For People Who Feel Behind In Life 🏃🏿

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[@shanikapowell6672]

" without the structure of that institution I have no idea how to gauge progress." SO TRUE

[@Regimeshifts]

that line captured exactly how i feel about things. i like everything i do, but have no way of judging if its 'good progress'.

[@madelineanon5952]

THIS! That line struck a cord with me on a personal level.

[@Chris-wj4ze]

You measure progress by having goals.

[@shanikapowell6672]

that's the point of that line. institutions set goals for you. when you have to set your own goals it's harder to place value in them. at least that's the case for me.

[@dartarro21]

Or how to have structure in my life...I find without structure I don't do well

[@akira081971]

46 year old here. Your life, goals, and dreams will always change. When it stops changing, you are dead.

[@LeniJayTalks]

akira081971 Lol! Well said.

[@evealicia5645]

So true im the same age here.

[@LoveBran189]

akira081971 Thank you!

[@jkyoung7801]

here I am going back to school at 37 and freaking out

[@actinglikeseals]

Great advice! "When you are finished changing, you are finished"

[@TotallyTrista]

🎋When a Chinese bamboo tree is planted, you don't see any growth, or activity during the first year. Imagine watering and caring for a tree...and NOTHING! Year 2 goes by, no growth! You're still watering and caring for this tree. Year 3 and 4 still no growth!!! Then after 5 years this tree grows 80ft in 6 weeks! All that time when you couldn't visibly see the growth, the tree was planting its roots deep so that when it did grow outwardly, it could be strong and able to withstand whatever! When it (whatever your "it" is) happens, it's going to happen in a big way, and guess what....you'll be ready!!! 🎋

[@tracyreadytv]

Yeeeees!!!

[@nikkis8102]

Wow! I needed to hear this today

[@lovelyA933]

This made me cry, thank you so much!!!

[@dayrey3357]

U just changed my life!! Thanks!!!!

[@pinksparkle6891]

Thank you for this comment! Wish you all the best!

[@DMRoper1]

"All that schooling. Not a lot of learning." Yes, I know what you are saying. Thanks for your video. It's inspiring.

[@tinamarie2484]

Dawn Marie Roper So true!

[@conjestion]

Being an honor student in hs, it really frustrates me that I am behind. My hs class mates are lawyers, doctors, mothers or public servant/activist. Here I am still struggling to support my parents and to pay for my brother's college expenses. I have nothing for myself. I am getting tired of life at 26.

[@anniesok868]

Diyes_Celine I'm sorry 😢 I'm 27 and completely left behind too.

[@Kayjay1392]

Even though I know how exhausting that can feel, it's rewarding too. Keep on keeping on, be not weary in well doing, for in due season you will reap your reward. Save as much as you can, and treat yourself once in a while. I'm 25 and in a similar position.

[@ESWilliams09]

Why can't your brother pay for his own?

[@adamboyle1050]

I was an AP student in high school as well. If I would have known better I would have spent my time doing something more important, like daydreaming........ wasting time, writing a best-seller novel. Something more entertaining than wasting my life away solving Calculus problems, writing elegant essays that only my teacher enjoyed, etc. Now what do I do with that? Nothing. At least understanding what is going on planet Earth as a whole has me feeling less guilt, knowing that life is not going right because it's designed not to go right. There's a reason you're not supposed to compare yourself with others, they are successful because they follow the program. There's a reason they are not the most intelligent, most skilled, or most qualified. They are the ones that complete x y and z, the way others complete x y and z, in x y and z order. That's why they are all the same: prototypical lawyers, doctors, mothers. They won't make the world a better place.

[@conjestion]

ESWilliams09 it's in our culture that the eldest child from a poor family becomes the breadwinner once he/she starts earning. Don't even ask how old my brother now.

[@Pocketdekuwu]

I am 25 never had a real job Still Live with my parents Have literally no local friends And get shame for it everyday. I can't keep a relationship I have horrible social anxiety and depresión However this fall I will go back to college and finish it, I may finish at 27-28 but who cares at least I will finish. I know its gonna be hard since college= lots of people but I need this for myself.

[@daijhamccollum]

Me but I'm a high school sophmore

[@brandih7924]

I'm proud of you for not giving up. I wish you success on getting your degree. God bless

[@Ava_sava]

I have a job and still live with my mom. I justify it by the fact that it doesnt make sense to pay $500/month to live around the corner alone. I say alone, because I can't do roomates. I also don't feel comfortable leaving my family behind..sooo here I am.

[@SeiichirouUta]

I live just over the street from my mum's place. By myself. But not alone. I can visit her whenever I want. I can stay in my flat for days without seeing anyone, if I want to. But if it gets out of hand, I know she will be coming over, making sure I'm ok. Of course she can do and have all those things, too. So we both benefit from this. And at the same time I know that I am able to pay my rent and other bills, take care of my household, my appointments, my job... that I can fend for myself. This gives me a big portion of selfesteem. I moved out of my family's home when I was 18, still in school. Just because I wanted to. That was 21 years ago. I moved in with someone else twice, but moved out again because that's simply not for me. Introverted quite a bit. :D Now I'm in a wonderful relationship with an amazing, loving man, but we both prefer living alone. Haven't regretted moving out early and living by myself once. 9/10, can only recommend, would do again.

[@thisismysea]

It's 2 years after you left this comment and I hope you're seeing the benefits of working on your goals now! I also graduated college at 28. Something I'm still working on accepting is that not everyone's path unfolds on the same timeline. I've done more with my career than I imagined possible and it hasn't ended up mattering that I didn't get started at the same time as my peers.

[@yessicaacuna]

I'm 23 and I am LOST IN LIFE. I don't know what I want to do with my life. All I want is a sign to know which path I should take, but nothing has happened! Everyone I know either got engaged, are married, have kids, graduated college, etc, and I feel like I'm the only one frozen in time. Ugh, this is so frustrating!

[@Yotuber006]

literally sameeee

[@toxendon]

Started college last year when I was 23. Won't be done until i'm 26. Dealing with over eating problems, anxiety and economic problems. Barely keeping my head above water. My friend and roommate is almost done with a master's degree in IT and will buy a house next year. Sometimes I hate myself. But then I read all of these comments telling similar stories and I just say "hey, that's not too bad!" only realizing that I'm hating myself for being in the same situation as them. Don't put yourself down, we are our own worst critics. I feel frozen in time too. But it will get better if we just push one change at a time. Now I'm only focusing on graduating, and then I'll worry about the next thing.

[@joanna4714]

Yessica Acuna same. 😭

[@LeniJayTalks]

Yessica Acuna You're not frozen in time. Everybody's life walk/journey is different. We are all different and therefore will experience different things in life. Just go at your own pace. I have a video called "feeling stuck", check it out sometime; it might help you.

[@frankenbarbiexo923]

Yessica Acuna i'm 23 and my fiancé left me in january and i moved back in with my mom and little sister. i sat and would just zone out wonder what the fuck am i gonna do now. i was so lost in who i was where i was gonna go. i can say i found myself as an individual but i can't say i know wtf i want to do with my life. don't worry girl we got this. it's all going to be okay.

[@joymechell277]

"How does Serena do it , she had thighs , right ?"

[@roklov9]

Joy Mechell she needs to put that on a shirt girl I'd buy it! Lol

[@joymechell277]

roklov9 I would too 😂😂😂👌🏾👌🏾

[@nomadicvibesofelle]

Joy Mechell yes she has to put that on a fitness t-shirt and make some money

[@joymechell277]

Shaquita Fanning they would sell like hot cakes 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾😂😂😂 I loved that part . Serena's legs are goals

[@anlu3365]

Joy Mechell girl those two sister have EVERYTHING! Booty, thigh,career, boyfriends...and now a baby is coming..cant wait

[@3xoticx]

'When do I graduate from this stage in my life? And what am I graduating to?' Deep..

[@zzshinelle]

I'm only 21, but I can't shake this same feeling 😕. Seeking direction.

[@HaileyDrake1988]

don't know if your religious at all, but if you are be sure to follow direction from God, and your own heart

[@blocked2327]

or follow the direction of hideto matsumoto

[@LeniJayTalks]

Zakoya Hey, I have a video on my channel called, "Feeling stuck? Who's directing your life?" Check it out. It might help you. Blessings and take care.

[@NeeshaShakeera]

I'm 33 and I relate to this video on all levels. Everyone is married, having kids or trying to and I'm here wondering what new Taco Bell limited edition meal I wanna try next. I'm just trying to understand how not to compare my journey to others. Just tryin to enjoy life now in this current stage. Also, this is the way to do sponsored content. Love it!

[@BeatJunkie47]

The new naked chicken chips at TB are worth every penny.

[@YAHSCharity]

This is so me! Will be 34 in September I really have been feeling like a straight failure in life but out here getting excited they built a taco bell so close to my house where I can eat $1 spicey tostadas in less than a 5 minute drive.

[@NeeshaShakeera]

BeatJunkie47 I need to try that now lol

[@NeeshaShakeera]

YAHSCharity they are building a Popeyes near my place and I got so excited. I keep checking the lot whenever I drive by to see their progress. You aren't a failure. None of are.

[@YAHSCharity]

I don't know what that sauce is on it but it gives it this smokey flavor and with a $1.00 drink during happy hour my hunger is satisfied.

[@jackieruffino817]

"I told myself I'd run a marathon by 25. Guess who's turning 27" I can sooooo relate hun! Thanks for the laugh.

[@ashlinluvsaries]

I needed that moment lol. It's a lot that I wanted to do before and never did, that I'm just realizing it's okay that I actually don't want to do now lmao

[@mynameisuju]

i see ted talks in your future Evelyn. i sooo hope you get there

[@thewritergrl]

Amen

[@intheblinkofaneye1912]

I was just thinking that!

[@browngirlmeg640]

She’s amazing!! I’m sure she is going to Go far

[@therealkenj98]

"When do I graduate from this stage in life" goodness that's scary to hear out loud because it's true how the hell does one really know when they've reached a new level? Wow. Great video.

[@therealkenj98]

I'm trying to understand how to be an actual adult. Like, does adult-ing even exist? I'm 18, I just graduated high school last week, and life is really scaring me.

[@DreaChin]

JustKenn yesss this yess

[@design401]

JustKenn Just follow your dreams and passions. Everything else won't satisfy. It's our life's work. Go and be great. ❤

[@therealkenj98]

Antoinette Daniels thank you so much for the motivation!

[@therealkenj98]

stx btx excuse me because I may come off as being rude, but I have written down all of my goals. Many of us went to a high school with few people who cared about us. I have goals, I've written them down but sometimes what you write might not happen. Sometime .... time moves extremely fast, sometimes people become confused, nervous, and undecided about what they even want to do. You know...being human and all.

[@davideurope736]

This video always pops up right on time. 2 failed jobs, sitting here jobless. Watching peers kill it, trying to be happy for em but it's tough. I shall continue power walking on through tho right? Lol

[@zozoc5795]

I hope your process has led you where you hoped to be

[@nella10123]

David, how are things going now?

[@davideurope736]

@@nella10123 better to some degree. More at peace. Seeing some potential light at the end of tunnel. Still struggling with comparison but being off social.media entirely helps greatly with that. So overall, better 👍🏾

[@nella10123]

@@davideurope736 Thanks, I recently turned 23 and have no idea what Im doing with my life. But your reply helped though :)

[@davideurope736]

@@nella10123happy to help. do what you can to better yourself and give it time for everything else. I still have a long way to go at 28 but I know it will get better. It will for you too.

[@Evelynfromtheinternets]

I might have enough footage to make a part 2. 🌾👀🌾 Also taking sports bra suggestions bc GIRL.

[@NadiaDonella]

enell.com/ For sports bra. Expensive but I hear worth it. Or just double up with a sturdy regular bra then a tight (one size down) sports bra over that. It's sweaty but will keep the girls immobile.

[@Precious211]

I would love to see a part 2 Evelyn! You're the best!

[@Dotthel]

Enell wait till its on sale though

[@ladylucia85]

Hi Evelyn! I swear by a company called Moving Comfort. The Juno is my style of choice. I'm a 32DDD and it keeps them locked in place even during high impact sports. thanks so much for this video.

[@B4Y2K]

Jambo, Evelyn! First, I have enjoyed your videos for quite a while, though I rarely (as in never) comment. That said, why, yes, I do have suggestions, lol. Personally I like high-impact because I run, underwires because of the structure and support they give and insist upon racer-back/y-back for freedom of movement. I am not sure of your budget but...from afar I admire Title Nine and Wacoal. What I do have are these www.ebay.com/itm/Womens-High-Impact-Workout-Running-Powerback-Support-Underwire-Sports-Bra-/192083094589?var=&hash=item2cb90b6c3d:m:mtn6sT9cH2icmZzX3S3Jqew They're under$20, take about two weeks to arrive from China, and they work GREAT! No more bounce! You'll want to go running everyday and feel as light as an A-cup!

[@joymechell277]

Leave it to Evelyn to make me laugh and feel on top of the world simultaneously 😂😂😂😂 I can't with her 💀💀 its to early in the morning for this

[@little_tish8452]

I'm 36 and never been to college but always wanted to. Never travelled even though I've always wanted to. The rest of this year I'm working like a crazy person and saving then start of next year I'm off solo travelling. Then next year I'm gonna do college as well. My point being you just gotta keep working on it and you'll get there when you're meant to

MsEliza dashwood You and I Both. Same boat. Love this comment! 🌹

[@BigBL5150]

MsEliza dashwood me too❤

[@CHOCOCAT8444]

MsEliza dashwood please document this...

[@albilevizm]

yeeeey! exciting! i am also planning to visit some new country (been only to 2 countries in my life). good luck!

[@2Bonita08]

I am very glad I finished a Bachelor's Degree BUT I would suggest to anyone considering an education to take the enjoyable classes with targeted career choices in mind. I loved the arts but a Liberal Arts degree is virtually worthless. That degree and $3.00 will get me a cup of coffee. Still, I would go back and do a Masters in Art Therapy in a heartbeat. LOVED college so don't wait. Now I just wanna travel.

[@misprinc1928]

I am 23 years old and in Facebook I see my graduating class getting married, starting families, graduating college, moving out, starting careers, developing businesses and traveling. And here's sad me as a single mother to a three year old, living in my moms house, forty pounds overweight, and waiting to see if I'm getting approved for the nursing program in July (I'm on the waiting list, got denied in march, reapplied)...when will my life get better lord? I feel like I'm stuck

[@Yotuber006]

Shaahazadee Khaaliq literally in the same boat🙏

[@Mikadabaddest1]

Shaahazadee Khaaliq awww keep pushing love things will get better, if your looking for motivation and an opportunity to change your life you should consider being apart of a business called TOTAL LIFE CHANGES and the name speaks for its self!! Follow me on Instagram if you'll like to know more kerrilayne_

[@misprinc1928]

surgedeb thank you for your kind words 😀

[@pammmeee9055]

Shaahazadee Khaaliq You are about to be a nurse! That's great!

[@kenyankreuno9894]

The funny thing is,everyone is really struggling in his/her own way.However,the grass on the other side always look greener,,,like all the time...you are doing as fine.Never doubt you pace From Kenya

[@fabell6]

I'm the same age, trying to learn the same life lesson: being ok with where I'm at, not comparing myself to everyone who seem "farther ahead"

[@QueenRed2023]

Faith Bell same here sis!

[@SabrinaFaith]

Faith Bell So am I 👍

[@HanhNguyen-uk8bc]

I'm 26, haven't managed to find a full time job let alone something career-wise. I graduated in the top 20 of my high school class, maintained a 4.0 GPA through college, never got into sex and drugs and yet have no idea what to do with my life and still live at home. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one in this boat. They always make it seem like only fuck-ups end up here.

[@thenightdances21]

Hanh Nguyen wow! Your story is definitely mine! We're both in the same both! I just turned 26 & I never thought it would be like this at this age 😥

[@edwrites]

Same here

[@conflictpersona8]

Girl yes so true i can relate to your story sometimes you do all the right things or supposedly the right things doesnt guarantee a specific outcome

[@arbitrarychoices]

Sending hugs! Totally felt your situation!

[@velvetstorm4563]

Try going to a community college and getting a certification or trade school, be a flight attendant perhaps?

[@shanboody]

Evelyn you are magic! You are what KZbin is all about

[@BeautyNoChaser]

Shan BOODY hey Shan girl

[@livewholistic]

100%

[@BoudoirBoutiqueNC]

BEST COMMENT!!! Yes, instead of friggin trend videos. Bring this back. Suggest this YT!!

[@hallease]

YASSS! So happy I got to collaborate with you on this video!

[@deez596]

Hallease omg your channel looks awesome!! new sub 👌

[@BasicallyJaye]

I subscribed too! I really dig the vibe of your channel. I love discovering new (to me) youtubers to subscribe to!!

[@AfrinaLilmissfreens]

Hallease I knew you had something to do with this!😁

[@DaltonPowelled]

I just had a small stroke earlier this month. I really needed to remember that this is not a race to recover against but myself. I need to lrearn to recover on my own time and judged my progress on that rather than what I could do before or what others can do. Thank you! I know that this was not the context of the video but it did help me an I wanted you to know. Also, I knew the second Hallease and her drone showed up and when I say I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS MOMENT FOR SO LONG! I really, really, loved every second of it. Sorry about the spelling and grammar( my vision is still recovering) Thanks again!

[@KMill-xb3uc]

Eryn Powell may full recovery come to you by the mighty healing power of God. Blessings ❤

[@normamartinez3144]

If you are in your early 20's I just want to let you know I promise you have alot of time to still figure out what you want to do in life! I'm 27(28 in September) and it took me this long but I'm getting my life in order... FINALLY. Don't worry about it guys.

[@krismckenzie3205]

Yes! I'm 29

[@Sisss777]

I’m 29 and I’m finally starting to get mines in order lol

[@irenefeondon551]

I'm 21 and dunno when to get my life in order 😔

[@atiyyacajee7101]

Norma Linda thank you 😊

[@nella10123]

Thanks Norma. I just turned 23 and I feel hella lost in life rn!!

[@KailynBowman]

"what soldier you know run a 27 minute mile" ahahhahahhahahah

[@huntress1013]

Yeah that amused me too. Try four to five miles.

[@KailynBowman]

hahhaah

[@maknaemimi5739]

HAHHAHAHAHAH

[@cinphotos123]

I'm in tears! I've been feeling so behind lately. Thank you for sharing this!

[@maknaemimi5739]

I AM SO HAPPY NOW.

[@lilyliciousss]

i feel like im in limbo. im 22 but im graduating college later than my peers with a sociology degree and crappy gpa, no impressive resume, barely have friends or a love life, and i just feel like im completely wasting my youth and potentially my whole young adult life. its made me depressed and im scared for the future...but this video made me feel a little better. Just hard when i also have social anxiety. screw society for making us have a one track mind!! makes those who think differently feel less than.

[@rcollins22]

I have social anxiety as well and I know exactly what you mean!

[@aaronbrutus2654]

Aii chi Hey, you can do a lot of goverment jobs with a B.A. while you figure things out. Or even become an officer in the army. "Go as far as you can go and then you'll be able to see farther." - unknown

[@angelaanaconda55]

Aii chi Holy shit! same fucking story. BA in Sociology, no boyfriend and shitty marks. R U ME?

[@lilyliciousss]

apparently lmao! at least we're not alone :/ like i seriously don't know the next step in life

[@itsmegmira]

Ur not alone

[@bgllrk]

Today I was feeling so insecure, depressed and anxious. I was lying in my bed, closed curtains, lots of chocolate, searching for youtube videos that make me feel even more miserable... we all know the situation.:) But then somehow I saw the title of this video and clicked. Your irony, your lively attitude and the way you are able to laugh at yourself made me cry and laugh at the same time. I'm so glad I found this! I can't thank you enough.:)

[@vincentsquest9375]

Same here, I've been watching movies by robin williams about loving someone and losing them. Just makes me feel sad remembering the good times. Also made me think that I not as accomplished same as that as my hs classmates and I saw this video. And I read your comment. :) just saying hi, we feel the same way about the video. made me laugh about running while not creating friction in one's thighs. :D Hi from the Philippines.

[@bgllrk]

@strawberry_shortcake4life Your comment made me feel so happy! Thank you!

[@bgllrk]

@vincent lafradez :)

[@RainbowMcFuzzy]

Somehow found this video in the midst of personal crisis. Just turned 23. I feel like everyone I know is doing well in life. Marriages, children, jobs. Everyone is doing well...everyone but me. Anxiety disorders, depression, you name it. I haven't been able to hold down a job because of it and I have no healthcare, so I can't get on the meds I used to take. I have always had anxiety disorders and depression, but they spiraled out of control when I attempted college. I lost interest in ever going back. I have no aspirations anymore.

[@idanceforthestars]

RainbowMcFuzzy sorry to hear that

[@RainbowMcFuzzy]

It's alright, things happen. Life is a rollercoaster: It has it's ups, downs and sometimes it breaks down and it needs to be repaired. By the way, you are a lovely dancer. Keep at it :)

[@idanceforthestars]

RainbowMcFuzzy I'm literally going threw what u are. .... same thing

[@RainbowMcFuzzy]

I hope things get better for you.

[@idanceforthestars]

RainbowMcFuzzy same to u if u need me I'm here

[@DaniLong]

Pfffft. I'm 51 still trying to figure all this out. Straight up, it's not a race. And, dancing is fun .

[@latoyiab79]

Right! I'm sitting here reading comments from younger people thinking, 'I'm 40 and lost' lol. Keep dancing 💃 lol

[@illestkid236]

Never watched a YT video that could tackle a semi-serious question AND be humorous at the same time. Been feelin a bit 'stuck' and anxious for a while now but this video puts me at ease and reminds me everything is OK, life doesn't have to be all about 'what's next' despite society conditioning our asses to think this way - it's totally possible to just be here for a good time lol

[@BianaBakman]

I woke up this morning and watched some Beyonce videos which are usually inspiring, but for some reason this morning induced a funk of, "I will never be Beyonce. I am never even going to approach this level of greatness at anything in life. What is even the point of getting out of bed if I already know this pinnacle is out of reach?" And then I watched this video and was soothed by the reminder that I don't have to be Beyonce, I can just have a solo dance party through life instead and that's okay.

[@jessiquedunord9617]

hey sister, another bey fan over here! I totally get where you are coming from. Let's just tell ourselves that, there must be something that we are great at as Beyoncé is on her thing (singing/performing/dancing) otherwise it wouldn't be fair, considering she is a human as we are. (or maybe I am just saying this to comfort myself haha) But honestly, let's just find what that one thing is, and work at it...and dance :) :)

[@BianaBakman]

I love your interpretation of it! Thank you for sharing that with me.

[@Enticethebrand]

Yess!!! I love this comment! You weren't meant to be Beyonce, but you have your own purpose in life to fulfill. We all do, and we just need to enjoy the journey along the way. Beyonce wasn't built in one day, and neither were we! Wishing you the best on your journey!

[@liz2880]

I'm 24, almost 25 and life is paused. Anxiety has gripped me hard. I'm scared of leaving the house. Life wasn't supposed to be this way.

[@lashondaprim]

WonderLizzz Hi how are you? At the age of 25 I was just getting medically discharged from the military and I had serious anxiety mixed with PTSD post-traumatic stress disorder. I know that is not easy to take that leap of faith but believe me once you step outside that door and you realize that there is nothing that can harm you because you are powerful beyond measure and your destiny awaits you on the other side of that door. Check out my KZbin channel and see if there are any videos that you like if so subscribe hopefully we can become KZbin Friends

[@userNOTfound1-3]

Hi luv.. you have the same name as my best friend❤️Hope you're okay now.

[@liz2880]

Lashonda Prim oh wow, two years later lol I’m doing better. Some things I never though I’d be able to do again are possible. I’ll subscribe thanks and I hope you are also doing well

[@liz2880]

Abi the thirteenth thanks, yes I’m doing better. Life is still a failure but i am I’m better spot mentally and physically so I’m trying to keep looking at the glass half full

[@nella10123]

How are you now liz?

[@HolisticPisces]

Lol how she held up that inhaler like the makeup gurus 💀

[@wal4798]

It was to focus the camera but then she read the brand and everything, haha

[@jamillawebb3567]

I'm learning that no matter how much you plan and organize , sometimes life hits you with major surprises & unknown factors. just do your best & keep moving forward.

[@KMill-xb3uc]

Jamilla Webb Amen!

[@shannonrose4678]

Jamilla Webb this is so true...you just never know. Life can humble you.

[@ericadancesthrulife6372]

A big reason why so many ppl are feeling like they should be farther along in life or are unhappy with their progress is because they are comparing themselves to others thru social media. Get off sites like that and just do you then next then you know you will be accomplishing your goals, partly because you're not wasting time comparing yourself to others on those sites.

[@fionaedwards2999]

maybe you don't have to race at all. Maybe you can just dance the whole way. THANK YOU. You are beautiful.

[@Indigoqueer]

I am 34 and know these feels. I am in grad school and paid my way through much of my undergrad while working full time, It has taken me like 16 years. I am graduating in December and I am going to be at one of those pivotal moments where God says "Boo, look at all you've done." I am excited for that but I am also scared. No one tells you what to do when your dreams come true.

[@ontopurpose4576]

This was such a great video and filled with truth and realization. I've read the comments and I don't have much to add but to say... people, life isn't about arriving anywhere. It's about enjoying the process and the journey. Life is now... not yesterday or tomorrow. Nothings promised to us. So be grateful for each moment and take nothing for granted. Love harder, live louder and be who you uniquely are. Everybody has crap they deal with in their lives no matter how rich or poor or perfect their life may seem. It's all about perspective! Wow... guess I had a lot to say.

[@jameswild1621]

I love your comment on2purpose. Nice channel by the way :)

[@najama33]

Well said. Thank you.

[@lashondaprim]

on2purpose Hello i just checked out your videos and your awesome as well. please check out mu channel let me know what you think.

[@Singlehood2Marriage]

on2purpose Amen!!!

[@anejaG55]

So true..

[@semt9]

I'm trying not to compare myself...to past, "better" versions of myself. That time when I was fitter, happier, healthier, doing better at work..you name it

[@danshaw8361]

I've been feeling so stressed and have been putting so much pressure on myself to be "perfect" recently that I've been having panic attacks and my anxiety is through the roof. I just happened to stumble upon your video today and can I just say thank you from the bottom of my heart. I'm in tears as write this, but you have no idea how much I needed this moment of laughter and encouragement. I have subscribed, and I will never stop watching your videos! Thank you!

[@LeniJayTalks]

Daniel Check out my "Feeling Stuck" video, it might be of additional help to you. Blessings.

[@suzigittens6707]

Keep the faith Daniel, just live for today don't live for anyone but yourself Hun. You have to love you before anyone else does.

[@bbangel711]

Daniel this... same here!

[@danshaw8361]

Thanks for the words of encouragement!

[@MOTIVATIONBYDAR]

Hope all is well Daniel. Blessings from one stranger to another.

[@wheredreamscollide7897]

I almost peed when you started showing off your inhaler. BEAUTY GURU THAT INHALER UP! SHOW US YOUR INHALER HAUL!

[@journeywith_champaigne]

"You don't even have to race at all or maybe you can dance the whole way until you die" Thank you for this video❤️❤️ I turn 20 this August and you know how you think you should have it altogether but life shows you Reality? I'm in that stage.

[@wojokeys]

me too!, we are leos though, we got this

[@020ctmarie]

Champaigne Jackson you're turning 20. TWENTY. You're still very, very young, girl! I remember still being in college at that age feeling like I have to have everything futures out by the time I graduated. I didn't. So I put so much pressure on myself. I was literally all over the place. I compared myself to my piers, who all had very different backgrounds than me, and I felt like I just HAD to measure up to them in some way. "Oh they're all in relationships or have a boo thang so I need to find me somebody even though I'm broken and need to learn how to love myself." "Oh they look like they have money so I need to accept the first job I get out of college so I can hurry up and buy things that'll make it look like I have money." Almost every decision I made about my own life was based on either what I perceived others expected of me or what others had. Long story short, I encountered some major setbacks from poor, rushed decisions I made because I never dealt with my own insecurities first. I'm rambling lol but my advice to you is this: don't rush yourself to have everything all figured out. Be patient with yourself but also be productive. An idle mind is the devils playground so take any opportunity you can to just LEARN and EXPLORE. Everyone is on different paths. Your friends path to success may look very different than yours but don't become envious or convince yourself you're inadequate. Always be supportive and look for the inspiration in seeing those around you succeeding. You will get there. And happy early birthday! I'm an August baby too 😊

[@wojokeys]

020ctmarie even tho this was meant to her this really helped me

[@020ctmarie]

wojo keys well I'm glad you found it useful! That means a lot to me as well. Stay strong. God bless you.

[@faithbowman3420]

You are rapidly becoming my favorite human. I'm dying. This is so fuckin' funny. But real and deep at the same time. I'm done.

[@Love.on.top23]

Well Said!

[@adiroxstr]

AGREE!

[@Katice634]

Faith Bowman you said it. I completely agree. She needs her own tv show. Love her energy.

[@ladylalazarus]

This randomly popped up on my recommended feed, and I'm so grateful. I was a classic overachiever until depression and bipolar disorder hit me hard in high school. I was still in the special program...but barely making it. I took some college classes, but had to drop out again for my mental health. My former classmates are now in their final year in college. I just began the process of being readmitted as a first year student to my university yesterday. I think being an "overachiever" made it harder, being it was my identity for so long, and I see my friends moving on to top universities and excelling. And I'm very happy for them, but still, it hurts, you know what I'm saying? 🙃 I kept on thinking, "that sh/could've been me." I guess the life lesson I'm trying to understand right now, from being a diligent student of the internet for the past two years, is acceptance and forgiveness of myself, and that the world is so, so much bigger once my bubble popped. I am not just the "overachiever girl" of my family and my schools anymore. I've seen different facets of the world, met many different people through the internet, and through that, I discovered many different parts of myself, too, saw and felt different kinds of love. I learned to accept and manage my illness in a way that will no longer keep me from living. To embrace the darkness that comes with it. Maybe I "failed" on being who I planned to be; I'm on a path that I would not have chosen for myself, but, really the stronger, wiser, kinder, less, uh, bullshitty version of me that I see now - I'm proud of her. I now have hope of who I could be outside of the standards I held before. 😀 Of course, I slip into dark thoughts and nihilism some days...but hey, now there are more bright days! Thank you for this video. Maybe my comment is a bit TMI, but...meh. Haha. My little brother also usually reminds me that it isn't a race, what matters is what we learn from the journey, and hearing you say that just made me smile. So I send hugs! And my friend, I'm gonna dance through life and even sing while I'm at it! Thanks! 💗

[@ladylalazarus]

ABIMA Thank you. 😊 I am in a tough spot now, too, with teachers ridiculing me for taking the time to fix my mental health and for being ill as well. I understand the way you feel about how school seems a lot less interesting than the rest of the world, but I think that finishing school could help us with exploring this world better(maybe it's the wannabe teacher in me). So I hope you push on. 😀 As I said, I'm a student of the internet, and this is part of why I love it, meeting other people like me, receiving and offering a bit of comfort. 😊 I sincerely hope you'd feel better soon; I hope we make it through! Love and light and lots of hugs! ❤

[@joma5585]

lady lalazarus this happened to me as well

[@dama_shares]

You are not alone

[@PiscesbabyDru25]

Thank you! This was just what I needed to help heal some old wounds in regards to this topic... God bless you 🌸🌺🙏🏾

[@nella10123]

How are things now?

[@Keyshaw30]

Love this! I'm trying to learn how to be 39 years old will be 40 in October who desires to still get married and have a child living in Atlanta where men seem to not value professional women it's the plague if you have degrees and reach my age and you haven't been married and had children! So FAM you think it's hard at your age try being almost 40 it's a lot harder!! As Wendy Williams says I'm just going to moisturize and keep it moving!

[@lakishasmith3586]

I'm 40 and live and work in the Metro DMV area, so I understand Keyshaw30's sentiments firsthand. Although location is part of it, it's not all of it. For someone who also invested a significant amount of time, blood, sweat and tears in her academic and professional careers feeling that personal life imbalance has been difficult for me. Furthermore, shifting how you move through life when you've done things a certain way, with certain expectations and outcomes can be challenging particularly as you age. All this said, I'm still much very in the thick of growing through life - to let go of so much control and let flow. Keep growing and flowing yau'll!!!

[@6ftNaturalBeauty]

I'm 38 in Philadelphia with a PhD. My husband has a bachelors, I guess you get what you get.

[@design401]

Move fast, I think the quickest way to get there is online dating.....try match.com if you haven't already. I have friends that always hate this advice. I just say how is what you are doing working for you? Be selective and follow your instincts. It's my method. So don't go out just to go out.

[@islandgirl8914]

Multiethnicgirl 6foot you got love! An educated loving man.

[@sheiswhitney]

Keyshaw30 I'm 30 and educated with no children and single. I at times I feel like my ambition and accomplishments intimidate potential partners as if they have to compete with me. Then when I date a blue collar brother who has one or two kids it works out well "initially" then something comes up like baby mama drama, a criminal past he never disclosed or he loses his job and/or car breaks down and believes I should help, then it becomes one thing after another they need. UGGGHHH! Working for the government and having a "spouse" as a felon isn't going to work. Feeling like these men are only dating you because they see themselves as a benefactor to my hard work is becoming tiresome. I've given myself til 36 and if not pans out, I'm personally accepting marriage isn't an option and I'll just adopt a baby. But I truly feel like my personal life is being punished for doing everything right academically and professionally. I guess its the world we live in.

[@stormshyla]

I love this type of content from you.

[@cole1219]

I revisit this video every so often. Still great 3 years later.

[@Mari-kv7ck]

5 years later

[@XandriaPolish]

Girl. I feel you. I was wandering through life in my mid twenties wondering what am I *doing*???? For me, the peace came when I turned to my faith and trusted my own process. No, I'm not where my peers are.....but my peers ARENT WHERE I AM, soooo...💁🏾 You'll be fine. Pray. Seek wisdom. Stay in touch with your mentors. And dance your way down your path. 💃🏾

[@SingleButNotSolo]

Love all your stuff but this is now my new fav! Side note: "mmkay" was created for you lol I chuckle everytime...so I'm 45, single, no kids recently out of work and just authored my 1st book, life long dream come true...trying to navigate creating this whole "following" phenom & make writing/speaking into my bread n butter. Always considered myself a "late-bloomer" but not so much anymore. I feel like I'm right on time, on track for what God put me here to do. Not sure what it's supposed to look like but He does. Thanks for the laughs and encouragement Evelyn :)

[@claypotter9025]

PurposeFULLPurity i would like to meet you and get to know you!!

[@SingleButNotSolo]

Hello. Please feel free to connect with me on FB. facebook.com/PURPOSEFULPURITY/?ref=aymt_homepage_panel

[@writtenby_amberwalton6464]

omg! I'm an aspiring author and I want to get my book published by the end of this year, most likely self publish to make this happen. do you have any suggestions on the book selling/marketing/making process in general?

[@SingleButNotSolo]

Sure Amber! The self publisher I highly recommend is Amazon.com's Createspace. They are the one-stop-shop for self publishing and pretty much handle everything. All you have to do is finish your manuscript, design your cover and choose your book size. Upload it and it is available for purchase on Amazon in paperback & Kindle version. Since this is my 1st book I'm not a pro but I can definitely tell you what NOT to do to publish your 1st book. Please connect with me on FB would love to share more with you. m.facebook.com/connect.virgin/

[@writtenby_amberwalton6464]

Thank you so much! I had looked up different ways and had already decided on going the kindle route good to know it's a good way! I'll def contact you via fb

[@datawizard130]

27, studying to become a historian and still going to college. You can do it!

[@nella10123]

How are things now?

[@joymechell277]

I'm trying to understand what's going on in my life 😂😂😂 ( laughing to hide the pain 😁😁) but I had my life together right out of high school. I was going to go to EMT school, pass the class with flying colors, pass my national exam on the first try , take my firefighter test again , pass that , work and support my granny and enjoy life ...all if that got shut down when my grandad died and I had a reality check. I got really sick , like hospital every other week, constant doctors visits , neurologist don't know what's happening sick, and I lost it ...now it's 2017, I'm physically doing better and I'm just trying to start over , but I'm scared to make a step because the last time I did it all fell apart . If I could over that fear and become the girl I was before falling sick , I'd love that ...and fighting my mental illness

[@joymechell277]

Claudine Coin Awhhh, thank you for the morning motivation . I'm definitely feeling uplifted this morning . This video , praying earlier , and skipping my meds have me feeling a lot better. I know skipping meds are bad , but this anti depressant just makes me depressed and unmotivated and I don't have time for that , not if I'm going to get back on my feet. I see my therapist this morning , so hopefully she'll give me more options 😌👌🏾

[@gracefromspace5502]

Joy Mechell I'll tell you like I tell my millennial daughter, you are a new you and stronger new you. Keep fighting and don't give up!

[@joymechell277]

Grace from Space thank you so much for the encouragement. I don't think you know how much I needed this 😌👌🏾

[@gracefromspace5502]

Joy Mechell You got this!

[@quasez54]

Joy Mechell wow emt school, that's incredible. I hope you give yourself another chance. You deserve it.

[@DivaDen]

Girl that inhaler review was everything! LOL

[@ily4000]

Diva Dinnett I loved her review lol

[@whyabberoni]

I'm 19 and while I'm still young enough to not be expected to have everything together quite yet, I still can't drive. Don't even have a permit because we couldn't afford it for 3 years and now that we can afford it, my narcissist father (who is an avid spender and has almost made us lose our house 3 times in the last 6 years) spends all of our money. So I won't be driving for a while. Also, I just finished my freshman year of college and it literally couldn't have gone worse. So I've been watching all of my life plans and goals and aspirations go down the drain and lately I've been feeling like since I'm so far behind in life, I won't ever get anywhere.

[@vgmlover]

Abigail Faith If it's any consolation, I am also 19 without a permit. I don't even have an excuse like you, I just don't feel motivated to get one. I also struggled in my first year of college so you're not alone. I also know that life has a way of throwing curveballs at you. If your current dreams don't pan out then I'm sure you will find new dreams that will be even more satisfying. I still have hope for my self and if I can succeed I'm sure you can.

[@FeverRayFan1]

Im 19 and since graduating high school in fucking 2014 I literally had to quit school twice, been to a psych ward twice, tried to off myself 3 times and several more shit things happened and now Im still at home with nothing again and Idk man... I really wanna dance but I feel like everyone in a bad situation has at least something good but I haven't. I just dont wanna wake up anymore like really dont. Im just lost atm. I have this Rihanna song on my mind literally 24/7 just sitting in my room looking at the ceiling screaming WHAAAAAT... NOOOOOW in my head. I truly have no clue I had a lot of dreams but I now Im empty. Im already so far behind.... Maybe it's a sign that this video popped up randomly on my front page cause I feel like Im currently loosing the "race". This isnt how I thought life would be

[@MermaidsAreNice]

I was in a very similar boat thinking the exact same thing, "everyone with a bad life has SOMETHING good; where's my something?" The thing was I wasn't seeing my something good. Looking back, even at that time, I had a relative who really loved me (in a way I could appreciate and understand, not that generic "Oh, I love you sweetie. I hope you cheer up," that doesn't touch you when you're that low and it feels hollow as shit.) I didn't feel supported at the time, but looking back, if I had tried to see it, maybe I would have improved faster. Is there one person or one dream or idea (no matter how crazy) that makes you feel ... almost okay? Hold on to that for now as your first rung on the ladder up. You really do have so much time to get things straightened out and to find your path. I had to learn (and am still learning) how to take over my thought life. All the pills didn't fix me. They help with A LOT, but there isn't a "Hope" pill. There isn't a "Believe that you are allowed to exist, and it's good that you do" pill. I still take my meds, but what's creating more space in my head for me to exist is my prayer and meditation. I'm changing my thoughts even if a part of me is rolling my eyes or crying in hopelessness or feeling empty and dead as I'm doing it. (ex: "I'm cute today. I'm priceless and am going to do well on this.") It is work, but (comparing mental illness to physical illness) so is losing weight to fight against heart disease (or whatever). Yeah, chemicals in the brain have something to do with our mental states, but expectations and thoughts effect us so powerfully. Think of the placebo effect, just thinking something will work brings the expected outcome in your body. Positive self-talk is a legitimate part of real and common therapies (DBT and CBT for example, but they call it something else, I forget). Idk. I hope that helps even a little bit, bc I've been there and it sucks ass. If I can do it, you can do it. I pray that a passion is awoken in you so you can dance in life like the video says. You've got this.

[@ashleyhibbard]

MermaidsAreNice this comment thread made me cry

[@selenalamothe997]

FeverRayFan1 I feel the same. I had graduation practice today and all my friends were looking forward to graduating and going to college, while my depression has kept me stuck in my house for months longer than i want to endure. I just know God is the only thing that makes me feel like i have hope i hate seeing all my friends and thinking "oh i could be like that if i had not stopped working bc i was sad". but maybe we live diffrent lives idk this is hard

[@AdlitteramProducciones]

+FeverRayFan1 Hi, FeverRayFan1. I read your comments and can definitely relate. I'm over 40 and can talk from experience about feeling lost and confused. I've found out that many of my negative ideas about myself have been caused by not having felt loved and the anger that boils inside when you think you haven't been loved. I say "not having FELT loved" because sometimes our immediate family does love us, but somehow they don't know how to show it. They don't know how to speak kind words from their hearts or they don't know how to give a hug or just lovingly caress a cheek. It's really not their fault 100%; it's just that they don't know how to do those things spontaneously and without feeling weird. The problem is that you get the feeling (from your childhood on) that somehow you are not loved or are not worth loving. And little by little anger grows inside and you transform that anger into hatred toward yourself. That anger makes you somehow want to punish yourself for not being lovable. You get to a point where you become your worst enemy: you want to punish and hurt yourself. It's horrible. I can relate to your desire to end your life, but I would NEVER encourage those ideas or feelings. You know why? Because you are worth being loved. You were born to be loved. You are not trash at all. I come from a Christian background and believe in Jesus and His work on the cross, and as bad as I hate religion, I can never hate Jesus, because from His life I have learned that we mean a lot to God. FeverRayFan1, don't despair. Let those feelings and thoughts of pain and self-hate come to your mind. Yes, you heard well: let them come to your mind, they lose power when you just don't fight them. But NEVER take them seriously. NEVER let your heart believe those feelings and thoughts of worthlessness are true. You are valuable. You don't have to accomplish anything in life to be worth loving. You are worth loving just for being created by God and being born in this world. Society has many standards...you know what? Those are arbitrary standards created by other human beings which are not perfect. We don't have to submit to standards and goals that destroy us or that put pressure on us. You are free to choose how to live your life in love and respect for yourself and others. Give yourself permission to not accomplish anything for now. Just spend time doing something you enjoy, setting your own goals for a time when you feel better (realistic goals, no matter how supposedly slow you go in order to accomplish them), ... Don't hurt yourself emotionally or physically. That doesn't solve anything. Sometimes it's best to just let bad moments pass. I know it may be too much information. But I've had a lifetime of experience on the subject, so it's hard for me to refrain from telling you everything that might help you. I would love to give you a hug (with all the respect in the world). The best thing I can do is pray to the Lord that He shows you how much you are loved by Him. I send you my love. You have my ears open whenever you need someone to talk to. Just reply to this message so I can give you my Email or my Skype account or whatever you prefer. A hug from my heart!

[@wahblah2859]

FeverRayFan1 I feel exactly the same way. I graduated back in 2015 and I'm nearly 21. I feel so behind and all my dreams fell apart and no one wanted to support me and my parents never wanted to help me with my goals and dreams. Now I have to give up on that and go to college for something I never wanted. I probably should have seen a psychologist after my grandmother died after graduation but my parents never let me and always thought I wasn't that type of person to see someone like that. Life is so hard. I'm nearly at the point just wanting to run away and live my own life away from everything holding me back.

[@lyajob7098]

Imagine an Evelyn and Issa Rae collab 😩🙋🏾👀

[@Aelisha_Cade]

I had the same thought!

[@mrsgiggles85]

Lya Job I literally gasped at the idea

[@michelledodson3130]

How dope would that be!?!?!?!?! SOOOOOOO dope!

[@ladiepink]

Lya Job let's touch and agree that it will happen if it is not already in the works!

[@MsCaramel7]

I would literally scream😫😫😱😄😄😄😂😂

[@shamekiajenkins6329]

"A whole lotta schoolin', not a lot of learnin"....right there with you! Love your video!

[@NoDotAh]

Life Lesson : It's OK that you are not who you thought you were going to be, but it is not OK to stop trying to be that person. I've lost my motivation. Just trying to start that engine again.

[@donnaevelyn5875]

NoDotAh this is exactly what's happening to me right now! I've stopped trying out of frustration and I hate myself for it! I'm desperately trying to find my motivation again for the sake of my sanity

[@CC-fq9uz]

Turning 30 has been the best thing Ever!! Feeling fearless, bold, overconfident. All of a sudden everything has a sense of urgency- for the first time all my goals for the year have been getting ticked off list. Suddenly u realise life is for living and taking chances..(PS still trying to grow balls to quit job😂)...#bills.rent.priorities#

[@Dje8888]

This couldn't have popped in my suggestion box at a better time lol. I'm a 24 year old sr in college and I feel so behind. Most of my friends have graduated and have careers/ houses. And I'm still here chasing a professional basketball career. We all have our own individual paths, I tell myself that everyday. Never compare yourself to someone else, because everyone has a specific road to travel.

[@queenzville]

Im a 24 yo, barely a junior. But youre right, comparison is the thief of joy!

[@terranicia1]

Perfect timing!! I'll be 26 in a few months and am trying to figure out where in the hell has the time gone and what have I been doing with mine. I'm trying to get better at telling myself positive stories and having more uplifting self-talk where I speak kindly to myself instead of judging myself for not being where I feel I "should" be, wherever the hell that is.

[@kitsontuli2713]

Same here, also turning 26 and I have no idea what Im doing sometimes

[@pammmeee9055]

Kitso Ntuli Now is the time to try different things. You don't want to be in the same place 20 years from now.

[@hellaSwankky]

feeling behind is one thing, actually being behind and running out of time on your goals is a whole other. ageism is real. i appreciate the hell out of this video. LOL! i could use a part 2.

[@ZoeyIsMuhName]

"what solider you know runs a 27 minute mile" 😂😂

[@wintermoons1215]

I'm going to be 26 this year, graduated college in 2014 and I'm feeling this like you wouldn't believe. I'm working two part time jobs and yet I still live with my parents because I can't afford to move out, I've been looking for one full-time job for the better part of the past 6 months and for the last 3 I haven't gotten one interview. A friend I graduated college with just bought a house and got her Masters, and the first thought in my head when I saw that Facebook status was resentment and jealousy. I look around me and I want to scream 'What am I doing wrong?! When does my life start?!'. I feel so stuck, and I don't know how to get out of it besides to keep doing what I'm doing, when that just makes me feel like I'm getting nowhere.

[@courtneybell9647]

wintermoons1215 one of the best pieces of advice I've gotten is to give life time, don't try to rush it. I'm currently 25 years old, I went to college, got a degree and it took me a year to actually get hired somewhere. During the time in between I was depressed because all of my friends had gotten a job just like that. It took some time for me to realize that it wasn't because they were better or smarter than me, it was all about word of mouth, who they knew and who knew them. Anyway, once I finally got hired at a big company. I liked it for a little bit, but after a while I felt stuck, like I wasn't learning anything and that I didn't belong. I wasn't happy. My boss hated me even though I was a hard worker. Eventually they fired me. Yup, I got fired from my first real job. The one that took me a year to get lol. The next day my boyfriend dumped me and I had truly hit rock bottom. I felt so behind and like a failure in life. One minute I was on top of the world making great money living life, the next I was down in the dumps. I now have a new job. It took less time to find, and I think it's something I can grow with. I enjoy it and I'm a lot less stressed. I guess God had a different path for me. I don't know where life will take me next but I'm gonna roll with it. So yeah all that to say, don't worry, life will work out. Give it time!😊

[@twentysevenand]

On the same boat. On the saaame boat. Turning 26. Graduated in 2014. In debt. Still dependent on my mom. I just think about how a job I will enjoy and will make money from will come. I just need to take each day, each week and live it. While we have our worries now, I also don't want to live in regret in the future. We all have our own goals and motivations, and yes, your friend finished her Masters, but is that master for you, too? Is that what you want to do, too? Good luck to the both of us.

[@LeniJayTalks]

wintermoons1215 Hey, go at your own pace and do what's right and suitable for your life. The race is not for the swift or the sure but for those who can endure to the end. I have a video on "Feeling Stuck", check it out, it might help. Blessings to you.

[@_noahrh]

Hey DON'T feel bad! I'm in the exact same position. I graduated in 2013, moved abroad for a year, and came back - so my real job search didn't start until summer of 2014, when you graduated. I worked part time forever, finally landed a full time gig at a nonprofit, but management was crazy, so I quit. Just three months ago landed my first "real" job and am loving it. I am living with my parents in our small suburban town and turn 26 next week. Don't feel bad. Stay off Facebook. I haven't had it in about a year and it feels great. Stay in your own lane, focus on you. Your friends will text you and call you to hang out, you don't need daily photo updates from them. I don't do any social media, it feeds your insecurities about being "behind". Look around you, you're fine - don't think about what your friends are up to - there are people much worse of than you and I who would move mountains to be able to have a parent that loved them and a roof to sleep under.

[@rockroll8958]

wintermoons1215 I feel the same. most nights I cry myself to sleep because I feel stuck. there are days when I feel like I know my purpose and that I have everything figured out but suddenly I lose this vision and start and everything comes tumbling down.

[@aysp]

I'm 49 and I'm still feeling like I'm behind in life. I see where others my age are and I constantly question myself. You have a new subbie!!! I love your honesty.

[@LeniJayTalks]

aysp Hey, you've still got life, keep going. Check out my "Feeling Stuck" video, it might be of additional help to you. Blessings!

[@buttarain27]

Exactly, finally someone past 30 commenting. I'm 38 and I have no idea where my life is headed. I currently teach in S. Korea but I'm making this year my last, then what? I think it's only natural for people to still continue to figure out themselves in their 20's. You start too young trying to be a "full-fledged" adult and you get burnt out quickly, seen it.

[@Lonniebedoinganything]

Still watching this in 2023. My favorite video on the channel 🎉

[@alexbrand3862]

Goddamnit evelyn...you got me here crying. I just turned 26 and while i have a decent job i still don't have an education and don't really feel like an education is accessible either. But this made me feel a little bit better....thank you!

[@anniesok868]

Alex Brand Shaw Academy is awesome. They offer free online courses all the time. Please check them out.

[@battousai480]

Hey man have you considered going to community college and transferring to a 4-year institution? community college is fairly cheap, and when you transfer to a 4-year institution you could apply for financial aid if you qualify. Am about to turn 26 too and I just got my degree, and I can tell you that I was/ am pretty poor, but with financial aid and a part-time job, I managed to get by. I think you should give it a shot.

[@remekbrat]

aren't Financial Aid for college improving these years ?

[@LeighAnneMarie]

LOL I'm going to start doing that weird hip thing and walk my life to the next level!

[@Cheeseface108]

oh man. this hit home. about 4 months ago i dropped out of college (i was a 2nd semester junior) and moved home. i was depressed, cripplingly anxious, traumatized by awful relationships, felt like i was studying something i didn't even care about, etc etc. it's hard to watch my friends go back to college in a few weeks while i stay here, just working on me. idk. i think i need to learn how to dance instead of forcing myself to run all the time.

[@mynameisuju]

i've watched this video to help with 3 mental breakdowns now. love your content sooo much. p.s please more videos

[@keyowns]

I'm 27 and just finished college. Moving across country this week, in with my boyfriend to finally start a life away from my controlling parents, who have raised me well but have serious anger issues letting me go. It's freakin' hard. I feel like I haven't done anything with my life and have only burdened many people. I'm hoping my move is a new adventure to help.

[@AM-dp9tv]

Pastel best of luck! 💕

[@thenightdances21]

Good luck & congrats!!

[@angelaanaconda55]

Good luck! I'm 26 and hoping for the same escape from my narcissistic parents. 😯

[@lashondaprim]

Pastel hello how are you? I'm just going through and seeing that there are so many people that have went through similar situations that I've been through and I hope that something on my page will be able to help you out and push you into your greatness

[@nessaj4185]

I support you 💛

[@fawkes968]

The area you've run is beautiful, as you are, for a video encouragement to others ! I'm 59, soon to be 60 . I try to encourage others, inspite of my disabilities, etc. We, all, sit on stickers during our life's journey, so keep on going, dear lady ! You've encouraged me today, so I pray that everyday you experience the realization of Jesus's presence with you and through you ! " I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13 🌹🌾🌷🌿 Alida/New Iberia, La. 👍

[@Ife360TVOnline]

Dance the whole way ...I'm with it! 👯💃🏽🕺🏽What we doin? Kizomba? Bachata? Wining to Soca? Salsa??? Alll of them????

[@michelledodson3130]

Right! I loved that.

[@kellietipton1338]

NEVER have I related so much to a damn KZbin video. You just took me to church

[@samiraj.192]

Kellie Tipton 💯👏💯 I couldn't agree more!! ☺💒

[@rubydoo921]

I have no idea how the hell I stumbled upon this video at five in the morning, but my drive back to my apartment from my folks place involved a lot of comparison with myself to the people I graduated with. Got pretty down on myself the entire hour drive home. Then I stumbled upon this video, and I'm unbelievably happy I did. Thank you Evelyn for uploading this. Also, you're hilarious.

[@kemiageh3547]

"What soldier you know run a 27 minute mile" LMFAOOOO!!!! Evelyn you're such a gift to us :)

[@amyrhodes6852]

I know exactly how you guys feel. I'm about to be 27 and I feel like I'm never going to catch up to my peers. Everyone else has their own apartment/house, is in a seemingly good relationship, taking huge trips, etc. while I'm left asking "When is it going to be my turn?" I have 2 degrees and I'm still relying on family and living paycheck to paycheck. I feel like I've been stripped of my dignity, and there is absolutely not one person to confide in. So glad I found this video.

[@wanjikukarugo1842]

girl i am 28 turning 29 in feb next year, and you just described my life..

[@mchigaga6104]

my life, too

[@simonemitchell1397]

I'm 30 still working on my first degree.

[@audreyibenegbu2545]

Exactly how I feel 😔

[@nella10123]

Amy, how are you now 3 years later? I just turned 23 and I feel so lost in life :(

[@denayjalese]

I can totally relate! I'm a 28 old single mom. I just went back I to school for theatre. It's not easy but I'm sure it's worth the fight. Most of my peers at school are 10 years younger than me.😩

[@nella10123]

how you doing now?

[@msiverson05]

So we just gon act like Evelyn ain't got some of the best legs in these KZbin streets? Ok then. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@keishataylor5388]

msiverson05 it was so unexpected. She would look banging in a romper. I see that shape girl!!

[@cremedelacrem4064]

Umkayyyyy???? I'm like she may be struggling to run but them legs are toned!!

[@treasurecat03isme]

I agree & she has very dainty ankles lol

[@marylizabetha]

This is just the kind of video I needed to see right now. I'm 25, just started college again, living in a town house with people 6 years my juniors, working a job I hate to make the money to enter a program that I'm not even sure I'll be accepted into. I want to be at the next stage of my life so badly. I want a career, I want a spouse, I want children. But I'm stuck and it's taking so much effort to even get a foot through the door when my peers have already gone through it. I don't feel like a failure but I just wish I had known what I wanted when I was younger so I could be past this stage already. But alas, that's not the way life works.

[@ladysaturn3876]

31 here....just now starting to find my way and not even really lol. Not married, no kids, don't own a house, just started down a brand new "careeer" path...or who knows maybe it's just a job for now. Finding happiness in daily life, I think is the challenge. Challenging yourself to change and try new things to see what makes you happy, also a challenge. Finding balance and harmony and peace within yourself....Meditation and Intention has helped greatly for me. And don't forget to be grateful for what you DO have, don't take that shit for granted. You never know when it may be taken away.

[@ankitamaheshwari7686]

Same exact place! Its nice to come here and hear all these stories of people that are just like me. I'm learning to find joy in the day to day as well, it can be a struggle sometimes.

[@neonsaline]

My lesson as a 30 something late to coming out, late to actually trying to go after my dreams: It's okay to be me. Self-Improvement is fine, but I think a lot of us (myself included) go hella far with it and try to make ourselves into something that we aren't because 'it's what we're supposed to do'.

[@AbsoluteAma]

Turned 26 this year and this video hits me hard. I just quit my science degree to self teach myself art and holy shit am I much happier now but its a big mixture of happiness, depression, and impatience. Did I make the right decision? Will I be able to make ends meet? Can I truly handle the heavy load of being responsible and being my own boss? Watching all my friends get good paying jobs, getting married, traveling, and here I am, grinding everyday trying to improve my art to hopefully sell it? And with no guarantee?This video left me feeling teary. Gotta remember- enjoy the process. That's the most important part. As long as I keep moving forward, that's all that matters.... Thank you for reminding me of this.

[@herrhl]

The struggle to know how to measure success and to know what's next is something my dad and I have talked about in recent years. There are so many definitive finish lines when we're younger, but when we enter adulthood and employment (or employer), suddenly the finish lines become a lot less clear. I wish I could say the struggle is an age or phase thing, but I'm approaching 40 and regularly struggle with the feeling that I'm behind, if not others, then definitely my own expectations. I have friends much older than me who also struggle with the same. So if it's not an age thing, it's a perspective thing and I LOVE your idea to forget the race and just dance the whole way wherever we're going. Thank you for sharing.

[@emilyylime05]

Oh how I adore you Evelyn! My almost 30 yro self needed this... thank you ❤️

[@BakaNeBaka]

Dear Evelyn, You're beautiful! You're what this world needs more of. Your "ridiculously small ankles" carry one of the biggest souls and personalities and they sure ain't no Achilles Heel! THANK YOU for this and may you continue to remain this free spirited, joyful and humorous one forever more! God bless!

[@RichTake]

You are truly inspiring and me. Yes, I am only 24 yo, but many of my peers I went to college with are in graduate school, med school etc. and I can't seem to get out of my own way. I boil it down to my fears of failure. Failing is such a crippling fear of mine, which is why I've procrastinated so much on applying to med school. Many of my lecturers have pushed me along the way and encouraged me, but what use is that if I don't get out of my own damn way. UGH!!

[@JustThatGirI]

Just do it. Even if you fail, once you realize you can survive it, it won't scare you as much. Either way, you'll gain something: a med school admission, overcoming a fear, or both. You've got this, Dr OptmistHunter Reel :)

[@docfabz]

I'm also afraid of failure and I don't believe in my abilities sometimes. It's true what they say, sometimes you just have to try anyway. Start small if needed

[@abiolaadekunle6333]

We are in the same exact boat. I've signed up for the MCAT, but I'm so scared of failing that it's effecting my studying, sleep, and wanting to even apply for med school. Everyone keeps telling me I'll pass and do fine, but I keep telling myself...what if you don't. That's another year at home and you'll be 25 then. I'm freaking out!!

[@nella10123]

How is life now?? Are you in med school now?

[@RichTake]

@@nella10123 Med school adjacent. I'm in an allied professional health program which I am really liking. Jesus, thanks for responding and reminding me of what I wrote here. Wow how things change in a few years.

[@MsTannebaum]

Thank you Evelyn for this great video. I'm 30 and everyone around me is having a career, getting married, having kids, building houses.....and everything I try doesn't work... I've always percieved life like a marathon kind of thing....with me being the one who fell down early and crawling through the mud since then....with the mud getting thicker and thicker....I've decided to not do the race anymore and just wiggle myself out of the mud.....now most people think I'm weird but I'm feeling a lot better since I started the wiggling....even if I've just been standing in one spot...

[@babymae2222]

it's okay to be weird the race gets old

[@GeekyTricee]

LOL! Love you. This resonated with me a lot and perfect timing. I'm 31 and when everybody seems to be getting married, getting engaged, getting into relationships, moving forward in their endeavors, and having babies, I'm over here feeling "stuck." Life lesson I'm working with is do me. I am on perfect timing and all is well. Like you said, I'd rather dance than race. lol

[@brid8923]

I needed this video, because I was right in the middle of having a panic attack about this. lol I keep feeling like I am so far behind in life, but then I gotta think: I have been through SO much more shit in the past 15 years than the majority of my friends/peers that I try to judge myself against. I dealt with an abusive father, unstable/low income home life, severely debilitating depression and anxiety as a teenager, and my mom having multiple medical problems that have caused me to become her caretaker for the last few years. So, yes. I am 26. I am graduating university in December (YAY!!) and do not have a solid career plan, due to my need for a super flexible schedule because of my mom. But, I'm graduating. I did it. Why am I judging myself just because I didn't graduate at the same time as "normal" people? What the fuck is this "progress" bar that we all seem to be trying to find? Like, it doesn't exist. We're all on our own individual paths, and we should not let society and peer pressure dictate how we feel about ourselves and our accomplishments. LIVE YOUR LIFE, LOVE YOUR LIFE.

[@Chunz_Lo]

Girl, I'm so going through this right now!!!!!!!! Both the life-progress-problem and running-with-big-thighs-problem 😭😭😂

[@02leda]

I'm so glad this video came up in recommendations. I ALWAYS feel behind and I try to convince myself that it's okay I don't move the same pace as other when I got to college, but I still doubt and shame myself for not being in a certain place that I 'should be.' I'll keep watching this video to remind myself. Your voice is very soothing

[@LeniJayTalks]

Leda Paul check out my "Feeling Stuck" video, it might be of additional help to you. Blessings.

[@LuckyRaye88]

Girl...I don't know how your video ended up in my recommendations. But it was EXACTLY what I needed at this very moment. Im in the same place, watching all my friends from HS getting married and having children and I'm just...here. 😐 I feel like I'm going through a quarter-life crisis.

[@vgmlover]

Raye Mozee I don't think it was a coincidence. Lots of people need to hear this message and it popped up just when people needed most. Call it superstitious if you want, but I think it's fate that this video appeared for everyone when it did.

[@tishataray]

Raye Mozee so true. This is my life too although 1 day I hung out with my hs friend who has 2 kids, n she says in her eyes evry1 is married n shes the only 1 struggling with a cheating bby daddy so no matter where we at, our probs will still make us complain

[@nella10123]

how are you now 3 years later? i feel like im going thru a quarter life crisis right now at age 23!

[@lafleurbleue8936]

this is exactly how I'm feeling, I'm 26 still inlaw school but it's not my passion, I have no job, still living with my parents, no boyfriend when people have been to school with are lawyers, have a career, are getting married, having babies....I feel like I'm still stuck at 15!!!!

[@wal4798]

I feel this way too. I also live with my parents and currently don't work. I feel thankful for my boyfriend (who is in the military and doing well) but I feel guilty that I don't have much to offer him right now.

[@thenightdances21]

Same!! I also just turned 26, still live with my parents, no bf, still looking for a job in my new degree, just graduated with my bachelors in healthcare management this May (after having to change my major from a bachelor in radiation therapy b/c I was not accept into the competitive Rad program! only 40 acceptance only in the fall semester/had a 4.0 also) although I could have reapplied, I no longer feel it's the right degree for me, due to various situations, but now I don't know what medical field to go into 😢 (yes! I have a strong passion for anatomy, microbiology, helping people etc). My dad tells me to go to medical school but I'm so afraid of failing, I was thinking about becoming a nurse practitioner but today I witnessed a doctor being extremely rude to the NP & she was so nervous! I just want to be successful and make myself & family proud! I feel so behind b/c I have a friend who will have her PhD at age 27! & I see other successful 24 - 28 year olds in their fields as pharmacist, Doctors, lawyers, Nurses & here I am still trying to figure it out! Please if anyone have any suggestions regarding career in anatomy & healthcare please let me know 🙁

[@JustThatGirI]

Don't hold yourself from doing something because you're afraid of failing. If you want to achieve something, not doing it is the only way to get a 100% guarantee of failure. Taking action actually lessens the chance that you will fail. So if you want to go to medical school or be a nurse practitioner TRY IT. And if you fail? Just get back up and keep going.

[@thenightdances21]

JustThatGirl thank you! You're so right! & the strange thing is that I decided to contact my university to get information about both programs & now I'm just seeing your comment! I definitely don't want to wake up years later regretting my decision to not pursue an interest of mine, all because of fear. Thank you for your words of inspiration!!😊😊

[@oceejay5148]

thenightdances21 let me tell you something. Never compare yourself to others . Everybody on earth has their own different journey in life. Follow your dreams. Don't let that rude doctor leave a bad taste in your mouth about trying to become a NP. I know tons of other NP that enjoy their career and talk about how much they enjoy what they do and the people they work with. Being a NP is lit af. TBH I would but Im not sure if I'm smart enough.im 20 right now, still haven't gone to college. I'm trying to become an Instagram model but I feel like I'm going at a small pace. I'm scared that school might take forever .. and I might probably quit after sometime which would suck.. but I'm giving myself this year to figure that shit out. After this year .. if I'm still don't see a big of light at this Instagram whatever tunnel, I'll go to nursing school and at least get my associates degree. So it's not just you sweetie, and just a little tip, most people don't know this but if you're looking for a man... at least just not to feel lonely , get tinder .. and try to connect with someone serious . That's how I met my husband . Ignore the stigma about tinder. Trust me not everyone is there just to hookup . There are some serious men on there too

[@alisonhilaire4170]

Waow!!! 😍😍😍 The video quality is AMAZING 😃😃😃 You and Hallease did a really GREAT job👍I actually thought it was an ad for Nike in the beginning. I was super excited, thinking :"Finally! A sports ad with real people struggling with their workout instead of Usain Bolt looool 😂". The lesson I'm currently trying to learn: "be your own anchor" => don't count on others to support you and give you what you need, support yourself. Also, I no longer feel behind in life because I've finally realized that NOBODY has everything figured out, it's just an illusion.

[@prittyyyy]

I have to come back to this every once in a while because I feel like I haven't got a win in so long. Thanks for reminding me that we don't need to race, we can dance our way throughout life

[@MsDoryLinda]

Yes ❤❤ that!!

[@chloekeene27]

You're givingggg meeee mad good editing and drone footage. You're givingggg meeee inspirational speaker meets #relatable. Yaaass Evelyn!

[@TheJasmaree]

I never laugh out loud this was hilarious and deep at the same time yes girl

[@sehlessteh]

I'm definitely bookmarking this and showing this to my students! I am a HS math teacher but also teach a college-prep elective for first-generation students. But, as someone who HATED/HATES being compared to others, I remind my students that their lives are their own and that it is VERY OKAY to NOT be 'on track' once HS is over. Love your messages of positivity and your delivery is always so funny yet packs a punch. Keep creating!

[@LaGuardiaCross]

Evelyn, I love you. Seriously. I'm also trying to figure out how to dance till I die.