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[@leenanorms]

woo YEAH MORE Qs ANSWERED

[@tessaviolet]

ILY

[@thebongoqueen]

Tessa you are so inspiring. I've been watching you for a long long time and watching you grow as an artist and speaker always makes me smile. Keep doing what makes you happiest.

[@dicksoutforharambe9547]

if you were talented enough you would have made it by now. you're mediocre at best.

[@josiemac7807]

Dicks Out For Harambe why would you say that? She’s doing what she loves and I for one thing she’s very talented. You’re spreading negativity for no reason, why would you do that?

[@pazzieanneknexx809]

Your name is almost like mine and that weirds me out for some reason but I thought it was cool!

[@Cheshnjica]

This video is aesthetically very pleasing.

[@TheIrishWill]

I desperately want to know what settings were used. ITS SO CLEAR AND SHARP!

[@faeway7108]

TheIrishWill She probably just used some color corrections in post, and she has a great camera.

[@blan123.]

Maša Vilar Stupica so true, the background with the chello, the pretty mirror, the fairy lights... love it

[@darkinuyasha3]

I seem to feel this way about every video she makes. Her style is so attractive.

[@TheIrishWill]

Oh for sure, although I sometimes use a similar setup (I think!) and cant get it anywhere near this clear!

[@heidi9184]

the title is me lmao. i have a terrible fear of failing.. AHHHHHHH

[@heidi9184]

o and you are my aesthetic. thank you. bye.

[@tessaviolet]

[@heidi9184]

TTC a.k.a Jordan //THETNTCHEST same lol

[@celestebrown5842]

Recently I read Quiet, a book about introversion and extroversion. At the end the author writes "The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some its a Broadway spotlight, for others, a lamplit desk." As someone who navigates both (through touring and writing), what are your thoughts? how do you balance the need to be alone and work with being out in the world/doing things/interacting with people?

[@blan123.]

Celeste Brown +

[@semicolon.advocate]

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[@itadakim0use921]

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[@fcayhr]

our lil community comes up with the most intellectual and thought provoking questions ahsjjdneidjwixjw i love this

[@ITalkWithDragons]

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[@sadie1286]

this video has the most beautiful aesthetic, all of the colors match with each other so well

[@zebra1038]

hi, i like your existance.

[@zebra1038]

thank you for existing.

[@Me-on1tq]

when you try to talk to your crush 😄

[@jessika_robin]

That background is so pleasing. And I didn't know there was a dog there until you moved! Surprise doggies are the best. Lovely chat. :)

[@jessika_robin]

Right at the end after the song "Woof" starts (haha...woof...dog) in the mirror.

[@wlrswhskrs]

Quiet a keen eye!!

[@amberisabel9474]

*desperately starts searching for the dog*

[@mikaylarasnick]

ahhh dog!

[@bestmermaid]

lol! I noticed this too and was like whaaaat! When did the dog get there xD all you can see is it's reflection in the mirror but it is a nice touch with the woof at the end.

[@graceisrocked]

Tessa, I've watched you from just about day one. I am so proud of how far you've come. Now you have 1 million followers! My heart sings for you and your success! -Grace

[@tessaviolet]

[@storyspren]

"Remember, failing at something is the first step toward being kinda good at it." - Homer Simpson

[@tessaviolet]

I always thought this was Jake the Dog

[@storyspren]

I just remember it being Homer and his voice is what I hear it in :P

[@storyspren]

Ok I checked it, turns out Jake did say that. Homer's quote was "trying is the first step towards failure" which is a lot less inspiring xD

[@tessaviolet]

HA

[@sjwimmel]

Just for reference, and because I love it, this is the quote: "Dude, suckin' at somethin' is the first step towards being sorta good at somethin'" - Jake the Dog, Adventure Time

[@jassi5794]

Goodness. The backround in this video is SO gorgeous. I discovered you this year ( it was a beautiful discovery) and I've been enjoying your videos a lot! I think it's hard to set goals which are achievable on the one hand and on the other hand challenge you to become better- by 'achieving' goals you automatically are excited to reach new ones. Hope to see you one day touring in Germany! lots of love your way!

[@CharlotteHardy]

You are so naturally gorgeous, I love the feel of this, like we are actually having a chat haha x

[@morganstewart5472]

Charlotte Hardy honestly, i feel the same way a about all of her videos.

[@jennalynna]

there's just somethin bout failing that just puts a damper on every other goal that you set that relates to the one you failed. don't let that consume you, sure you didn't meet it the first time- doesn't mean you're gonna fail it again and again. with that said, don't set higher expectations for goals that you succeed or fail bc you feel like you need to do better. feel comfortable with the things you do and the little tiny things you accomplish ! your vids are lovely and ily

[@amandablanca9642]

hey tessa i know you wont read this nor answer back but thank you, thank you so much for just being alive and existing and writing music and overall for just talking about your day. I share similar views as you on terms of failing and in all honesty its been a weird year for me ive felt like such a failure and ive excluded myself from a whole lot but watching your videos some how makes me feel part of something. I want to move foreward currently i feel as if im standing still- im not inspired or i feel i lack the creativity i once had. School is draining and time is going by so fast- what do you suggest i do to fuel my goal of being inspired or getting back out there in the world.

[@semicolon.advocate]

you're just. such a pleasant person to listen to. your videos leave me in a tranquil, contemplative state that i like a lot.

[@SarahJacklyn]

"failure is a stepping stone for improvement" i love this

[@Sophie.L.H]

Love these chatty get ready with me videos, I want to do more of them on my channel! I think most people have the fear of failure but really failing is how we learn the most. There's nothing wrong with failing as long as you keep trying and learn from it!

[@LucasHutchinsonIsGreat]

I really like hearing Tessa's personal journey, because it helps me in mine in a lot of ways. "Practice Self-Compassion" and "People are doing the best they know how" are phrases I try and keep in mind and think on often.

[@mad_tovee2630]

You always make me feel calm and I really appreciate that. Thank you ♡

[@Lunarwingluna]

"And I definitely didn't like to tell people goals out loud. If I were to do anything, I'd do it internally, so if I did fail, nobody would know." This is one of the most relateable things I've heard in a while. Every time I watch one of your vids, and I've only seen a couple, you say something that hits me oddly close to home. It felt amazing hearing somebody else say that. I never know quite how I want to explain it to people, and it's embarrassing in it's own right to try and verbalize it without the person/people you're talking to think it's silly when they don't have the same problem as you.

[@Sladetyler]

I like the idea of getting rid of the stigma behind failure! I definitely agree that failure can be a stepping stone for growth and betterment and can definitely be super important in that process.

[@twinsauce]

We're daily vloggers, and we edit the day after. That way it allows you to work on the edit throughout the day, but it also lets your relive the day before! you've got this Tessa!

[@milatheworld]

I love how everytime I have a negative feeling in my life Tessa is posting a video about it. It happened again, talking about the fear of failure. I really love you Tessa, you are inspiring me ❤

[@nayyira2108]

IM JUST SO GLAD bc honestly tessa ur videos calm me so much like really really really, you talking about stuff and making sense of things and just your voice and yoUR EVERYTHING

[@Aboutamovie]

Give me your hair please thank you.

[@aroseh]

About a movie ikr I'm so jealous

[@craisis]

Credit to a t-shirt from dftba.com for this quote. "every failure is a chance to get it right" has become integral in my life. I love the attitude of positivity around it. I now have that saying on a plaque on my desk at work as a reminder to be positive for us next attempt after any failures.

[@katymartin-davies7567]

does anyone else feel so calm and happy just listening to Tessa's outro and wanna listen to it on repeat for like 9 hours

[@graceoline]

3:02 Past Tessa would be so proud of Present Tessa ❤❤❤❤❤ this is so inspiring. 🎉

[@jackiewyatt5546]

Ugh. I needed a Tessa video today ❤️

[@ProudNitro]

I used to have this crushing fear of failure. I wanted absolute perfection, and so when I did something as well as possible I couldn't let myself enjoy it because it's what I expected of myself. I have since had to deal with the self-esteem issues associated with not being perfect. Now I know my limits and I know I won't succeed at everything, and it's freeing to know that and be happy with that.

[@incandew]

I really liked Anna Akana's video on failure; she talked about the importance of separating your identity/self worth from failure, and how it's just a process that everyone has to go through to get better! Easy to say, hard to do.

[@emmasperos8926]

Tessa, once again you changed my views with a single video. You always make everything so clear and simple. You take these problems I have and don't solve them for me but give me a new way to view them and sort them out. Thank you for existing and being such an amazing human. Also I freaking ADORE your new room can you do like a room tour or something of that nature. I know it's not really your style to do those types of videos but your room is so pretty I just need to see how to achieve such an aesthetically pleasing room.

[@tessaviolet]

THANKS, THAT'S SO NICE.

[@melodysmith3147]

"failure is a stepping stone to being better at stuff"

[@annieinjuly]

THIS BACKGROUND IS MY AESTHETIC TO THE MAX

[@ruth-4433]

These videos make me feel more okay and your positivity inspires me to try to stay that way

[@fruitoson4227]

That room is everything

[@fantastyfairy2756]

I feel like you're growing and maturing so much this year as a person. Really respect you for being so open and honest about what you're learning about. I really relate to your feelings of being afraid of failure. And sidenote...OMG NEW MUSIC! YES!

[@midwestorigins2928]

part of me tells people my goals to try to say "well now they know i have to succeed or else i'll let them down" and it's terrifiying when they see what happens but this video has honestly helped me thank you!

[@RangerBeef]

I love listening to you talk. It's so calm and relaxing to me. They way you sort of think out loud so we can all follow your train of thought is nice. But, on topic, I think we all fear failing but you seem like you've hit a point of accepting that failing something isn't as big of a disaster as your fear makes it out to be. It's all about learning and growing.

[@ParadiceWolf]

To succeed you first must fail, to do that you must first try. Thats my life motto!

[@EliShane]

I LOVE YOUR GRWMS and i can't believe we're gonna be blessed with VEDIM, VEDA, and vlogmas. you are so inspiring ahh

[@ryancoleman8972]

I really enjoy this style of video, it seems like a pretty relaxed way of making little updates, but at the same time it feels like a discussion about how you're doing

[@Petite_Blossom]

Ahh yass Tess! I haven't seen your content in yearssss, I use to binge watch all your videos! What a blast from the past! Love this, all of this and your whole channel.

[@bridgelikesbooks]

1. Your room aesthetic is goals holy shit 2. I have an exam in 2 hours 3. This was really helpful in calming my nerves for aforementioned exam. you da best

[@SlightlyBookishBlog]

i dedinitely have changed my mindset on failure lately, especially since ive been learning to drive. you cant learn if you dont fail, i think! i mess up when driving sometimes and i get upset but once i figure out what i did wrong, BOOM. now i understand how to not do that/be better at that in the future. and thats way more helpful i feel. btw ive been watching ur vids for years now and i wanna say i just love how thoughtful and genuine your videos are, especially in the last year or two

[@abigailestacio1794]

your bedroom is so aestheticlly pleasing i cant

[@wlrswhskrs]

Can I just say that I love the idea of Spring Cleaning your mind and setting goals a bit later in the year after adjusting to last years changes and revelations for a bit. Deciding to move forward with a better understanding of where you are and where you want to be, and *how* to get there. As opposed to setting your sights too soon (in January) and ultimately end up stumbling and wandering around, aimlessly. I want to start trying to incorporate this in my life because I think it would help me. Thank you for sharing

[@soupisbreakfast]

this hair is my everything! also i love the topics you discuss and how intelligently you discuss them. lovely

[@peytonhawkins486]

a teacher told me once "learn how to fail, but better" and to me it means its okay to fail because you can learn from it, and keep learning from it until you're so awesome at failing that you're not failing anymore.

[@juliaharmsworth5827]

that opening shot is the most aesthetic thing i've eVER SEEN

[@maehardman1193]

Going through a lonely time right now. The only person in my family who accepts my coming out is now dying and I found out my 'friends' always slag me off behind me back. Thank you Tessa, and to KZbin in general. Tessa, your videos help me to live. Thank you.

[@MrKuksoolme]

In jiu jitsu we say you either win or learn.

[@tessaviolet]

I love that!

[@dab88]

breaking your arm doesn't sound like a fun way of learning

[@colejohnson909]

BuT YOu StILL LeARn

[@TheRissRiss]

I love you're videos! and I love these open conversations that you have about mental health, and insecurities, and motives, and all that jazz! I always feel like you're in my brain, and articulating what I'm thinking better than I could!

[@JudsonRadio]

"Don't let your mistakes be regrets; don't let your failures be defeats."

[@NatalieEng113]

the decor in this room is unreaal

[@derekbehrens9744]

HOLY MOLEY, TESSA. You're production quality is BONKERS.

[@domn.q]

Goodness, I'm so happy and relieved I'm not the only one thinking of goals during only the spring. The time beforehand (esppppecially New Years) is too stressful. Thank you for the talk, Tessa! This was lovely!

[@sydneyb8513]

I love these types of videos, and I am so proud of you no matter what. What you said is so relatable to me, I'm always afraid of failing and setting goals

[@dessisaur]

I feel like this just reiterates the theme of meet the Robinsons "keep moving forward" and failure helps us learn and grow. its a great thing to teach your viewers. :)

[@alaskanmolly4419]

Just rewatched this video, and I am realizing just how gorgeous your style is. I've noticed it before, but especially in this video, seeing your background (which I'm assuming is your room), it's just so beautiful. You have some great style girl, in your room, clothes and hair. It is all fabulous. You are fabulous.

[@IQsveen]

I'm studying to become a teacher, and our pedagogy professor have a pretty nice motto: "Failing is the best kind of learning. You now know what you shouldn't do."

[@tessaviolet]

excellent

[@colecerys123]

So excited for so much content! I have adored leena's series and watched every single one and am looking forward to yours :) xx

[@moochiegirl1000]

Fear of failure is definitely something I've been struggling with, and I really needed this video. Thank you Tessa 💛 you're lovely

[@moistpineapple6501]

So glad your back, you make my day and everyone elses so much better!! Magnificent even 🙂 stay beautiful both physically and mentally as always 😇❤

[@cliqueasfrick-9122]

I'm always so happy when you upload and I love you so much~

[@KaliGermany]

you're one of the people who has inspired me for years to create. i need to set aside some time to discuss goals with myself, this helped me a lot. can't wait for your daily videos!

[@zachonias]

Can't love these videos enough! I identify so well with many of your thoughts and feelings around creating and trying to be organized. As I deal with multiple points of transitioning in my life, and as I try to write my thoughts about my life and feelings, these video essays focus and describe some of these things really well. I've recently been using goals more and more, I think I always had such a vague impression of my future plans, if I had any, but I want to do a lot, and I relate with finding goals useful in directing efforts, I'm not someone who can make a detailed goal or plan and stick to it, but making a plan and recording in outside the mind through writing or otherwise, is just so helpful :)

[@oswin7073]

Omg Tessa THANK YOU, I really really needed to hear this today! I'm trying to get better at accepting my failures and being okay with things not always working out, as long as I tried by best. You've given me so much inspiration

[@Pawznhooves]

This was such a calm, validating video. Thank you so much for your consistent inspiration, Tessa!!

[@doodlebear544]

I am so excited for may now! I just recently found your channel and I am hooked :3

[@september9005]

YES. Love this. I feel the same about setting goals.

[@IrisMobiel]

your room is so gorgeous! I'm nearly speechless, wow

[@rebekahl568]

I'm so in love with your content, Tessa

[@Matoustar]

I completely feel you about goals!! I've been thinking a lot about the future recently since apart from easter (which I ever hardly celebrate), nothing special really happens so you can think more objectively I guess?

[@PuffinMaster86]

OMG I've missed these videos! I'm totally on board with the fear of failing for sure. I've stopped telling other people about my goals and things I'm trying so that my fear is completely self involved and I don't have the added fear of disappointing someone other than myself, because I can barely handle disappointing myself as is.

[@brice_official]

"I definitely didn't like to tell people goals out loud, If i were to do anything I'd do it internally." I have never related to something someone said so much.

[@lenharper]

congrats on one million! and im so proud of how far you've come and however much content you put out, i will gladly watch it, but admittedly if you do more that would be amazing for viewers like me XD

[@moltodolce7071]

everyone's questions are so deep! to throw something lighter and easier in there, what was teenage tessa like? what kinds of subjects did you do in high school? what's the first piece of advice that comes to mind to give your teenage audience? I'm super excited to watch 100 of your vids!! xx

[@Froyobaggins]

I was so excited to see this video in my sub box!! I've missed you loads!!

[@uns0ciable4ever]

i love the way you speak, you're so eloquent and intelligent x

[@sjduda]

This is the second video I've ever watched of yours and I absolutely love this. And the background.

[@toxicsnow966]

You are an absolute inspiration, so open, and know who you are. I have been watching since I was in high school, and while some KZbinrs I've stopped watching as I grew u, I am very glad that I have stayed watching you and Nanalew.What advice would you have to live a beautiful, positive,life. ❤❤Thanks so much!

[@TheRandomperson1016]

I like pretty much every song from your album and EP, so I'm definitely looking forward to what you release next year

[@hopejackson3935]

wow I needed this

[@eleanorxo5741]

I know what you mean about failing. I've actually decided to take a step back from my channel, so that I can take the time to improve. The failure I see is in my lack of uploading - my failure to provide the content that people have subscribed to me for. But conversely, taking the time to step back and readjust enables me to better my content and come back stronger than before. Stepping stones indeed. I love that view, so thank you for reinforcing it!

[@sepiasmith5065]

goals stress me out so much

[@michllons]

i'm soooo excited to watch your vedim because i love hearing your thoughts!

[@fionablackmoore8035]

Everyone says you've introduced them to the enneagram of personalities, could you talk about that? Your type and the system in general, maybe your opinions on personality classifications. Pleease it's so interesting!! Also, very glad to have so many videos to look forward to!

[@nadiakeaton5680]

Fiona Blackmoore yea this!!

[@VerbenaHA]

Pausing five seconds in because HOLY COW, WALL ART!!! The background is so flippin pretty

[@ranahijawi1473]

Thank you so much for posting ❤

[@coraparkinson8844]

What do you think about marriage? Does it ruin relationships, help them, do you think you would commit, what are your overall thoughts?

[@auraali182]

Talk about identity!! and how sometimes maybe the right thing to do doesn't necessarily go with our identity (example: knowing i should confront someone about sth but not doing so because im just the kind of person that avoids conflict, etc)

[@PerfectoM]

It is an interesting topic but I have read other peoples comments and failing is something that we have to do in order to learn. It is a crucial thing to understand how to fail. So, we know what not to do. Just food for thought and I love this quote. "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." Thomas A. Edison

[@arowynbailey8921]

I would really like a part 2 for your ' What is love ' video. You talked about the ways you COULD love someone, so maybe you can talk about knowing HOW you love someone. :)

[@Evershear]

I understand the fear. I wrestle with it too. Welcome back & thanks for sharing, I am looking forward to all the extra content this year. I hope you meet your goal. Because, it would be good for me, good for you, and good for the world.

[@nataliemaxey7796]

Your bedroom is goals

[@VivienneGucwa]

You are inspiring to me especially when it comes to setting up goals and setting yourself up for success. I only just started posting regularly here (only 16 videos so far!) so this was great to watch and listen to because it gave me the impetus to keep going and not be so hard on myself with any kind of 'failure'.

[@healthwealthharmony4113]

i feel this on a deep level

[@varun9115]

This video is aesthetic, hair, and ninja doggo goals.

[@nanimelli6739]

YAAAAS, I WAS WAITING FOR YOUR NEW VIDEO FOR SO LONG AND I JUST HAD A SHOWER AND BANG,NEW VIDEO FROM TESSA (sorry for the caps, i am excited)

[@Agoraphobication]

Yay, new video from Tessa! I love your view on failure. Western culture emphasizes that failure is "bad," just like conflict is bad, just like anger is bad. Learning from your failures and using them as opportunities to grow and change is far more useful a perspective. Can't wait to see May's work :) Thanks for setting a great example of emotional maturity. Far too little of that on KZbin.