Fixing A Relationship You Sabotaged With A Healthy Individual

[@izzypaynee]

i swear you look finer every video

[@nandanihanna]

True 👏🏻😍❤

[@tempistarks]

Facts!!

[@phynekat]

Omg I thought the same thing❤

[@huyentranphamkhanh2694]

I've just thought about that!!

[@nb1393]

Ok guys the apologies are for them but mostly for you. You can manifest them without apologizing actually but if you feel guilty it can be hard for you to be stable. When you apologize, the ball is on your sp side. So you can focus on yourself. They don’t have to respond to you immediately and don’t react negatively bc they won’t respond. However be in the mindset of « I apologized, now take your time, I know I am worthy of forgiveness, I know you will forgive me and come back to me but in the meantime I will be focusing on myself and enjoying my life knowing that it’s done ». If you are blocked from everywhere it’s ok, be in the mindset that they will comeback anyways and you’ll be able to apologize to them :) TRUST it’s yours.

[@kalelie2343]

do you think it’s better to apologize soon or after some time has passed? i fully understand what i did wrong in the relationship but we’ve only been separated for a few days.

[@miminxx_]

Thank you for this appropiate answer i have asked myself this many times

[@Aishwarya9348]

This is what I needed to hear as I was going to call him again because I kind of needed his validation. I guess Universe wanted me to see this. Now everytime I will get the urge to contact him. I will read this. Thank you.

[@Alex-mf3jj]

If I manifested the breakup, I can manifest a new, healthier relationship!

[@cyberaga20]

Of course you can!

[@natural91LC]

Same sad😢I’m devastated

[@ginashummingbirdfitnesshou1986]

I have said before.. Dylan changed my life. Actually I did claimed my power due to his teachings.. I managed to fix my relationship with my sp and we are a happy couple for 2 years now. I totally turned the situation around by just not care at all. 😅 Doing the inner work was enough.. Just trust the process guys ❤ best of luck

[@lexlexii9393]

Did you ever think abt him/ affirm specifically for him in the process?

[@chicken6604]

I am so happy to take your advice as my partner and I broke it off the first time because I had trust issues after an action he had made. We got back together 5 months after and then we broke it off recently because I had high expectations, and I was always triggered and yelling. I learned that I was only creating these versions of him because of my high expectations. I shouldn’t control or manipulate anything because THE END is here! I held beliefs such as I am the change and therefore my reality changes. I am the solution. He never ever wants to leave my side and called me, 10x until I picked up, saying that he wants to provide for me and is forever committed to our relationship. We learn from our mistakes and people can change! Believe it and trust guys

[@spacevspitch4028]

I feel like I've waited all year for this one. I feel like it's even harder to regain composure and confidence in yourself when, in addition to your deep insecurities and shitty beliefs that cause you to get into relationships with people who don't value you, you ALSO go and do a bunch of dumb shit to sabotage a relationship yourself. So now you have all this guilt on top of all that other stuff. But this was so well explained and stated.

[@lacedtabs]

thank u for saying this as well

[@cyberaga20]

In the same situation as yourself. I have undervalued myself and this has led to others undervaluing me 😢 I feel so guilty for ruining what was an amazing relationship 😢 I wish he would return and give me a second chance

[@FollowerofDuck]

actually shocked bc how tf did u manage to address my exact situation

[@lilbabytears]

same here 🫣

[@ssbhvs]

I cried happy, content tears after watching this!! I am totally in love with a beautiful person who has had generally a tough life and relationships where people left him! But I was always trying to throw myself at him, trying to convince him how much I love him, how I would never leave him and had fears, doubts, anxiety, insecurity about the what if situations made up in my mind! Dylan's channel has totally transformed me! I now realize that I did not have enough self-belief to claim my relationship, I was not confident enough to trust that I am totally deserving and I can fix and do anything that I desire! Now I am on a journey of self-love, self-certainty and confidence and I know securely that I will be back with my man and that we are endgame for each other but there is no urgency! BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO CREATE! THANKS DADDY DYLAN!

[@mindy561]

This is my favorite video that you have ever created. I kept attracting my SP back and expected to dive right into a relationship. I now know to take it slow and let him come to me completely and get used to the more calm me.

[@ivexoxo]

U must have telepathy😂 u always post exactly the topic I had as a conversation the same day

[@jadepulford5005]

Literally happened to me to, wow

[@lalaaluce]

Look up thought transmission by Neville Goddard

[@ELF11]

EIYPO!!!!

[@ivexoxo]

@@ELF11 yess

[@mindy561]

What I will say is that too much change too fast can overwhelm the nervous system so slow adding in your new activities is more sustainable. Thats where dropping the urgency is key.

[@ritaxu7218]

Finally the topic that resonates with my situation 🎉 how to fix a relationship actually not that toxic

[@jmh6135]

I’m going through the same thing, me and my sp separated mid July, got back together late august, and now we are separated again, I know he will come back but in the time being I have to focus on myself and stabilize before I even text him and apologize. I know we will get back together but space is needed for me to change ❤️ Taking your advice dylan, I’m striving to focus on myself for the next 2-3 weeks 🙏🏽

[@karentylinski9863]

Please please an affirmation tape on this. ❤

[@natural91LC]

Did he do one?

[@natural91LC]

Did he make one?

[@ankitachahande]

Along with sending the apology message also need to have these underline belief that my mistakes are always forgiven, the person sees me above my mistake, so these in general worked for me, this worked for me when I was in no contact, so that message firstly I sent in inner conversation and once he arrived unblocked, I messaged the same in text ☺️ Also see them and self in different light , different favourable version

[@cyberaga20]

This is what I am going through right now so really appreciate the video! I was so insecure in my relationship and played games with my boyfriend to the point where he left me almost 4 months ago. As you can imagine, my heart is broken and I miss him so much. I’ve been working on my self concept and my insecurities. I feel so unlovable 😢 but realise I need to forgive myself and heal. I probably won’t send him a message at this point because I apologised wholeheartedly 4 months ago but he seemed to have made up his mind. I would love a second chance with him 😢 but working on myself

[@violetdilemma]

Dylan, I think this is my very first time commenting on your channel but this video was perfect so I wanted to thank you for posting it. And I think I manifested it for myself too ngl haha. Things were going so well with my SP until he started doing some stuff that triggered me, but it was a mix of him not showing up properly and me sabotaging our relationship. It ended up creating a very messy situation and I almost gave up on him and on us but I managed to bounce back. We've been in NC for three months now and around two months ago something happened and it made things even worse, so I met up with him with the intention of taking accountability and saying what I needed to say for the sake of my own conscience. I apologized for everything, told him I loved him (for the first time) and I just let him be. I felt so empowered that day. It's been two months and I've done a lot of growth. It has its ups and downs for sure. At times I wondered if I even wanted him anymore or if I wanted to waste any more mental or emotional energy on this. Other times I'd remember things that hurt me or hurt my ego and I'd dwell on them, until I would remember to snap myself out of it by affirming for myself to view him in a different light. It was really hard to see this ever getting fixed again when it was so fresh but as time passes I'm becoming calmer and more stable and less attached. I know I love him so much for a reason and I will see this through. Can't wait to update you and everyone else on this when it manifests. Lots of love. 🫶🏻

[@linkaghost]

heyy, any update?

[@violetdilemma]

@@linkaghost just little things here and there :) i replied to his story wishing him a happy bday and he responded enthusiastically with a ❤️ at the end even though i didn't send one in my text, so i liked his reply and didn't continue the conversation. it may seem silly and small but it's big considering how we were a few months ago. overall the biggest shift i feel is internally. i'm not thinking about him that much, i no longer have anxiety about the situation and i trust and know everything will unfold as it should. i manifested multiple instances of almost meeting him in a group setting, i also found out that a group of common friends (closer to him than they are to me) refer to me as his ex (which we never were cause we never dated), so that was interesting i'll keep you posted once things majorly unfold love, in the meantime, focus on you❤️ i know you're looking for hope that this works (and i promise you it does, it's majorly worked out for me in every other aspect of my life), so keep working on levelling up, listen to the sleeping meditations, persist in your end-state and live like the baddie you're meant to be. i promise you you'll have it once you no longer need it🙌

[@lilbabytears]

Updates? 😊

[@CourBarone]

I needed this. I was so reactionary and judgmental. It comes from deep seated shame, feelings of unworthiness and abandonment. The relationship triggered EVERYTHING. I’m addressing and working on so much. I do pray she will want me back after all this 💔

[@ericasiegel407]

This is such an important video. Even if you do not get back together with someone, you will have the same patterns crop up again if you do not make internal changes and grow. You are the best, Dylan.

[@catsmeow1984]

Damnnnn how did you know? I fkd up. 40 years of my reality validating my abandonment is a hard egg to crack 😔

[@secretslikeanch0rs]

YOU CAME FOR MY NECK WITH THIS ONE I sabotaged tf out of my relationship these past 2 months.... thank you Dylan for your wonderful advice

[@joodikim1322]

I watched this video for multiple times already. This is the answer that I want to hear. As I want to stop being hard on myself. This time, I'll no longer accept breadcrumbs and cockroach treatment. I'll step up and just focus on me.

[@luminouschild]

I think I manifested this video :D! Recently, I have concluded that I have messed up a lot. I am so glad to see that you said all the things in the video I already knew I needed to do. Being able to look at myself and say it was me that was the problem is a big step in understanding myself and improving my self-concept. Also, I feel like getting my SP is not as important anymore. I want to be confident and happy and worry-free.

[@pamelarivero2505]

Thank you so much Dylan! I sent an apology letter like you describe like 3 weeks ago and i was doubting myyself, but i actually never said i wanted anything in returned and took full ownership of my mistakes... so for the first time in 3 weeks i can feell that i'm actually on the right path. Now I have to continue practicing trust in myself. THANK YOU

[@kevNutella]

Thanks man, I unfortunately went through this recently and was feeling a bit lost and guilty. I didn’t know what to do or how to get through it so I drank and smoked a lot, it helped to get my mind off it at the moment but did nothing for me in the long run. I listen to limitless manifestor, I really like that one and I like your tone in that , I find the other ones to be a bit loud and they don’t keep me asleep ( maybe that’s just my limitations) 🤷🏽‍♂️ Thanks again Dylan

[@marzs794]

Talk about divine timing 😅

[@jray5658]

Whatever is fueling your creativity, I'm more than grateful. Thank youuu 🌻.

[@briedennis3753]

This was spot on

[@barkhamalik9708]

Thank you Dylan. You are the best. I didn’t relate so much with any other coach. All other methods of manifestation gave me anxiety and drained me mentally. Now I have realised that I am a feel in body kind of person and that I realised only after practising stability of my nervous system.

[@jolamakulik4803]

Hi I hope everything is going well in your life. I realised the same. I need connection with my body and reality on this journey. Lots of love ❤

[@alejandraatencio5736]

You gave me the answers I needed, I literally listened to this video for the 3rd time to truly listen and get it right. Dylan, you’re an angel❤

[@yurrr974]

Everything makes so much sense now. Thank you so much ❤ Not only this applied to love, but to career.

[@miel0ve]

Are you a mind reader or psychic I am living through this rn

[@ivexoxo]

No fr

[@Km0ii]

why is this so specifically accurate ..

[@lilbabytears]

Ikr…like dayum

[@mckennas3139]

Literally u keeping popping out videos right when I need them!!

[@dreamylove4196]

We are being blessed lately!!

[@Camillio]

Dylan thank you for this video. It puts things in a different perspective and I needed to hear.

[@CorneliaKowalczyk]

Can you do a video about career choices? As in, how to get inspiration, decide and feel confident in that decision for a career, if you want to change careers but don't know to what. Like when people say they don't know what they want to do with their lives or feel lost

[@Msbabbby]

The real video we allllllll need , which falls right in place that try’s to fix an old relationship from OUR INSECURITIES 🔥🔥💋📌📌

[@pinkharmony9796]

This is really for me because I messed up real bad. :( i really miss her sooo much

[@Sweetieee]

Perfect timing!

[@faten6121]

Can you make a tape specifically for this situation

[@lilbabytears]

This is amazing. You broke this down so clearly and I can actually perform these steps. Ive watched several videos with this similar context but this one makes everything tangible. Thank YOU!

[@Danny-pi9yj]

🙋‍♀️ Me! This girl. I totally sabotaged. Mea Culpa.

[@griseldad3534]

Me too

[@Danny-pi9yj]

❤️‍🩹 *Hugs

[@priscilagonzalez3273]

Dylan. I apologized to my sp. He came over my house to break up with me and said that it was best not to continue because there’s a good chance he will have to go away for a new job and he did not want to waste mine or his time.

[@truthheals5723]

Focus on yourself and grow from the situation. Know things will turn around if you want them to but don’t wait.

[@GlamandNeedles]

So glad you are uploading again! Your advice is wonderful.

[@Lisa_lou2]

Dylan I love this so much what if the person is depressed and acting out of character

[@IAm_DylanJames]

Believe in peoples ability to grow and change, and your ability to create an environment that fosters healthy changes without enabling negative behaviors. Strong communication and compassion beliefs.

[@-mielissa]

@@IAm_DylanJames does this works even if the person told me that there's no opportunity to comeback together ever again?

[@namratamishra6939]

​@@-mielissait works, my person came back after telling me few times that they are not coming back ever again

[@lotusb2594]

I have the same issue 🌸

[@Sundariiii222]

​@@namratamishra6939namrata dear what approach did you take to make this work for you ?

[@Mesu1111]

Dylan is a gem 💎❤

[@stephtamayo_]

I'm the healthy individual, so I had to leave doesn't mean I didn't want and love my ex, but I couldn't afford my time receiving in a treatment I didn't deserve.

[@valentinmoyajr.6971]

Mannn this video was made for me. I definitely messed up with a guy I really liked.

[@cryptomodern9727]

Ily Dylan. Thank you so much for posting again!!!

[@ManifestingBarbie]

You’re so handsome Dy ❤

[@storm4515]

Dylan over here calling us all out on our shit. 😂😂

[@IAm_DylanJames]

Respectfully :*

[@samanthachansa295]

​@@IAm_DylanJames They've blocked me on everything because I went crazy in my urgency. Can I still send my matured apology? Or just maintain no contact

[@jeanetteg73]

Such an educational video!!! Thank you Dylan ❤

[@nidhimeshram4498]

I need more videos on this

[@swethavisvanathan9935]

Thank you for all that you do for us DYLANN... So grateful.... Would you consider putting out a night time recording solely focusing on self love, creating love within ourselves and feeling loved and adored? Thanks a lot again DYLANN. Love you loads....

[@Bubbles-qh7ez]

He has so many on this

[@katyreyes5053]

😅 Needed this. Thank you!

[@nomg563]

God brought this at the RIGHT time!!

[@rachaelwitchey8268]

I NEEDED THIS

[@leah9543]

Hey Dylan! I currently listen to your “I am the best” nightly recording. Which recording do you recommend I listen to for affirmations like “I am able to tix a relationship,” “I am able to be forgiven” etc?

[@Kiiyobi]

Can you make a meditation for fixing a relationship after breakup and NC?

[@panoslifeinspirator]

Well done @Dylan. That was exactly I needed to hear today🤗🤗I found your channel from a commendation of an acquaintance of mine and I first bumped into your video which I've been listening for few days now about manifesting your sp with affirmations about self-concept and self-image. It really resonated with me your suggestion to send a message in which you aknowledge your behaviors/mistakes you did, noting that you have left all these in the past etc. The only problem is that I already did all these you suggested not to do like begging, asking her to come back and things like that but I think it would be a good idea to send that message, actually I have already told her to 2-3 times that I 'm aware of my mistakes without being in details. My question is: do you think it could possibly work if I send that message before or after the period of 2-3 weeks or more of growth I'm already in? You are a revelation mate for many of us, keep up with the good work!!!

[@jmh6135]

I would say send it after 2-3 weeks of growth since you’ll be in a much better place mentally ❤️ also really focus on your identity and beliefs before you’re even ready to txt this person, feel the change in yourself first, and then your sp will see it

[@jmh6135]

I am going through the same thing so ik how u feel

[@panoslifeinspirator]

@@jmh6135 Thank you so much for your reply, you gave me inspiration!!! I just hope that I didn't lose much time but the truth is that Dylan's videos was the missing piece of the puzzle so I have faith despite that🙏🙏

[@panoslifeinspirator]

@@jmh6135 Did you reach out your sp yet or are you still in the process of growth? I'm looking forward to an update for your progress!!!

[@jmh6135]

@@panoslifeinspirator I have not reached out yet, im still healing and in the process of growth since its still fresh but the next couple weeks Im dedicating everyday to show up for myself :) I fs will apologize since I want to take accountability for my actions but I also need my own space before I do it so I can have a clear mind. I don't want to apologize in fear and anxiety, but in peace and calm mood :)

[@ellacortez8434]

I need to forgive myself, I just did this to my sp

[@elharrop]

If it's been a year can i suggest meeting up? It seems weird to me to just send an apology with no further intention after all that time. However, i'm aware that could be my anxiety trying to justify it.

[@margarethart274]

Thank you so much luff.

[@cathyjames780]

You ROCK...thank you!!!

[@alejandraatencio5736]

This is the video I needed❤️ my situation rn

[@mimiissleepy]

ahh i feel so called out

[@elizabethgrey4100]

So can I use the tape "Self Worth, ' value and respect" for this situation? Or will you make an specific one? Btw thank you so much, you're a light in this world Dylan 🥺❤️

[@SunflowerMica]

Mine kept lying to me and using drugs in our relationship, after that I couldn't stop overthinking and got triggered all the time in the relationship

[@truthheals5723]

Doesn’t sound like a healthy individual

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

If you can't control it, let it go.

[@truthheals5723]

You don’t have to give up just adjust your approach. If I want to catch a fish I’m not going to let the line go, I’ll make sure I use a bigger rod and better technique.

[@spruceandhemlock]

Oof. Bringing the wisdom. 👏🏼🔥

[@itscassss]

What sleep affirmation video do you recommend concerning this topic

[@saloras9500]

First! ❤ this is definitely for me lol

[@wishmaster_masteringyourdreams]

What about the opposite? Fixing a relationship the other unhealthy individual have sabotaged ?

[@brandi7733]

I have tried to send apologies but he doesn't even read the message 😕

[@NJay2000]

WHERE IS THE DADDY HAT

[@angeliclizzie]

😅 love yu Dylan

[@tinanunez6603]

How would this work with complete no contact? How would someone see the changes in you? Can you do an updated no contact video?

[@truthheals5723]

Manifesting works, as he said in the video. Persist in the knowing.

[@NKbutnot]

He will just be drawn to you. Work on your SC, then affirmation. Make affirmation more about who you are then about him ex: “so and so loves me “ and “ I am loved” are two different things. Do a combination of both but focus more on the affirmation that describe YOU (be, do, have) no contact works in your favor because you won’t have to worry about 3P and what the person is doing. Just do your daily routine and also a lot inner conversation. Talk to the person out loud literally, you will not see what’s happening on his side but trust that there is movement. Use time as a friend instead of it being against you. Live in the end

[@caromella]

I cheated on him cause long story.. I behaved like shit tbh.. Lost my connection to him and didn't feel sexy/attractive anymore.., will this still work :/ i know it is a morally worst thing to do and im trying to resolve my inner conflict on why i did it but really love him

[@lovelyghost100]

Damn…❤

[@vonnyrichardson2754]

Do you still write an apology letter if you always apologize and then mess it up again when the person begins to show back up and gets close?

[@IAm_DylanJames]

The apology is more something that comes after you make the change in yourself, and if you make that change within yourself then you won’t continue to make the same mistake. That’s where the growth process is and why I said you need to release the urgency and actually focus on shifting in your identity and addressing the things you struggle with. You can do it sweetie 🫶🏼

[@vonnyrichardson2754]

@@IAm_DylanJames ❤️

[@soy_red]

a mix of both

[@elharrop]

Same, i sabotaged it by overreacting to kinda shady things he did such as suddenly becoming too 'busy' to respond to messages but none of that would have ever happened if he didn't act shady in the first place so i'm not entirely sure who's to blame....I think the only hope i've got is taking responsibility for my side of things and hope that he apologizes down the line but it annoys me to think that he believes he 'got away' with his behaviour and i'm the one picking up the pieces.

[@tffnyc1033]

Can you address interacting with SP after insecurity? Thank you.

[@panoslifeinspirator]

For few days now I have started to do what you say in your video about fixing a relationship I sabotaged and I already started to witness a slight shift in my feelings but what I find difficult yet and since the break-up with my SP is not checking her social and look at how she is going, what she is doing, with whom she might talk with etc. Do you think I can achieve the end state I want even if I check on her sometimes ?

[@NHSOLE]

What videos do you recommend with self work/healing

[@crysmatthews4419]

What if they say they want to be friends. They still want to be there for me and they care about me. They want to help me in a lot of ways but just as friends. Is it possible to change how they view me ?

[@nwadynasty0]

Any follow up?

[@ks_swissmiss]

❤

[@moons4363]

Yess❤

[@faten6121]

What if it's too late, what if you messed things up and pushed this person far away and things got cold 😭it's so frustrating and it hurts , it's been 6 months in this cycle and I don't know what to do, now we barley talk, it's been a month no contact, Dylan help

[@snehahappiness3227]

May be change and work on yourself. The way you respond to things.

[@_itsholly]

But in my case i did show up really insecure (which im working on) however my sp actually blocks n ghosts manyyy people i found out even friends who did nothinggg wrong so he was also just an unhealthy person so finally i dont want that anyway he seems like an emotionally abusive person due to his own demons and i didnt realise

[@khadijahnasseb6736]

Hi dylan.I have apologized a lot to my sp but she leaves me on red.

[@melody.melody]

Why is this video not listed in the channel videos 😐 😒 😭

[@SA-lz1vx]

What the hell how does YT know my life

[@B_crafts_]

I'm confused. I am blocked literally everywhere... Some of my friends are blocked too. How can i send him that apology?

[@nenabishop4482]

Through prayer and through manifestation...maybe

[@akshe4748]

For as long as you are blocked, just lay low. It’s the best way to respect them. If they come back, you can apologize at that time.

[@B_crafts_]

@@akshe4748 he called me this weekend ahah I apologized and we are in better terms, not how I want but I feel better now! I will persist :)

[@blackwallnthesestreets7054]

Bout time

[@blackdateline1996]

Dylan you me think you had some good work done, your face looks sculpted by God himself lol❤. You look tf good

[@astrarealm]

you just keep getting hotter

[@highbrat]

thank you so much for this video 🥲 first one on this topic

[@aindfjiajabdix]

you read my mind dylan 🫶

[@jray5658]

Whatever is fueling your creativity, I'm more than grateful. Thank youuu 🌻.