Gen Z & Lonely In The Philippines: Why Do Filipino Youths Feel So Alone? | Insight | Full Episode

[@jonross8925]

I've been coming and going to The Philippines for over 40 years and now retired and living here. I think another reason for Gen-Z Filipinos loneliness is because the lack of physical spaces like; the house they live in and not enough parks and open spaces freely available to the people. Over population and lack of jobs and lack of money doesn't help either, people can't afford to go anywhere, only barely enough to survive day to day. OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker) are another reason, all of those kids of OFWs are with their father or relatives while mostly the mother gos to work abroad. Not enough social welfare for most Filipinos, nothing is free here, every pill cost money, no free health care.

[@seasuccotash5999]

I'm not a Gen Z but having friends is still hard for me because we need to have the free time or money to go outside.

[@alcal928]

I work in sales and we hire mostly Gen Z. In metro manila i don’t think jobs or poverty are the problem. Philippines are way poorer before but we dont have this problem actually we are tag as one of the happiest. In the world. In our industries we have problems hiring the Gen z they there not much who wants to work after college they have manny choice the sales and BPO industries we are very aggressive hiring them we even went. To the universities to hire them even they are not qualified the companies are hiring them many jobs are now open the philippines and the salary might that big but as a single Genz they can survive and find new better jobs just like in the other countries. This is deferent i think its more about the absence of parents who are OFW and separated parents and the addictions to gadgets and social media. As stated the filipino spend more time in The social media. Than the rest of the world. I left facebook years ago and it really help me focus on things have youtube now and i am happy with this. Schools should actively participate on this and ban all gadgets in school

[@darksigben]

True. 😢

[@angeloacorda8730]

Cause of politics curruption😮

[@rllmgr6117]

@@alcal928 The lack of fulfilling jobs and systemic poverty ARE problems. Don't hyper-focus on the job part because of your personal experience working in sales at BPO. Most people don't even get fulfillment from working BPO jobs; it's a highly draining profession that only cares about company profits, with competition at the forefront. These jobs lead to social isolation when the employee lacks close friends in the workplace. It's a nightshift job, with no actual human interaction on-the-job, just talking to hundreds of strangers from a faraway continent. As a nightshift job, it also prohibits interaction with a person's community outside of nightshift workers and ruins our circadian rhythms. Working BPO jobs makes people feel even lonelier. Believe me, I've worked in a BPO for 5 months, and it was the worst 5 months of my life. I had close friends there, but it just ain't enough with the lack of third spaces. We aren't even mentioning the exploitation of workers with the grueling lack of paid overtime. Also, you can read his whole comment again. "I think another reason for Gen-Z Filipinos loneliness is because the lack of physical spaces like; the house they live in and not enough parks and open spaces freely available to the people." "...people can't afford to go anywhere" We barely make any money to survive. How are we, in good conscience, going to spend money to have a fun time with friends in this economy? Banning gadgets from school won't solve anything. The parents need their children to bring gadgets for easy communication and safety, the Philippines isn't a safe place. We first need to accept that the Philippines is struggling, then we can acknowledge the problems and find solutions for them. Shifting blame to inanimate devices will not solve anything.

[@Xoxotenowone]

Dati sobrang friendly ko, kaso dahil rin sa mga naging kaibigan na-stress din ako. Kaya mas pinili ko liitan yung mundo ko pagdating sa pakikipag-friends. Ngayon mas tahimik at nakakatipid pa ako sa pera. Maganda pa rin naman na may nakakausap ka paminsan-minsan, pero hindi kasi lahat mapagkakatiwalaan mo.

[@fishstar3740]

We share the same feeling.. I had a very bad experience being too friendly.

[@journevivbasco3462]

same me..

[@junmiyagi9300]

Naramdaman ko noong bigla akong umaseno maraming inggit , galit, nangungutang ,at nagnanakaw pa. Kaya totoo na mas maige pang tahimik, matipid, at hinde mo na mapagkatiwalaan ang tao.

[@ILovePlayingZeldaGamesOnSwitch]

Ako naman never nagkaroon ng barkada, 1 o 2 lang maximum ko nkakasama kahit nung elementary pa ako at hanggang ngayon sila padin yung nkaka usap ko. Nakakastress maraming kaibigan, marami kasing judgmental at inggitero.

[@purplepaints1234]

Umiwas sa mga friends na utangera or yung friends na mahilig magpabirthday kasi iimbetahin ka pero kailangan mo bumili ng regalo pati sa bday ng mga anak-anak nila… ppakialam mo ba sa anak nila…

[@wynignatius9289]

I think there's a reason for that : 1. We Filipinos are communal, but we lack great spaces for us to bond like green spaces, public parks etc. We only have malls and hostile concrete jungle plus, ineffective public transpo. Seems like good urban planning will affect an individual's mindset after all 2. Our current socio-political environment. Most Filipino youths (even millennials) felt distrust and disillusionment towards the establishment and institutions. A rude awakening for them that in our environment, we are here just to survive, not living. We can't find any reason to love our country because how messy our socio-political dynamics until now. 3. Some parts of Filipino culture emphasized collectivism, extreme conformism and stigma, we don't have room for comprehensive understanding, personal growth, boundaries, social transparency and rationality. 4. Most Filipinos use social media A LOT because there's lack of "third spaces" or coping mechanism to beat boredom. Maybe social media usage will be fine if its done in moderation. 5. Disillusionment with religion.

[@livlim1738]

5 👍👍👍

[@TheKimpawlee]

Can you please explain the #5.

[@wynignatius9289]

@@TheKimpawlee the reason why there are some people leaving or being skeptic in religion bc there's abuse, corruption and manipulation inside the church. The church supposed to be the safe place for troubled and lost people but, it's the same place where we discover irony and hypocrisy of every religion

[@DrunkTranquility]

​@@wynignatius9289 Damm true

[@davidarvingumazon5024]

​@@wynignatius9289 I'll go comment with Chat GPT's Logic, because it's more logical than you.

[@DanielHYNg]

As a parent myself, it's important to listen to our children's feeling and expression when they are speaking and not waiting until you are free to listen to them.

[@libconservative3481]

I hope that your not validating their "feelings"... That's how you create depressed people..

[@intotheunknown21]

@@libconservative3481 Sometimes all you need is someone to make you realize that what you feel is normal and that you are not alone and it's just part of life to feel these feelings. Empathize. Acknowledge it. Help you navigate these emotions you're experiencing. This is how you grow as a person. Not by shoving it under the carpet, bottling it up until it burst into tiny little pieces and lose control of it and your self in the process. It's very important to a support system. Be it your family or your friends. Humans are social species. We hunted together we established close knit societies throughout history. This is how we survived. Loneliness is not just a "feeling". It's just a symptom of something real that's eating up inside you and you need someone to help you get through that. It's very difficult if not impossible to make it on your own.

[@ArifWiwitan]

​@@intotheunknown21 feeling is fragile as physical body, generally you want to give it good nutrients and let the body grow on its own and heal on its own naturally. Generally you want to avoid surgery, you dont want your insides organs exposed. Feelings also like that, you want good feelings from good activites. Normally you dont want to dive deep and do surgery, except for very rare cases.

[@shin9766]

​@@ArifWiwitan You should seriously stop having opinions about these topics.

[@ArifWiwitan]

@@shin9766 No. I will consider your input once you attach some reasonable arguments in it. On the other hand, I want to remind you of the importance of getting used to others having different opinions than yours. If you keep yourself surrounded exclusively by people who share identical worldview, you risk getting trapped in an echo chamber, and your growth as an individual will be stunted.

[@jechuwen]

Because investing emotions in someone is very exhausting, especially when they don't connect with you or don't care at all. The burden we carry as millennials and Gen Z in building our future is massive. We have to work harder just to build our future, but it will never be enough. The pandemic has triggered this isolation even more, and we found happiness and connection through social media. The sad part is, once you get used to being alone, it will be difficult to socialize with others. So you tend to stay at home or in your room.

[@glidden67]

💯

[@nabimoreno4734]

Absolutely!

[@mjjm0706]

real

[@laturista1000]

Lonely men jerking off alone to jerkmate in their dark bedroom. Lonely women alone shopping on Temu while eating donuts and sweets. Wake up gen z!!! Turn off the phone

[@boomerangerful]

Story of my life

[@smudge82_]

Actually. Gen Z is the most socially connected generation. The problem is that this socialization happens online. And when this generation starts to equate esteem and self worth with number of followers and number of comments and likes, that is when they feel not loved or valued and feel alone, leading to loneliness.

[@nursedada]

totally agree with this… this is not just here in the Philippines but all over the world…

[@MrFree2nest]

What you said is for me the most remarkable statement about this pressing issue. Thanks for bringing it out.

[@cutekitty3067]

And the youths today (I'm not saying all but many of them) lack spirituality to give them a purpose in life, and they don't engage in worthy hobbies and skills development that will give them a sense of fulfillment, most youths are just engrossed in social media like Facebook where they see others better than them, they also don't communicate much on an intimate level with their parents or siblings and relatives, but prefer to confide in friends that can't give them sound advice. They don't like to be corrected they feel misunderstood most of the time. It's like they have their own world. This is just my observation no hate!

[@dm3280]

We are not ready for this rapid advancement in technology specially in the internet. It definitely has a lot of advantages in regards to communication, but it also has huge impact on people's morals and emotions, and yep the youth are the most susceptible. The pandemic is also a big turning point in this regards.

[@justmeagain9302]

​@@dm3280 there is hardly any morals left in facebook, people are so open for hate speech for a bunch of reacts and their audience are buying all of that nastiness like a herd

[@Ssoonnyy]

I am grateful for being an introvert, as extroversion has become a skill I've mastered. This means loneliness is never an issue for me.

[@tyranidswarmlord9722]

Same. The pandemic kicking in was paradise for me. BPO place i worked at, who is absurdly the most anti WFH ever and was the last to give in, was forced to engage WFH. The freetime from daily traffic let me upskill and jumpship to being a VA, just in time since a few months later it was the first place to get rid of WH ...Now i've been complacent as hell cruising for the last 3 years lmao. Edit: My only problem right now is waiting for the inevitable 5.56 ban lifting, that way i can instantly start my Counter Strike Collection(M4, AKM, and Mp5 clone) kekekekekekekekekke.

[@iceteazen]

Same I prefer being alone too. it is very peaceful

[@linda.yuri999]

@@iceteazen🔥❤️

[@hansanichannel4828]

I think I can live alone it's a good time don't need to spend alot money for "friends" 😂

[@Lftarded]

Iba Ang introvert sa loneliness Kapatid. Ang paging introvert is madali Kang mapagod makipag socialize, doesn't mean you're antisocial at all. Mas relax ka sa solitude pero di mo parin kayang mapagisa. Tulad ko, introverted pero Hindi ako magiging Masaya kung Wala Ang mga kaibigan, pamilya, at pusa ko

[@Ma.JohannaPekitpekit]

Loneliness is real but growing up, I am exposed to rock music and it seems to be speaking directly to my soul. It gives space and it helped me go through my feelings.

[@mitchmill28]

I relate to you po.

[@jeenkins3766]

I feel you

[@mrconfusion87]

Rock and Metal speak to these types of people! I know cuz I felt that way too...

[@stanunleash2456]

Yes, for now puro love song nalang

[@oliverwendellgo7396]

Alrighttttt

[@mudirmindset]

Im a filipino and base on my observation. It is due to lack of socialization or physical activity with their friends. Social Media is a big impact on the new generation because they are not active in a real world or reality.

[@davidarvingumazon5024]

Hmmm, I'm from Philippines Quezon City, Kalimutan street bahala na. In my observation, I don't feel the new generation here in my area being lack of socialization with their friends.

[@ThinkingJames]

I almost have no friends. Im perfectly happy about it. I got to save and invest kahit maliitan and also travel the world.. I don't rely on others to be happy. I slowly turn down all invitations na makuha ko I don't like socializing talaga. Everytime na may team building sa company ko palage ako kabado kung paano lulusutan ng hindi sumasama. Every lunch out I always turn down invitations to join not because I dont like them but because I just love being alone.

[@DigitalNomadFella]

​@@ThinkingJames INFJ-A 🤙

[@Ravenoustoxic]

true

[@eduardochavacano]

memes and motivational videos turned everyone to a wannabe life coach and that made everyone overthink everything.

[@clownman9404]

Simple! I sometimes felt like this country is a prison for us ordinary people and a paradise for the corrupt. Look at our work environment, the politics here, our hospitals, our insurance, our expenses! Is there really a good future here?

[@jamestanchico1599]

Our country is a dystopian world

[@OtherwiseBother909]

I mean, that's the reality. Unless you have the means to go abroad, then go. But if you are like me, make the most of it. Politics? F**k them. Wala ka nang magagawa jan. I don't even watch news ffs walang magandang balita. Medical, insurance etc? Get a remote job like VA that doesn't require you to pay mandatory government contribution coz f**k them. F**k patriotism na nagcocontribute ka ng tax, ditch that idea men. Habang yung mga nasa posisyon perpetually f**k us. Wala kang mahihita sa mga yan pag kinailangan mo. Philheath? f**k them as well. Max 15k lang makukuha mo jan for any type of sickness. Pag nadedo ka maswerte ka siguro jan kung maka-50k jan. Lugi ka pa sa total contribution mo. SSS? Pagibig? f****ng debt trap. From now on, give zero f**ks and rely on yourself. You can do it men!

[@cole8753]

Yup we are slave in our own country and overseas.

[@mijikanijika]

I have no pride, love to this country I despise it so much even when I see someone bashing Philippines I join them too, that's just how much I despise this country, it could go crumble I don't care, It's a waste for our so called "Filipino Heroes" in the past just for them see their hard work gone to vain.

[@user-11Il10I1]

@@mijikanijika Agreed. This country is a hell hole. Nothing to be proud here.

[@DonShei]

This is why I have utmost disgust to corrupt politicians in the country. They failed the Filipinos that we decided to go abroad and separate from our (my) kids, just provide food on the table. I just had a lengthy discussion with my daughter just a few hours ago. She is clinically depressed on medications, been studying online, and is going to have a F2F classes in a few days and so scared of the possibility of rejection. I remind her to be positive and find friends. I always teach/remind her of the concept of "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz that tackles with self awareness and peace within one self (I highly recommend this book). I always teach her the consequences of her actions and inactions to certain scenarios, and taking responsibility. I believe, boosting the confidence of our children is the best way for them to move forward in the toxic information age that we are right now.

[@davedave3520]

Even Japan experiences loneliness bro

[@snarveien1853]

We have OFW culture eversince. So Its not the main reason. The reason is we, parents & educational institutions, don't teach our kids how to balance & understand the physical & the digital worlds. Filipino Adults, who are communal people, also lacks understanding of mental health, so instead of paying attention to the problems of the digital teens, we ignore it. Often I hear adults giving wrong advices, instead of seeking psychological help. Add to that the isolation during the pandemic that caused a lot of mental health issues to people, especially kids, that probably has never been addressed by their parents, coz to be fair, due to lack of mental health knowledge, parents also do not know how to observe it. That anxiety in your kid in going to physical class is a sign of anxiety, which is a mental health issue. Filipino parents always just try to do what they think is right, but most often is wrong.

[@kwjan]

Don't blame the loneliness problem in politics alone lol.

[@Thomasthewankengine]

@@kwjanit’s true tbh

[@lyradc2737]

I am 30 yrs old and I have a nephew... As much as possible we don't let him hold cellphone. We want him to play the traditional games like patintero, tumbang preso, hide and sick.. even when he goes home dirty playing from outside, we don't scold him. I don't know if it is considered bad parenting when they exchange technologies with activities that you can bond. Heck, I even see children watching from their mothers cellphone even when they're eating.

[@kister2012]

Being alone its not mean that you are lonely. Sadyang may mga tao talaga na mas gusto nila ang mapag isa kaysa makikisama sa mga taong toxic sa kapaligiran nila, lalo na kung ang mga taong nakaka salamuha mo ay wala namang magagandang maiidulot sayo kundi puro lakwatsa at inuman lang ang nasa isip, ikaw na may gusto magandang gawin sa buhay mo bakit ka makikisama sa kanila kaya mas gusto mo pang mapag isa atleast may oras kapa lalo sa sarili mo at magagawa mo ang mga bagay na may kabuluhan sa buhay mo.

[@kikaykimy]

100%

[@cloud1n6]

Ganyan n ganyan ako. Walang kaibigan, walng inaanak, lagi lng akong nasa bahay laging mag isa. Hirap ako humarap sa maraming tao. Kasi kahit n makihalobilo ako mabilis lng din nila akong makalimutan hindi na rin nila ako naaalala.

[@kister2012]

@@cloud1n6 Ganyan talaga kapag nakakasanayan muna ang palaging mag isa, pero hindi naman masama kung minsan unti-unti tayong lumabas sa maliit na mundo kung saan kinukulong natin ang ating sarili, pwede tayong makikipag usap sa mga kapitbahay, kamag anak pa unti-unti hanggang sa magkakaroon ka ng taong makaka usap hindi man palaging face to face pero kahit sa mga soc med. basta piliin mo lang din kung sinong mga tao na komportable ka na makaka usap sila. Minsan din kasi sadyang may mga taong hindi ka komportable lalo na kung mararamdaman mo na hindi sila totoong tao sila 'yong mga dapat mong iwasan. ☺

[@kister2012]

@@cloud1n6 Ganyan din ako minsan. Medyo mapili din kasi ako sa mga taong pwede kung kausapin, kapag nararamdaman ko na hindi ako komportable sa kausap ko iniiwasan ko na sila, doon ako sa mga taong komportable akong kausap. Lalo na noong nag work na ako kailangan mo talagang kausapin mga kasamahan mo hanggang sa 'yong iba nakaka biruan ko na nakakapag lagayan ko na ng loob niyaya nila akong mag out of town. Iba din kapag meron mga taong ganito doon mo ma realize na malawak pala ang mundo at mas masaya pala kapag merong mga taong makaka usap hanggang sa namalayan muna na meron ka nang masasabing kaibigan hindi man ganon ka close pero 'yong makaka usap at makaka biruan at nakakatawanan mo araw-araw andoon 'yong pakiramdam na magaan at parang lumiwanag ang mundo mo. 🙂

[@tca666]

Sa trueee 😊 in my case i dont want to talk to anyone who has no money. 😊

[@Nitsudog]

Can't say for the entire country but the way Metro Manila is laid out mean there's a shortage of so called "third spaces", that and our horrible transportation system means spontaneous connections simply doesn't happen for the majority.

[@gabrielarenas2067]

I agree for the most part with the horrible transportation system but there is not much of a shortage of third places. I will be transparent of my situation as I live close by to Makati, Quezon, and Taguig so there's no trouble of transportation in my part as I can take one line of service and I would be in 3 of the top cities in Metro Manila. But besides that point, I find that there is plenty of third places and I believe most people don't notice it as much is because most of the time people would rather ride jeepneys, tricycles, cars, to get to their destination rather than walk and take in the surroundings. If you try walking to any street close by you'll see a ton of bars, hangout spots, local businesses, etc. I love good urban planning as much as you but Metro Manila is highly mixed-used zoning so there's no shortage of "Third places" because of our well known dense-population. It's traffic, the horrible transportation infrastructure, car centric designs, and corruption, that plagues Manila and wastes the time and efforts of the people.

[@markmywords3817]

​@@gabrielarenas2067only Quezon City is probably the best when it comes to public third spaces like parks and libraries, and the UP oval, but those are lacking in other cities, Makati has small pockets of parks but that's about it. BGC has improved somewhat by adding more chairs and tables that don't require a purchase. If you were to meet someone like friend or family outside of your house, the meeting place almost always defaults to a mall sometimes forces you to buy something in order to sit. I'm looking at you SM 👀

[@MultiWilliam15]

@@gabrielarenas2067 Technically, you are right, but I don't like how these are all commercialized spaces. Sometimes I just want to hang out at a park, not to pay for recreational activities at the nearest SM mall nor to dine at a trendy cafe. Filipinos like to vilify the 'tambay sa mall' culture but if there's not a lot of things to do for free outside, then might as well go to a mall with free AC.

[@alexgraxe8423]

Our old politicians failed us

[@davedave3520]

Filipinos keep blaming transportation, even Japan with excellent transportation experience loneliness

[@g7enn89]

Growing up in the 90's, its so different back then, so many of us kids playing/exploring outside. But now, the streets are so empty, the kids are all inside with their smartphones/tablets or PC.

[@buhagsigwasan2259]

gee I wonder why (capitalism)

[@earthtoshea]

consequences din bad parenting ng mga millenials

[@freespirit12]

Exactly. If I could compare my younger years to my adulthood, I am more alive and myself back then. I am always outside playing with my cousins and exploring what my passion is. Nung ngstart yung social media, doon ng simula yung ngless yung real connection with people. Kahit ngayon, kahit ngkikita with friends, naka cp parin😕

[@deprecated_14]

I remember growing up sa isang compound dati. Marami kaming mga bata naglalaro sa labas. Then one day one of the neighbor's kids got wifi and shared it with everyone in the compound. Tas after wala na kong kalaro kasi nauso na rin ang ML 💀

[@crenui]

I wouldn't blame technology and socmed as the sole factor of GenZ loneliness. As someone from GenZ myself, I grew up being an active/outdoors kid up until I went to highschool. I changed from a local neighborhood school to a bigger, more known school and the environment and culture were completely different. Before HS, the extra minutes of break time and the time after dismissal where me and others waited for our sundo to come were spent playing on campus grounds and socializing with other students. Since we were a small school it wasn't that uncommon for older kids to interact with the lower batch. In HS naman, we couldn't do anything as we would get reprimanded for using the basketball court during non PE hours (not to mention even stricter policies to even try getting stuff like badminton rackets into campus) This made interaction through apps like messenger, snapchat, IG, or discord much more prevalent. Connecting with others online was much more convenient when it came to studies, projects, or even just to chat especially with our schedule that basically took the entire day. Another change that also I've noticed is that none of the community events I used to attend like christmas parties and halloween have much to do with children. I met most of my childhood friends because of these events having segments solely focused on having children interact with each other. Nowadays they don't have anything going for the younger generation if they even hold these events.

[@pakemohrm320]

Too much time alone with social media… lacking true human touch, human interaction.. real life human warmth. its alright to feel lonely but know that you are loved and never alone.. but no one can help unless you decide to truly help urself, life is good.. you are beautiful, your life is waiting to happen. Go out and explore the world around you, expand your circle and experience life. Keep going, keep moving.. you are strong & God loves you.

[@benjaminfrancisgonzales8431]

In addition, Filipinos don't like to be judge by others thus avoid meaning full conversation. Filipinos like to avoid confrontational conversation. We also lack critical thinking since we are brainwash by Government official (rich people) to keep the poor and have not consuming TV shows (Comedy, ASAP, Game shows) that require very little thinking. we are far behink in Critical thinking when compared to other ASEAN countries.

[@betamass3803]

You said "no one can help you only yourself" if that's the case why do we need the other people when we have our self in the first place?

[@pakemohrm320]

@@betamass3803 No matter how much other people give help if you can not find it within urself to live and fight for ur life or to overcome ur problem it would all be for a naught. If u can not find within urself ur own worth in this world u can just easily decide to accept defeat & end ur life because at the end of the day no matter what other people say or do to u only u can decide to accept or reject everything and anything… i said no one can help UNLESS u decide to truly help urself.. i did not say we dont need other people’s help… there must be a recognition & acceptance.

[@chunellemariavictoriaespan8752]

... Then you mom goes, "I don't trust people outside. What if you get hurt out there or you trust the wrong people?"😂 Granted, she is a single mother😂

[@mendicius_jade]

I don't know if it was connected to the loneliness I went through during pandemic but, but I used to speak more eloquently before COVID. After pandemic, I stammer a lot. I lost confidence with my speaking skills which used to be my asset.

[@Koreyisadumbfuck]

me too!

[@gizmomac1520]

Same! I used to read and socialise well, but now I tend to stutter a lot, and I think the brain fog from COVID. It sucks!

[@aikavi5614]

Filipinos are naturally sociable but the pandemic prevented many young people from enjoying school and social life.

[@derbdep]

not naturally. Its all socialized. We need a culture that values quiet and alone time. Culture dictates that when you're alone, you're "lonely". More introverted cultures don't force this view. Hence it drives people to feel depressed simply by being alone. The culture needs to change. As an introverted Filipino, I was made to feel like an outcast for not wanting to constantly be around people and noise. Our values need to match human behavior, or more people who don't know how to feel content alone will fall into depression.

[@bugsy101073]

Loss of Christian values and influenced.by western wokeness

[@aikavi5614]

@@derbdep very good point. People shouldn't equate aloneness = loneliness. That way we won't automatically equate friendliness = happiness

[@COUNTVLAIDMIR]

​@@derbdep And where has those cultures gotten them?, i.e. Japan, south korea, eyc....lower birthrates, collapsing economies.

[@justmeagain9302]

​@@derbdeptrue u explained what im thinking perfectly

[@yourweirdbanana]

Watching this documentary has truly opened my eyes. I used to consider myself a friend of loneliness, but thankfully, I am saved most of the time by the grace of God.

[@lastsaint4162]

God daw? Meanwhile here I am depressed because of religious trauma. Culto pa more 😂 basta culto Matic bobo. Bobo boomer for sure. Walang touch sa reality. Always god god tapos corrupted trash parin ang bansa.

[@BoknoyBuhisan]

alone but not lonely. no social media except youtube for me now.

[@CrystalAmanda7106]

Me too

[@BoknoyBuhisan]

@@CrystalAmanda7106 everybody wants to be special when it's totally normal to be insignificant. the young can't accept it because of social media.

[@addicted2me]

Me too. ✌️ peaceful

[@MarkAnthonyS-w1r]

youtube is still social media

[@mico_lodeon9116]

@@MarkAnthonyS-w1rbut not as hardcore as the others

[@LeonahMagalona]

Because it's not affordable to consult with a psychiatrist, it's not included on my health card coverage. Pandemic made me lonely. But I used social media to connect with my friends and relatives.

[@br0wnskiin22]

Depending on social media for happiness is a major concern. Born in the 80s we were always outside and cried when we had to come in the house. Now a days these kids rely on social media

[@metardis1670]

Same here. When the street lights came on, that was the time to head home. The only other thing that got us inside earlier was to eat food and watch a TV program, both of which we did as a family. God bless.

[@shin9766]

Yea, blame it on the kids. Wtf is the point of your opinion lol? Pointless.

[@metardis1670]

@@shin9766 Nobody blamed anything on the kids. Bark less...read more.

[@elyjane6296]

The thing is, this happens because the adults that are suppose to be there for us have instead become the source of fear especially during childhood. This is not just a matter of Filipino youths being addicted to their phones instead it is from the experiences they grow upon. I, myself, experienced a rough childhood where I was being bullied by my peers but it doesn't compare to when I was shamed by my own teacher during elementary school. I know at that time I've made a grave mistake, however, I don't think an adult shaming or mocking a child was the right way to go. There's other instances where the parents becomes the abusers themselves. So from what I've experienced and from what I've seen and heard, this loneliness that Filipino gen z's experience is due to the adequate ways of adults using their authority to supposedly "teach" us. As a result, children who grow up experiencing similar scenarios often bottle up their emotion, disabling them from expressing themselves and creating meaningful connections to other people. This is also the reason why i believe that Filipino gen z's often spend their time on their phones in order to relieve their loneliness even for just a short stretch of time.

[@hijodelsoldeoriente]

It's very weird as a Filipino. Our culture is probably the most extroverted in Southeast Asia. In fact, as an introvert, I find it uncomfortable. So I was surprised to hear about this. Maybe it's this extroverted and communal culture that is driving loneliness itself? Since I often think that people want to be with their friends to not feel lonely but once they go home, this feeling of loneliness is severe. Perhaps Filipinos should learn to be more introspective and learn how being alone doesn't mean being lonely.

[@migspedition]

Pretending is a Filipino trait as well.

[@derbdep]

You hit the nail on the head.

[@aldrinrialnavarro888]

napaka judgemental ng society natin kya nagiging pretentious tayo para hindi mahusgahan ng ibang tao.

[@ILovePlayingZeldaGamesOnSwitch]

I am an ofw in SG, 99% of the time alone din ako, sa una lang yan lonely o boring pero may realization na mas maganda pang mag isa, less stress and drama.

[@lionflame21]

The pandemic lockdowns hit our "extroverted" culture very hard - particularly this generation.

[@lstr0736]

It's not just about social media. It's because there aren't enough places where people can do things together.

[@nanetha13]

Or maybe not, there are more places available today than from my time, and yet we grew up just fine.

[@TheCanderemy]

​@@nanetha13you need to pay for those now though. And those that always had a fee or places like cafes and restaurants, the prices are just ridiculous because of inflation. Yes there are options, but they aren't wallet friendly or actually provide fun activities.

[@AnlinLee]

Govt doesn't care. All they care is their tax collection.

[@thecatreturns22]

​@@TheCanderemy true almost always there is a price you have to pay to hangout with friends it's just not free nor accessible to those who can't afford it

[@lstr0736]

@@nanetha13 like what💀 park where you need to travel 10+ km?

[@exi1424]

May I just say that while we may have different perspectives regarding this issue, we have absolutely no right to discredit people who can relate and attest to this piece pf information. What's true for them might not be in yours, but that doesn't take away the possibility that this is a reality for some.

[@viej2414]

preach 👏

[@joshuamartinez8598]

Thank you CNA for bringing this kind of information to the world. I hope my government will make steps to mitigate this social issues we have in my country.

[@icelbigl9289]

With how this country is being run, how can you be truly happy?

[@mjdin4705]

True. Like, just thinking about what future awaits us in this country is already very depressing in itself.

[@jiroshia1375]

kung always nakadepende yung happiness mu sa leaders ng country, you won't be really happy all the time. It seems like you have a burden for our country's leadership? how about you take a run as a leader/start being a good politician if possible in a small community? until you become a bigger politician

[@Sugaranch]

@@jiroshia1375what kind of thinking is this? May sinabi ba na nakadepende ung happiness nila sa leadership ng bansa? Malamang may factor din un sa overall well-being ng isang citizen. Gantong mga comment puro pilosopo alam e

[@mjdin4705]

@@Sugaranch ganyang klaseng mga obob na tao ang gustong gusto nang mga kurap na politiko. Kaya di umaasenso bansa natin dahil sa mga yan.

[@davedave3520]

Even Japanese are unhappy bro, its in the society not how a country is run. Africans are some of the happiest people out there

[@remelynvaleriano4221]

I’ve been into depression as well and even been suicidal, I have my friends and family support but I can’t understand the emotional darkness that succumb me…at the later part I’ve realised that God is the lacking part in my life because no matter what only Him Can fill that emptiness that we felt ..not even the family, friends or partner in our lives…we have to pray and lift up everything to him…learn to love yourself as well and don’t always seek approval to other people to define your worth especially..don’t compare yourself to what you see in your social media…know your worth as a person and lastly will conclude with this words “Jesus said..Cast your burdens upon me those of you who are heavily laden and I will give you rest…”🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@godsoldier6240]

This problem stem from using too much social media. I think this is going to be a problem for many nations in future

[@joeyparra3580]

100%. The PH was ranked #1 in social media use and are now number 4.

[@xciapc]

True. I sometimes wonder paano kaya kung magkaroon ng event na ma-shutdown bigla yung internet for a week, what will happen to us?

[@Im_Gay_But_Straight]

​@@xciapchahaha oo nga noh anak kaba ni einstein pero seryoso dapat event gathering and more activities and livable lifestyle

[@freespirit12]

Yes!!!! This is the culprit

[@magandatalagaako]

​@@xciapcwhat? anong reason but iblame nyo ang social media. Pwede naman kayo na gumawa ng friends on your own terms. Hindi porket meron social media yung tao wala ng friends. Nako ang younger brother ko merong social media pero merong rin barkada.

[@existentialbonsai]

We are a lonely generation with happy social media pictures.

[@homer30]

Dito medyo advantage kaming mga introvert. Maligaya kami pag mag-isa. There is no loneliness in being alone sa amin. Kasi sa aming mga introvert being alone is stimulating our minds, crafting strategies to attain our goal. Karamihan din sa aming mga introvert has a stoic mentality. Hindi namin kinokumpara ang sarili namin sa ibang tao kaya walang pressure sa sarili, walang mental stress. We are not frustrated people. At dahil kunti lang kaibigan namin, mabibilang lang sa kamay, walang politika. Sa mga extrovert horrible condition to; hindi sa aming mga introvert.

[@paengguin9381]

@@homer30 true. Introverts enjoy solitude and are more resilient. Being alone does not mean being miserable. Most of introverts I know are successful in life because they think first before they make a move, introverts do not seek validation from others. Extroverts are miserable when alone.

[@Lftarded]

Masyado kasing dramatized na pag introvert ka, depress ka. Depende lang Naman talaga sa mood yun, if introvert mas gumagaan pakiramdam mo in solitude with a certain someone, if extrovert through socializing

[@EstGirlPanda159]

Yes, I can relate . I'm an introvert and love being alone with my piano and guitar. I'm energetic when I'm around with my family and few trusted friends.

[@bikeyoshiro]

Being alone and lonely is rather different from being isolated. You have had to learn to be alone not to get isolated from social life. I often exercise and reading. But I also need to detach myself from too much digital stuff. one example I ditched FB as soon as i found someone boast of their large number of friends.

[@davl1917]

Parents should spend a lot of time with their kids to help guide them through life.

[@user-xj6se8il5s]

I'm never gonna have kids if they will only feel this way. I'm gonna end this with myself and not pass it on.

[@entertexthere1127]

I wouldn't have ever thought of my kababayans in the Philippines suffering from these kinds of problems. It's so weird because we, as Filipino Americans, miss and yearn for our country. The Philippines is one of the most beautiful country on earth, so loneliness should be the least concerned.

[@James1230]

A lot of comments here blame it on corruption, economic status, politicians etc. I get it. I'm a Filipino millennial and believe me, it was way worse before. The traffic, terrorism and internal conflicts, domestic affairs, nationwide blackouts, you name it, but we were not the loneliest before. We had the same problems before as now (only much better now), so I don't think it has something to do much with the items mentioned above. We lack parks (which I hate) compared to other Asian cities. We have thousands of malls all over the country with some are even the world's largest. What I'm trying to say is 'malling' is a Filipino culture and way of life. I bet less Filipinos would even want to go to parks under the scorching heat of the tropical sun because who said you can't socialize in malls? On the other hand, if we had just more parks (which I wish) would be any different? During our time, there were no smartphones. We only had phones that can do texting and calling. It can only do the bare minimum of communicating which means for the rest, you have to do it manually-means more interaction. I think loneliness was mostly felt during the pandemic. We had one of the strictest lockdowns and a lot of things had to be done online like buying groceries even paying for utilities. These technologies were non-existent during our time. And this technology is carried on even the pandemic is long gone. Whether you're rich or poor, you can and always have the freewill to go out and socialize with your friends. There are tons of areas to choose from and I don't think one's economic status has something to do with that. You can even simply go out of your house. We had way poorer people before yet we were tagged as one of the happiest. And with regard to transportation, when was the last time you talk to somebody or a stranger in a jeepney, bus or train? You maybe had one short interaction but majority don't care about co-passengers as everyone just want to get to their destination. I don't take the bus to look forward with chit-chatting with a seatmate that's a total stranger. I mean, who does that? I just want to get to my destination like everybody does. I think this generation is mostly inclined to the technology in front of them. You'll most likely see youths playing tons of mobile games instead of socializing in the real world. This generation spends too much on social media and browsing.

[@sipyoanjo7003]

I think what Filipino Gen Z's challenge now is to stop creating unrealistic expectations. They need to get a grab of reality. Truth is not everybody is going to get a slice of the pie. Life is hard, but slowly it will get better, the more you focus to make it better.

[@SweetKamote-j1k]

For real, always comparing to what others have and do like travel goals or success stories and being able to buy anything. Learn to appreciate what you have because others are unfortunate and lacking especially poverty stricken countries or war-torn countries are literally in a hopeless situation now thats lonely when you are left with no choice but if you think and ask yourself this you know you have a choice and can do better, its all in the mind dont sentence and imprison yourself. Sadly for me im chained to this mindset of hopelessness, dont be like me.

[@melquiadespabillare5437]

I'm a teenager in 1980's in the Philippines but the word loneliness is an alien word for us .

[@mcwally514]

you werent lonely in the 80s... It was simply coined, being a loser.

[@pinoyletsplay]

@@mcwally514 before talaga lumalabas ang mga bata tapos marami activity, malaki din effect nung woke culture na lumalaganap.. masyado sensitive na mga kabataan ngaun.. sobrang insecurities brought by social media.. cyber bullying, and yung superficial lifestyle.. talagang depression makukuha.. dati kapag may pag nasugatan sa mukha yung bata, wala lang sikat pa, Rambo ang tigas.. ngayon mag ka tagyawat lang di na lumalabas ng kwarto, iniisip na mag bigti.. kakalungkot😥

[@MultiWilliam15]

​@@pinoyletsplay excuse me po pero mali po kayo sa pag-blame sa 'woke culture' niyan. Kaya po lalo silang nade-depress kasi tingin ng matatanda "dahil lang sa tigyawat" o sa "superficial lifestyle" yung mga problema nila. Wala silang makausap kasi di naman sila iniintindi at nakakawalang ganang kumausap kung lelecturan niyo lang po sila sa pagiging matigas. On the other hand, intindihin na lang po natin na mas mahirap mabuhay sa henerasyon nila, kung saan pwede kang husgahan at pagpyestahan ng kung sino-sino sa internet, at wala kang ibang choice kundi makialam sa social media dahil pumapalibot yung buhay mo doon.

[@pinoyletsplay]

@@MultiWilliam15 "Wala silang makausap kasi di naman sila iniintindi at nakakawalang ganang kumausap kung lelecturan niyo lang po sila sa pagiging matigas", Ang salita ng magulang dati batas, hindi ka pwedeng mag inarte, mura at garute ang aabutin mo.. Ngayon papano mo kakausapin ang mga bata konting salita mo lang nasa "my Day" at IG strory na agad how emotionally down dahil napag sabihan ng magulang, "woke culture" to the rescue, dami agad comment na "hindi lahat alam ng magulang", Eventually down the road, wala ng makaka alala sa old culture, kung saan ang mga bata nahubog ng disiplina, at respeto sa magulang. Marunong sumagupa sa hamon ng buhay. . We can be all nice and all of that, pero this are the result..".

[@GianFrancoFerrer]

​@@pinoyletsplayagreed ako dyan

[@johnmarvincometa2108]

Loneliness is the result of the lack of something to look forward to. Parents must realize that they should be nurturing their children with discipline as well as the exploration of their interests and helping them aspire for what the future is in store for them. Do not ever think that the basic needs as the only neccessity for survival! Mental health, discipline, socialization and being part of something are far more important in the long run!

[@KenGavino18]

I'm an introvert and asocial. I was born to be a loner, having a happy solitary life. I'm a lone wolf but not miserable man. I don't feel depressed at all. I'm happy to be alone. I have only few trusted friends.

[@paengguin9381]

@@KenGavino18 having few trusted friends means you love your space and enjoy solitude which to me is normal. Gotta have ME time. You enjoy being alone and also do not mind hanging out with your few trusted friends. Most extroverts cannot stand being alone, they are miserable when alone. Introverts are survivors and are more resilient, mentally stronger too IMHO.

[@christianmendoza3330]

Were same bro😢

[@christianmendoza3330]

I also have very few friends... Back then, I have COF but then I was always left out😭😭

[@leilanirodriguez2000]

Same with me

[@foxyteacuppom8462]

Same

[@killersmile387]

Was born in 1987. Raised in the 90s as a kid. A teenager in the early 2000s. I can agree that it is not a new topic (loneliness in the modern time). It is just now that it is being recognized and being amplified. I remember crying about being a solo child with a single mom who works abroad. Living with my caring extended family (fortunate to that). Yes, that really is a sad part of my life even until now that I have to deal. It's like a never ending battle to an enemy that you can't see. It feels like the battle will only end if I die. Yeah, that's how I feel.

[@TV-ch4gg]

its culture-the culture of "buti pa cya mayroong..." Buti pa cya Maganda.." buti pa cya maputi..." "buti pa cya...." low self esteem, self trust, self worth. Social media perpetuates many of these. Gen Z is the most connected and yet most isolated, They derive pleasure and affirmation through social media failing to recognize the 2 faces of social media- social media addiction crosses generations...and the saddest part is the government does not care at all. It's about time we take accountability for our own actions- citing OFW parents failing to guide and be there for their kids? where would the children be if not for their OFW parents? Life is what you make it!

[@reihalondres9518]

I guess its time we people embrace loneliness and not incorporate it to the dark side... Like people nowadays tend to love being alone ... Less drama, less hassle, less everything. Loneliness is a cure not a disease that we need to treat. Let us enjoy our solitude alone.... Not all will agree but yeah embrace loneliness ❤

[@kzm-cb5mr]

who told you to be cringe?

[@hyldrklein451]

Dont confuse being an introvert with someone used to solitary loneliness. We introverts enjoy our alone time more, yes. But that doesn't mean that we prefer to be alone 100% of the time. The pandemic caused me to spiral deep into depression because even though I enjoyed my alone time, I also didn't have that much friends to have some quality connection with which I craved badly. And being an introvert meant that I didn't have that much friends to begin with, which the pandemic exacerbated.

[@lifekrysiss]

parang may tao di alam ang dif between loneliness and being alone ha

[@WhoCaresReally2023]

Loneliness is different from being alone. I guess you don't understand that. No one should embrace loneliness. You could have tons of friends, but still feel lonely. And you could be alone on a journey, but you know there are people cheering for you. Learn the difference.

[@nivrrtakr2891]

​@kzm-cb5mr eggs dee

[@topsgaming4266]

Maybe this can help someone: I don't feel lonely even when i am alone or isolated, I talk and think to myself, is like there's me (conscious) and another me (subconscious). Something like 2 captains piloting a ship. I talk to the other captain when i am bored or alone but this is not bipolar or a disorder. It is that I am happy being me, I have accepted who I am, and journey life with my subconscious self. Two captains working together in the same ship

[@pinoyakademy458]

❤️👍

[@111_N0_0ne]

Relatable,

[@arekopo]

✨🤸⭐⭐⭐

[@kubli365]

bro high on copium

[@ThinkingJames]

Sarap kaya mag isa. Mas marami ka matututunan sa observation sa paligid kesa kumausap sa mga non sense na chismis.

[@eggxecution]

"It's not something you should be ashamed for" I like the end part

[@clownman9404]

I'm a Filipino millennial and I feel lonely sometimes because of the lack of future in this country. It is so hard to live here that's why. Our salary is just too low but the expenses here always goes up 2-4 times every year. We don't have a 1 month vacation leave with pay, we are overtimed and under payed. Our work to life balance ratio is just too low. No free medical expenses, we can't rely on our insurance. Sometimes I can't help but think that this country is a prison for ordinary people and paradise for the corrupt.

[@ThinkingJames]

Never rely your happiness on other people. Be happy within yourself. Travel. Save and Invest.

[@Lftarded]

Sigma introvert grindset🔥🔥

[@lesmisurbanite5306]

The hours spent on Social Media is extremely big. And when someone opens his/her phone, they are engrossed, and their moods are greatly affected. I think screen times should be minimized to the minimum. More socialization please. Philippines lack these physical interactions lately.

[@anna.caylee]

True!

[@magandatalagaako]

That isn't true...😂

[@millennialCitizen]

Isa ka rin e

[@asura3955]

personally there are a lot of factors involved. even if you have tons of circles, most relationships are transactional and are not genuine, what you can bring to the table for an individual or a group, thus most feel isolated or lonely even if they do have groups of friends. not to mention the crab mentality where everyone subconsciously pulls down that one specific friend that's on the path to success. envy and greed is also rampant since the culture is lowkey centered around instant gratification in consumerism. there's also that part where everything is treated as a joke as means of coping or defense mechanism, not treating problems as an actual serious issue, thus it is brushed off as a joke in order to avoid discomfort. The Philippines is known to have that traditional aspect that everything must be happy, must be joyous, must turn to god, must be centered around laughter and fake smiles, so people tend to avoid showing their real authentic selves, avoiding being exposed and being cancelled, thus people internalise and bottle it all up, up until it takes a hold of the subconscious and manifest into something toxic or bad. I myself chose to cut off several circles during the pandemic for the sake of peace of mind even if I sacrifice my social life. I'd rather be alone than to face betrayals, backstabbings, fake people abusing my kindness, envy, greed, etc. in terms of romantic relationships, most are centered around romanticising love, thus it is just infatuation or limerence, not genuine love. so most people create these fake personas in order to either fulfill their lustful fantasies or taste that tiny bit of affection or love, maybe due to media influence that's why people yearn for that almost impossible fictional/fantasy perfect standard. plus most parents shun their own offsprings from their social life, most are overprotective and force them to stay at home in order to avoid the dangers of the outside environment. so most young people go to social media to cope, acquiring this unhealthy sense of hostility if they are placed in real life interaction, not knowing how to mingle or bond or know certain social cues. social media is then treated as this safe haven lesser evil, better to isolate digitally than to cope by means of drugs, alcohol, smoking, engaging in risky sexual encounters that may lead up to early pregnancy or std's, etc. there's also that financial aspect that the young generation needs to pay up their debt of gratitude to their family/parents/elderly, so they'll work hard to always help their relatives, not helping themselves in the process. even if they treat themselves from time to time, it is just not enough, self care and self love is just too lacking, so either they'll destroy themselves in the process, or destroy other people just to cope. people that chose not to help their family, the one that chose freedom and being independent, are similar to icarus where they fly too close to the sun, either they engage in unhealthy consumerism, drugs, hook up culture, or having toxic relationships, so people choose to just isolate, have that solitude of peace.

[@priscilladlc1875]

100% THIS!

[@czeianamiguel5543]

Say it LOUDER to the back please!

[@MC-ts7ch]

I love how well-spoken Filipinos are

[@Serena-yn4pg]

this is just saddd, lets fight for happiness!! 🥺 we have to stay active and go out in the sun!

[@SweetKamote-j1k]

Happiness is only short lived and you can only feel happy for a small fraction of time. I dont understand why people have an obsession of being happy. If you pray for the rain you gotta deal with the mud too ika nga.

[@Serena-yn4pg]

@@SweetKamote-j1k being happy or looking for happiness doesn’t mean you’ll not have to deal w challenges, which is exactly why i search for happiness, even in simple things coz that could make me last for period of hardships.. life is hard so happiness in between can help in making things feel bit better

[@missfairness1613]

For me, social media becomes the center of Filipino youths. Because of what they see in the internet/socmed they tend to compare their lives to others.

[@phillyjones3028]

To be really honest, My parents would say too many excuses to repel my issues. "He's just lazy, he's dumb and stubborn. Its the way he is." These things are too late for someone like me. My mind has been set, and I've moved on with that mindset ever since. Pandemic only solidified it and I've cut off many connections and maintained very very few.

[@marvz7915]

Confront your traumas and make yourself better. Remember how you were as a child. Carefree, Innocent, Happy and Content with the bare minimums. Notice the simple pleasures. It's an INSIDE JOB.

[@princessabdula5497]

Best comment ever❤❤❤

[@hansanichannel4828]

I'm sorry but not every person have beautyful Child life to remember 😅

[@fatmahhadjiahmad4532]

Your comment reeks of toxic positivity.

[@Lftarded]

​@@hansanichannel4828it's through introspection that you can help yourself be better. I'm sure that a bad childhood can be fought through if you keep moving forward, don't forget the past but learn from it.

[@camilo5740]

@@fatmahhadjiahmad4532so whats your advice then

[@djroguefireify]

Whew. It's a reality that's tough to swallow - a country that's renowned for having cheerful, resilient, and friendly people is suffering loneliness on in individual level. I guess it's true what the say, depression often wears a smile.

[@luwirap]

I Love how this documentary did not include religion and religion-based solutions and focused on scientific ways and practical ways to offer help. Some people's cause of loneliness and trauma came from these secular groups due to condemnation and ostracization also. And clearly, a very superficial and extrinsic solution such as, prayers, letting a higher power take over, or everything happens because it was already planned by a creator will never suffice people's need for REAL and PHYSICAL interactions in relieving loneliness. Thank you for a very objective take on our country's public health matters. I guess we are way too far from our former slogan "It's more fun in the PH" nowadays.

[@libconservative3481]

That's why they are lonely.. they think that faith has no room in their lives..

[@phoenixofgiethoorn5258]

​@@libconservative3481 this kind of mentality makes you part of the problem

[@GamerNugget18]

@@libconservative3481you should read their comment again

[@herneychienverneryia4020]

100% true. The new generation will outlive religion and would have stable interpersonal connection in society by thinking, singing, learning, eating, exploring, playing, watching, exercising, cooking, fighting for human rights, and the list goes on for you to be able to feel alive. Thoughts and prayers are useless against the reality of striving among distressing socio-economic issues and surviving in war-stricken world.

[@Lftarded]

Christianity if not is one of the most toxic group of religion. People focusing on a worship on a higher power than solving their own problems themselves doesn't promote self growth but self deprecating environment where everything is out of your control even yourself.

[@allengina1091]

I never felt loneliness when I was young between 1985 to 2000 from elementary to college. I was youth member in our Chapel in mindanao , I was a Choir, legion of Mary member, catechist. Then I was very Active in SK activities. We were poor , but that was the happiest moment of my life. Every Saturday after lunch , we the teenagers of our Barangay played in the Barangay Hall till 9pm. Then the following day Sunday 8am we had Bible Service with holy communion in the chapel with the Lay Minister. the priest will come only once a month in our chapel. Then after Lunch I go house to house to my friends inviting them to play. We play the in afternoon till 10pm. Our parents were watching us to see to it that we are safe and don’t fight. It needs a leader in the community to invite them to play, so they can meet their friend and News friends.

[@langkasukabaisu8024]

Well, before I've made friends but they all left and have their own families. I met new ones but majority of them took advantage of my kindness. Kahit di mangyari yang pandemic but if you're on these situations, loneliness can still come, and the mere fact that I've given up on the idea that there's genuine kindness in people - it's just about being used, how will they benefit from you. I'm just living to get along with other people, but my heart was no longer with them.

[@metardis1670]

I understand your feelings. People, for the most part, are a drain on our mental resources. But there are also enough people out there that have genuine kindness in their hearts. I hope you dont give up trying to find them. As for me, I joined a church, that my now wife is part of and I find the people there very kind and helpful. But, I will also add that some of the best words in my vocabulary is "Not at this time" in order to deflect those who I feel might be taking advantage of me. God bless.

[@dangerousmango88]

Yup the loneliest i felt was when i actually had a stable group of friends and solid na yung bond ko sa family. Loneliness can come and go feeling kasi sya , its less of an actual thing happening. Some ppl can feel incredibly loved and full with a few ppl and feel the loneliest in a party

[@chocolateandoranges]

As a Gen Z individual (born in 2003), an ambivert, and I don't mind staying by myself, I like solitude since the world is just too noisy. From what I observed and experienced, the surge of overwhelming information today made this generation highly aware of anything( politics, issues, religion, war, entertainment, technology, etc)., whether local or global, bad or good. At a young age, we saw how cruel the world is. We people have been constantly lied to by politicians, religions, businesses with their schemes that will only benefit them. The poor will remain trapped in this system. That is a depressing fact. I reckon that the world is a stage for one big puppetry event. Some manipulate, but most are being manipulated. Maybe, we've lost our faith in humanity, that's why some of us choose to be alone. The past generations are just too naive during their youth, so good for them. The world has always been doomed anyway. Just my opinion.

[@paengguin9381]

Being constantly on the phone and having fake friends on Facebook don't help. They do not know how to hang out and talk to real people. The 80s and 90s were better as we spent more time outside the house hanging out with our friends.

[@XerOidosmaBeginnerVideoCreator]

Born in 1890's 1900's much best 👌 is lost generations 🙏🤲🌄📚✍

[@Lftarded]

Hmmm, sino kaya yung nagpalaki ng mga gen-z para maging mapagisa?

[@takebacktheholyland9306]

​@@XerOidosmaBeginnerVideoCreator1890s 💀💀💀💀💀

[@shinji3603]

Once you feel comfortable being alone, it becomes more addictive. Being alone means you are not contaminated by society, and it's a beautiful thing. - some random guy

[@ShanicornBeauty]

This is insane to hear for an ambivert. I love my time spent being alone and also when out with friends but I never seek out company. There is beauty in being alone.

[@leadizolatorz668]

"Hey? I have stage 4 cancer and I'm fine with that. Other people must be fine with it too"

[@suplado7583]

Normal lang sa mga young adult 18 -26 yrs old maging lonely dahil room yan for self improvement. Kung skilled ka o talented sa art and music masarap maging lonely. At iwasan ang mga toxic na social media at mga trending fashion. Magkaroon ng passion sa sarili at hindi ka makakaramdam ng depression.

[@areeBetu]

Yung loneliness hindi mo ma ramdaman yan if you keep yourself busy everyday. SA loob nga lng ng bahay subrang dami ng gawain maka pag isip ka paba ng loneliness nyan. SA Subrang pagud mo 7pm plng tulog kana.

[@natura07]

😢 Social media is the culprit. The youth cannot engage in real live conversation and activities anymore because it is expensive to do so.

[@rellong26]

Metro Manila does not represent the entirety of the Philippines. Rather, the Philippines encompasses Metro Manila among its regions. Numerous beaches and tourist attractions exist in other areas, contributing to a vibrant and joyful atmosphere.

[@cityonfoot6023]

It’s difficult to just say this is in Metro Manila when the statistic says the whole country. And overseas, and local migrant working situations also aggravate the situation. This video even shows two people who experience(d) loneliness despite being known as extroverts. It’s unfortunately very hard to detect in many cases.

[@paengguin9381]

@@rellong26 nothing to do in Manila but go to the malls. Noise and air pollution, traffic, rallies, crimes, cost of living and overpopulation are too much for many people to handle. Many retire in their province to relax and breathe fresh air after working in Manila for decades.

[@yiesacaunca2605]

I don't believe this is true for the whole Philippines. If this is true it's because of social media or overuse of gadgets or online gaming which keep these young gen away from real social interaction.

[@nivrrtakr2891]

XDDD

[@cityonfoot6023]

@@yiesacaunca2605 they did lay out the reasons, which include the 2020 lockdown, social media, and the unconventional family situations brought about by migrant working.

[@heeroix]

Speaking as someone who is in the scope of the mentioned generation. I can say that, maybe one of the factor will be because we prefer to isolate ourselves rather than being with the people who might wronged us. Compare to other generation we are much skilled and filled with knowledge that we are getting online. Now speaking on behalf of the generation, this type of phenomenon might be a bad cause of the social media, but on the other hand, we as a part of this generation wants to point out that we are getting many perks also and knowledge. Truthful speaking, oir generation might have a bigger scope of intelligence in many things, including politics, economy, how life works, and also how we can be one as a generation with a one goal, which is to stop the cycle. We will not repeat the mistakes that the past generation have made for us. It's time for a change, and we are the change.

[@Scarcheeze]

Across the world, in countries like the Philippines, Indonesia, Malaysia, Mexico, and Brazil, many people are aware of what's happening around them. These individuals are often intelligent and perceptive, yet they may feel lonely because they choose to distance themselves from unnecessary drama.

[@se_amable001]

i still feel we are generally one of the HAPPIEST countries in Asia.

[@addicted2me]

I'm born in the 80s. I don't mix much with my family, and I have gotten independent around 21years old and for 17 years, i stayed alone with no help nor friends. I like my space, to be honest Maybe the shunned of my family helps with my character,cos 99% of the time I feel like I am an adopted child. I like to be friendly and chatty only at work. After that, I like to be on my own Mostly, i like to do things on my own even to the movies. And I liked to make friends with people who seem lonely. But they will get too attached, and I feel that they will get too clingy sometimes.😅 Growing up and growing through my life, i never understood why others around me ask, "Don't you get lonely?) I still am blessed that I am contented with what I have and a very, very small group of close friends. Maybe people who are lonely should put down the phone and go something positive. Like exercise,enjoy nature,and just take in the scenery like I did in the past. It helps alot to clear your mind.and what matters in life. Stay strong. You will.get through this ❤❤

[@Crissie495]

same here

[@rtquest22]

Totally. Its incumbent upon you to help and save yourself instead of relying others to bestow it upon you.

[@uncommon_name9337]

you sound rich

[@HaluhalongPuna]

First, let me ask you this, are you single or married?

[@Ravenoustoxic]

My trait combination of being introvert, misanthropic, and minimalistic kept my happiness scale at even level.

[@sorrychangedmyusername3594]

same here buddy, we just exist to die.

[@edwardcruz1088]

Born in 1988, minsan napag dadaanan na maging malungkot pero ndi kailangan tambayan ang lungkot. move on, move forward, tuloy ang buhay laban para mabuhay.

[@lionflame21]

It's quite lonely seeing those "happy places" we had before that no longer have activities today.

[@fredsanders2838]

It's not just a trend in the Philippines; it's a global generational shift. This generation often seems disconnected from real-life social interactions, spending most of their time at home glued to their gadgets. Unlike in the past, when socializing face-to-face was a big part of everyday life, many now prefer the virtual world over meaningful in-person connections. This change has reshaped how people engage with each other, leaving behind the sense of community we used to value.

[@LA.20]

There's simple solution. Just go outside don't isolate inside the house and don't stick on your phone all day. It's common sense. If you are in the province even better with all the greenery.

[@observer9051]

Agree 👍 But that's not what "they" want .

[@LA.20]

@@observer9051 Exactly, they will refuse a simple solution to a simple problem in which they will seek a complex answer that they will may never find.

[@tengotnco5942]

To witness and be witnessed, mahal naming kayo ating kabataan. Pray and seek God❤🎉

[@maxb1890]

We're too exposed sa social media, pero kulang sa physical/social connection. Hirap makipag-usap sa mga tao nowadays dahil ang mga mata eh nakatutok sa mga phone screens nila. Hirap na ring makipag-connect sa ibang tao dahil ang mindset na ng iba is "harrassment! Harrassment! Harrassment!". Kahit yung simpleng pag 'hi' lang o pagbibigay ng compliment, creepy na tingin sa'yo.

[@NestorJrGomos]

Can I say is this becoz intorverts are increasing in number and their behavior are affecting others?

[@40andStrong]

#1 Reason Corruption. Sana balang araw mawala na yung mga kurakot dito sa pinas.

[@rgx420s]

I never understood why Filipinos even bother to start a family when both parents know they won't be around (OFW) to raise their kids and see them grow up. It's a big disservice to not only the kids, but a burden on the relatives. It's very irresponsible.

[@handel1111]

Pressure from relatives and society

[@Dennis07-yl3cf]

social media, even transpo system affects this since we can’t go easily with our friends to talk to

[@nattapolvvvvddd4289]

For me money is key, if you have money or comfortable life you don’t want to sit in the room and being lonely. We will go party everyday and play around with friends and do such things to be happy everyday.😊

[@petalfin]

Parents who are insecure themselves will produce insecure children. The covid is not the main cause of loneliness, it merely revealed the hidden insecurities. Parents are the protectors of the family. Without this skill of protection, it exposes children to violence and immorality. At our home we felt much peace and joy only because of the Word of God. We dont covet or become envious of things we dont have, we pray and wait on the Lord. This simple discipline that we do daily has preserved us from this loneliness and depression. Theres just too much joy in heaven stored that many are sadly not aware of

[@joshuaarnejo5622]

I'm also a resident of Krus na Ligas (Natural Cross) Village in Quezon City, Metro Manila since my birth in 1994, I understand the loneliness in my country since I am not a Gen Z, I am a millennial. It's not only the Gen Zs who are the most lonely but millennials are the second most lonely. Most people hate negatives that make them lonely, but I understand both positive and negative emotions would affect my view. I understand English very well but not all or perfect.

[@lalainerecasata7495]

Hwag padadala sa mga advocates ng mga depression at loneliness. Inuudyok mga kabataan na iacknowledge ang isolation at depression. Magdasal at manalig sa Diyos. Masisira lang mga diskarte nyo sa buhay. Mga magulang dapat makipagusap sa mga anak at hwag pasusulsol sa mga western ek ek!! Pinapalaganap yan para sa budget ng mga malalakinh organisasyon. Open your mind young people just be happy and PRAY❤

[@goldendiamon]

Pero Hindi lahat siniswerte magkaroon Ng magulang na mabuti sa anak Kasi ibang magulang Rin Ang dahilan Ng depression Ng anak...Kahit si Job at Elijah may depression, tinatraydor Ng pamilya,sila pa kaya? Don't teach toxic positivity....Happiness and Sadness is part of life,Kung mawawalan Ng balance Ang dalawa,lalala talaga Ang depression Kasi pinilit mong maging Masaya Ang tao even if it means not being honest with what they feel

[@paperparables]

If you’re up to it, the church I attend has online meetings 4 times a week. We do a lot of Bible studies together, but we have movie nights on Saturdays too. If you’re interested, they have a channel here on KZbin called “We Are Jesus Doers”. You don’t have to face this world alone.

[@llothar68]

You think a 3000 year old cult from sand tribes who where so stupid that they don’t know where the sun goes at night will be a solution?

[@LilyKonn]

I'm a filipino and a grade 11 student and I'm 16 years old, and yeah, I feel very lonely. I'm scared talking to anyone. I'm not confident and intelligent enough. I'm failing most of my class, and I don't have any friends in my school. I'm not confident about showing my gayness because probably other people will judge me and bully me. In my home, my father is always gone for work and we are not that close, and my mama doesn't live with us anymore because papa and mama fight because my papa cheated on my mama, and yeah, we live at my papa's house because my mom is too broke to get us, and my stepmom (papas gf) didn't like us. They would bully me, and my little sister and his son (my stepbro) bullied me too in school. They would laugh about how ugly I am and send my pictures to his friend, and now it's like (sorry for my English) i feel very lonely i have no friends i get jealous all the time because my classmates are so confident and have friends and me.. I have none. I have no one to talk to. I feel really lonely. Sometimes I think about killing myself because what's the point of living in this world?

[@gamingnightmarionnealphafr]

Oi, you'll be alright. I'm experiencing the same thing as you got, sorry if it sounds like I'm changing the topic about me but this is all about you, anyways, I just wanna say you'll be fine, suicide won't be the answer even if you're at a breaking point.. And I'm also close to reaching mine but I just wanna say you're not alone, you're sunset is someone else's sunrise. You'll get through it, if you don't have anyone I'm right here, hoping you'll be fine.

[@LilyKonn]

@@gamingnightmarionnealphafr thankyou for being here with me man.. i feel fine now reading your comment and yeah i hope i can get through this.

[@homer30]

Get yourself a rosary and learn to pray it everyday. Don't dismiss this advice because this is the best advice you could ever have.

[@ggg14344]

Gratitude and not to compare yourself with others is the key to combat loneliness...

[@markbaker330]

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHA easier said than done, but its hard not to compare yourself when social media is around. This world is fucked.

[@BABYMONS7R.OFFICIAL]

NOT ALL BUT MOST OF THEM: They are the TIKTOK kids. They dont study a lot. They spend Internet almost 18 hours a day. They are glued to their phones. They cant even talk to other people. They can't construct a proper sentence, create an email, do basic excel, etc. too many to mention.

[@gin1197]

I'm part of Gen Z. I've already experienced symptoms of depression back in 2016. And when I reached high school, it was mostly trauma, regret and loneliness. I was always in my earphones just listening to music. Most teenagers would go out with their friends after school or walking together but I always remember walking through the school's hallways by myself. I had a bad relationship with my relatives and I would mostly not interact with them before. I'm going to be honest, when it was lockdown I was actually relieved because I can finally not see people anymore and actually did a pretty good job at acads during online classes. But then the lockdown got lifted and my life got worse. Eventually I seek out a psychologist and I'm diagnosed with MDD (Major Depression Disorder).

[@eaav3286]

It’s not just happening in the Philippines, all countries are experiencing this especially in US, Korea or Japan. So consider to do a further research.

[@HaluhalongPuna]

But based on statitics we are in the 2nd place. That's why it is featured on CNA. Meaning, it's NEWS.

[@rj12783]

smells like a propaganda as PH is emerging economy with young workforce threatening guess who 😅

[@eaav3286]

It may be in statistics, as you mentioned, but that doesn’t mean it has to be featured in CNA or NEWS. Do you think the statistics are accurate and evidentiary to prove that PH is 2nd? No, It is a fact that the all countries are experiencing it.

[@HaluhalongPuna]

@@eaav3286 You sound like you're embarrassed and doesn't want to accept the data. CNA is a reputable news outlet in Singapore. It's like the CNN of south east Asia. Do you really think that they didn't do an extensive research on this matter? And to say that all countries are experiencing it too, dude nobody's denying that fact. It's just that the PH happen to be the 2nd in this issue and that's why it's news. I bet if it was other countries you wouldn't even bother commenting. I think you're one of those typical Filipino butthurt. I'm Filipino too but I'm not butthurt. Instead I accept it and we should do something about it.

[@luvblare1242]

This scenario are only happening in the urban area, but for us here in the rural, we never felt lonely here. There are so many things that we can do here.

[@Juantawzan]

Oh my gaaa! So weird, I was really feeling lonely these past few days but maybe it's just me? I am also from Philippines, when I was younger maybe around 13 years old until 18, I was alone but I didn't feel lonely because I play computer games, but now I'm 23 and trying to get a master's degree, it does feel lonely now. It started during the pandemic, but I was able to manage thanks to my friends throughout Southeast Asia who taught me their languages in language learning applications like Tandem, Hilokal etc. Yet again, as I don't have time to use those apps now, I feel lonely again haha

[@Aya-ct4pk]

Same 😭

[@ACHg1989]

I myself used to be really depressed, lonely and bored until now I got sick and realized few things. Alone and loneliness are not directly proportional. How you perceive situations and treat yourself affects your emotions Life is not lonely or boring just because nobody is with you or wants to listen to you, important is you are always with you and willing to listen patiently (awareness) If You're alive, you have shelter, food and air to breath, you have a good health, you're really lucky. Be gentle with yourself :) Godbless

[@ey1548]

I live in the US and travel to different country cause of my work. Believe me the gen z in the philippines is the happiest. Sometimes media have agenda behind it

[@kco3world]

Pre-pandemic, I used to be acquainted with jam-packed crowds around public spaces and was more of an ambivert. As restrictions were loosened, post-pandemic, I became quite irritated & grouchy when with people around at work, at public events, and at community spaces. I became introvert-leaning since then. I had also become more glued to the internet, accessing social media, streaming services, and other media for self entertainment. I had sense a loss of my socializing.

[@denper64]

Generally tbis is only probably ten percent of the gen z population. Loneliness in the provinces and for those who have below standard of living is not z trend. These gen z who have been interviwed were not a whole representation of the whole gen z population in the Philippimes. This is absolutely misleading.

[@assanchez7683]

ONE REASON IS MANY OF GEN Z PARENTS ARE OFW AND ARE OUT OF THE COUNTRY THEIR CHILDREN ARE BEING CARED FOR BY THEIR RELATIVES.

[@brianbrigaudit2138]

Social media plays a big part of the problem.

[@yekaterina0116]

You know why young people don't talk about loneliness? Coz older generations usually invalidate the feelings of the younger generation.

[@heydae4709]

Maarte, feeling entitled, feeling special, dapat laging masusunod, papansin. Iba yung lonely diyan. Yan sila, akala nila may special sa kanila pero same lang naman lahat. Nabulag ng social media.

[@brutalslamdeath]

Loneliness like happiness is really up to you and how you would interpret it. For me, being alone is a luxury in this hectic and very stressful world we live in. Zero commitments to other people or groups of people, no emotional stress to being in a relationship. You can focus on your work or business 100% without a loud and nagging partner or free-loading friends who always borrow money from you and not be able to pay back. You'll be able to visit your family during holidays without anyone stopping you from. These are just some of the perks, the freedom and the liberty that money can't buy. Peace of mind is priceless nowadays. You'll only understand what I'm trying to say when you truly become self-sufficent financially and emotionally. If this is your kind of loneliness, like the ones interviewed in here. You might need to start investing in yourself. Finish your degree, land a good career and be prepared to get slapped in the face with the reality of work-life balance. Trust me, you'd rather be alone for the rest of your life than deal with people. 😅

[@SethVanAizen]

"Hard Times create strong men, Strong Men create good times. Good Times create weak men and, weak men create hard Times." before, people just focused on surviving because war is happening around them or it just happened. now, people are too focused on comparing themselves with what they see on social media, social media gives an illusion on how easy it is to achieve success and happiness. this in turn resulted for many to feel depress because they failed to achieve what others can. well, no matter what you achieve in your life, It will surely fade in time and people will forget about about you and what you have done so why care about how people think about you now? embrace misery and loneliness so in time, you can appreciate Happiness and contentment. we will all die in time so why rush on things, we will eventually get there anyway. live in the moment... smile and be kind to yourself, live your life even if that's the only reason to continue living.

[@achuuuooooosuu]

Gen Z's have been taught to be competitive since childhood, and that's fueled by social media feeding unrealistic expectations about what they should achieve. Especially when they see posts of young pioneers or rich kids achieving early in life. With the tech wars and world events right now caused by tech giants and corrupt governments ruled by older gen adults, younger gen are becoming more pessimistic, even among the Gen Alpha kids. This is why a new slang has evolved like "cooked" meaning doomed. If you watch reels showing people achieve things or with the way the world works right now due to social media, comments would say something like "bro we're cooked" (meaning "we are doomed and there's nothing else we can do").

[@BlankQuest]

The sad part here is if the higher know you are strong, they make you weak as much as they can. In reality, that logic doesn't so much application. Most of the Filipinos can't earn a cost of living except if you are mid level businessman and above and politician. Whern are the good times happen?

[@SethVanAizen]

@@BlankQuest it will get even worse before it will happen :(