Get Ready With Me For An Event I Bailed On During The First Intermission

[@stephenie44]

I relate to what you said about makeup. I really like the self expression that comes with makeup, but I haven’t been able to wear it regularly since high school. I just end up spending way too much time looking at my face and figuring out what I don’t like/want to change/wish was different. And then those things are always the first thing I notice when I look in the mirror. It’s been a lot better for my mental health to just wash my face in the shower and not spend much time looking in the mirror everyday. I think your natural face is stunning, by the way

[@UnvisibleGirl]

You should be your unapologetic 80s self ☺ also proud of ya for going somewhere even if you couldn't stay

[@maryreed3956]

you look great! style evolution is different for everyone I'm grateful I never really cared about others and dressed for myself, as a child my parents would always remark that what I'm wearing isn't normal or the colours are clashing but it made me happy so I'll do it anyway. I had a period of time from around 18-20 where I tried very hard to fit in. My "normal" phase. That very quickly made me unhappy. I've just turned 30 and look forward to only getting weirder. Since realising I'm autistic my priority of sensory comfort over aesthetic has changed but I still find ways to dress how I like while being comfortable. I used to settle for clothing I've had for decades that were Xmas gifts as my indoor clothes that were comfortable but I didn't feel myself in so slowly changing my day to day indoor clothes to also fit my style has done wonders for me mentally. There's far less of a divide between my day to day and going out out clothes. Although my makeup is still very all or nothing, I like it that way. I don't view it as a better version of myself, that's still a valid way to treat it though, for me it's a creative outlet. How can I shape-shift, I want to look like a clown 🤡 unrecognisable? Great! I hope this isn't coming across as criticism, I wanted to share my own views on these things I found your channel recently and really enjoy your views and hearing you talk in general

[@DanaAndersen]

Not perceived as criticism at all! This is the exact kind of topic where I LOVE hearing about what other people do and like, it’s such a personal thing that I don’t feel like any way of doing it is wrong 💕

[@GeorgiaJournals]

I 100% relate to liking my style until I go outside. I feel comfortable in myself but uncomfortable in public, or the reverse, when I dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable in public but uncomfortable in myself. It would be nice if those two lined up every so often😂 going out at all is an achievement sometimes, regardless of the time you actually spend there. Also caught the Jim sticker on your mirror out the corner of my eye and that made me happy!

[@linnzo]

"You'd be prettier if..." is never a nice thing to say. You were right to take that as a backhanded compliment

[@stephenie44]

7:19 being perceived as yourself is so opposed to the masked self that is used to being perceived. Our masked former selves may not be very authentic, but they’re very aware of the potential for judgement from others - like it’s literally their job to be aware of it, that’s how they kept us safe in vicious places like school. What part of our Self comes out in public? the part that used to mask. The part that spent our whole childhood telling us, “you’re doing it wrong, you look silly, go fix yourself, why do you bother?”

[@DJ_Black_Tourmaline]

yyour style is bomb. really nice mix of things. good colors, nice layering. it's cool how the makeup is the focal point!

[@cristinaroe2166]

Dana. You are a very pretty girl and I also enjoy your quirky style. You are an original with or without makeup. God bless you❤

[@vickimaroney800]

The make up looks lovely and the dress really suits you! 80s style is the best!!

[@glamscams]

overwhelm after or during events is so relatable, i overdid it this week and have had to take the past 2 days to recharge

[@laura.bseyoga]

💚

[@g.l.1346]

7:05 this sounds like you experience a lot of shame. Trauma fucks you up that way and shame is a biiiig thing when it come to developmental trauma. I know I don't know you but hearing what you've said about your family and bullying and abusive relationships it makes sense to me you'd really struggle with being perceived as different/quirky because that wasn't safe for you for a long time I'm also sorry you didn't have a nice time :( hope you feel better

[@Yuffie13]

Love the 80s look! 😊 I'm kind of amazed by anyone who can put on makeup. I've used proper makeup once in my life, for my sister's wedding (because I was going to be in the pictures), and my mom wound up having to put it on for me because I never used it as a teenager - but that was mainly because my parents didn't want me wearing it until I was about 16, but I also assumed I'd find it itchy or that my skin would break out in hives. (And by the time I was that age I was in martial arts, so I saw no point in experimenting with makeup when I was constantly getting sweaty and gross.) And when she did my lip gloss for the wedding she told me to smooth it out, and I tried to, and she was all, "You've smushed it everywhere! I told you to smooth it out!" (How was I to know?!) So now I have 8 -year-old foundation, blush, and lip gloss that I should probably throw out, and no brushes because my mom didn't think of offering to buy me a set. And I don't think Sephora makes those particular products anymore. Oh, and then when I was 14 or 15, my sister went to my aunt's house for Boxing Day or the day after and came home with a "gift" for me... which was a set of cheap makeup brushes. And then my cousin (my uncle's daughter, a fellow black sheep) said, "She gave them to me and I gave them back because I didn't need them! I'm so sorry!"

[@raver8558]

Your style is absolutely amazing! :>

[@AM-pleistocene]

You're so pretty dana don't worry about that! Also I get you about not feelings yourself when you go out dressed up, and also not wanting to be percieved as woman by the way I dress. I enjoy it for a bit but then I have to drink more so I can get through how uncomfortable it is wearing feminine clothes and make up, I like the stuff for the impact but I'm realy just a tomboy and happy with it. I just think it should be fun, sometimes I have fun and sometimes I don't.

[@jodimeadeblue]

love the blue tights, and how you put your outfit together! You look awesome! Every once in a while I love doing a totally “I got to be” outfit. Although its “totally me” it’s also an outfit that gives me a feeling of creating a character. cuz, i’m autistic and if i’m bored then thats just the thing to get my creativity cranking.

[@T8staDiM3rda]

The bad thing about bailing on an event is you don’t get another invite. That can also be the good thing though. 🙂

[@roberts.3712]

WOW....just wow...🙀

[@Ellpep]

When you were talking about your cool new 80s dress I fully thought you were talking about the patterned top you were wearing throughout and now I need to know, is it a top or a dress? And is it also one of the vintage things you got from eBay/charity shop? it’s very cool from what I could see

[@DanaAndersen]

It’s a weirdly long jumper! I got it from T K Maxx in a Christmas sale years ago when someone had gotten me a gift card and I decided to just find the weirdest thing in the shop 😂

[@nobodyofconsequence6522]

2:50 my mother dyes her eyelashes because "mascara is too much hassle"

[@DanaAndersen]

I’ve considered this but it’s expensive to have done and there’s 2938742 warnings on kits to do it at home that put me off 😂

[@MonirulIslam-mq9uc]

👉Your video is beautiful, but if you edit the thumbnail well, it will get more views🎯