For People Feeling Behind In Life

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Sharing some motivation and perspective on something a lot of us have in common. These are words that I'd like the lost and confused Nathaniel to hear sometimes.
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[@nathanieldrew]

It's crazy to think that I made this and then a month went by before I finally decided to post it because I wasn't sure anyone would relate. I'm glad I did - thank you for all of your wonderful comments. Let's stop beating ourselves up so much.

[@nightfighter7452]

How did i click on this video just in time to see you post this comment 10 seconds ago

[@chillyman7340]

The reason why noticed this video is cause it's how feel most of the time. I'm glad you made this video thanks man.

[@acidburnxp]

I'd say we just discovered one thing the algorithm picks up on: a video even slightly related to your viewing history + creator posting a comment very recently = recommended I'm glad it did. This was a great video. Very relatable.

[@Beepthesheep123]

I am so happy you decided to post it. I felt this for years.

[@th3airraidsir3n5]

Wow, this is really liberating. Thank you for making this, also the cinematography is beautiful!

[@Wario221]

“It is not uncommon for people to spend their whole life waiting to start living.” Eckart Tolle

[@simmyzuckerberg9595]

That is so genius... and scary.

[@MJScottPhoto]

This is me, 100%

[@krystalthewriter6031]

You got live every day!! 😄

[@kpacubo.]

ughh eckhart tolle ❤

[@shannon2748]

That's right. We can wake up every day and choose to be as happy as possible, and always wake up feeling grateful for what you do have.

[@isabelle346]

I will never forget the day my mother looked at me and said I don't care if the only thing you become is a tree planter. The only thing that matters to me is that you live a life that makes you feel fulfilled . Life is fragile and unpredictable and there will come a day when you will no longer be physically able to do what you can now. Enjoy the sunshine.

[@ainzooalgown6450]

Wish my mother thought this way. I have one of those families that are more "this is what you want to do" and "you can't do that, it won't succeed" rather than "what do you want to do" and "I support you son, if that's what you wish." Damn.

[@isabelle346]

@@ainzooalgown6450 I'm so sorry they are like that 😔 Please don't listen to their nonsense. Life is far to short to spend it on pleasing others❤

[@isabelle346]

@@Dwelleronthethreshold89 thank you❤

[@greencagar1355]

Amber Carr! What a beautiful words babe. That type mothers are very rare to see these days. The bad upbringing I had and the type of mother I had, till this, I'm still recovering and trying to erase the negative influences of my childhood. Trying to rewrite the page and plant seeds of happiness, prosperities, hope, meaningful life and better future for my children and the world, too. Thank you for those words.

[@natureisbeautiful9675]

That is so beautiful

[@zyneros]

I see younger people than me achieving so much, travelling, falling in love, doing so much and I’m just stuck, so late in life, so late to experience even the basic things.

[@lenakataeva7525]

You're not alone

[@raymilbelmont2521]

Nah, it’s never late when you’re in the present although I want to give up myself… but you’re not late to anything I assure you that much.

[@wilfredcarin4691]

you`re not alone man, I`m stuck too and so late in life compared to people my age.

[@SnackinWithSuper]

It's okay. My father had travelled more than me at 60+. Keep in mind, it's never over until you're on that hospital bed fighting for your life.

[@vibebliss1515]

You start little by doing something for yourself. Stop scrolling

[@linkinmusecold26]

I'm 28 and I'm feeling this. Almost all my cousins have jobs and got married, while I'm still unemployed without any job experience, still live with my parents and I'm single. All I do at home is helping my elderly mom who's a street food vendor. I feel like a failure as a person. I don't have any achievement in life, I don't have any skill to offer, I don't know what I want in life. I have no reason to be alive.

[@SuperShalki]

My dear stay strong this time shall pass too I understand the feeling of failure but u are the hero of your story . Your parents are your reason to be alive my friend

[@SuperShalki]

You are not alone to feel this way i feel it too dont be too hard on yourself

[@adelaalbino5801]

I'm 22 and I feel this way too. All my friends will be graduating this year while I'm just starting to go back as a freshman. It really sucks and I feel so left behind and useless.

[@danbby5913]

see it from another perspective. maybe you are thinking „what is my reason to be here?“ - switch that thinking into „how can i help someone today“ - because THAT will be your reason to be here :)

[@lynnedarsy4932]

@@danbby5913 aww that is so cute :)

[@Clavanz]

"Don't compare your behind the scenes with other's highlight reel."

[@MandenTV]

Clavanz That really is such an insanely good quote.

[@sallerc]

The sentence didn't make sense to me, google helped me though :) Should be "behind-the-scenes"

[@lynic-0091]

That's one of the best advices I've ever seen.

[@JohnnyUtah488]

So true. Don't compare your insides to other peoples' outsides.

[@KabooM1067]

That is such a beautiful quote. I'm going to put it on a poster and print it and hang it in my room. Then I'll put it in my laptop and phone wallpapers and make it my alarm label. Might even write it on the ceiling just so I can see it right when I wake up every morning. I have a horrible, horrible habit of comparing myself to others to the point of being unable to function at all. I need to put this message through my thick head already.

[@AakashKumar-gl2fk]

Saddest people always try their hardest to make everyone happy bcoz they know how it feels to be alone and worthless -Robin Williams

[@nancyvishwakarma5084]

Hmm ya behind their fake smiles. :/

[@maniyarawat9938]

I sometimes unknowingly do it ....., but man people hurt us way too much than expected

[@selftaughtartist1025]

Truth🙌

[@SharlenesJourney]

The absolute truth

[@brazzawalidmokrane6062]

That hit me hard

[@ira6133]

It's funny how we all feel lost and behind in life yet we are sure that everyone else is better and happier than us.

[@jovssumale5159]

True!

[@aiiiia9971]

Real

[@riccardopioantoniobruzzi5108]

Because some are not and not feel behind in life

[@j_gutiii]

This is because we are victims of the mind. It lies to us to try and keep us safe. It does not know any better so we mist train the mind to know that this is a survival instinct that is not necessary and that we must no longer compare ourselves to others but allpw them to be them and us to be us. Doing this repeatedly i believe will reprogram that side of our minds and set us free from that mental prison. It is up to us to act on this long enough to see results and then stick to this new belief forever and teach others. Once in this mental place, we can now ask ourselves what it is we want in our lives and pursue that goal without the pressure of feeling like we are in a race but instead knowing that we may not have enough life to reach our goal, but we will enjoy the process and if we succeed then we will have learned a way of moving forward that works for us. 🙏

[@reiwakura]

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[@katec9893]

I've been feeling this a lot lately. My old school friends are all now partnered up or married, with well paid work or husbands with well paid work, they own their own home and most have at least one child. Meanwhile I'm single, out of work and renting after experiencing multiple disastrous life experiences, long term health problems, setbacks and traumas whilst my old friends' lives have been mostly carefree. It's very difficult to keep going and not to feel hopeless. I got up today and went to the gym even though I didn't feel like it, and went for a walk round the park. Unfortunately I bumped into one of these old friends which as usual resulted in me feeling rubbish. I'll keep working on myself and towards my goals consistently, avoid comparing myself to others and I pray one day my life will be better. Update: I'm feeling a bit better now. I'm working hard on starting a business and I've got my own allotment now which I'm preparing to grow food. Update 2: I'm not doing so well after a major bereavement, just taking it one day at a time. Thanks for all your comments, support and encouragement. I'll keep going.

[@risefromyourpain]

Keep moving forward Kate. The gym is your friend

[@manmohansingh2595]

your life is amazing and it would be better with time dw, you have seen worse in the life now what left is the best so be ready to get that, and prepare yourself for the best ameen !!

[@bitchybrunette6232]

Have you tried letting any hate anger embarrassment etc towards ur old friends go? To be happy for them, you don’t have to reconnect with people to have closure. It’s for your healing not theirs. Cause if you aren’t close with these old friends as you imply- then sorry but you have absolutely no idea if their lives are carefree and easy. You can have your self pity party if it makes you feel better; you might think your life is so much harder,your burdens and troubles must be WAY worse, but if everyone was standing in a circle and threw their “baggage” or problems into the circle- you’d grab your bs back so fast. People deal with unimaginable lossses (as well as gains)every. Single. Day. You can compare to others lives, that’s not the toxic part. The toxic bit is you can’t apparently be happy for them.

[@mugdhashrivastava]

same 🤧🤧

[@nadineh.4660]

I feel the same exact way!! I’m 30. My friends are all either with partner or married have good jobs while I’m still single, renting a tiny room with a lady. Having a minimum wage job. I try to not compare myself with others because each one’s journey is different but let’s admit some people are fortunate than others. And we’re one of the unfortunate ppl.

[@daniellequinton5754]

I'm 30 years old. Been working in the fashion industry for about 8 years now. I really like my job but I don't wake up excited to go to work, you know? I am now realising that my real passion has always been working with animals. It has been since I was a little girl. I am now working my way through getting a degree in Veterinary Science. It's going to take me 5 years to finish it. I'll be 35/36 by then. And you know what? I don't mind the age at all. At age 30, I'm going to go be a vet ❤️ I'm not behind, I'm exactly where I need to be to do what I want to do.

[@NicoleFrancescaCes]

I am a few years younger and was doubting or feeling like I would be too ‘this or that’ to be a good Vet. I have many weakness’ that are in hindsight actually strengths. Thank you for this comment and giving me that push to continue to pursue this degree as well. My birthday is in a few weeks and I was feeling down on being ‘too old’ for Vet School. You are going to be an amazing Vet and do not give up on your dreams🐾🧡

[@daniellequinton5754]

Nicole Francesca thank you too for this comment! We both will do well, just have to really take it seriously and push for it! YAY FOR VET STUDENTS ❤️

[@dardoconsulting]

I think it's so great that you found your passion! Many people wake up every morning not excited about what they are doing but they don't know what would get them excited to get up. Go for it, you will thank yourself for your courage!

[@dardoconsulting]

​ @Nicole Francesca Go for it! When you get older you regret more the stuff you haven't done than the things you did do, even if they don't turn out the way you had hoped. And never let anyone (not even yourself) tell you, you are too something to be who you want to be. When I first started my business, I was told I was too young, too inexperienced, too blonde and as a woman, nobody would take me seriously. I went for it anyway because it felt right and I have not experienced anything but respect and gratitude from my corporate clients. And I am glad every day that I took that risk and went for it. If you are not ready to go for it and you allow me to give you an advice: Go and try out things that get you closer to your dream. Follow a vet around for a day and see if it's really what you want to do. You will either get very motivated or realize that it's not what you expected and not be sad about not pursuing it.

[@NicoleFrancescaCes]

Elisabeth Krüger Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I will also, take your advice and start the process of shadowing some of my colleagues. It is going to be a long road a head but, in the end. It is all going to be worth it! That goes for anything in life.. If it is something that doesnt of course bring anyone harm. It will be worth trying and failing than never starting in the first place. If you fail, it also isnt a big deal either. Just keep moving and never give up!! (new motto)

[@coolbeans5911]

"Since it's impossible to know which period of my life is the middle, I've decided to have an ongoing crisis."

[@kaypaige7126]

Such a mood

[@plissabarrett1899]

My whole life is one ongoing existential crises

[@garagavia]

Where is this from?

[@zekeyaeger3018]

😂😂

[@RDAEROK]

This made me laugh I can relate!

[@adamtaylor5761]

I've just turned 34, I'm currently single and I'm unemployed with a history of jobs that had no end goal in mind. I only now finding the voice in myself to ask what I want in life and be honest with myself. It took a recent heartbreak to realise this but I'm glad it happened now not when I'm 50. Just found this channel and love your stuff. Thank you

[@EleonoraEna]

Thanks for sharing :) sounds similar to my way & experience 🙏

[@quietquintessa5270]

Thank you for this message

[@haxstat]

Same situation, it's incredible.

[@TheTibor88]

God bless your soul :) everything will figure itself, just be kind and good

[@specialk864]

same, but no employment has lasted longer than 3-4 months, for me. I’m also less optimistic and more just acceptin of everything, at this point. it took a long ass while, but no matter what, when, where, how, why, or who, life, for me’s, literally, been nothin but takin 1 step forward just to get knocked backwards 2. after 16 years of bouncin from job to job, watchin all my friends and graduatin class leave me in the dust, new, younger, groups of friends of mine, eventually, do the same, and me be in the exact same place that I was when I was in grade school, I’ve finally just accepted the fact that I prolly won’t ever amount to shit and I’m a die alone and that no matter what I try, or don’t try, nothin’s gonna change, ever. it’s just the more I try to better myself the worse life gets for me. only thing I have a say so in, in my life, is when I die... I just learned to accept the innevitable, if that makes any sense.

[@annegherli7249]

To those people who feel left behind. I realized that life is really a journey. There is no shortcut to success. You really need to enjoy, endure the process and work hard. Life is not about destination, its about how you turn all your failures and disappointments into motivation because it will make your life meaningful.

[@user-yl3nt2yl8o]

Thank you for those words, and it really means it. True, and I know it may sound cheesy and very traditional for someone who's 28, age of settlement, married, and has a stable job and home. I felt like, 'why me. Why I don't catch on the stage?' I tried my best not to think of that stuff.

[@annegherli7249]

@@user-yl3nt2yl8o Yeah but you know what each one of us has its own timeline, I always believe that there is no such thing that as you reach at this age you should share same success like your same age group have. You don't need to rush thing, God will give you everything you want at perfect time. Might as well try to read the stories of famous billionaire all over the world they also encountered a lot of failures, ups and down before becoming the person who they are now

[@user-yl3nt2yl8o]

@@annegherli7249 I understand. Thanks. Your words made me feel better.

[@annegherli7249]

@@user-yl3nt2yl8o Yeah take care, Btw I'm from the Philippines,It's good to have short conversation with people from other countries

[@aerokasyeal4840]

working hard means, work in a damn job from 8 to 5 for the same salary for the rest of life

[@Aeshir2]

all instances of self growth begin with self acceptance

[@sickkunt1573]

Владислав Хлус lol what?

[@isabornau]

Amen :)

[@bransan97]

Maybe it's just me but I don't see why self growth would always begin with self acceptance. I think self growth strive towards self acceptance rather than beginning with it. I can't accept and be happy with who I am today. That's what makes me keep trying to self improve and better my situation.

[@bransan97]

@Владислав Хлус How come?

[@cata112233]

A lot of self growth comes out of self-hatred or self-disdain.

“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one” Bruce Lee

[@nickcollins5315]

MrX damn I needed that right now. Been in a very toxic and stressful moment in my life and marriage for almost 2 years now.

[@SunnySummer777]

@@nickcollins5315 I'm sorry....my 2 year relationship seems to be going nowhere.... What's the most difficult part for you? (Maybe i can learn something from your situation?)

[@Brucelee89896]

@@nickcollins5315 how is marriage going? is it worth it?

[@Brucelee89896]

here i am 🔥🔥👌👌🐐🙏

[@endgame6979]

🖕

[@eunnaaa]

I am 34, still not married, still failed to secure a stable job, have no car, and have no house. I'm trying to be positive all the time, trying my best to ignore this feeling but sometimes the reality hits me so hard like I'm feeling so ashamed with my life, like I can't comprehend that my life turns out to be this way. Im trying my best to live my life but it feels like nothing is working out. I feel like I want to relive my life again and make a better decision. I feel that everyone is leaving me alone, achieving their dreams but I am still here standing alone.

[@bluesign3034]

Just ao you know. You are not alone. I am feeling the same way in all aspects. Just keep going. We can get through this.

[@abdallahelmoctar7635]

It's an emotional phase, pretty difficult, but it shall pass and you're certainly destined for great things Lets believe this together, because I feel exactly how you feel!

[@niobium1023]

Keep going, it's going to get better fellow human ❤️

[@NoIdea68]

I’m in a similar situation. I can’t help but feel like a failure. All my past relationships never worked out and i’ve been in constant turmoil all throughout my life due to untreated mental illness. Its nice to know there are other people out there on the internet that feel the same way but in real life I am completely alone.

[@GoyimNewsNetwork]

If you were able to restart your life you would just make the same mistakes though. Be grateful that you now understand how not to live , and make the best of the time you have left. I'm 30 and I'm in the same exact boat. We're going to make it!

[@magpie2728]

This is what I got from reading a great book called "The Art of Possibility". The one concept from this book was "It's all invented". Every measurement we use to judge ourselves and other people, it's all invented. Some by social, most are in our head.

[@hashansampath4066]

Thank you so much

[@jesseb.2128]

"Whose measuring stick am I using?" That's a very good question.

[@fredriksvard2603]

Making up your own measuring stick doesnt work. You're dependent on others approval.

[@jesseb.2128]

@@fredriksvard2603 I agree, to an extent.

[@alyc618]

If I were to give it a name I’d call it the bullshit ruler of societal expectations

[@gv2212]

Tyrone ?

[@Jack-rk7jc]

That just sounds like a flowery way of saying "set your expectations low so you can meet them" if you admire the way Jason Momoa lives, then you should be working towards that. Sometimes it's by watching others that we realize what we really want out of life. Experiences, friends, memories, starting a family, putting all your passion into something for a greater cause, artistic expression, love or freedom. So I believe that personally, we should always set our expectations high. You never know how easy some things actually are until you really put your effort into trying your hand at them.

[@wafflepiepancake]

THIS is the type of videos we need mainstream. Not about celebrities, athletes, how much money to make, etc. This

[@shannon2748]

The "mainstream" wants you to be distracted by trash that doesn't matter though. People spend countless hours sitting around talking and/or arguing about celebrities, sports, politicians, etc...all such a waste.

[@bradjohnson74]

lovelyvegan princess 👈🏼 you absolutely get it! Thank you for articulating this so well. Glad to see another awakened soul in the mix 🙏🏼

[@maggiolivier9855]

Well said...couldnt agree more....we begin to truly live when we stop comparing ourselves to others and embrace who we are with our own unique gifts and talents.

[@Nscalescenic]

Nothing wrong with sports tho athletes just doing what they love

[@wafflepiepancake]

@@Nscalescenic What's wrong is the glorification of athletes.

[@Nihilanth1982]

I’m 38 years old. Dead end job, but it’s the best I can get after going to 200 interviews in the past 15 years and always getting rejected. No partner. No children. No home of my own. I can’t afford to move out because it’s too expensive. No friends. I feel stuck and trapped in life. Others are living in a different world it seems. I try and reach out to people but nobody responds. I have nightmares. Headaches Migraines Earworms Loneliness No pet my parents won’t have one in the house. Can’t stand the constantly swearing shouting and arguing here. Other friends are well ahead of me and I’m still sleeping in the room I grew up in. I feel so far left behind I don’t know what to do anymore. Each waking moment is fucking agony!!!!!

[@cliffkonkle3467]

Hey friend I wish I lived near you I would be your friend. I can totally relate to your message because I am 46 and struggling like hell in life also and it makes me feel suicidal. I am from CANADA St Catherine's Ontario were are you from??? Sending love brother I know the feeling of loneliness.

[@WhopperWednesday]

@Cliff Konkle hey 👋

[@niobium1023]

Keep going fellow human ❤️

[@NoIdea68]

I’m so sorry I can’t imagine what that must be like. Its been a year since you wrote that comment. Even though it’s probably unlikely I can only hope things have improved for you? I’m in a similar situation. I can’t help but feel like a failure. All my past relationships, wether that be friendships, or love never worked out and i’ve been in constant turmoil all throughout my life due to untreated mental illness. All I ever wanted was to one day get married and settle down with someone I love. But I don’t think i’ll ever find happiness. There’s more to it too but I just don’t feel comfortable sharing on here…Its nice to know there are other people out there on the internet that feel the same way, but in real life I am completely alone. I wish I could tell you that things will get better but I have no idea. The only thing keeping me going, is the tiniest amount of hope I still have and knowing that there are other people that feel the same way. Unfortunately I never meet them in real life. Its such a lonely existence.

[@RajveerSingh-zb8yo]

@@NoIdea68 yes that's true brother

[@furreedhiba3572]

I'm 20,I've been feeling this lately... I feel kinda depressed with a really low self esteem. I can't stop measure my potential with others and I feel really worthless at times. Thank you for your video. I will keep reminding myself of this everyday too. 💯

[@magicdinho107]

At 20 you are barely starting your life lol, i mean this respectfully. You have a long way ahead of you to figure out who you are, to experience, to build yourself and become the person you want to be. But it looks like you are on the right track if you are concern with such matters. In their 20s a lot of people mostly care about partying, having fun etc….pretty much meaningless things, and later on they find themselves and their calling in life.

[@furreedhiba3572]

@@magicdinho107 Greetings, Thank you for sharing your thoughts and opinions about this. I fully acknowledge everything you've said. And may God bless you for having taken the time to write such a meaningful message. 🌸✨

[@magicdinho107]

@@furreedhiba3572 you are very welcome, God bless you too!

[@imranharith8936]

Broh i'm 25...made a lots of mistakes, idk my future...

[@Princessbubblegum567]

With all due respect, 20 is so so so young. Now is the time to be lost and figure out what you want to do in life. I'm 30, I'm just starting to figure out what I want out of life. Some people know exactly what they want early on and some people figure it out late and that's okay. Relax and just do your best. You got plenty of time and life ahead of you.

[@bowenfarm1]

Everyone is in a rush to get somewhere when there is no where to go but here on earth and the only real time is right now.

[@29Manning]

Amen

[@nancyvishwakarma5084]

Amen

[@pladimir_vutin]

Amen

[@jasminecontreras7341]

Thank u!

[@chrisberry7712]

Absolutely! All we have is NOW!

[@rw6836]

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” - Theodore Roosevelt I try to not do social media that makes me feel behind. Don't need that in my life.

[@christiandelgado1589]

Being free from social media is the best feeling in life.

[@beebeehoneyz1110]

It’s not that for me, it’s that all of my friends are planning meetups without me right in front of me, you may think I’m dramatic but knowing that while I’m sitting at home while my friends are going out and partying hurts one of my best friends walked away from me with another one of my best friends.

[@rw6836]

@@beebeehoneyz1110 That does hurt.

[@learnnewfoodworldwide8806]

@@beebeehoneyz1110 Hey, hope you're well. Yes, the same happened to me last week and seeing their stories of going out together really hit me badly. They didn't even invite me. I felt horrible for 3 days, after that to abate or lessen this feeling, I texted them 'how did you guys enjoy day that day, seems like had a lot of fun' . This really was a shameful slap on their faces and immediately they called me and asked for apologies and tried to explain or give excuses of why I wasn't invited. So, please try this. You couldn't hold that heaviness in your heart for a long time and feel better. Whatever is in your heart just release it to them. You would feel better. Have a happier day love.

[@yui-desu1011]

Christian Delgado i agree

[@getmeouttahere3595]

Been feeling like a loser lately, especially when I'm with my friends. I'm 27 now and realize how behind i am in life. When we were in high school and years back, i didn't feel a distance around my friends like that since we were all young and you don't have that sense of urgency to gef your life together. Now that I'm 27, i always feel like a loser hanging out with them. A lot of them are married, in a long term relationship, being financially stable, owning their own houses.. while I'm here working a minimum wage job and living with my aunt because i can't afford to live on my own. I actually graduated with a bachelor's degree in nursing, but i never practiced as a nurse since my mental health took a bad turn. I feel so lost in life. Sure i have a degree, but it's essentially useless since i haven't been in the nursing field for almost 5 years and healthcare changes constantly. I don't know what I'm doing. I fe so bad when my friends plan vacation outside of the country while i have to pretend to be busy but in reality i can't go because i si ply can't afford it. :(

[@StEpHeNno22]

Thanks for sharing, hope you figure out what you want to do next and feel okay with however long it takes. 🙏

[@alizay3026]

Listen you're a special person don't feel like this. Lots of love for you

[@goon7163]

Go get a job as a nurse assistant and get back on track. I'm working on my prerequisites to get into a RN program and it seems so far away and that feeling sucks. The longer you stay where you are the worse you'll feel. You'll instantly feel better if you take steps towards bettering your life. Good luck.

[@nickolazcarters]

atleast you have A job that others can't have.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

at least u HAVE FRIENDS

[@AbuChanOfficial]

If you are reading this, I want you to know that you are capable of achieving great things. No matter what challenges you may be facing, never give up on your dreams and never stop working towards your goals.

[@nothingtoprove2533]

This sounds like me talking to myself aloud at 3 AM. lol

[@inali3004]

LAMBDJWJ

[@nothingtoprove2533]

@@inali3004 Ahaha! It's true. Sometimes, you gotta be your own therapist. lmao!

[@lasmirandadennsivillia5048]

@@nothingtoprove2533 you always have to be your own therapist. A therapist is a great supporter for it

[@kiranjitkaur2301]

altkovac sameee it helps but sometimes it repeats again and again and it gets tiring

[@RainielPalacio]

Sooooo trueeeee mannnnn....

[@classlessbozo317]

Rule 4: Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

[@stef7508]

Now i want to know what the first 3 are :)

[@dianaraabarca5576]

JBP

[@kaga13]

Ridiculous

[@finneganmcbride6224]

Stef there are 42 total, just search up “42 rules for life Quora post” on KZbin (it got deleted from quora)

[@petarpopovic6487]

You're still never gonna feel enough because each day you'll have to be better than the last one. It's still a competition, it just seems like a healthier one. Why comparing in the first place. Where are we going? Has anybody arrived and said ok, today I made it? No! Well that's what I'm going to be. I have fucking arrived and I don't have to be better than yesterday. I don't have to be a dick that doesn't know how to take care of himself either. I'm just gonna meet my basic needs, help others do the same, care for the environment and make me some money for a living doing something simple I love. That's fucking it. No need for bettering oneself. It's a never-ending game full of sacrificing being present which in the end trains your brain to always look for the future and think and analyze the past. The most rigged game there is. Sorry if I stepped on any self-help toes here. It was my intention.

[@harlem6365]

I am at same stage physically, mentally I WAS at the same stage. There comes a point you realize no motivational video or anything can help you - that's where you realize you need to play the cards you're dealt. Play. The cards. You're dealt. Work with what you got and build from there. Will be hard, you will take many beatings, you will feel it's all for nothing, you may at times feel worse, but that's when the growth happens. And before you know it, you will have covered so much ground you wouldn't want to even think back. That's when you start feeling ahead in your own lane.

[@danm7596]

"...you need to play the cards you're delt." That hit me. It's so true. We sometimes get hung up focusing on what we don't have when we really must be focusing on how best to use what we do have. Thanks for posting this.

[@katec9893]

Thank you, this is the most helpful comment I've read today. I've saved it to my phone. You're so right about how we just need to play our cards rather than holding back feeling depressed about the cards we've been dealt.

[@yvngxnightmare]

I think I’m out of cards

[@wishful1976]

We play the cards we were dealt. Only one person at the poker table can win. Most lives are full of stories of hopes broken and loves lost.

[@donaldlyons17]

@@wishful1976 very scary but true for many they will live a hard life and end up broke!!!

[@samq146]

Friends getting engaged, married, siblings having kids, high paying jobs, .... While i'm standing here with a fucked up mental health feeling like the train is leaving the station without me on it

[@Enoc63]

If you can’t fly, run. If you can’t run, walk. If you can’t walk crawl but by all means keep moving forward 🤧

[@tonyfffuuu]

Bless you

[@ashleybaker1950]

I have no legs and arms, I’m trying to squirm but I’ve broken my pelvis. currently have no way of momentum

[@tonyfffuuu]

@@ashleybaker1950 if you can't move speak the glory of God into your atmosphere if you can't speak will it from within your heart

[@westonwheeler2311]

And if you can't crawl?

[@lillypatience]

properly give credit to the quote :-) thank you dr. king.

[@Jordanandpapa5017]

I'm 70 years old, wanted to let yo know that at your age you have figured out what is very important in life. We are always searching for who we are, why we are and in the end, what ever we went through to be where we end up, is our journey and at our pace. Along the way, the best gift you can give anyone is kindness and understanding that they are ok, they are loved and important. You are a breath of fresh air, never forget you are an important part of this puzzle called life.

[@luisrn3572]

ty

[@lucyalexandra.]

beautifully written, you’re right!! thankyou ❤️

[@pinkprincess004jaja]

THANK YOUUU

[@RJ-fi9zo]

Thank you for this comment

[@derekd4394]

Here's a comment with real weight

[@virginiemasai9024]

In 2019 i ran into an old classmate/friend of mine and she was like " i am so happy, married with a kid, a job, a home, a car, all is great" . Made me feel like a complete loser, being jobless, homeless, husbandless, kidless, i felt like my life was =0. In 2021, same person "Oh i dovorsed finally, my marriage was a living hell for 9years & not even my parents supported me!" Some are faking their happiness, so pls learn to be grateful and 🤲 so that God blesses u.

[@1ulOarecare]

Great content mate, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'm 39, and my life turned out to be very different that I imagined to be when I was younger, but I'm deeply grateful for what I am. No social media, no TV, not comparing myself with others; I make sense of the world and its wonder by myself. Be humble, treat yourself and others with love and compassion.

[@VoVeoVoVi]

"You're not behind, you're not ahead, you're exactly where you need to be to do what you need to do" Jay Shetty.

[@samthing7754]

Well that’s a shetty quote

[@ai-no3ib]

Well it’s a pretty shitty place to be, who writes our destiny, i would want to slap them!

[@beamerz9398]

@@samthing7754 Yall hear samthing?

[@anushkakulkarni2238]

@@beamerz9398 ok beamer

[@akinemainunangugel9650]

Nope, if someone know they just ignore all the chance they have, they didn't do what they can do earlier coz they thought they can do or they are being over too confident even though they didn't try then after so many years they do it and it's very wrong... And their age is too old and they are in the starting line so they change their doing but the same so they go back to what they do If the quote you said is the basis The old people in my country that go to school will stop They say don't stop learning don't be ashamed of you don't know a thing There is never to late.. Even though they are 60 or older I don't know if I translate it right Keep learning Don't stop learning Not sure what is what

[@endover422]

"we have two lives - the second one starts when we realise we only have one"

[@simplesimon534]

Well said

[@macy609]

i haven’t watched this yet, but the fact that there are 2.9 MILLION views, just goes to show that we all feel like we’re falling behind, when in reality, no one really knows what they’re doing. it’s sort of a comfort.

[@alysedianecan]

I’ll be 36 next month and I just started pursuing my dreams in music. Ive been struggling with doubt and feeling too old to start now. I only wanted to be a songwriter b4 but when no doors opened there, I decided to be an artist and release my own stuff. I felt behind because I tried in many jobs where I just DID NOT FIT and ended up leaving. That’s what ate up my 20s and early 30s, playing by the rules and losing. Now I’m putting my all into my passion and letting go of expectations. To anyone who reads this, just relax. And take one step towards the things that make you happy ✌🏾.

[@alexismalicsi3814]

Same situation

[@corporalspiro5810]

I'm 20 and I'm just now getting into drawing, had many chances years ago but did nothing, better late than never I suppose.

[@Anonymous_110]

I am 27 not good at anything and don't know what makes me happy. Feeling stuck. Help me!

[@alysedianecan]

@@Anonymous_110 Fall in love with researching and learning about things that excite you. Just have fun and enjoy your passions.

[@Anonymous_110]

@@alysedianecan thanks for your reply. I will definitely look into different perspectives.

[@Sakura-qp3sv]

Thank you fbi agent for listening to me and helping me with my depression by showing me this

[@STICKGUYMB]

Sometimes, things like this make me wish there was an fbi agent watching me and secretly helping me lol

[@Sakura-qp3sv]

StickguyMB sis let me tell you they really do be watching and hearing us because i never typed anything of the sort for this to be in my algorithm exactly when im feeling this way

[@mindingmybusiness4846]

The FBI def lurks and trolls

[@lindseyshupee]

Maybe It is just the A.I.'s awareness

[@sohambhosle6397]

Ofcourse there's a FBI agent listening to you. There's nothing like the Google's Artificial intelligence or anything.

[@shreddaze2832]

I’m 31 and slowly am just now finding myself after many many years of anguish, anxiety, and worrying about how I was “falling behind”. I have my degree in social sciences, but haven’t really found myself at all. I began working as a landscaper and have been saving up some money. We all gotta start somewhere, and when you stop comparing yourself to others that’s when you start to feel a little bit of freedom. I hope someone finds relation in this post. Edit: Overwhelmed by the support this comment got and can now see I’m not alone in the journey. Thought I would share what I’m up to now. Landscaping ended for the season and I was able to get a job as a substitute teacher during hybrid learning in my county. The support I got on this comment has kept me pushing along. I just wanted to let you all know how much it truly means to me that you all have my back and left such kind comments. Keep pushing on friends, we’re all gonna make it. - Shred

[@mariee_e]

Thank you for putting this up. Everyone’s comments about still feeling lost even being further along when you’re supposed to have “figured it out” has helped a ton. Good luck to you brother

[@mindrolling24]

Shred Daze I’m 52 and have a degree in social sciences too. My health is deteriorating and I feel my time is running out. I can’t physically do what I want to do anymore, so keep doing what you enjoy and it will all work out ok. I want to emigrate and start over again and with Covid, I may not be able to get to where I want and need to be.

[@paulnicolaparua300]

Thank you for that. I'm 28 years old and I'm currently studying BS Mechanical Engineering. I'd been vacant for 7 years and now, I'm turning 4th year college. I'm still in disbelief and feeling proud of myself. I was really depressed before about my life but now I've just proven that nothing is impossible as long as you trust yourself and you have big faith in God. ☺

[@nomadikmind3979]

Im 31 as well, definitely feeling behind, not feeling the motivation or even direction to make myself the best me......and 31 feels so freaking old, feels like Im running out of time

[@mindrolling24]

Matt Klaus 31! Seriously, it’s no age at all. I wish I could go back just 10 years and reboot my life. The best thing you can do right now is take care of your health so that when you do find out where or what you desire, you’ll be in good shape. Losing one’s health is more of a hindrance than the number of candles on your birthday cake, believe me! Good luck and don’t be so hard on yourself x

[@dxddypsychoe5878]

I just turned 18. Many are a lot older than me in these comments and probably think my life hasn’t even begun yet- but I still feel this way. I’m so confused and overwhelmed about my adulthood starting, and I’m all by myself. I never thought I was going to be alive this long if I am being honest, but I am here and I am going to make it. Everything will happen in its divine timing, just believe in it and yourself ❤️

[@emmastone8779]

Im 19, same age as you now, and I feel this ❤

[@dasmama9909]

@@emmastone8779 same bruh

[@EnbyAnnoyance]

I turned 18 a few months back. I am currently just overwhelmed by other people's achievements; I don't know if I'll ever amount to anything. I am just glad to know that I am not alone in this.

[@mimmi3995]

I remember when i was 18!, My advice to u is that time goes by fast, and u should continue study because or else u will work a minimum wage job . Trust me . Start today

[@cvfox72]

Im 19, single and still living with my parents. Im also jobless. Im trying so hard lately to just keep going. Im already tired of it all. Keep your chin up tho.

[@snehal8648]

'I feel like I have to remind myself every day' resonates so well with me, because I keep coming back to this video again and again, just to remind myself that life isn't linear and I have to follow with my own pace.

[@trendkill3333]

As an 18 year old who doesn’t have a clue what I want to do for a career this video really helped me. Thanks for this man.

[@SurvivingAnotherDay]

I'm in the same boat, so lets try and not sink!

[@geekygirl2596]

I knew what I wanted to be at 18, and I still want to be that. Life had other plans. Now I'm 26. So 7 years and 1 psychotic break later, I'm living in a new town I kinda hate honestly and I have no job.🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️😔😔❤

[@1234marryjane]

geeky girl 25 shit happens. I know the feeling. You got this.

[@captainpinky8307]

start your own business or become a consultant. that's where the most money and with the less work is.

[@trenchrock]

I'm 36 and I have no idea what I want to do with my life either....

[@lmena12]

"Comparison is the thief of joy" - Theodore Roosevelt

[@excelsior8682]

I misread that as "compassion" and had to do a double take lmao

[@chobitsotaku5613]

Wish my mum knew that my whole life.

[@Mrbasscarrot]

He was quoting the bible 👍🏼

[@lmena12]

@@Mrbasscarrot well I guess even a broken clock is right twice a day

[@excelsior8682]

@@lmena12 Irrelevant data

[@DavidJones-oc3up]

I’m just seeing your videos for the first time, and I feel you man. I just turned 54 a couple of months ago, and I wish I had learned the same lesson about life when I was your age. All I can do now is focus on having a better and happier future.

[@chiclids]

I’m 39 years old and I realize that I’m actually doing just fine even though I still live with my mother I found out who I truly am and I’m actually living every moment as much as possible and life is too short to worry too much about what you want to do in life I find that if you just realize that you are still doing well there’s nothing to worry in pretty soon down the line you will evolve. We all are only human and it’s important for us to acknowledge ourselves that we are doing great it’s important to be grateful Of every little thing that means a lot little things can have big memories and big accomplishment.

[@kiritk1801]

Same I live with my father . Thanku for your kind words.

[@lehonyy2428]

social media really makes us feel left out or behind in life

[@matsyever2979]

@The Metalhead Same here and I am 48. I´ve realized that I ll never have a career in my life. That's a daily fight against frustration. On the other hand, cause I know things will not change I try to find joy from other things. I mean. Still we are lucky. And so much to enjoy.

[@NoorJasmine]

Ya its people’s highlight real not reality.

[@exo_nct_wayv_redvelvet]

agree. whenever i see posts about trips and social events i get very sad. i keep wishing to have what they have, then i stopped looking at instagram and facebook. i don't have this envious feeling anymore. people post things to get likes, to get attention but my life isn't like theirs and that's nothing wrong with it. i have my own time to reach my goals. that's the only thing that should matter.

[@__-tz6xx]

Delete your social media. I feel so much better without it.

[@Lemurs]

Danny B you watching yt rn

[@darryllai7492]

this video really did struck a chord for me. i have never considered where my lack of self love came from as well. Truth is, I'm scared. I'm scared that I'm not using my time in the best way possible. I'm scared that everyday, I'm unconsciously closing down more and more opportunities that I could have taken. I'm scared that more than anything, I don't or won't have a true friend. And i think the pure vulnerability of the situation makes me want to distract myself by any means possible; food, youtube, tv, hobbies

[@LoveIXTC]

Wow i did not thought that someone would feel pretty much the same as i do.

[@nikop4308]

Darryl Lai my name is Nikolao I am Brasilian Italian lives in uk , and in my 44 years all my life u am Growing And being pay atention in my Life, and I realise All words you said I am relate as well, and in love all efforts and Sensitiveness and All , fails .. I feel so down must days, but i try to be good man and Best person EVERYSINGLE day of my life. I do the best I can 🙏

[@wheretheyhaveribs55]

You read my life. 😢

[@esteehanvey5647]

I feel that way too. I waste so much time, but the whole time I’m wasting it I’m feeling guilty about the time I’m wasting.

[@madelaine191]

Just describe me

[@lauranowak3632]

For me it’s always 2 steps forward and 3 steps back. However, you make amazing points and I hope we all get there!

[@reannaparker5705]

Moments like these are really amazing. This is what I was feeling right now and here you are! 2 years since you posted this and yet it popped up exactly when I needed it. I am really grateful you decided to post this ❤

[@TheRightWay11]

_"If you're in a hurry, you will never get there."_

[@foreman_spike]

That doesn’t apply to every situation. 👎🏻

[@manjubashinimarkandumanjub1295]

But at times it make sense ..

[@foreman_spike]

manjubashini Markandu manjubashini have you ever been late for work? Cause I have. I hurried and then I got there.

[@manjubashinimarkandumanjub1295]

Michael Dublanko very true.. n I also hurried in my career... cleared all my papers hurriedly and now I feel I’m not ready to take next step as a specialist bcox I feel I’m not ready ... so in my case I feel it make sense.. haha 😂

[@carmenmorgan0220]

its supposed to be metaphorical guys 😅

[@cdepascale72]

In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.

[@alyzza1753]

🙁🙁🙁

[@emilysha418]

Thank you so much.

[@emeralddreams888]

The latter is such a difficult thing

[@collingwoodfan72]

What about how happy you were, how much you achieved, how you fulfilled your potential etc etc. The harder things to be satisfied about, but no less important

[@chriskirby7785]

Disagree but if that’s your mantra, more power to ya

[@MrBlue-cd8yw]

Man, you don't know how much I needed this right now. Thanks. It's just hard to accept that at this stage of life I don't know myself well. I've had a degree yes but still unsure if it's something that i want to do for the rest of my life. And the saddest thing is that I also know the fact that the people who believes in me even tho I myself don't are slowly aging. I know for the fact that someday they might be gone and I haven't proven them right. I always thought that I'm a failure that I'm not capable of achieving things. I feel the pressure while others are steady moving doing great in their life. I always say there's something for me but when will I get that. I'm racing against time not for me but for the people who trust me and believes in me. I need to get back to them let them feel the ease even tho a little provide something for them like they did to me. Truly, expectations leads to disappointment and I feel that most of the time but I smile and keep others positive while I'm drowning in my own thinking

[@chickentender49]

I’ve been told that I’m behind in life cuz I haven’t done what others have done. This includes having a driving license, love life etc. At first I felt embarrassed as others younger than me or the same age have theirs, or in general have accomplished stuff that I haven’t yet, to me it sounds stupid but gotta understand that everyone’s life is different and you shouldn’t be rushed to do something out of pressure just to “catch up” to feel better. Finding yourself and finding God will do that. Your time will come. It’s like is there a life checklist that must be completed by a certain age or time. God’s timing is perfect and we should be ourselves and do ourselves no matter what anyone says. Majority of society don’t posts their failures or down times so don’t let social media Rush you or make you feel a certain way… love this vid and everyone else out there keep pushing 👍👊❤️

[@moonridepyramid]

You are witnessing the end of materialism and the emergence of an era more consistent with wholeness and love.

[@x1warrior1x85]

I hope so, this world would become a much better place

[@hellcat3586]

I pray for this, we can all be the change

[@Summerbrah]

Hopefully, materialism is the enemy of happiness for me

[@AristonSparta]

Thank God. I am so sick of materialism and how it is contributing to so many problems on this Earth.

[@judisnyder4868]

Amen!

[@marcuswilson1230]

ive come back from the darkness. i just want to say to everyone dont give up.

[@MrJoon360]

Lovely piece of advice.

[@k3nfr0st39]

Keep up the good fight.

[@hannajmendoza8080]

Congrats! I am still in the dark but I feel like I can already see the end of the tunnel. Wish me happiness! ❤️

[@ryanadam7559]

I'm 31 I'm in completely dark with depression

[@ryanadam7559]

@@numberone6266 thanks number 1 I feel better now

[@toughluck8012]

I applaud you for being so open and honest and forthcoming with your vulnerabilities. Lord knows it takes a fair amount of courage to admit it

[@nayankonwar6043]

It completely resonates with me . Today I talked with a friend and I realised that his teens and 20s was great compared to my life - a lot of girls came into his life and I realised that where was I in those days , my religiousness background completely took away my days of joy. But thinking about it is not the solution ,I have to work on myself. ♥️

[@TrinhNguyen-qz6rp]

I’m 25 and still on my last year of university, i’ve just quit my last job and then had to stay home for 4 months because of Covid 19, spent all of my saving. Yesterday my mom told me that she was worried because i’m 25 yet still have nothing while many people at my age have accomplished a lot 😞 Im an INFP so i struggle a lot with my career choice, yet i feel like i can’t open with anyone about it

[@blessedfela1515]

I relate. at 26 and covid 19 has ensured i use all my saving with which i wanted to start a business with, currently jobless, with a degree, no connection a single mum......aaaaaai! but if things become too bad, am glad suicide will hug me.

[@maddkat792]

​@@blessedfela1515and @Trinh Nguyen, I am so sorry you guys are in such a hard spot right now, especially because this pandemic has affected your finances. However, you both are still young, and have much time on your side to figure it out. Life is not about the end goal, as that is an illusion, it's about the journey and the moments of FIGURING SHIT OUT AND TRYING SHIT OUT. Look, my brother is 26 and still lives at home with my parents. My parents are also worried about him because of what society says of where people should be by their mid 20s, but he just started working on getting a nursing degree right now, and I expect in years to come he will be a fine nurse living on his own. Even if he changes his mind, that's okay, he will eventually figure out something that works for him. I am also an INFP and have no idea what I am doing once I graduate (I'm 22) AND with little money saved. But in moments when I feel overwhelmed by it, I try to appreciate what I have in the present and recognize that making a decision as to what to do is better than not making any at all. Inaction is worse than actions of failures. And actions of failures aren't really failures because they help you realize what doesn't work and move you closer to what does. I will not deny that I am fortunate and have a family to lean on. This is why I think creating a small community of people that support you is so crucial, whether online or in person, if you feel alone in the endeavor of life. We all need people to help us smile through our darkest days or just listen to our complaints and offer some advice. They also serve to give us some perspective we aren't aware of. I honestly wish you both the best. You both are not alone and I hope you both reach out to more people on how you feel so you can truly get the help you both need AND DESERVE. I don't normally respond to youtube comments, but I didn't want to leave both of your suffering unaddressed. I, myself, was in depression last year, and made it out on the other side through routines, meditating, and a support system. It's different for everyone as to how they overcome it, but I hope you both find your solace. Lots of love from this gal

[@blessedfela1515]

@@maddkat792 thanks friend for the word

[@TrinhNguyen-qz6rp]

Madd kat omg how thoughtful you are ❤️! Thank you so much your words have inspired me a lot 😊 Wish we all may find our purposes 😇

[@tori5008]

Blessed Fela I'll be 26 on the 26th. I too have a degree in marketing with no experience/ connections. I was a waitress, but have been furloughed because of COVID and we're expected to go back on the 21st. I've been panicking because I haven't tried looking for a job to use my degree in and I'm so depressed because I'm scared to go back to working in a restaurant with this virus going on. I feel soooo hopeless and then I saw this video. Something will come out way when it's right!

[@ADI-xp4qe]

As an artist. I am very lathargic. Last year I always wanted time. I always wished for no more school days. And now that I have it all. I am a mess.

[@XenoDogg]

School always makes me feel alive. Human nature is to gain meaningful information and grow, even though school isn't necessary for that, it's the quickest way to that.

[@dawnross2514]

If we grow up in a very structured environment with constant expectations placed upon us, once those are removed we can feel out of control and a bit lost. I'm still learning how to put structure into my day. You might find this book helpful - The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron. Best wishes.

[@XenoDogg]

@@dawnross2514 The most beneficial structure and expectations are the ones you set for yourself, arguably they're the only ones that matter. But they're also the hardest to establish AND maintain. Equilibrium is such a hard thing to accomplish but when we do achieve that, I bet it feels better than anything our senses can give us

[@dawnross2514]

@@XenoDogg I bet it does, I hope I find out!

[@justjae4267]

This response could get turned into a song

[@matthewconti7253]

Just stumbled arcoss this video and it couldn't have been at a better time. Really helped me realize exactly what you said "everyone will go through this stage in life". Thank you fore taking the time to post something that can touch the hearts of people everywhere in the world.

[@WickedxAngel]

Just turned 23 last month & I feel behind even though I found my passion job last year ( trucking on the road ) I just feel like I should be in a different level in life. Goal is to have my own business by my late 20’s. But after seeing this video I feel a weight off my back especially where he says ‘stop measuring life’ he’s right. Thats a subconscious timeline we set on ourselves. Goodluck everyone!

[@Salamaleikum80]

You probably wonder what I was saying here

[@Nixie_536]

💜 🌱🙏

[@AmjadAbboud]

*to perpetuate the species, THEN keep us alive

[@Salamaleikum80]

@@AmjadAbboud To keep us alive THEN perpetuate the species.

[@alightbulb5528]

@@Salamaleikum80 to keep us alive to perpetuate our species

[@AmjadAbboud]

@@alightbulb5528 yeah, and then sacrifice ourselves for the species, so : 1) survive 2) perpetuate 3) survive if possible, otherwise sacrifice for species

[@NobleVagabond2552]

“The only difference between the student and the master is that the master has failed more times than the student has tried”

[@incel-simp]

awesome quote

[@michaelkariuki5350]

Wow...screenshot!

[@wahabmufidat3837]

Perfect

[@manyasharma0911]

I can't thank you enough for this, Nathaniel. Thanks for making my life more meaningful and full of magic. I hope we're all able to decipher the beautiful secrets of this universe and live life more profoundly.

[@naturalflow157]

Thank you for dropping this video. I keep coming back to it and I am always amazed how relatable it is no matter when you listen to it. Constant comparison and domestication by society standards have caused a lot of doubt I put onto myself. Whoever is reading it, don't be hard on yourself and be gentle with the journey you are on. Sending my love to all of you.

[@axel575]

Right, it's an illusion. When we compare less, we love more

[@stacykindja9186]

Kate S., Yes!! Comparison is the thief of joy. 💗

[@UTKARSHSINGH-ie2ur]

I am in college and I have been a lot depressed lately. I don't know what is the exact reason behind it.. But one such reason could be that some of my frnds are doing skill enhancement things, projects etc. And I think I am not doing anything as a such and maybe I am lacking behind them.. I don't know how to cope up with this negative mindset 😔

[@fibinphilip9810]

@@UTKARSHSINGH-ie2ur Then start investing in yourself buddy, take your time, see what your interests are, start grooming yourself and stop comparing yourself to other people cause everyone has different paths. Read books, start working out, invest in yourself.

[@UTKARSHSINGH-ie2ur]

@@fibinphilip9810 thanks for the suggestion.. It is indeed helpful but I am still not sure how to proceed further without getting myself over competitive with others and losing my purpose of life and peacefulness. I have been in a great stress nowadays, I think that people all around me are running a race even they themselves don't know to where it might end. Please suggest some more tips 😔, it might prove helpful for me

[@chinwesdiary9175]

thank you so much. am 32 yo and i always feel this way , feel so left behind seeing my mates marry, have kids . truly we cant calculate life.

One thing I've been thinking a lot lately: "You become calm when you understand yourself."

[@jordanjoseph3063]

My best friend just told me he got offered an amazing job literally half an hour ago and although I'm so happy for him, I've been in my head thinking "Holy shit all my friends are moving on with life and Im still working the job of a high-schooler" and this popped up in my recommended. Definitely gonna give it a watch

[@maevab4735]

Comparing yourself with friends is the worse! I have very talented friends, who I am so proud of, and I immediately feel guilty when I get the feeling that I am left behind, because I start to envy them. I just have to constantly remind myself to keep doing my best and try to achieve things by myself, for myself. I had that talk with a stranger who told me the fact that I choose to surround myself with people in constant improvement showed a lot about my personnality. We agreed it was a good thing that should encourage me to keep evolving, rather than put pressure on my tiny overthinking brain :)

[@loulou2302]

Same, most of my peers are accountants, attorneys, doctor, and here I am working in a minimum wage job. On my spare time I keep on sending application letter but haven't succeeded getting a new job since it's the middle of pandemic. 😔

[@maevab4735]

@@loulou2302 it's ok, you'll make it! Keep going and giving your best, but also don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it! 😁 it's currently a bad period, but try to make the best out of it if I can say so

[@judyjaques4243]

At first, I thought you said it "pooped" up in my notification. I died laughing

[@coffeerevival7812]

Maybe moving on in life for you is finally organizing your living space, or learning a new language or making amends with a loved one. The biggest take away I got from this video is we all have our own unique measuring stick for success and happiness. I hope you keep discovering your “moving on’s”both small and grand.

[@MsJmo19]

Don't stop and keep moving forward. Thank you for sharing this and helping me know I'm not the only one

[@saraneese1041]

I’m 19 and tonight I felt a sudden and extreme amount of weight surrounding the idea that I should have already been preparing for my future (ex. building my credit, investing money for retirement, saving up as much as I can to pay for school, etc.) In short, I’m feeling like I am behind and I have to start catching up on lost time. Thank you for this video, it helps to know I am not alone in this.

[@keishme585]

I started crying in silence after this thinking, "oh... it wasn't just me..."

[@howardlagat1465]

Be yourself,never compare your life to other people's lives,it takes away joy

[@emmanuel_j612]

Your not alone,,, I cry at least once a week trying to understand things

[@Dbarr311]

Your not alone!

[@smallsneakers7000]

Same, right now hahhaa

[@pandulani]

It is never only you

[@MioHasMoe]

Wow, KZbin recommend the perfect video to me. Been dealing with this feeling for years.

[@greenricky4782]

Jess I'm just starting to feel it started at 18-20.

[@usmanmughal3898]

Same

[@gregoryjones9506]

@@hillaryngo-tran6299 don't push your religious commentary on other people

[@josephscott1870]

@@greenricky4782 im 25 and the feeling is still there, i dont compare myself to others (or at least try to) i just feel behind on my own goals

[@nyarirokenneth2520]

I am 23 and feel stuck. Looking myself up for in the house and just feeling worthless but after watching this video I feel a little bit of relief. I will not beat myself up anymore.

[@stanleydenning]

Well said and very truthful. Never measure yourself by the standards of others. Instead, measure yourself by the standards of who you are and not what others expect you to be. Otherwise, you are going to fight a losing battle. Love yourself, no matter who you are. You are you. you are special. YOU are one of a kind. Look into a mirror and tell yourself, " I love you."

[@Bashtiks]

30 years and I still trying to figure out who I am and what I wanna be in life ... its good to know We are not alone in this :)

[@DarkisArt]

Bashtiks ha ha. I had a mid life crisis at 35yrs old. I’m 39 now & still figuring things out. And is not for lack of trying! :) much luck to u! 🌸

[@emmanuelledaavila8321]

@@DarkisArt how did you do it ? To find perspective in life ?

[@franciscojavierzoritaparam9020]

It is similar for me too, I am 31 years old.

[@blu3j00Ls]

Same. Still clawing towards the light at the end of the tunnel.

[@Baldoxxx4000]

just dont get married, yet, or else youll be in hell.

[@esparda07]

"Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken."

[@ahhwe-any7434]

Be yourself. Everyone else is miserable.

[@johnalexisfranco8265]

Not yet taken lol

[@gilmarkirsten8941]

so human and vulnerable, thank you ❤️

[@Florencecoxx]

Sometimes you have to fail to succeed, Most times it amazes me greatly how I moved from an average lifestyle to earning over $63k per month, Utter shock is the word. I have understood a lot in the past few years that there are lots of opportunities in the financial market. The only thing is to know where to invest.

[@BeverlyTalley]

I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate or stocks.

[@izagdlife]

I keep wondering how people earn money in financial markets, i tried trading bitcoin on my own made a huge loss and now I'm scared of investing more.

[@Florencecoxx]

@@izagdlife That won't bother you if you trade with a professional like *Mr Gary Mason Brooks* my coach, you may have come across him on interviews relating to bitcoin and stocks. He trades, manage trading account and offer mentorship program for clients who wish to become professional investors.

[@izagdlife]

@@Florencecoxx You allow people to trade for you? that's interesting, I would love to learn, hope it’s safe?

[@susanhaynes679]

Wow I can't believe you guys are discussing about Gary Mason Brooks , I once met him at a conference in California 2019, just before the pandemic. I can testify that he’s very good in trading..Highly recommended

[@TheJamezay]

Being a 90s kid i grew up through not having smartphones, social media and comparisons to others, i was happy in my heart even without much but essentials and friends. Now i know how horrible and demonic social media and the modern world is for people's health and happiness. Anyone reading this do not compare yourself to anyone but who you were yesterday, I truly love each and every one of you and I hope you truly learn to fully accept and love yourself too xx ❤🤗 Lets be strong together

[@2-tonekit18]

Great message 😊🙏🏽💪🏽

[@mistygirl4961]

Thanks 🥺

[@TheJamezay]

@@2-tonekit18 Thank you, hope you are well 😊🙏

[@TheJamezay]

@@mistygirl4961 You are so welcome my friend ❤🤗

[@2-tonekit18]

@@TheJamezay hey James, doing great over here, hope you are too. I loved your insightful comment, it's really inspiring and eye-opening in so many ways😉

[@martinvarner]

After high school, back in 2018, I was overwhelmed as to how many responsibilities were laid into my life. So overwhelmed that I did nothing for 2 and a half years. As time went on, I started feeling like a total failure. Every family gathering, I would get bombarded with questions as to what exactly I was going to do in life. Thanks for this video man, it really helped out

[@hortencepauni9704]

I think after high school we get to see that life isn't a straight line as we thought it was.

[@albertcastaneto7245]

❤️

[@chrisberry7712]

With life, like everything else, I find that it’s quality and not quantity that matters. Your life is yours to live, no-one else’s, simply beat peace in whatever you do.

[@HarmonyLaskoCoolChicVids14]

I can relate. during my senior year of high school I was so depressed and didn't even apply to universities, and now I regret it so much(granted, I probably wouldn't have survived university buy oh well 🤷)

[@dustinemerzian5989]

This was my life. Smoked away my government assistance staying at my grandparents house for 3 years after rehab the first time, which started after rehab. But the root cause was just being overwhelmed. "Edit" After getting my shit together and my ass off drugs, I can now say. No I wasn't overwhelmed, I was stupid and addicted and making bad decisions. My fault.

[@geeyeahyeah]

I love going back to this whenever I feel like I'm crumbling. Thank you, Nathaniel, you articulate what I need to hear so well.

[@MrAvaraa]

Loved this Nathaniel. You crushed the message. We all need to have the humility to express ourselves fully, and remeber that purpose, the source of positive emotions, and right things, are meant to give also greatly enjoyment.

[@ahaibeh91]

I’m 28 and almost 7 years into a 3 year degree. I’m unemployed and still live at home. I just feel so stuck in life.

[@michaelaureliusbrutus8445]

You are doing fine and you are loved by someone, thats moore than many people have.

[@mylegguy8115]

Just finish

[@3bydacreekside]

Pfft I'm almost 23 and have no aspirations for college what so ever, just do what you want, or don't. Nothing is going to bite you if you stop or start it up again, by now, it's mostly disconnected from you, so why continue with this 'degree'?

[@harryiii3361]

Hey I've heard of people who take plenty of extra time on their degree. Its certainly not what most people do but don't feel especially alone in your situation. Are you close to being finished? Maybe take a break for a while and just work for maybe a year and see how you feel at the end. Might give you the opportunity to move out. You could then continue to work part time and finish studying part time as well.

[@gladnessmanana4568]

Wow. Someone I can totally relate to... I'm in a similar situation. Except I'm 27 and about to graduate from a distance learning institution. Yet I feel even more depressed than I was during the six years of doing my degree. A lot of it is because of the people around me. Family and relatives. Their expectations of where I'm supposed to be and hurtful comments about where I am. Comparing me to people younger than me who studied completely different programmes than I have. And so I've cut them off over the years. For my own sanity. I'm praying for a job that's in a city far away from my own where no-one knows me or my history, so I can start living for nobody else but myself. Trust me when I tell you that you are not alone. Just hang in there and keep working at it. Everything will fall into place in the end.

[@laoisemeehan]

I just finished college and didn’t enjoy it. I want to do art. I have no friends and my mom is an alcoholic . I found this video helpful. Thank you.

[@xDelirio1231]

Keep going and do your best to follow your dream. You will inspire others with your art! Wishing you the best through these hard times

[@laoisemeehan]

xDelirio1231 thanks I found this helpful 😊 I hope I can inspire people with art

[@laoisemeehan]

Filip Popovic thanks ;)

[@trendkill3333]

Plough on through and you’ll get there mate, all the best. I hope your mother gets the help she needs soon, that must be hard to witness.

[@laoisemeehan]

555666 thanks it means a lot. I have to say it might be one of the hardest things I will ever have to experience

[@iabenimay]

Thank you so much for this video. As someone who compares herself alot, it is relieving to know that everyone at some point in their life has felt this way.

[@pazuzu126]

I just turned 40 and have been struggling with feeling very behind. I have been focused on all the boxes you should supposedly have checked off at this age. Thank you very much for this reminder about what is really important in life.

[@iseektruth64]

When you live in a world with numerous 20-something multi millionaires who the media is always flashing in your face, what do you expect? Of course you're going to constantly feel behind in life. I'm sitting here in my mid 50's thinking, when I was in my 20's I felt lucky to be where I was in life compared to the rest of my family and peers. And I didn't even make over 30k until I was well into my 30's!

[@sansiveria578]

You think that the cars and houses are all paid for? They're all rented. Kim Kardashian made her money from a sex tape, pimped out by her own mother. It's all smoke and mirrors to make the masses believe they've worked hard for what they have.

[@Caio-sw7hh]

@@sansiveria578 they made their fame with the tape they were already rich b4 lol

[@DeniseHoukMedia]

I don't make over 30k and I'm 49...

[@Seasonal-Shadow_4674]

Not just millionaires, just the media showing everything and generalizing how people have been using their times

[@seorwhite3333]

@@DeniseHoukMedia I make 0k

[@Divineshot]

KZbin knows me better then I know me... great video! Needed this.

[@briandiehl9257]

That's because unlike you, Google never forgets a single thing you do

[@MsJeanneMarie]

Divineshot 314 hahaha I know, that's what I thought. How does KZbin know I feel this way?!

[@Youtibeviewer]

Google is always listening...

[@sapientfury6781]

Google is all our big brother.

[@mrunal6364]

"It's a measuring stick based on the success of others" the best i could ever listen to. Thank you. Now onwards i am comparing myself only to the person i was yesterday. I know I am better than yesterday. And tomorrow i will be even better. 🌼

[@mayabayewitch1686]

I’ve had this video on repeat all morning. I’m a 20 year old art college student who constantly feels behind in comparison to my peers. But I’m doing my best and trying my hardest, and that’s all I can do. Thank you for posting this video, I come back to it every once and a while to remind myself that everything will be okay.

[@kashishjava3003]

Same same

[@servantofKRISHNAforever]

@@kashishjava3003 Bhai tu bhee Indian hai na !

[@marianojunioralcondoregosa9067]

How are you doing right now?

[@anoushiravannarvani5857]

That's just anxious thoughts usually successful people have when they are 20...You will go places...I'm sure. I'm also a little jealous.

[@r4tgl]

At 37, I can unfortunately relate. Life goes by so very fast. Make meaningful memories and keep searching for your shooting star.

[@nia.narcisse.comics641]

Keep trying. Your still young enough...

[@deepeshchetwani6250]

37 is not old u are young. U can stay young till 55 if u workout and take care of yourself

[@corylemons7242]

I’m 32 and just lost a good job. I’m beyond hopeless right now. I’ve just realized that yes, life does pass you by.

[@chrisberry7712]

@@deepeshchetwani6250 I’m sixty four, going on six! Age is a stare of mind!

[@zoldyck.q]

And I am not even 20 yet and I feel like I am wasting my time bruh

[@Rock72Man]

I agree I have always hated that question. "Where do you see yourself in 10yrs" i think the same as you, its impossible to predict what i will be doing in 10yrs, i may not be even here then.

[@TiffanyRay]

nobodies gonna know what happens in the future we cant predict it

[@melinawoi6621]

Of course life is unpredictable but I believe that this question also holds a lot of potential of you setting a realistic goal for the future. It makes clear that some important desicions in the present may affect the outcome later on.

[@yellowmelancholy4875]

I’ve always hated that question. I’m just trying to get through today.

[@bringmusktomarz749]

Thank your for making this 5 years later your still helping people like my self I'm glad this video reminded me that we are all on our own journey

[@brunamsilva]

Thank you for this video! I feel like I'm never good enough or that I'm always too slow in what I do. In addition to the imposter syndrome in relation to my value as a professional. Thanks again for these comforting videos.

[@adrianflory4516]

"behind what?"-- Whos measuring stick are we using?" Liked that.

[@dougyeefresh87]

It's societies standard. You'll never live up to it.

[@majingamer6109]

We live in a society

[@egeniojaramillo9048]

As if we are incapable of measuring ourselves based on our own internal ideals of what we know we are capable of....

[@aghasemoa8878]

Staying at home for nearly a month in quarantine gets you thinking and feeling things that are new to you. Everyone's making art, developing a skill, acquiring a language etc. It made me feel like I need to work on something too - that I constantly need to improve myself or my craft, knowing that the virus is still out there. This video really opened my mind to the perspective that we shouldn't constantly pressure ourselves in doing something like what the others are doing. In the middle of this pandemic, it's okay to worry for yourself and your family's safety without having to worry about reading 20 books or learning 5 languages. Anyways, after assuring your safety and security amidst the pandemic, do what you want. And if you don't want to do anything, that's fine too.

[@anitakayi297]

I can really relate. Thank you

[@shihab1997]

Triple LIKE to this! Thank you for pointing this out because it makes so much sense and something i can very much relate to! Really appreciate you for posting this!

[@sk1nnybonez]

MeteoriteSS AAA same here

[@dhirajgawande007]

Seriously

[@beimnetalemu4939]

I needed this❤❤

[@Scottfromscotlandx]

Perfectly articulated how I've been feeling lately, I dont know why it gets to me so much or why I let it get to me, I think it I never feel surrounded by such like minded people as when I am in a KZbin comment section of videos like this.

[@kevoaks]

Extremely well spoken and hitting home. The detachment from ego and self is very evident in how you speak. You earned a fan 👌🏼💯

[@Bankz12]

It's all societal. People are conditioned to believe that life is all about this race. And everything that you're saying is 100% correct. Life is not designed specifically to be lived out one way.

[@celestialgoddess8055]

well said! I agree! 😊

[@foldingwishes]

This is so true. The idea of this race, on being successful with kids, or of fulfilling some purpose, is something that naturally emerged as the ultimate goal for happiness, because this idea benefits society as a whole. It's an idea that won't necessarily benefit you as an individual, though. Each individual is going to have a slightly different pace that works for them, a different path to happiness and contentment.

[@esperanzaporio6938]

@@foldingwishes I need to hear this thank you..