[FULL STORY] My Mother Disowned Me For Being Childfree, So I Left Her In The Cold.

[@ImAPotato-]

“Others sided with mom saying the situation shouldn’t be made public” SHE WAS THE ONE WHO MADE IT PUBLIC

[@Jagnandan87]

Fr😭

[@been_toli]

Exactly. And i see that op never pointed that out to her mom. If it wasnt made public this would be handed differently smh . Like who spills all their family business on facebook. Shocking

[@siiriheikkinen2071]

The mom wants grandchildren in the same way a child wants a puppy or a doll. The mother acts like having children is just a easy chore to do, and not a life changing event, where you bring a WHOLE NEW HUMAN BEING to the world. She is insane. Adam is a 10/10 brother though

[@Kane_the_king]

I agree with that statement 👍

[@melindaflick631]

My IL's had 6 kids. My side at me. Of the 6, one had no kids, 2 had 1 kid, 1 had 2, and we had 3. 9 grandchildren total. Of those 9 grandchildren, only 2 have had kids. There will likely be a few more coming, but nobody else is married, nobody wants to be a single parent, and nobody is in any kind of rush, and nobody is under 30 anymore. You can't force people to have children, and it's crazy expensive regardless of where you live. OP should have blocked her mother, sister and aunt and uncle MONTHS earlier.

[@KatKaotika]

I would have just said "do you plan on adopting and raising that child?" It's HORRIBLE to try and force someone to bring a child they don't want into the world they don't even want.. What a good brother!! ❤

[@CoRLex-jh5vx]

"You'll regret it when you're older" "Then you can gloat when I do. I'll risk it."

[@QueenSunstar]

“Mom, I’m sterile. That’s why I can’t have kids.” Problem solved.

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

And she'd never find the truth from the white lie And *IF* OP changed her mind she can call it a miracle baby never telling the truth

[@Itsmysecret17]

But how hard it is for the mom to not get that her daughter can have the choice. It's not about solving the problem, it's about the moms control and ignorance to her own child's wants.

[@knight2179]

Yes because living a lie to appease your mother's vs having her just love you for you is soooo much better.

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

@knight2179 she will never discover the truth anyway, so why does it matter

[@abcdefoff3307]

​@@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer It matters because nobody should live a lie to please others. Plus, the problem will only be solved once the mom died or is being put in permanent 0 contact. Lying isn't a solution. You're just running away from the problem and inviting more to come, like bullying from being infertile and being pressured to get married, adopt, do IVF, do surrogacy, etc. Your proposed solution is the door that will invite more problems in the future. It isn't worth it. Plus, her birther should respect her no matter what, not because of a lie. Never please a shithole like that old granny.

[@Poko0Chan]

I think little sis did not want kids either and hoped to push it all on the eldest 😅

[@LifeIsUnfiar7]

Fr

[@angelicasiles9905]

If I were OP I would say "You want me to have babies? Ok, so you will be a surrogate and raise them?" because to me it's easy to want someone else to do all of that. And family legacy? Everything that she has built? WHAT LEGACY?? Are they the monarchy?? This is sooooo exhausting. OP actually dealt with this in a much more friendly way

[@elizabethtrudgill3567]

The moment your mother sees you as a walking baby making factory she's no longer your mother.

[@bforman1300]

My mom has always said that people should have kids because they want to have kids, not because other people want them to have kids. Enjoy your life.

[@mevan883]

Problem is too many people think it's a duty and not a choice.

[@Zolphius_0273]

0:55 for people who came from shorts (please pin so people don’t have to go looking for this)

[@Thestitch.angel.fan-]

Some heroes don’t ware capes🫶🏾✨

[@Thatoneequestriannerd]

Thank youuuuuu

[@sadeye99]

どうもありがとう

[@Claire-is-Crazy123]

thank u❤

[@CertifiedPapyrusFan89]

Thank you friend

[@jewel65]

I will never understand why people feel betrayed when a person doesnt want kids! Parenthood is hard, its not for everyone!

[@beatrispains8814]

I love how everyone (except Adam) blame OP for what she's done while OP done ABSOLUTELY NOTHING😁

[@BrianFriebele]

😅

[@Mery1119]

They clearly got brainwashed by mommy mastermind

[@a_daughter_of_nyx]

How is it selfish to not want kids?

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

​@@Apollo-apollo-g5xhow can someone want to be brought into the world when they don't even exist?

[@marijajanicijevic8211]

I agree. Especially because not all the times someone wants kids is selfless. "I want someone to bring me a glass of water." "I want a mini me running around." "The kid might save our relationship, bring us closer together."+ The way some kids are raised just to give money later (though with family channels it can even be immediately). Now, there are the parents who are not like that, but they still don't cancel out those I mentionned.

[@georgewashington4866]

It sounds like the mother was already having financial issues way before OP even announced that she didn't want kids so when OP announced that, the mother saw it as a golden opportunity to reroute OP's trust to her finances to hopefully fix everything

[@Yaya2214CJ]

Your Mother's comment about ruining the family legacy is completely NUTS. You don't carry on the legacy, your Brother would. You'd take your husband's name ( if you were traditional which you don't seem to be lol ). And i thought you had gone no contact and deleted her social media? But then said she contacted you? So then their having financial problems but your Dad never mentioned that? So what happened to the "family trust" she was removing you from? After all her bad mouthing she had been doing about you, your sister thought it was all your fault because you didn't want to marry and have children? I would have told her to get married and have the grandchildren your mom claimed to want so badly. I don't understand why extended family feel the need to get involved. I wouldn't have let my Aunt and Uncle in my house. I would have not so politely told them it was none of their business and shut the door in their faces. Goad your Brother has a good head on his shoulders. Hope he went no contact with your mom too.

[@fredbearpostsfnaf9314]

If it’s legacy, as in genes, only girls can do that. Name, boys (typically). But it’s still just a wild complaint.

[@sarahstanton6483]

Had a similar issue with my family (mum and sis were my only supporters). After years of being seen as nothing more than an incubator by them, I snapped and said that if they kept mentioning me having kids I’d get the surgery and I’d never have them. Radio silence about babies the second those words left my lips. (Ofc I did say this to the gossips of the family so news spread quick) Cut them off years later for other issues. My life has been quiet since.

[@Diane_666]

Thanks, now I know exactly what I'll say if my family ever starts with that bullshit!

[@byronsmothers8064]

"I can't consider someone so selfish as family" Woman, you are the embodiment of selfish right now!

[@protoxur1258]

No because this is a terrifying situation to me. I have tokophobia, so ofc I’m thinking differently- but imagine being cut out of potential financial aid and family support because they want to force you to go through a traumatic and painful process that is completely unpredictable and then care for a separate being you never wanted in the first place. That’s literally horrifying

[@justsomeinternetuser]

Hannah, deserves all the stress for saying such lies to OP. 🤣

[@lindajoblerman6735]

My mom always said that if you needed a license to have kids, there would be no one at the license bureau.

[@mubashsherafirdous1744]

everyone needs someone like adam in their life

[@Cheshyre.]

She *won't* be carrying on the family legacy, though. If she gets married and decides to have kids, she'll help carry on her *husbands* family legacy. The mother should focus on her own son, he is who will be carrying on the family legacy.

[@Kasey-k4q]

She should accept her children's life choices instead of pressuring ANY of them to reproduce.

[@punishanpika]

Mom is likely the one going to regret having no kids. When they all cut her out. After she spent so much money, energy, and time on them.

[@Read1love]

My question is how can OP meet her half way? Either she has a baby for her mother or she's an adult life. This might have been a ploy to be a paid babysitter.

[@Thispersonisreal]

The story is fake, it's structured like it's either done by AI or using some kind of script but rewritten with different roles, I can tell cuz I heard 7 similar stories like this, I just listen to them as white noise when I'm working cuz I have adhd and it helps me focus

[@mightylara2372]

The mother is ridiculous. So are the family members backing her up. Can I plan MY life, please and thank you? It wouldn’t even be an argument.

[@Silly_Dino_Boi]

Imagine forcing your child to have children💀

[@Spawnofsatan97]

Hell no your body your choice, you don't want kids or a relationship/marriage then she and those who sided with her need to understand and respect your choices. Go low if not no contact with those who tried to persuade you otherwise

[@fredbearpostsfnaf9314]

Worst part is now if she ever has kids, her mom would 100 percent start gloating and bring back up the drama.

[@aloryamod9762]

I don’t understand why OP doesn’t just block everyone except her brother

[@NOWNVATTU]

Some ppl just cling onto hope or aren't ready to let go especially family who are close knit till this fiesco and there's nothing wrong with and that shouldn't be shamed it's hard for ppl to let go why u do u think some accept death while others are in deep denial and grief we all are different

[@jiminisnotonfire7125]

Hannah is getting on my damn nervesssss this girl needs to shush

[@MrBiggyfoot69]

Can y'all shut up about likes and, "First" comments.

[@Greenie_The_First]

I don’t think that comment will work

[@Yaya2214CJ]

It's like they're still in pre-school 😂. "I'm first" then the "I'm second" lol And on and on.

[@MrBiggyfoot69]

@@Greenie_The_First I'm aware it won't

[@oonachestnut509]

Can you just mind your business? If that's what they want to do, then so be it. You know you can just ignore it. Who the hell are you to tell someone you don't even know what to do. What they eat won't make you shit so get over it and yourself.

[@oonachestnut509]

14th post.

[@juliel5945]

It’s incredible how narcissistic, controlling people cannot take responsibility for their own actions.

[@Lazypokodots]

Living in a family like this- who needs enemies and ops? You mean mom and Hannah, aunt and uncle?

[@DrownedInExile]

"You turned everyone against me!" "Your lust for power and control have already done that!"

[@nancyriggs8170]

Geez, Id go NC with a mother like this.. You do not owe her grandchildren.. Mom sounds like the most selfish person of all.. That sister is nuts too.. She has two other children who can give her grandkids..

[@barbaraannbaez6917]

All this bs because you don't want children? That's your problem and tell everybody they have no opinion about your life choices.

[@DrPlaneteer]

It’s almost funny how everyone is like “WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO OUR FAMILY?” And OP is just chilling living her life

[@FairyGirlMagic]

Gosh... that mom has three children, but puts the pressure and responsibility of giving grand children just on one because "you are the oldest"? And Kicks her out of the family cause she isn't interested in being a mother...? 😅

[@yumeng4686]

Minute 14... And I haven't heard one peep about changing numbers and stuff like that. Jesus OP, I know your mom is a manipulator but take care of your damn sanity ffs

[@caipingsu1023]

The power control hunger woman wants money😂

[@Yayabunni]

Adam is the goat

[@uniquegeek2708]

Dad is a shitty dad.

[@MH_Prof]

How silly is this? You want more offspring in the family, so you get rid of those you already have.🙄

[@SophieN-y8u]

OP needs to actually block everyone in her family and stop answering their calls, reading all the facebook posts and letting them in her house. She’s doing it to herself unfortunately, she should keep her brother around but I would advise her to tell him talking about family drama was completely off limits. It must be really hard to cut out your entire family but it’s super nessecary in this situation

[@PaytonKoch-me9oe]

The relatives saying that it shouldn’t have been made public about the cousin defending OP so um yeah totally not hypocritical of them OPs mom totally didn’t post on the internet about her “side”

[@Justarandomnerdygirl]

This is ridiculous a lot of people don't want kids. I'm pretty sure none of us decided to be brought into this world -_-

[@Coco-4oa]

First born:✔️ Adam:✅ Therapist:✔️ Hannah:❌ Mother:❌ Father:✔️ Aunt❌ Uncle:❌

[@jezeannwilliams1145]

Some moms are so weird. There are some who regret having children too young and not being able to enjoy life and wish more than anything that their kids experience all life has to offer before procreating. And then their are those who believe proceating is the be all and end of the existence of their daughters, like OP's mom.

[@mubashsherafirdous1744]

you're so strong for going through all of this

[@VergilTheLegendaryDarkSlayer]

In instances like this, you apologise in a malicious compliance way "I'm sorry you got upset over me not wanting kids"

[@sarahloveless1726]

Childfree people in reddit stories: "Oh I don't want kids and my (parent) has been getting everyone to harass me but I'm sure if I just explain myself enough they'll see reason. Oh they want to have a family dinner. See they knew I was right with my decision. Update: WhY Is MY (parent) DOinG THis To MeeeEEEEEeeee😭😭😭"

[@roxcyn]

That ending is chilling. Hopefully their mom will realize what's up.

[@tryme9740]

So for a summary of the video. Op mom is very manipulative and narcissistic.She just guilts and blame op for tearing the family apart. Wanting to "fix" things if op says she's in the wrong and apologize. Adam, her brother was an outlet to op mom rants. He sided with op and eventually break off from the family. Hannah is now the only child dealing with their mother and she's stress out and exhausted. Op and Hannah had a conversation and op push Hannah to set boundaries. The dad is a total doormat and does nothing. Op mom went to hospital because of stress, cut op out the family trust fun, turn half the extended family against op to make her apologize and left her family finance in ruins due to her choices. Op is taking therapy and focusing on work. She stands with her boundaries and learn to find closure in herself, she's doing well. (All of this was 5 updates)

[@RebeccaCranston]

1:05 just get a cat cats are the best for people that are sad

[@Thispersonisreal]

Guys, dont take this story for granted, its ai generated, you can listen to it as white noise but yeah, you're listening to a fake story

[@Artist_XXX]

I know most are but i just like watching them to feel better, like things could be worse

[@annewilliams3874]

Carry on the legacy?! After being told to have no more children after the first 2, my mother had 2 more, to get a son, to"carry on the family name". Unfortunately, she did not survive,my brother,fortunately did. However, HE DID NOT HAVE ANY CHILDREN. There goes the family name!!!!

[@JasmineLI-k2w]

OPs mom is the kind of person who says ‘aroaces are just being weird’. ‘Love and marriage is what makes you human’.

[@ghxst-girl6526]

I'd have told Hannah like, "why haven't you given grandchildren yet, then? If you want me to apologize so much, why don't YOU do what she wants?"

[@DJdemonking]

Family is chosen, not blood

[@MaleighkaSaskatchewan]

It the mother’s fault because she was telling her to have children and she did not want that at all

[@Bewitcherboss613]

I’m getting Christina yang and Owen vibes from Grey’s anatomy on this one. Children are a blessing especially for those who want them. I don’t know what’s worse, op telling her mom that’s she doesn’t want children or op’s mom forcing - sorry gaslighting her into having children that she doesn’t want. Sometimes in life what you’re asking or pinning for may not be what you want or how you want it. Op’s mother and family needs to respect her choices and boundaries.

[@AwkwrdPrtMskrt]

How many times did Adam snap? How many times has OP mentioned her dad's neutrality? How many times has Hannah expressed displeasure at OP? I feel like we're in an infinite loop of despair.

[@musicandanimeare]

This is definitely AI.

[@Iamnotyorutheoriginal]

Girl! I got a idea! Say ur pregnant and said that ur mom asked u to get pregnant. So you did. Then if she doesn’t want to help you, tell them u weren’t and that she has shown her actual personality out. Tell them. “If she tells u to give birth to a child and she’ll do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about that child. For you to suffer. What will u do? What I did or do anything for her.”

[@bmore-ir2bj]

Lil Sis doesn't want children either

[@igenxuaeh1_]

that much drama for marriage and a fucking child is so crazy. Can't the mom just accept that the narrator didn't want to have either of the 2?

[@bella_sera2]

Op u deserve better dear ❤

[@rohiniguiland4873]

I would lie and say that I could not have kids

[@charilleneblackman5660]

Your mother is a crazy control freak just forget about her an live your life

[@RebeccaLunsford-qe2kt]

I'm a mother and there's nothing else I would rather be. However I have respect for people who do not want to be parents. Being a parent is something you have to want and be passionate about. Being a parent is a commitment and it is hard. And it can be heartbreaking sometimes.

[@MsDragonflyZero]

People who get confused between legacy and lineage, and as far as I'm aware, straight, "traditional" women often take their husband's last name.

[@alishajennings2013]

Why is the mom going on and on about the daughter carrying on the family name? If she were to marry she would be carrying on her husband's name. Only the son will carry on the family name

[@sammygreen066]

I hope hannah and OP can be friends again, it's sad when siblings fall out

[@mubashsherafirdous1744]

bro i can imagine myself being in the exact same position if i told my family i wannabe childfree

[@Chihirolee3]

If I was in such shoes, I'd be like, "Well, mom wants me to have babies. Please tell me how I can make things right when this is what she ultimately wants. Please tell me how we can come to an agreement, when I don't want children."

[@trinstonmichaels7062]

That mom is just off.

[@sakilynn]

Not everyone wants kids, so what?

[@kirayeaman7235]

i would make an appt with my Doctor to get myself fix or what ever it is called... problem solved no future babies from the eldes child

[@harleyquinn5774]

OP’s mom is nuts.

[@sushimamanj]

There is nothing for OP to fix

[@Nalatheswiftieandpjogirlie]

OP's mom literally has 2 other kids

[@paintedpilgrim]

If Mum wants grandkids so much then fine - I'll have them you can look after them full time.

[@vik_versus8003]

This story is the same plot, over and over

[@Tg-o7l]

Congratulations

[@sailorenthusiast]

I’ll admit, this story seems pretty far fetched. I know strange things can occur in reality, but the fact that all this drama was the result of OP being child free is absurd. Like, no way so many people wouldn’t realize that the mother is the one who is causing problems by pressuring her child to have kids “for the sake of the family.” Also, why is no one acknowledging that the daughter is being pressured to carry on the family legacy? Isn’t that usually the son’s duty in traditional family dynamics? After all, it’s usually the son that carries the family name.

[@jannamacdonald89]

I love being a Mom, but not everyone wants to be one. The mother should be hsppy she has grandchildren period.

[@petrikivinen4533]

OP seems to think she knows what NC means, but she has no clue.

[@pookiesis1465]

Of course dads always stay neutral.

[@omegamunchies1161]

But it’s the fact that she didn’t make a public post about any of this to try and defend herself. All she did was bitch about her mom saying stuff on the Internet, but not once did I hear her say she actually posted something defending her own fucking name. I think she just enjoys her mom causing shit in her life even if she’s cut off because she’s not actually saying anything to shut the shit down. 😂

[@RebeccaLunsford-qe2kt]

Your mother is being completely out of line. So very dramatic like her life is over. She has two other kids who can have children. She's the one who started this whole mess. She cut you off and it isn't helping that your family is encouraging her Behavior. There is fixing this because your mom wants you to have kids.

[@Clement2015]

ALL THIS JUST BECAUSE OF THE OP BEIJNG CHILDFREE!?!?!

[@marznotmars922]

Honestly I understand the dads ops dad and siblings is what their mom want a them to be

[@friendlypolytheist1201]

This is so, ai. Almost every uodate has the same thesis/conclusion “and that’s when I realized…” “and that’s when he snapped…” Someone just put therapy talking points into a bot.

[@Hi-bye133]

0:57 from shorts

[@BrianFriebele]

People who came from the short lol

[@Y0ur_ev1l_tw1n]

Bro this texture pack is ass

[@mariaisabelross9571]

First time being the first comment to a video 😂😅

[@AgentWoof]

아무도 신경 쓰지 않는다!! PERSONNE NE S'EN SOUCIE 💀💀💀

[@tbyrdinhand3346]

This has got to be Mormans.

[@memawknowsbest4978]

Would Mormons allow a woman to be the head of the family and tell the men what to do? Especially her own husband?

[@NoahMM2-100]

I’m the 4th comment 🎉🎉🎉

[@NoahMM2-100]

15th like!!!🎉

[@songoftheblackunicorn666]

In a way she has done you a favor. Right now you are correct you do have more freedom when you are 85 95 years old you will not feel free you will be old not able to live on your own and you will have no one. I don't believe how your mother is talking is ok at all however she is forcing you to think about the future

[@TsukinoUtokki]

There is no guarantee your children will take care of you when you're old though.

[@quinnthefox3846]

​@@TsukinoUtokki Not to mention how selfish it is to have children and expect them to be free caregivers in your age, rather than focus on raising good people that can pursue their passions. Raising kids shouldn't be considered a personal investment for your own future, it should be a responsibility with the prospect of joyfully seeing your child branch away from you towards their own path.

[@KB3TLR]

Or, like with my mother, she is so sure I can't do anything right that if she needs someone to care for her one day I don't see how it could be me, I'll just mess it up

[@Rorschachqp]

Poor OP’s mom. She did all this work just for the empty hope of grandchildren.

[@bella_sera2]

Narcissist mom

[@jezeannwilliams1145]

Grandchildren was never a guareentee, because Mom could have never predicted whether her kids would have grown into healthy adults to be able to procreate. She's being ridiculous

[@justsomeinternetuser]

Maybe mom should have gotten more kids.

[@melindaflick631]

You left off the /s...

[@Rorschachqp]

@ Nope. I just know how to listen to a story without assuming the story teller is the “good guy”. There’s more than one side to the story and more than one perspective.

[@birdieculture-2]

very.happy.for.you