Fortress Tutorial 7: Easy Introduction to Emotional Literacy Lite (Richard Grannon )

[@lauralehtoart]

I hope to see Richard get an award for this work someday. He has saved my life. Thank you

[@danielp8433]

Same

[@Healthysometimes_foodie]

Ditto

[@sallyogden9151]

I relate he saved mine too 🙏🏻

[@curlycarla]

Me too and a Ted talk 🗣️ we appreciate you Richard 🩷

[@ellenholiday737]

Thank You to HIM tremendously!🙏 Huge help ❤️

[@tracykatrinaobrien6998]

You are truly a gift to the world Richard.

[@tracykatrinaobrien6998]

@matthew austin thanks for sharing your insights Matthew.

[@gamerchristina1079]

I agree 👍👍 I love him ❤️❤️‼️

[@amberfahr5992]

Agreed

[@noway325]

No min non. You need to hear me. Listen

[@helenhopper8646]

Love this. Have to ask what is the music you are using at the beginning and end of tutorial?It’s very soothing and hypnotic

[@i_am_whole_again]

Does anyone else see the irony in how vigilant we are at gauging & identifying OTHER PEOPLE's emotional states, but we suck at identifying whats going on INSIDE ourselves? We were taught to base our emotions on what others felt, so in the absence of that outside data we are all looking around going WAIT! WHAT? You want me to feel something ALL BY MYSELF??? OH HELL NO!!

[@amybeard2054]

D. Williams lightbulb moment! Yesssss!!

[@cathybutcher4826]

Yes, I had to gauge the narc's every subtle physical and emotional temperature all day, everyday in anticipation of the next psychotic outburst. I can almost psychically read other people's motives now. Left me with a wonderful autoimmune disease for being at attention for decades. Working on not giving a damn about others needs and wants now. (Toxic needs anyway. ) The road ahead does look bright though. Much love to everyone fighting the good fight. ❤🤗

[@kerrymillar1267]

Exactly

[@kimwarburton8490]

@@cathybutcher4826 same here

[@JayKay-zt2bo]

wow soooo true 😬🤢 gross god complex ~ omniscience only for others

[@eva-janemiddleton434]

When the pupil is ready,the teacher appears. Thank you.

[@SpiritGirlSF]

I was led here to Richard by a post in the Community section of The Patriot Nurse a channel I just subbed to so I it looks like this pupil was ready!

[@salihashahid9526]

Thank you

[@corriemoody5841]

I felt silly watching this in a sense I should know how I feel? And I started crying because I felt dumb that I didn't know how I felt! The sense of not knowing or emotional Illiteracy is a bad feeling. It makes sense that we push it down , it is overwhelming to realize you don't have control. Thank you Richard I appreciate you showing me How to be emotionally literate and why I'm not!! And you are truly a blessing

[@jenniferlowe5484]

I always described it as a "Shell of a Person". "Ghost' is a much more accurate term for how I've felt all my life. I'm not here. I don't know what I want or what I like and don't like. Directionless. Floundering. But, I have an intent to heal dammit... I can't do this life this way anymore. It's time to call myself out of the darkness and codependency into becoming Myself. I have barely scratched the surface but working on listening to my feelings and thinking about how a person should live. My intent is to find me and my self and my personality and get on with my life, finally, @ 39 years old. Better late than never though!

[@1RPJacob]

If you don't know what you feel, a narc will tell you what you should feel: guilt trips, shame trips etc

[@maretijewel1470]

Most importantly, they'll MAKE you feel them.. or you're already feeling all these toxic emotions they instilled in you and you ain't got the space for your own true self..!

[@BestLife101]

Lol

[@liznorth4028]

Yes

[@olusha]

And we can substitute "culture" and "social media" etc. for "narc".

[@neslisultan]

I’m in it right now.

[@roseney9867]

I love your work on youtube, admire your accomplishment on your self healing, respect you for showing up with a backbone and genuine concern for the wellbeeing of whoever needs and is willing to heal, i wish your light to spread, i wish you good and thank you 🌸💗

[@nicolesalter2726]

Years of therapy didn't teach me to do anything but vent how ticked off I was. I'm not stupid, yet could not identify any feelings or emotions beyond anger or any desires beyond being taken care of. Slowly developing a self thanks to your wisdom and methods. Thank you.

[@anchy0301]

Emotional Literacy Exercise saved my life!!🥰

[@paulcollison8863]

Omg , when Richard talks about being a ghost 👻 and feeling like not really being here that really hit home and made me feel very uncomfortable. Which is a good thing 😀

[@marinak5112]

“Feeling safe to participate in life”... so 👏 on 👏 point 👏!

[@donaldmacphail9988]

Richard, this is excellent and am getting a lot from it. Didn't realise how illiterate I was being, playing safe and trying to avoid pain, I think. It is to face the feelings I have and accept them. Thank you...

[@adamschwartz4221]

Have you felt benefit from doing this consistently? Thanks

[@petalparker5]

Love the way you encapsulate this stuff. After spending years in a religuous cult this really hits home for me. They train the awareness of feelings right out of you to keep you in and under their control. It is taking years for my full kaleidoscope of emotions to came back online and for me not to terrified of them.

[@anajadwa6875]

Terrific video. I loved your explanation as to why we need to be emotionally literate. What you said about victims of narcissistic abuse not feeling safe to participate in life really resonated with me. I've done all the work on feeling worthy, loving myself but I have still been feeling scared to live and I couldn't find the block. During mirror work I found that I was not willing to let other people love me or help me in anyway at all because I did not trust them. I also found that the reason behind this unwillingness to accept help or love was the result of 46 years of being exposed to the sweet, mean or hurt and rescue cycle. Subconsciously I just could not believe in "goodness" anymore. The sweet mean cycle, at a subconscious level, destroyed my belief in whatever good I saw in people or life, because that's what life is like in the sweet mean cycle, all goodness is fake and not only does it not last it's a bait to trap and hurt you further. I feel amazing after these realisations (after the tears off course) and I think that's my last major block resolved. You are absolutely right emotional literacy is key to recovery. I do mine looking in the mirror Edit: Telling myself "Life loves you"and see what comes up then "I'm willing to let life love me today" and you'll get to the bottom of how you really feel inside this way, then I take notes because I feel it amplifies its effectiveness. Thanks for this video great work.

[@kimwarburton8490]

Wow! Thankyou so much for ur insight Im guna look into this cycle I believe youve just given me the answer to a question i was almost ready to ask, thankyou for ur hardwork n diligence n for sharing 🖒😎😍 Edit I had thought it was all the selfhate inability to selflove stuffs

[@piprogers4638]

It's so true! I always felt like a ghost. I've thought that about myself so many times! With no drive, no desires, no intent, no direction, a zombie. A ghost in my own life. And I've never known why until now. It's codependency. Like being suffocated, eaten alive, focused on that other person, believing them, living through them. Being forced into self-negation. Oh god it's making me cry and cry and bawl my eyes out. But...at the same time I'm getting a glimmer, a hint, a scent of freedom, to be me, to be real, to have agency. Wow. Thank you 🙏

[@francescamingo3604]

OH MY Richard !! What you explained in this video was easy enough to understand, until I went to actually do it!! Looks like I have my work out for me!! Wish me Luck!!

[@semolinasemolina8327]

Richard grannon is possibly the most organised and broad but focused youtuber in this field.

[@anajadwa6875]

I'd just like to say, you've done a lot of fantastic work and put a lot of really good information out there, ( even if you have been a bit weird sometimes) that is definitely guaranteed to help people heal. However, no matter if you are actually giving people "the answer" to healing if they are not in the right state of consciousness to "get it" it wont work. I know this from my own experience. I was doing the work and on a conscious level I thought I was doing good but somehow I wasn't getting to where I wanted and needed to be. Why? Very frustrating. I discovered that it's what is in the subconscious that needs to be tackled and that takes awareness of what's going on inside you and coming up when you are doing the work. We do the work and expect that it will all be fixed now because I've done that. But the work is actually being aware of whats coming up after doing the exercises and just allowing it to be there, acknowledge and allow. That's how the subconscious becomes conscious. Also doing affirmations consistently to make what's inside you come up and then awareness again, allowing what's coming up not matter how uncomfortable, not judging, not resisting and pushing it away or running away(which can be very difficult)which is what we do when we are not aware of what's going on. This is the process people have to do for themselves, you cant do it for them. This is what brings about the understanding , letting go and healing and hence the ability to move forward. It takes willingness, work and patience consistently. You have more than done your part to help people heal and recover. Well done and thanks a lot for all your efforts it's very much appreciated.

[@glennthompson1129]

Nuanced noble truth.😆

[@ellenholiday737]

Thank You Richard for the knowledge you'r shearing !🙏 Huge positive impact an everything! All the best to you !❤️🌞

[@blumenaue7590]

Thank God for you Richard. Much on KZbin about this subject. But, one need not turn anywhere else but you.

[@angelinaholyer3649]

This exercise has also helped me to recognise when I am being deliberately emotionally provoked by something or someone else. Thank you Richard. Huge help.

[@jakealcorn7613]

Richard Grannon is proving the existence of God as he speaks. Truly a brave man.

[@SEsand86]

I feel fascinated, grateful, positive, inspired, validated by this video. Thank you Richard 🤗

[@ripsagoly]

You are a GENIUS ... you have shown up in my pathway, and I am BE-COMING because of your efforts to share with me and the world... you truly are an incredible person and educator ❤ Thankyou whole-heartedly

[@marcytorres7]

I feel so happy, grateful, daring, brave, strong, thankful. We are so blessed to have you, I am so glad you, are so strong you pulled it through and survived and now your saving our lives.

[@MagisterialVoyager]

This is incredibly helpful. I keep coming back to this video. Thank you, Richard.

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

Thank you - Richard How wonderful to have your direction on how to create inner space ...

[@paulwijdeveld5385]

Richard, thank you so much. I started the fortress series yesterday. Doing the fingers-statement really helps. I added two, which makes it seven. 6. “I do not have to reject myself or my personality any longer, I am fine as I am”. 7. “I will no longer turn away from pain, both from the past and in the present”. Thanks again, it brings the inner peace I looked for so long. Kind regards

[@justjayde2592]

For those here from the 30 day challenge, like me, the exercise starts at 6:15 👍🏼

[@enlightenedhypnotherapygui2487]

Thank you Richard. I have read the book "From Surviving To Thriving." I greatly appreciate your channel and the ease in which you explain these techniques. I adore your humor and personality. Many thanks from one C-PTSD survivor to another Richard. Every video I watch on your channel is so helpful to building my strong new healthy inner and outer fortifications. Namaste

[@geetarman513]

Thank you Rich you are a God send. Blessings my friend.

[@pls9877]

thank you this video may have just changed my life

[@susanfitzpatrick7755]

Truly grateful that I came access your video it's going to be a game changer for my daughter quality of life...she is 17 and looks like she is emotionally illiterate...I'm positive that this is the work that she needs to do ...thank you so

[@disappearingremedy7400]

I had not intended revisiting the emotional literacy exercises. Until I had to navigate a trip to town for a doctor's appointment yesterday. The climate in the environment exudes fear. Your video could not have come at a better time. Thankfully I know with such great results the last time I did the exercises, it won't take that much time hopefully to gain a new strength and relief from CPTSR symptoms again. Consistent work! Thank you!

[@marielladelores5258]

Brilliant content Richard offering a clear explanation and guidance to develop emotional literacy, probably one of the best I've seen. Many thanks. Look forward to the follow-up tutorial.

[@Traceysthoughts]

I just found your channel. I’m excited to learn.and to hear from others. CPTSD can be so lonely.

[@HelenaGamito]

Brilliant. Even if the majority of people is just consumming informed logical approaches to mental health issues motivated by the charisma of the teacher, it worths it. Becoming more educated. The subject isn‘t easy, the vocabulary is precise, it can happen that people talk about just as if knowing. But when people are really in need, they remember there is something that can help, and go there again to listen again, and do something to feel better. Thank you for the education you are offering, plus motivation to - at least - acquire a more accurate vocabulary.

[@bingoandtoto]

I have been watching his videos and I got very good insight, but so many recommend to watch this channel about CPTSD as well. So I`m again here to look into.

[@ajashexs440]

Thank You Richard 💙🙏💙 So far I am supporting everything you are doeing and surprisingly You do speak my mind very often which really make me smile I'm glad You have the platforms to say loud and spread to many people what I am trying to say in my much smaller circles MUch appreciation always💙🙏🤝

[@diannamichaels94]

I turned once again to this teaching to assist me in the January 2021 30DC, so will comment here on my work for the challenge:

[@berniel6962]

I am grateful for these vlogs. They cheer me up😊

[@IamThatiAm420]

Your videos make it easier for me to breathe. 🙏🙏🙏

[@katherinelydon7306]

Your videos are so valuable. I feel hopfulThat by following your advice I will overcome my complex PTSD thank you

[@adamschwartz4221]

I’ve heard Richard repeat this again and again. I’ve blown it off, but now I’m ready to give this a try.

[@solveigrose5537]

Richard, I loved the way you wrote playful!! Did you recognise how beautiful and different it looked from the other words you'd written...seems to me there is a key to all of our hearts. Allowing ourselves becoming more playful 😍🎈

[@amybeard2054]

Such valuable information and presented in a simple to understand manner. Going to find a color wheel of emotions and incorporate this into my day from here on out. Thanks Richard!

[@1kirstyma]

Love this. When I split with my ex I googled every emotion that I had because he'd 'numbed' me and I didn't know where I was, what I was feeling or why. It really helped 👍🏼 It's good to feel, even the bad stuff because you can understand it and deal with it. It's easy now. 😊X

[@Mary-zr2uy]

I love all your videos, very insightful and honest

[@edkuijper1155]

Great. I know i have a lot to do to get emotional literate. I often has been amased that i did not could trust my intuition. Now i know why. Because my feelings are not recognised consiously. Without that, the intuition has not enough power to hold me on a healthy path in live. Stepping into abuse relationships en staying there....

[@quanishasugob4863]

yes I am taking notes on my phone. Because I always lose the paper.!! Somewhere around the five minute Mark when you said everybody's talking about the inner child, emotional intelligence.... I realized Iwas in trouble! And then you said but nobody wants to talk about our feelings. Let alone let myself feel them! What the hell would happen then!? Yeah, this sucks. You said simple. You're right. You said not easy, you're right! Bonus for "Dr. Seuss™ I do not like green eggs and, ham....... I do not like them Sam I am. I do not like them on a train, and the plane,... But I will try them Sam I am! Just FYI, when you said you were going to help me walk through it, I about lost it. Yep I puked up the Green eggs and ham... I am going to go back and try to watch some of your other videos and then come back to this one. Thank you for being so very clear!!! Your video on bullying had very interesting comments.....

[@debsabatino311]

Thank you Richard! I just purchased your Emotional Literacy course yesterday and began this morning. Feeling hopeful, as I know this is where my life gets caught up.

[@Delgado-ot4lq]

Hi there just wondering how many times a day he recommends we should do these exercises? Thank you!

[@debsabatino311]

@Delgado 7777, from what I understand, at least once a day for 30 days. If you have some emotions that come up during the day, I think he suggests it is helpful doing it then too. This is just my understanding.

[@Delgado-ot4lq]

@@debsabatino311 I appreciate you for sharing this information🙏

[@N_R321]

Feeling grateful for this video. - Thank you Richard!

[@agnesbwise9534]

Wow had plenty of this in acting school, NLP training a bit but one bad experience and could not get back to any emo. literacy. After a phobia, I'm like broca's brain... (mouth open and wide eyed look) I was like this in fear for many years....This exercise just using has diminished fear from a 9 to a 7... like tactile exercises when children feel fur, and puzzle pieces, I'm already more sensitized by following along yr model cant wait to continue. My brain thanks you - Love this fortress series. Please never stop refining & Helping!! Thanks!!

[@chanuppuluri8726]

"Emotional constipated" Holy moly that's so good! That's so true!

[@1yoginiheart]

Excellent - Simple but not easy. This is a practice

[@heartwisdomlove]

summon the self - I love it ! Thank you Richard

[@Sarabell239]

Incredible helpful. Your videos are making the steps so clear and so effective. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@Jens0215]

Love it. Simple and effective. Thank you ❤

[@willtribe636]

Splendid! Thank you Richard 🙏

[@brendaplunkett8659]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

[@serena8429]

Been doing the emotional literacy course for about 3 weeks...I am on phase 2 now but I am taking it slow...some parts are a bit triggering but so far it's helped a lot! 🙏❤

[@carospereman3537]

Watching your videos old and new, and I really like when you draw rather than that hand in the older videos. With you doing it, it gives it a more personal touch, and/or could be I just like looking at you : / Anyway, thank you for being on YT. I am learning a great deal, you get right to the point, and are a beautiful person. You are my saving me tons of money in the process. Thank you Richard !!!!

[@annewelch2134]

Oh my... mind blown.. 😳😲 THANK YOU

[@kathyjohnston-keane2623]

I find this approach very helpful. With the recent popularity of Stoicism, there are interpretations that reject all emotion as unhealthy. This falls into the stoic as stone c Pl d and unfeeling. A sad misinterpretation. Even the ancients saw emotion as essential to the human experience. They encouraged daily self-reflection to understand emotion and recognize the triggers. Also develop skills to quickly wotk through the self-defeating emotional states. I like that you encourage feeling rmotion in a healthy way as part of a person fitness routine. I've seen on yoo many stoic gtoups, talk of shutting down of emotion and developing a hardness that is unhealthy.

[@tradfam8850]

🙏🏻I’m so thankful I’m stubbled onto your work.

[@deniseverpeut]

Thank you 🙏 so much Richard!!!

[@hybridvigour5982]

,"This is not about self indulgence ". YES !!!! , because Self Care does not mean, 'me first' , rather it means, 'me too'.

[@woundtorecoverbar-abusermi2209]

Down to earth counselling is drilling inside me.

[@josephmalik3861]

thank u for this i really needed to listen to some one explain in normal layman terms

[@mletchful]

Omg! This made so much sense to me! Never heard it explained this way! Thank you soooooo much 🌟❤️✨namaste

[@sjcafe4484]

One of the things my ex used to say was a positive trait of mine was; that I never wanted and never asked for anything....it makes so much sense now that I do have wants and desires and am learning to ask for what I want and need.

[@tammydallavalle2107]

I was a shell of what my beautiful self once was. The trauma I suffered under a narcissist gave me what I call brain damage.My feelings didn't matter.Only his

[@RuthElliottHilsdon9]

This is BRILLIANT, RiCHARD!

[@sunshinedayz7032]

That introduction and closing sounds are so lovely and soothing Great content too!

[@amyvlogs4313]

Thanks so much RG

[@emziebelles2531]

Thank you so much Richard

[@francesmcfadden57]

Useful as always. Thank you.

[@danielpiatek]

Brilliant. Well done. Thanks so much

[@urspatz6967]

I will untie the knot a little bit. And you are help me. Thank you!

[@CatherineHaskell]

I use an “emotion wheel” to help name my feelings. Anyone can google image “emotion wheel” to find a variety of different ones. Thank you for all of your advice and videos!

[@lammshepherd8107]

Thank you for your teachings.

[@gandfgandf5826]

"we have socks" yes! I'm wearing new socks. Life is good. 😊

[@MoonsEssentials]

Currently wearing my elf socks i got for yule.

[@bernadette573]

I am a ghost who wears real socks.

[@janettemartin4604]

SO MANY need this! SO MANY!

[@alisonblecker595]

I found this channel last night and have not slept! Amazing information. So incredibly grateful. I am en empath and massage therapist and healer. Prayed and meditated and waited til i met someone and then “love” came in. We were so connected like non other. Come to learn it was narcissist abuse. I been in therapy and healing. Inner journey work. Somehow though your channel popped up. I have figured this out on my own but to hear this explanation and I read comments I am not alone. Anyways, thank you. The truth sets you free. I have had a lifetime of traumas. The more I watch and do my work and journaling I believe someday I will attract a healthy relationship. Gratitude 🙏

[@paddyt4043]

Before I start, this is a video I feel iv been needing Wait new socks! Go

[@arande3]

This may explain why the musical artists who are so nuanced with their musical style are so charismatic, they are super in tune with their emotions

[@yvonnewilliams7022]

❤️thankyou Richard 🙏🏻

[@emmacowles50]

Another great video

[@carolgates5297]

King of human kindness

[@TheeHitch]

Great presentation, simple but not easy!

[@zensurf2709]

Having learned NVC (non violent communication) I realized how I loathed it so. This video explains why, it wasn't safe. Create a safe space. Summoning the self, is such a lovely phrase. I find the only good person to share your feeling with is primarily ones own person. Then possibly go from there, with sharing. Anything else can spell disaster (personal experience) E.L.L.: Apprehensive about watching the video, and procrastinated. Upon watching video I felt meaning & growth. Its hard doing this exercise. I have been needing to do this work for awhile. What is your take on the difference between thoughts and feeling, where or how do they overlap? It seems nuanced & elusive where one begins & the other ends. Thank you

[@gratefulgroover6802]

hi ZenSurf... i've also learnt NVC... how did you loath it? Im kinda curious for your perspective on that one. Thisnisndeep and necessary work.... omg i feel so numb as Richard said, like existing like a ghost and not wanting to be seen! Im all in with this work...finally a deeper lever to my healing.

[@zensurf2709]

@@gratefulgroover6802 NVC is a lot to take in. I had a difficult time doing NVC with my partner, I didn’t feel safe sharing. I love Marshall Rosenberg he’s such a dear. Towards the end of Rosenberg’s life he called needs, divine beloved energies😇 🌈

[@PhantasticTruth]

This reminds me of the concept I learned from DBT Marsha L's method. Great tool👌 I have to work on the more words part. More words, more words, more words😆

[@LeonidSpartanKing]

True :)

[@dannorman1113]

Brilliant. "We have bank accounts, we have socks."

[@danielplantagenet8385]

I enjoyed this thanks! 🙏

[@LoveStar333]

This is brilliant.

[@jenniferlowe5484]

Thank you.

[@i_am_whole_again]

Might it be helpful to keep this in a journal, with a date & brief summary of what events happened that day. That way you can see if their is a recurring theme to our emotions based on certain scenerios?

[@briancokayne4182]

I've tried the exercises here where one puts the name of three emoyions one felt today, In my circles I've got 1,Anxious as to how today's job will go given such short notice. 2.enjoing company of unexpected help on said job. 3.sense of fulfillment going home cos the work was finished & met the required standard. . So it seemed somewhat like going bfrom cloudiness to clear sky, but I have a sense that I don't truly know what is & what it not an emotion..I could make a guess from what Richard has said in this tutorial & say 'anger is an emotion or distress is an emotion but still I think I'd do well to look up the 'colour wheel of emotions & remind myself what emotions there are..Brian C./ Stockport.

[@justmesayinghai]

beautiful soul 🌟 thank you