Funeral mishaps - smells and worse

In this video, Tracy answers a question about some of the unfortunate things that can go wrong at a funeral - smells, leakage, and even worse.
We are sure there are many, many instances of mishaps at funerals, but thankfully, with some proper preparation and correct procedures followed, most can be avoided.
Don't forget to send us your questions,
Til next time,
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T&T x
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[@jaderingtontea]

I remember when my grandma passed 4 year ago a similar thing happened with her, and it looked as though she was crying. It was pretty freaky, it reinforced my desire to just be put in a box and cremated, no coffin just an old cardboard box, no funeral no nothing! I want my family to spend that money in life not for me in death! X

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi lovely, we say the same. Don't spend any money on us when we die going have a party and celebrate life 🥰❤️❤️

[@kmo3811]

I totally agree. My money is for my kids not a box in the ground. I told them when the time comes, I will be kissed by fire instead with no funeral.

[@sondradarlington1558]

I told my family to donate my body...no funeral. Body will be cremated once it is used for what ever purpose it will be used for. I would rather the money be used for my family.

[@byard-ek3pq]

I'm so sorry. Here's a hug, an a prayer. 5:19 🌹 🫂 😔

[@byard-ek3pq]

I'm so sorry. Here's a hug 🫂an a prayer 🙏

[@susansharp985]

Interesting! Seeing a loved one "cry" would freak anyone out!!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Me too lovely ❤️❤️

[@mandabailey3507]

It's lovely you give them a little check list.. its not control freak..its caring.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Its important that these things are done correctly xx

[@cindyhoomalu1566]

That last story was what I was thinking when I clicked this video. How did I not think that things could actually go wrong with the bodies?! I haven’t been to a funeral in many years, but I have never seen any type of problems like that. Big props to the morticians like you that work so hard to make everything look perfect!!! 💜

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you Cindy 🙂 🥰❤️❤️

[@ellenherstead586]

This finally answers the question as to why my husband looked like he cried a tear of blood. Of course my daughter was mortified!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

So sorry to hear you have lost your husband 😔 ❤️❤️

[@marshadewey7432]

At a co-workers family funeral, the straps broke and the casket fell bottom first and landed upside down. They pulled the casket out and it was damaged badly. They loaded it back in the hearse and took it back to the mortuary. It was a young man who passed. His brothers went with the casket to see the damages. His head was badly damaged. They took video but told their mom that he was fine with no damage. They did not want her to know. 😑

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Ooh my goodness how awful for everyone. That's a worst nightmare come true for the cemetery staff the straps breaking 😔 Probably best mom never knew. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️

[@lindageldmyer1844]

A very caring person, not a control freak! You are so kind and considerate. ❤

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

You are so kind, thank you 🤗❤️❤️

[@bamabelle7847]

I wanted to tell you ladies that i really appreciate you. I find death fascinating but it is also a subject that is not talked about. Thank you for explaining the process in a tasteful manner.❤️

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you so much for your kind words 💕🥰🥰

[@stacey8501]

When I was in high school a classmate was shot and killed. I had never seen a dead body before attending her open casket funeral. I will never forget how she looked in that casket. It looked like her face was caked with powder blue makeup. Then her lips were bright coral which was completely grotesque in comparison to the blue skin. Her funeral was 1 week following her death and I have always wondered why they did such a poor job of presenting her. This was in the 80's, and I have not looked at an open casket since. Maybe Tracy has some insight into what was going on?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi Stacey, sorry to hear this 😔 how very tragic about you friend. I am not to sure and the 80&s had a lot of blue makeup but I don't think it was that. I think if she was embalmed it could be a strong chemical this make the face go a grey/blueish colour and just have powder will not mask that colour, so it could be that. If she was not embalmed than I think she was breaking down and the face can get a blue tone to it when going through the difference stages of decomposition again the makeup was obviously not the correct colour to tone this colour out. Or it could be the mortician was not skilled enough and put the completely wrong makeup on her. Sorry I can not give you a more definitive answer but hopefully that may help 🤗❤️❤️

[@brendabrown5093]

With that they person put makeup on her didn't have skills at all 😕😕😕😕

[@melisakelly2184]

My mom was orange 🍊

[@melisakelly2184]

My step daughters mother passed away they cut her hair so short and the cotton in the cranium was sticking out through the stitching the kids seen it and you could still she the blood pooling from the side she passed away on her face had it too

[@cookiescott9329]

My daughters friend died at 13.....they had an open casket....his face was anorange colour, his lips and hands.....it was awful....

[@LesleyYoung-yh6uu]

Tue funeral directors where brilliant with my baby boy who passed 3 years ago he was 10 days old when passed tiny nicu baby had down syndrome directors looked after him perfectly he looked beautiful so i have every appreciation for what you do and i think you two ladies together are brill thanks ladies

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

So very sorry for your loss 😔 Sending hugs ❤️❤️

[@JillyBean1968]

You are NOT a control freak, you are compassionate and you care for the families as well. 🙏🏼🖤🙏🏼

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

I appreciate that 🙏 thank you so much 🥰❤️❤️

[@nekodragon1249]

​@@Areyoudyingtoknow I agree with the post it shows you care a great deal. ❤

[@CatCmdr]

Trying to catch up. When my Mother died (we took her home & cared for her there, my sister and I), she was cremated per her wishes. She already had her plot in Arlington next to my Dad, so the funeral Director was to mail her ashes back East to one of her sisters. They didn’t arrive & didn’t arrive, so my Aunt went looking for what happened. At the Post Office, her ashes were finally found…….in the Dead Letter Office!! 😂

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh you put a smile on our faces, glad you seen the funny side and glad she was found 🤗❤️❤️

[@kimfritz7103]

Funny story... My great uncle was a rich man but very frugal. He passed, unfortunately, and was taken to a "discounted" funeral home. The hearse ran out of gas on the way to the cemetery! Lol! What a hoot that was when 50+ cars had to pull over while a deputy went for more gas!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oops 😬 thank you for sharing ❤️❤️

[@lisapinfold506]

Can inagine him looking down and chuckling😊

[@francisjohnson665]

The funeral home owners from my county and 4 adjoining counties have a wonderful book about fun stuff from the funeral home . Everything from fights during making arrangements to being drunk at the funeral and all between. The stories are hilarious .😂😂😂😂

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Sounds like a great read ❤️❤️

[@garysinclairbarsby6675]

The first deceased i saw was my Granda, i can only say after being quite ill for approx. 17 years. It was a relief to see him looking peaceful and pain free. Still miss him today after about 33 years. God Bless. 😢😢

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Yes we always miss them, your so right it never leaves us the loss of our loved ones ❤️❤️

[@lindagallaway-moore4158]

I am amazed at how many small details are so important. I really appreciate the time you both put into this journey of knowledge and strength! BTW. My handicapped son kept touching different parts of his grandfather's body during the viewing. Of course some family members were jot amused until the funeral director asked him what was wrong. My son pointed out that his watch was on the wrong wrist, his dentures were missing because of his 'wrong' smile and a couple of other small things. The FD answered a million questions for him and then asked if he (FD) could keep my son. Have a lovely day! 😊

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Awww we loved this story so much we have mentioned it in one of our videos coming up soon. Attention to detail is so very important, thank you for sharing and sending love to you and your son ❤️❤️

[@lindagallaway-moore4158]

Your are most welcome. He was eleven at the time.

[@sallyclay1974]

everyone in my family, I'm from a small, family, gets cremated. We dont do caskets, or viewings. We sprinkle the ashes, or have urns

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you for sharing Sally ❤️❤️

[@niknax5159]

I don’t think it’s being a control freak-it’s more being a perfectionist and in this particular profession, I personally don’t see anything wrong with this. Everything needs to be perfect as humanely possible and I think you do an amazing job of achieving this for grieving families to be able to say goodbye and hopefully begin to heal x

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Awww 🥰 thank you you are always so beautiful kind ❤️❤️

[@paulinepickering8151]

Enjoyed listening to this Have a great weekend its here again so quickly ❤

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you! You too! Yes the week comes around so fast 🤗❤️❤️

[@Susan.Burns63]

👍 this is such a brilliant channel ❤ you make this stuff easier to listen to 🥰, as I'm getting older this is all becoming an educational video 😅💐🇦🇺

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Glad you enjoy it! We are all getting older. We just have to enjoy every moment we can. Take good care Susan 🥰❤️❤️

[@nora768]

I was at a funeral where the corpse expelled gas and people not knowing what to do, laughed. How often does that happen? Your story at the end was great. At my grandmother's graveside, my younger brother ahead of me tripped on the boards and went down, I followed down to my knees and my godfather was pulling with all his might so the coffin didn't go in sideways. Wouldn't you know it, we all got the giggles which lasted for the remainder of the graveside service. in the end, we all went golfing and lost the giggles.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Aww thank you for sharing your story, think it good to have some light hearted laughter in time like these. Thank you for sharing take good care ❤️❤️

[@JasonJames72]

Fascinating as always. Luv ya vids 😊

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you so much 🙏 hope you are doing ok 🤗❤️❤️

[@bellfordmarshall1289]

My sister died of pancreatic cancer. The funeral director was a member of our church and knew her in life. She participated in making her final arrangements, but she told us, if she didn’t look right she wanted her casket closed. The funeral director worked out of a funeral home, but for some reason didn’t offer previewing the body. Anyway, 30 minutes before the visitation my brother and i arrived for an early viewing. He sent me to look cause he didn’t want to see her if she wasn’t right. When i went to view, i was stuck. It didn’t look like her. I kept trying to find her …but i couldn’t. Her complexion was too dark, her face….i just didn’t see her. Only the hands were hers. So I’m immobile at the casket…my brother was calling my name to get me to make a decision, people were arriving, but I’m trying to find that feature that was hers. Finally, i said to close it. I learned a valuable lesson that day….always re-view as it may be possible for adjustments.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh no so very sorry to hear you and your family went through that, we both send our deepest condolences too 🌹🌹 Thank you for sharing your story please take good care ❤️❤️

[@ljtlove4519]

I am so glad that the last family found humor and was not mortified. Seriously, I LOL at that! I enjoy your talks a lot, and I recommend anyone who is not used to Australian accents to use the 'closed captions'. It does help a lot.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you so much! Oh yes some people do tell us to talk slower 😬💚💚

[@ljtlove4519]

@@Areyoudyingtoknow Oh yes, but mostly the accent and local words and names you have for stuff. Even the closed captions gets confused! Hahaha!

[@kathycuster1714]

I have an Aussie brother so I understand everything you said!

[@nataliemoulding234]

very interesting topic about furneal mishaps ladies

[@mfranck1]

Horrifying and very interesting. I didn’t know hardly any of this. Thank you.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

You're very welcome, Thank you for watching 🤗❤️❤️

[@Chieftracyhorse]

Informative as always ladies.❤

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you! 🤗 🥰❤️❤️

[@RichardThorburn]

It does not matter how you passaway. People will try to do best for you but decomp will get you. Thanks ladies yet again from me and summer .Aberdeen.scotland.xx❤❤❤❤

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you Richard & Summer 🥰🥰❤️❤️

[@Colin_Richard]

Tracy’s colleague falling into the grave reminded me of the old ‘Mother & Son’ episode (Ruth Cracknell and Garry McDonald), when they stop on the way to a funeral because Maggie wants to buy oranges on the roadside. She has them at the funeral and, of course, one by one they all fall into the grave (I think she leans over with the bag of oranges in her hands, and they all start falling out). 😂 Great video, again. Before Trish and then Tracy even said it, I was thinking the same thing - death isn’t generally very pretty, and you can only do the best to get the deceased through until burial or cremation (and then decomposition and disintegration occur). I get why people want to see their loved ones at “their best” - partly because they don’t want to let go - and it’s great that your videos tell the honest truth about what can be expected, and that it’s not always possible for the deceased to look all glam. My dad looked withered in his coffin, but that was what the last few months of his life did to him. My mum looked peaceful, but hers was a sudden death. I didn’t have any issue with how they looked (I understood it), I just wish they hadn’t died - the sense of loss was the hard part. Anyway, thanks again for the videos! ❤️

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Yes that's always the hard part the loss of our parents 😔 you just think you will have them around forever. We feel your pain, sending hugs ❤️❤️

[@bonniehortman8203]

You two ladies are amazing. I always learn something new from you. Thanks!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you so much! xxx

[@nancypetkovic6999]

Ladies...haven't been on your channel for a while..I've missed you both! Nan from Vegas..I wear your tee shirt faithfully..Madame Mortician..boy do I get the looks!! Love your info as usual!!!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Welcome back! That's so cool you are still wearing the t-shirt, we love that you get some inquisitive looks 😉 take good care 🥰🥰

[@lisawhite3648]

I really Respect what you do!Love from🇱🇷

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you so much Lisa 🤗 sending hugs back to the USA 🤗❤️❤️

[@shonaphilp9321]

My Dad was drooling when I saw him. I got my T-shirt today - well chuffed! 😊

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Woohoo send us a pic!!!

[@shonaphilp9321]

@@Areyoudyingtoknow - will do …. When I can figure out how? Email maybe?

[@tracymcgrath1192]

Taking you gals on a dog walk with my beagle Joey! Spring chill in the air but at least the friggin sun is finally out 😂❤ This I can’t wait to hear as I somehow got reading up on body brokers in the US and absolute horror stories of very scary and immoral people that mistreat the deceased. I’m sick ! I am near Harvard and am pulling my donation after that sick arse was a necro and the others were selling parts that were diseased and then donated for knees etc ., People like you Tracy are rare. I’m 50 now and have met many funeral directors. I have lived😂😢 (50😮) The embalmers I know are quiet folks so I can only speak to seeing their work. I live behind a funeral home with the first catholic cemetary , and chapel with family from ireland, the uk, and even pilgrims. I’m an avid ancestry DNA person so I poke around up there. Well! About two years ago , twelve bodies were in their garage. Families didn’t pay for cremation so they’re held hostage for a year. Refrigerator yes but the press that descended on my street! I will not use them for dad. Home funeral then ashes into Boston harbor. We can’t do the whole body. That’s my story 😂 xx☘️

[@londonkyguy]

Good day beautiful ladies. I have my own opinion about the decomp bodies. I think the families should take the funeral homes advice and not view the body when it is in too bad of a shape. Morticians arent magicians. On that note have a wonderful weekend.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you George you too have a great weekend 🤗❤️❤️ Yes it can be so traumatic viewing 😢

[@Greeley.d]

Back about 50 years ago, I worked briefly as an orderly, now a nursing assistant, and I was in the room when this old man passed. I was asked to wash the body and get him ready for the funeral director. I could not sleep that night as this was my first experience with a dead body. Fast forward about 40 years, I worked part time with funeral home. It was my job to pick up the deceased and deliver them to funeral home.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Wow long career 🙏❤️❤️

[@sonia15702]

How can i be assured that its really my loved one in the casket if we dont do viewings ( trumatic deaths, and due to kids) we just have a beautiful service and wave goodbye at the home, we dont want to recall our loved ones at rhe cemetery etc or with our kids ! My sisters kids all wrote notes on gum leaves and we placed these on a coffin. Mum dad and family took turns placing them on the coffin in the basket to say goodbye 😢 it was beautiful, pure, and amazing. Sonia, Australia 🦘

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi Sonia, so very sorry for your loss 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 It will always be your loved ones in the coffin, funeral homed have no reason to put others in someone else's coffin. You need to trust the people caring for your family and friends after death. Funeral homes have a rigorous process in place were the body has ID on them throughout the care given, from picking up at hospital, nursing home, residents and corner. Also another process the day of the funeral service several staff members do checks before leaving the building. Hope that helps, take good care ❤️❤️

[@rosmarybourque2294]

Good info. Thanks

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Your welcome 🤗❤️❤️

[@tonyjake3936]

I have a friend whose uncle who was a priest fall out of his casket. The metal pedestal the casket was placed on collapsed and the casket fell off it and opened. The funeral parlor staff quickly fixed everything. She said all she could do was laugh.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

😁 sorry it's not funny but did me us smile a little. I mean what can you do was not on purpose that poor funeral home and family. Thanks for sharing ❤️

[@elizabethlewis3509]

I would think some type of clear plastic sealed cover would be advisable for a home viewing. Especially when the deceased is not embalmed and viewed at home.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

That would be a worthwhile invention. The family oten want to hold and touch so it would need to be easily removed too. 💙

[@RedheadTales]

Hello there I heard this story from a funeral director driving his hearse with a casket of the deceased when he got into a car accident and the hearse rolled over 3 times. The deceased in the casket was intact and the driver suffered minor injuries and what saved them both was how well the vehicle was built. The deceased was placed in another vehicle and proceeded to the cemetery....

[@joannedonaldson5818]

Hi ladies my first funeral i when too was a disaster, i was 18 and friend was 17 it was a very hot day 42 in perth at the time, and then the electric when off, his mother wouldnt close the coffin, as time when by my friend started to bloat stomach mainly i felt he wasnt embalmed for this to happen in the end the director closed the coffin it was pretty bad to see pretty much cremated straight away as we left the building a funeral taken place and as they were carrying the coffin to the grave site the bottom of the coffin broke and then the body landed on the ground this ended up on evening news. Never when a funeral again until my grandma passed

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh dear!!! Very unfortunate set if circumstances there 😢

[@cyndyfisher]

😮 that’s horrible

[@luannm-crazycatlady6621]

Wow! That's awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you.

[@lanceschultz3820]

In NJ B B CD a to l

[@geedubb2005]

Reasons 48 & 49 why I’m going straight to the crematory. I don’t want to be a leaker and don’t want any cannulas poked in me. Thanks ladies.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Certainly your choice 😉 ❤️❤️

[@mikeforce5926]

Hi from Texas lovely ladies.Great info.All of my family are naturally funny so being at there funeral,we all knew something funny will eventually happen.Some had cops still looking for them.My cousin had Stairway to Heaven played at my aunts funeralThey had it playing on a reloop.The song is a long song and I think a lot the people including me no longer like it anymore.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

😂 how to spoil a great song 😉 Thank you for sharing hugs from us ❤️❤️

[@mikeforce5926]

They sure did.That was a great song.@@Areyoudyingtoknow

[@francisjohnson665]

Here I go again , my pastor , who weighs over 300 pounds , literally fell into the grave , underneath the casket , when greeting the widow immediately after the service . 😂😂😂😂😂 I laughed and laughed , it was hilarious. The funeral director had a hard time getting him out. It didn't hurt him . I was the only one laughing my ass off . I still laugh when I think about it .😂😂😂

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Francis think we would have a little giggle too 🤭 it certainly brings a little light heartness to a sad day 🥰

[@serenitynow288]

I don’t know how you could NOT laugh! I would’ve been rolling with tears in my eyes!!!😂😂😂😂😂

[@susanweiss1439]

Had that at one funeral, friends grandmother, passed from breast cancer. Right arm was swollen, with edema, she looked like she was 'sweating'. Felt awful for the embalmer. Family was not aware what i saw.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Yes it can be very difficult to clear up and stop oedema. ❤️

[@PastaMakerCordy-qy4uz]

Morticians do their very best. And sometimes perform miracles. But they can’t always do everything to help.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

True ❤️❤️

[@sondradarlington1558]

My mom passed in the summer in south Georgia USA. She was not found for 3 days, and her house was very warm...probably in the 90s inside. I was not allowed to see her at all. She was in a body bag and something was used used to cover the odour. Long story short, the funeral director did not even want us at the burial, as he feared gasses would build up in the casket and cause the casket to "burp". I told him I was ok with that. He said ok...but we saw them head to the cementary without us. We followed (just my husband and myself)and were there. No burping, whatsoever.

[@user-rq7mq1mk5s]

Hi Tracy. Hi Trish. I live in NY. (Closer to Canada than to NYC.) In the states the funeral directors/morticians do the prep work in house (mostly.) Is that different from Australia? Is trade embalming more common there?

[@GG-py9vp]

When my mum passed away in her early sixties she was very young looking. She didn’t have a grey hair in her head - naturally- and wore her hair in that wedge style that was popular then. She wore no makeup. I told the funeral director NO blue eye shadow and no back combing. What did we get - blue eye shadow and her hair back combed ridiculously. I wanted to cry.

[@Volundur9567]

When my uncle died, I could smell the embalming fluid. He had a lot of trauma, so I knew it wasn't possible to completely seal up the wounds. They put him back together as best as they could though.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

So very sorry for your loss 😔❤️❤️

[@GraveVisitations]

Interesting topic

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Thank you 🤗❤️❤️

[@holliecollier1523]

When my kids were small we did small scale farming, large garden, pigs, milk cow etc. When a great aunt died my three year old ask if we were going to butcher her and eat her! Long conversation when we got home.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh dear... 🫣

[@shapumawildcat2800]

Brilliant video again ladies my absolute fav duo,, Can i ask though, How do you cope if you have a newly deceased person in, which then lets out a breath, or makes gasp noises or worse moves etc, I think i would need a panic room., Thank you

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

😁 no panic room needed. Bodies don't move and the only time sounds may be heard but very very rear is when I move the body during washing and dressing this may dispel air. Take care lovely 😍 ❤️❤️

[@kathycuster1714]

I worked in nursing homes as a nurse..The CNAs would get the person cleaned up before the mortuary came to get them. Sometimes when you move someone, the last air comes.out of them. Could sound like a breath or a moan coming over the vocal cords. It usually startled the girls but after it happens once they know what to expect the next time.

[@iadorenewyork1]

@@Areyoudyingtoknow -- "Rare", not "rear".

[@michaelm5601]

What the worse thing that happened at a viewing? During the dinner break that happens between the afternoon and evening the family had leafy the funeral home to get some food.. Unfortunately a large pink glass globe broke and hot was ignited the pillow in the casket.. We were happy to catch it before things really progressed.. We I did our best to rectify the situation but did point this out to the family.. We were able to refresh the lining and restore the casket flower.. When you have mishaps. Nothing helps like the truth… probably 35+ years ago, just hard to forget…

[@rosmarybourque2294]

My beautiful aunt died in her 20s. Her casketbpresentation was exquisite. Pale pink lipstick and seamless facial colouring. Can be done.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

It certainly can, thank you for sharing ❤️❤️

[@melkey8317]

16 year old friend of the family died in a horrible car wreck. Went with his aunt to view the casket and we noticed an area that was leaking on his neck and his lips didn't look as full as normal. I had to ask the funeral director to come and look at him. He came in and asked us to leave and he would take care of him. We also discussed with the parents to have a veil over the casket because his injuries were for horrific that they had a hard time making him look natural. Case in point, during the wreck, he had his leg propped up on the dashboard of the car and his knee literally ripped his bottom jaw off. After the service I went by the accident site and was looking around and found 2 of his teeth embedded in the telephone pole they had hit. That was the most horrible event I have ever been involved in.

[@desireelococo1747]

So sad.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Ooh my goodness that's so very tragic how awful for you all 😔 we are so sorry to hear this. We both send you all our best wishes to you and your family ❤️❤️

[@suesmith3744]

My goodness 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@JillyBean1968]

That is so tragic!

[@jewelsmccloud2732]

Do you break fingers to get rings off or on?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, absolutely no. If a ring is unable to be removed we contact the family to get permission to cut the ring off. I have a ring cutter that you find in jewellery shops. It a handy little tool to have. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚

[@wandaorr2075]

My sister died from cancer in a small town in Colorado; there was a rosary the night before the funeral and viewing, she looked gray (she was white) and the funeral home left her overnight in the church and by the next day she was almost black. Temps were in the high 90s. Never so mad and disgusted in my life!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh no so very sorry to hear 😔 that's so very sad 😢 ❤️

[@8359563]

My husband passed away 12 weeks ago today. When i saw him in his casket the 1st time i felt nothing. Not shock of him being in it. It just seemed like i had seen it before.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

So very sorry to hear you have just lost your husband 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 Take good care of yourself ❤️❤️

[@JillyBean1968]

I am so sorry for your loss. 🙏🏼

[@troyonplanet]

A good friend of mine is retired insurance actuary - he was at convention in US many years ago where another chap from the US told him of an occasion in that a casket was dropped by pall bearers whilst exiting a church thus exposing the body - and the service had to be ceased as the casket was too badly damaged - end result was a lawsuit and a large payout by the funeral home

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Ohhhh no that's not good 😬 poor family. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@TheSpinDoctor]

Do you have those refrigerated bed/trolley set-ups for home viewings where you are? I’ve seen them used in continental Europe quite a bit, and they keep the body cold from below but you have to remember to un-prop-up the head overnight so it’s on the cold surface most of the time and just propped up in the day and of course, people forget… I know the baby and premature baby ones are very widespread but I’ve not seen as much use of the adult ones, but that’s probably because adults would be more likely to be embalmed instead, but for those who don’t want it, it seems like a good idea. Pretty sure Pope J-P was on one after he died.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, yes we have seen them we have the baby one not the adults, we can hire them if we need to but normally family requests the person to be embalmed before going home. Thank you for your question take care ❤️❤️

[@nancyhuffman5802]

The funeral director helped my dad's friends carry the cas I etc, he slept, and git a concussion. My mom was so worried about him, but he recovered nicely.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh my goodness so glad he was ok 🙏 Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️

[@hootyhixson9041]

My cousin was murdered in the summer of 1996 it was a very very hit summer that yr in Alabama. We all had travel there from where lived out of state. His mother my aunt was demanding to see him. The funeral director kept telling her no. Because he had been out in the heat for 5 or 6 days. I remember when you got withing a few feet of his coffin there was the most horrific smell I have ever smelled in my life. Thank heavens my aunts daughters finally convinced her that seeing Tommy was not a good idea. Thankfully also within months they found who murdered him. Turned out his ex wife had lied to some guys and convinced them to kill Tommy and they just threw his body in an abandoned well.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh no so very sorry to hear this horrific story and so very glad the killer was caught. Yes I think that was the best decision not to view it would have be extremely confronting and traumatic to see 😞 Take good care, sending you our best wishes ❤️❤️

[@amandalong4998]

I have a question! Why is embalming fluid not the exact same color as blood…a rich deep red? Would that not help coloring to look more lifelike and realistic?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi Amanda, if you add a colour that strong such as rich red like blood, this would only stain the skin and turn it cherry red, given a unnatural look. Embalming chemical do have a slight tint to them a very pail pink and this is often enough to give you a natural colour. Embalmers do have tinted chemicals that can be added to the mix I personally don't like these because if you mix just a tiny bit to much the colour can go so wrong and it's difficult to change. Makeup is best used if the colour is not quite right, this way you can wash if off of you get it wrong the first time you don't get that choice once the person is embalmed. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚

[@gabe_2544]

Back in the 70’s I went to a friend’s older brother’s wake after he was killed in a car wreck and you could see the stitches the mortician had used to close the eyes. I was shocked at how sloppy, uneven it was.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

So sorry to hear that 😔 Let's hope the work in that funeral home has improved since the 70's if it's still around. ❤️

[@outbackchick5111]

My personal experience of a funeral mishap was the Funeral home forgot to deliver the body to the service. Then when they finally got there the private viewing was interrupted by all the mourners being filed in to rush the service The body was sprayed with what looked like fake tan and the deceased had porcelain white skin. The paperwork for the cremation was signed on top of the coffin which then had an arrangement of reused fake flowers not the arrangement of fresh flowers provided. Total debacle and very traumatic for the loved ones.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oooh my goodness that's terrible 😔 Poor family so sad. You take good care ❤️❤️

[@glenn5903]

That was a funny story ! How did he get out!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

I think they needed to get him a ladder! Its a deep hole!!!

[@susannahedwards8230]

Not so much funeral but body prep. What about internal defibrillators do they automatically stop shocking the heart after your dead? If you have to remove them can they shock you?

[@kathycuster1714]

The pacer has to be turned off and doesn't shock you.

[@melissajohnson2935]

They can be turned off. In the ER we have magnets we use to turn off defibrillators for various reasons..while they are alive. But they can turned on/off, re calibrated and tweaked from outside the body.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

No they don't keep shocking and if I don't use a magnetic when cutting the wire I will get a shock. Take care ❤️❤️

[@glenn5903]

Where does the blood go? Or do o want to know?😊

[@gazzafloss]

I'm an only child, might be totally insensitive, I can't see any reason why people want to view a dead body in the casket. My 85 year old mother died in her sleep in her own bed, she lived independently, by her own choice. Found dead by our son, (her grandson), when he was called, (I live interstate, 3,000 Klm away, no good calling me to open up), because a regular visiting Veteran Affairs services person couldn't get her to answer the door. I hadn't seen her since we had visited her at Christmas, two months earlier, but spoke with her on the phone a couple of times per week. Funeral Directors asked if we wanted a viewing at the cremation I just said, "I wanted to remember my Mum as the person we had been with over Christmas with all our family together", happy times. Like everything, personal choice.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, so sorry for the loss of your mother 😔🌹🌹 Yes you are totally right, it's all about choices. Thank you for sharing your story, take good care ❤️❤️

[@suesmith3744]

@gazzafloss. I totally agree , open casket funerals are not common in the UK thank goodness . My mother died of cancer in 1971 and when my father went to view her body before burial the undertaker begged him not too and remember her in better times instead . My father wisely heeded that advice ….

[@glenn5903]

There is no way I could do this job! My hat is off to you that you can. If i did and i heard a noise you would be putting me on the table!😂😂😂 Sorry for the humor! That's just me.I celebrate life not mourn Again that's me.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Agree enjoy every moment of life ❤️

[@sarahsilverrose]

I am donating my body to a medical school in the US. I know my body will be embalmed but is there a difference in the embalming process for donated bodies?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, that's a beautiful selfless thing to do 🤗 I am not sure of the rules in the USA but a lot of our university here are opting for none Embalming of the donor body and freezing the body instead given a more realistic experience for the students doctors and surgeons. If the body is embalmed at the donor area it's not much different from the funeral home way. Take care ❤️❤️

[@martinwatson1984]

Consett greetings ❤

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, hope you are well out in Consett ❤️

[@cyndyfisher]

My mom leaked a “tear”. Without thinking I wiped it with my finger. Then I told the director. I don’t know what she did after that but I didn’t see it again. It did freak me out after the shock set in. What was the pale clear yellow/brown fluid?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Sorry to hear that Cyndy. It would have only been oedema (a tiny bit water retention) this happened natural as the body starts to break down. Sending hugs ❤️❤️

[@williamevans9426]

I live in the UK and was not able to be with my elderly father when he died. For so-called 'closure', I asked to view briefly the non-embalmed but refrigerated body and this was arranged at the hospital mortuary in a viewing room. My father was laid out under a heavy velvet sheet, with only his head visible on a pillow. I wondered afterwards whether the rest of him would have remained in a body bag, out of sight under the heavy cover, and suspencted this would have been the case. Could anyone confirm that this was the most likely scenario? Many thanks!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

So very sorry to hear 😔 I doubt very much the body bag was left on him, he would have been wrapped in a sheet. It's to difficult and awkward to leave the bag half on and half off. Take good care ❤️❤️

[@williamevans9426]

@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank you so much for your reassuring and very kind words - they really are greatly appreciated! 🙂♥

[@auzzygirl8175]

My son's mother in law in the Philippines was kept at home for a week in a refrigerated coffin which had a glass lid for viewing which would seem like a good idea for Australian hot weather also. I'm assuming that the refrigeration is by something being put into the coffin and removed before the funeral.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, thank you for sharing, yes great ideas. It sounds like a cold plate in placed into the coffin, great idea. 💚❤️

[@elizabethkujawinski3240]

Question why did my sister's body viewing have that deep red purple color on her face and hands yet showing different parts in her hands looking normal.? Upon her death in the hospital and picked up immediately by the funeral home. I viewed her prior to her embalming and didn't see the changes of skin color. Yet I was horrified seeing her the way I described it. Please I need an answer cause it has bothered me all these years I need closer thank you..

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hello so sorry if the loss of your sister 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 Colour changes can happen so very fast from one hour to another. It all sounds very much like lividity to me this is a natural part of the body breaking down after death. Lividity is pooling of the blood in certain areas of the body where it becomes stationery in areas and stains the skin to a reddish purple colour and sometimes embalming won't get rid of theses marks. Hope that helps 🤗❤️❤️

[@susiebilk9905]

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[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

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[@meganlovesdogs]

I’m just curious about the taking the body home… is that common?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Yes it's common here in Queensland Australia. ❤️❤️

[@beverleydlatham769]

when my husband died i asked to have him brought home. He lay in his coffin for 5 days in my house. after 3 days he started to smell and i was advised to keep the coffin lid closed . the strangest thing though.. I put his silver ring on his finger and after a fews days it had turned black ..really strange

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Yes that strange. So sorry for the loss of your husband 😔 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 Take good care ❤️❤️

[@hassyg4083]

have you seen news? Hull England. Cops raided funeral directors. video response to that will be interesting from you

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

I have just heard about 🥺 will read the whole story later. Thanks for sharing ❤️

[@mitchybooooy]

I was about to comment this too, it would be fascinating to hear your opinion on it!

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

I am horrified that in 2024 this kind of thing is still happening in some funeral homes 🤬 it really makes my blood boil. It's so very awful for the families and the deseased persons. These kind of stories give us in the industry a very bad name 😔 This story has really upset me so awful. Take care ❤️

[@AnthonyAndrews0128]

Odd question. Maybe a yes or no answer, hello by the way, do you get questions 'here' or anywhere that you either refuse to answer or it's awkward when you do? Be it too 'gory' or graphic or whatever.

[@PeterCarruthers-wp5gu]

I have a question, can i wear my own clothes to be burried in

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Of course you can ❤️❤️

[@MrsEyes512]

How long before 'skin slippage' occurs? Some cultures kiss and touch the bodies repeatedly as if the person was still alive. Could skin slippage occur during all this touching?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, it often depends on the person skin before death. If the skin is weak and tering just before death occurs skins slip has already happened in these cases the skin will be cleaned sealed in blueys ( hospital grad absorbent pads) then wrapped in a bandage. So family can still hold touch and kiss the person. But kissing the deceased at the viewing or service won't tear the skin. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚🙏

[@geedubb2005]

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[@BlueSkyCountry]

As a complete nonbeliever of anything spiritual (no evidence, out of mind, no concern) I always think funerals are just a coping mechanism for the fearful overthinkers. The person is gone, their cellular metabolism has ceased, and that is that. When my father passed, he was cremated within 2 days and only me and my mother went to inter his urn at the memorial garden. There was no service. And I consider anyone who has not talked to us within 2 weeks no longer a friend so these people are not even notified.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Funerals are always for the living not the dead. Your right it's a way to help them cope. Thank you for your comments, sorry to hear you have lost your father 😔 take good care 💚

[@BlueSkyCountry]

@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank you for your kind words and take care as well.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

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[@glenn5903]

Hello guys ! Its hot in texas Its dark in Australia isn't it?😂😂😂

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, only dark at night 😜😊

[@CHASKA.18]

My question is i want to be cremated do the mortician embalmed you b4 you are cremated? What do they do?

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, here in Queensland Australia we do not embalm many people only if family requests. So mostly no you won't be embalmed here. Thank you for your question take care 😊💚

[@8359563]

Please tell me why my husband's hands looked half the size they were. I noticed that it really bothering me.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, I am not to sure why that would be, most likely explanation is probably dehydration of the skin. Sorry for your loss 😔 ❤️❤️

[@novelmaker5071]

Hello,I was horrified and angry at my mom’s funeral. Her clothes were when I went to view her body, I pulled back her clothes and her incision was open. They did fix her and dried her clothes.Mortician did apologize but it didn’t remove the hurt. That was 2022 and I’m still upset.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Oh no that's so awful l, can not believe the incision were not closed and covered😔 so very sorry that happened to you. Please take good care ❤️

[@bubbles2868]

My sister law was embalmed and she looked like a beautiful porcelain doll. My dad touched my sister in laws hand, and held it for a minute. He said his hand started burning. When he opened his hand, there was a red mark on his palm, shaped like a cross. The funeral director told him it was embalming fluid leaking from her. ugh! The cross shape....no idea. One can only wonder.

[@ravenmckinnon5526]

My friend 2 year old son drowned at the babysitters house. The sitter decided it was a good idea to take a nap instead of watching my friends son. He wondered outside and fell in the pool and died. I went to the funeral and he looks horrible!! He was blonde and blue eyes. In the casket he was brown skinned and looked bad. I had nightmares

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

On no so very sorry to hear this 😔 terrible sad ❤️❤️

[@sandramorgan4923]

My Mom is an ivory color and she looked grey. She had full lips and her lips were looking thin. Her hair was brushed back. She looked so different from her more natural and peach colores. Her body and face looked square. Didn’t look like her. She was almost unrecognizable 😢

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

So very sorry to hear that 😔 that's not good at all. Hope you are doing ok 🙏 sending you our deepest condolences for the loss of your mom ❤️❤️

[@sandramorgan4923]

Thank you so much. 😞

[@brietydorahy159]

Hi beautiful lady’s

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, 🥰🥰❤️❤️

[@lindseysloan8735]

9:11 I would find it more strange if a funeral director and their employees didn’t have direct contact touching the bodies.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, well you will be surprised but you do get some staff in the industry that are not comfortable around dead bodies. These people either stay and get better at coping with death, then others may last a day a week or even a year and never get used to it. Thank you for your comments take care 😊💚

[@moseswragg2701]

Sorry. Can't afford it this week. Apologies.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

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[@rachelharris5527]

What’s skin slip ??

[@kathycuster1714]

Skin slip is when the body starts to decompose the skin sometimes slips out of position for lack of a better term. People that have been in water.for awhile will sometimes the skins slips off.

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, think of it like really bad sunburn, then the top layers of skins starts to peel off after a few days. That's similar to skin slip. ❤️

[@8359563]

My husband looked just like he was asleep they did a wonderful job on him. But his hands looked half the size they always were i don't understand why

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

Hi, this could be down to dehydration. A natural part of our bodies breaking down when we die. Take care ❤️❤️

[@8359563]

My husband's hands looked like that. It been bugging me

[@Rodmic-hd9pn]

I have already picked the man who will do my makeup and hair. If you were pretty in life he makes you look gorgeous in death

[@Areyoudyingtoknow]

That's good 💚