[Full Story] My mother in law believes I cheated because I gave birth to a girl.

[@memeguyiii4383]

“No one was hurt”, the innocent pregnant woman was hit behind the head with a snow globe, and got stitches

[@miaironstone6783]

MIL attempted to kick her pregnant belly too before the husband pushed her- and yet he still sided with his mother. Disgusting

[@ThatCatByTheStreet-ln2yc5we7d]

(points to the stiches)

[@Arcticafoxis]

At that point I would drag my husband to a doctor ask them to tell him what would happen if the mil succeeded then leave him

[@emilyectoplasm]

Right?! WTF

[@sophieeeee46]

Yes, and he expects her to forgive her like wtf dude

[@bruniabraincrumbs2211]

"She just laughed and hung up on me." As well, she should.

[@Snortingboreing]

Ok think in your head you ask a girl out and she laugh 😂😂😂 How whude you feel He is in wrong but she did not need to laugh

[@boo._713]

“AS SHE SHOULD” -Peter Nugget

[@Lil-Deeno]

@@Snortingboreing Asking out a girl you like and telling your ex whom youve severely wronged (who is also engaged) that you miss them are two *VERY* different things

[@ryanwurzer7884]

you made her almost kill herself it idk

[@saintolengrace546]

@@Snortingboreing ur actting like that is exactly what happened. Imagine you asked a girl out who you have been very great friends with for 10 years but suddenly betrayed them cruly, and it has been 2 more years and she has a boyfriend who she has fostered deep care for. Its kinda obvious she would laugh

[@GretgorPooper]

MIL manipulated the SHIT out of her son, and the son is too much of a pushover to stand his ground.

[@christophercombs7561]

If they paternity tested the forst daughter it would have put all this to bed

[@Zam_Art]

My honest opinion is that the mother did go through a lot and the MIL should not been able to see her or her grandchildren and the fact about her cheating on him just because it's a girl is stupid. I do feel like they probably should have done counseling, and he was very wrong for insisting on a paternity test at that moment, including when he insisted on his mother to see the girls. I find it a bit harsh that she laughed in his face, that is her choice though.

[@Tallguy2026]

"father-in-law is now begging us to drop the charges, as no one was hurt". You needed six stitches in your head, you were hurt, and he's acting like that's not a big deal. You should carry on with pressing charges, and show your father-in-law the hospital's records, so that he knows the truth regarding what happened, and the truth about what his wife did. Edit: fixed some grammar

[@HughJassMarioFan2009]

Agreed. Also how is no one replying to you??

[@Tallguy2026]

@@HughJassMarioFan2009 I don't know. Maybe more people will respond, once the video gets more views.

[@Hammie2457]

I was thinking the same thing: someone obviously got hurt!

[@aaronwishard7093]

@@Hammie2457 Even better, two people, the MIL is who I mean, also got hurt. She just happened to be wearing orange while hurt.

[@elif_12sm]

AGREED

[@Randomperson91269]

As a man wtf is wrong with him he is not a keeper worst husband ever💀🙏

[@user-fh4rh9yw9m]

My thoughts exactly,bro has mommy issues 💀

[@Daisy999]

The woman said how her ex mil was posting on Facebook and he still didnt say anything.wow.

[@user-wx5tk2zn9x]

He is good husband I'm on his side f you

[@sleepynyx4330]

The pregnant nice lady needs a better hsuband😊

[@christophercombs7561]

Now had a paternity test been done in the first place with the firdt kid none of this would have happend the longer I live the more im convinced paternity should be automatic

[@shxv7rs]

its always gotta be the mother in law💀

[@immediateprofessionals]

fr😂

[@janapavlikova4553]

Idk what about you but in country that I live in one of the most popular kind of jokes are ones about mothers in law being pain in the ass

[@Nemesis_16]

​@@janapavlikova4553 no idea where you live but in my country it's the same

[@ahmadradwan5423]

​@@Nemesis_16 maybe the same country

[@LailieMaxineDelaCruz]

Fr or if its not the mother in law its the sister

[@joshuawade2608]

The ex really thought she would just take him back after all that what a idiot

[@Snortingboreing]

He is in the wrong but she did not need to laugh

[@Svicei]

​@@Snortingboreing She probably heard how drunk he was

[@angelintodemonseed]

⁠@@SnortingboreingHe lived/sided with her poisonous attacker. Laughter at the idea of reconciliation is minuscule in comparison.

[@yaoilover0]

“Mom put thoughts into my head” no accountability having ass 😒

[@yaoilover0]

@@Snortingboreinghe definitely deserves to be laughed

[@BELUD1007]

"Nobody was hurt" Meanwhile OP with 6 stitches in the head.

[@kesihkesih]

And the mother in law sprained her neck and lost 2 fingers

[@miaironstone6783]

​@@kesihkesih she didn't lose her fingers, the bones were fractured, and it only happened because she attacked a pregnant woman (also attempted tp kick her belly and just wasn't able to before being pushed)

[@caroleharrison8884]

Four days in the hospital too!

[@BELUD1007]

@@kesihkesih She didnt lost no 2 fingers, she broke them and doesnt change the fact that the mother was wrong.

[@lisa-johnson5397]

​@kesihkesih are you one of those people who fall down in front of someone and then scream assault and rape and every other bad thing possible just so you can get attention and ruin a person's life? Cause that's what your comment indicates your personality may be like.

[@Tytrell08]

Clicked on the video, read the title, and I’m already pissed off and confused.

[@_0-0-]

Same

[@I_LOVE_OLIVIA_RODRIGO-_-]

fr

[@Jacksonplayz1556]

Most certainly pissed

[@karldavidson2705]

womp womp

[@LTN-is-my-comfort-YT._.]

Oh you're in for a ride my guy...

[@millycoreal]

ex husband was definitely in the wrong, no explanation needed

[@Waffles286]

No give me an explanation I know he was in the wrong but give your reasoning

[@Stella-hi9be]

​@@Waffles286 The video is the perfect explanation

[@voidconcept1269]

@@Waffles286just watch the video?

[@bananagodofbacon]

@@Waffles286huh

[@kabirminecraft9617]

Manipulation. It's just that he can't stand his ground. Eventually we give in.

[@Aries_TheBull]

Why does the mother not know that it’s a 50/50 chance of what gender it’s gonna be

[@NixTheTrix127]

Technically it isn't 50/50, it depends on certain things, as well as statistics that show if you have one baby, the next is more likely to be the same gender. The mother in law wasn't only crazy, but blaming the wrong person.

[@HamdanullahHussain]

There should be a .000000000000001% chance for like a dragon or something tbh

[@teamblack204]

​@@NixTheTrix127 Exactly. The chromosomes that makes the gender of the baby come from the father💀

[@zelim9514]

Tbh, I bet the MIL is the one that cheated and is scared that the fact her son had 2 daughters means the baby is not her husband's after all and that the rest of the family will figure it out. She is paranoid of the family finding out SHE cheated, so she digged at her DIL to divert that possibility, even thought it makes absolutely no sense.

[@mpollono]

@@HamdanullahHussain we gotta find the first dragon

[@jimmysanchez2720]

I love the ending. All that pain and misery just to get the last laugh at the end. I can see this being a movie

[@christophercombs7561]

Really the story is dumb and could have all been put to bed by testing the first daughter

[@GamergirlA705]

@@christophercombs7561 yeah but it’s still wrong that the mother called them names and yelled and slaped her lol

[@christophercombs7561]

@@GamergirlA705 oh definitely that mother is put pf line but the fact remains all the issues would have been settled with a paternity test

[@yutorebellion5993]

That's what you get for letting your mom put words in your head doubting your wife

[@generallyuseless5821]

The husband's side really shows how much OP's will try and make themselves a victim and minimize their wrongs for validation of their perspective. He completely left out that the fight was a one-sided physical assault. Then completely left out his attempts to make their daughter hate her mother. And tried to manipulate her by saying he'll make her a single mother with no support for his childeren. He really deserves to be laughed at if he feels like the victim after all of that.

[@teresamcmurrin8672]

Exactly. He said "We welcomed our second daughter into the world". Wrong. The wife welcomed the daughter, he just demanded a paternity test while the child was in the very process of being born. That's not "welcoming" by any stretch of the imagination.

[@TheRabidWolverine]

And then had the nerve to call her wanting his 'old' family back🤦🤦🤦

[@FallingEggo]

2:48 “no one was hurt” She got SIX STICHES IN HER HEAD WHILE PREGNANT you call that no injury????

[@GreenleeA]

That’s what I thought 😢

[@that-weird-truamatised-kid]

My exact response to the husband's side: *Laughter* "Deserved." Edit: 997 likes is a bit much guys 😭

[@robsteele2338]

I muttered the exact same thing to myself.

[@that-weird-truamatised-kid]

@@robsteele2338 literally

[@Snortingboreing]

Ok husband is in the wrong but use this as an example if you mom said all kids have black hair and then you have a kid with brown hair whoud you been a little suspicious

[@mariyamkhan4761]

@@Snortingboreing bro you can't control the gender of someone can you? it doesn't make sense what you're saying....

[@joshuepico75]

@@Snortingboreingwhat if she’s brunette or her ancestry has brown hair? Lmao such a dumb reasoning

[@katkit3402]

100 years isn’t that long there’s people that lived to that age that’s like two generations, maybe three why on earth would this family think that they’re incapable of having girls 🤣🤣🤣

[@lindah3803]

Evidently none of them took a biology class.

[@christophercombs7561]

It's really closer to 4

[@Grace-it3sl]

​@@christophercombs7561true, but still

[@christophercombs7561]

@Grace-it3sl you would be surprised by the weird stuff people get hung up on

[@TheRabidWolverine]

Exactly 💯! What's wrong with having a girl for Pete's sake? The important thing is that the baby arrived healthy & the mother is alright.

[@akiralyrics9590]

Does MIL not know how sperm works? The X or Y chromosome is in the sperm. The other X is always in the ovum. So why would that prove that he's not the father? Smh

[@hmonglee9638]

This is how a MIL ruins her son's marriage. OP, you dodge a bullet! That man will never have a good relationship.

[@christophercombs7561]

And all the stress and drama could have been IMMEDIATELY put permanently to bed with a single paternity test lol

[@myUwUzi]

The husband tried to justify his actions but can't understand why his wife doesn’t love him. He minimized his mother's mistreatment of her, falsely accused her of cheating, and now expects her to treat him well despite being a terrible husband while being in the relationship. Yes, laughing at him over the phone is rude, but I don’t blame her; he treated her pretty badly. she didn’t feel happy with him because of his actions, which is understandable. I wish the best for the ex-wife and hope the ex-husband learns from his mistakes.

[@christophercombs7561]

And any and all of these issue would have been easily put to bed by getting a paternity test on the first daughter turns out ex wife is a fragile ego maniac scumbag 1 simple test to put EVERYTHING to bed permanently but no her feelings trump everything Ps MIL is a crazy person

[@teresamcmurrin8672]

Don't forget the bullshit he pulled while she was in the very act of giving birth to HIS child. No wonder she can't look at him in the same way. Once respect and trust are destroyed (and the jerk well and truly did that), it's almost impossible to regain. He did it to himself, I have no pity for him. I hope he and his mother are very happy together.

[@christophercombs7561]

@teresamcmurrin8672 he let his mom get in his head, and the wife was looking for a way out she got into a different relationship and got knocked up in less than a year she was never the one

[@QuirkySandwich]

@@christophercombs7561really? Just really? So if you got assaulted by your mil (while 8 months pregnant) to the point you need stitches, then your husband takes her side, that’s not a deal breaker?

[@baobaozzz]

​@@christophercombs7561dawg the ex husbands mother almost killed their second daughter and she got 6 stitches tf😭 and she got knocked up when engaged with a long time friend what r you on about

[@nehak852]

How conveniently did he skip the part where his mother assaulted his wife? By the way, the full version is even more infuriating. The older daughter would put herself in timeout whenever her father was angry with her. Before this incident, they had a great bond; she was Daddy's little princess.

[@Stella-hi9be]

The father is disgusting

[@nehak852]

@@Stella-hi9be MIL kicks her pregnant belly multiple times that's missed in this version.

[@Traci2000]

That is heartbreakingly sad

[@stargazerkawaii]

You don't cry about a paternity test if you believe you're the father already.

[@MikeShutup]

I was so convinced he was a good guy for three minutes

[@Traci2000]

Me too. I think that makes the betrayal hit even harder

[@Mapel_on_pawz]

That’s one bad husband but one good sister

[@Rasheens-Story]

The mom never liked you. She just wanted to get rid of you. That’s why she created problems in your relationship. Now she’s happy that she won because she got rid of you successfully. good on you for leaving him. He’s a boy not a man and he tolerates his mother bad behavior and disrespect, and he expect you to tolerate as well. Why should you have to deal with her violent behavior? That’s unacceptable. He’s foolish for letting his own mother ruin his marriage. This is what happens when you’re a manchild and you refuse to cut the umbilical cord. Tell him to go marry his mom now since that’s who he chose over you. He needs to tell his new girlfriend how he feels, and don’t waste her time, because he’s obviously still getting over his ex-wife, and he’s using her as a rebound.

[@kenizegarlin7410]

2:51 'nOoNe WAs HuRT' ma'am a pregnant woman got six stitches.

[@Tatertot-fi2rz]

“She laughed and hung up on me” AS SHE SHOULD U GO GURLLL!!!!

[@mangalovergirl20]

❤️💗💕🥰😍😻🫶🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@TyraToaster]

I was walking home and listening to this and at the end I went “HAHA L! DESERVED!”

[@alinachafin3817]

I did the same thing😂😂😂

[@violet-Bella]

2:51 nahhh "no one was hurt" sir that lady has 6 stitches rn

[@akiralyrics9590]

Yeah! And even the MIL got hurt 😅

[@ZeroWantsFood.]

Fr. AND SHE WAS PREGNANT.

[@R0YALM0ON]

I was so shocked there was a ex husband perspective dawg I’ve never seen that happen before

[@etheriousjackal5577]

The husband is a real POS for siding with her mom like that. It's incredibly sad that he took her side but ultimately, I'm very happy for the wife in the long run because it happened relatively early on. Also, the fact that this guy has the balls to think his wife cheated on him. Yet secretly wants to get back with her while he's already in a different relationship is beyond ironic.

[@Holasoyfelipesochao]

you should mention that u linked the two stories together, it was a great detail and it didnt even matter that those were reused stories.

[@roxcyn]

That makes sense. I've never seen such a thing though.

[@brianna7367]

Anyone else notice how the ex-husband’s perspective at the end doesn’t mention how his mother physically hurt his then wife and just called it a “nasty fight” or how he asked about a paternity test while his then wife was in labor.

[@StrawberryMilk72]

Saying “she was trying to hurt you, not the baby” as an excuse is absolutely disgusting

[@claytonthomas1980]

The ex husband got what he deserves and he has his own mother to thank for that reality, plus his own mom should be proud of herself for denying both her son and herself the right to be good father and grandma to those two girls, hope you are proud of yourself for your actions because you have allowed those two girls to be out of your life and that of your son, [sarcastically speaking] bravo mother,bravo indeed.

[@etheriousjackal5577]

I can understand how the husband might be hesitant about completely severing relationship with his own mom but to leave behind your pregnant wife with a two year old and constantly make jabs at her as she's about to give birth is just incredibly nasty. Happy that the wife found someone else.

[@stephanbutler7988]

I’m so glad she was strong enough to divorce him.

[@MiraMae517]

"She laughed and hung up on me." AS👏SHE👏SHOULD👏

[@Lyricgrr]

i like how the husband's side of the story mentioned nothing about the assault.

[@laibamasnoon4548]

Ikr!!, like i was waiting for him to mention that

[@Quthology]

4:36 bullshit. It’s not like you’re the one who pushed her. It’s him, if anything he should be awful about his own actions.

[@miaironstone6783]

I think that's part of why he acted the way he did, strange misplaced guilt and being shaded by his mother's manipulation

[@Odette0xxq]

The way once the husbands perspective came on I said “I do not want to hear that” and skipped it. 😭✋

[@olinerinander109]

You should listen to it. The ends the best part👌😁

[@luccianaalvarez3388]

It’s really sad to see how we all thought the dad was on OP side and sided with his mom and asked for the paternity test while she was giving birth. He defended her and we had hope for him but he ruined it after siding with his mom as well as the relationship with his wife and kids

[@GhostieToasterStrudel]

Depending when this took place the husband clearly doesn’t know how the netflix household works.

[@kamiyatomomi1475]

4:18 "She wasn't trying to hurt the baby, just me." As if saying relying on OP's health is an option.

[@richardlee653]

Good point. Also, it would be difficult (I believe impossible) to badly hurt a heavily pregnant woman without risking harm to the baby that she is carrying.

[@rapidrowlet45]

“No one was hurt” OP had to get 6 stitches and could’ve lost her baby. People DID get hurt!

[@akiralyrics9590]

6:41 That's not because of the hormones. What would be HIS excuse, then? Just divorce and try to get full custody of your daughters.

[@Kueenenchantment]

I feel bad for the father and mother of the kids. Family member sticking their nose in your family business is always a problem

[@melonioilar8569]

Especially when the father is in on the pain and emotional abuse…right???

[@akiralyrics9590]

2:46 "No one was hurt"?? Is he dumb or what?

[@hearts4pinkie_]

the way the ex husband switched up was crazy

[@Unknown_unidentified]

5:16 and that is when you know you should have the doctor kick him out and call a divorce lawyer and get a restraining order on him too just to be safe

[@illu5io]

My father had a sister, a very rare thing in my family but no one ever questioned who was the father because they werent crazy

[@lylahamer8831]

The fact that husband like added his part at the end 💀💀💀

[@GhostieToasterStrudel]

The mother in law complaining about not getting to meet/see her grandchildren: Womp womp. Shouldn’t of caused her of cheating, if they’re that adamant about getting a paternity test then you’re clearly wrong about them cheating. 😂 If you have any common sense you’d know they wouldn’t really wanna do the test if they cheated incase the slim chance they’re not yours.

[@gh0stlyars0n1st]

The way his perspective is like asking for pity but hers is just a genuine vent proves something

[@Forest.wolf.therian]

"She laughed and hung up on me" As she should. Bro you really fck up in that marrige

[@roserocks1979]

Well he still has his mommy.

[@chrisbotsimmons6595]

I’m not sure if you’re trying to be mean but the mom was manipulating him

[@roserocks1979]

@@chrisbotsimmons6595 and he let her

[@iami5124]

​@@chrisbotsimmons6595yeah, I understand he probably felt guilty about the moms injuries, but the wife had already agreed to get the paternity test, which should be enough to not let his mom get into his head and he ignored the fact she tried to cause his wife a miscarriage

[@Thetaxevader_54]

@@iami5124 I mean it’s your mother, someone who raised you for your whole life.

[@miaironstone6783]

​@@Thetaxevader_54he's an adult, not a little baby who can't think for himself. If your mother did the things his mother did it's his JOB to figure shit out and not let her push him around, he failed, failed to protect his wife and kids and lost them as a result. End of story

[@marieduran6286]

DNA would settle this.

[@SoVeryCrafty]

I love how “sprained her neck” was in quotation marks because she was probably faking it.

[@GuidingLightDogs]

The best ending ever!!!!!! 😂 serves him right! As soon as he went to stay with his mom I was shouting at my phone for her to divorce him. So glad she’s happy now!!

[@swagsloth4037]

Wtf why did op marry him, let alone let him reproduce twice!?! He should be divorced if he’s handling the situation like that

[@sailorstar3148]

She did divorce him

[@aliciamcclure2719]

He has nobody else to blame but his self. You let the doubt of your child not being yours get inside your head and your actions resulted in divorce. Now you want your family back don’t work like that, dude. You had your chance now she’s happy with somebody. The only thing you can do now is be there for your daughters.

[@heather3316]

I love stories with happy endings 😊

[@Waffles286]

Wydm that was a bad ending

[@heather3316]

@@Waffles286 for him bit not for her, I’m on her side😊

[@Waffles286]

Honestly there both in the wrong

[@tatsussakreuger4156]

​@@Waffles286 No she isn't.

[@Waffles286]

Yes there are both in the wrong

[@Cath-Dad]

To the OP: I'm sorry your ex and his family suck so much. To the ex-husband: play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

[@quidae]

Can we talk about how for the longest time they were just showing a girl walking with her feet out

[@PastelArchyr]

Cant help but notice how the husband doesnt mention how his mum attacked his wife in his pov

[@DoudouB.]

"She SHLAPS me across my face 😂😂😂

[@Ghidora900]

I love my mother I’d do anything for her but, if she would do such thing to the love of my life I wouldn’t even think of her as my mother

[@user-jk3lc4wn3e]

I still can’t get over the fact he asked about a paternity test while his wife was in birth I mean that is a happy moment now ruined all because you couldn’t keep your big mouth shut and had to go embarrass your wife in that situation where she was in pain and trying her best to give birth to a healthy bqby

[@SamuelDaPro808]

Ah yes, getting mad at someone for listening to their parents, classic.

[@Ur-average-content-creator]

“There was a lot of laughter and then she hung up on me” As she should

[@seelooflikescheese]

"Thankfully she is old" the disrespect goes crazy but I support it

[@idk-idc--138]

"no one was hurt" *the wife with six stitches in her head*

[@Steve19906]

The ending is great 😂

[@Tatertot-fi2rz]

HAHA TOO FRICKING BAD FOR HIM that family was absolutely horrible and for the husband to side with them was just as awful

[@HelloooImMiki]

Honestly, I love how there's a huge difference between both of their perspectives. The wife explains every amount and inch about the smallest detail, making her side of the story more believable, and people agree more with her and take her side, meanwhile, the husband is like: 'oH i wAs A bAd fAtHeR' Like shut up, nobody cares. He doesn't even explain anything and explains only the parts he thinks he is right at, meanwhile, the wife explains everything that happened, I love how he was acting like he was the victim meanwhile that poor woman has gone through a LOT and reminding you, she was pregnant and had LITERALLY a child at the time.

[@djfrogster2950]

We get to hear both sides this is awesome

[@roko7514]

AS SHE SHOULD ‼️✨

[@alexandrajay2001]

the husband describing such a violent one-sided attack as "a nasty fight" tells you everything you need to know. still excusing and downplaying his mother's actions.

[@Rose-bm2hc]

“Play house with my family” Bro no💀

[@hicat808]

Why would she want to see her grandkid if it "wasn't hers"? 🙄

[@bernadetteglikin24]

I like that in the husbands post he didn’t even mention that his mom attacked her. Wild.

[@Black_golem]

The husband’s an asshole and he doesn’t deserve a second chance, and I am so happy the wife moved on

[@amandaduberry2216]

“She laughed and hung up on me”. Well, yeah 😂😂😂. What did he think she was going to do? He accused her of cheating after switching it up and siding with his mom, asked for a paternity test WHILE WHE WAS GIVING BIRTH ☠️, made effed up comments around his kids, and called her while she was engaged to someone else and said he wanted another chance. And you mean to tell me she didn’t immediately run into his arms? Lmaooooooo.

[@Fidrina]

Finished the whole video, and im still pissed af at what the poor woman had to go through

[@BeatrizOliveira-wt6mu]

Not the husband leaving the part where his mother literally TRIED TO KILL his ex. Not him leaving every shit he did and let his family do. He deserves nothing. And his kids deserve better

[@risuwolf]

Ooh, I wasn't expecting to hear the other perspective

[@arielhollis7385]

Husband couldn’t stand up to his mom and believe his wife, now he’s lost everything he’s loved and it all could’ve been avoided if he stood by her side

[@TheRat_Yui]

It’s crazy how people are like that

[@roxcyn]

My family has a similar thing, there's only been in five girls when you go back through the generations. But if I had a mom do what that lady did, wow. No wonder the wife got divorced.

[@JayceMorals]

Keep up the good work ❤❤❤

[@Ewerecat]

Crazy how the exhusband was so quick to get a new gf which goes to show that he didn’t feel bad at all

[@1.Elliott.Draws.1]

"I feel like some guy is playing house with my family" I feel like some guy sided with the woman who seemed to be trying to kill his wife and/or daughter

[@seanchocko7122]

FIL :drop the charges no one was injured Her: Getting six stitches. 😂

[@TikTakTales99]

i love this story

[@rockgirl6786]

I hope the little girls were ok too. Children never deserve to be caught in the middle of family problems. Especially so young. I hope there was someone there to lift them into their arms and tell them it'd be ok

[@lollollolool3330]

You need a divorce

[@2_Much_EditZ]

As a part of the International Men’s Council, we have determined we will disown this disgrace.

[@hfrisch007]

Hey Dad you FUCKED UP! DEAL WITH IT NOW!

[@alyshasocie6120]

Clearly a momma’s boy and she can’t let go

[@dragoniccrab]

Only credit i can give the man is at least he realizes just how much he fucked up