life and where you want to be. I see you as a business partner somehow connecting over balloons in the future if the time is right, because I think you're brilliant. Big hugs to you and Chris x x x x

[@leehemmings4591]

Well done in not running away when you.could have so easily and you obviously have all our support as you do also with the fur fur,. You will grow from this and you wont ever not have mumsy close to you egging you on. You are loved. Xxx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I feel your support every day and its exactly why im still putting one foot in front of each other, so thank you!

[@itsreallyimportantman]

Hi Finn - i'm glad i've watched this today - as i too have started martazapine (three weeks) I do find it helpful but the daytime tiredness is horrid and i'm glad it wares off - so proud of you right now, you will win through this because of you're good mental health attitude, nothing can beat it. big huge hugs for you.

[@pmbluemoon]

HUGS I do love your smiling intro, no matter how heavy the content, you always are a wonderful person to watch.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Such a lovely kind and thoughtful message, sorry l am only just replying. Your words mean the world and thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life with me

[@pmbluemoon]

@@FinnTheInfinncible *HUGS* thank you for being here as well

[@kerriwood2319]

Sending you lots of love and strength xxx

[@owenpridgen4406]

My dad died when I was a baby I never gotten over it it’s hard not having when I needed him . I am so sorry about your mom passing hugs from Ontario Canada .

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I'm sorry about your dad too, that must be hard

[@owenpridgen4406]

Thank you I am sorry about your parents I know having BPD is hard to mange and self harming is hard not to do I use to scratch and cut I been cut free for 8 months .

[@halfwen4575]

bless you, my thoughts are with you

[@tcshook13]

lovely video Finn :) hugs hugs

[@kierandeeney6884]

Hello, I started watching this video because on the 30th of January 2020 at around 7:00pm my darling mother sadly lost her life after a lengthy battle with illnesses she didn't even know she had (as far as I'm aware). In the 26 years I've been alive I've never had a relative be taken into hospital because we are such a healthy family and the first time this strikes it's my mother and she dies the person in this world i need the most. I can't believe my mother has passed away. I'm still waiting to wake up. I wish, i wish, i wish i could take her place i would do it without hesitation. I keep having dreams about her coming back from the dead despite having her beautiful ashes in my living room it hurts so much i can't describe it. My mother of all people. I miss you mama. I love you with everything that i am and not a day goes by that you're not in my heart. I love you. Messiah is coming.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Kieran I am so incredibly sorry, I completely understand how much pain you must be in and I know all too well that there is nothing I can say to make it feel any better. Just know that I get it, and I am sending you so much love and strength. Take it one day at a time, scream, shout, cry, do whatever you need to do and find people that you ca fall aprt with who will hold you together for as long as you need it.

[@fyrespirit999]

OMG no wonder you got the zaps. I wondered if you weaned off. I'm actually thinking about just having a decrease in my dosage because of feeling numb but I know I have a lot of emotion locked inside so I don't know what the best course of action is for me. I just know it's not good to have it locked inside. I really need to find some type of therapy.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I was daft really, I could have handled coming off them far better than I did! However, I am glad to be off them and to be able to cry again for sure!

[@pipche6283]

❤️❤️

[@mayhmmaydn]

Coodles n smooshies

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Needed those, thank you :) xx

[@penelopepitstop197]

Finn grief makes you selfish my parents like most of the planet have gone my sister has lost her daughter with cancer at 16 dead at 17 as you can imagine you expect too leave your parents NOT your children

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Grief is such a painful and difficult thing to navigate, my heart goes out to you

[@Bloody_Corpses]

I hope you will get used to your pills I'm also on mirtazapine (30mg) it helps me to sleep

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you so much, the tiredness has improved though I haven really seen much improvement in my mood. The doctor says I need yo increase to 30mg to see the improvement, but i wanted to wait till the fatigue settled a bit. Did you start on 30mg or did you gradually go up? If you did go up, how was the increased dose, I mean did it give yo extra tiredness again?

[@Bloody_Corpses]

@@FinnTheInfinncible your welcome and I have been on these pills for years so I forgot if I started on a lower dose