Full Episode: Henderson vs Hardmon

Tratavia says Harry has been stringing her along for 14 years and won’t get married. The couple has three kids and another on the way. Harry blames their problems on Tratavia’s bad attitude and constant nagging. Tratavia claims Harry cheats and spends all their money getting high. Can Judge Lynn Toler help this couple turn things around?
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[@Mzdedeo]

Is it me or did he say he cheats to get away from her??? Sir, you know you can just leave right?? I don’t know if I can watch this foolishness... but I’ve got to try 🤣

[@NellieKAdaba]

lol

[@MrsBryant1024]

I'm trying my best now too lol. All I keep hear him saying is "you know what I'm saying" LOL

[@rhiannabrittany13]

Child support is cheaper while he’s living with her

[@muffin.does1]

It's likely he doesn't have a place to go permanently which is probably why he won't just leave.

[@zuggernaut618]

Leave and pay his own way in the world? Scary stuff 😭

[@youdontneedtoknow3047]

Dude Can't complete a sentence without "you know what I'm saying"

[@KimberelyIsaacs]

Miss GBella it's annoying asf too.. Lolol

[@DiscoverPlatinum]

OMG I know!!! It's so annoying. This couple is beyond stupid.

[@bigshawn1972]

Drove me insane! Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!

[@Mrarticaldan]

limited vocabulary

[@October3074]

Miss GBella he's an illiterate dummy.

[@williamfloyd4669]

If I did a shot every time he says "ya know what I'm sayin" I'd be dead halfway through the episode.

[@MrsBryant1024]

Yup. Sounds about right. "You know what I'm saying" 😂🤣

[@ballthemblack]

Exactly. You know what I'm saying

[@FullofSouthernCharm]

I want these two people to stay together so nobody else will have to deal with them.

[@lamarking9362]

Exactly they deserve each other

[@barbaragould500]

Oh dayummmm😹👍

[@chesherlfears4061]

😂😂😂😂👍

[@vegvixxxen829]

OH SHIT LMAO

[@IabbGitnoJ8160]

I believe the judge was thinking the same thing

[@loveliejoseph6239]

He’s been unfaithful to you but yet you steady getting pregnant 🤰🏽 what makes you think he’s gonna change ,your just good at having babies.He gonna keep doing what your allowing him to do .

[@estherjean183]

Lovelie Joesph 💯💯Exactly. And why do you have to nag a man about marrying you after 13 years. If he wanted to marry you he would've done it by now.

[@ravenna9969]

Lovelie Joesph you better freaking preach

[@helena3631]

this ship has sailed...she should move on

[@estherjean183]

If someone wanted to marry you, you wouldn't have to nag them about it for them to realize it. And you damn sure wouldn't be waiting 14 years for them to do it. And come on why would he wanna get married when y'all already together like you married. You have 3 kids by him and one on the way. You should've thought about marriage way before this

[@ladybugbrack2834]

Esther Jean Preach

[@tgirl1762]

Esther Jean I don't why people want lock themselves down so early in a relationship and then when they get to 30 their wondering if they should continue separate especially after having several kids

[@bigshawn1972]

Esther Jean, I swear you need to have your own show or become a family counselor, if you're not one already. Your advice is and reasoning is as good as the Judge's! I always look forward to reading your comments, be well sis.

[@SD-ig3ix]

Esther Jean women want that official paper I think we can understand that. But yeah 14 years 3 kids almost 4 y'all are a family already

[@LeTicia-xp5hl]

Amen

[@RyanFoster2013]

"I can pay the bill when I want to..." "Kno what i'm sayin'"... Yeah, I see you Mr. Simptastic...got your girl steady barefoot, pregnant, and at home :(... and Judge Toler's expressions are on point as usual!

[@araineacutebrownnurse7315]

You have 13 years and 3 (soon to be 4 )children with a man who constantly cheats , barely can hold down a job and smokes all day ! Forget marriage ! Forget education ! Forget careers ! Forget birth control! You two are such model citizens ! Pure genius stuff here !

[@williamfloyd4669]

Arainea CuteBrownNurse lol!

[@ernestinespady7863]

FORGET HIM!!!!

[@laj4186]

Arainea CuteBrownNurse they deserve each other

[@MuvaJ901]

I am done!

[@chantoyhenry]

😂😂😂

[@TriaMaxwell]

Gonna say it before the judge does: CONTROL YOUR FERTILITY

[@NellieKAdaba]

Yes!

[@JAmessengerTV]

#preach

[@JosieF3G]

💖💖💖💖

[@vanessamuhammad8709]

Just started watching and I’m not sure why they want this to work 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@vnssacalam]

Vanessa Holloway LOL

[@helena3631]

all those damn kids lol..they better make it work four kids

[@herbertwilson2320]

Vanessa Holloway 8.

[@betsybesaw]

Idk understand. He cheats, he obviously doesn't respect her and he stay high. She has to delete "snow bunnies" off his fb...13 years he calls her lazy while she is pregnant, high risk at that! What cha holding for girl? She should co-parent not look for a ring. 💁

[@mobutter2879]

She’s as foolish as he is.

[@shortydowop5002]

Dont forget he stay drunk in front of the kids, and got them evicted.

[@brishaberries0101]

💯💯💯💯

[@alyssag.5758]

Yeah, I don't get what she sees in him. Are pickings that slim?

[@beb5407]

@@shortydowop5002 high of marijuana 🧐🤔

[@SunniWrld]

Judge Lynn: “They see u everyday, do they see u sober?” Maine: “Yeess...” Tratavia: “When?...” 💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣

[@FiiDeLLaCaShFLoW]

She keeps saying "white women" and "snow bunnies" as if him cheating with a black chick would've been better...smh

[@mdaniels1769]

I think she’s just insecure about it because he likes all of these white women but she can never be one.

[@FiiDeLLaCaShFLoW]

M Daniels insecure about what??? He is with her so he obviously likes black women, so why be insecure that he talks to white women? That doesn't make sense. Does she not think she is beautiful or of any value?? Any black woman that finds this as a threat needs therapy and self confidence...

[@seanparker2243]

if your man left you for a white woman, i think it would sting a little bit more than if she was black.

[@FiiDeLLaCaShFLoW]

sean parker this doesn't make sense lol. At the end of the day, dude left regardless lol

[@FiiDeLLaCaShFLoW]

At the end of the day....a man shouldn't tell or show you your value...some women legit don't pay attention to signs, or let their confidence tell her she isn't worthy, and keep unworthy men because of it....if he leave u for a white women, that don't mean he thinks white women are more valuable! That means the nigga is fucking cheating and u need to leave and find a good man! Whether she be white, black, green or purple, he is still out here stepping out of the relationship and disrespecting u....period

[@viewswithmani1713]

She definitely don’t wanna leave . He is her entertainment.

[@helena3631]

she not going anywhere with four kids who is she fooling

[@immortal-fatexx7040]

I can't stand people who drink and drive. She's laughing about it like it's funny so clearly she still doesn't see anything wrong with it. That's so selfish!

[@estherjean183]

She's a stay at home mom which is probably why he's walking all over her. I'm not saying this to sound rude but when the guy is the one you depend on financially, he's more than likely gonna do whatever cuz he knows it's gonna be hard for you to leave him. Especially if you have lots of kids

[@sassyrico2237]

Esther Jean 💯💯💯💯true

[@taylormcghee8799]

Only if you let him

[@natnat0576]

Truth! That's why it's important for women to have their own, that explains why she has stayed

[@elaineanderson4891]

Esther Jean You did not say nothing rude.

[@bigshawn1972]

How would you stop him other than leaving Taylor McGhee? If I'm providing for you then how is it exactly that you are going to dominate me? That's like saying your mother and father can't get you to take out the trash when your fourteen and dependant on them, you better get that trash can!

[@BimmerBabe]

Facial expressions man must got there late. He in the back row today

[@TheScienceNerddAkemi]

Bimmerbabe 😂😂😂😂

[@BimmerBabe]

TheScienceNerddAkemi he's like where's waldo..i look for him and get excited when I see him lol

[@crumbreth5595]

Hahahahahaha

[@TheIkeisha99]

That dude is a trip 😂😂😂

[@NeAsiAVidE0VauLt]

Bimmerbabe 😭😭😭😭😭

[@annplushbunnyarthur6958]

He really don't care bout the family if he buys a car knowing rent is due

[@shanataylor7448]

Right I would have left then🙄 they have kids ppl have to think

[@rrayeclart7716]

He wasn’t impressed when judge Lynn said “way to go” ✊🏾😂😂😂😂

[@SheniceSays214]

Any dude who says the following: He helps outs, I take care of mines Man my kids see me etc is hardly marriage material let alone father material. Then he quits a job because he feels like it. 13 years and 4 kids. Plus everything is a joke. Few minutes in and the wife is annoying. Whew! Rant over

[@Tajaunmiles2131]

He is sorry and trifling. She’s ignorant for staying all those years. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@takingover7805]

Tajaun Miles more like insecure and unaware of self worth

[@TotaloneBadBoy-uo5gu]

Tajaun Miles I call it Broke On Broke Married sponsered by Ramen Noodles...Ampro Gel...and Old English 800...#youknowwhatimsayin' #Maine

[@iwishyouwould9985]

the funniest thing ever lolololololol

[@redgal0575]

I pray they have a healthy baby but she needs to stop with the drama and so does he. Only people suffering is the kids. 💯💯💯

[@estherjean183]

I like how at the end is says nothing about them getting married. He probably will never marry her

[@tgirl1762]

Esther Jean Why get married when their already living like their married besides they don't got no money for a wedding anyway they probably have just enough to go up to the court house....after they get their taxes lol😂😂😂

[@estherjean183]

Latoya Burton that's exactly what I'm thinking. You got 3 kids for this man and about to have a 4th and it's been 13 years why would he wanna at married now. You should've been interested in marriage before popping out kids for him

[@RougeG10]

Why are you so quick to assume the worst for them? I’m wondering, are you bitter? Or you just want some likes and comments?

[@estherjean183]

Jay King Far from bitter sweetie. And I'm not assuming the worst this is just common sense and from the information I've been given in the episode and from what I observe from both of them talking during the episode

[@RougeG10]

Esther Jean I’m gonna be on yo ass, if I see a negative comments from you. So beware

[@thelowkeyspy]

Love how she say he cheated on her with a white girl like race matters 😃

[@noemyv1208]

XSG exactly

[@mobutter2879]

😂😂😂Right! You can’t fix stupid!

[@charmainej.6118]

Not her fault. Race is deep routed in American culture && the way black men degrade their women unlike any other race doesn't help. Race doesnt matter when its cheating but there is a mentality behind it is what ya gotta realize.

[@sheriecemalone2155]

Right

[@beb5407]

It's a real disrespect knowing the history

[@Iamcajshashontel]

If I had a dollar for every time this dude says “ you know what I’m saying “ 🤦🏽‍♀️ after every statement .

[@not2old2rocit19]

She's probably getting public assistance, and that's why he's half stepping....

[@MrsBryant1024]

That's exactly what I was thinking. She's got to be on public housing, food stamps, Medicaid, & all of the above. We hard working (tax payers) are paying their bills while he spends all his money on weed!!!!!!!!

[@ashablack2291]

He acting like that he is an asshole. If she's on those programs he's on them too.

[@totalmrmeanor7586]

@@ashablack2291 I...agree!! This is the chapter l call...Broke on broke Marriage✌

[@mimiblitberg]

couples like this 2 make me so very grateful for mine and my husband's marriage!!

[@labakejonathan859]

"know what I'm saying" um no i don't

[@nishas2745]

The black community lacks good male role models , such as this dude.

[@missondo4887]

Faith 4 what you mean he’s trash. He doesn’t show up to work. AKA lazy

[@KnottyCeltic]

You must be deaf cuz nothing he said indicated "good male role model". He's a trainwreck, high all the time and quits a job cuz he feels like it when he has 3 kids and a significant other. He made his entire family homeless cuz he wanted some shitbox car. How's he a good male role model????

[@deedee7520]

Yet he would be considered a good bm? Supposedly. But she to blame, for the situation she in. Why keep having babies, with a drunk, liar, cheater who doesn't want to work. why?

[@nishas2745]

@@deedee7520 I agree, and in so many situations women don't value themselves due to their own psychological reasons. At the end of the day, it sucks .

[@michaelmccreary2797]

These people are trifling. They don't need to be having kids. Depressing.

[@gigimarie1987]

7:25 - Judge Lynn "way to go" i just lost it... judge is so funny .. I'm literally at my desk crying.. "way to go"

[@jazminegraves19]

He cheats and he shows a lack of responsibility and also doesn’t want to marry you after 13 years and yet you’re more than interested in this guy and getting married. I’m confuzzled

[@thegentlemansmith5411]

where dis chicks bra???

[@NYPD17]

TheGentleman Smith I know right

[@user-oc9vh1sf5g]

TheGentleman Smith at yo daddy house

[@crumbreth5595]

Maybe she can't afford a nice one.

[@Collageartist69]

She needs a job.

[@n.b.0212]

She need a good ole granny bra! 😂

[@SheniceSays214]

13 years together and 4kids plus constant cheating and talking marriage. Good lawd these women love giving up their power to bounce at drop kickable moments.

[@solokizzy737]

CONTROL YOUR FERTILITY.

[@thevia1976]

He ended by saying, "I don't think I'm gonna leave her anytime soon." Wow!

[@chandranicole5704]

In my CELIE voice "WHHHYY? WHHHYYY?" Why do you still want this man to marry you? We repeat these cycles in front of our children. Generational decisions...

[@mrmecc3840]

The 2nd half of that speech was supposed to go: “Now Ms. Hardmon, the same way you need security? Men need PEACE. If he wakes up to you nagging spends the day with you nagging, and goes to bed with you nagging, there’s no peace in his home to be found. He’s getting high just to deal with the noise he can’t escape! If you’re going to keep bringing up cheating from 6yrs ago & everything is your way or the highway, don’t ask why he won’t marry you. No one would sign up for that. Instead of punishing and picking at him when he does something wrong, try rewarding him when he does something right! Encourage the behavior you want to see and you’ll see more of it. The same way he needs to put his own needs 2nd, you need to prioritize his peace 1st because otherwise, you'll continue to be the author of your own anguish.” And then stress to her that birth control is as much her responsibility as it is his because it’s her body 1st and then wrap everything up. Matter adjourned

[@sydney_jay]

He gets tongue twisted a lot.. he needs a speech therapist!

[@HeresMyBit]

Syd K lmaoooo

[@tripleekitchen...6676]

I wonder if they was no foodstamps if some people would've be making so many babies..

[@Blessings22513]

I agree.

[@beb5407]

Food stamps wouldn't stop baby making n there's more white people on food stamps then any race do your research. Before there were a such thing as food stamps babies were still coming left n right so what's your point.

[@sullivancountydays]

She wants him to discipline the kids he has no discipline himself. I pay bills when I want to, work when I want, sleep ảround when the mood strikes. Only thing regular is get high and babies.

[@condorgaming4000]

Bruh wether your the cause of the nagging or not (Which im sure you are since you're a serial cheater) you shouldnt have to stay high to put up wit someone. Just leave bro.

[@condorgaming4000]

Vee Darko ikr. Lol i could only imagine 😭😂😂

[@tgirl1762]

Vee Darko She never shut up but her legs stay open lol

[@condorgaming4000]

Latoya Burton shes addicted to what the dick did lol

[@tgirl1762]

Condor_l Gaming right! 😂

[@KnottyCeltic]

He'd probably like nothing better than to not have to listen to her and deal with all those kids. He needs to step UP, not away.

[@nadyarossi5102]

Judge Toler is compassionate, beautiful, dignified, wise. My favorite TV judge.

[@fefebtw6264]

Finally a completed sentence at the end of the judges verdict. Thank you Mane because "you know what I'm sayin" was burning my eardrums😵😵😵

[@drlovie]

The guy is foolishly spending money on marijuana...where is the money for the kids' education, future, etc.?

[@nkechiv9711]

So Am I the only one who saw the guy with the Brown/orange Taxido with the hilarious face impressions 😂

[@pmerancier]

"...so who are these snow bunnies?..."😂😭💀

[@terencedove5047]

He's lazy and trifling. She's naggy and stifling. Oh, brother! They're perfect for each other!

[@naomipatnaude4760]

Typical Milwaukee relationship! 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@LLawrah]

Why do I feel like nothing was resolved? I barely understood a word coming out of his mouth 🙄.

[@7voidfemme7]

Black guy in the back wearing an orange shirt killin me 😂

[@sexymama1966]

they moved him to the back, i think..he usually sits in the front area.

[@earlibee]

yes, im glad they moved him to the back. He was too distracting

[@JamesCraigWhoop]

If I were a woman I would never rely on a guy to bear the responsibility of birth control. Women have more control of their sexual desires not to mention they bear all the brunt of pregnancies.

[@birdbuc9542]

Dumb and Dumber they meant to be together lol

[@keishasmith379]

Everyone keeps saying " i was young". But they keep doing the same thing now they did then. Makes no sense.

[@cheebzzz]

IM ONLY AT THE INTRODUCTION AND IM ALREADY ROLLING MY EYES

[@sexymama1966]

the kids tell him what to do...now that's messed up

[@dzireveal3074]

Why not get a job after this baby?

[@KnottyCeltic]

He needs to get off the reefer, it's making him LAAAAAZY! He puts off the bills, he lets his kids see him high, he lets the kids walk over him and tell him where to go, he doesn't go to work when he don't feel like it. Get off the Ganja and do what a man's supposed to do.

[@mrbadguysan]

Last time I was this early, people got married before they had kids.

[@82laina]

mrbadguysan 😂😂

[@HeresMyBit]

Omg the judge look so confused LMAO

[@kaykisses3045]

I can't wait 13 years.. and I damn sure won't be having all these kids in the meantime.

[@JazzyJeffRealTalk]

This is level 10,000 ratchet 🤣

[@jeanniehowell5718]

Judge Toler is on point when she told her to Get on BIRTH CONTROL...it's not fair to keep having children and it's a financial struggle... She need to do her part as well...I would be high everyday too... I know he's under pressure mouths to feed she's nagging... house a mess that's just too much for anyone but I pray they get it together and keep it together....and no more babies....

[@ambermindless247]

Lol everytime she said white girl 🤣 the white lady behind her made a face

[@shirleycarter6976]

Lol yes i saw that also it was all funny to her at first but when she says white girl her hold expression changed lmfao 🤣

[@ramonajackson1447]

Such foolishness and she three children deep. He's been like that. Now if he smoking he'll never keep a job. Let that thing go. Oops! Pregnant again!

[@tbeautifulmelodies9820]

If you’re going to cheat then just permanently move on.

[@angelfrmheaven]

One word - Trifling.

[@kholoudheddouche8184]

He keeps talking like” ya know what I’m sayin.” In half of the his sentences

[@soulstrength]

If he says "you know what I'm saying" one more time!!!!!

[@s.k5459]

Rolling my eyes..🙄

[@dollladie]

Did anyone count how many times he said, "You know what I'm sayin' ..." ???

[@Ms.Tamara_]

What woman wouldn’t have a bad attitude if constantly broke, being cheated on, behind on bills , facing eviction, on the bus with 3 kids. Kinda hard to be happy and blissful I would imagine lol

[@shirleycarter6976]

Yes it would be hard with that many kids on a bus but shut the factory down people's are not showing up to work anymore

[@unbeknownst2mee929]

That's why you leave instead of dealing with it lol

[@keino111689]

Ok he’s slacking big time but the “snow bunny “ sending friend requests is a real thing. I get a lot of those snow bunny friend request.

[@SteffB87]

Damn is that what weed do to you!?🤔🤨

[@ames6256]

“ I don’t know if I like or enjoy ya or if I’m just tired I don’t know “😂

[@moecoble1246]

They have the guy in the brown suit back again!!!🤣🤣 if some of you guys haven’t seen the DC called Holley vs Henderson, he was in the background behind the lady making the wild face expressions😂😂😂😭😭😭

[@BSH67]

There is so much sadness in this episode that I don’t know where to start. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Ms.Tamara_]

So for 13 years this man child has cheated , doesn’t keep a full time job , drinks n smokes constantly, caused ur family to be evicted due to non payment of rent/bills… but ur determined to have a 4th child by him? Make it make sense! And at the beginning she said it doesn’t take 13 yrs to know if u want to marry someone, so obviously he hasn’t wanted to marry her. Why are women settling for these man child’s and the expecting great outcomes?

[@melissalsmith883]

I wish the judge would admonish her for the “white girl/snow bunny” comments. It’s not funny or amusing. If s white person was on there using derogatory names towards black and nothing was said we would be up in arms. I don’t like it one bit

[@jackpea7102]

Melissa Smith Snow Bonnie it was amusing to me.

[@d-1381]

“You know what im saying, you know what im saying.”YES I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE SAYING

[@kaywilkerson4937]

Please stay together..the world isn't ready, and gurl get on birth control.

[@nikkiknowship-hop1466]

Yo he’s funny i don’t know what else to say. I’m laughing at him not with him 😂

[@justinmaple3015]

So he doesn’t pay bills and he spends his little bit of money on himself and you still want to be with him smh lol. Women are confused. That dude is a loser and she still wants him

[@itsjustnopinionok]

13 years of idleness. He is just a pothead and wont change anytime soon. And far from a man. Because his kids can see he aint about nothing which is why they disrespect him.

[@LawSnailman]

he is a joke all ganster and that "you know what I'm saying" lol

[@camillefedrick5973]

WHY WOULD YOU KEEP GETTING PREGNANT IF YOU KNOW YOU'RE HIGH RISK? I DON'T UNDERSTAND.

[@charlesanderson1963]

Camille Fedrick Neither does she.

[@nonilovechild5524]

Young hearts run. You'll get the babies but you won't have your man. Why he's busy loving every woman that he can.

[@ballthemblack]

I'm counting to see how many times he kept saying "you know what I'm saying" each time he talks

[@darrellsadler2848]

I choose Housing over a Personal Vehicle any day!

[@AyooNeshia]

You can live in your vehicle you can't drive your house to work

[@charliechoconut7865]

Why?? What hope was she holding on to for over a decade and no changes? Is she holding him only to control him? She needs to take control of her life with them soon to be Bebes kids.

[@jennevamadison3803]

So... This man's main priority is to get high and stay high. The woman's priority is to keep a man whose priority is to get high and cheat on her and for whatever reason some of the audience is laughing about it. 👌

[@KnottyCeltic]

Nothing I hate more than that phrase "ya know what I mean". You're a grown man, USE YOUR WORDS.

[@jenniferpaladini6011]

Don't know when this was filmed but I scooped on Facebook they broke up in November.

[@nonilovechild5524]

Jennifer Paladini Snow Bunnies win again!

[@erind2261]

Good detective work!!

[@jenniferpaladini6011]

Noni Lovechild what do you mean?

[@5822huron]

Foh they have all them kids. They can't do anything but struggle together

[@kelgon88]

So many women having baby after baby with men who have not proven themselves to be good men. I'll never understand why..smh

[@bpaige12]

How is she a stay at home mom but claims he can't half keep a job.

[@Cuisine228]

Judge Lynn crack me up; There are rule to being a sidechick

[@dshannasanders964]

Idk. Why get on national TV and tell your significant others illegal activities?

[@01Iamme01]

I love his southern drawl 🙌🏽☺️ But he better treat his wife right!

[@drlovie]

Why would she be with a man for all these years and continue to be a pregnant, frumpy baby mama? She speaks so inarticulate...so embarrassing. She should focus on bettering herself (i.e. getting a job, going to school, taking care of her kids, working out, using birth control, get higher self-esteem, etc.). Some people don't think higher...just primitive.

[@deewms8955]

I can’t make it to the end...they’re annoying. He’s nowhere near being a Man...have you ever heard of a career???