Game-Changing Shortcuts for a Clutter-Free Home

[@domarigavjusmom]

"It is not your job to change your spouse" You're out here saving relationships 👏👏👏

[@elib7311]

When the kids were little, I used to refer to it as a ‘walkabout’, which signaled bedtime was minutes away, so lets put everything away so it’s clean in the morning. I overheard my adult daughter commenting that she needed to do a ‘walkabout’ before we could run errands so she’d come home to a tidy studio. I actually got warm and fuzzy.😂❤

[@maureenbullis1805]

My husband was so messy I had a hard think about if I could live with it if I married him. That was 43 years ago and I did marry him and now he’s considerate, cleans, cooks, and does all of the grocery shopping! And I never asked him to, he just followed my example.

[@HydrogenTwoO]

When I realized I was basically just rewashing my fave clothes over and over, and the others were never used, and I kept seeing this every single week... I finally just donated the clothes that sat in the drawer. Not all at once, but now I have 90% clothes I'm okay with wearing :)

[@mungbean345]

I was sitting here yesterday looking at my laundry and thinking the same thing. Thanks for the nudge.

[@bhsprinkle]

I've been thinking the same. If I could replace my clothes with more comfortable and what I'd use more I would. I don't own a lot of clothes. What I do own are mostly other family member's old stuff. I feel like I want stuff that I choose. My pajamas are old shirts with random fuzzy pj pants. Only have 2 pairs left.

[@leezapaints]

I have been telling my husband the same thing. he's started putting his least favorites in a different drawer and if he doesn't wear them, he plans to get rid of them. it's been years of trying to get him to get rid of them 😅

[@reginabeasley872]

I had this 4 draw plastic container I never wanted to get rid of it. My building is not exactly a square built building.both my bedroom and living room have one wall that is curvy that container was taking up space and all that was in the drawers was clutter. We get a big dumpster every few months and as tenants we are allowed to get big items out of our apartments we'll this time I decided that container had to go I got rid of it and 2 more items .that was the aha moment the wake up call once I ditched that container my bedroom gained space and I rearranged my bed and other needed items now I walk into a cluttered free bedroom and it feels wonderful

[@michellejames9969]

This is my biggest problem! Where I get stuck is when I drag all of it out to donate or sell and then I get overwhelmed! I need this so bad.

[@CaroleBoulware]

1. Minimize your clothing 2. Never put your clothing on the floor 3. Make your bed 4. Declutter first, organize after 5. Implement drop zones 6. Work on having less stuff 7. Use the big three rule (do the top 3 things that make the biggest impact) 8. Identify your non-negotiables ❤

[@bhsprinkle]

Thank you

[@GravityBar231]

Great tips!

[@debc315]

I have 6 adult children that I himeschooled I wish we had fewer clothing items I washed 365 days a year Monday's were bed stripping day so that was a large amount of laundry We live in northern New England where you need clothing for Changi g Temps even within the five seasons

[@catsareawesome791]

I used to have an issue with clothes in my bedroom. A couple of years ago I would throw dirty clothes on the floor and on top of my hamper, and put washed clothes in a pile instead of putting them away, and constantly would move this pile between places. I realised my clothes were making my room really messy, so I've slowly implemented the following: 1. Cut down inventory (Dawn from The Minimal Mom helped with this!) 2. My non-negotiable regardless of time of day, energy level and whether I'm in a rush: a piece of clothing either goes into the hamper OR back in the closet. No exceptions. Clothing is not allowed on surfaces, the floor or the bed. I remind myself that it takes an extra 10 seconds to put it away. 3. I fold laundry as I take it off the line. I roll up anything that doesn't need to be wrinkle free/ironed eg. Pyjamas, shorts, pants etc and stack them in my laundry basket, then I toss the shirts/jumpers/dresses etc. that need to be hung up on top, and when I go to my room all I have to do is hang some clothes and quickly put away the folded stuff. 4. I am not as strict with categories/order. Shirts, jackets and jumpers are all hung on 1 rack in no particular order (I used to organise them by category but it was extra effort). Drawers aren't always perfectly organised and clothes aren't always folded well eg some pj pants are rolled and some are folded. The important thing is that they are in the draw. Hope this helps someone!

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

* Also, I want to very kindly and respectfully add to your note about "less tidy spouses" that there are circumstances like people living with spouses with mental issues - I had a partner with chronic depression for a very long time, he didn't even get dressed most days; no matter how cheery and upbeat and motivated I was, it never lifted him up. And I just want to say if others are in that situation; it's not because you're doing something wrong, it's not because they don't love you. I had to leave for him to want to change, unfortunately. Sometimes, even good people can't make it work. It's not your fault.

[@Fight-4-your-food]

I am also a chronic pile maker! 😅it feels so good to hear someone else say it.

[@559mile]

something I started doing recently to help with laundry....My apartment buiding has a community laundry room on the first floor of the building and nights and weekends are crazy crowded. I work from home so have the ability to get the clothes into the washer and switch them into the dryer while the laundry room isn't crowded but i don't have any time to fold or put away clothes during the workday. After I pick the clothes up from the dryer I take 5 minutes to separate them into three different piles on my bed- 1) a pile of things that I don't care if they get wrinkled like socks and underwear; 2)I shake out and lay flat the items I need to fold; and 3) I shake out and lay flat the items I need to hang up. I then go about my workday knowing hte clothes won't be wrinkled before I can get to them and I can fold them later on at night while watching TV

[@ArtistInNewHampshire]

Re: Making the bed daily- our small bedroom has a large sunny window that (despite being in Northern New England) I keep slightly open nearly year round. A few years ago, I watched KZbinr Diane In Denmark sharing her morning routine, and she opened her bedroom window and pulled down the bed covering and aired out the bed for a period of time. I realized my fairly tiny bedroom needed airing, so I followed suit. I place my firm pillow sort of upright very close to the slightly open window, and it gets fresh air for much of the day, and I pull the bedcovers and fold them back, exposing most of the fitted sheet. (On very warm days, I run a small desk fan breeze across the surface) Pretty much, our bedroom is for sleeping only, so nobody cares if my bed is “made”. Result: at bedtime, our bed is fresh smelling and our pillows smell like they’ve aired on a clothesline all day, so fresh! I went from lamenting my tiny bedroom’s lack of space to appreciating its acting like an elegant Sleeping Porch. A bonus- the white sheets do not get nearly as yellowed as they used to, despite routine washings.

[@HeronCoyote1234]

Makes a big difference, doesn’t it. Freshly aired sheets are a pleasure to crawl into each night.

[@KathrynFritze]

The magic of ozone and UV light

[@craftypam9992]

I always aired my bed, but once I hit the menopause, my bed absolutely HAD to be aired every day, or I had to climb back in to a clammy, damp, sometimes smelly, bed. Duvet thrown back every morning by the last one up, and flipped back up at night (when closing the curtains) solves the problem. And how long does it take to flip the cover back up? 2 seconds? 3? No, a made bed in my house is a sign that the sheets have been changed!

[@SpArK4GrL]

I loved the idea of this and practiced it for about a week before I had to accept that my allergies were not on board 🥲 Mine are pretty severe though. I just end up needing to wash our bedding once or twice a week to keep it all fresh. Such a good thing to do though if that’s not something you have to manage!

[@SpArK4GrL]

I’ll add that I do still air out the sheets! I just have to leave the window shut. When I do open the windows I make sure the pillows and sheets are covered up.

[@jeepgrl4888]

I agree on eventually partners catch up . I used to exercise and he didn’t at all but he started and one time I asked him what made you to start to exercise. He said honestly you look so happy and you seem to have energy so I thought to try it …now he’s more active than I am

[@HeronCoyote1234]

Same thing with my partner when I first became vegan. He saw how much better I looked and felt, saw how much red meat he was eating, and gave that up. (He’s not vegan, but feels healthier.)

[@soccertxi]

I have decided that I will never be a minimalist (I am a quilter and the fabric stash...well...it has a life of its own!), BUT I am daily becoming a 'less-a-malist'. I love the ' my tomorrow self will be happy my today self did this' and my '5 minutes better' make a HUGE difference. I sometimes fall down on the job but I don't beat myself up, just start over in the morning. My husband has joined me in doing a few dishes at a time and the kitchen is a joy to cook in. Thank you for your enthusiasm and great ideas

[@HeronCoyote1234]

I think this is my favorite comment in this section. My cousin is a quilter/knitter/crafter in general, so I get it. I’m also glad hubby’s getting into the act.

[@ninnymuggins5159]

LOOVE IT!! Less-imalist!!!!!!!!!! I love the 5 minutes thing, that's how I trick myself all day long!

[@HeronCoyote1234]

Two tricks I’ve used re clothes and bed-making are these. 1. I fold my blanket and top sheet at least halfway to the foot of the bed in the morning. This accomplishes two things. The sheets get aired out. The bed isn’t “made”, but it, and the bedroom, look neater. 2. Hang your clothes with hangers going backwards (or “underhand”). When you wear an item, hang it back up with the hanger going the other way (or “overhand”). At the end of the season, you’ll instantly see what you never wore, simply by looking at the “underhand” hangers.

[@margaretlake]

I like the idea of folding the blanket and top sheet halfway. I'm going to try it. Maybe Mikey (the dog) will the happy with the softer layers and not make a nest. Yes, that's "nest" not "mess."

[@HeronCoyote1234]

Our cat does the same thing. Any pillow or stack of folded blankets he calls first dibs on.

[@Whogirl42]

Omg the 2nd tip is genius!🙌

[@DAZEY_iz_healing]

Ive done the second tip for years! It is very helpful!! So glad someone shared this!

[@kat1963]

Showing by doing and not shouting works! My set in his ways husband noticed that whenever I took a dish, pot, pan or utensil to use I always washed them before using them. The last couple months I noticed these items were cleaner and I didn’t have to re-wash them. I never said a word to him about his terrible dishwashing just dealt with it and now it’s much better. He commented that I wasn’t washing stuff before I used them anymore. I smiled and said I changed dish cleaning detergent and they’re coming out cleaner. …PS I didn’t change detergent just bought a new dispenser. No need to humiliate the dish washer.

[@joysmith4276]

So good to hear someone emphasise we can not change our partner, we can only change ourself.

[@katnip266]

The thing about functionality over Pinterest perfect is that the functionality can always be replaced over time with something that is both functional and Pinterest perfect. The functionality is a placeholder and trial run for the things for when I find something that looks pretty and works for my systems.

[@parkerrose3590]

I have to confess! I finally emptied the dishwasher tonight, butI left a whole bunch of dirty dishes in the sink. I was helping my daughter with her 4 week old baby boy while her husband was working and she was napping in between feeding. I got sick tonight from something I ate and had to go to bed. My mother use to say, it will still be there in the morning!

[@crybebebunny]

You need to take care of yourself. Leaving the dishes there today is take care of yourself, you need that extra rest.

[@helenebennie3961]

My mum says "House work won't go away." Inferring that you can do it later. Yes, Kallie does make it sound like it is set in stone but you don't want to scourge yourself if it doesn't get done once in a while.

[@festiva93]

You’re inspiring me to make the bed for my significant other. He cares, I don’t. He’s the early bird. I’ll work on it ❤

[@StaceyQTPie]

I am the last one up, and I hate making the bed, but it's not that hard or time consuming, and he likes it, so I do it. Just one of those little things that doesn't turn into a big thing.

[@crybebebunny]

My husband preferred I don't make the bed. It definitely helps my brain though. So if he is not home I make the bed for me. Make it a tad messy before he gets home. If he is going to be home, I just won't make it.

[@margaretlake]

I've always been amazed at how clean the bedroom looks (no matter how messy) with the bed made. Conversely, if the room is tidy and the bed messy, the whole room looks messy. That being said, I just kind of pull up the sheets and covers because the dog is going to make a nest of it and goes to sleep. I've tried to put a doggie bed on my bed and he makes the nest right against the doggie bed and goes to sleep.

[@dianeguy7452]

I’m 65. You my love are wise beyond your years ❤

[@sandranodine1151]

I agree diane

[@anneaton921]

I started making sure my sink was clean before I went to bed because of you several months ago. What a game changer!! Thank you so much!!!🥰

[@Mrs.J.D.B]

I know this doesn't seem like much, but I'm on day 4 of the clean kitchen sink habit and I feel amazing. I love my kitchen now, even though it's out dated and straight from the 70's! It's clean! And I never want to quit this habit!

[@ajvintage9579]

@@Mrs.J.D.Bdon’t worry, some of us love original retro kitchens!! And my kitchen has yellow Formica countertops with red specks and chrome edging. Would I change it for Home Depot builder-grade granite?!? Heck no!!!

[@julietannOsfan1972]

@@ajvintage9579I like the sound of your yellow worktops. Yellow is my favourite colour. I’ve got yellow walls in my kitchen.

[@thewisceeeggg1624]

Same

[@crybebebunny]

🫣I did the sink thing for two weeks. It didn't work for me because my 2nd youngest got up to cook and my kitchen was not as clean as I lefted🫣. I think it would definitely be worth if it stayed clean throughout the night till my morning 😂❣️😏

[@betsybattles2696]

I set up all the things I will need in the morning the night before, the coffee pot, the bowls for eggs, the cheese grater, all the dishes, cups and flatware, etc. When I come down in the morning I switch on the coffee and everything is ready to go. It makes a huge difference in the morning.

[@AllTheButtons87]

It's so true that your significant other will eventually want things more organized and tidy after enough time of you doing it! I literally just saw my husband put his wallet in the basket where we now put our keys and out the door stuff like his wallet. 😊 This man used to store that wallet wherever it landed, sometimes even in the pocket of his most recent pants lol. Also he has seen the value of everything having it's place rather than organizing in piles. It takes time, but eventually they really do pick it up.

[@grandmaof9857]

I am a grandma now but had 3 little ones like you and would have benefitted sooo much from tips like you are giving. I struggled and was overwhelmed most of the time. I did learn some of the tips you are giving, but i am still learning and find your videos very helpful even to this grandma🎉

[@dianamgallagher]

My husband and I were finding ourselves falling asleep on the couch or our recliners. Somehow I started going to bed and laying on my made bed with a throw blanket. That was years ago and now my bed stays made all the time because I never unmade it. We just lay on top of the bedspread and smooth it, fold the throw blanket when we get up. Works for us.

[@lauramurphy1072]

The clothes on the floor thing. My husband would basketball shoot his socks every night towards the hamper. And missed every night. It infuriated me but then I realized it was my issue not his. So I just picked up the socks. He died unexpectedly 2 years ago and wish I could pick up his socks. Side note though. He was always the first guy and still to this day the only guy in my very large family to go around and clear tables and bring dishes to the table so celebrate the positives! We can’t change people like you said but there’s definitely things they’re better at than most when it comes to cleaning habits. We might just not see it right away.

[@novasoto5092]

Sorry for your loss😢 We should treat others as if today was the last. Love and be Kind. Hugs for you Laura

[@Rosielu-c5g]

Sorry for your loss

[@karenrich9092]

I agree with you. I wish I could help him choose a tie or hang up his clothes from the laundry. It's been 6 years, and it still hurts. A friend told me, "It gets a little easier every day, but it never completely goes away."

[@meaganspencer6075]

Prayers & hugs for you Laura & Karen. I’m so sorry for your loss. 🙏 Thank y’all for putting this in perspective for me. I complain because my husband leaves his socks everywhere throughout the house but this is a good reminder that I don’t need to complain about little stuff like this & just appreciate all of the good qualities that he has.

[@karenrich9092]

​@@meaganspencer6075 Thank you for the hugs. It really helps.

[@crystal13l]

Making the bed and having a clean sink has been my mantra for ever! Makes a huge difference in how the day starts and ends FOR ME!

[@candicek.4659]

I love the concept of doing things I don’t really want to do for “my future self”! In one of the first videos I saw of yours, you said that and It stuck with me. I can hear your voice in my mind “Your future self will thank you!” Genius! Thank you❤️

[@shandalaventure4715]

Those are some hard-core non-negotiables! 😂 even when u r sick?? My only one is washing my face and brushing my teeth morning and night. But if I'm sick even that might go out the window lol

[@angelajohnson4245]

I JUST realized you have a new baby!!! Three lovely children! Congratulations!!!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@amylewis7563]

I think u said in one of ur videos that u wear 20% of ur wardrobe 80% of the time. That hit me hard and its so true! Really helped me declutter clothes, shoes, jewelry, hair accessories, etc. Making the bed makes such a difference in how ur bedroom looks. Its a non negotiable for me. Great video, keep em coming! ❤🎉❤🎉

[@winterwunderland]

"Decision fatigue" and "drop zone"....love it. Just hearing those words takes a little edge off my anxiety with trying to keep up a a home with a husband who has mild dementia. My best drop zone seems to be our coffee table and kitchen table. My choices for drop zones are limited due to the layout of our home. Maybe I will shoot for one drop zone- the coffee table. IDK.

[@HyggeHomestead]

thanks for giving tips without twlling us to go buy this storage bin, that storage thing, this item, that item, rather than practical tips to be tidy/organized. buying crap is easy. changing habits is harder. so many channels feel the answer is to go shopping for cute storage bins rather than examining your stuff & deciding whether it needs a bin & what size (for a specific solution for a specific thing)

[@hopefullycosplay]

So, I accidentally fell into solving the "spouse doesn't make the bed" problem: we have separate covers. This began b/c my husband is a covers thief, so I started buying twin-size top sheets, blankets, and comforters for our bed, with the sole intention of not being cold at night. The unexpected bonus outcome is that we can each make our own side of the bed whenever we get up & we're each responsible for that decision. (Also, I don't really make my bed each day to help me "be tidy" so much as to know I can easily get into it at night b/c my husband goes to bed before me & a made bed means I'm not trying to straighten out the covers in the dark when I'm tired)

[@julietannOsfan1972]

A tip for making the bed & your husband/partner doesn’t want to - have separate beds. That’s what my Mum & Dad did & it worked out great. My Dad used to do nightwork & when he started doing days my Mum & Dad couldn’t get used to sleeping in the same bed, so bought separate ones. So much better. I’ve never understood the thing about buying new clothes, especially shoes & trainers. In the UK there’s a shop called Primark & their clothes are quite good & cheap. Many people buy them because of this reason. I find that they don’t last very long & also can’t be tumble dried. I buy all my clothes from M&S, as they are great quality, can be tumble dried & last for ages. Also, I don’t see anything wrong with wearing the same clothes for 2 days in a row. (Unless they’re children)

[@angelacarroll9750]

When should we make our bed? A long time ago, I was told to make it soon after getting up. However, the health experts now recommend that we pull back the covers for a couple of hours, then make it. Apparently, this dries out the moisture on the bed from our bodies and helps eliminate dust mites, their droppings & bed bugs especially if you open the blinds & windows & let the sunlight do the work for you. No dust mites will help asthma sufferers especially, and you can all breathe better. 😊

[@HeronCoyote1234]

This is exactly what I do, and for the same reason. Even if you don’t get around to fully making the bed, if the blanket and top sheet are folded down at least halfway (to air out), it looks better than rumpled bedding.

[@aprildawnsunshine4326]

I remember that study coming out 😄 as Always with these things media etc got it a bit wrong. It only takes about 10mins to dry & air out. Longer won't hurt anything and had no negative impact though. The key was to flip it down ASAP so it's still warm from your body heat. This makes it dry faster and the less time it spends damp the less you have all those issues. #TheMoreYouKnow 😊

Yes let your bed aerate for a few hours, ideally as long as you slept in it.

[@LiveByDesignNotByDefault]

Oh how I love you.... in a girly girl, fellow organizational nerd, declutter obsessive kinda way. Rock star. You ARE!

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

I am the messiest person in the world, but let me tell you, moving to Australia taught me _really quick_ to always put my clothes away and always make my bed. Because doing so greatly eliminates the risk of surprise-spiders 😂 true story, white tail spiders love piles of fabrics. Hell-to-the-fucking-no do I put clothes on the ground or not constantly arrange my bedsheets.

[@Trashio777]

Thank you! I do most of this stuff daily like you and my house is pretty good. I just need to tackle a few areas. These things do help when I vacuum daily and I do dishes daily and I am like you with the laundry. I keep that going. If I know I can't fold it though, I usually just do towels. I prefer folding my clothes right away so there's no wrinkles. I also do smaller loads so I'm not overwhelmed and I can obviously do that because I do it more frequently in my clothes are cleaner. Another thing that I do is I do not mix any one's clothes. Everybody has their own laundry basket and their own day to do their laundry. I do towels together but everyone has their own towel color too so they are responsible for that towel and I can always identify when someone didn't put their towel away correctly 😆

[@LaShumbraBatesAuDHD]

Not gonna lie, but I rarely, if ever, make my bed. It only gets made when I wash the bedding, and even then it's not completely done. The only thing that's on completely is the fitted sheet, and everything else is just thrown across the bed. I actually like seeing an unmade bed when I get home from work. It looks comfy & cozy, and inviting. I remember what the bed felt like when I got out of it that morning. 😊

[@angelajohnson4245]

I like that you describe doing these tasks as a form of "self-care". You've said it previously on other videos, but its true. Rather than burden yourself (or others) with large amounts of cleaning, a little every day helps along the way... 😊

[@Annie-49]

I love the non-negotiables! That really helps make me feel more relaxed about the new day. I thought about it. Mine are - Clean sheets. Bed made is not so important as the clean sheets Shower before bed, no matter what Tidy kitchen because it's horrible to wake up to get your coffee and everything is a depressing jumble of whatever from the day/night before I want my couch to have plumped pillows and the throws folded nicely. It just irks me when my couch looks like it's spent the night in a prune box. Wow! That really helped. Thanks for this thought-provoking tip!

[@traceyrees3668]

Love this, The Organised Mum, Gemma Bray calls it being your 'future friend ' ❤️ Especially cleaning and 'putting the kitchen to bed' before I go up to bed 🛌, definitely a game changer, to come into your kitchen in the morning when it's clean and tidy and smells amazing is one of the best feelings ❤ and you are ready for whatever the day throws at you.

[@kaycarle8361]

I'm so relieved you said that about the spouse/bed making. My husband gets up 3 hours after me. So I hate watching videos that tell me I need to make a bed that he will mess up again immediately.

[@nitanice]

I had teens from a very messy house that lived with me a short while for college. I gave them just a few rules: Bed made within 15 minutes of waking up Nothing on the bed other than linens or you Nothing on the floor but furniture and feet shoes on feet or in the closet Clothes in laundry basket, drawer, closet or washer only six items on the dresser only three items on a nightstand Amazingly, they actually appreciated it. They didn't realize how easy it was. In the year they stayed with me, I never once had to say "clean your room." Once they understood it was that easy, they just did it.

[@lindamyhre323]

LOL! I am the Lark and hubby is the Owl. I am right there when he gets up and the bed is made instantly!

[@crybebebunny]

Thank you ❣️🫣😏🙃😉😰 You are definitely declutering my brain❣️❣️ Little by little, I am working on it slower than a snail, but, beyond my pain and all the drawbacks. I am working on it. Thank you ❣️

[@destmichael]

The future me is glad the past me started working on this when she did. I had no idea what the future had in store for me.

[@ninnymuggins5159]

When you have a cat you LOVE who literally eats clothing, shoes, toys, blankets, sheets, towels, you learn after paying for 2-3 of his stomach surgeries to NEVER LEAVE ANYTHING ON THE FLOOR! 🙀🙀

[@racheltonner2509]

Love your videos! I feel like we're a lot alike! First of all, washing your face before bed is a MUST! Wash, tone, moisturize! I'm a bed maker. Makes me feel better at night not having to do it then when I'm tired. I know the hubby appreciates it to. I also like to do at least one thing a day, organizing wise and cleaning wise. I also like to assess and go through things that I don't need. I usually have a garage sale every year. And it's nice to declutter and make a little side cash for something else that's needed for our home. This year I might use my earnings for new pond chairs :) I'm learning overtime not to beat myself up when my list doesn't all get accomplished. Take things a day at a time!

[@deloreshall5459]

Hey Kallie. Great video. Have adopted the sink before bed months ago, and it sparked other things. Also the bed thing is my non negotiable. My now husband tried that years ago and was informed we make the bed everyday. I also feel its about respect. It is important to me.❤😊

[@cherylmcnutt9905]

I really enjoy your videos and the ideas you have to make things easier. The one I can’t seem to bring myself to do is to make my bed in the morning. My mother had us make our own beds from age eight. First thing every morning. But, when I was 12, she moved out. And although my brother was four years older than me, my father decided that as the only female, all the chores became my responsibility. I didn’t just have to make my bed, but my brother’s and my father’s as well. I had to do everyone’s laundry (including my brother’s athletic gear DAILY), plus dishes and vacuuming - also daily, house cleaning, taking out the trash, and mowing the lawn. My last few years I also had a part time job, and had to maintain A/B grades. As soon as I moved out (17), I stopped making my bed, unless someone was coming to visit. To this day, I will do it once or twice, then forget or ignore it for weeks. Do you have any suggestions on how to motivate myself to make my bed consistently? Thank you for your time.

[@HeronCoyote1234]

Honey, after all those years of abuse (face it, that’s what it was…I wonder if this is why your mom left), you do you! If and when you want to make your bed, for yourself, you’ll do it.

[@jadeh2699]

You are letting your childhood experience determine the neatness level of your adult home. Just start pulling the covers up over the pillows first thing when you get up. Within a few weeks you will be in the habit and can let that childhood feeling of unfairness float off to do its own thing somewhere else. I had the same issue with doing dishes. Now I do dishes right after meals (no dishwasher) and my kitchen is an enjoyable space because I'm not avoiding dishes all the time.

[@aprildawnsunshine4326]

Similar past here, though it was more of my parents just refused to clean or cook or even pick up behind themselves stuff like dishes or food trash. If it wasn't my "job" it was a "waste of time" and I often got yelled at for being up at 2am cleaning windows bc it was driving me crazy (and I have a reversed circadian rhythm so to my brain that's 6pm) I found that getting bedding I really enjoyed that's the highest quality I can afford (started with $20 "Egyptian cotton" sheets from the flea market 😆) made a world of difference. I have fibromyalgia and a pile of other stuff that makes keeping up with cleaning etc difficult so I don't fully make my bed every day but I almost always fold the blankets and top sheet down so it can air out and dry and I spray a mix I made of water, essential oils and either vinegar or alcohol (I go back and forth) to disinfect and make it smell wonderful when I get in. 😊

[@taniayoungson5614]

My suggestion is mindset. Now you're doing it for you and only you. You deserve it!

[@sp1704]

It sounds like your father has a misguided attitude that many men share, of avoiding personal responsibility. And then they hide behind "traditional" roles to cover their own weakness of character. A real man, provider, protector, role model, can and would be leading by example, picking up his own mess, making his own bed, delegating other household chores so everyone gets to take "pride in ownership." I'm sorry you and your mother dealt with that. I just want you to know that what happened to you, and how you were treated, was not right. He did a disservice to his son by not teaching him to use a darn washing machine(!!!). That said, another person's lack of personal accountability doesn't give us license to do the same thing; in that case, we're only hurting ourselves. Today, you have a choice. You can leave it messy, or you can choose self care. You can choose to be responsible even though others in your life may not have been. You can be the 'bigger person' and just do the right thing for yourself ❤ because it's the right thing. Eventually you may share your home with others, spouse, children, and you will be an excellent role model for them, teaching them how to do things for themselves, and delegating family responsibilities and chores. You can't change the past, but you have all the choices in this moment. Give yourself a little grace, too. You'll get there.

[@janneville7765]

Little things today = future me "peace of mind." Thank you for sharing these great tips!!

[@daisybuchanan5378]

1 small thing a day makes a huge difference. I usually continue on, but either way I feel accomplished and my space is improved. Then I don’t want to re-clutter.

[@mischaelpitt1040]

I do live minimally and am always on the hunt for new ideas for upkeep in my home. There isn’t much new information out there these days but this was truly helpful- thank you.

[@CookingwithCatLover0330]

You are so right! You can't change your spouse. We get married to the person we love, not the person we like and will change to love. Great video. Thank you. I've been getting the emails but never subbed to the channel. Don't know how that happened.

[@xotchilt1xd]

I'm learning something new every time. Thank you. 🤗

[@karayala1]

My husband was the early bird before we had our daughter then I became the early riser.. the bed was an issue for some time because my husband was used to me making it for so many years so I created a simple rule, whoever gets up last that morning makes it, and he agreed. This has worked like a charm ever since!

[@sharonmcmillin9978]

DeClutter first. That just hit me between the eyes. This is why I could never get ahead.

[@countrycleo5268]

Morning pigeon....LOL (it's 'early bird'). I'm a night owl, but I do make my bed every morning. Thought some mornings I have to wait until our dog gets out of it before I make it. I also clean the kitchen up before bed.

[@randomcat4052]

This was pne of your most helpful videos. Thank you! I really enjoyed it. Especially the part about living with an untidy person. My husband is actually the more clean person, I do like cleaning, but for some reason I find it hard to get started. My husband, however was more influenced by my lackadaisical style of life than I was of his more rigid structure so now we're both slobs.... I'm trying to change that. The house was cleaner before kids because I like cleaning but I like cleaning alone, which isn't conducive to teaching kids to clean. Instead they just think it's mom's job.... I did this to myself. *sigh* oh well. Now I am working on fixing it.

[@yamdimhcs4865]

I've been married for 8 years and my husband hasn't picked up any of my habits like tidying up, make the bed and organize. You're right we can't make our spouse to change.

[@rebeccastan6493]

Married 23 years here and my husband hasn’t pick up any of my habits either! 😂

[@vondrabejot9851]

I've been married for 45 years. The last 5 years he finally started taking his shoes off in the closet like I do. I'm still working on the mess he makes emptying his pockets on the top of the dresser instead of using the tray he has for it in the top drawer.😅

[@laneyoh5]

​@@vondrabejot9851 what if you move that tray to the top of the dresser? And maybe even eventually can shift it to inside the dresser? Even if you leave the tray on top of the dresser forever, it's still a contained area, and looks less cluttered than just a jumbled mess on the dresser top. 🙂

[@wellhello1603]

Because you do everything for him. Like most men, they like it’s clean when they don’t have to do anything, so they don’t bother. That’s why that “hack” doesn’t work and chores need to be split so everyone does their own thing.

[@andreawales1938]

Although your way of having the tray in the drawer is inspired, he may feel controlled and is being passive-aggressive about it. If it were me, I would move the tray to the flat surface of the dresser (right where he drops his things) and just have him put the tray away in the drawer when company is coming. In my case, my husband took over our computer armoire and always leaves it cluttered and open. My rule is that he must deal with it (and close the computer armoire) at least once a year before Christmas, so that it doesn’t distract from the festivities at Christmastime.

[@deborahjohnson9962]

😊Seeing your little ones helping, was a joy! Lots of great tips, thank you.

[@eSHOPFinds]

Absolutely love these game-changing shortcuts! 👏 Minimizing my wardrobe and creating a 'Drop Zone' for daily essentials has made such a difference. Thanks for the practical advice.

[@jacquicardillo4537]

This is a great video! You remind me very much of the Flylady system (no affiliation); shine your sink, make your bed, and get dressed to lace-up shoes when you get up (so your brain knows you are in "work" mode and not "relax" slippers mode lol

[@creativepotato816]

This is truly what I needed, especially before the holidays are in full swing!! When I feel overwhelmed your videos bring me peace and a real plan! Thank you Kallie!!

[@JodyFisher]

Agree on clothes! All clothes live in the closet/drawer (clean), the hamper (to be washed), or the washing machine (being washed). Also, I find one load a day for a family of four keeps the work in check. And I make the bed EVERY DAY.

[@jm_sunflower_girl4910]

The clean your kitchen sink hack I got from one of your videos has stuck! I never go to bed with a dirty sink 😊 thank you for always sharing great tips with us! From a long time viewer of your channel.

[@muchadoaboutkovu]

I’m realizing every time I have a kid, my collect things just in case mode is so much stronger, causing more clutter that then gives me anxiety. I’ve panicked thinking I needed something and then return it realizing I didn’t need it. It’s been a weird post partum battle..

[@junechristianson4528]

Love your approach to day to day habits.

[@suzannesharpeOUCH]

Kallie, thank you for being my go-to KZbin person for all things house organization, decluttering, life hacks, best/ favorite buys etc. I have actually downsized my list of “resource” people to make my life simpler. YOU are one of my two favorites. Happy new year and all best to you in the months to come!!

[@elmichele]

Thank you SO much for touching on the topic of spouses being different. I have not had a made bed for years because i get up earlier than he does (and a made bed is not important to him). It has bothered me but it wasnt a fight i wanted to take on. It feels good to have someone else say that its ok to pick your battles and let your spouse be where they are in their journey. ❤

[@brischmick]

I’ve been making the bed first thing for years. It’s automatic. If hub is still in bed, I just make up my side. Over the years, he now makes his side when he gets up.

[@nicoleparlor4483]

Our bed battle is... I work days, and my husband works nights! LOL. We've learned to make the bed twice! 😂

[@heard3879]

Well as a germophobe, if I drop a piece of clothing by accident, the moment a garment touches the floor, I rush to throw it in the laundry. But now this video makes me think about the fact that I don't rush to resolve other issues. If I have an item out of place, do I rush to put it away? No, I don't. And so my house is a chaotic mess. I need to add this level of self-discipline. Thanks!

[@user-vm5ud4xw6n]

Unfortunately I just redid my wardrobe because I lost a lot of weight that I wasn’t expecting. My clothes were literally hanging on me. I’m still struggling to determine my size but it’s no easy task. So this is one thing I’m going to have to skip and focus on other ways to manage clutter! If you want a laugh about making your bed, check out Admiral William H. McRaven’s speech at the commencement ceremony for the University of Texas’ 2014 graduation. Ten Life Lessons he learned as a Navy SEAL. The 1st one is “Make your bed.”

[@stephanielardner9150]

I remember watching that. Very good way to start your day. I make my bed as soon as I get out of it.

[@roesbud53]

Bless you for acknowledging you're adventure can help us. ❣️❤️❣️

[@crystalroldan-leben6522]

Just finished watching this. Now I'm gonna grab a notebook and rewatch it and take notes!!! These tips are so good! ❤🎉🔥

[@donna1018]

If you make potato chowder just add the can of cream corn to it! 😁

[@biadoras]

The only cloths going on the floor for me, is used socks I intend to use one more day. Everything else goes on a stool until it goes into the laundry basket. I am team 3: halfmake bed to let matress air out a bit. Mostly I make the bed because I know pet will sleep on it during the day. X) I really need to find better ”home” for my electronic stuff. External hd, cd drive etc. That, and I hate my kitchen. Gotta love all these kitchen having no pantry so you only have the option of oddly shaped cupboards to store food in. These are the two messy parts of my life I .. avoid touching. The rest.. is ok I ”only” need to learn to not buy more stuff haha. -I guess my point with the kitchen is, I don’t want to do decluttering or organizing when I know I have no good space to organize. Even if I clean it up ”prefect” it will be a messy pile of double rows of stuff.

[@heatherwoods5703]

You also don't have to wash everything all the time. Underwear? Of course. Socks, yes. But sweaters, tops, pants, consider whether it's actually dirty and smelly or could simply air out a little and be put away. Washing Eats clothes out faster, not to mention the work of doing it. Just a thought. 😉

[@shelleyjohnson345]

This is good!,, I’m getting a bag of clothes out! I’m a clothes addict! Make the bed, you are right! Keep up the good info!,

[@kambrose1549]

Now I'm on my own I have a single bed. I think that's why now at last in my 70s I am happy to make my bed. It's far less effort. I quite enjoy a double if I'm away but then in a hotel often someone else has the trouble of making it😏

[@katherinerichardson1767]

I love the realistic way you share. Thank you!

[@prisc.l4051]

love the mantra of doing things that the future you will thank for. I am a messy person but i.e my non negociable is dishes every night because the day after will already have a lot of things to do and I will not be happy to also have mess from the day before to deal with as well

[@mariacabrera2850]

I also make my bed in the morning. It's such a simple yet positive way to start the day🖤

[@tracyjackson4406]

You can't force your partner to care about the things that you do, but they should care because it's something YOU care about and YOU matter to them. It's about respecting your partner and wanting to make them happy even if the action of making a bed doesn't mean anything to you personally.

[@cyndij8312]

Yes! That's what I think, too. And there's probably something they care about but you don't so you can both do something for the other.

[@wellhello1603]

Exactly. Also it’s easier to split chores, everyone does what they like and you don’t have to wonder until the last day “when are they gonna lvl up” lol. When everything is done by one person, another doesn’t feel they need to bother

[@madelyngriffith-haynie9495]

No, no, no - they don’t have to care, they just have to do it! If having a messy bed is no biggie for them and having a made-up bed is a big thing to you, get real. If partners are unwilling to do what, for them, is a small thing that would make a big difference to you, name it what it is: selfish and uncaring (the behavior, not necessarily the person). Little things turn into huge arguments when they’re gunny-sacked. Since it’s wise to pick your “battles,” make sure to identify the things that ARE really important to you. If something is actually a “should” (based on someone else’s standard), that’s the time to let it go.

[@matat5549]

She just gets it.. so many helpful tips for me to use in my day to day. Thank you!

[@KrisKbob_Gaming]

Sadly there’s no making the bed in my house 😂 My husband currently works till 2am and most days I’m out of the house by 8:30am. Ah well lol

[@starlawalker8106]

So helpful!! You have helped me to be so much more organized over the last 3 years! Thank you!!

[@raisedonfm4106]

Love your content! Hoping you might consider NOT shooting your narrative clips with that computer monitor behind you. It is visually difficult for some of us to watch you with that visual clutter of the active monitor screen behind you. Appreciate your considering this. Another location against a neutral background will really allow visual and audial focus on you and what you are saying. Best wishes for continued success! Thank you! ❤

[@christopherramon-reid2000]

Great life advice here

[@NuckFamily]

The can of creamed corn! I feel seen....😮

[@jainasolofel2315]

The limited clothing thing only works if you have your own washer and dryer though. If you have to travel a bit to a laundromat and it’s hard to get there, having a small amount of clothing can be difficult. Just speaking from experience.

[@cyndij8312]

That's an excellent point! I also don't understand how having less clothing makes for less laundry. We would still have the same amount of laundry because we still get dressed. For example, 7 outfits for the week is still 7 outfits whether or not the closet is empty or has another dozen outfits in it.

[@jainasolofel2315]

@@cyndij8312 that’s so true! It still the same amount of laundry. It seems to me like it’s more of a mindset difference that actually has impact. Have a healthy relationship with the amount of clothing you have and not feeling overwhelmed by it may help you feel less overwhelmed by the act of doing laundry?

[@cyndij8312]

​@jainasolofel2315 I think you're onto something. Less overwhelming having fewer items of clothing. I retired last year and wear the same three blouses and capris when I leave the house and the same number of short sets for at home. I could eliminate about 85 percent of my clothing but it fits in the closet so it's not a priority. Before I had a house with a washer and dryer, I had to schlep to the laundromat. I hated going so much that I've been known to do 7 loads at a time! Enjoy your day.

[@HeronCoyote1234]

@@cyndij8312when I was doing my family’s laundry at the laundromat, I’d consider it my sanctuary time. I’d bring a book or magazine, and just chill while all the clothes got cleaned at the same time. It was actually faster and more relaxing.

[@cyndij8312]

@progressiveheart8333 definitely faster if doing a lot of laundry. Done within an hour and a half. It's just me but I can imagine the peace and quiet was welcome.

[@19stepha]

Thinking of my future self has been a game-changer!

[@amykrupa-wyckoff4601]

Loved these tips! The non-negotiables are really great and helpful as well.

[@Ranii1000]

I am slowly starting to see this switch in my husband. It has taken a long time and it's not perfect but I can slowly see things ✨️

[@Melissa-pq9cm]

Love all these points! Question for you.... how do you organize batteries?

[@maryclarelewis594]

Thanks for this info! Every time I hear more about decluttering I get motivated to try again!

[@dena-mo118]

If it were up to me, I'd have a fully made bed every day. Hubby isn't a fan of having to take off pillows and a bed spread every night. So, the compromise is having the bed made like it's ready for the bedspread and pillows. Our version of making the bed. 🙂 Still looks neat since the bed isn't like we just jumped out. Funny part is if we are leaving out of town, the bed will be completely made! Also if we know company is coming.

[@HeronCoyote1234]

Kallie, I think this was absolutely one of the best and most helpful videos you’ve made. And that’s saying a lot.