Future Husband's Brother Manipulated Him To Ruin Our Wedding The Day Before.

Future Husband's Brother Manipulated Him To Ruin Our Wedding The Day Before...
#redditupdate #reddit #redditrelationship

[@ashokdevasi6815]

Appreciate the disclaimer at the start of the video saying there are 2 stories. It can be very frustrating when I click on the video expecting a long story only for it to end mid way. I hope this is the new norm for this channel moving forward.

[@militsa7214]

Agreed

[@levidantas3045]

agreed

[@grevenistgeil270]

Frustrating? Are you for real? Even if not stated, it shows where the story ends and also even If you don't look the moment a story end the narrator says NOW ON THE SECOND STORY, STORY TWO. So, your frustration is not a frustration at all, but a complaint. Complaining, cuz you're obviously lazy.

[@sinisterminister2245]

​@grevenistgeil270 guess you never heard of hands free mode? I throw on a video when I take short drive and, yeah, it's frustrating when you put on a 25 minute story for a 20 minute trip just to find out the story you selected the video for ends 7 minutes in. Over here gatekeeping other people's frustrations. Fool

[@lastraven8575]

First one she should have left the instant he started messing with her medication that relationship is a car crash waiting to happen as he can assert himself against her but not against his psychopath brother. Second story I would speak to grace and then dump her in German telling her that you learnt the language to propose and now you are using it to get her out of your life

[@nukaix]

@Huehue-qf1riThen he should buy it himself lol Even if they’re easy to buy, they’re important to OP health and shouldn’t be stolen.

[@obtuse186]

It's not him that was stealing them. If you go back it seems like she's explaining she doesn't want her emotional support cats to be taken away from her because her family previously took her medication. I don't think he was taking her meds

[@holyboiamethin2790]

​@@obtuse186no she said her meds were being taken and given to the fiance's brother as well as her family taking them in the past.

[@obtuse186]

@@holyboiamethin2790 maybe I missed that but I didn't get that considering she made way more of a deal about the cats than the meds.

[@MimiMadness94]

@@obtuse186cats are harder to replace than melatonin

[@kumikor3392]

Story 1: 😂😂😂 is the now husband SURE there's no emotional incest? Because the brother sounds like an emotionally incestuous MIL who doesn't want someone to take "the man of the house" from her

[@MarukaiX]

For real

[@Marleyskye]

I was thinking the same thing

[@Black-Rose12]

Yeaah it does seem like it and I feel the brother would even take it to physical levels if he could

[@ianconness11]

I was definitely thinking the first OP should tell him that the wedding is gonna happen and if he doesn’t show up, then it’s over. Then that’s basically what she did. Good deal.

[@LaurewLamith]

Brah you can’t just cancel/postpone weddings the day before unless someone legit dies I would’ve told him that the wedding is happening and if he’s not there we’re not getting married

[@leticiagraziele6428]

I've seen a wedding where the FATHER OF THE BRIDE DIED and they didn't postpone it

[@maxdoom3521]

Honestly though, the fiancé sounds like an over emotional twat, and she’s probably a headache to be around, those incest comments were absolutely uncalled for and unacceptable, and the fact she’s not sure that she should apologize for her outburst just goes to show she’s probably just as bad as the brother in her own way.

[@leticiagraziele6428]

@@maxdoom3521 they sound like they have a emotional incestuous relationship going on. Of course she was emotional, it was her wedding day

[@maxdoom3521]

@@leticiagraziele6428 over emotional, as in not in control of said emotions. And no, it’s not a “HuR dUr EmOtIoNaLlY iNcEsToUs” relationship, that’s literally the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard.

[@nukaix]

@@maxdoom3521then you should research this my dude, it’s legit thing.

[@rayraffiki1856]

That first story sounds so much like emotional incest. The brother is 11 years older but is still clinging to his younger brother like this

[@erickaennis2738]

His brother is trying to sabotage their relationship. She never should've gotten married. Eventually she's gonna tap out. This is too much stress. Plus, the brother is crazy. She should be cautious. He seems to blame her when he doesn't get his way. He may hurt her.

[@birdynerb]

"Respect these boundaries" "But what if I need help?" "Do you need help now?" "No, but I heard there was a salmon sale--" "Goodbye"

[@peagames2002]

The guy in second story beats himself too much. Though if time is all he needs now, it's for the best. She cheated on him and cheaters usually never have a happy ending.

[@mrdevilish1056]

The brothers behavior in the first story is very inappropriate, its clear thats hes not just sick but very childish having to constantly lean on his brother for help and contradicting his own health while consulting real medical professionals

[@Taygon45]

Here's a good example of those boundaries: "You respect them, or you never get to talk to me again. Simple as that. That means you trampling over what I want is a stressor on my life that I no longer want and am willing to cut you out. That is what a boundary is for, or both parties to have healthy distance. You have an unhealthy dependency on me, and two things will happen. I either lose my fiancé over the chaos that you introduce into our relationship and never have another SO because I'll be taking care of you until I am old and grey and you will never have a life outside of a coddled child crying for big bro. Or I cut you off right here and now because just like how she doesn't want to deal with or BS, I don't either. Now before you ask I'm picking option two. That is what the boundary is for. Now respect it."

[@AliBasrawi-pi7cg]

That damn of a brother is trying to blame his manipulation on the Soviet union

[@Black-Rose12]

Well it was a common practice so that you don't need to take blame everyone did it back then I sometimes do It even thoug I wasn't even alive during Soviet union and no one from my family ever visited there

[@Kitten701]

I'm so tired of OPs just completely ignoring red flags like this. I can't believe she actually married into this nut job situation. EDIT: "I don't want him to go no-contact at all. That's family." Are you serious? Girl, bffr.

[@StoryNarrator123]

Never understood how your own family could try and destroy your life like this

[@Wined34]

Do u really want to marry a guy that doesn't care about your opinion or concerns. Just listening to this woman hurts my feelings it made me so sad for her. That he could just stop or postpone the wedding after everything has been paid for by family and friends. Also, you have family that came from around the world which most people don't have money to do again, so it would be devastating that they came for your wedding to be there for you on your special day and won't be able to be there if you change the date last minute... I hope her fiancee really got it and really loves her...

[@LaurewLamith]

I feel like some physical distance between them and the brother would do them all some good

[@ResidentWeevil2077]

Nigel needs to be locked up in a psyche ward.

[@darkriku12]

​@@ResidentWeevil2077nah he just hasn't been weaned off the brother's teat since the day he actually needed it, then became dependent. He's addicted to his brother's validation and attention, and needs to learn to be independent.

[@ResidentWeevil2077]

@@darkriku12 essentially an extreme case of co-dependency.

[@Maninawig]

Story 1: Therapy. Best way to learn how to set boundaries.

[@vinwaffle7077]

She said she's in therapy, though. Or did you mean the fiancé/husband?

[@MaliaMydnight]

It's not always that easy, especially with BPD. After a 5 year battle, I'm in BPD remission, and I just now understand boundaries. BPD is an absolute monster, because your head is full all the time and NOTHING is solid or certain. Imagine a time when you were feeling an emotion so intensely, it was a very physical feeling. Now, imagine that intensity, with every emotion, and it switches with little to no provocation, and it does not stop. All the while, your head is so loud. It's like every sound, loud or quiet, is in your head on a constant loop. On top of all of that, when you're keeping on top of your therapy, you're doing all you can to self soothe, while trying to also convince yourself that the slight tone change, the smallest shift of body language, isn't a problem, it's okay. Doesn't always work. Then boundaries. All of the above is happening and more, and you set a boundary. It makes someone you care about mad, which is extremely troubling, because you don't want anyone upset with you, so you change it. Now someone else you love is mad. Rinse, repeat. Not to mention, when it comes about because of a not so fun childhood (BPD can be traumaborne or genetic), boundaries are a nebulous concept. It's a mess, and it's not fun at all, or easy. Therapy is what's gotten me into remission (and I'll eat all my shoes before I ever give it a chance to come back), but it's not a fix all. Sometimes it doesn't work, sometimes you need meds, and so on. Telling someone to go to therapy to learn and fix things is good, but I'm 6 years in intensive trauma therapy, and it can be like the saying, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink", except the problem isn't the horse not drinking the water, because oh God, it's trying, but it has no idea what water is, or HOW to drink it. Boundaries aren't magically produced by therapy with those who've never been allowed to have any, nor do they understand the core concept (or any concept) of what they are. It took me over 37 years to finally understand and establish boundaries, and understand that if my boundaries piss people off, that's their problem, not mine.

[@Maninawig]

@@MaliaMydnight Thank you for your insight. Mental health is a very important topic to me, and I love to hear the experiences of other people so I can better myself in helping them when I come across someone with needs. I am 35 with ADHD, so while there are vast differences, I can understand where you're coming from. We, too, can be stuck in intense emotional states, and with the many facets of the fısorder (like masking, hyper fixation, time blindness, etc) all working at once, it can be a mess to navigate and it took me 35 years to start grasping the concepts. But for me, my two biggest allies in such a challenge have been knowledge and therapy. Granted, I don't see therapy as a fix, but more like a tutor helping you to understand the concepts and encourage you in the process. I find people in general to be rather black and white; they see you as needing to be normal or needing to be extremely dısabled. So having someone there who can see all the shades of grey and who won't be (as you mentioned) pushed away as you try to grasp your emotions is very encouraging and has kept me sane a couple of times. Hearing the words "you are right to feel that way," while keeping up with my flippant tangents, has actually de-escalated me. But, like you also said, it's still up to the individual to put in the work and get things done. The reason I recommended therapy and boundaries in this case, however, was because the fiancé has gone his whole life not knowing how to find the strength to say no. And, having found a lot of horrible advice out there, I find that a therapist's assertiveness training tends to be the better and most guided method in learning to do so. Having gone through the same thing, it took me I believe 7 weeks of intensive therapy to reach a point where I could understand that no was an option, but it still took that push to get there.

[@darciemcdonald8609]

Holy codependency

[@TheSergio1021]

Its like double codependency, both Nigel and OP

[@obtuse186]

I feel so bad for the fiance in the first story. This man is basically the emotional support boy for two very demanding people with severe mental health issues and seems to never be able to catch a breath. We obviously only hear his brother's manipulation of him from OP's point of view but you can see clear signs of emotional manipulation from her as well.

[@marinamolina7520]

Exactamente, pobre hombre, terminó con otra persona con problemas mentales. Ojalá algún día se de cuenta no tenga hijos y encuentre una persona equilibrada

[@scottbrowder8304]

i hate that you won't show the real title of the post. i remember that reddit thread when it was originally posted but now i can't find it.

[@rigelbound6749]

Maybe it was just deleted

[@daveshoe4574]

As someone who gets a lot of unnecessary texts form someone who like to send several at the same time. Let me be clear that makes us more likely to ignore somebody. They don’t need them bad by it they just like breaking up a text. But my point being if you get a lot of unnecessary texts all the time you can do to ignore Most of them

[@zame-osomething5096]

The fiancee in the first story sounds like not a great person in the first place (havent finished the story yet)

[@afollowerofchrist5789]

Man, what happened to the poll you did where over 76% of individuals wanted just ONE story per video, regardless of the length? I mean why have the poll and let us voice our concern and make our choice clear if you'll just ignore it? Please, just one story per video with the title pertaining exclusively to it. Thank you.

[@brianaschmidt910]

They're a politician

[@blitzkrieg8776]

Some stories aren't long enough for that sweet, sweet ad revenue.

[@sydneyps]

I would guess that's why they put the warning

[@nyooom7481]

ad revenue is only allowed for atleast 10 minute videos and you can't expect them to make the work of editing these videos for free

[@MisterniKOK]

​@@nyooom7481untrue, it's 8 minutes and not 10, and you can monetize videos under 8 minutes, the difference it's that It won't have ads on middle of the video, only on the start.

[@00Snake77]

Good morning everyone.

[@kahnzilla6036]

Good morning

[@EnderBuoyyyy]

It's goodnight for me but good morning

[@kaki_maki403]

The brother is a clear cut case of a narcissist in the first story.

[@SneakNationCEO]

Goddamn, OP from the first story has practically every single mental disorder under the f--ing sun. These guys will be in for a tough ride.

[@RavenSutcliffe]

Those disorders tend to be comorbid. As in having one makes it easier to develop the others, often because the symptoms and causes overlap. And yet she was handling everything better than either her fiance or her brother in law.

[@maxdoom3521]

@@RavenSutcliffenot really, she was constantly crying, and generally not in control of her emotions which led to the unnecessary and unacceptable incest comments. It seemed pretty obvious to me she was just as selfish as the brother and wanted her mental problems to always be accounted for, but nobody else’s.

[@Nathan_Bookwurm]

​​@@maxdoom3521I'd be crying too when my brother in law calls 30+ times per day for stupid things, disrupts my sleep or work time and uses every excuse in the book to ruin the most important day of my life. Or maybe the crying would be from frustration because of marrying the stupid ass husband who constantly puts the brother first to the point where he calls his own wedding off. Brother in law is an adult, he can go get his own meds and can change his own tire.

[@nukaix]

She has “every single mental disorder under the f-ing sun” but unlike her brother-in-law she manages them perfectly. Bruh, she even acts better than some mentally healthy ppl! And the incest comment honestly would be said even if she was healthy. Like tf is brother doing? He act like he is obsessed or something. Being mad and saying stupid things is normal reaction.

[@maxdoom3521]

@@nukaix anime pfp, opinion disregarded.

[@FineAsher6H]

I think there should only be one story because there is one title and I don’t even listen to the second story

[@fluffyrainbows8229]

I get that it’s family, but at the same time he needs to realize how to live and cope with things on his own. You don’t spam call and bang on the door until someone answers. There’s definitely more mental issues than just the ones he’s been diagnosed with…….

[@hennigadient4265]

Why would you marry a person like that? When he is clearly married to the brother. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@Emi_TheWinged]

Story 1 OP "parent" egg donor should be in fuking jail not "forgiven" why is it always that when an adult abuse children it's no big deal and its just life but if an adult abused and tortured another adult suddenly it's years in prison? Shouldn't children be more protected ? I hate it

[@nicknitro86]

Well she kept doing it so clearly she didn't feel horrible.

[@andreasul2608]

Nigel is a narcissist. If you have a nigel in your life, be it brother or close family. Doesn't matter, cut them out of your life. They will drag you down.

[@fabianafagundezmuniz8119]

Alright but bro, what when he has kids? Is he going to neglect his kids to take care of his brother? Nah ah, cancel The wedding

[@morganablackwater2017]

Yeah... I shocked she even planed to marry him with all things he done prior

[@lequack8861]

Story 2 is definitely fake. Yes, 6 months you can get to A1, but that is that. A1. Basic communication only. There is no ways for OP to catch a full conversation, much less between two Germans. They speak with accent, that is very different when they speak Hochdeutsch with foreigners. It is extremely hard to catch even the gist of what they say. I think that OP is lying, either to the audience with a fake story, or to himself with a choppy discussion he misunderstood.

[@Homiloko2]

The story payoff was so bad (he never talked to her again) that I don't think there's a need to lie for such a bad ending. Asking GPT, it said those sentences should be covered under the A2 level and it would take about 8hrs/wk to reach that level in 6 months. No idea how realistic that though

[@quix66hiya22]

Depends on the person. I know a guy who speaks several languages and picked up some in weeks, maybe not fluent but enough to get around. Just like people pick up math quicker than most.

[@teresawhite4769]

First story? The red flags were there. She chose to ignore them.

[@ChromeBezerker]

Why are people saying that the 1st op is manipulative? She seems very reasonable, actually.

[@srsh12345]

Story 1. She should have run away when her drugs were missing/altered and emotional support cats were being offered to others.

[@putent9623]

Lmfaooo bro read the comments and actually changed it. I didnt even think you read comments lmao

[@LordDiscord]

?

[@paro4128]

@@LordDiscordthey talking about the KZbinr now saying when there are two or more stories because before the KZbinr said nothing and just changed the story without telling us the viewers

[@LordDiscord]

@@paro4128 ah

[@The1Fau]

Thanks for the 2 video disclaimer

[@reillycurran8508]

S1, sounds like brother's on the spectrum, that level of change aversion strikes me as someone who's super attached to routine and status quo.

[@user-sm6od4tx2p]

Someone should have told the poor guy that cheating is like breathing for a lot of germans when they are on holiday...They even have a specific word for it 'Sommer love' or equivalent of 'summer fling....They really do not see it as cheating as they will enver see the person again. Which is sick but thats how they are.

[@merlon8599]

As a German, the only people who think this are older man doing vacation where prostitutes are cheap. But most Germans see this as creepy and desperate. And I've never heard someone say that cheating on vacation is OK. Where does your insightfull knowledge of the German mind come from?

[@user-sm6od4tx2p]

@@merlon8599 wenn du Mal meinen Kommentar richtig gelesen hättest dann hättest du verstanden das es für viele okay ist das bedeutet aber nicht alle logischerweise. Suche Mal nach Fremdgehen im Urlaub und schau dir die Umfragen an fast jeder zweite und jede dritte tun es. Selbst im Bekanntenkreis wurd eimmer wieder damit geprahlt was total ekelhaft ist.

[@oneuup2490]

1st story: panic attacks are no joke. And sometimes they do feel like they're more than what you think it is. Opie's fiancee will be better off walking away. You're already an emotional support human for your brother and now you are going to marry a woman that you also have to be her emotional support human. This is not a good match and they need to go ahead and break up. Opie will probably be better off with Nigel they were probably be able to handle each other's issues a lot better. This is a disaster waiting to happen marriage and honestly if she marries this man she's going to deserve every bit of what's going to be happening between his brother her and that situation.

[@nexuscordat6427]

Maybe put a little voice thing "story #" at the start of each one

[@eliciabonnie]

It's not the wedding that needs to be canceled, it's the relationship. OP is not his priority, so better stop everything

[@Evski-if4gn]

Yeah, second story is definitely BS.

[@emilys8971]

The older brother is in love with his brother - the fiancé- 😂😂😂

[@DarkMatterPixie]

He's a hypochondriac

[@DarkMatterPixie]

I have a agoraphobia / social anxiety is the worst anxiety can have will he explains is an anxiety attack he can't sleep because he has anxiety

[@MonarchMKUltra]

How old is the first story if the brother grew up in the Soviet Union, which stopped existing well before OP and husgand were born?

[@naomia.3756]

You can actually learn a language at an intermediate level in 6 months 🤷🏽‍♀️ so I don’t know why people were surprised😂

[@Fimbulvetr]

Jesus Christ second guy had a lot of money to piss away

[@Tamara_Middleton]

Story 1… get an a back bone and thicker skin!

[@phoenix6930]

Story 1: umm the husband might not be in love, but Nigel is.

[@ResidentWeevil2077]

Nigel is in love with his own brother. It's disturbing and Nigel needs to be locked up in a psyche ward, or at least be heavily medicated.

[@Lewis95xp]

17:15 This may sound weird, but when this exact same room in minecraft is on screen, people are talking about their mental health issues. So weird.

[@morganablackwater2017]

You can tell the OP in first story really have issues if she even engaged with a man whos in evident relationship with own brother... And letting him off with taking her medicine and wanting to take her CATS like wtf man cats aren't furniture they are terytorial animals you can't just take them to other flat for a visit its STRESSFUL to animal and can cause healt issues... Throw he whole man away - alongside with his manchild bro

[@wladyslawaaron1443]

This is so f chaoticly written I couuldnt get trough

[@someone_weird-_-]

In the first story, why did OP say her FIL treats her cats like they are his grandchildren when they are lol. Pets are family as soon as you bring them home

[@Seypenni]

she mentioned right before that line that FIL is very traditional. a lot of people don't consider pets family

[@someone_weird-_-]

@@Seypenni oooh. I replayed the line I mentioned so many times to get my wording correct that I completely forgot about the bit right before it lol

[@DaShikuXI]

Because not everyone treats animals like children.

[@phoenix4991]

I love my dog to death but people who treat pets like they're babies or kids are mentally ill

[@andrewvassallo2780]

God these people are so weak

[@shadefelblade]

Good morning Vietnam?

[@jaytee9111]

While I agree this dude had his priorities wrong, calling over the counter medicine like Advil and Melatonin "medication" is strange, and just seems like an attempt to make him sound worse. Those cost like $10 for 500 pills.

[@yothiga]

It feels like a power play. I can make your fiancé give me your pills, what can you do? Lol

[@morganablackwater2017]

And so what? He took something she needed for his lousy brother. Also with the way brother and her fiance acted she doesn't need to try to make them look bad

[@jaytee9111]

@@morganablackwater2017 Yes, but the term medication is typically used interchangeably with prescription, at least in the places I have lived. While you can certainly be prescribed advil as a pain medication, usually when someone refers to their prescription as "pain medication" they are referring to a narcotic like vicodin or norco, which are addictive controlled substances. Sleep medication is the same way. It is a sedative, therefor usually a controlled substance. Stealing narcotics and sedatives is entirely different than stealing advil and melatonin. Think of it like the difference between petit theft and grand theft. Stealing "pain medication" also implies someone is a drug addict/drug dealer, so like I said, trying to make him sound worse than he actually is, or garner sympathy points for having to go without her "pain medication."

[@demonpanther290]

Oh yuck, everyone in this first story is ridiculous. If you're so full of "anxiety" that you're in and out of the hospital or need emotional support cats just get on medication or some shit, and the husband is an enabling douche

[@l0rdapophis]

Ngl, the only one I feel sorry for is Robert. He's definitely caught in between a rock and a hard place, and definitely needs therapy before he can have a relationship with anyone or his brother.

[@Taygon45]

I don't feel sorry for Robert. Asshat was stealing medication. You're done if you do that

[@maxdoom3521]

Yeah, while his brother was not in the right, his fiancée was no better than him.

[@l0rdapophis]

@@maxdoom3521 omg she was ANNOYING

[@kumikor3392]

Robert stole his own fiancees medication for his hypochondriac brother. If anything, feel bad for everyone involved. Robert is an abused and abusive doormat, OP is a doormat, and the brother is obviously mentally unwell

[@morganablackwater2017]

Wow ...hope someone will treat you the way she been treated - witt what you showed just now you be a pice of work;

[@lyra6695]

This girl is dumb, like all of that happened and you still want to stay?

[@HelloItsMikkan]

Nigel is definitely want to Alabama his brother

[@Star.Glitch.t.r]

can Somebody tell me this songs name

[@rizmiesteruae7726]

I like this new format of 2 stories per video, dont see why many people don't

[@anitacharron9153]

I hate to be the one that says this to you but this is the way your life is going to be if you marry this man your partner needs to put his foot down he is just trying this person's brother not as emotional support pet not his doctor his parents should be doing this not not his brother you have already been shown that you will never be first in this relationship you will always be second to his brother he is not ready to get married he is not ready to be a father or have children he's a selfish person with a selfish brother who wants to keep ruining these things to show that he can't he doesn't want his brother to get to get married to anybody he does not want to share his brother with you I mean look at the cats the wedding and he's trying he's supposed to tell you he's not home anytime his brother snaps his fingers he's there even if you're not feeling well he will leave you in a second to go to his brother he knows his brother is not dying he's only having anxiety and if his brother really wanted to go to the wedding he would be😊 bear his brother is manipulating him around his little finger he knows it and he is showing you where your place is just the fact that he would leave you having a panic attack to run to his brothers and show you exactly where you stand honey dump a boyfriend if you want to be with you he will make a stand and tell his brother I'm sorry I cannot be at your back home and call I have a family and where are the parents and all this why are the parents not taking care of their child to the point where your boyfriend has to Honey leave the man you're never going to be rid of the brother and you're never going to be first in your man's life I mean if you were in labor your boyfriend would jump up and leave you sitting there to go help his brother who's having an anxiety attack and tell you I'll be back just the fact that you're still thinking about marrying this June means you're not ready to get married either this isn't going to end in divorce and there's already enough the worst out there so if you already know your marriage isn't going to work why wedding the answer is don't get married😢😢😢

[@lyra6695]

Lmao BS

[@jjnix9517]

First story sounds abusive and manipulative.

[@avian1971]

Panic attacks, ptsd, bpd, melatonin, emotional support cats…please do not have children.

[@prussianeagle1941]

Emotional support animals are basically just someone saying "I cAN bRiNG mY DoG iNTo WaLmARt!" Without actually having a real service animal. F*ck those people, just a waist of oxygen.

[@SSFighter1701]

Yeah exactly. Also the boyfriend seems to like super anxious people in general.

[@Arkryal]

Lol... I kind of agree with that sentiment, they have enough on their plate as it is. But in fairness... Panick Attacks - Nobody is immune to these. If you have a central nervous system (as all vertebrates do) you are capable of having a panic attack. Thankfully, I've never had one, but I've seen them hit people out of the blue. Normal, well-adjusted people. It's not a mental illness. PTSD... If that was an actual psychiatric diagnosis, no problem. The self-diagnosed people can fuck right off though, lol. I've seen a lot of people who claim to have PSTD and have never even seen a psychiatrist. It's a big deal if you really have it, but many people who claim to, do not, and instead use it as an excuse. I don't know where OP stands on that, so I have to give them the benefit of the doubt. Melatonin, everyone's body produces this. Taking more as a supplement can help some people sleep. It does work, and is better than diphenhydramine (Benedryl) which is the other common over-the-counter sleep aid. And people have gone absolutely nuts on things like Ambien to the point of harming themselves and/or others. So if they're going to take something to help with insomnia, it's not a bad place to start. Emotional support cats... Yeah, that's going a bit far. Cats. Plural. More than one. Having pets can be calming for many people, I get that. But in that sense, what do multiple cats accomplish which one does not? I don't care if people have multiple pets, but they don't all need to be rationalized as therapeutic (unless she's working around some pet restrictions in her apartment, lol). If OP finds them helpful, I don't care, more power to her. But I am envisioning an absurd "crazy cat-lady" situation where she has a cat for every emotion. "Honey, have seen my economic-anxiety cat? He's the white one with the black patches. No, no, no... that one's black one with white patches, he's my fear of enclosed spaces cat, he always sleeps atop the dryer, next to my fear of rejection cat... Oh no, where is he? Honey, quick! Bring me my fear of losing one of my cats cat." That's probably not how it actually works, but that notion amuses me, so I'm choosing to believe that anyway, lol. OP has some issues. I hope they resolve to see an actual psychiatrist, not merely a general therapist, and they find a solution to their underlying issue instead of using contemporary facebook folk-remedies to play whack-a-mole with their symptoms. But they do seem like a good person who due to various circumstances, just hasn't found their footing yet. It happens, but a lot of people figure it out in the end and find what works for them, so I'm optimistic she'll get it sorted. If that stuff helps her, who am I to criticize? I have more respect for someone who takes the initiative and accountability to better themselves than someone who does not.

[@prussianeagle1941]

@SSFighter1701 ikr. This entire situation could be avoided if medicine and therapy were cheaper.

[@Arkryal]

@@prussianeagle1941In most of the world Psychiatrists are available for very cheap or free, including in the US. As part of their accreditation, they have to do pro-bono hours annually to keep up their association credentials. As it turns out, the mentally ill usually don't hold down lucrative jobs with good insurance, lol. The best psychiatrists in the world offer many of their services for free. They have other means of making money, like expert witnesses in court, court-appointed evaluations (paid by the state) paid speaking engagements, education, retainer fees to work for a specific healthcare system or hospital, consulting on books, film, TV, and gouging the idiots who don't need their services have been told they don't need their services, but insist on going anyway because it's fashionable... those people can pay $500/hr, lol. But that is not the norm. There are downsides to "free". You don't know who you're going to get as a doctor. You may be on a waiting list for a while, etc. Also, pharmacies must provide you necessary prescribed medications, if they can, regardless of your ability to pay. But they do not have to fill the whole prescription, and can go off-brand. So if you have a necessary medication and can't pay, you might have to go to a pharmacy on the other side of town (or more commonly one inside a hospital), and get a single day's worth at a time. They make it a pain in the ass, but they won't turn you away. It will just be extremely inconvenient, lol. So someone can get those services and medications for free in most of the world, but I agree, access is not always easy, especially for someone who has issues and would have difficulty navigating the various hoops they need to jump through to gain that access.

[@user-ve4hy3dg5j]

Wow. That poor man in the first video is surrounded by insane people.

[@rickrollrizal2747]

Why do we need a disclaimer for 2 videos?

[@lanrelara9481]

Cause of people in the comments

[@that_weird_neighbor_7185]

Ppl were complaining about thinking the whole vid will be one story. So they asked if there could be a disclaimer or something, so others know that there are more than one story in one video.

[@2_simple]

cus its annoying asl to expect a long story just for it to be short and there is another story

[@Auren23]

Story 1: I don't know who's worse, OP or Nigel lol. Poor Robert having to deal with bs from 2 people at the same time.

[@Taygon45]

Are . . . Are you joking? Robert stole her medication and tried to guilt trip her into giving his brother her emotional support animals, which were hers and hers alone.

[@kabob21]

You’re delusional if you think it’s unreasonable for her to ask that her SO prioritize and respect their relationship and to set boundaries for his overly dependent brother

[@kumikor3392]

You're fucking joking 😂😂😂 Robert demanded OPs animals and MEDICATION, and you think OP is the problem? Exactly what did she do besides be a doormat until Robert's weak ass tried to cancel the wedding??? 💀

[@ResidentWeevil2077]

You must be Nigel, or at least think like Nigel. You're a terrible person and should feel ashamed you made this comment.

[@Royman87]

We sure this is a brother we're talking about? sounds like some nonsense a woman would do 🤔

[@nekorei2023]

Yall always bring up genders when its fucking irrelevant lol

[@Ariesmanee13]

The first girl seems like a very self centered person and does not value family. How can he get married when his brother is admitted to hospital. And girl you need to apologize cuz he is taking your shit all the time.

[@morganablackwater2017]

No... Get therapy doll cause if you think she was in any wrong you need help more than the brother do

[@VRDejaVu]

The moment you threw an insult at your SO you become the AH. You either respect him or not, there is no middle ground, and openly insulting him to his face is a clear sign of having no respect for him.

[@morganablackwater2017]

Why she should respect him when he have NONE regard for her?

[@grevenistgeil270]

Top comment is a guy complaining about his own preferences. Frustrating? Feelings hurt? Are you guys for real? Even if not stated, it shows where the story ends and also even If you don't look the moment a story end the narrator says NOW ON THE SECOND STORY, STORY TWO. So, the frustration is not a frustration at all, but a complaint. An unnecessary complaint.