Stop Romantic Obsession & Heal Abandonment Issues - Anna Runkle

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Francesca Psychology

Francesca Psychology

Күн бұрын

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@annazeta4998
@annazeta4998 2 ай бұрын
Love the fact that the hostess doesnt interrupt when the guest is talking .
@alessandracamaro443
@alessandracamaro443 2 ай бұрын
Fr
@Captain_MonsterFart
@Captain_MonsterFart 2 ай бұрын
MMMmmmmmmmm
@bkspielman0
@bkspielman0 Ай бұрын
Yes! I hate the ones where the host is constantly interrupting. Like if we were just going to listen to you the whole time, why did you invite a guest on? Lol
@groovan1242
@groovan1242 Ай бұрын
@@Munchy01 lmfao but WHY
@ohyoufailedbusiness308
@ohyoufailedbusiness308 Ай бұрын
She is a psychologist, they’re suppose to be listeners lol
@tigerlily9234
@tigerlily9234 Ай бұрын
I’ve been in limerence over 1 guy for 5 years… when my life is “good”, I realize I don’t want him. But when it’s bad. I go back into daily thoughts and wishing.
@DMexa
@DMexa Ай бұрын
The number one symptom of childhood trauma is : "Trying to make difficult people be good to you" - Dr. Ramani
@louisecampbell2628
@louisecampbell2628 Ай бұрын
​@@DMexaOMG!!! Trying to make difficult people be good to you..that hit me like a ton of bricks 😮
@louisecampbell2628
@louisecampbell2628 Ай бұрын
YES!! I do the same
@maryrussell2713
@maryrussell2713 Ай бұрын
There are 12 step meetings that are really helpful for breaking this cycle if you are interested. Google SLAA and you can find meetings online or near you
@jordybpeterson9046
@jordybpeterson9046 Күн бұрын
Me too!!!!! Same situation. It’s good to know that it’s a trauma response and I should not try to act on it.
@mountainside26
@mountainside26 2 ай бұрын
The Crappy Childhood Fairy is one of the most accessible, relatable and realistic KZbin channels regarding mental health ever. I am so happy that she is getting her moment on other platforms so her message can get to more people. Anna is awesome.
@kurrves
@kurrves Ай бұрын
I agree, I watch her channel all of the time.
@bayandkheel4405
@bayandkheel4405 Ай бұрын
She literally changed my life.
@itsdeyna
@itsdeyna Ай бұрын
she’s the person who literally explains about limerence. it really hit me to the core. i don’t even know what it is before.
@Treasure2023
@Treasure2023 26 күн бұрын
Yes, I agree. I’m so happy for her she’s bring a whole new insight & perspective that many don’t know about.❤
@SarahVogel86
@SarahVogel86 Ай бұрын
My gosh, she’s perfectly articulating everything I’ve been unable to articulate my entire life. WOW.
@KiKi-te9yd
@KiKi-te9yd Ай бұрын
Talking about trauma is the worst thing for healing trauma.... amen to this. All talk therapy did was make me worse.
@ella110able4
@ella110able4 4 күн бұрын
What kind of therapy can help ?
@kurrves
@kurrves Ай бұрын
I get tired of falling in romantic obsession where it feels like if I'm desperate. I am ashamed of feeling like I have to be codependent.
@internaltuning9914
@internaltuning9914 Ай бұрын
Yessss the shame is so strong.
@godzillamanstreb524
@godzillamanstreb524 Ай бұрын
Codependency is a brilliant adaptation to keep us safe during childhood abuse and neglect (sic)…..Marshall Burtcher
@louisecampbell2628
@louisecampbell2628 Ай бұрын
Same here. Had enough. I'm sooo tired of it😢
@minalazovic
@minalazovic Ай бұрын
I totally get you ❤️
@rue_777
@rue_777 29 күн бұрын
start not caring about them and have a roster of back ups
@northofyou33
@northofyou33 Ай бұрын
I have been learning to re-regulate after spending decades going into dysregulation from cptsd and believing there was no way to resolve the issue. But my growth has come from my incessant searching for answers, and applying a multiplicity of techniques: 12 steps, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, listening to people like Anna and Gabor Mate and Buddhist teachers and many others. For me, there is no single magic bullet. It's an amalgamation of all these new and ancient ways of looking at trauma which have brought me to an understanding of my own issues and needs.
@missr7340
@missr7340 2 ай бұрын
I haven't had a relationship for 20 years. I couldn't even think that someone was capable of loving me.
@realtalk675
@realtalk675 2 ай бұрын
That how i think now 😢
@Earthalien89
@Earthalien89 2 ай бұрын
Nooo this comment made me so sad 😢
@500_Miles
@500_Miles 2 ай бұрын
I have been in a somewhat similar position. I am learning to be the one who loves me. It’s a prerequisite, I believe.
@dbg8635
@dbg8635 2 ай бұрын
Same! I am 20 and i haven't been in relationships ever. And i don't know much about my possible bahaviours and emotions if i got into one. (though i dunno how to get into one too. A bunch of trust issues and anxious avoidant attatchment issues.)
@RedFeather11
@RedFeather11 2 ай бұрын
We must love ourselves first. Relationship is a luxury product not necessity.
@julieschoolcraft1503
@julieschoolcraft1503 2 ай бұрын
It took me over 50 years to stop romantic obsession. It was only after my mom passed away that I could finally start to understand myself and feel sane ! She wasn’t a bad mom , just a confusing one. Always chose a man over us. Even though she knew that man was a horrible person. I’d NEVER choose a man over my children.
@flygirl2172
@flygirl2172 Ай бұрын
wow, good for you that you overcame romantic Obsession....how did you do it?
@lola.lola11.11
@lola.lola11.11 Ай бұрын
She WAS a bad mom, dear.
@503ashkatchem4
@503ashkatchem4 19 күн бұрын
Omg we have the same story!
@aquariusdreaming
@aquariusdreaming 6 күн бұрын
Your mom likely had her own traumas that made her grasp for a man to be whole. We are raised to believe we need to live a certain life in a certain way to be ok - for a lot of women, having a man in her life is validation that she is worthy of existence. You are very lucky if the guy is actually a nice guy - most of them are not and it makes the situation worse. Too many of us grew up on Disney and the prince on the white horse. So, when we have to pick ourselves up off the bloody floor for the 5th time we begin to realize we are our own biggest problem. Most people have no idea how to fix it! It's the blind leading the blind. None of us got a manual or asked to be here. We're all just trying to grab onto the lifeboat at the same time and nearly drowning one another! Wishing you peace and healing of the best kind. The way out is IN!
@BlueskyDenver
@BlueskyDenver 2 ай бұрын
There aren’t many healthy , well rounded people out there. Society is full of mostly very wounded and hurt individuals who hurt others in the process. Also, therapy isn’t meant to fix you , or give you a magical cure for your problems., therapy helps you explore yourself and guide you to find the solutions for yourself, it is meant to empower you to find ways to heal yourself but therapy cannot help you if you don’t make actual tangible changes. Many times people would complain about abusive and narcissistic partner but they come to therapy and repeat themselves over and over again, they don’t make any changes, they don’t leave the person, they don’t look for solutions they just rant about how awful the other person is, well the therapist is trained NOT TO run your life, they are not allowed to tell you what to do, how to do it, and why to do it, it’s your life you’re the one that makes the choices. You have to decide what you want and make a decision on how you are going to achieve it.
@berylvanniekerk8626
@berylvanniekerk8626 Ай бұрын
@@BlueskyDenver I agree with you…there aren’t many healthy people out there. I went on a weekend workshop about trauma etc about 14yrs ago and this is one of the first things the facilitator mentioned.
@SaraAlessa277
@SaraAlessa277 Ай бұрын
I found Anna's channel two and a half years ago, it changed my life.i also joined a coda group and I've been doing the daily practice since and the things I've been able to accomplish are beyond my wildest dreams.
@olivialong5440
@olivialong5440 2 ай бұрын
This was actually the most helpful podcast I’ve ever listened to. Thank you so much.
@haleytruslow7200
@haleytruslow7200 Ай бұрын
It’s comforting to know that there’s not something wrong with me because talk therapy has never helped. I’ve always said, if talking about it solved my issues, I’d be cured by now.
@propheticbeautytv1149
@propheticbeautytv1149 26 күн бұрын
Refreshing. Real. Honest. Blunt. True. Relatable. Safe. Encouraging. Life. Soothing. Beautiful. Some words to describe this talk bc I couldn't put it into full sentences. Thnk u ladies. SO SO SO SO SO GOOD!!!!!❤❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽
@aquariusdreaming
@aquariusdreaming 6 күн бұрын
When i listen to anna, I am always blown away. It's like listening to someone talk about my innermost feelings. Talk about mirroring! I am grateful to know I am not alone!
@lidoibenfuchenoff7632
@lidoibenfuchenoff7632 Ай бұрын
Oh my goodness, you have no idea how much I needed to hear these reminders today. Cleaning up from the second hurricane. I’ve been living like this for two weeks. I’m so angry. Plus my guy is moving in on Thursday. Everything is triggering me. So ashamed I can’t control my emotions. I’m out cleaning up and I’m putting a fun spin on it. I’m planning on having a Halloween party for my community. We all need some fun. I listened to you years ago. I also quit smoking. Best thing I ever did for myself. Thank you, crappy parent very 🧚 ❤🙏 I took about a 15 minute meditation today. Afterwards, I prayed for guidance. I asked God and all the angels to guide me. You are an angel and a fairy godmother.😘 by the way, I didn’t have crappy parents. They did the best they could with the knowledge and resources they had. I will love them forever. 🙏❤️❤️❤️
@Themiamic
@Themiamic 2 ай бұрын
THIS IS SO VALUABLE. THANK YOU SO MUCH. THIS IS SO TOP TIER.
@berniebarclay2183
@berniebarclay2183 Ай бұрын
It really is. Wisdom and compassion.
@katwestbrook846
@katwestbrook846 Ай бұрын
I began building my practice as a trauma recovery coach in the last year and THANK YOU for saying that inner child work doesn't work for everyone- I won't teach it or promote it. I lived through the "crappy" stuff- I yearned to be all grown up. But I don't find it healthy to talk to my"little girl", because, after all, I was her, that is me, and I, not we, not her and I, just me, myself and I grew up, grew past it, and have to work with the hand that I was dealt. And underneath it all, there was a really wonderful person who had some terrible things happen, but there were wonderful people and wonderful experiences along the way. Staying grateful, forgiving and empathetic is not a simple mindset when you were hurt as a kid, and then trauma strikes again, perhaps countless times. Finding out that you are worthy and you have something to offer the world, when that sinks in, the other stuff begins to go down the drain. Occasional clogs, but eventually, the water flows again. Thank you. Validation on my birthday, no less, as a coach- during a week where i wondered wtf am I in for?
@JulesssRules
@JulesssRules 14 күн бұрын
Very well said. I can relate so much. Thank you for taking the time to enunciate this
@annmalone8208
@annmalone8208 Ай бұрын
I was that parent who neglected my children because I made choices that pulled me away and did not meet their needs to which now we don't talk. I desire to change this pattern. I pray for help in this area
@aquariusdreaming
@aquariusdreaming 6 күн бұрын
Keep coming back for answers to these painful questions - how do I change? why can't I change? will I ever be "normal"? I am proud of you for being here - you are working on it! It's like feeling along the walls of a dark room without any light trying to find the light switch - except the room is the size of a football field! You feel like you will never find the light switch. It's there! I promise you - and you can be forgiven by your kids. You need to first restore yourself to yourself - forgive and learn to love your younger self for making mistakes.
@odessachen
@odessachen 2 ай бұрын
This is full of wisdom and I don’t want to take away from that but I will say there’s been a huge development-she’s right that talk therapy isn’t helpful tor PTSD but EMDR is a newer therapy that’s scientifically proven to work on PTSD. It activates parts of the brain while revisiting the trauma to reprocess the experience in a healthier way. I was extremely skeptical but the proof is in the many people healed by this treatment.
@Bayarea_girl
@Bayarea_girl 2 ай бұрын
I have cptsd from my childhood trauma and I did emdr for 2 years and I can honestly say that it changed my life.. for the better.
@cup_o_TMarie
@cup_o_TMarie Ай бұрын
I totally agree! I love Anna’s work, but I wish she wouldn’t make such dichotomous statements regarding therapy. It sounds like she experienced therapy a long time ago before the breakthroughs in trauma therapy. These new modalities are helping people, especially trauma survivors, in ways the older therapies never did.
@inside-job
@inside-job Ай бұрын
I totally agree… glad you spotted that too. As a practicing EMDR attachment focused CPtsd Therapist, it makes me angry and suspicious of dismissive and devaluing comments especially when she says “she teaches x y z”as if she’s invented the magic mother of theories. Psycho education is absolutely valuable but working through our process and being held and contained while engaging in the humbling experience with Grace and courage is another thing altogether. She should’ve had Pete Walker as her therapist, he would have called out her narcissism.
@aquariusdreaming
@aquariusdreaming 6 күн бұрын
it can be hard to find a provider or be able to afford it
@aquariusdreaming
@aquariusdreaming 6 күн бұрын
@@cup_o_TMarie I think she's targeting a group (like me) that feels they've exhausted that avenue and they haven't really improved or improved very little.
@LoveyTheDon
@LoveyTheDon Ай бұрын
First time hearing of Anna Runkle but it feels like she is speaking directly to meeee on this topic 😭 I already have her book in my amazon cart!
@PattysPath
@PattysPath Ай бұрын
literally THE MOST insightful video i’ve watched on youtube. i’m learning so much abt myself and my patterns and feel motivated to change them for the better
@Sophiascott12
@Sophiascott12 Ай бұрын
For all the women out there, I would strongly recommend to read "The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden". I have studied men before.
@Dasha-c4s
@Dasha-c4s Ай бұрын
Can't find this title. Where did you buy this book?
@BarristerBabe
@BarristerBabe 18 күн бұрын
Is this helpful for getting over these obsessions?
@monikakumari2658
@monikakumari2658 6 күн бұрын
That thing is definitely not seduction, that's how men manipulate literally
@ShredderTainment
@ShredderTainment Ай бұрын
I had an aha moment today… trying to remember my first obsession, my first boyfriend in the 4th grade. Was also the time my parents were in the midst of a divorce and custody battle. Dad was falsely accused of molesting us kids…and we had to go live with mom for an entire year with short visitations with dad. Everyone at school was talking about boys, and I figured I ought to be included… Obsession took over! WOW!
@Mmyythandle
@Mmyythandle 2 ай бұрын
I feel so called out within the first minute 😭
@simplynikitarose
@simplynikitarose 2 ай бұрын
Real!! 😭😭
@blove462
@blove462 2 ай бұрын
The whole introduction literally said BAMM!!
@sumis8096
@sumis8096 2 ай бұрын
Same!
@joanavaldovinoscruz4310
@joanavaldovinoscruz4310 2 ай бұрын
I love the crappy childhood fairy, I feel like she’s one of those rare few who ACTUALLY get it and have been through it. She’s very genuine and I’m so happy for her success 💜. I’ll definitely be reading her book
@angelaandrea0921
@angelaandrea0921 23 күн бұрын
The “Mmmm” is so distracting! 😅 Absolutely loved Anna and her insight! So helpful.
@courtneycole235
@courtneycole235 2 ай бұрын
Anna and her advice on dis-regulation-& techniques to help it changed everything for me. & it’s free.
@DawnWyman
@DawnWyman 2 ай бұрын
This is my first time seeing or hearing Anna and I'm only 15 minutes in and loving everything she said so far and I love how everybody is saying how helpful she was and that she wasn't asking for money or anything in return that's a blessing in disguise right there I'm going to be looking for more of her videos and saving as much as I can I'm not on tiktok but I will definitely be subscribing to anything that I can find over here on KZbin❤ I've already saved this one and put it under the heading show to my doctor because he is still a believer of CTT.❤
@soa9850
@soa9850 Ай бұрын
That's such an important comment that should be taken at full capacity. Not all of it is narcissism. The internet has one kind of villain only, the narcissist, and for some reason everyone is a narcissist. I have lived with them my whole life. Covert and textbook, I have seen them. There are people who imitate these traits but they are not narcissists. Empathy, sympathy, remorse, if they have these feelings but still act like narcissists at time (as in not constantly) there is probably something else going on. I walk around campus thinking "not every one I meet can be a narcissist" and remembered that everyone who sleeps in class or procrastinates homework claims to have ADHD. It's the same thing. Society, especially media centric social circles tented to know little of one thing and use it to describe a lot.
@aroyals339
@aroyals339 2 ай бұрын
This was a really nice surprise, really enjoy Anna's channel too.
@Francis-px2oc
@Francis-px2oc Ай бұрын
Oh my gosh this woman knows my mind so well!!! I’m gaining so much from this. What a healing journey to be on from the damage and trauma. I’m hopeful to gain control of my life. It gets better with age but I look forward to the day that there is peace in my heart and mind at all times.
@mundall1271
@mundall1271 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for hosting Anna! She has one of my favorite channels on YT.
@TheFatoud
@TheFatoud 2 ай бұрын
This woman helped me so much! And all for free! Amazing stuff :)
@the_wellbeing_designer
@the_wellbeing_designer Ай бұрын
I started doing the emotional sobriety even thoughI have not been diagnosed with alcoholism or CPTSD, I felt the need to get my brain used to calm and peace
@crystallparker9247
@crystallparker9247 Ай бұрын
May you be Blessed Anna. You are a blessing to so many people. After being to several different people for therapy, I also ended up feeling worse. Thanks to you I now understand my own feelings and behaviour better.
@letitialoughmiller1802
@letitialoughmiller1802 2 ай бұрын
I love the ego deflation..it's humbling
@jazzyg530
@jazzyg530 Ай бұрын
Listening to Ana's videos has shed so much light on patterns and wounding that many of my friends and I have experienced. I often recommend them to friends who have been to numerous therapists counselors/doctors and have had no real help. She explains things in an easy to digest way and gives wonderful, useful advice. Great conversation!
@whatissoul9
@whatissoul9 2 ай бұрын
score! love crappy childhood fairy!
@Pamela-bj6qg
@Pamela-bj6qg 2 ай бұрын
YES!!!!! I 💗that observation 🙏
@pentangle78
@pentangle78 2 ай бұрын
I like her because she is slightly ironic which makes her more human among this huge amount of motivators/speakers/healers we see online
@gibbopg
@gibbopg 2 ай бұрын
Every year I get excited to attend the work Christmas Party ... every year I last about an hour before I talk myself into leaving. I walk around looking for a friendly face while believing no one wishes me to stop and chat. This is irrational thinking and I have been told I’m liked. I have no idea why I get irrationally anxious and believe I’m not welcome. I’m 64 and married for 35 years. I really have no reason to be this way. I’d love to be able to enjoy myself like every one else.
@FragmentedMindZ
@FragmentedMindZ 2 ай бұрын
Anna you’re me! I feel or felt the exact way. I’m glad I’m listening to this. Anna, you’re wonderful for learning all this!
@n3rvu5
@n3rvu5 Ай бұрын
Every time Francesca goes “mmmm” I look at my phone to see if I got a notification :))) it’s the same frequency as the iPhone silent notification buzz
@danijelaen
@danijelaen 2 ай бұрын
Omg the interview duo I needed 😻
@TheAmvforliFe
@TheAmvforliFe Ай бұрын
This was sent to me in time
@matrixbodymechanicstv2027
@matrixbodymechanicstv2027 Ай бұрын
Same here
@rebeccasimmers9363
@rebeccasimmers9363 2 ай бұрын
The problem with this theory is that people don't mature from childhood. Bullies remain bullies, they are just more subtle and more sinister in how they go about it. Adults continue to be hostile, condescending, and disrespectful to people who are visually impaired/blind or have invisible disabilities. This negative ostracizing treatment IS NOT imagined, IT IS REAL!
@mysoulshelter
@mysoulshelter 2 ай бұрын
One of the best podcasts I've ever come across on KZbin! Many thanks, Francesca and Anna, for your contribution to the awareness of mental health's phenomenas ❤
@stitches513
@stitches513 2 ай бұрын
Anna is such an incredible person! I just wish I found her earlier! She’s great at explaining what CPTSD is & what it entails…I cannot wait for her book to drop next week! I pre-ordered it and I’m excited to read it immediately! Thanks for having her on!
@yehudityishai3542
@yehudityishai3542 Ай бұрын
Wow...this was such an eye opener! I couldn't understand why i have to battle my weight 40 yrars when both parents were thin...my clumsiness...brain fog...adhd...impulsiveness...way too emotional..thank you for this ❤
@paulsunner2950
@paulsunner2950 Ай бұрын
Limerrance I’ve finally found a name for what I’ve been doing all my life. Ty
@ennejb
@ennejb 18 күн бұрын
One of the best content pieces I’ve come across on YT. Well done.
@My_thoughts_20
@My_thoughts_20 Ай бұрын
Wow, thank you for this interview. I felt hopeful. I have done psychotherapy for therapy which has definitely helped me but at this point, it's not what I need. I can relate to everything Anna mentioned and it's so helpful to hear specific examples from her life. The term for neurological injury, emotional dysregulation, and using isolation to control triggers. I felt understood and will go to her daily work info to start.
@eva_la88
@eva_la88 Ай бұрын
So nice to see and hear Anna Runkle in an interview 🙌
@mikaelamendoza8374
@mikaelamendoza8374 Ай бұрын
She’s so knowledgeable
@randomnessofNadia
@randomnessofNadia Ай бұрын
wow, this is what I needed to hear right at this moment
@thilinasampath705
@thilinasampath705 2 ай бұрын
BEST EPISODE EVER❤
@blove462
@blove462 2 ай бұрын
This was truly life changing!! Wow Ive went through just about every emotion watching this!
@vinnys.3067
@vinnys.3067 Ай бұрын
Ok this just blew my fuckin head back. Like I wish she was my therapist because this video has made me see a lot and I’ve been in therapy. She’s good!
@rucachris6373
@rucachris6373 Ай бұрын
Anna is awesome 👏🏼
@dzentere
@dzentere Күн бұрын
What a wonderful woman. Very valuable content, thank you 🙏
@sliceofpie1741
@sliceofpie1741 2 ай бұрын
Oh my you both are my favs. Saved it❤
@NataliKamp
@NataliKamp Ай бұрын
My character used to be like Francesca!She is listening patiently and she is great!Charismatic and such a beautiful woman
@rahrah6049
@rahrah6049 Ай бұрын
I can relate to your childhood and family trauma. Thank you for sharing. Stay strong. 🕊
@FloraGuidry
@FloraGuidry 13 күн бұрын
Wow! Similar childhood - similar life patterns. My therapy is writing a love story that models a much healthier relationship, but with authentic life events. Very healing and perhaps it will bring in a few extra dollars.
@jenniferlopez1229
@jenniferlopez1229 Ай бұрын
I’m so glad I come across this. This what I needed to hear right now.
@Cheese17913
@Cheese17913 2 ай бұрын
Francesca thank you for always providing fantastic content!! You are a gift 💗
@jedbrecher8288
@jedbrecher8288 2 ай бұрын
This is so insightful
@younuvou7916
@younuvou7916 Ай бұрын
Anna, love your content. I want to suggest that limerence doesn't just happen when life feels sad or empty. It can also happen when things are going ok or good, but there's some need or desire thats unfulfilled. Then you psychologically project the fulfillment of that need or desire onto the fantasy/limerent object person.
@Lovepath1013
@Lovepath1013 Ай бұрын
Holy holy holy wow wow wow Deep appreciation, my heart, no, my whole body needed this and my soul ❤ Ekkkk! Thank you❤
@azen3082
@azen3082 2 ай бұрын
When I SAY EVERYTHING, I mean Everything resonated with me. This is Great information. Thank you!!!!!!
@MarishaVarna
@MarishaVarna Ай бұрын
Perfect explanations and also great integration!!! Thank you so much for spreading such a significant topic in such a practical and healthy, clear and rational way!!!! ❤🎉
@simplypingu3130
@simplypingu3130 26 күн бұрын
This is so helpful ❤
@NataliKamp
@NataliKamp Ай бұрын
Thank you both!!
@cup_o_TMarie
@cup_o_TMarie Ай бұрын
I love Anna’s work, but I wish she wouldn’t make such dichotomous statements regarding therapy not working. Her language is a blanket statement about “therapy” but she’s leaving out the fact that many therapies don’t require you to talk about the incidents of your past constantly. It sounds like she experienced therapy a long time ago before the breakthroughs in trauma therapy. These new modalities are helping people, especially trauma survivors, in ways the older therapies never did. When she talks about “feeling your feelings” sure in the moment we need to do our best to stay calm, for ourselves & the innocent others around us, but later we must deal with the feelings. We can’t pretend that we don’t have the feelings. This is how anxiety disorders & depression can happen. That’s part of what talk therapy is for. To process your feelings so that you can let them go & also use them proactively to help you see if you’re in the wrong relationships, jobs etc.
@kkc6155
@kkc6155 11 күн бұрын
Agree
@aidaoruna
@aidaoruna Ай бұрын
I can relate so much to this. This inner child thing I can not relate with that. I don’t even remember me as a child so I can not connect Wowww so powerful. Incredibly on point. I have been practicing all this without knowing. I am a recovering condependant and healing is true and you can do it. But it takes a lot of work and is as she explains every day every hour. Being in contact with every bit of every feeling every moment.
@ouchiedumpling2552
@ouchiedumpling2552 2 ай бұрын
Some people escape, some control, some cling. Uhhhh I have fluctuated between all 3 in relationships. 😢 Like it will swing violently between each.
@observer5864
@observer5864 Ай бұрын
I am sorry for your experience
@n0tfr0mth1sw0rld
@n0tfr0mth1sw0rld Ай бұрын
Wow the intro already described a lot of things i was going through and wondering about
@bealisan
@bealisan 2 ай бұрын
This woman gives really good advice ❤
@pushpendraprajapati8693
@pushpendraprajapati8693 2 ай бұрын
Love your podcast please make 2 video in a week ❤
@Harriet320
@Harriet320 2 ай бұрын
Thank u so much ❤
@lnazareth6522
@lnazareth6522 Ай бұрын
wow! Love seeing both of you team up like this! I watch you both and STILL got something new from this talk.
@jcortese3300
@jcortese3300 12 күн бұрын
Her comment about finding a workaround and not being able to re-raise yourself struck me while listening to this. I keep thinking that I can't heal myself because I can't even imagine what a non-injured version of myself who didn't react to relationships with disgust and panic would even be like. Who would that person even BE? I can't turn into something I can't even envision. You'll never learn to aim better if you can't even see the damned target. But thinking of it as becoming someone who found a workaround maybe seems a little more possible. I'll never know what the me would have been like who doesn't recoil from being touched, but maybe I can find out what a me who put a workaround in place could be like.
@seraiyah3502
@seraiyah3502 Ай бұрын
On the topic of Green Flags I think it’s important to note that you can’t be emotionally disruptive while searching for what you want. I think it’s important to undergo that healing process & take ownership as mentioned for where we know we are triggered/ take the step towards self-mastery in the emotional and psychological aspects of ourselves.This way we can have better emotional radar to say in social interaction with friends, family and especially partners.
@maryy8902
@maryy8902 2 ай бұрын
Fantastic podcast yes adandonment from childhood is very painful when in realonships i would leave before ime left
@Leo_Leo13
@Leo_Leo13 Ай бұрын
This is so helpful! Love all of the ccf videos and this was a good recap of a lot of her main points.
@mondaypositivitea
@mondaypositivitea 2 ай бұрын
So happy to see you on this podcast! ❤ both guest and host are remarkable!
@merydelgado8180
@merydelgado8180 2 ай бұрын
I really like her perspective. Thank U
@ericasmith8170
@ericasmith8170 10 күн бұрын
I always had obsessive crushes and limerence over all of my male teachers, bosses, pastors, etc. I didn’t know it at the time. As an adult I had the aha moment that these obsessions kept me happy and distracted from my feelings I buried deep deep inside. I don’t even remember feeling rejection from my father. It just manifested into a complete fantasy world I created
@IrmaRoma68
@IrmaRoma68 2 ай бұрын
I had a therapist who pushed me into group therapy that exploded into hate for me when I told her no it was a bad idea and made me forced me to feel my feelings and now she is no longer a therapist I wonder why? She caused so much damaged and was so bossy.
@sokhnafallou
@sokhnafallou Ай бұрын
Wow ils a révélation....the interviewer is so smart too and well éducateur in her choses words !! Contrats and thank you
@YukonFox1972
@YukonFox1972 2 ай бұрын
This is all great, but what if you live in a place where dating is difficult? I live in a small town and I’m a teacher-I’m in my 50s and I don't want to use dating site. My kids are young adults and moved away, my friends are all married. I have pets, but they only help so much with the loneliness. How can I meet a compatible partner when all of my time and energy goes into my work and maintaining my household? I have dated a bit since my divorce 10 years ago, but none of the men were compatible-they were either too young (or emotionally immature/narcissistic/toxic/an addict) and not looking for a monogamous relationship, or I just wasn't attracted back. I’ve been healing from a trauma bond that happened years ago, but I KNOW that the relationship was toxic and I’m better off without him (he's already with someone else anyway). I really feel doomed to be alone, but I have so much love to give. I'm trying to accept a 4B mentality and just be grateful for my kids, students, and friends, but after years of being single, I'm so lonely...
@marisagarraway3497
@marisagarraway3497 Ай бұрын
@YukonFox1972 I'm so to hear about your loneliness. Pray you find your beautiful other half
@bruceryba5740
@bruceryba5740 29 күн бұрын
Hey 1972, I'm not going to offer advice because there are so many people who get upset when a man offers advice. But I will say this: Your paragraph is heart wrenching and sad. However hang in there. Our country is going through a loneliness epidemic. Your story is nearly identically repeated by men of all ages across the marriage and advice web pages. Yes your situation is challenging being in a small town, but the people in the major cities are lonely as well as scared. While the suburbs are sprawling communities of lonely people. What the sage advisors on the other sites always tell the men, is 'stop looking', focus on improving yourself-gym and church, and join as many clubs as you can. No one can predict the future & although I have never been on the dating apps, I have friends who have great success in their second marriages by using the Christian dating apps. And even if you don't want to go that route, gain fortitude by the fact that you are still blessed by your children and students. 'Endeavor to persevere' (movie quote)
@axhei1738
@axhei1738 2 ай бұрын
Awesome video/podcast. Thank you so much!
@annabelle.112
@annabelle.112 10 күн бұрын
When does KZbin videos will have AI tools to audio translate interviews. I would like so much to share this with someone who doesn't speak English. This conversation is very enlightening. I'm glad I found Anna Runkle's videos on here.
@PhilosophyOfTruth-r7e
@PhilosophyOfTruth-r7e 4 күн бұрын
I'm guesing this was filmed at Finchley Podcast Studio? Correct me if I am wrong. I'm fond of The crappy Childhood Fairy is easy to understand. I love how in depth and thorough this podcast is.
@humanmovement79
@humanmovement79 Ай бұрын
This was so informative and helpful. Thank You so much 🙏🏼🌺❤️
@siulankantor9380
@siulankantor9380 Ай бұрын
Thank you!!! The crappy fairy , is the sweetest 🧚of them all ❤
@senkasilov2090
@senkasilov2090 Ай бұрын
Omg, 30 years of writing twice a day in order to live normally. The fact that it is unchangeable is so sad
@yamidgonzalez6984
@yamidgonzalez6984 25 күн бұрын
Life is real and we live with the person that we become after going through traumatic experiences. The same way those were years of our lives that were ruined and robbed by those traumatic experiences, we are going to first learned what is wrong with us and then we have to find a way to heal. I admire that she found a way to work with her trauma and took the time to share it with the world. You can take it or leave it. There is no right or wrong way, don’t judge. Do what works for you and allow others learn this method , it might save their lives!! It saved hers and that is a beautiful victory. This lady has been a blessing in my family’s life. I praise God for her and the fact that she is out there helping others!! That is love for humanity and a real mission. Thank you!
@Harriet320
@Harriet320 2 ай бұрын
Helpful!❤❤
@aidaoruna
@aidaoruna Ай бұрын
I can relate so much to this. This inner child thing I can not relate with that. I don’t even remember me as a child so I can not connect
@egovssoul
@egovssoul 26 күн бұрын
The childhood fairy is much cooler than I thought 😎
@Baghera_1
@Baghera_1 2 ай бұрын
There’s no cure for limerence unfortunately. I’ve suffered from that since I was a teen thanks to my abusive narc mother preventing me from living “my” life.
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