Full interview: Why did Christian vloggers go public on cheating husband Netflix documentary? | Banf

Christian vloggers Sam and Nia Rader chose to restore their marriage after facing infidelity. They're featured in Netflix's latest documentary series, "Ashley Madison: Sex, Lies & Scandal," which follows the 2015 data breach incident of a popular dating website. "You don't have to divorce your husband just because he cheats on you. Redemption is real, and it's an option," Nia said beside her husband Sam, during an appearance on NewsNation's "Banfield." "We have a better marriage now than ever could have imagined. There's so much depth to it, and I really want other women to see that."
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[@princess_maya_]

As a Christian woman, I don't know how to feel about this. I think the message that Christian women will stay no matter what because we "give grace" and "have faith" can leave Christian women vulnerable to potential predators who think they can do whatever they want without consequence because Christian women won't leave (ex: this lady, Anna Duggar, etc.).

[@jen3104]

I think true repentance is the key. Most of these emotional abusers and cheaters say they are sorry without a true life transformation. The church needs to stop holding women hostage to wolves. It appears this guy got it right.

[@princess_maya_]

@@jen3104 I hope he got it right - my only concern is that he was so deceptive for YEARS that if I was in her shoes I would have a hard time trusting myself and my discernment as to whether or not he changed - especially since he didn't come clean until after he was exposed and caught red handed! I would wonder if he would have continued being deceptive, unfaithful, ungodly, and putting my health at risk if the truth hadn't been revealed by someone else. True repentance requires a choice and action, but he didn't have a choice about his dirty secrets being revealed, which makes me wonder if he's truly sorry, or just sorry that he got caught

[@raquelrockysanchez]

Only time will tell. We much continue to pray for this couple as well as others who have repented and asked Jesus to intervene in their brokenness.

[@afairlady224]

@@princess_maya_I agree with what you’re bringing up. Although, a thought came to mind about a woman I know who was the “cheater.” She chose to respond in anger and blame the husband “victim.” The husband here didn’t choose the timing to repent but the push he had was handled in a way that sounds honorable and sounds like he was not expecting her obedience but more like he allowed her to decide and he did not give up.

[@Probabilityislife]

​@@princess_maya_The fact you believe in Fairy tales tells me everything I need to know about you. Worry more about the death and destruction than affairs in marriage.

[@stephm5877]

Forgiveness is not reconciliation. You can forgive and not reconcile. Jesus gives reasons to divorce. His desire is repentance, not marriage. If you choose to stay together, that's your choice. God's full redemption exists either way.

[@Bellahope11]

❤ agreed. Plus infidelity is the one reason besides death that will release you of your marriage.

[@stephm5877]

@Bellahope11 Also, 1 Corinthians 7 lists out abandonment as a reason also. He calls believers to peace. Leaving and forsaking are 2 forms of abandonment.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

"I have faith in something... bigger than my husband " And he had fait that he could cheat repeatedly for years.... And his wife wouldn't leave him

[@all_that_glitters13131]

It took me a while to understand I thought she was saying she had a bigger man in her life

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

@@all_that_glitters13131 her faith is why she stayed.... Her faith is why he cheated... Because he knew she wouldn't leave... Because her faith... God is not ok with adultery

[@Hollysunshineday]

They went public with Netflix for the cash. They’re literally making bank off of their sins and it’s gross. They’re both disgustoids.

[@kamala2111]

He is not remorseful at all, he is just doing it because he got caught. Look at his eyes he is miserable. He is so disingenuous.

[@Ann-eb8fo]

Give me a break ...bro is so full of it. The grift is real. *Its unreal that they said they would do something and they just didn't* Well gosh ,I bet your wife can definitely relate to wondering how someone could*say* they'd do something and they just *didn't* 🙄

[@TinkletitsMcGee]

My god I can’t stand this couple. I watched the Ashley Madison show and they are so narcissistic. Even when promoting their KZbin videos they called themselves a good looking couple in the KZbin titles for clickbait to go viral.

[@LONEWOLF78.]

The view is fantastic from her ivory tower.

[@TinkletitsMcGee]

@@LONEWOLF78. in the show they said he cheated on her because he needed more attention. So he hit up every girl in his town. Then he felt better when he went viral on KZbin and deleted his account. Like geez wtf

[@LONEWOLF78.]

@@TinkletitsMcGee I loved the way she portrayed herself as a better partner as she forgave him for his shenanigans and was giving marriage another try. No surprises they wrote a book.

[@deniseganey6890]

​@Conspir78 Motivated by Money ,attention and Fame . Sins of the Flesh . Lack of integrity and truth .

[@LONEWOLF78.]

@@deniseganey6890 yep, that could do it.

[@all_that_glitters13131]

I would love to be a fly on the wall when no one's around...... these people aren't happy it's all for show

[@lucypavett6173]

They seem so shallow tbh

[@deniseganey6890]

Creepy vibes

[@WitchwitchshesA]

He’s not even present.

[@melanieaveryeasthope3980]

I haven’t thought about these two for years. Never trusted him.

[@deniseganey6890]

I've never heard if them actually They both seem inauthentic.

[@AB-mx1de]

@@deniseganey6890that was my read on them too (never heard of them before either). Their smiles and claims of happiness sadly do not reach their eyes nor seem real.

[@hannahtangerine6531]

Someone check on this girl. She’s getting Mica’ed.

[@markjohnston8989]

Have true faith in Jesus. God will accept his repentance and if they both have faith in Jesus it will all be okey dokey. Has he really been redeemed in Jesus' name? That really is the big question. Only time will tell.

[@all_that_glitters13131]

They don't look happy 😂

[@teddybearhead87]

Wonder if he'd stay if it was the other way around 🤔

[@ST-rj8iu]

nope. he would have left because men know it is a choice. people are going to hit on you and you are going to find other people attractive.

[@AB-mx1de]

Not a chance, he doesn’t even seem to like her or be interested in her words

[@slconley]

Nope 👎

[@JesusChistLovesYou]

Likely not. Narcissistic people rarely tolerate the same behavior they dish out.

[@D.R.Chacon737]

Right!

[@meowmeow4803]

That's a yikes. She has faith in god but no self respect. These people are both sick. Him and her. He is taking advantage of her lack of self respect/worth!!!

[@RiverPaisley]

The guy friends I’ve had who were the most religious were the ones who were serial cheaters. Cheat, beg forgiveness, “redemption,” cheat, beg forgiveness, “redemption,” repeat. Bunch of words. Barf. Run, sister. Run.

[@deniseganey6890]

Oh my goodness ,he sits here and is surprised about Ashley Madison not protecting his reputation? A Lawsuut ? This right here explains it all. He has not repented ,using his cheating to gain followers .

[@hannahw2697]

Can’t believe she stayed with him. How awful

[@chelseagirl278]

HER choice

[@fuhgetabatit1051]

My god, this interview is painfully awkward.😬

[@DollishDes]

It really is.

[@labelledujour5855]

Absolutely

[@shana4503]

lol it def is

[@openlybookish]

Romantic? I call BS. She's not looking at him adoringly. She looks tense and nervous.

[@AB-mx1de]

Yes this feels inauthentic, he especially seems to be reading a script almost and his eyes shift everywhere

[@elisestokes6961]

I think anyone would be nervous.....little wonder....she knows they're going to be hammered just as the comments shows. They've bravely opened their hearts and that is a vulnerable place to be in.

[@PAS_2020]

Dude got caught. Plain and simple. We will hear more about this couple in the future. Hope it will be OK but not so sure.

[@TinkletitsMcGee]

They feed off the attention. They’re addicted to it

[@cecilestokley8585]

He’s got Chris Watts vibes!

[@amya6902]

No! You don't understand! He was tested and he passed! A woman "tempted" him a while back by smiling at him in the grocery store and guess what?! He didn't bang her in the parking lot or anything! He sat down with his wife, in front of the camera, and confessed everything! (That a woman smiled at him & he struggled not to immediately go cheat BUT he DIDN'T) 😊 Wow. God is so good. Gosh, Sam might be even better! Nia is so lucky!

[@openlybookish]

She seems highly nervous talking with him sitting next to her.

[@openlybookish]

He's coming across bored when she's talking and sharing.

[@averageamericangirl6819]

They got him good😂😂😂 His own family told him to come clean.

[@JusJello8]

He’s still cheating

[@kellykirk4244]

I was Nia in my first marriage. He paraded himself as a loyal Christina man. He had Ashlee Maddison, and other hookup apps. He lied constantly. And then he tried to use my faith to gaslight me and guilt me for filing. He still tries to make me the bad guy because I’m the one who filed. It’s sick. I’m sorry but it’s just horrible to use a woman’s faith to manipulate them to stay with men like this. That’s what I believe happens having been in her shoes. Someone who lies that much doesn’t stop overnight. It’s very very rare for them to ever stop.

[@laurenw2446]

This makes me sick.

[@ameliadavis1979]

How surprising! People promoting and profitting off of Christianity are the worst people! No cheating is good but he paid for a service to find a &lut just like himself. That is much worse than a drunken night at a club. He used household money and activly searched while preaching. Disgusting!

[@Thefallofcapitalismishere]

So cringe, and fake!

[@ConstanceAxios]

Oooof. I won't say a thing more, but we can all see it if we aren't blind••• her come up, that is. That man has shame but zero regrets- if he could get away with it he'd do it all over again and again 😢

[@ItsToanLam]

Once a cheater, always a cheater! Baby girl needs to get away from this cheater before she mysteriously dissappear

[@StarterVillian]

They train women to be victims from childhood in Christianity and that they will accept whatever. They have to accept that there's an imaginary being. Of course they accept whatever their husband says

[@chelseagirl278]

wow, I didn't know you spoke for me!! And speak for ALL Christian women in the world. You must be important. I am not a victim but a victor! Would you say this if the religion was I s l am or Judais m? I doubt it

[@DawgGal]

Praying this couple makes it all the way 🙏🙏🙏 I personally didn't stick around when I went through this, but years later, I wondered should I stayed with him. God does know I tried hard though. Wish you two the best‼️💯

[@moda78z]

Fundies -> cheating-> Netflix show-> Lots of money-> Gods work.

[@princess_maya_]

You can forgive someone and also choose to leave a toxic situation. You can love someone from a distance. I really don't like how she framed that part, as if true forgiveness is intrinsically tied to staying with someone who violated your marriage vows, lied to you for YEARS, and literally put your health and safety at risk through infidelity...

[@AB-mx1de]

💯!

[@SentaDR]

I think they both are being honest. We have all sinned. I can’t judge them. I pray for them! I think Jesus has blessed them for their vulnerability. Forgiveness is real! Jesus is the one to heal, change and restore us when we repent.

[@tonifitz6831]

Why give these the time of day

[@Wellness-lk3he]

It's so awful when people use faith and Christianity for personal gain. Take them off social media and see how long they would be spouting this. Don't trust them at all. She's as delusional as he is deceptive. The fake smiling is not convincing.

[@chicagomarie761]

He will end up leaving her because she is so weak. She thinks by staying with him she will appear strong, but it will have the opposite effect. Honestly, they both deserve to be separated. She has no backbone and he needs constant attention.

[@slconley]

How do you casually sue someone?

[@elisestokes6961]

I still believe people can change....if i dont have this hope then I'd never be a counsellor. People should be allowed to get up after failures and have a go again.

[@blue8710]

Trust has 3 componentes: Trust in God, trust in yourself and trust in the other people. Only having one of them leaves the circle incomplete.

[@frankietyree1953]

Yep! He is smooth! Like my ex-husband who would say what woman? How could you say that? Don’t I tell you how much I love you everyday? I have your pictures all over my desk! But that was where he got his girlfriends!😳

[@labelledujour5855]

😳🤦🏾‍♀️, sorry!

[@hanid92]

They may seem look okay but we really never know what is happening behind closed doors.

[@melnelly5918]

That's the key. Is it repairable? It's not always even if you try and want it to be.

[@BelleEFlopp-nk5xe]

My husband and I are Christians, not perfect ones either. But if one of us was feeling the sinful desire of an affair, we would be seeking Jesus for extra help way before an apology was needed. It seems like he is using Jesus to clean up his disaster when he should’ve been using Jesus to prevent it. We have 2 little boys and I would not stay with my husband if he did this to me.

[@bluelovely1374]

Religious people scare me.

[@kateganz]

Women..you do not have to stay with someone for any reason ever!!!!

[@bellastone-le9eb]

This is a new channel for me but I'm really starting to appreciate its content. Subscribing.

[@VaBellaBeautz]

Creepy stuff here

[@afairlady224]

Great interview. All around. Thank you to all

[@therealmrsmall]

Omfg...😂🤣🤣🤣...this freakin world...🙄🙄

[@ashleygreen655]

Narcissist.

[@cocoknows]

She has faith in superstition, but not her husband. I'll keep my atheism and my happy, monogamous, honest marriage.

[@Findpepperbridge]

Hmmm… I think she has blinders on

[@ST-rj8iu]

Most people "hang in there" until they meet someone else. This marriage will last until that happens.

[@moniquegoss845]

I saw the Netflix documentary. I thought that Sam was a messed up person, but I really like Sam. I’m glad Nia stayed with him. They seemed happy. Have a beautiful long lasting marriage. Your story was my favorite in the documentary 🥰

[@kamikazekid94]

What a load of bs. On both of them. They don’t even look like they’re happy together. I’m not mocking the Bible but people use it like it’s a crutch. And I think they are in it for money. You can always forgive but man it’s hard to trust someone so quickly. I’m just not being this.

[@EllieWright-l1u]

I am glad this couple actually worked on their marriage and themselves and are making it work. They didnt throw it all away over some dumb mistakes. What if the roles were reversed and she cheated on him?

[@tonifitz6831]

Money, Money, Money

[@DollishDes]

Yup they can’t make that KZbin money without each other.

[@rrosen7370]

Nope!!!

[@mlite30]

The only times she sounded confident was when she was talking about her faith in something bigger. Her voice would quiver and break when she talked about her husband.

[@ogarcia9745]

Well it's OK to cheat as long u don't get caught or have a forgiven Christian wife lol

[@andersonsystem2]

Saying Jesus doesn’t make everything ok. Jesus talks about unfaithfulness and how marriage is holy in saying this I couldn’t continue the relationship not cool. This why I am not Christian yikes.

[@Jedindy]

Crazy

[@jae2249]

I gotta remember this shit next time I’m caught haha

[@heather-cz8yk]

Uh-huh....

[@amya6902]

Sam is SUCH a good man now! In fact, when a woman TEMPTED him when she smiled at him at the grocery store, he was SO close to trying to cheat again BUT! HE DIDN'T! Instead, he sat down with his wife in front of the camera & CONFESSED it all. Now, THAT is a changed man! Gosh, she's so lucky to have him.

[@labelledujour5855]

Sarcasm right?

[@amya6902]

@@labelledujour5855 SOOOO much sarcasm 😂

[@amya6902]

@@labelledujour5855 Swear to god that's a true story though. He was TEMPTED because a woman SMILED AT HIM AT THE GROCERY STORE 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@kathywinecoff5046]

Well I don't know who they are and I haven't seen the doc, so I'll have to do some research.

[@shana4503]

so awkward 😬

[@malcriadamedina5358]

Why does anyone care? They're not even famous. Weird segment

[@krkkk-yc6do]

Phony

[@tonifitz6831]

B.S

[@JesusChistLovesYou]

Nia is truly brave for taking on the enormous battle of keeping her marriage together after betrayal. She really deserves SO MUCH credit, love and respect for baring the brunt of this pain- to be betrayed and stabbed in the back by the most intimate person that supposed to be one with and protect you. This kind of betrayal is just so deplorable. The news lady stuck a big jab at her when she asked her husband Sam who cheated on her, “how can you have a bond with a woman who doesn’t trust you?” 😮 Well, for one, he is the one who CHOSE to break that trust, so it is his issue regardless, and he put that on NIA. He is the one who made out best here for being forgiven and not losing everything (his wife, children, assets in a divorce). Come on! Terrible question for her to ask! I want to give Sam the belief that he truly repented, yet his words and actions make it so difficult. First of all why in the world would you sue a company for saving your information when you are the one who deceived and betrayed your very own wife? THATS why you’re really mad! You’re mad you got caught! If they saved it and handed him a check for 1 million and he didn’t get caught, he wouldn’t be mad! A truly repented and humbled man would be grateful that his wife got the truth that she truly deserved, and that this wickedness came to the light so that he could be exposed and learn his lesson! Read what the Bible says about repentance and law suits. He goes on to say “I have to bear the brunt for the 30 million other men out there that are doing this” what?! No you don’t! That is a classic s3ggs addict mentality, sadly that says “look over there because I’m uncomfortable with you looking at what I did.” I kind of get that would be hard to broadcast his horrible behavior, but it was also his decision. You want to make sure we know that “30 million other men are doing too” so that it doesn’t seem as bad because you did what 30 million men are doing. Trying to normalize it, minimize and deflect the negative attention away from one’s self is sadly a sign that the full ownership and repentance isn’t there. Needs a lot more work, but it can be done if he can reflect on this behavior and change it. And finally to top it off by telling men, s3ggs w/o intimacy is just not fulfilling?! 😢 I know he’s trying to give a positive message and that’s good but it’s so sad that he seems to miss the biggest most important factors here!! That is the very last and smallest of issues that adulterers should be worried about, and their own selfish thinking IS the problem to begin with! It’s not about why it is not fulfilling, that should be the least concern! What if it is more self pleasuring and fulfilling to the other men who do it? It often is sadly. Because they’re lost and living for themselves. The drive home point should be the damage, the selfishness and wickedness of the adultery itself! The pain and suffering the absolute chaos that you forced onto your wife, your marriage your kids, your community, family, followers all for your own sick perverted pleasure. That is the main punchline! What is more pleasing to you individually is not the center piece of this tree! 🌲 BUT sadly this is how the majority of cheaters think which is why they allow themselves to cross those boundaries in the first place. “Hmmm… 🙂‍↔️ how is this decision going to fulfill me? How do I feel about this kind of pleasure (affair) or that kind of pleasure (my wife)? Gosh I’m sorry if this hurts anyone but come on look at the reality here. This is why 97% of corn and seggs addicts never truly change because there’s no solid heart change. Jesus said there’s 4 ways to love- The most important love is the act of love through service, through actions, and the love that’s deeply embedded in your heart that you want not only no harm to come to that person “you love,” but that you would “lay down your life for” that person. Jesus said “husbands, love your wives as Jesus loves the church!” That means you lay down your life for your wife (and your children, everything that she holds dear). “Intimacy” is a word that gets thrown around just like “love”. well done you love the “feeling” of being around someone, getting the pleasure they give you? That’s not love, thats enjoyment and feelings. Love is when it’s deeply embedded in the very depths of your heart and spirit thru the Holy Spirit in you that He gave you a His own heart, new, a heart that’s not selfish. 1 Corinthians! As for a Christian leader, this man is no longer qualified to lead or teach anyone. This is the problem with the church that there’s millions of illegitimate pastors and “leaders,” leading the masses right into hell because they want to play with sins, disobey Gods word then come back for round two and spout off to the sheep about love that’s not true. They’re not teaching the sheep what true love, obedience and righteousness are. The sheep are confused, the vulnerable are abused so they turn away from the church and many turn away from God because of this! Read what the Bible says about a pastors qualifications! Take a seat. Evangelize spread the gospel, but don’t ever presume to tell others how they should lead their families spiritual life. I hope that he is working on himself and I believe he is, but sadly he doesn’t seem there yet.

[@Peter-kk6rg]

Jesus forgive me i love

[@TheSunshinefee]

she deserves him.

[@awakeninthelord1111]

Regardless of what people feel or say, Nia is giving other women who wish to move forward in their marriage with a (repentant) husband, Hope. That God can use all things for His Glory . I pray and hope that Sam Stays in repentance, time will tell. Not alot of women could do and go through what Nia has and is stll going through. Especially with abuse and infidelity and a husband who is not in repentance hasnt changed their ways or feel empathy for their wife. Reconciliation isnt always the end result , nor would you encourage it for someone going through that type of situation, but as it apears that Sam has been in repentance and empathetic to Nia, we should be praying for them and not continuously tearing them down with these comments I've seen. Life them up, and if you cant lift them up with your words, at least lift them up in prayer which undoubtedly means more to them, I'm sure.. 🙏🏻🩷

[@TaylorSaysHi2U]

Read their book! It will shut down all the haters!🤍