FOMO (Fear of Missing Out and How to Cure It) Teal Swan

FOMO and Fear of Missing Out is one of the newer acronyms of the internet age, however this is an age old issue relating to social anxiety. If you fear missing out or experience FOMO, you must look to your childhood to see the origins. Teal Swan dives into the causes and solutions to FOMO.
Video References
Why Following Your Joy Doesn’t Always Work: 3:33
• Why "Follow Your Joy" ...
Indecision: Decisions and Indecisiveness: 4:58
• Indecision (Decisions ...
How to Meet Your Needs: 17:55
• Meet Your Needs! - Tea...
How to Meet Your Unmet Needs: 17:55
• How To Meet Your Unmet...
Subscribe to Receive a New Video Every Saturday: bit.ly/SubTealSwan
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Teal Swan is a revolutionary for personal transformation and is one of the Most Spiritually Influential Living People in the world. As a renowned author, speaker and social media star, she travels the world teaching self-development and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical and spiritual pain.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Daily Updates, Online Synchronization Workshops & More: bit.ly/TealSwanPremium
Website: www.tealswan.com
Facebook: / tealswanofficial
Instagram: / tealswanofficial
Twitter: / realtealswan
Meditations, Books, Merchandise & Frequency Paintings:
tealswan.com/shop
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
IF YOU ARE HAVING THOUGHTS OF SUICIDE PLEASE IMMEDIATELY CONSULT A MENTAL HEALTH PRACTITIONER OR CALL SUICIDE PREVENTION HOTLINE [phone].
Please note that I do not respond to posts from this site. Please promptly reach out to a mental health practitioner near you discuss treatment options. My teachings on the subject of suicide are meant to supplement your treatment with a mental health practitioner and should not be in lieu of such treatment. The information contained on this site is not intended or implied to be a substitute for such professional medical or mental health advice. Always seek the advice of your own licensed and qualified medical and mental health professionals. The information provided in this site and in my videos should not be used for the diagnosis or treatment of any mental health condition. A licensed physician, psychologist, and/or mental health provider should be consulted for a diagnosis and treatment of any and all medical and mental health conditions. Please immediately call your physician, mental health professional or 911 for all emergencies.

[@lorenzo399]

I read a quote recently that someone may appreciate here. "What you lose by being honest, you never had in the first place."

[@hagenlenzen9898]

Oh my god ... really now, this is so true ...

[@FreeJulianAssange23]

I never had my husband. I changed for him over and over and he still wasn’t happy.

[@dariv5615]

Thanks, I needed that.

[@cowabunga7404]

brilliant! love it love it

[@InnateInsight]

thank you

[@elizabethbaron7904]

I’m crying because this is about me

[@sunset33533]

The book "30 Days to Overcome Fear of Missing Out" is helpful

[@tiaho-whetuford5338]

99💫 relatable gf

[@nadiasamdi]

me too!

[@HeleneUSM]

Same ❤

[@moon999i]

note to self: watch this video again and again. remember you only live once and it's your own life to create. you don't need anyone's approval. go with your soul's excitement

[@monet8353]

özge luna this helped so much “it’s your own life to create” I wanna live bye that

[@tobikay3553]

Thank you 🙏

[@apollofateh324]

Hey, just reminding you to watch this video again. Either you will benifit from it or you will realize how far you've come, either way, cheers 🍻

[@ms.turquoise6341]

Step 1: Face the wound of not feeling wanted, included, and loved as you are as a person. Can go deeper with The Completion Process 2: Live from love and what you truly want instead of avoiding consequences. 3: Create a life where you feel completely fulfilled, so you wouldn't feel like you were missing out. 4: Feel in control in the experiences you have. (Have experiences where you can get your needs met.) 5: Learn how to be afraid. Take care of your fear. The Anatomy of Loneliness has a section for fear. 6: Meet your needs. 7: Chose to do things for the experience itself, (not for getting something out of the experience) Learn to live your life according to what feels good, instead of trying to get people to percieve you in a certain way. 8: Let go of the idea that you can be everywhere, know everything, have everything all the time. Slow down. Don't multitask. Realise that your focus is mostly on what you lack instead of what you have. Practice more appeciation and gratitude. Accept that everybody will always lack something. Just focus on the things that really bring you joy, and be completely present when you do them. Fill your life with people who love that, who don't want you to conform to their idea of what they want you to be.

[@Kristyana]

I would love to read a parenting book written by you

[@paulden3158]

Does she have any kids?

[@dustysparkle2429]

@@paulden3158 She has a son.

[@dizmop]

There's a very good book by Oliver James called "They F***k you up" it's very good

[@angieweathers7180]

@@dizmop lol

[@dizmop]

@@angieweathers7180 haha it's true, it's a good book 😊

[@JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness]

JOMO - joy of missing out 👌🏽

[@qmsilainata613]

HOMO - horror of missing out

[@JaneyImaaniEmotionalAwareness]

qmsi lainata lol

[@serenityvocalized8303]

Ooooh that's good

[@serenityvocalized8303]

@@qmsilainata613 lol

[@Itisdone0]

True

[@maajamohan8325]

8:24 that's my life growing up... Nothing ever was good enough, shamed and punished... Now I fear even stepping out of the house to take the damn trash out... When she asked "aren't you sick of loose loose scenarios" I lost it 💔

[@maihabib3993]

I have never in my life felt someone understood me and what I’m going through like this woman! Always saying exactly what in my heart

[@AlexanderDiFiore]

Videos like this one demonstrate how wonderful a person you truly are, Teal. I am grateful that you are alive. The wisdom that you teach is beyond anything of value in this world.

[@irenageorgieva8011]

Alexander Di Fiore Yes

[@AlexanderDiFiore]

@@irenageorgieva8011 you are very attractive

[@irenageorgieva8011]

@@AlexanderDiFiore Thank you! You too. @^_^@

[@monisune]

Oh my gosh, Teal. I recently discovered you a few months ago and I have been hooked on your videos. Like where have you been all my life? You literally are like answering all my questions. Thank you so much for making these amazing videos. You have no idea...or you probably do. haha You are such a treasure. FOMO has been such a struggle for me since childhood into adulthood, but not as bad recently. Everything you described was like spot on with my life as I was raised in an ultra-religious household and lived in fear of disappointing my parents and everyone else. I remember being like 6 years old scared to death that I would go to hell or get in trouble for the littlest things. I completely lived to avoid going to hell, avoid disappointing people, avoid people not liking me. I never ever did anything for myself because it was "selfish." I thought I was righteous by suffering. I literally believed it was selfish to try to be happy or do things for yourself, until something happened that changed my life and showed me....it was ok to want happiness, it was ok to do something for myself. Imagine living a life feeling like anything you do for yourself, for pleasure, fun, happiness, was selfish...with selfishness being wrong. I look back now and can't believe I grew up that way. But I have changed and grown so much. This was incredibly eye-opening. Thank you.

[@Howlite__]

I feel the exact same way u just described most of my childhood too. I hope you are doing well now. 💗 I do also recommend Dr .Demartini he is an awesome human behaviourist just as good as teal swan.

[@monisune]

@@Howlite__ Aw thank you. I hope you are well too. I will check him out!

[@nathandestaart]

I never considered I had FOMO, but you just described my entire childhood. It's exactly as hellish as you say. I mean, I can't be everything, know everything, and conform to their standards all the time. This was so helpful and really helped me get some overview, so thanks Teal

[@helenasvachova444]

I'll have to watch this more than once but I kind of feel like I've just heard something absolutely crucial for my life. I've already got over some of these fears after doing CP, but I've just realized that I've barely scratched the surface when it comes to my creative block, which boils down to the exact same problem. Thank you so much for giving me more clarity!

[@klingonsexy]

I've been in "relationships" where the person I was with continually exhibited the "grass is greener" syndrome; always checking out other people, flirting with other people, talking about their exes, ad nauseam. I tolerated this for as long as I could, because I felt like I would miss out if I dumped these user/loser people. I'm so glad you posted this video, because you woke me up to how I was shortchanging myself and how to get out of this trap. Thank you, Teal!

[@linhbanh4614]

I recently got fed up with living a life full of obligation, and it did alleviate my FOMO immediately. This allowed me to room to figure what I really wanted to do with my precious spare time and be less resentful of my family and friends.

[@nonelost1]

FOMO= self-expectation of omniscience, omnipotence, and omnipresence, while at the same time believing that we are ONLY human.

[@williammichaelforbes]

The funny thing from my perspective is that when one loses their attachment to the the false idea that they are going to miss out on something, they actually begin to to organically reconnect to the energy that brings everything into their life that they actually need to be fulfilled, which happens anyway! (another resolvable divine paradox lol) I love the snippets I catch of your work.

[@MA-zm6zs]

You are a genius! You described all my life and most of my problems

[@AthenaOnyx]

I was thinking as I was listening this video that the Teal-haters are full of crap. This video is brilliant and she has somehow figured out how to articulate the nuances that come with my experience as FOMO phobe.

[@MA-zm6zs]

Athena Onyx yes! Totally. They are in denial

[@nikkiwhitten860]

I’ve known for a couple years I had bad FOMO that leads me to binge eating

[@MA-zm6zs]

Nikki Whitten I binge eat too, and pull my skin out. :/

[@nikkiwhitten860]

Ana M maybe we need to work on this the most right now...

[@misslawlesss]

Yeah FOMO is really a deep feeling from the childhood out of unwanted loneliness and social, emotional neglect.

[@kittendivine1]

I watch this out of Fear Of Missing Out

[@Harrio.1989]

Me too! Haha

[@mymidlifeadventures4248]

Me too!... Turned out I didn’t miss anything. 😏

[@julie-annepineau4022]

Love this! I have been healing this fear for the past year using Teal's techniques. I can see how much progress I have made. Thank you for the work you do Teal!

[@StitchShifter]

You miss out on life when you connect to social media.

[@analogkid4957]

But don’t you think that some people who use Facebook to connect to friends especially long distance? Photos and life sharing can be genuinely shared even all over the world where you normally could not prior to Facebook?

[@AthenaOnyx]

I just had my first "Teal's speaking directly to me" moment. I definitely have FOMO. My grandmother was really lazy, but I didn't realize that was the actual case until a relative pointed it out to me one day. I used to think her excuses for why I couldn't do something were actually true, for example, I couldn't be a cheerleader because I was so fat that they didn't make uniforms in my size or I couldn't participate in the school talent show because I'm untalented and would just make a fool out of myself. I wasn't allowed to go to school dances because the expectation was that if I did I would somehow come home pregnant. I was put into group homes when I was twelve and the same thing was pretty much the case. We couldn't do after school activities or have friends over. We weren't allowed to go into another room unless we were scheduled to be in that room. I didn't stay a FOMO phobe as an adult because I was afraid of losing my family, I pretty much lost them by the time I was a teenager anyway. I just had a LOA problem that I deep felt like the kinda of person that fun things don't happen to. Before I discovered these videos I thought I had a bad luck, for example, when I made a cool friend she almost always had to move away in about four months or my boyfriends are either super serious or fun-loving with severe destructive tendencies. I've gotten a little better at making myself a match to fun experiences, but as soon as I figured it out I wrecked my car and now I'm on "house arrest" at one of my serious ex-boyfriend's houses. Not a fun place to be in, but it's better than living on the streets. I'm trying to draw a job into my experience but I still have trouble with that.

[@janinweinkauf5900]

I Hope you are doing Well, i Wish you all the best in the world .

[@barbenok]

Amazing as usual! I just cannot comprehend how it is not millions or even billions of people listening to this.... I hope to live to the times where are your teachings will get that degree of recognition.... unless of course everyone else are fine and it only like 600000of us live with the childhood trauma...

[@gustafrindestal]

Reading the comments in fear of missing out... Otherwise i'm over FOMO and feel amazing everyday, thank you miss Swan!

[@LeilaKincaid]

I have to listen to this over and over to soak it in. I have experienced fomo a lot in my life and I feel it keeps me paralyzed. Thank you.

[@XoxoCandySmiley]

you really just described my whole life

[@teddi111]

Loving this messege girl! I've been working thru this anxiety my entire life!!! Thank God I have & have had an the opportunity to work with an amazing therapist! Yet it is still a terrifying truth that I have to mindfully work with on the daily! Thank you so much for sharing this messege. I literally have to choose to let go of outcomes constantly, and as a topper now it's so completely uncomfortable & complex having so many choices in my life to choose from while I'm trying to learn what I actually like to do... it's so overwhelming because I literally do love so much!

[@daliagoldhaber9592]

An incredibly useful video in the most perfect moment ! Talking about synchronicities... So grateful to this amazing lady :)

[@renataz8885]

All the information you're giving us, always in a very understandable and compact way, that's absolutely breathtaking, Teal! I am so grateful for having access to your videos, I could watch them all day long to infinity

[@angieweathers7180]

it's amazing how she started with the major issue and then expanded it in a coherent way where you say o my god yes exactly i can see it now so clearly that i'm finally letting go ..

[@ladyrosemary5480]

Thanks Teal. I love these reliable videos.

[@cincerepaco]

This video changed my life in the most amazing ways. Thank you, Teal 💚

[@aliyarahman85]

Every single sentence resonates. Each and every one. I am going to go back and take notes and thank Teal every step of the way.

[@Frulara]

Oh my goooooood yess, i've had this problem since the rise of social media, thank you teal for covering this topic 💜

[@richlabedz3978]

Such a great video Teal!!! Applicable to so many aspects of life! Thanks for this topic!

[@livenletlive266]

I'm watching this video for the 3rd time in last 3 years, and it still resonates so strongly. That also tells me that i've to continue to work on this problem more seriously. Thanks Teal. Lots of appreciation and gratitude🙏

[@mikejarjoura9476]

Thank you, Teal. I didn't realize how connected the many threads were to so many different aspects of my life. Makes me take a deeper look. Can't wait to discover what I've been missing.

[@lovelightshining9335]

Foe, moe, awesome videos subscribe. Thank you Teal, this is quite true and a great point about social media and the complexity of social anxiety as the "feeling of missing out". This is a video every single parent needs to watch💙 Eternal blessings

[@lauraellison4559]

Teal Swan... Ive been searching for Truth for almost 2 years -since my awakening- and I finally find You. I happen to seriously know first hand that what You are speaking is Truth. Ive always known...I just needed affirmation for my ego...lol! So anyway THANK YOU SO MUCH! I Truly Appreciate and Love You! Im going to make it a goal to watch everything you have and spread Your teachings...and Help To shape and change and Save Our World Someday! This os my calling. Along with helping animals... Anywho THANK YOU!! 😁😁😁

[@RichHandsome]

This came in perfect timing thank you sista!

[@paulasoares5528]

You’ve just exactly described me 😕

[@Tiger-Lilly]

I feel ya

[@hagenlenzen9898]

Me too ...

[@fs-pp9ti]

I love this episode; it helped heal my anxiety. Please keep doing this work.

[@DivyanshuChowdharyJi]

I am so so so thankful to you Teal for your brilliant pearls of wisdom! Thank you so much. The knowledge shared by you has been the oars of the boat of my life. Thank you very much!

[@LeahStorm]

Excellent insight about FOMO and very helpful tools to deal with it. I love your soul, Teal. Thank you.

[@saptarshi-banerjee-9322]

Beautiful inspiration. Have a blissful day Teal Swan

[@andyjm7122]

A fascinating take for me on FOMO and it's origins. I could relate to a lot of it. Thank you Teal for the amazing content ♥

[@thecheddarshredder]

Even as a kid I had FOMO I remember staying up way later than usual during family functions because I didn’t want to miss anything. I remember hearing all the funny stories that would occur when I was gone...so I figured that if I wanted to have fun I have to be around people, and it’s only when I’m gone that people do that, so it was a picking and choosing between hearing the stories and being there but the stories not be as funny. Now that I’m older my FOMO is worse. If I see my friends hanging out without me it makes me want to cry, because I want to be there too. Like why can’t I be there? Did I do something wrong that means I don’t have the privilege to have fun and be happy with these people? Right now my friends are away on a school trip that I couldn’t go on, so I’m definitely getting FOMO. My friend tells me about what they do and i can think about is how they are having fun and enjoying themselves while I’m stuck at home and school without them.

[@Tiger-Lilly]

How do you have such insanely good insight on this?! You described me better then I could myself. I know the psychic thing is part of it, but you are so articulate. Your bank of information and depth on what you talk about is amazing.

[@dianaboughner7977]

💖Thank you Teal. Always so well explained topics. You are such a wonderful mentor 👍💕

[@HeyHeartBreaker]

Wow perfect timing as always! Really needed this now

[@Howlite__]

I knew all these things already about myself but I didn't know they were this linked. It's much more clearer to me now.. thankyou teal swan

[@christiannewski]

If I could, I’d give you 1000likes. You really show your experience and understanding of the process. It really tells me you’ve experienced and grown as oppose to just talking something you read/saw. Thanks for sharing your growth! Have a great day

[@jamiecurtis9354]

thank you so much for the video I didn't know I needed! as always, you have a beautiful and concise way of articulating your words in a way that is easily understandable and hits you to the core! thank you for sharing the wisdom xo

[@marcinekpomaranski]

Amazing video. As always Teal. I really like the contrasting example of how healthy relation should look like. Thx

[@Deeprospers]

Thank you Teal for this Teaching it Blessed my Life🤝

[@worktogethertosavetomorrow]

This is so helpful. I needed this video so much right at this very moment, thank you. 🙏💜

[@RL-lf3no]

I love this video Teal. One of your best! We've all suffered FOMO at one stage or another in our lives (maybe even continue to), but I've learnt to stay strong on my convictions and the things that I love to do and want to do. The overall abiding point is to do what makes you feel great, and not confirm to anybody else's standards, regardless of how disappointed they may feel. Where there's a Want and Will, there's a Way! (3 W's I came up with haha!).

[@radhikaprasad8012]

i have healed myself with your completion process

[@Katharine777]

This is way too accurate. Can’t decide if I should go to a music show tonight or not and it’s like causing me immense stress and extreme negative emotion and freeze responses 😭

[@BigManTate7364]

FOMO could be considered a mental disease at this point. I've had it for years and it feels crippling at times. I want to do everything but I miss out on most of it. This video is so helpful! The part at the end where you said "we all miss out on things" really hits home. It's so obvious but I never even considered it. Even the people I compare myself to that I think have better lives than mine are missing out on a hell of a lot of things I'm sure. They probably had to sacrifice some areas of their life in order to achieve success in what they truly desired, as we all do.

[@eatyourbroccoli]

Thank you Teal. This is such a helpful video for me. Much love 💙

[@snowwalker9999]

I subscribed. One of the best videos on this subject.

[@anglomik]

Fascinating. It took me decades to recognize these type of bad patterns. Some good stuff here. (I'm thinking that people-pleasing falls into this FOMO concept)

[@AprilFrancisAnn]

Anglomik certainly!

[@ivanahodak1227]

Thank you for sharing this insightful video!

[@almazarchetypes]

Teal, you are really brilliant. Thank you so much for all the work you are doing.

[@fishcanon8141]

This resonates with me so much that I cried watching your video. You pointed out the deep cause of this issue-deep down, I want to feel included and good about myself by obtaining certain social status, wealth, job, a partner, etc. I constantly compare myself to others who are doing better than me and feel inadequate. I can never be satisfied with one partner even though I know they are kind to me cuz I feel there might be someone better with better education, job, better-looking, taller, more physically attractive. I know it’s sabotaging my mental health and relationships. I want to change but don’t know how.

[@atararosegreenfield5977]

omg this is soo me. teal you really nailed this one! you're videos are so accurate and mind changing.

[@Sky-mu6oe]

The best episode ever wow thank you this was awesome

[@MishelleBee]

All your videos relate to me.... all goes back to my childhood! Trying to change the story. Lots of work to do!! 🙈 so glad I am happy with my own parenting. I would love me as a mum!

[@Cami-ri8ks]

Teal, could you sometime talk about the concept of "everyone is you pushed out" vs letting go of the need to control people? I feel like you're the perfect person to explain this in the best way. Lots of love and thank you so much for your content ❤️

[@colmcronin9560]

Teal is a legend

[@yourchoice13]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️I love you Teal, you set my soul free every single time!

[@MataH1]

So true! I’ve never looked at it that way. Very helpful thanks. 🙏

[@artphotography9158]

What I’m feeling is after my father died then my only brother then my last Grandpa died then I lost my husband while my sons were all moving out...and my uncle is in hospices dying and I’m now facing my youngest son about to move out soon...I’ve feel this scary feeling that I’ll lose my adult sons if I’m not with them...it is like fomo but specifically fear of missing out on socializing with my sons and like their father my ex who has in the past created the victim drama behind my back telling my son’s lies about our past ...part of me believes deep down my sons know the truth...and I’ve finally stopped feeling anxious about defending myself. I just am now scared to lose my sons when that isn’t possible...but one of them is so busy with his life and friends which is normal. Thank you Teal for sharing! I just watched a different video of yours about cutting invisible strings of manipulation and I realized I need to support my son’s life and be honest that I want to see him, and also accept he is busy and he is free

[@irislast8827]

You are amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom

[@emaambition9378]

There is no words to describe you teal. Teal is untouchable by haters. 💯❤️

[@hiquality_distraction4084]

This topic resonates immensely with me.

[@FilliD1]

Eye opening. Thanks

[@D4NC3Rable]

I haven't even watched this yet and I've already liked it cause I know it's gonna be good

[@mihai8784]

I always go back to this video when I meet a new person and I see them going out and having fun. They don't have lives I would want to emulate and yet here I am feeling like trash. I feel like I would rather try to comply to their lifestyle as opposed to sticking to my own.

[@Lotusblume.8]

I just had this conversation with a good friend of mine and thought I’d watch this because she was making me feel like I was missing out, since I’m saving for my future and don’t want to “be cool” like her other friend. Turns out, SHE has fomo and I DON’T! Lol! I actually enjoy doing the things I do, even if they are not what society thinks is fun! I am so glad to have watched this video! Thank you! 🙏🏼😁🌷🌸

[@Exotixa]

Wow. Hands down, best video.

[@puhkifx9360]

everything makes sense now. Thanks

[@teddi111]

I love that your purpose here is to be so fucking helpful to others & yourself! I hope you know your worth & feel truly appreciated in your own life girl! Your gifts are wonderful! Keep up the astounding work! My love to you!

[@jeromeelston1092]

I was you 888th like. You have fiquered out the anomaly of the stock market. Well done. FOMO. Thank you.

[@Lucy-hy4gw]

Wauw great content thanks Teal! you are so good what your doing :)

[@Lichfeldian--Suttonian]

This is so true, Teal.

[@justin88847]

hi teal swan i love watching your youtube channel and i learnt from you how to deal with my emotional, mental, physical pain and problems i face almost everyday

[@MrYubaru]

Thank you dear Teal! 💎❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️💎

[@irenageorgieva8011]

When I was young I never felt as if I missed anything. I never thought about anything else than the current reality because there is no other option or reality other than the current. It’s pointless and it takes you to a non space where you feel non existent and non important. I am determined to bring back that kind of peace I used to have

[@Sigalhodbh]

I love you Teal, this is my main strugle today...

[@tirtunemdouq]

I have been following you for years, but THIS is the video

[@fernandamichel4941]

Yesterday I was feeling a bit sad and I didn't know why. And your video help me realice that it was because I just choose between two jobs, and I choose the one that I actually want, insted of the one that everybody thought I should choose. And I did it because I ask my spirit guide to tell me wich one I should choose. So now I am happy I did that, thank you Teal.

[@HardestManInTarot]

Sometimes you have to miss out. It’s so important to see the positives 💎💎💎

[@jonnytongaII]

Thank you for the great work, Teal!

[@boopgotyournose7352]

Great video, thank you.

[@transformationalhealingthe4405]

Ooh this resonates a lot - Thankyou x

Thanks you very much, very inspiring. 🙏💛

[@youtubelive914]

Love you teal ! You are a gift to us !

[@hereisalfi]

Thank you Teal 💚