The Grief of Losing My Dog

We'll miss you forever, little Monkey. 💔
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[@ianbevan2192]

One of my favorite quotes on loosing a dog by anonymous: “It came to me that every time I lose a dog they take a piece of my heart with them, and every new dog who comes into my life gifts me with a piece of their heart. If I live long enough all the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are.”

[@tiffanypilkey103]

Some people don’t realize how important or pets are to us. We grieve them so much because they’re family. Your feelings are valid. Take the time you need to grieve.

[@isabelv7325]

I recently lost my dog, he was such a ray of sunshine to me, he was a golden retriever and one of the best boys ever. I had him since I was 8 years old and now I’m 20, it’s been a lifetime together, and I miss him so so much, I cry every night and I feel this emptiness inside of me, I feel so heartbroken and sad, sometimes I feel like I can’t live anymore without him. But I found your video and it resonate with me a lot, and like you said it doesn’t feel real, I feel like he’s going to be sleeping in the corner he always used to lay, or he’s going to come to my room and ask me to give him food, or run with me in the park with that smile he always had, with your video I felt understood in the pain I’m feeling, I hope it gets better with time, but I feel like is going to be a lifetime missing him. Thank you for this video, it was beautiful and very comforting ❤

[@saran3214]

I am sorry, you and your dog grew up together that's why it's so hard. I remember our family dog from 30 years ago, your dog will always be in your heart where he belongs.

[@singinwithceline]

She’s not just a dog. She’s family. When I was 21, I adopted my cat, Maria. For 6 1/2 years, she decided that it was her job to care for me. She followed me everywhere, checked on me when I fell, pulled me out of flashbacks and more. Losing her was like losing a child. Feel whatever you feel. She’s not just a dog. She is family. I’m praying for you.

[@bamb3928]

I’m so sorry for your loss Jo. Pets are not just pets, they are the true definition of unconditional love.

[@swamotts5281]

I'm so sorry. Animal deaths are the hardest, especially when it's so sudden ☹️💔

[@brackalack1]

I'm really sorry she died so suddenly. That's so horrible. Sending big hugs xx

[@Jejo00-f4j]

heard from my mom that my boy is no more, today morning Now my home become silent, nobody is there to make any noise, he was the guardian there I lost him, miss him so much

[@marinakiell1069]

To me the closest thing I can think of that had me feeling this emotional was the passing of KZbinr Chronically Jaquie

[@peachxtaehyung]

I loved Jacquie! I miss her so much and I was so shocked because I knew she was in hospital but I didn't think it was anything too life threatening! I wish that her friend at the channel the raw life would explain what happened already but at the same time I know how hard it can be to talk about and I don't want to rush them you know?

[@flowerpetals1396]

@@peachxtaehyung Jacqui's intestines herniated which caused the feeding tube to tighten around the intestines. This cut off the blood supply and the intestines died, poisoning Jacquie's body. I was so annoyed and upset because they could have saved her had the hospital investigated. Jacquie's abdomen was swollen and painful.

[@peachxtaehyung]

@@flowerpetals1396 oh yeah I know that part of it but Janice said there was alot more to it and that they would explain it once they're able

[@barlowpenny]

Same having the same illness as Jackie it was hard to go thru. I think as you tubbers we connect with other tubbers and feels like good friends easy.

[@peachxtaehyung]

@@barlowpenny yeah we do alot of the time especially if that youtubers has the same condition as us or something

[@hanna-zk9pv]

I'm so sorry Jo. Losing a pet is so horrible and I'm so sorry you had to go through it.

[@lavenderkoi4931]

🖤rest in peace monkey🖤

[@w-james9277]

I lost my dog today. She was 14 years old and lived a long and happy life but in the last three months she went down hill, fast. Then her legs went, she lost condition and she didn’t want to eat (which for a Labrador is telling). It was clear that this was the end and the vet said there was nothing they could do. Like your dog she was tough and tried to cover up her pain until she couldn’t any longer. Having her put to sleep was probably the hardest decision iv ever made. Although it was her time i'm absolutely devastated! The house feels so weird without her but she gave me and my family 14 years of laughter, joy and she helped me though allot of tough times. We'll miss her terribly. R.I.P Maisie

[@sammymoore2430]

I lost my bassett hounds Arthur on Tuesday. I don't think I will ever get over it. I can't eat I can't sleep. I feel your pain 😢

[@w-james9277]

@@sammymoore2430 Just take it one day at a time.

[@barbre105]

So sorry for your loss and pain. I understand how much pain you are in as I loss my heart Mr. Bentley. He was my constant companion and my buddy. He was the funniest dog how he would shake his stuffed pet monkey and howl at the same time. The void in my heart is great and I love and miss him so much. He did give me 13 years of love and that made me very happy.

[@BadHairdayKimmie]

I recently found a dog hair stuck in a seldom used blanket. One single 3" hair. It is from the best dog that ever lived (I may be a bit biased here.) Shawn has been gone since Dec 11, 2010 and there isn't a single day that I don't think of him. When I think of him I always cry, as I am now. He was my heart dog and always will be. Grief is the price we pay for love. I'm so sorry for your loss. Grieve as long as you need in any way that you need. No apologies or explanation needed.

[@clairey.potter]

“Grief is the price we pay for love” That is perfect and I couldn’t have said it better myself. Thank you❤️ I needed that today, I lost my sweet cat this morning

[@BadHairdayKimmie]

@@clairey.potter I'm so sorry for your loss. Tell me everything that was great about your sweet kitty.

[@Rennies-World]

O never heard the phrase "heart dog", but I instantly knew what you meant, as I lost mine in August of last year. What were your favorite things about your pup?

[@BadHairdayKimmie]

@@Rennies-World I'm so sorry for your loss. Shawn was perfect in every way. The worst thing Shawn ever did was he got on the coffee table and ate 7 nuts out of the bowl, leaving the shells on the floor. I could leave him untied anywhere and he would never move: grocery store, dog show, playground, horse show, anywhere. On his first day at work, at a pet supply store as a 16 week old puppy, Shawn walked out the open front door onto the sidewalk. I jokingly sat on the floor had a talk with Shawn about him having to stay in the store and not to go on the cement outside. Shawn never walked out the door without me again. Shawn was my best salesman. He modeled/demonstrated everything; harnesses, coats, beds, muzzles, brushes, toys, crates, etc. and he made every bed look amazingly comfortable. At parties he would stay out of everyone's way, never begging. But if he saw something spill on the floor he would casually walk over and clean up the morsel like a living Roomba, then get out of the way again. I could go on. Shawn was just the best dog ever.

[@Rennies-World]

@@BadHairdayKimmie He sounds like the best dog ever! I'm sorry for your loss, too. You are very lucky that you had each other in your lives. I cam just imagine that conversation about not leaving the store. LOL Lukey was also the best dog ever. He was never out of the way. He was always right nest to whomever he though needed him to maybe clean up things they accidentally spilled on the floor. He was just always ready to throw himself on that "grenade" so nobody would have to clean up. He was a Staffordshire Terrier mix that somehow never managed to be intimidating in the slightest. A woman who was terrified of all dogs, right down to chihuahuas, would actually pet him. I feel like he wasn't only MY service dog. He helped other people too. And if I ever wanted him to look mean, I just had to pretend I was giving him a tennis ball, and he he would just pull his lips back out of the way to gently take it. I have a number of videos of him on my account. The two most recent are private because of the music I used. If you want a really good song to cry to, find Charlie Puth's solo version of See You Again. I think I found it on Soundcloud? It's very specific about being a grieving song, and I used it for my last video of Lukey. That and Memories by Maroon 5. Someone else in the comments described one as their "heart dog". I had 2 dogs before Lukey, and I grieved for each in different ways. But Lukey was my heart dog. Also, he did not know what to make of horses. It's not normally a part of service dog training, but I took him to Suffolk Downs (racetrack), and he was like "big dog? smells wrong. prey? too big friend? mmmm no bork bork bork!" Lukey was originally named Diesel. That was laughable. I was going to go with Loki, because he was a mischief maker before his training. But then it hit me why no name really felt right. My favorite band is Great Big Sea, and the first song I ever heard from them was "Lukey". As soon as I said it out loud, there was no question that he was a Lukey. I'm going to see the former lead singer of GBS live, when he comes here, and I was really looking forward to taking Lukey with me for that. He should have been able to go with me. He should have been there for me when I nearly died in September. He should have been here for years still. But he isn't, didn't wont. Then I found out about Wayne State University and the awful things they are doing to dogs. Until I"m ready to bring home a new service dog, I'm fighting to stop the experiments. Edit to note: We should have named him Houdini. He would get out of a metal create that was wrapped all over with bungee cords. We'd get home and see him at the front window. The crate would still have all the bungee cords and no sign of how he got out. :P Every time I cry, I also kind of laugh. Lukey was NOT empathetic. He didn't comfort me when I was sad. He would just look at me like, "What is that sound supposed to be? Stop it, please." But I only ever had to hold out my hand to have him come and put himself under it, and on top of my legs, my belly, m y chest, my face. LOL I would give anything to have that right now. I'm so glad we both got to have the best dog ever. I would not give up this pain if ti meant giving up the years of joy we had together. *hugs*

[@hlrapoza]

Never just a dog. Or a cat. Or any pet. You did the most honorable and HARDEST thing anyone will ever do for a loved one. Hugs for you.

[@ash_rock]

My family lost one of our dogs a couple of months ago. He had had a surgery to remove cancerous tumors just a couple weeks before we had to put him down. He had become super anemic because a tumor burst inside of him. I'm currently in college and was a week away from leaving home when he passed. It sucked, but I think he knew. He knew that I had been terrified of him passing while I was gone, where I couldn't say goodbye. It feels like forever ago he passed, but still so recent. Everyone processing grief in a different way when it comes to this. I am super emotional for about an hour after, then try to distract myself with anything and not think about it. I relied a lot on the dog we still have. Dogs really know when you're upset. They are some of the best therapy you can have at times like this. It took a week for the initial sadness to go away for me. I'm still at the brink of tears writing this. Dogs are so special. It sucks to have to say goodbye. Don't force yourself to stop grieving before you're ready because something thinks it's stupid to cry over a pet. It isn't stupid.

[@thecasper911]

Jordan our fur babies are no different than our human counterparts, so grieve in whatever time feels natural to you! Don't feel you have to put terms on it, process it in a healthy fashion that is appropriate for you! RIP Monkey! ♥️🤗♥️🤗♥️

[@williamm.9255]

LOST MY GIRL ROXI EARLY THIS MORNING... MY HEART IS BROKEN AND I MISS HER LIKE CRAZY .......GOD THIS HURTS SOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH !!!!!!!!!😢😢😢😢💔💔💔💔💔🙏🙏🙏🙏😢😢😢😢😢

[@AMVactivists]

How people feel is how you're feeling. How long people feel it, is for however long you feel it. When you get another dog will be exactly the right amount of time. Monkey was a good girl and deserves your grief. You deserve your grief. Edit: by "you deserve your grief" I mean it's real and valid and you're allowed to be patient with yourself. Not that you deserve pain 🤦‍♀️

[@TheMsRavenBlack]

"She may have been just a dog, but she was my whole world." All of my love is with you through this.

[@fruityrat694]

Oh wow, I am so so sorry for your loss. I lost my dog 2 years ago, he was 14, and I can tell you it gets better, it takes a long time to heal and you may find some days tougher than others, but if there is one thing I can promise, it is that you'll find yourself grateful for the memories you were able to make.

[@tplon2001]

When I lost my 16 year old dog I grieved for her just as much as I did when I lost my dad. If you love something or someone, you grieve their loss. Loss is loss and we grieve for all of it.

[@tobysmom1111]

Jo, I saw a quote somewhere that said... "When you adopt a dog you can look forward to hundreds and hundreds of wonderful days... ...and one really bad day." I have had to euthanize three sweet fur babies that all reached the age of 15. It's heartbreaking. I have never had children so my dogs are like my kids. I still grieve them years later. I miss them daily. They are such a gift and make our lives so much better. I'm sorry for your loss and the manner in which you lost Monkey, so unexpectedly. Life can be so hard. You have been through so much in your young life. I hope brighter days are ahead. Xoxo🥰❤

[@annieschmidt4188]

I just lost the love of my life 3 weeks ago. Thanks for your honesty about the weirdness. I am going on 50yrs old and have lost close friends and family, but my little rescue dog “Hendrix” has been my entire world for 5 years. It’s just him and I since my children have grown and I’m happily single. He got sick unexpectedly with diabetes and kidney failure so quickly. No symptoms until the last week, his little 20lb maltipoo body went fast despite desperate medical intervention. It’s awful and I still cry often. I’ve mourned other family pets but he was only for me. It’s different this time. I’m heartbroken in a uniquely painful way. Someone said you must love hard to hurt hard. I suppose that’s the deal when you love your fur baby…🙏💙

[@suzyparker-smith6708]

Hi Annie... I don't know if you will get this a year later... But I'm going to write it anyway. I lost my sweet baby that was just six years old 6 weeks ago tomorrow. A sweet and beautiful 18 lb Pomsky. I rescued him from a couple of men that didn't want him at six months old. 6 months later I was divorced and living without my husband and children, the youngest who had just finished high school. It was just me and my little guy. He went everywhere with me. We just relocated to a beach town to enjoy this new chapter. I made sure to move us just a mile from the off leash dog beach... A favorite spot of ours since I got him! Now we lived right down the road! I had the afternoon off 6 Thursdays ago. Even though it was April, it was very very warm in New Jersey. I just happened to have the afternoon off and we spent the afternoon at the dog beach. 24 hours later he was gone! It was a horrible time and he could not be saved. Something happened in his brain like a bleed or a stroke or maybe a tumor burst??? It was horrible and devastating. I'm having a hard time with the grief. I've been looking to find somebody online to relate to... I told my best girlfriend last night that as good of a researcher as I am, I can't find anything for the empty nester that lives alone and loses their dog. I had never had a dog before. We had a family dog but this was different. This was my baby and he went everywhere with me! It was just the two of us. I work full time and I have friends, but when I come home it is VERY painful. I know it's just six weeks... I wonder how you are doing a year later? Thank you for posting. I needed to find this. Just to know somebody else out there was in the same situation helps!🙏 BTW... My mother's name was Annie... I have been picturing my dog in heaven with her!!!💖

[@saran3214]

​@@suzyparker-smith6708I hope you are better. I just lost my little yorkie mix, he was just the best dog. Had him 16 years. I am in a houseful of people yet all alone without him. This has about killed me so I hope you are at least better. Your dog loved you and you loved him and that will never end. I am so sorry as I understand your pain. It's having your heart broken in half. I think you need to go to shelters and get another. There's a dog out there that really needs a nice person like you.

[@Rosiarita171]

I’m so sorry for your loss 😢. Yes I have had this loss 😢. In this last year and three months I have lost my husband of 54years and my Jazzy the sweet chocolate lab the day after Christmas, and my son Bobby on Valentine’s Day😢. I now have have two pups and they have got me through this, I love them it’s been so hard. Bliss your heart for sharing this, I’m crying for you and praying 🙏 for you.

[@jodil1209]

Monkey was never "just a dog." People who have lost their pets understand how you feel. It's really difficult to lose them because they are so much a part of our lives. When we lost our last dog, we were expecting it, but before we could get her into the vet she got worse. When we carried her into the vets office she died on her own. That's been over a year ago. We still had our other puppy dog thankfully. We just got a new puppy 4 months ago, and she has pulled me out of depression. It's up to you guys because everyone is different about getting another dog after losing one, who was very much loved. I'm sorry that you lost her so suddenly.

[@3Cyborg]

I’m so sorry Jo. And to have to process this grief so soon after your surgery.. when it rains it pours. My thoughts are with you and yours.

[@RichardM1366]

Losing a pet that loves you unconditionally it tears a hole in your heart. People say " Oh get over it!" How do you get over a loss? It hurts even to this day. Good memories take over.

[@raigenhuss7030]

I lost my 17 year old cat two weeks ago. I adopted him at 8 years old. I feel like he saved me, too. I was living alone a lot of the time I had him, and he kept me grounded. I came home every night because he needed me. He was very clingy so I knew he wanted me around. He was very healthy up until a few days before I put him down. My feelings have not been consistent or predictable.

[@FeatherpawStudio]

I've lost many family pets over the years, it always hurts to lose a pet. However, the first pet that was solely mine (that I chose to get, bought, and cared for daily) that I have now lost was a budgie. I had him for 8 years and got to listen to his little songs all day everyday. It took me over a week to pluck up the will to take down his cage and put away his toys after he died. It took me months to not cry when I thought about him or talked about him. The house is so quiet without him it's awful. My husband had never properly had pets before and he found it hard coming to terms with our budgie's death. Then he had the realisation that he's going to have an even harder time when our dog eventually dies. Doesn't matter what species they are. If you have a living being in your house that you love and care for daily and they're there for you too, it hurts when they have to leave us! There's no right or wrong way to grieve.

[@rachellaw8495]

A dog is never "just a dog" and you definitely shouldn't just have to "deal with it". Dogs are such a blessing and they're a loss huge. You need to take time and feel the emotions and recognise them. I lost my dog back in May this year and today I miss her the same as ever. I'd never wish this upon everyone and I send you all the care and thoughts in this horrible time 💕

[@marcusgodhigh5470]

I truly understand and appreciate you for sharing. I am still going through it. My Ace passed away in Feb 2023. It takes time to come to grips. But we all miss the presence.

[@paulseven806]

i lost my dog after 14 yrs 2 weeks ago, thanks for the video it helped

[@Castukki]

She was not just a dog 😞😞… She was an important part of your journey, and she will always be 💐. I am very sorry for your loss, Jo!!

[@JuMixBoox]

The loss of a dog was the first time that I actually allowed myself to grieve, give my emotions their space and honour the role he played and what that meant to me. I did not shove anything down, I took the day off and I really felt. And, of course, it sucked. I already can't believe that Monkey is gone and I only knew her from your videos. My condolences. It sounds like she had a great live with a family of dogs and humans who loved her and a purpose.

[@deanimals]

Each pet hits differently from what I've experienced. When we lost my Monster, I was a living zombie for months. I was so sad and lost and just went through the motions of life for so long. It still makes me sad 7 years later. We just lost our other cat Thor in august and I've been super mad and just wanting to hit someone or something and just behind that has been the tears and sadness.

[@rosiedominguez7315]

Sorry for your loss. Lost my doggie 4 days ago. She was my only dog. House feels so empty now. Miss her so much! God bless.

[@vanessawest1664]

Thanks for sharing. I know how you feel when you say you had trauma and your dog got your through. My last dog who I lost at the start of the year was my life line twice durin 2 seperate very dark times where I was at my lowest. I looked at him and thought … I can’t leave you. People won’t understand your feelings. Just allow time to grieve, cry and remember her 🩷 you aren’t alone

[@ceciliamarien4456]

My dog passed 2 years, 1 week ago. I'm so sorry for your loss and everything you said and feel is completely valid. The waves still come but they're less frequent and less intense. One day at a time.

[@tsommers3284]

You have me in tears!! My dog is only 5 but I’m terrified to lose my dog!!

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

Try your hardest not to grieve then while he's still there, trust me, just enjoy the time you have with them, and hope you'll have many years ahead of you with your dog.

[@daisymay50kaufmann39]

I miss my BEST FRIEND Daisy 💔. SHE WAS MY EVERYTHING. I recently lost my mom and brother a month apart and my sister ( not blood but might as well been) and now my daughter/ dog / bestest friend Daisy

[@EclecticSundries]

So sorry. My only words of comfort I can give are I understand and know what your going through.

[@helenamarques7979]

It's never just a dog or cat, pets are our family. Sometimes they are the most supportive members of our family. So you have every right to grieve and hurt. Take your time. It is hard and weird and painful. Thanks as always for your honesty and deeply relatable content. Miss Monkey will always be a treasured part of your platform and she will continue to be loved by your followers. Sending you all my virtual support

[@MattLaneFitness]

I’m currently in tears. Both selfishly and in tears for you. I actually held off a few days to watch this vid. We lost Lilly 6 months ago. I can say confidently that you and I have had very similar emotions with this. You have every bit of my heart and I will tell you that this will come in waves. 4 days after we put Lilly down a good friend of mine told me “Grief is the price we pay for Love”. You did the right thing by Monkey from the 1rst to the last day. Stay well Jo ya got my love.

[@elchicano187]

I just lost my dog a few hours ago it goes in waves as they say, I lost a dog 4 months ago as well. Right now I don’t how to feel. I think of the good times and my eyes water. I also feel a bit bad that is it weird I’m not sobbing my eyes out? I understand I’ve lost a beautiful piece of my life and I wish she was still here . Rest easy girl CHikiz 🐕 ❤️

[@nicollevandyke5950]

I'm so sorry Jo. Having recently put my sweet dog of 15 years to sleep I can understand how difficult it is to be the person who makes that difficult decision. My vet said something very kind and I pass it along to you, "Don't let anyone tell you it's JUST a dog". All the love in the world to you during this difficult time, Monkey was so lucky to know you.

[@d179654582248]

I lost my girl Lily today and the honesty you show in this video is helping. Thank you. My house also feels so empty even though our girl was so small and never barked because she was deaf. She was perfect though and I think I’ll miss her forever.

[@stephanieskowronski1979]

Our pets love us unconditionally ❤️🙏 cherish the special memories Pets are definitely family! Humans & pet siblings go through a grief process

[@crimson_scum7129]

My dog of 13 years we got when i was 5, has to be put down this monday due to liver failure. Its really hard but im happy knowing we gave him a good life.

[@kalie1323]

Sending lots of love 💕 I lost my soulmate Angel almost 2 years ago and I still breakdown crying every once in a while

[@Sandlin22]

Grief is a marathon theres no exact time for it to end everyone is different

[@Eric-777]

Love what you said… Even if it was a long time ago it helps me today. Your “Monkey” was so special what a wonderful sweet dog!.. We lost our Little white bundle of joy “Poppy” ..unfortunately we had to put her down yesterday. SO VERY PAINFULL! She wanted to stay but her legs were unable to function anymore. We will miss “Poppy” so very much. she was so smart and sweet and she surly loved her short life. I hear and feel your pain and like you said seeing her empty bowl this morning hurts our heart. We are in pain missing Poppy but Thanks for this video.. I’m watching many videos today to help the pain I’m feeling..

[@catwmn14]

My favorite quote is “grief only exists where love once lived.” I love it because it makes the grief feel sweeter. Even though you’re in terrible pain, it’s because you loved her so deeply. I was a vet tech for 6 years, and I helped euthanize many animals. If someone was struggling with the decision, I always told them that it’s better to do it one day early than a month too late. We saw so much unnecessary suffering because owners just couldn’t let go. Nurses and doctors were the worst clients of all. They just couldn’t accept the fact that they had to stop treatment, and that it was kinder to let go. The fact that you saw this and made the selfless decision to think of HER quality of life says a lot about you. It’s a true tragedy that animals can’t live longer. They’re such wonderful creatures and are so pure. I just want to reassure you that you did the right thing, and it’s okay to feel things about it for a long time.

[@juliam7605]

Dogs aren’t just pets. It’s the loss of a family member. I’m so sorry for your loss. It speaks volumes of your capacity for love the way you describe Monkey. It took a long time for me to get over the loss of my Fiona who went from a great check up to a ruptured spleen in 10 days. There isn’t a right way to grieve, but I felt like i loss a limb when my hound girl passed. Sending sympathy and love your way.

[@Rennies-World]

I lost my service dog last August. I still have uncontrollable bouts of sobbing. Few people know that he was a literal lifesaver for me, and it was similar to Monkey. Super stoic boy who showed zero signs until one day when he just started shivering. Long story short, he had cancer. I should have had years more with him, but I had to suddenly say goodbye. You will open your heart and home again, but only on your timeline. It's never just a dog. They were with us more than nearly every human out there, and that bond is indescribably painful when broken. You might never have that same bond with another dog, but each one forges their own special bond to our hearts. As a person of non-faith, I can only say that if there's an afterlife, and Lukey isn't part of it, then it will be a "no thanks" from me.

[@WildlifeLiving100]

The best way to honor a loving pet that you've lost, is to rescue a new one. RIP Monkey

[@carolynandcocohaywood2638]

I’m so sorry to hear this, the pain of loosing a dog/ family member is so bad. I couldn’t stop crying after my Willow was killed in a road accident. The pain is the same as a death of a brother or parents (it was for me anyway ). It’s been almost 5 years since she died but I still cry sometimes and I will always miss her, I have her ashes and paw print. I did get another dog awhile after who I always refer to as Willow’s little sister. You never get over or replace that dog you just add to your family but never forget the other family member.Thinking of you. ❤️❤️

[@jorgearevalo1879]

You’re a such a brave girl , it happens to everyone I have the same feelings. Comes and go sometimes, I lost a dog too I never have another dog , I’m scared to feel the same sadness again. They said is normal you’re a helping others with your story . Sometimes I cry it comes from nowhere. Don’t try to fight back make your grief your friend it helps .

[@Chiller-pc1dv]

Unfortunately loss and grief is the price of love.....but it's worth it. You get the privilege of receiving and giving so much love to a sweet little animal, you get a friend, a family member, and something similar to that of a child.

[@bonnieeck670]

So sorry for your loss I'm right there with you I had to put my Sunny down 2/2/2024 he was a Bichon I hate this pain and miss him soooo much sending you hugs and prayers..RIP Monkey

[@kingofthehills34]

I’m so sorry

[@gastrogal5353]

Jo, can’t say enough about how sad it is to lose loved ones. I think losing our fur babies is just as difficult as losing our two legged loved ones, who ever they may be in our lives. I have had several pets which I have had to say good-bye to and it simply hurts down to the core of our hearts ♥️ and our spirit feels a big bruise. I too have had new pets “show up” with impeccable timing. Your Brian is a keeper indeed. He is always there for you and seems to know what to say, and when to say it. I also get what you mean about having Monkey be your first pet to have to put down. It is a tough choice but a mature and loving choice at the same time. I had this great cat who lived with me from the time she was 8 weeks old until 14 years old. She was such a love and we could almost communicate telepathically, or I could simply tell her things and she was one to understand. She healed me during a time in life when I was in therapy and healing from the grief of my mother’s suicide. This gal was a trooper. My stories could go in a book and I am sure sure your fur babies stories could all go in a book if ever you felt the desire. So this little gal was 14 and I could see her eyes were not so bright, selfishly I fell to my bed and started crying like a big baby at 32 years of age, as I was waiting on MRI results to see if I had MS or Cancer. Luckily my Adult Voice spoke to me and said, “This lovely cat has given you 14 great years. So sit up and be an adult and hold her and tell her what you are feeling”. So I sucked it up, dried my tears and called to her and she came and got into my lap, I could feel her purring and she kissed me on the cheek. So I did tell her, IF it is your time, I get it, please forgive me for my childish reaction, but you know how much I love you and thank you for all of the unconditional love you have given me. I thank you for sharing 14 years with me and for just being the best cat ever. I could feel her telling me, “I got you even though I may not be visible, you know I will be with you forever”. So I took her to the vet’s already knowing it was likely kidney failure (an intuitive thought, from her most likely), and sure enough it was and the vet said to just come on back and sit with her as she is leaving rather quickly and we did not even need to give her any meds. So after my good-bye’s I went on home and just cried finally as I had loved no other pet from what I like to say start to finish. Mainly, I had never gotten a kitten or puppy and had them until they passed. Jo, all I can say, as you already know this from past trauma, grief, and so much more that you have managed to overcome in your lifetime, you will know when you know as to just how long it may take. IF you and Brian do decide to take in another fur baby, that is the same kinda thing - you will know when you know. I know you like music and you are the one who got me to listen to Lewis Capaldi for the first time and he led me to Guy Sebastian (from Australia), and Teddy Swims, here in the states. I know music can be so very healing. You may know of these artist’s already. I just know they have gotten me through some tough times. Grief is just like most everything in Life - it is our own to process, and it can be so very different for each of us due to our pasts and what all Life has given us to go through. You and I have dealt with difficulties since we were rather young, so we kind of know what our process may be like. Yet, the process can always change depending on where we are in life and how things are going, or not going. I can’t imagine being someone who lived an easy life until they were much older and had to face true grief for the first time?? I can only imagine that it would be more difficult, but I shall never know. So as for you and Brian, I am so glad you have each other and your current fur babies. They too may let you know if and when they want a new friend in the house. For now just be extra kind and gentle as you love each other and trust in the timing of it all. You have a huge heart and I feel confident that your past will help with your present. Sending ☮️ n ❤️ from sunny 🌞 AZ. Stay strong, as you and your family will mend with time. ♥️

[@susanyates4233]

I lost my precious dog just before Christmas. My Christmas was the worst in my life, I wanted to stop living. I am so sorry for your loss. My age and post cancer make it unwise to get another dog.

[@talonf.3786]

That’s the part you focus on, the gratefulness of her existence in your life❤️

[@colourmequaint9690]

I am so sorry. Grieve in the way you need, take as long as you need, there are no rules. You’re going through the most heart breaking thing ❤

[@wade_says]

I’m so sorry. Our sweet loyal dog of nearly 11 years passed. We had to say goodbye last week. He had neurological issues, skin issues and he was struggling to balance, running into things. Happened kind of suddenly. He was getting older and the vet said we’d have to see a specialist which wouldn’t even be useful in the long haul because he was almost 11. Quality of life would not be good. He was a full blooded cattle dog and got him in 2012 off Craigslist too. My wife knew him for pretty much his whole life too. He was like a son to us. It’s very hard and I’m sure it will for a while. It’s a weird feeling. Losing a pet is like losing a family member. We will see them again in heaven.

[@vikingdragon2764]

Losing a pet is like losing your babies. Like any other grief: it's different for everyone. You'll know when it is time to think about another dogs. Don't let anyone tell you to"get over it ", it's not just a dog, it was family. My thoughts are with you 😘

[@slightlysoulfulspatula]

Just holy heck. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm a year out from losing *my* first pet and there are days still that hurt so deep. Your bond with Monkey so valid and big, and there's no thing as losing "just a dog/pet" ... there's something different and special about the relationships we have with pets because they're affectionate and loving little beings, but on top of that we also know that WE are their custodians. WE are the ones that are supposed to take care of them, and while rational-brain says no life lasts forever, it still can sting as a bit of a failure when we lose a pet even when there's literally no fault to be had. But mostly it just hurts because a sweet, perfect, fuzzy little friend and loved one is gone.

[@sophierobinson2738]

Oh, no! So sad! Grief comes in all flavors, and you will go through all of them. I had to let my sweet Triska kitty go early this year, and I still expect to see her on the extra pillow on my bed.

[@christesta2521]

I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved pet!!! Hopefully time heals all wounds for you Jo.

[@IrishEyesASMR]

I lost my beautiful 10yo husky Northstar, in May this year.... He was the third addition to my little pack of rescue huskeroos and like you, I thought we had more time together..... We spent the last 4.5 years of his life going camping, hiking, meeting other huskies friends for playmates and eating well..... He was loved so so much by me, by his brother and sister and by anyone who met him.... Im so blessed to have had him walk into my life and stay a while, but my goodness did he leave a hole when he passed.... Its been over 6 months and I still cry when I think of his beautiful wee self and his soft wolfy howl.... I'm so sorry you lost the absolutely gorgeous Monkey Jo... This amazing pups life was infinitely better for having you in it, and I'm sure she's playing at Rainbow Bridge patiently waiting until you're reunited 💛

[@fredricjulien8738]

I know that losing a pet is like losing a member of the family. I've experienced it far too many times myself. Monkey gave you so much love and joy in the time you spent together. You'll miss her and think of her a lot for a while. Take as much time as you need to grieve. No dog will ever take the place of Monkey, but maybe some day you'll be ready to give a good home to another. Monkey 2.

[@von7nie]

One of the things I have learned about grief is that you need to let yourself feel what your feeling. Wether it’s anger, depression, numb, ect. Let yourself feel and process. Also, I have noticed that no mater who/what you loose, the stages of grief are the same. Praying for you Jo. 💜💜

[@Vaderburg]

The second the thought of an animal puts a smile on your is the moment they become family.

[@knopflerfan9069]

Oh Jo I am so sorry about Monkey, thank you for sharing her with us My sweet cat Luna passed suddenly in July and I'm still not quite over the shock if I'm being honest, the grieving process for a pet has no rules

[@KristiHaganSmith]

I am so so sorry

[@anafreitas821]

Totally relate. Going through the same. ❤ It's just .. unreal

[@thewilltowalk6651]

I’m so sorry for the sudden loss. Our Symba (Lab/German Shepherd Mix) passed in January at the age of 13, and two weeks later, Nala, my heart dog, was diagnosed with inoperable cancer and given 2 weeks to live. But 2 months after her diagnosis, she was still doing better than expected, so we rescued a 10-week-old hound mix I named Krieger, which means “Warrior.” Nala crossed the Rainbow Bridge on June 21st with the help of an incredible home pet hospice called Lap of Love. I still ball my eyes out regularly, especially when “Facebook Memories” sends me pics of those two sweet angels. As a chronic pain patient, their passing was a huge reminder of the beautiful gift of dignity that we all deserve. And just as you did with Monkey, I’m glad that I can say that I helped both of my dogs to pass with dignity and without suffering. Sending so much love your way. I know how difficult this video was to make ❤️❤️🐾🐾❤️❤️🫂🫂

[@kimberlynnwomack4262]

I lost my sweet mini dachshund 3 years ago. I cried for 3 days and every now and then still tear up… I still swear I hear his little feet on our floors. There’s no time frame on grief even for fur babies. *hugs*

[@nicoleshan6410]

Hello,Jo!🙂 Thank you for sharing this. I lost my little doggo to food poisoning and I miss him so much.❤️ Hugs to you and Bryan!🌈

[@Nat-he4xd]

My sister ended up getting another puppy a few days after her dog was gone and it did help with the continued grieving process. ❤️

[@missitheachievementhuntres560]

take the time to grief Jo, it is okey to feel sad. A pet is such an important thing in your life. They are there daily.

[@brandihawthorne7268]

Loosing a pet will break your heart !! Its just so sad and you never stop loving and missing them

[@joey_5060]

So very sorry for your loss. I'm late to the story...but I feel this so completely. We lost our schnoodle 5 1/5 years ago, and I can't believe it's been that long already. I still miss her every.single.day. ❤

[@15gamershaven89]

I never realized how much our dog was part of the family until she was gone in June. She was always the dog, then we learned what she had and then she was gone a week later. Its amazing how quickly life can change, and how much an animal can mean to us. God bless all the dogs who are no longer with us.

[@Gh0stBeeAlt]

I'm so sorry

[@rockqinrobertm]

It's not how much room she took up in your house, it's how much room she took up in your heart. Losing a pet is like losing a sibling or close friend. Take time to cry or whatever you need to do to move on in your life. It gets a little easier with time. Just keep her close in your heart and remember all the joy she brought you. Sending love and positive vibes.🥰🤗🥰🤗🥰🤗

[@jimz68]

So Sorry to hear about your sweet Monkey. Sending Big Hugs from Castro Valley, CA. Luv Ya, Jo.....

[@donnajeffery8267]

I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved Monkey you are right about how many emotions rolled into one you go through and as to how long each person grieves is hard I lost my heart horse in 2011 and I still think I am grieving her and my last dog to cross rainbow bridge was 2019 and it is still hard sometimes you find yourself saying if so and so was still hear we would be doing this and that you think how much they enjoyed certain things like splashing in water or there favourite treat so and I also even though I don’t believe in physical god I do think thing come and go in our lives a certain times for reason we don’t know until sometimes we look back and asses that time and how much they helped etc and how much they get us through really tough times that we think to ourselves that if they were not here I don’t think I could get through what the tough situation is at that time so each person is different and it takes each person a different amount to properly grieve and some never fully get over the loss and some are like yes I have losses now time to move on so each to there own and thank you for sharing

[@GlenLauderdale]

My family had a cat when I was growing up and she lived to be about 20 years old. She was put down due to complications from aging (she slept a lot, started to not eat as much as she used to). This happened just after I left for college. Although I got used to not seeing her every day because I wasn’t at home, it was still strange when I did get home and see the litter box missing. She was good for cuddles.

[@davidschofield7351]

My condolences. I’ve experienced it twice myself. It’s almost like losing a child. Prayers.

[@katiehoraczek399]

I am so sorry for the loss of your family member. I lost “my” first pet in 2017 and it still hurts sometimes- to the point where I will even still cry about her. Navigating the loss of a being that has seen you through more than some humans have is complicated and tough. I wish you luck ❤️

[@rebecasabourin1318]

The same thing happened to my beagle based. It was even the same diagnosis. And was the small one of the three, but was all the light and energy in the room. I am so sorry for your loss , it will get better but it will always heart. Sending all the good vibes.

[@melissamccool8953]

I am so sorry Jo for your loss.

[@amberhale3105]

It not just a dog it’s family member.You will always miss her.Sending prayers

[@goginaandalinabridges893]

She was so cute sorry for your lost at least heaven peace now though aww 💕

[@pameehanson3866]

They are never out of our hearts ever! I say the love and sharing we get from them and the time together is too short but I'd rather have that than never have a dog or cat in my life it is all about unconditional love they give us and never judging us. You will know when to get another pup and sometimes they will appear in our lives when least expected. Thanks for sharing this is painful but i still carry this love from them forever,

[@allisonduck9199]

Monkey, we love you ❤️🐾🥺 thank you for being there for your mummy!

[@maxinecalyptus1639]

Grief is grief regardless of a child, a parent, a friend, a dear pet. ❤ what you are feeling is SO normal and also heart breaking

[@staceybarker7034]

They are pets but, so much more! Our confidants, companions, snugglers, "kids", definitely family. You are part of each others lives and unconditional love and comfort. I still miss my animal friends that are no longer here. You can't control your grief and it is ok to feel it for however long it takes. Giant hugs to you.

[@sneums6610]

Rest in peace sweet Monkey, I'm sending you big hugs Jo xx.

[@TXBHenleyFan]

Pets are part of the family! Grieving is real! My 17 yr old cat has a tumor on her esophagus and I’m nursing her along but full well knowing the day will come that she won’t be ok. Hugs to you🤗🤗