Former Chief Of Army Staff Retd Gen VP Malik Exclusive | Siachen Hero's Parents Make Big Claim

[@jyotitripathi5050]

Mother in law should be asked what she would have done if her JCO husband would have died after her marriage.

[@sandhyas1292]

A mother is always a mother, because she give birth to that son. Her place is not replaceable. But the position as a husband or wife is not stable in this modern society. I feel sorry for this widow. She will eventually get married in future. After 10 yrs the mother still grieve the his son's death, but for her just a past or memory. That Kerthichakra definitely belongs that mother.

[@sandhyas1292]

You can also ask for daughter in law what will she do if she was his mother.

[@ambalikadattaroy2945]

@@sandhyas1292. I find it so strange to read few views here. No morality.

[@ProudIndian7974]

@@sandhyas1292such a sick mentality.. she was with him for more than 8 years.. she didn’t choose to leave him, rather her dreams have shattered , she has lost her partner forever… It’s such a shameful act of the parents to fight for money publicly after their son’s supreme sacrifice… Atleast have some sense while talking…

[@roshnisingh777]

If she truly love him then why she left her in-laws just after his death? Parents did right things while taking stand there many more soilders who r suffering from these issues but that case didn't came out ​@@ProudIndian7974

[@nivieb9]

Whatever be the case, making a public spectacle of this private matter is in very poor taste. Our Braveheart sacrificed his life for his country and his parents are discussing their personal matters in media accusing the young widow. People are passing judgement hearing only one side, we don’t know the other side at all. The girl and her parents have so far, kept a dignified silence, let us give them space to deal with this tragedy that has rocked her life. She’s so young and has been widowed spending only a few months with her husband, we can’t even imagine what she must be going through. Please be human and sensitive!

[@gitarani9269]

It's possible to keep a dignified silence if you have run away with one crore. It's also a way of avoiding questions about it.

[@nivieb9]

@@gitarani9269 so the authorities have informed you about the figure of one crore? And washing dirty laundry in public for money that the widow got is clearly a sign of cheap tactics!

[@nagamanit530]

Good information from Mr. Malik. So, the soldier must have mentioned all this in his documents. In-laws are just washing dirty linen in public. They should respect their dead son's wish and not make more tamasha of their dislike for this young lady.

[@sanghamitraburathoki5693]

Yes.

[@SachinKumar-ew2gr]

Although i may not be knowing issue entirly about their family tussle . But i can surely say that her in laws are wrong but she is definitly wrong on this

[@vjfdi3347]

Please don't speak when you know only half truths

[@rahulrai9064]

It's not dirty tamasha, it's their right also . Bewkuf kahi ka

[@hamarakhabarhamaradesh]

Son did not know that his wife will do like this to his parents after him.thats why it is difficult to know a woman

[@knotsandbrushesbyvandana]

All i see is a hostile environment at in laws house for this young lady. No doubt, she left. Anyone would under such circumstances.

[@venusette]

Not sure why the retd.JCO saab is making this private issue public. The girl has now been defamed and all eyes are on her “insensitive” actions. The parents have definitely made sacrifices and raised their son… Their despair and grief can only be comprehended by someone in their shoes. Hope they can all reach an amicable agreement. Jai Hind.

[@TheAmmu21]

Children are not investments. Children are children. In India people seem to have children as investment policies. The family members that have gone to the press with this are being disgraceful , despite being well to do in this case. Whatever a soldier decides should go, if the will states all should go to parents it should, if it says all should go to the wife it should, unless children are involved. Period .

[@Divyanshusingh-gc2hn]

Yeah , Let's be materialistic and not spend much on our children as the concept of family is F'ed up Duly Noted !

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

Is the husband an investment? Why should the wife get the money? She is young and educated. She can earn her own livelihood and she doesn't even have children to look after. As she is young, she might probably re marry as well

[@preetikalalia1966]

I totally agree with you...very genuine points you have covered. At this age parents have behaved in an immature manner. Huge regards to the lady that she took responsibility her husband dignity and didn't uttered a word in public domain.

[@anuranjan2599]

What wrong has the widow done? Why everyone is after her. She is his wife and rules are clear.

[@MrPicklu123]

Faulty rules should change

[@jonaligoswami651]

Ji...bilkul

[@AnilSharma-yr7dx]

Rules must change

[@coolships]

What rules do people want changed? Ki widow wife ko kuch na mile aur voh destitute ki life jiye?? What if she has children to bring up jo ki most cases mein hota hai?

[@jonaligoswami651]

@@coolships ji..😢😢😢😢

[@Satadru-z9z]

Parents raises the kid, educate they should be rightful. She can start a new life but will the old parents get their son back ? The NOK law should be changed

[@coolships]

What if the widow has small children? Who will take care of them? Should she be left to beg on the streets?

[@vk7875]

Saas bhooli woh kabhi bahu thi....Fact that she didn't let Bahu on her own receive the medal tell a lot... This is call LDD ( Lousy Domestic dispute ). In 1857 James bond refused to solve LDD problems in INDIA !!! ( Conclusion : Indian LDD is incurable )

[@eng.anwaaralawi7790]

Just by seeing this widow I can not stop my tears , Jai Hind !!!

[@madhavisubramanian1142]

Just a doubt, imagine if the same mother in law was widowed young in the same situation, would she have advocated the same? Noooo…

[@alokrathi9304]

We would still be rooting for the mother even then ok.

[@yastikakumar7257]

Media is diverting the audience from the main point. Please watch the original interview of his parents.

[@jonaligoswami651]

Rigght...

[@pt3599]

The wife of Captain is now gone to Australia for her higher studies. Also the kirti chakra is with her parents house. And not her in laws house. She can remarry then why should she keep the kirti chakra and the pension. In this case the pension and the medal should go to Captain parents.

[@Nupur-q2e]

Why pension should go to the sons parents? They have a good pension to support themselves. And how you know she will remarry ?? And if she re-marries then obviously she won't get pension.

[@pt3599]

@@Nupur-q2e and what about kirti chakra?

[@himanshuutube]

Correct. This is a good time govt should review policy. If girl is young and without any kids she is not going to remain unmarried. She will remarry and then there is no meaning of pension.

[@gauravkakkar8022]

​@@Nupur-q2edo u even read laws if she re marries still she will get pension? And is chakra belongs to girl parents or son parens who has died? Have u lost all logics ?

[@preetikalalia1966]

Such a shameful act in laws have done to come publicly . This is not disgrace to the lady also to the martyr. Atleast he should have thought of his son's sacrifice. Whatever was the case they should have not come in media. A huge respect to the veer naree she is already in deep sorrow and then must be seeing all these media reports and people's comments. She doesn't have anyone to listen to her....keeping all her pain and agony with herself. Please people don't comment without knowing other side if the story. Had this happen with there daughter then........

[@venuverma5337]

I this case parents also got 75lakh and the dad is getting his pension also and have one more young son .

[@imanmalik5631]

Pension should stop if the widow remarries. Under no circumstances parents should be left out.

[@ramakumarnambiar7010]

Why?!! The immediate next of kin is the spouse, why should parents get anything at all?!!

[@imanmalik5631]

@@ramakumarnambiar7010 Parents raise the children, educate them, make sacrifices and forgotten once the children get married. Spouse enters later besides nobody is denying rights to her.

[@TheAmmu21]

​​@@imanmalik5631 it is a parents duty to do all those things, the child isn't an investment that gives returns . A child doesn't wish to be born , you bring them into this world , you do those things for your kid because it is your decision . A good parent would expect nothing from a kid except for them to be happy . Children are not investments. I would never want my son to repay me for what I have done for him , and I would never desecrate his memory like this , hell I wouldn't be a in a state to think of assets in the first place, let alone have energy to go to the press. I wouldn't even want any of my child's blood money why would I , my soul is already gone with my kid. And these people are well to do to begin with.

[@dazzlingdx]

Your financial is as such, that y you dont need your son's money. Every middle class or daily wagers cant work after their 60's. It would be their children responsibility to take care of them.. Even if your own son/daughter cannot take care in thier vulnerable phase, who would take responsibility.

[@humanity7161]

​@@dazzlingdxHis parents have already received 65 lakh rupees from UP Govt and Army fund for martyrs. His father is retired from Army and getting a pension and all facilities.

[@romysinha4000]

People are bejng jealous that how a daughter in law can own such a large sum of money. In case of daughter situation will be different.

[@naveenchandrakumar480]

Wife takes it for sure... no confusion here... That is the meaning of marriage...

[@ramnareshsingh6628]

Parents have got sixty five lacks of rupees and the father of Capt Anshumsn is Ex JCO and is getting pension. Parents can serviv with this amount. Thus there is no way to change the policy of NOK in the Army.

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

Anshuman is not the only case. There must be many other soldiers whose parents will be dependent on them. Its a policy matter.

[@15Krati]

@ramnareshsingh6628 In case of dependent parents, then perhaps the soldier should will his entire insurance and part PF amount to them, as NOK wife will get all the pension. In this case, parents already have army benefits and their pension. Perhaps that's why he willed his insurance 50/50. All families in the soldiers in the army need better financial consultation and an honest exchange between parents and children over expectations and obligations.

[@sangamsharma7789]

@@ramnareshsingh6628 They are not demanding money for themselves. They are just demanding Kirti Chakra. And demanding change in NOK for those Mother's who just had single child and after his death.. everything was given to wife and now mother is left all alone... Please see complete interview then comment(it's neither about money nor marrying their daughter in law to second Son) Please collect all information. she didn't even come for Ritual (Pooja) kept for her husband's death.

[@suryaprakashrao699]

It does not make sense, What Malik sit telling is correct. Army dont have to do any thing and they should encourage men to write will...Govt cannot do much.

[@sanghamitraburathoki5693]

Thanks India Today for taking up this issue. Our society has not changed and a widow is targeted. And remarriage who thinks it is possible in a society still under semi feudal values? Parents who are washing dirty linen in public seem to be more concerned with financial aspects. Would they have done the same if God forbid something happened to their daughter?

[@dazzlingdx]

She can take care of herself. How about their parents

[@priyanshchaturvedi1280]

She won't live as a widow. People like you are the spreading misinformation. Government should amend the law i.e if the widow remarry then she won't enjoy the facilities of his first husband.

[@mansisingh1085]

@@priyanshchaturvedi1280 they don't get it is once they remarry, every year it is declared that they have not remarried Please don't spread hate without awareness

[@priyanshchaturvedi1280]

@@mansisingh1085 Anyone who's blaming Captain Anshuman Singh's parents that they're greedy for money should listen complete interview ◾His father didn't even get to touch the Keerti Chakra ◾Address of Anshuman was changed without them even knowing ◾They requested the chakra to be handed over to them during unveiling of a statue in memory of Mr. Singh but that request was denied ◾His mother says they treated their DIL like a daughter & she was staying with Anshuman's sister happily but broke ties soon after Anshuman's death ◾His mother says their DILs father said we want to forget the past. But Anshuman was their past present and future even if he's not alive. Don't they have any right over memories of their own son Why should parents of soldiers not speak up ? Why should parents be quiet no matter what pain they're going through ? Why is every expectation from in-laws and not daughter-in-law? They're raising some very pertinent questions regarding NOK policies which several parents of men killed in action also have from government Anyone who is maligning these parents who are only putting out their pain is a heartless soul blinded by a soft corner only for a widow undermining misery of parents who sacrificed their beloved son for the nation I stand by Anshuman's parents and their pain in this hour of grief

[@SachinKumar-ew2gr]

​@@mansisingh1085yup pension stops after remarriage Their son chose his wife as 100%nominee . So she is not wrong legally . But morally she is definitly wrong and hard to defend her

[@kcommon3552]

Sorry to hear about the loss of their brave son. Their daughter-in-law has not shown respect for her in-laws, and they, in turn, have not addressed these matters privately with government officials. It's not beneficial for either family to go public during the grieving time.

[@sudharavishanker4594]

I am for this coming out in public.Dont view this as a singular case. This requires a better understanding by the authorities. I am sure there are many cases which have not been settled properly

[@astee.007]

@@sudharavishanker4594 everthing cant be solved by the govt and these thing has belittled the sacrifice of that man. this is utter wrong on the part of the family.

[@SEEMASHARMA-gp7us]

How do you know how she was treated or what her mental state is right now?

[@agnescraig2912]

What and why respect for in-laws? She married their son not the whole family. Parents angry because they lost control and we all know about evil in laws and how other peoples daughters are treated like slaves. So do not come up with Respect.

[@singingsolitude8078]

It is easy to make such callous remarks and entertain oneself

[@Windytigor678]

First of all those who all are thinking that parents had not conversed privately with govt , infact his father did with defense minister. Now narrow minded media is just questioning whether ex gratia should be given to nok or parents BUT when you listen to the full interview with other channels, they did not claim ex gratia instead her mother asked for right to be his mother which was snatched by carrying away Kirti chakra and permanent address. Unfortunately media is sensationalizing the matter, this matter is all about right of parents being parent not about money ..... naturally it should be with his mother coz she nurtured and nourished his child , feeded , raised , look ofter him when he was infant all alone because his father was in army ... this way this whole matter is fallen unjustified to his mother or say parents .

[@yastikakumar7257]

exactly his father is a retired subedar from Army and had has enough resources for him, his wife and other two children. They are upset because they are upset how she turned her back towards his family. The father being from Army never had chance to hold it. Also Capt. Anushman singh's wife being NOK got his permanent address changed to her native which emotionally broke his parents. He never mentioned about money but just being honoured as his parents by his wife which she is not doing.

[@iceblue26]

Very good👍

[@ambalikadattaroy2945]

100% agree with you. I also think same way.

[@vishaljandial2064]

They posted so many videos still nobody listening they don't want money they are being given a cold shoulder. Should it happen to the martyr's parents. NOK rules they want to be ammended for those parents who r dependent. No disrespect for captain's widow

[@SEEMASHARMA-gp7us]

I dont understand why it should be equally split. Parents have lived a different amount of life and the woman has all her life in front of her. Also how it should be split should be decided by the soldier. In his will

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

So basically what you are saying is that the old parents should left to fend for themselves because they are old. Only the young widow, who is 26 independent working woman capable of earning her own livelihood, deserves all the money

[@coolships]

​@rajeshwarshukla7302 what has the widow's capability to earn got to do with it? Aise toh parents also have their own pension plus 2 more working, independent children to take care of them. Rules are rules. The soldier himself signed on the way he wanted the money split. The parents are not even honoring their son's decision.

[@SEEMASHARMA-gp7us]

@rajeshwarshukla7302 independent working woman !!!!!!! Wow ... did he not know that she will be independent working woman . You do understand .. that when the soldiers parents are saying that shadi mein bohot samman diya.. basically means that ladki walon ne shadi ka khar ha kiya hoga. Now parents should also have spent their money on their girl and said shadi katni hai toh mandir mein kar do.. samman kya hota ...your logic is.. cuz now woman has studied and independent then she should not be given anything again .. what is marraige for you then. When they married they became one.. and they took decisions . Right.. you will have to hour that. What if both the parents were freaking rich.. both earning .. would you say the swme thing. then .. do we consider each and evey case differently. The way these people are maligning 26 yr old girl in public.. akele mein toh kya hi bol dete honge.

[@sureshpal670]

Every parents raise kids. Once kids are above 18 years, the kids no longer belong to parents. That's it. Parents need to learn and take care of themself. Wife and kids are the new family and not parents. Parents must learn something and educate themself.

[@shashipunera8548]

It's a soldiers choice why are people making a hue and cry.Poor girl is given a bad time.

[@gurbuxsingh7397]

Malik sahib has given a right account of the situation prevailing in the family.

[@sriranjanim1460]

These parwnts made a joke of their son. Their son was their investment and they want the money back. They didnt respect the nok will of son

[@renu63189]

Parents like these seem to b sending their sons in army just for pensionary nd other benefits because their is no mention of son but just bad mouthing of daughter in law what a shame they r discussing widow daughter in law's marriage in media disgusting how much will the society fall

[@Divyanshusingh-gc2hn]

They are discussing what generally happens and is highly probable 😂 The woman won't get remarried ? And still then she'll have accolades of Martyr and all the one time monetary compensation And that's a cruel joke 😂

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

This is like saying that parents who make their sons a doctor do so for money. Yes, they might do. What's wrong with that? There is nothing wrong in expecting money or pension. You need money to survive. People will like you will make a comment on KZbin saying "What a brave son they had, may his soul rest in peace". But will you foot the health bills when the parents fall sick?

[@darihunsyiemlieh6986]

What if the soldier is the lady soldier?

[@rekhamittal5003]

Why should the parents who are independent, look to take away anything at all from the life partner.

[@mickieminni3204]

Who the hell is this reporter to dictate what the soldier should or should not do? such chauvenism, hate against a young widow.

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

You are a fool if you think that a civilized discussion is a hate against the widow.

[@mickieminni3204]

Ah, the paradox of calling a discussion "civilized" while leading with an insult-truly the zenith of irony. Respect, it appears, is an art lost on some. Coming from an illustrious military family, where my father is currently serving, and both my nanu and dadaji retired as Colonels, I've witnessed firsthand the gravitas of their sacrifices and the wisdom behind their decisions. All three resolutely chose to leave 100% of their assets and emoluments to their wives, a gesture of profound respect and unwavering commitment. It’s almost endearing that someone ensconced in the comforts of a studio believes they hold the authority to critique the personal choices of these brave men. My nanu and dadaji faced the perils of the China war, and my father the trials of Kargil, risking their lives for our nation’s honor-not for the fleeting opinions of self-appointed armchair critics. So, while you might dress this up as a "civilized discussion," perhaps it’s time to learn what true valor, respect, and civility entail. In the grand tapestry of life, it's clear who's wielding the pen and who's merely doodling in the margins.

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

@@mickieminni3204 Writing a 300 word essay doesn't increase the gravity of one's argument. Secondly, this debate has been started by the parents of the martyred soldier, not by the anchor or the media. Otherwise, nobody would have ever come to know who got what from the army. Thirdly, this debate is very much relevant in the changed circumstances of the modern world. Somebody who faced the China war was serving in an era where the widows would generally live with the family of their husbands. Naturally, if you live with your father in law and mother in law, you can take care of them. If the martyred soldier was alive, he would have taken care of his mother father from his salary. Today, we lives in times when the widowed wife may not necessarily live with their husband's family after the husband's death. Which is perfectly fine, the wife is an individual and she is free to make her life choices. Now, in Anshuman's case, his father is himself a retired soldier and he gets his pension so he can survive. But in many other cases, the parents are dependent on the son. How do they survive if the son passes away and the daughter in law leaves them to go and live somewhere else? What if the parents fall sick and need money for treatment in old age? Are you and me going to pay for it?

[@pjane9231]

Who are you??? It's unfortunate that we are seeing such hyperindividualism and self-centric behavior. The Sacrifice of our brave hearts must inspire and create more brave hearts, and I pray to God that may every brave heart get to live his full life, Being Wife You should have played a role in promoting more such patriotism and helped the families of other martyrs of course you too have a life to live but I hope you do not make yourself a wife of a Jihadists!! Though your own investment in the life of Dr Anshuman is very little so you may not remember it, but the investment of the nation and the parents of Anshuman is very high and the loss to them is incalculable that is why the nation stands up with the family of Martyr so that this nation may never feel a shortage of patriotism and brave hearts like Anshuman..!!

[@mickieminni3204]

@@pjane9231 , WHO are you talking to?

[@Santhoshdbe]

At the time of documentation people will be told to fill a name and sign. They will be told, ‘ this is formality’ ,’ this is how everybody does’ . Later people hardly think about what they did as well! Anyway only Pressure works. Once parents start deciding against sending kids to Army then Govt will change law. What were we doing if this problem already happened post Kargil war to many People? Hats off to media. Hope Modi Govt will not take years to fix this😭

[@rezangma]

I don't agree with General Mallik ... Some provision should be made for the parents too ... Sometimes poor parents spend all their life savings in educating their Sons and then all of a sudden are left in poverty with nothing...

[@AaseeshMarina]

It's a parent's duty to raise their child, no parent should expect compensation from their child. The child didn't ask to be born and one shouldn't have children as a retirement policy

[@darihunsyiemlieh6986]

@@AaseeshMarina wow! you are far more broad minded! But as children please show some gratitude to your parents

[@AaseeshMarina]

@@darihunsyiemlieh6986 I have a healthy relationship with my parents, no need for personal attacks here

[@rezangma]

@@AaseeshMarina ...No you're wrong...The parents can also send you to a govt municipal school and at 18 turn you out of house like most do in western countries and you have to earn your own bread and butter...But Indian parents spend their life's savings on selfish Sons like you ,so that you can talk sh** about them ... The parents spend their entire retirement money on crap sons like you ....This absolute sense of entitlement is pathetic and disgusting...

[@dss8983]

​@@darihunsyiemlieh6986 showing gratitude and being shamed publically are 2 different things. Here the inlaws are shaming the DIL publically repeatedlly on different media channels. Atleast the DIL is graceful enough not to wash dirtly laundry in public.

[@AK-iw3zw]

Things on Paper are DIFFERENT from GROUND Reality. Indifference of the DiL has caused Frustration, Anger & Hurt. There are Norms of the Society which the DiL has flaunted. Laws can be Amended.

[@ausmani2278]

Shaheed Anshuman father should now show some patience . He should now think of forming a foundation or a hospital in his son memory. He can take help from any crowd funding site.

[@choubeyritesh10]

The chief is still living in the 40s it seems

[@rigzinyangdol2889]

Yes the policy needs review and a balance decision be taken. In kargil war one of the widow of a fallen soldier took all the benefits including a petrol pump,a flat in delhi Dwarka got back to her ex boyfriend,onverted to islam her boyfriend religion. The soldier parents from a far flung village in ladakh were not even aware of the ongoings ,so innocent were they. This is where the decisions go wrong.

[@yastikakumar7257]

who was that soldier never heard of.

[@humanity7161]

This NOK policy is implemented after Kargil war. A review committee was setup because many of the army widows were murdered by the family in the greed of money.

[@rigzinyangdol2889]

@@yastikakumar7257 Kargil war didn't have a soldier fallen they were in hundreds,are you even aware of Kargil war in the first place. You don't fight wars where there are no casualties

[@yastikakumar7257]

@@rigzinyangdol2889 I am just asking question there is no need to get offended I was alive and had sanity more than you are having right now at that time. Had gone through the stories of martyrs number of times. If you can't provide further details then shut up!!!

[@Escapist...]

Why does this story sounds made up ? 😂 Lmao didn't answer the question about the name of the soldier, but got so offeneded to reply there were hundred of soldiers 😂😂

[@neensatya4]

Very painful for parents.

[@sriranjanim1460]

Nasty father and mother. Son knew this and has mentioned in his will to transfer the property to wife. Father wanted his daughter in law to marry his second son so that money is lost. The son body hasnr come home and his father gave a video that he will give option to marry second son. So crazy money minded parent.

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

Don't level false allegations you shameless fellow. 😂 The father said that if "if the widow wants to marry someone else, he will help in wedding expenses. If she wants to stay in Anshuman's house he said that since she is young, he is open to even marrying his second son to him and if she wants to live in their house without marriage, he is ready to give her Anshuman's share of the property as well" don't cut out words from his speech

[@bijumathews4032]

This is not a subject of discussion in the media.India today is taking up this to divert public attention from many pressing national issues.

[@neensatya4]

Whatever has been awarded to wife, is injustice to parents. If girl resides with parents in law, then only she should be made eligible for all awards, Our defence forces rules should be modified as according.

[@jamesmj891]

Soldiers can nominate parents, wife and children to get Army Group Insurance benefit. He can specify what percentage each nominee should get.

[@tapemaj]

Extremely difficult situation … But , parents ought to receive at least 35 % compensation and balance to widow . Six months or Six years even sixteen years depending upon service .

[@soniab3731]

Rahul was saying no compensation is given then what is all about NO k 😮😮😮😮

[@deepakk8184]

The mother discussed agniveer with RAGA. She came out all smiles sitting in the SUV. Why didn’t she discuss this with him. Seems a political issue. I am sure someone is paying them handsomely for all this drama. Please leave the army alone!

[@BusyPundit]

Shut up and quit disrespecting the Fallen Warrior!

[@albertbaryawal9522]

Will gurav Sawant property be divided between his parents n wife post him

[@sudhadhulia5509]

But parents don't want money ,they want the Kirti Chakra conferred on their son which the daughter in law didn't took away without letting them even touch it. But this situation could have been avoided.

[@divm8559]

It's only about money

[@megha24nov]

i woman who would had been money centric wud hav given away KC to his parents n wud hav taken the money vid her.. they very reason she took both is first she is legally authorised n secondly she had sentimenta to the honour conferred to her late husband

[@bachchaprasadsingh8598]

Fruitful conversation with the General. 😂😂

[@harendrabhadouriya5215]

I don't agree with general...

[@dr.bhardwaj6791]

Very sane advice by General Very foolish on the part of to anchor to bring into public domain differences within family

[@nehasingh-u6s]

But parents need that kirti chakra, they also deserve to get son's bravery award thay had grown up and it is also very difficult to accept son's martyr....

[@jrani9529]

Greedy parents/in-laws. If they truly love their son ,they will also love the daughter in-law.

[@neurodoconwheels2606]

What if the widow without any children decides to marry again ? Should she still get the pension too . Who will take of the parents when they are old ?

[@anveshikapandey5823]

They have other children and they also got 64 lakkh.

[@ProudIndian7974]

Would you have asked the same question if your 26 year old daughter becomes a widow?? She was with him for more than 8 years.. That young girl has lost her partner.. have some shame before commenting..

[@rajeshwarshukla7302]

​@@ProudIndian7974They were married for hardly 5 or 6 months when the soldier died. Moreover, the young widow lost her partner but the parents lost their son. The young widow might probably marry somebody else but parents will not get another son.

[@ProudIndian7974]

@rajeshwarshukla7302 what do you mean by “they were married for hardly 5-6 months”?.??? Don’t you know they were together for more than 8 years.. Her in-laws forced her to marry their younger son just for the sake of money, and the way his parents are maligning the image of their daughter in law speaks clearly about why she left their home after her husbands death.. and it was Anshuman Singh who made his wife a nominee, even though they never imagined such thing will happen but he wanted to secure his wife financially… It is completely her choice if she stays as his widow or marries someone else she is just 26 year old young lady.. she too will never get back love of her live, she was with him for more than 8 years… imagine if it was your daughter would you have said same thing..

[@ProudIndian7974]

@rajeshwarshukla7302 beti toh aapki bhi hogi, smriti singh ki jagah apni beti ko rakh k dekhiye.. is it that easy to be with someone for 9 years and if the partner dies get married to someone else… ??? Aapk yaha aisa hota hoga isliye itne aasani se bol rhe h..

[@ghosejoy]

Society is going to rots, now parents will stop sending their sons to Army. Why will a Son not split between parents and spouse. Ask any son, you will get an answer. Simply divide in half and everyone is happy.

[@ProudIndian7974]

Is it just about money for the parents?? His father is getting pension, he got money when he retired.. fighting for money publicly is so shameful after loosing their son…

[@InvincibleMan99]

@@ProudIndian7974 If you listen him carefully now, he just want keerti chakra, and Anshuman's permanent address to be changed to his deveria village...becz girl left for austraila and now all communication about anshuman will be received by girl's parents..that's unfair...so parents of anshuman feeling leftout and cheated.

[@tenaciousguy-j5s]

if the parents are financially dependent. then yes the money should be split equally. if the parents are financially independent and sound. then it should be split 20:80. if the widow is to remarry. then the benefits should be split 50:50. Family Politics aside. As parents are a pillar for their child. Similarly a child is a pillar for the parent also. Family politics always stays the same. Its very complicated actually.

[@nishant_kharkwal]

Ghar ke kalesh national news ho gaye hein. Hadd jhand media, aur jhand janta.

[@saurabhpratap9319]

Itne sensitive topic par is dalal anchor ka program accha nahi lag raha....some upright anchor should be given chance...!!

[@gracevarghese7717]

She will remarry sure and it will be divided equally.

[@seemasingh-sc7cy]

Leave on officer .. govt should not involve...

[@Ankitkumar-cm1sn]

Ex Gratia payment should go to the wife. You can't make different law for one person, wife has to look after children often indian women are housewives, dependent on her husband and don't have any source of income. Parents however has other source of income or other children who can take care of them.

[@subhratapanda9209]

Only in that case If widow has kids and ready to staying with her in-laws home and never remarried.

[@mysticlove6728]

Nowadays for parents, sons are investment for lifetime.when the son is alive, they create divorces, when son is dead, they are after insulting widow. Kaliyug! Such a disgrace they have earned washing dirty linen in the public. Even after getting the money they aren't satisfied. Where the widow should go? What she us going through, what her situation be on every festival,karwa chauth, these shameless mother father don't seee that what she has lost? Widow is not a gold digger, parents are.

[@subhajit201]

The Gen saying Captain took vow during marriage. Gen saab that vow is effective until death. Not after death.

[@sujatachauhan2245]

Why this intense and continuous focus on this family feud ? If there is a problem that warrants government action , then the complainant should address the government and not go public or go to Netas .Imagine what the brave heart watching from above must be feeling about this ungainly spat between the two families and the role his wife is playing..No dignity, no respect .The Shaheed has been gone only a few months and they are already talking of remarriage. Yes she should remarry but the discussion is ill timed . Couldn't the elders of the two families have sorted out the problems quietly in memory of the Shaheed ? This drama in public is so painful.

[@abhishekjain8472]

General Sir must understand that though late captains widow is quite young but she has no issues and also is professional engineer so she can work and earn her livelihood so no point in giving entire benefits to her

[@rohit7723]

You are not asking who will get the gallantry medal ?

[@laxmansingh8128]

Anguish of the parents is understood . What about if the widow

[@hemanikaushal9090]

If parents want to use their children as an investment, please don’t marry your son. Be happy with you son. Let’s not abuse a woman who leaves her family to be a life partner of someone.

[@sangeetabocki]

I quite agree with general here army can only advise. Soldiers need to have their will as they can be martyred the next day, hence the first day of their joining should be all about sorting their personal benefactors. According to Indian values, Property should ideally go to parents in case of no child involved and pension may go to the wife which is subjected to her being widow, if she remarries the pension stops. For children of martyrs army has an amazing educational infrastructure to support their education and also have vacancies reserved for them. Haryana has sorted the matter wisely here.

[@mandarjoshi5216]

@sangeetabocki- Bang on, Totally agree with your point.

[@ambalikadattaroy2945]

Simply rules should be changed.

[@DollySunny-q1n]

We agree with Gene. Malik. After marriage, the benefit should go to the wife, whether it is one month’s marriage or ten year’s marriage. Greedy parent’s demand should not be entertained

[@forkinpig]

The general is just repeating himself without the specific context in this case. A marriage of only 5 months, a young lady with no children will have ample opportunities to find another good partner and have a family and children. How is it fare that she gets all the pension and 70% of state compensation and also keeps the Kirti Chakra. What opportunities of a renewed life do the parents have at this stage. What about there loss of entire life's work, in this particular case.

[@achyutsharma5170]

How can v compare mother with wife.....really sad

[@hardikjain9461]

media has made it a money issue. but in reality father only wants to touch that medal

[@siddharth6505]

The girl is young and can get married and start again.

[@nagamanit530]

That is an assumption!!

[@vg82]

@@nagamanit530 BC bewakuf samjha hai … usne phir shadi karni he hai .. mere pados mai kargil martyr ne na sirf OnGC ki naukari li , paise liye , dubara shadi kari aur baki mai batana nahi chahta hun ..

[@vinayravi9343]

​@@nagamanit530assumption? Your joking right.

[@Priyaykanth2]

Men are young Why to go on Border or in any other Security Forces Because if they Sacrifice there Life for Nation Nobody is going to Sacrifice there way of Life for his Parents (Old Age)

[@siddharth6505]

@@nagamanit530 What do you think she is going to remain childless and husband less forever?

[@aspyogiz]

When wife is educated and doing a job , then what? Do same thing. 😂😂 biased.

[@albertbaryawal9522]

It is the spouse who who has all the rights over his or her partner.this father is trying to seek attention n is being greedy.

[@wheeloftime2908]

No one is politicizing it .Its highly unfortunate tha Mr Malik is implying "politicization" .This is d problem .People in d media ( All sensible citizens know that d media doesnt give a damn abt any citizen) cant sit together with panelists and have a nuanced discussion abt policy ,solutions ,reforms.

[@arvindsood509]

It’s a policy flaw . Need to address it

[@amulyalabschandigarh1009]

UP Govt has given to these parents too and still this parents wants the wife,s share! Social problem v much pervasive in our society

[@TapasChakrabarty-j7r]

The parents are unnecessarily indulging in character assination

[@serendipity0821]

It is not her good luck that she gets the ex gratia amount...she has suffered a huge loss. Parents cant treat their child as an investment and claim returns citing reasons we cared for him n all ..all parents do that. Shame on these parents insulting their son's sacrifice for money.

[@DL-DOMINAR]

The anchor should have done some research prior to coming to the studios for this topic.

[@Hello-i9f]

Please make a policy if widow remarries the pension stops to her

[@nirmalachacko9385]

Why should the pension stop if a widow remarries? The pension was EARNED by her late husband ….serving the nation . The wife was always part of the services in war and peace.

[@Priyaykanth2]

​@@nirmalachacko9385 Then why she left her Parents in Old Age If Soldier is taking Care of Nation Isn't it wife duty to take care of Parents

[@saumyapaul4298]

It's already like that..Pension stops if there's remarriage .

[@pihu3727]

Pension stops when a widow remarries.That’s the rule.

[@varunms850]

@@nirmalachacko9385 part of service? Thats a tall claim !!

[@jamwalbs7977]

She even gets pension part also..... whereas parents...???

[@sandhyadevi9408]

It's the duty of son to write a will regarding his death money and property.

[@ILUVLUCKNOW]

Exgratia payment is not reward money that has to be given parents for looking after the soldiers since childhood. Its parents duty to take care of child, since they bring the child to this world. Rather exgratia money is support money, given for sustainence after primary bread earners demise. If parents are helpless, there still could be some merit to the claim. But in this case father is well off, has his own pension and many benefits that retired JCO gets from Army. He has two more kids for emotional support, yet he wants ex gratia amount for himself. Its noteworthy that he too did get lacs of rupees. But apparently he wants it all. Clear case of greed and patriarcy

[@अगोचर]

When it is clear that next-of -kin is the policy matter of the Government, then, Why ask non-sense questions just to extend the debate, Mr. Anhor.

[@LataMathews]

If no children then the benefits should go to both equally. The wife will remarry soon and enjoy the benefits . Good this subject has been broached.

[@agnescraig2912]

Indian parents must change their mindset. Parents must be responsible for the children they procreate. GOI is responsible for its citizens welfare with provisions for adequate state pensions rather than spending money on Ambani style Weddings. Indians fleeing poverty to the Christian West only even going to war zones. Dead soldier's children insist on Russian citizenship after father killed. Better option of living without Russian language/freezing temperatures than poverty.

[@amigoprovocante]

The present rule about dividing the benefits are just and correct between widow and parents. Please do not sensationalise such serious issues.

[@aparajitanag4494]

Every parents raise their child or children. That children when becomes parents they will raise their children. A parent after just 1 year of his son's death started blaming his wife for nothing. More than this father is getting huge pension from army. Its all kissa of paisa

[@bodhisattva6308]

The anchor is too excited and dramatic. Please drink some cold water. Quit making drama out of all situations.

[@KrishnaVasudevGokul]

3:05 sir, he (father of Anshuman Singh) is not asking for MONEY, he is just asking for the kirti chakra just for 2 hour ceremony….that is it….

[@jamwalbs7977]

She will get pension also ..but what about parents 😭

[@Geeta_Karthik]

They get pension too

[@jamesmj891]

There is a provision to nominate parents and children besides wife in army Group Insurence.

[@ravit6223]

It has to be divided equally amongst Mother Father Widow and kids if any

[@saptarshimondal8904]

Sabko 5 months sadi ke dukh dikh rahe hai agar uski koi chota bachha rahte to baat war widow manlena chaiye lekin iss case mai 28 saal tak dekhbhal palposhan ye sab bekar hai 5 mahine ki patni pati nam ka havan puja mai bhi participate nehi karte hai aur sasural ke sampark cut karke desh chorke bhagti hai beti ki bap kahete sab kuch bhul jaye aur age barie keya koi maa bhul sakti hai ? Koi baap keya kare media ka help bina Government se madat manga

[@amulyalabschandigarh1009]

Once married NOK can only b wife

[@deepaksinghrathorecpp3567]

General is talking bullshit . Parents cant be forgotten totally as the case is descrobed by Gen . Poor parents who is going to lookafter them after the son has gone .

[@himanshuutube]

VP malik is very biased in this matter.

[@deepikaroychoudhury]

Well it's fine to debate who is rightful heir to the medal but yahan beta, Pati chala gaya uska kya

[@mandarjoshi5216]

Once the Capt got commissioned as Lieutenant in Army, every one was aware that at any given point of time, task or mission assigned to him may turn out to be the last mission of his life.