GBV & Getting into the mind of an ex-abuser

[@BBGBEAUTY_AFRICA]

Sis Kayise everything has prepared you for this moment. This is the calling. You're doing God's work. Enkosi Sisi ❤️👑

[@mahlozinibasi9560]

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[@SibaDaki]

Tumelo is so wise, I like how he takes accountability for his actions..he keeps on saying he hasn’t changed it’s who he is he just decide to walk away..may God continue healing him and heal the women he abused..

[@virginiamaponya100]

When listening to Tumelo, the choices of words he uses, how he structures his sentences and his reasoning capacity. He is intellectual and he can go far academically, only if he takes education serious. In short I’m proud of his journey

[@thandimhlongo2200]

Kayise I just want to say, I’m so proud of you. I’m so inspired by your journey. I remember during the OPW competition you always seemed so sure of yourself and I loved that about you. God is so good and I see His hand here. I’m happy for you that you found your light after darkness.You have a fan!❤️

[@degraciangubane480]

Accountability is everything.Very eye opening interview .Thank you for your honesty bhuti.

[@athimbutuma9149]

I think all of us guys need to have these kind of conversations, including women. The is too many layers to this problem, even women grew up seeing violence, either done by their own parents, neighbors, cousins, uncles, aunts etc. Even women ignore lot of red flags, tolerate these behaviors from the beginning, we are all liable to change our communities. Men need to lead these conversations because we are perpetrators.

[@huidanidemas3318]

This is one of my favourite KZbin channels, I love how raw the content is. Love from🇳🇦

[@SuzetteKhiba]

Team Namibia in the building ❤️🇳🇦🇳🇦 #suzettekeybah

[@evamutua151]

Well done Tumelo, this is a seed for another generation, the pain of yesterday shouldn’t reflect our tomorrow. It took pain to make you realise your pain needed healing. Thank you for being honest and true.

[@KNN-MEDIA]

We hope men watch this and change

[@mbucikimini5126]

Just came out of a 10 year relationship with the father of my two boys and currently pregnant with 3rd child and i finally walked away. All my pregnancies were a mess and i went through hell. I am still broken and learning to fight for the sake of my kids. He abused me verbally qnd emotionally first then 4 years into the relationship the physical abuse started.

[@preciouslekhoaba1699]

Good for you girl👌don't be attempted to go back

[@veshcaptain6789]

♥

[@royaltytreatwithmaite7550]

After watching all three episodes I know I made the right choice for enrolling for psychology.thank you for sharing this with the whole country ❤️🙏

[@timewithruth]

I agree! Anytime I watch videos like this I see the need to keep going in the field in Psychology, keep going sis x

[@futuremrshusband314]

Kayise. Your channel is doing great. This was a great conversation. I respect his honesty. I pray he gets through to abusive men to stop abusing our women! Much love from Namibia xx

[@meemwaakavlogs715]

An infant, wow

[@KNN-MEDIA]

Thank you my darling. This came from God and I pray that he continues to carry this platform

[@SuzetteKhiba]

Team Namibia ❤️🇳🇦🇳🇦 #suzettekeybah

[@laureatus_good]

It takes a certain level of strength to come out and share your story.

[@festinamapholo6353]

This man is soo wise, He is soo truthful , He knows life hle,experience has been such a great teacher to him. May God open up doors for you, we need more men like you. Kayise we bless the Lord for what you are doing I have gained a lot from this episode.

[@LilyMutamzTv]

This is who you are, you are very inspirational indeed. You are great.. Congratulations on this journey

[@mokgatatetelo4537]

Sister Kayise you should have a TV show this really deserve to be on tv may God always be with you and continue making you strong ❤😘💯

[@kegomatane3990]

I'm really proud of Tumelo that you taking a stand and embarking on a journey of change. I hope you can get through to men out there and again Thank you for your honesty. Sis Kayise you are God sent and keep doing a great job sis ❤️

[@pamelazwane2747]

“In most cases we look at the vulnerability of the woman“ I felt that

[@vuvumofficial]

Yhooo this is so deep. Men really needs help and needs to deal with the root cause. I'm so proud of my brother for coming out and tell his story.....

[@YandaSikosana]

Kayise, thank you for this interview! GBV has been around for the longest time and as much as I have been aware of it, I have learnt so much from this video - from After Dark in general. I am so proud of you as well. You are touching real and deep issues that people honestly need to listen to and normalise talking about. I pray that your content not only stays on KZbin but moves to our TV screens. Thank you!

[@princessnamethe7334]

GBV is deeper than the surface.. The Criminal Justice System is just a part of the solution.. I believe in Prayer and Psychology... Mental and Spiritual health is everything...Healthy Families =Healthy Society...

[@nomthandazoxulu9830]

This is your calling Kayise, thank you for this platform. 🥺

[@refiloemofokeng9800]

What an important discussion. What he said about every man looking at themselves is vital. So many behaviours need to change.

[@que.g6363]

I am so greatful for this guy's honesty. I wish everyone would get the opportunity to watch this. He gets into so much detail. When he says, an abuser would even look at how weak they perceive the woman's family then they feel they can do anything. I was taken a back really

[@KNN-MEDIA]

It is so painful. This was a difficult conversation but necessary.

[@bernicenkanyani2729]

Tumelo thank you for sharing your story.

[@faithfranca168]

This is so poweful. learning that I am part of the chain even if not directly. I have a responsibility as part of society. SO SO ENLIGHTENING

[@nompiloashleighdube7716]

Mixed feelings as I watch this. .just recently came out of an abusive 7 year relationship with my life Thank God but he broke me I'm healing picking myself up..some weren't as lucky they don't need rehabilitation they need harsh laws I'm still breathing but dead on the inside

[@evamutua151]

nompilo ashleigh hugging you with prayer.

[@KNN-MEDIA]

Sending love and light to you. May God heal you and protect you. I am grateful for your life

[@_.-Smile-_]

May the Holy Spirit walk this journey with you and give you peace and strength. Restoration in Jesus"!

[@rufaropraise1362]

nompilo ashleigh dube you’ll be fine nompilo. I was in your situation 2 years ago but God will restore life to u on the inside. Hold on Nompilo😭 I love you ❤️

[@nomvulairene4177]

May de good lord almighty continue gives inner peace 🙏

[@NBY3]

Wow Tumelo..thank you for your honesty..not all men are willing to come out about these issues...thank you Kayise for such a great channel

[@ThorisoMoalusi]

This is so insightful and Tumelos perspective is so important. We need more men like him ( ex perpetrators) to be honest with themselves and talk openly with people they can trust so that if they are struggling to stop, they can be helped.

[@katlegophiri1843]

I'm so proud of this man for recognizing that he had a problem and seeking help to fix it😊 SALUTE TO HIM FOR THAT ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾

[@simplygee7738]

I wish this conversation could go on and on, I loved how Tumelo spoke out..Keep it up brother,.We will be in a better world if we had people like you in our communities @Kayise i think you need a spot on TV coz not so many pple have the privilege to access here..Keep it up sis

[@zenandemazwi3126]

Thank you sisi for creating such a platform to shed light to issues affecting us on a daily. I am so proud of you and may you continue working towards your purpose. This is truly your calling❤️

[@Gomlie1970]

Tumelo is such a genuine and honest man. I commend him for that. He is very truthful and he is basically teaching us we have to be street smart and book smart. Change starts with individuals.

[@phindilemahlangu3103]

Thank you Tumelo for sharing your story, I wish you all of the best in your recovery. And thanks Kayise for bringing him to your channel and talking about such a difficult topic. I hope men (and women) learn that we don't have to experience trauma close to home for us to seek help. Let's recognise our demons and deal with them.

[@nondumisomahlangu4817]

This was such an informative watch. Thank you for your work ma'am

[@tendaidhliwayo7005]

Very helpful interview 👏

[@zinhlesibeko2329]

Wow..... Such an amazing and interesting topic. Tumelo, big up to you my guy

[@rwesirarecraft615]

I love his honesty and it's very true what he's ironing out facts about status how it usually plays out. Salute keep working on yourself

[@combomalikongwa1407]

Tumelo i'm soo proud of you.. really... i never knew why abusers do what they do.. i was in an abusive relationship last year, i was told the only way out was in a body bag.. i just managed to escape when i moved faaar away from him. Told me that won't stop him. But he's now in prison for his past doings.. i found myself saying thank God! For someone being in prison He says whatever emotional pain he feels, he takes it out physically.. regardless of who you are

[@jacquelinegumbeni4180]

"Man don't own Woman" stop abuse, abuse must fol. Thank you sisi kayise for your channel it's helping👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🇿🇦

[@zingimazongs274]

I honestly respect his honesty...and the will to be a better person and his reasons does make sense to me

[@ayanda4430]

This conversation triggered a lot of emotions for me. Thank you Tumelo for speaking your truth!

[@mosenngwammeshi2675]

Thank you for this, we need to get to the root of the problem in order to solve it. We are a broken society and we need to heal!

[@nangamsonduna4102]

Can someone put this on national television?!!

[@thutycrossbee3694]

Been waiting for the next one in anticipation... You are doing such an amazing job sis, touching so many lives. Ndi khu thandaa into e nga sphelo mama ka Zuko😘😘❤️

[@melteejay9071]

Loved the show 😍😍😍

[@juelzligola]

This is sooooo insightful. God bless you both

[@fiksmayende2571]

Well done ADwK, thank you for your show.

[@Cya.za.12]

Really eye opening. Thank you ❤

[@newfamilyghasacanada4817]

Wow this guy!!👏 he’s so eloquent in his speech

[@Clary_baby]

This guy is so well spoken and intelligent. I hope men of this country heal from whatever they dont talk about. Kayise your doing absolutely great work God richly bless you,❤ I always find myself crying everytime I watch people stories people are going through the most 💔.

[@missemz335]

Well done Tumelo.. I support what you said about taking action of what the government has been preaching. Talking is good, but taking action is what will solve what we are facing. These seeds need to be planted in men today, for them to plant that seed to the little boys. Nothing is impossible. Steps need to be taken, even if its baby steps, as long as we move forward. GBV is a serious pandemic.

[@andisilesikhundla8479]

Interesting conversation and from a different perspective. Wow it is insightful

[@duduzilemlaba7815]

This is underrated!! This should have a slot on TV 😭😭❤️❤️

[@busisiwemaseko6618]

This is so good, thank you Kayise

[@vuvuvee892]

Everything spoken by Tumelo is true, all abusers always have a past of a traumatic childhood but it doesn't excuse the behavior because in most cases the abused lives with the scars emotionally and otherwise for the rest of their lives. I hope in his changed ways he thoroughly asked for forgiveness.

[@NoloM-de4zh]

Just arrived ❤ in 2024….great episode….hope our beautiful host will go back to poscasting

[@azola_dawedi]

Tumelo thank you for being brave enough to talk about this....but for me I feel like yes we know that the problem is deep and it's childhood traumas but the should be consequences to their actions. Either death penalty or life sentence in jail qha. Because sothetha kude kube nini cacile amadoda azova xa kusenziwe into kubo qha

[@KNN-MEDIA]

The justice system has a HUGE role to play. We need them to step up and make arrests

[@aphiwesomi3640]

Yhooo Sesethu ndisathi ndicinga ulala, kwase kwangena inotification, ndaqonda andicingi ndilinde ndide ndivuke so mandiyibukele ndilale.

[@Connie_smash]

This goes to show how much work we need to do in raising a boy child. The history of this man shows how broken he is based on how he grew up and what he was exposed to.

[@sisandawilliams3047]

This interview is spot on 👌👌👌

[@fionaandiswandlovu9494]

His honesty 🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@sweethingization]

The healing must start somewhere. It will take time but he is hope that a person can change.

[@nompumelelokahlana2523]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️Thank you Sis Kayise

[@tshepangmasoleng8360]

Tumelo thank you for this!!... I don't even have words because this is our everyday lives in communities.

[@jabulilevilakazi7103]

Hi dear I thank God 🙏 for the change u r doing I love your channel it really inspire and helping me a lot keep on doing great things God is on ur side shine dear 🙏

[@Onalenna_Thobega]

Absolutely loved this 🎯🎯🎯🎯. Very insightful and very difficult to navigate. May God help us

[@nwabisamehlwana2962]

It must be so hard holding back when speaking to someone who has inflicted such unspeakable damage to women. Just listening to how they choose their victims. Not even seeming remorseful. I admire the work u do Kayise

[@lulelemons]

May god bless him and all the women ❤️

[@nondumisozungu764]

Omg Kayise.... Its really true that some times you need to go through tragedy to save lives

[@zizipomapipa2036]

I'm so proud of you Tumelo but in reality you are probably 1 man per 1000 deaths and as a South African woman in the kind of danger that I'm in currently I don't think we can risk the approach of rehabilitation and retribution at this rate of gbv. It's just not aggressive enough. Amadoda afanelwe yi death penalty qha ngoku even if it's for a few years. Kuphume I demon eli.

[@KNN-MEDIA]

Enough is Enough!

[@zizipomapipa2036]

After Dark with Kayise I will create a video about this on my channel and put the link to this video in my description❤️. Thank you so much for your healing channel and content. Healing begins with mindfulness and you're gracefully reminding us to be mindful sis' Kayise. Enkosi❤️

[@PalesasSpace]

This was very insightful 🙌

[@angelavanwyk2732]

Thank you for the show- it's always good going to the root.

[@chroniclesandbeyond.1285]

I really really loved this guy's honesty. WOW

[@zanelejantjie1377]

This guy yoh so much knowledge. Tumelo life has made you wise.

[@zamokuhlemashele7232]

GBV is a two way street, Tumelo is telling his side and how it all started, what developed it and all. Now his on recovery due to what he went through men don't talk and I don't understand why. Can we look at the ladies who abuse men or women too, how many times do they get called out or get called names when they are seen. Women have also landed a platform to abuse us or men and we don't bother addressing it, it seems like it's okay for them to do so, seems as if we've normalized it. Women are no longer victims but the perpetrators and they know that nothing will happen to them coz they so good to cry victim first. GBV is real but the biggest monster is the one who does things and acts innocent bafazi kwanele

[@benedictadzandu6576]

I love your channel very informative and inspiring

[@nonhlanhlamadlala7188]

This was such a good interview but I have a problem with the way we don’t want to interview people on their own home language Tumelo is OUR change ❤️🙈 This proved that woman are enablers, it truly starts with us and will be ended by us

[@pamelatsotsa683]

Thank you Kayise❤

[@bongiepeter7227]

I'm so proud of Tumelo, may God strengthen him🙏

[@godschild2716]

Woow ke speechless...for once in my life regarding GBV I have nothing to say... My heart is just broken nje

[@chroniclesandbeyond.1285]

Tumelo you are doing great!

[@nobuhlexulu3685]

He needs a hug. He misses his mom 😭🖤.

[@mbalimthimunye]

I love this ❤️😢

[@phindiledlanga7027]

"Women are on their own" listen,facts!

[@lalumbehakhakhi852]

POWERFUL!!!!

[@bonolomasuku5896]

This is an eye opener, learned so much as i have been emotionally and verbally abused before. Mr Mabena congratulation on obtaining your matric qualification.👍👌✌

[@tlangelanimaphophe98]

Insightful

[@unswaggerfied]

I'm not sure how to feel about this...

[@zoemnguni9729]

Hurt people hurt other people

[@slondiwephakade8191]

My fav show by far💞💞💞💞💞

[@TarCarNey]

Keep doing the Lord's work sis

[@thulisilemlambo5924]

Sis I love you and tumelo

[@Whitebarberian]

This is so work to be on the mainstream media

[@onkgopotsemalele2885]

GBV must end. We go through a lot as women everyday

[@sesethusam9623]

Normalizing abnormalities 😭🥺💔

[@SuzetteKhiba]

So sad hey 😥😔 #suzettekeybah

[@sisiphoB]

Backround is important. Yhuu

[@actionqueens7216]

Great content- GBV needs to end

[@nondumisozungu764]

And it's true we are a programmed to think that if he hits me he loves me and we as women need to break the chain... And stop normalizing abuse. If he loves you he won't lay his hands on you

[@motheowalerato701]

Can't wait to watch🥺🥺

[@rebeccamusyoki8039]

I wish more men would watch this!

[@basetsanarantswaneng]

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