Gen Zs & Millennials: Why Are We So Lonely? | Talking Point | Full Episode

[@ilosheher]

i think being alone and lonely are two different things, and people are getting them mixed up (both in this video and the comments) alone: people can enjoy being alone, and can be happy doing activities they like alone. solitude is a good thing, it helps us to know ourselves better. loneliness: emotional manifestation; "sadness because one has no friends or company" (definition). loneliness is a feeling: when one feels sad or depressed due to a lack of social interaction. one may have thoughts such as "no one understands me", "i am not important to anyone", "i feel invisible", "i don't have anyone to share my real self with" being lonely is not good for our health, these thoughts can really harm us if we don't express them and talk about this issue. one can be alone WITHOUT feeling lonely the same how one can be with a lot of friends and feel lonely

[@Vapour85]

Great comment! Also, it's not just about being introverted or extroverted.

[@arkitotoyz]

Exactly this. The experiment in their video got me confused. That is not what loneliness actually means. She is just doing random things alone but does not really show true loneliness. She only experienced mostly boredom as she has no phone or laptop to keep her entertained for 48 hrs.

[@letsgoletsgoletsgoletsgoletsgo]

you know hor , i've been thinking , as an introvert who really needs my alone time , i realise i find it hard to get along with people ( or more like people find it hard to get along with me ) , im quite opinionated , and sometimes i don't understand why people cannot accept strong opinions ..... i guess most people just like very bland and surface interactions ? i guess people like us introverts really truly value honest real interaction rather than surface pleasantries ? what do you think?

[@iansitorus3711]

Agree

[@alfredbittersweet]

​@@letsgoletsgoletsgoletsgoletsgo maybe because not just about what we say, it could be how we say?... could be lot reason like the tones of the words itself, or at times we could be bit over instructive... hmm

[@Dremist]

I am happy being an introvert.. being alone in solitude is awesome.

[@Lobos222]

It also indirectly makes you mentally stronger for the simple reason you are less likely to feel peer pressure in the same way. Which kinda can make you unpopular among some people. Those other people I like to call,... losers! :D

[@ariffnordin4481]

​@@Lobos222 I can relate to what you are saying 😅. Your Instagram is literally unknown to all. That's why I decided to travel alone like my travel vlog.

[@letsgoletsgoletsgoletsgoletsgo]

yeah , so you and i , we CHOOSE to be alone because we like it, i think this video are about people who didnt choose and/or dont like to be alone

[@wonderstruck.]

Alone is not lonely. I like being alone. But I never feel lonely

[@andile5945]

This comment here👆i discovered hobbies I love (emphasis on 'i')

[@PineapplePi5634]

Next challenge. Place an introvert in social event, surrounded by people for 48 hours.

[@edwintan7096]

Learn to be comfortable alone, you’ll learn a lot about yourself by being alone. The amount of peace you get, you’ll appreciate it a lot.

[@QzSG]

48 hours ok mah been doing it for decades LOL

[@Geethepancake]

Are you ok😭😭😭

[@mohdafifiarif8409]

@@QzSG is not enough to justify loneliness. 2days solo trip is like a healing for me😊

[@marshalniel]

For me, 48 hours is rookie number 😂

[@LaikikiSunny]

😂😂😂😂

[@Hitexh-h8d]

Indeed, that girl is a noob. Cant understand why we turn to being alone to begin with.

[@InnerFire6213]

During the height of covid i was told to isolate myself when i was infected, the whole week actually went like a breeze. I’m a healthcare worker so it was actually nice getting away from people and overworking for once. Best vacation ever

[@me0wnicee]

this whole documentary seems only relatable to extroverted people who cannot stand being alone for even a day, especially with the 48 hours experiment with the host. Wish the documentary dived deeper on the societal front rather than just giving advice that people inherently know like reaching out / check in on your friends and family.

[@Mysecondhandbookshop]

Its better to be alone rather than wasting time with fake friends or superficial social interactions. I'm very careful of who i spend my time with, as i value my solitude alot. Having peace, less dramas and genuine friendships are priceless.

[@Tgc1357]

Being with ppl can be very stressful hence bad for health too 😬 Better to be strong and independent and not expect anything from anyone. Spend quality time to know yourself well n enjoy life to the fullest.

[@perfectlyimperfect7660]

alone yet not lonely. Matter of choice and healthy mindset

[@shirleytan5162]

Loneliness is only for extroverts 😅 being alone is when we feel relaxed

[@duskshadow25]

I think a lot of introverts out there share the same concept that we get drained from socializing and meeting people at a party or some sort of group events. I personally prefer quality over quantity, so I never liked large events where there are a lot of people. Instead, I prefer just 1 on 1 quality time and conversation. Or, I don't mind hanging out with 2-3 close friends that we're all cool with each other. But anything more than that, it's going to be a hard pass for me. You have to ask yourself how many friends do you have in your life that you can trust your life on. If you were to have a kid, can you trust your kid to that friend to look after your kid if something were to happen to you? If you were to hit rock bottom, how many friends do you have in your life that will help you get back on your feet? Most people will say they're your friends, but when it comes to push and shove, they're not going to go out of their way to be there for you. That's just the reality of life. And that's why I advocate for few homies you can trust for a life time vs. "friends."

[@doragohkiaching1839]

Go to church weekly, cell group and the wholesome convos there help alot, I think the older generation are very outwardly caring! Something we can envision and learn from!

[@zoeykeller9083]

Hi Lou Er. If you're reading this, thanks for doing this and even opening up with your struggles. We need to normalise opening up because granted everyone is busy with their own lives but sometimes miss what's going on around them. However, i'm not sure about the fact that there are people around us that want to care about us. That's a common saying from people but when push comes to shove or even on a more regular basis, people just dont want to or have the energy to care about others. Hence those who are already feeling lonely take a further step back so as to not impose on others. The part about over sharing is very true but maybe if we can flip to let others be aware of why some people do that than telling those who are lonely to dial down on their sharing because it also takes a lot to open up to people and be vulnerable.

[@cherrycran2247]

i support all your points!

[@LynnKaylen]

This is not a well done experiment. This is just behind 3 walls and a window. If you want to do a proper experiment, go outback and camp alone.

[@PaulineTheSupreme]

Mmmhh…I’m a 30 years old female I used to wonder if there was something wrong with me because honestly…there’s nothing I love more than peace and silence so I love being alone,however I have never felt lonely, I don’t really like inviting people over my house, doing or going to parties or anything like that that involves being with a lot of people, I even don’t really enjoy when strangers try to start conversations with me and it’s not like I’ll be rude to them and ignore them or anything I’ll me awkwardly just there being like “hehe yeah…” I literally only have 1 friend and we don’t really see each other that often but we text pretty much everyday Idk there’s something so special about being alone…

[@baltao08]

"If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company." - Jean-Paul Sartre

[@PaulineTheSupreme]

@ exactly!

[@oksanafesenko3909]

I see from this video that the remedy to loneliness is regular meaningful connection when you feel understood and accepted - not just being around people. I finally feel validated! But, it also explains why my mood gets low when I don't check in with my close people for several days. I feel like I'm close to finding that sweet balance I've been searching for...😊 You are blessed to have found such a precious friend with whom you have regular meaningful connection ❤️

[@sleepy_dobe]

I'm a Gen X, and I've been on my own for decades. I don't have many friends, and those that I have, I don't tend to meet them or have regular connection with them whether via online chats or talks over the phone. I'm unemployed, am recovering from a couple of mental disorders, so spend most of my time at home. I still hope to get married eventually but I'm so comfortable where I am that even when I match with someone on a dating app, I seldom overcome the inertia to go out and meet them. Rather, I spend my time at home reading and watching stuff online to keep updated on current affairs, current tech, news, developments around the world, geopolitics, advancements etc, even trivial stuff. Basically just stuffing my brain with all kinds of knowledge, general as well as specific. I don't feel lonely. But am I cutting years off my lifespan? Or are Gen Xs immune to loneliness?

[@afihaileywibowo1095]

We are immune to loneliness, or rather, embrace it. We won't even call lonely. We choose our friends and time and energy to spend with. The explosion of technology is like heaven of information popping open for me to discover thd world and expand my knowledge without draining energy that sometimes come by meeting people. 😊

[@hilaryb8807]

Yeah I'm GenX and couldn’t relate to “the experiment” at all. I think our generation was ignored and left alone by our parents, so we had to become independent and adaptable. The younger generations had helicopter parents, so they had constant attention and every minute was scheduled for them.

[@caramela4830]

Idk. I'm a Millennial and didn't have helicopter parents at all. Mostly emotionally immature and emotionally absent parents. But, I grew up in a household with a Gen X sibling so I believe our baby boomer parents parented us in a similar manner.

[@itsonlyjm]

The way you describe yourself gives off a very strong type 5(enneagram) Gex X, in the sense you're totally used to being alone/on your own, even though you did mention you hope to get married eventually. And would love to spend time stuffing your brain with all kinds of knowledge on many different topics/articles, reading & watching online rather than meeting people from a dating app (just my take). Not all Gen Xs are immune to loneliness :)

[@Almsoo7]

I would say those who have not experienced loneliness will find it difficult to relate to that negative emotions. Being alone can be enjoyable at times but those who struggle with loneliness lie on the other spectrum and struggle to make others understand how and why they feel this way.

[@tty8526]

Being alone and loneliness are different thing. You can be surrounded by many people but feel lonely. But you can be alone and feel good

[@Almsoo7]

@@tty8526 Yes exactly

[@egl3369]

48 hr alone in a hotel room with food delivered sounds amazing

[@maktian2759]

Just bring more books with you, maybe more skincare products and art making stuff too. Have longer beauty sleep. 48 hrs can easily pass. You will get out of the hotel room refreshed.

[@thatcanadiangrandma]

That's silly, the girl acts as If she's never been alone a day in her life omg... That wasn't serious content at all. We do adapt for even longer periods.

[@marshalniel]

@@thatcanadiangrandma Yeah, they trying so hard make this thing a big thing, and im here watching the video like, "excuse me mf" 😂 As an introvert, this thing is heaven, as long as i have a book to read of course 🤭

[@kk22001]

Lol calling your co-worker and rant about your feelings and later the co-worker go and spread to your boss how unstable you are. I think this show had so many fatal flaws on advice that are not realistic.

[@angmatthew]

I rarely feel lonely. I still catch up with ex-colleagues, classmates, customers, friends, families, etc. When I pass by a specific place, maybe an ex-colleague or friend rings a bell, I will just give them a WhatsApp to see whether they are free for a coffee, etc. If I have no one to entertain me, I will visit temples do some chanting, go to the library to read a book, or catch a movie .

[@TomNook.]

so you fix being lonely and being alone by not being alone. What great advice.

[@kklum6998]

@@TomNook.I am confused. Is he alone or is he not????? Lol.

[@nicholasbolas]

I think this experiment needs context. Some people absolutely love being alone. If we try to simplify things. It's an introvert vs extrovert thing. The producer is prolly more extrovert in nature. She could have exercised in her small space to boost the endorphins. I point to another example which is not too far away from us: Japan. More and more people are reclusive there. Alot of them are used to small cramped spaces, and by extension being alone. Overall if you're able to occupy yourself and keep your brain working, you can still live a relatively long life. Quality is subjective. Introverts will class independence and solitude as quality.

[@deicansing]

Was going to say this

[@Alex2011410136]

agreed! i am more at peace alone than with other people. and the "lonely brain makes you dumber" statement in 6:53 is also questionable. if one keep one's brain occupied with reading stuff, learning stuff, it actually have the exact opposite. i've met literally more than a dozen "lonely people" who are significantly smarter than the extroverts because they use their time to learn stuff. whether it's science, language, or simple practical skills like fixing their electronics, fixing their bikes, cooking, baking, etc. in this digital age you really can learn anything easily. imho it's not 100% about loneliness. it's about laziness. some folks (particularly extreme extroverts) tend to laze around excessively when they left alone... and when they band together, nothing is done and nothing is learned. soo ... yeah... the statement is truly questionable

[@Friend88-tn7qy]

Even Introverts doesn't like loneliness, what they are looking for is few meaningful and vulnerable connections. They can't handle multiple people at a single time. That's the difference. But the society has labelled them introverts and not treating them well.

[@bunniewood]

Japan also has the highest rate of suicide soooo.......

[@natalianat9105]

I always alone though, since i was still a child. Being alone never bothers me, being in social crowds -- always drained me. Theres a peace in solitude. So much time to introspect.

[@maraperez8098]

Loneliness is best experienced when you are surrounded with people but still feel lonely.

[@godsamazinggrace5331]

What people craved for is meaningful connection/interaction with Mutual love and understanding But people will fail you Because they are limited and finite!!

[@nownessy]

please define more comprehensive about loneliness. Feeling lonely and loneliness are two different things. As for me, I enjoy being with myself. In my solitude, I find more peace than being with others whom I don't or less know. I also have tendency to overshare to certain people (so far only one), but tend to over private to others. And I don't remember that I ever feel lonely for so many years now. In crowded rooms, I enjoy my solitudeness.

[@sonehearts3969]

being alone is so fun

[@Friend88-tn7qy]

it is addictive. once you are addicted, hard to escape from it badly.

[@Lee-vo4by]

Rather be alone than to be with people who keeps staring at their mobile phones at a table and not keen to spend time catching up with you.

[@r.shufiyati9403]

so sorry to see that even CNA cannot distinguish loneliness and being alone. I love being alone, but I really can't relate with this video.

[@melkwa9524]

yes. Alone but not lonely. In a group, not alone but lonely. Seriously, which u would choose. Only the strong can be alone. ALONE IS NOT LONELY! CNA OMG

[@hera_avria9265]

@@melkwa9524I was still lonely even in a bible study group 😖

[@mohdafifiarif8409]

I become more ME when i'm alone. In the crowd of people, sometimes you become someone else just to blend in. Is it lonely the first reason you get into the crowd? How about you feeling full content of yourself just to be alone? Does i😊t eliminates loneliness?

[@dt5622]

social experiment with an extrovert, try doing it with an introvert as well. the sampling method is biased. the study was done on a very surface level.

[@ries9422]

True loneliness is being surrounded by people, having the ability to connect to people, but at the same time not having anyone to speak or connect with. Let’s do an experiment where she goes about her daily life as usual but no one is allowed to speak to her

[@flourishwithMJ]

Great documentary. Thank you.❤

[@user-xh4zd6bf9m]

I am a married adult. I prefer to have own time with my wife and kids. No time to connect with others. Not feeling lonely

[@bananasmoothie006]

Its not loneliness. Its that you have not learned to be comfortable with your own company. Younger people are dependent on external stimuli, and therefore doesn't know what to do with themselves when they are by themselves. People say they love themselves, but they can't stand being by themselves. This is a weak character in my opinion.

[@spacecatspacecat7169]

Weak habits breeds weak minds, which is what most of these gen-z seems to have

[@iansitorus3711]

We should be able to learn how to be comfortable with our own company, but we are not wired to be just with ourselves for a long period. It affects a lot of things, health-wise. You can find Simon Sinek talked a lot about this, and he has a scientific backup for this hypothesis. And the fact we need others to communicate doesn't show somebody is weak. Same as why people need food 1-3 times a day, doesn't mean they are weak compared to somebody who can fast for 40 days. This is more of ad hominem fallacy for what you mentioned here

[@projectfear22]

Loving yourself does not equal being happy alone. Loving yourself means respecting and not putting up with crap. Being happy alone does not mean you don't love yourself. After all we are made to be social beings, nobody is meant to be alone and of course there's a strive for at least 1 other human. Those who say otherwise are just too damaged that they stopped bothering in life.

[@jjsamuelgunn1136]

weak character?? don't be condescending. i am a Gen X-er. Not a young man. i used to feel and think the same way you do that they don't know what to do with themselves when they are alone. in this modern age, we actually have more activities to do when we are alone, with more games, movies, music, social media with the entire world's information and data and people accessible at a click. but, this stupid video experiment aside, many of the young generation are genuinely lonely. young people may superficially have a lot of ' friends' on social media as well as things and stuff to do but they have difficulty creating deep meaningful friendships.

[@megaredkentadate9834]

EVERYBODY will feel lonely at some point of their lives. Loneliness DOES NOT care how old you are, whether you are young or old. Its very easy for a person to say " I am your friend" but its VERY DIFFICULT for that person to REALLY be "I am your friend"

[@conordickson2496]

Great show & though provoking topic! Time to check in ✅

[@godsamazinggrace5331]

Isolation loneliness is different from regular loneliness Experiment doesn't depict the usual type of loneliness that some people are going through

[@heroheng3840]

Too me being alone and being lonely is really 2 different subjects. Being alone simply means to give yourself a personal safe space without anyone interruption to quiet and clear your mind. While being lonely means you feel no purpose to feel alive, it like we all have a faith or something that keep us going and loving there is this invisible bind that connects us as all life is connected so to be lonely is to not feel connected that give us depression and being suicide

[@brianlee3508]

Parenting style, attachment style, addictions to cellphone and tech, food addictions, substance abuse like smoking, vaping, and alcohol. Negative peer pressure. Toxic friends and work cultures. Unresolved trauma, emotional immature, Lack self regulation during upbringing

[@kenkhor-d9q]

Being locked up in a room, being lonely and being alone

[@jesselynliau9639]

This experiment reminds me of my quarantine in a 4-star hotel for 9 days. By day 5, I was feeling down already.

[@projectfear22]

Easy. Loneliness comes because mankind is faced with two ultimate truths: 1. You're going to sell your personal time to corporates for the rest of your life 2. The world is ugly with either egotistical people or narc users on every corner. Couple that with the fact that maybe your city doesn't have interesting things to do and you have a recipe for people willingly favouring their own selves over the grim truth of an ugly society.

[@Dominus_Potatus]

Well... if you are locked in a room without any entertainment... it is practically a prison. Everyone around me says if I am not lonely going anywhere alone... My answer is obviously no, I am enjoying my time because I have activities and I think it is not surprising that I don't have mainstream social media (Instagram, TikTok, etc.), so I enjoy everything and I just enjoying the experience without taking any photos... which makes people think that I am weird. And... I have been doing that stuff since... I can go outside by myself. I love to go the the movie alone, like it is convenience since I really love watching movie which I may brag that i watch 80% of movies in the theatre between 2011 and 2016. When covid-19 hit, the main concern was money but after I solved it, I really enjoy my time when covid-19, so ... peaceful, I have no bad intention about those who had bad time but I had a great time. Loneliness is worst for social butterfly and I am not the one. The worst part of being a single person is a question about "are you not lonely?", I just... feel that they pity me while they shouldn't, really want to ask them, "Are you not tired to please a lot of people?"

[@Dominus_Potatus]

oh yeah... I think there must be a bias for this kind of journalistic because most of people in journalistic should be an extrovert. If you go to IT departement, the backend one, the one who make sure that everything runs fine, you will find happy introvert there.

[@Dominus_Potatus]

And... as an introvert, I must find that one extrovert guy that want to adopt me into their circle.

[@Dominus_Potatus]

yeah... that 18:20 is a bias... those who are enjoying lone time doesn't even care about social media, hence those answers are not representing those who love to be alone.

[@jesusthedevil]

I have been a few months ago alone for 3 weeks, not talking to a single person. I just ordered food home and worked from home. I realized that I havent left home only after 3 weeks.

[@bluedragon3126]

You have to pump this number up

[@JamesC-b9k]

Being alone feels great. You don't get bullshits

[@nicoleac5722]

Some good discussion points but to simply equate isolation to loneliness deviates from the deeper roots of loneliness as a social issue . To get bored in 48 hrs in her test is not the same as loneliness experienced by people who feel so among people.

[@jvt6212]

Very informative video! 👍😳🙏 Love how this documentary highlights importance of having social needs/wants met and how checking in w peers can make all the difference in their health (both mental and physical)

[@slaiyfershin]

48 hours of paid holiday from work. Sounds like heaven.

[@WanderlusttheWorld]

I like to be alone but not lonely

[@StudyWithBritney]

Yeap i feel lonely a lot of times

[@ejsoh5291]

i enjoyed this! Great work guys

[@RavenCloudNine]

Need at least 1 week for someone to start feeling miserable. But if it's someone with underlying mental issue doing the experiment, 1 week can be fatal, or at the very least detrimental. Not an easy experiment to conduct.

[@yimveerasak3543]

I've been like this for 38 years

[@dunlop9292]

I think what you experience is being alone not lonely. Lonely is a state of mind and yes, being alone due increase the likelihood of being lonely but being alone is not lonely.

[@kingjardani7267]

I used to feel this way when I was younger, but now I'd preferred it.

[@shao2307]

Wasn't quarantine like 14 days?

[@balemohamad6135]

One should master loneliness and suppress the urge to lower their standards meeting wrong people which will end up ruining own life

[@starman1994]

Because everything is about "me, myself and I" when it comes to Gen Z. Self entitlement through the roof.

[@8777RL]

I love being alone❤

[@our_playlistz]

Being alone for 48 hours is not enough. Especially when you know you are safe. People who are lonely because no-one can stay with them cause they have work somewhere else . They actually don't feel safe. They can't sleep peacefully and they miss talking to someone. They feel like if they died at night nobody will know about it😢 . If you choose to be alone then it can be good but if it is not your choice. Then it sucks .one of my relative lives alone cause her son and husband work far away. She feels sad and sick when she is alone. She says she Don't want to do anything cause because of loneliness.

[@yinbaoteo5005]

Very on-point! 🎉❤

[@Wong-Jack-Man]

I been self isolating the pandemic, and tbh i miss that time it was peaceful. No cars, just nature.

[@BeeeHonest]

I have unintentionally experienced 7 days of isolation.

[@adrianayremedia3233]

In my opinion, the pandemic has caused us to feel isolated and made us more aware that there's a vulnerability of being a human.

[@iNeed2ppp]

I remember back during covid, I was still traveling for work. I had to serve 2x14 days of quarantine in a hotel....

[@letsgoletsgoletsgoletsgoletsgo]

i've been an introvert all my life , still am, won't change but recently i have been thinking , it'll be nice to have just a bit more friends

[@jiejie-i1x]

Suddenly I feel introvert is a blessing😂😂😂 , I feel fully charged and happier when I was being alone isolated for 7 days during covid. For extrovert this is will super bad news😅😅

[@PS-qx6mw]

Being alone is shiok lar.

[@yummy90the2nd]

honestly being alone doesn't make you lonely, you only feel lonely because you refuse to acknowledge that you are the one distancing yourself

[@ysngngys7753]

- events that focus on the positives to get u together. events that focus on negatives will see how far can u all can go. - 9:30 this experiment removed one of the most important thing of young adult. not a fair test.

[@kakadakhorn7222]

Being alone is a choice, while on the other hand, loneliness is the condition of being stuck socially where you don't have access to the people or environment you belong in.

[@antaeusguy]

feeling lonely is part of everyday life. it depends people to people. some people who are introverts will feel they have no friends at all. every weekend, there is nothing to look forward to. when you question the purpose and meaning of life, you will feel lonely. there are a few ways to help with loneliness. 1. get a pet. a pet will help you to get through your tough times 2. get out of the house even if by yourself. go to a cafe, a park or even window shopping. if you stay at home for too long, you will have lonely feelings if you don't live with someone. 3. be part of a community. depending on your interest, join a yoga class, gaming groups, book club, meditation etc.. you will form friendships and common interest with other people. introverts tend to keep things to themselves and hardly ever to reach out to someone. the road is long, and it's important to recognize when loneliness leads to depression and have suicidal thoughts, that's when you need to break out of it... it's hard, and it's really all in your mind. it's so much easier to be submerged in negative emotions than to give yourself the reassurance that everything will eventually turns out to be okay.

[@Steppenwolf88-d2r]

From Singapore to New York, it's happening right now on a massive scale, but the taboo is too high to adress it and if you dear even questionning or slightly alarming it, you are banned or even mocked ... ( my takes on it)

[@KillenEMsoftly]

i still need human interaction but that 48 hour isolation seems really awesome

[@Trisuku]

1:10 just seeing mixers like those on a screen give me introvert anxiety lol

[@huiyingtanyayap]

i think the problem is in that 48 hours there is no digital stimulation. and to be honest, nowaway who is alone reading book or painting? if she has a laptop with wifi, the outcome will be different haha. i have no issue by myself with a laptop with wifi. i actually love it! so maybe the problem is digital simulation makes people prefer to be alone ?

[@cheenangng4050]

I have actually asked some of my colleagues the same question, if coy gave them one week off, fully paid, their work will be covered properly,they can do anything they want except they have to do what ever they want…..alone. All I got was blank stares.

[@tiffaniechia]

What a wonderful episode! Definitely made me think a little deeper about the connections that I have (or yet to have!). A timely reminder to check in on my loved ones ❤

[@SuryaSurya-re3vn]

I do feel this kind of loneliness. It's reallu unbearable. ☹😟

[@ShahulHameed-ur1gg]

Being independent should never be mistaken for being lonely. Unfortunately, I’ve observed that many young Singaporean adults who are neither married nor in a relationship often conflate these two concepts. There seems to be a prevailing mindset that if love or companionship is meant to happen, it will happen naturally, without any effort. This belief leads many to focus solely on their careers or other distractions, only to realise later that they feel isolated and unfulfilled. What’s concerning is that this passive approach to relationships overlooks the importance of actively seeking meaningful connections. Being independent and self-sufficient is undoubtedly valuable, but it doesn't mean shutting oneself off from opportunities to build companionship or find love. Instead of waiting for things to "just happen," a more proactive mindset is needed-one that embraces both independence and the pursuit of fulfilling relationships. We must encourage a shift in this mentality, promoting the idea that while independence is empowering, it doesn’t have to come at the cost of meaningful human connection. With effort and intention, it's possible to balance both, leading to a life that is not only successful but also enriched with solid relationships and a sense of belonging.

[@simplyme3306]

How is 48 hrs alone in the room without fiction and social media a loneliness experiment? This feels like worse than being quarantined in a room? There's so much I can do at home in 48hrs...baking/cooking/cleaning/listening to music/puzzles/piano...exercise and also going to the gym. How about window shopping? All this are solo activities as well. I enjoy me time. I feel better not having people around, make small chats, trying to act friendly.

[@Mari_Selalu_Berbuat_Kebaikan]

Let's always do alot of good ❤ Nam myoho renge kyo

[@KelvinLow-j5i]

On this topic, maybe they should case study one of our ex ministers who is doing some loneliness time.

[@megantan89]

You will appreciate whatever lonely or alone “MORE” than anything after you have 2 kids, juggling with full time work, housework, cooking and managing kids homework everyday. And when can only finally rest when down with illness and on MC and kids at school 🥴🥴🥴

[@caytonkth8518]

I'd volunteer myself for a 72 hours experiment for the good of mankind.

[@newlife-mq4kw]

All these people look healthy. None of them look lonely.

[@carmenemrac]

ooh who is the sketch artist, her artwork is so pretty

[@GAN_JINIAN]

Good video

[@豪意诗吗]

alone than alone lor, no big deal.

[@kk22001]

Loneliness is a made up. At this day and age with all the resources, there are heaps of events. In fact, the key thing now is to disconnect yourself from all the distractions and focus on the key growth of yourself. thats more important.

[@ilosheher]

6:18 i don't agree that oversharing is entirely a bad thing though. if you want to share your true self then share lah, you will find your people, people who don't like your oversharing are simply not your people (and that's neither yours or their fault). withholding how you truly feel can be worse for loneliness.

[@KLgenius]

i sleep also 48 hours

[@SazalibinkamsirSazali-zu5yo]

You asking any county

[@moot8107]

Another topic for Talking Point to investigate: how many China F&B stalls are there in Singapore and why are they increasing exponentially? There are more mala restaurants and mixue than local restaurants

[@sasmungcore5124]

Remember Robinson Crusoe? 28 years, 2 months and 19 days😊

[@raindrop9675]

Someone can feel lonely in group of people. Maybe it is because the most the talk has no meaning, events have no meaning and it hard to find people to connect to. Many people even dont leave their home anymore, except work. Everything is expensive and people dont match each other anymore. An evening in a group can be very boring, but beeing out with someone that really matches you is very rare. No time, no energy, different interests.... friendships are falling apart, because everyone runs in a different direction. In a sensive time, when opinions hurt feelings. Not everyone is an introvert, that enjoys to be alone. Hard when you are young....even harder when old and ill.

[@imperialkhmer6146]

I never knew lonliness was a disease