[FULL STORY] My boyfriend disappears every weekend, and I just found out he's been lying to me.

[@TalesChambers]

1:33 If came from short

[@Chromebookdemon]

Thanks

[@katanaandfriends]

SHE LITERALLY DATED AN ANGEL OF A MAN!! SHE LOST THE ONE GOOD THING SHE HAD!

[@joekontor6030]

Is it just me or the longer the story goes the worse the OP comes across?

[@Sattrax]

It is not just you but others think the opposite. Sounds like this was not the way to go with a relationship.

[@Kat-armor139]

That last but.....she sounded just conseaded.... He wasn't playing victim. Jesus damn if he do, damn if he don't when seeing therapy.

[@Wishingstarmik0]

Yeah he definitely wasn't I pretty much simpatize with him

[@weekendnomad5038]

conceited

[@Sattrax]

You sow what you reap. Why the lies? Faulty foundations bode ill for future relationships. Ergo bye!

[@sarahm2005]

​@@Sattrax don't pretend you don't lie. He lied because of his own issues, not because he was doing something wrong. Instead of understanding him and working with him to gain trust, she attacked him and forced him to go to therapy. The real story is they didn't love each other enough to work on their relationship. He has a problem he should address, and she's not willing to put herself in a difficult situation. This wasn't an unworkable situation, but she decided to end it because she couldn't understand his reasoning. He was doing something that was important and personal to him. He should have been honest with her, but it wasn't an unsolvable problem.

[@Sushidogbat]

Ok the lying the major issue. She was fine when it was for school.

[@Themost_random_Edits]

Umm I think that the end was not right, jus cuz he wanted to tell u a few words doesn't mean he was trying to play the victim, like I get he should have told you earlier but now ur jus acting like he cheated on you or something really bad like he aint that bad, he even continuously appoligised which is really nice of him since you should also try to understand where he is coming from

[@Kawaii_core734]

And the fact he constantly makes the relationship better, and through his efforts, she still broke up with him! She needs to think about his feelings, too! She's upsetting me. And she calls it "disgusting " makes it worse. I feel bad for the guy

[@AardvarkMalarkey]

Bro you two are spitting facts

[@thatguyhere9085]

OP is honestly stupid. I get where you’re coming from with the being lied to, but, in all fairness, he wasn’t cheating or anything, he was VOLUNTEERING AT A HOMELESS SHELTER! Sure, the lying is one thing, but then you demand that he spends more time with you, like these other people he is helping don’t need help at all. Again, to be fair, he is your boyfriend, but you broke up with him because of it. On top of that, he seeks out therapy, and ends up wishing you well, and you call him a VICTIM??? You got some screws loose. This is not normal behavior. Maybe it was the booze talking, but seriously, you lost a saint of a man, and decided to blab about him to the world of Reddit, and interpret his well wishes as victimization. Get real.

[@AardvarkMalarkey]

This is so accurate

[@neve722]

I don’t like commenting on Reddit posts cause I hate sad stories, but this girl gets me angry. Like.. really? Your angry he’s helping people and not spending time with you? I get it, maybe a day won’t hurt. But then you both break up and say he acts like a victim because he’s more mature than you in trying to figure out things. It sounds like she’s trying to play victim. I like the guy a lot as he seems like a very good person. Three years did not go down the drain. You made it go down the drain with that compromise as he clearly wasn’t very comfortable with it due to his work. I kinda hate the girl.

[@nerilei29]

Is he more mature? The boy stubbornly refuses therapy even though he knows he has a problem and should have gone to it after the first suggestion. An adult hid for 3 years what he was doing on weekends from the person with he was creating a relationship and arranging his life. On top of that, he thinks he doesn't have to change. Well, he doesn't have to, but it's unhealthy. Just like that text message. He had the need to justify himself and whitewash his guilt to the person with he had already ended the relationship. And he still refuses therapy even though he lied to her for 3 years and didn't tell her that he was helping people, because of something that happened in class. It's normal for a girl to be upset when she found out. He's immature, has a big problem and needs professional help.

[@neve722]

@@nerilei29 I think it was just her saying ‘gross’ that made me mad. But yeah your right.

[@nerilei29]

@@neve722 True, she could have put it less aggressively. I mean, the story probably isn't even true as most of them, but you're right, comments like "gross" aren't necessary to express how she felt after the relationship ended.

[@janetmclean8566]

Sorry, I disagree with you on this. He hid it for 3 years. What happened to honesty with your mate. Sure it’s great he wants to help but lying IS NOT the way to go in a relationship. He should know her by now after 3 years. Ridiculous reason for hiding it.

[@janetmclean8566]

What he did is immature not mature. Someone mature does not build a relationship on lies.

[@Jaxsonhirsch]

He was saying she was right and telling her an update and she got mad ???? I think she’s the problem personally ,he seemed like a really nice guy with trust issues.he deserves better

[@weekendnomad5038]

How nice. I could see not wanting to talk about it bc people will think you are bragging for attention. Seems like he’s very insecure of how people view him

[@AardvarkMalarkey]

I think he has a disorder like asd or ADHD i have asd and i very much like this i struggle to comprehend things like this it is really hard to go through a breakup Edit: i write this while watching the video and then the video said he does has a disorder and now i feeel stupid 😭😭😭😭😭

[@matthewscorner2990]

Honestly, I don't understand half of her reactions to this situation. Like, yeah, it sucks that she was lied to, but he just enjoys helping people and is insecure about it. Yet she cares more about making him spend time with her and then gets offended when he finally seeks help and tells her she was right. If I found out my partner volunteers their time at homeless shelters, I would consider that a major green flag, regardless how I found out. I also didn't get why it took her so long to understand his situation after his explanation. She had to have it reiterated twice and still didn't REALLY care. She just sounds so conceited and I hope the comments of the original post and updates told her as much. I also hope he finds someone more deserving of his time, though this situation may cause him to have even further trouble given what happened when his last partner found out what he does and why. Looking at the symptoms for the disorder he was diagnosed with, it would not pair well with that experience.

[@sarahm2005]

Maybe he realized she was a selfish b** and didn't want to tell her he wants to spend his free time helping others, but does that also mean he doesn't want to spend more time with her? Because he could do one day out of week. Also, she thought people would comment she should breakup with him? Either she lives in her tiny bubble and can't understand others might not think he's a terrible person for helping others, or she's surrounded by the most toxic people.

[@ellenamitchell]

I’m so confused What did OPs boyfriend even do???

[@AwaisPoshnee]

i know right he volunteered at a homeless shelter like wtf are you yapping about op

[@yo-Jordiewatch4]

Why would you break up wtf bro 😭

[@Lynanddoenutz]

Like if I were him an I found that out I would feel so bad and would have also contacted her that way. Like it feels wrong to not say anything when the other person was right and just trying to help you.

[@Not_philly]

The AUDACITY he GoT

[@tamalanicole6328]

This is so dumb!

[@Not_philly]

@@tamalanicole6328 ??

[@Hotmess11]

If you haven’t watched the full video yet he volunteers at a homeless shelter and he was embarrassed about it so he didn’t tell the girlfriend

[@roxcyn]

Uhmmmm, I really want to slap OP! He (the ex) sounds like an angel. Of course he has problems, who doesn't? He is kind, generous and helpful. Anyway, hopefully they find someone and are better.

[@ThatproProxvvv]

Second

[@Z3Y05]

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