GETTING MARRIED in the USA vs. Germany | Feli from Germany

[@FelifromGermany]

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[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

Millions of Americans who have never married are in LTRs.

[@mitchellbarnow1709]

I especially liked the German grooms in their lederhosen!

[@balancedactguy]

I don't think it's very common for the Newly Married couple to Keep Partying at a Bar after the reception. After the reception most go on to a Hotel so they can start their Honeymoon RIGHT AWAY ( Wink Wink!) then leave town the next day!

[@FelifromGermany]

@@balancedactguy Most couples I know didn't go in their honeymoon right away bevause that's just kind of stressful. And yes, you see bride's and grooms out at the bars every weekend here :)

[@balancedactguy]

​@@FelifromGermany Must be a Cincinnati thing! 😂🤣 Hey.BTW!! I asked you a long time ago to make this very video about German vs American Weddings! Sagen die Deutschen ---> ..."Besser spaet als niemals!" ??😂

[@nejdro1]

I married my German wife in 1964 in Darmstadt, Germany. I was an American G.I. We did indeed ge married in the Rathaus, and then had a religious ceremony in the American Military Chapel. One tradition I found interesting is that an engaged couple had to post their intentions to marry at the Rathaus for a couple weeks before the marriage. I also found it interesting that the Hessen Police actually checked for any criminal record of mine from back home in Chicago. Kind of ironic because I worked in military intelligence and had a Top Secret security clearance. We also followed the German custom of not having an engagement ring, but rather wearing the wedding rings on the engagement hand until the wedding, where the bands were then switched to the wedding hand. All turned out well and we were happily married for 50 years until her death 10 years ago.

[@tudororza]

Beautiful! I am studying right now in Darmstadt. It's amazing to hear such old stories from a place that I just got to know 😊

[@Winona493]

Laughing and crying at the same time. Did you stay in Hessen or anywhere in Germany or did you move to the States?

[@junimondify]

With intentions to marry, you mean "das Aufgebot bestellen", right? That was canceled in 1998, today the marriage only has to be "angemeldet" at the Standesamt, no need for a six week wait anymore.

[@nejdro1]

@@junimondify I was not sure that this requirement still existed. I just thought it curious that your intentions to marry would physically be posted on the wall at the Standesamt at that time.

[@nejdro1]

@@tudororza Enjoy your stay in Darmstadt. I spent 3 of the best years of my life there 60 years ago. I met my German wife there and started my studying of the German language, of which I went on to get my degree in German.

[@MrGrumpy1]

I have seen American weddings where the couple spent an outrageous amount and then began married life deep in debt. Neither my family nor my wife's were wealthy and we didn't want anyone to have debt so we self-funded our wedding within our budget. We had a wedding/reception where we could give our guests (30 or so) individual attention. Still married 32 years later!

[@mikeanderson1722]

Same sentiments here. I had the money to chip in for a fairly nice wedding but I gave my daughter the choice... I could spend it all on her wedding or give it to her as a wedding gift, i.e. the more wedding you get, the less cash will be waiting for you at the end of it. She chose a modest affair in a beautiful state park and put the money towards a down payment for their home instead. My own wedding was a 2-person visit to the local justice of the peace, followed by a party with our respective roommates at her apartment... big weddings just aren't a thing in my family.

[@kevingleason1051]

Fresh out of college, we had a "budget wedding" in 1973, and will be married 51 years on September first. 😊

[@ryanfay1]

Lol the frugalness

[@samanthac.349]

Setting and keeping a reasonable budget for a wedding happens more often in the US than not. There are ways to have a nice wedding without going in debt. City and county parks often have beautiful places (indoor and outdoor) that can be reserved for events for only a few hundred dollars without catering included. In comparison, privately owned bridal event spaces that you see in movies and TV shows go for thousands to tens of thousands and include full catering and alcohol services. I grew up in a church where a church member could reserve the meetinghouse for free for weddings and receptions as long as no alcohol was served and the building was cleaned immediately following the events. The bride, groom, and their families have to figure out how to acquire catering. This can be accomplished solely by the family and bridal party who prepare food in the days leading up to the wedding or by paying a restaurant to provide the food. Usually, the wedding party and guests who are also church members (sans bride and groom) would stay behind to clean up. Typically, there are enough people where that can be accomplished in under an hour.

[@ryanfay1]

@@samanthac.349 what about the insurance for the other guy and his potential posse?

[@Grecks75]

German couple: Before getting married, my wife and I had known each other and lived together for about 10 years. Our son was nearly a year old when we had our wedding. He was also one of the reasons to finally do get married mainly because of the legal status (between parents and their children) but also because of the practical aspects (everyday things become easier if parents are married and both bear the same name as the child). We wouldn't need the marriage status for ourselves or to prove our love for one another; for us nothing much had changed by the marriage. Yet I do believe this was the right thing to do because it feels more committed and more official and even more natural to me.

[@magorzatawozniak2312]

So actually, something DID change ;)

[@siggipreiss6314]

Feli, this is a great video about the differences between German and American weddings. I'm a former wedding videographer with experiences in about 450 weddings in Bavaria and about 70 weddings in California. One thing I liked in German wedding was the "Kuchenbuffet" with some weddings 20-30 different cakes baked by relatives. Since I filmed almost every Saturday a wedding, I gained to much weight.

[@Cricket2731]

😅😅😅😅🎉🎉🎉

[@peterrabbitn787]

I am from northern Germany. And only one Polterabend I have been to did the burning of the trousers and nailing the shoes of the bride. One thing you have not mentioned but is more popular here is making wreaths for the door. So all the neighbours and family and friends come together in a neighbours backyard or at the house of the bride and groom (when they are not there) and all are creating a huge wreath for their house and most do a heart too to decorate the house and also show others that they have married.

[@FrauTietze42]

I second this, the wreath is a very common thing here (Lower Saxony). The neighbours/ friends are responsible to organise this (and will often do similar decorations on anniversaries, eg wooden decoration on the 10th, silver for the 25th) . I’ve never heard of the trouser/shoe thing. The only shoe related tradition I know of is that girls used to collect Pfennige because supposedly it is good luck to pay for your wedding shoes with pennies.

[@MomoTausendsassa]

Ich komme wie Feli aus dem Süden Deutschlands und bei uns gibt es den Polterabend öfters. Von diesen Kränzen habe ich noch nicht gehört :)

[@hannawolters875]

In Norddeutschland ist der Polterabend, oder Polterhochzeit sehr verbreitet. Zur Polterhochzeit kommen nur geladenen Gäste noch der Trauzeremonie und Hochzeitsessen am frühen Abend. Dann gibt es ein Buffet normalerweise und die erwähnten Hocheits-Spiele, Vorträge, Filme etc.kommen anschließend. Polterhochzeit werden oft gewählt, wenn die Brautleute in verschiedenen Vereinen oder Gruppen sind und diese Menschen auch mit teilhaben lassen wollen an diesen Tag. Wenn die Vereine groß sind, wie z.B. die Freiwillige Feuerwehr senden diese eine "Abordnung von 1- 4 Vereinsmitgliedern, die zur Polterhochzeit gehen. Eine sehr weit verbreitete Sitte ist es auch im Landlichen Raum eine Hochzeitzeitung zu erstellen durch die Freunde oder Familien der Brautleute. Oft werden alles geladene Gaste durch Verse während des Hochzeitsessens oder davor auf diese Art den anderen Gästen vorgestellt.

[@hannawolters875]

Kränze oder Türgerlanden, auch Wäscheleinen mit Babywäsche oder Kinderwagen auf den Dach der Brautleute oder auf deren Hof, manchmal mit großen Plakate die von der Hochzeit künden sind auch oft im ländlichen Raum in Niedersachsen zu finden.

[@nailsofinterest]

Oh the wreath sounds so lovely!!!

[@evanhooper1]

I've been a photographer for a few weddings and OMG, it's so stressful. There's so much pressure to capture one of a couple's most important moments, so you can't mess up. You simultaneously have to able to capture any touching moments at a moment's notice, but also you have to try to be as unobtrusive and "invisible" as possible as to not distract anyone. Also, I'm sure you and Ben can attest to this, but editing so much (photos in this case) is A LOT of work. It's paid well, and I love seeing the gratitude and happiness from the couple, but I don't know if I could do it again.

[@kenpobob]

Fili, my wife is Polish, about 30 years ago my cousin in law's wedding ceremony scarred and traumatized me forever (in a good way). It was in a small Polish rural village, we arrived from Utah the night before and I was sleep deprived. Upon arrival I discovered a circus tent set up for the visitors. The music, the cakes and sweets, the dancing, the vodka...and more vodka. The villagers found a place for me to sleep while the celebrants continued until sunup. I'll never be the same.

[@matthiaslangbart9841]

Same with me. My Polish friend and coworker invited me to her wedding in her country, near the Ukrainian border. 150 guests in an old barn. When they cleaned up the place the other day, they collected 326 empty Vodka bottles. Three hundred and twenty-six!!!!!

[@desperadox7565]

It's crazy how much money people spend for a wedding, especially in America.

[@andrewj9831]

I agree...and how $$$ it's based on their income... I attended weddings where it costs more than the Groom and Bride (family) make in a year. I was invited to a "destination wedding" and that was $10K for a coworker...I didn't go.

[@rewschreijewschreier]

i knew someone who spent tens of twenties of dollars. it was insane. i woulda had to sell my cardboard box house to do somethin like that.

[@museikininkanchou]

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[@gerhardma4297]

It's all just for show. You want/need to pretend to be something that you probably aren't. To avoid social pressures and people's gossip. It's all very sad

[@MsAaannaaa]

India: hold my masala soda.

[@Der_Dolmetscher]

Getting married was the most stressful thing I‘ve ever done. We had three receptions: one in Munich (for my family), one in Wales (for my husband‘s family) and one in Switzerland (for our friends and colleagues). I‘m never getting married again! My younger siblings and cousins also married foreigners and moved abroad, so I attended their weddings in Canada, France, the US, the Netherlands and Slovakia. This summer my cousin is getting married in Greece. I guess, I won’t be drinking the next two months, because come September, my liver will have to survive the three day ordeal.

[@Der_Dolmetscher]

@genitoreunegenitoredue Having our parents, grandparents and siblings (and their partners), twenty-seven people from different countries at all three receptions was a major logistical challenge. My husband and I agreed that from now on, we‘re just guests. We’re flying in, greeting everyone, faux kiss here, faux kiss there, dinner, dance, flying out.

[@aeconsulting1]

You will love the Greek wedding 😂

[@Kietrich]

There are a few other American wedding traditions that might be of interest to you, Feli. In the Black American traditions, after the bride and groom is officially introduced to their guests, they will often jump over a broom. This tradition dates back to the days of American chattel slavery when the enslaved were not allowed to "officially" marry. This leap over the broom made their marriages official among the enslaved communities, even if they got sold away from one another. Today, Black American couples will use a decorative broom for this purpose. Another tradition that is common at Black American weddings are group dances at the reception. There are three that are usually done as a group: the electric slide, the cupid shuffle, and the wobble. They are typically done in that order throughout the night because each dance becomes more and more taxing. These three aren't exclusive to weddings, but are used at most celebratory social gatherings such as cookouts, family reunions, and the like. Also, at some point, the group will form a "Soul Train" line on the dance floor. A "Soul Train" line is named after an old Black American television program called Soul Train. All of the dancers line up in two single file lines facing each other with a lane between the lines. Each dancer goes one-by-one down the center lane in front of everyone and does their own unique dance while the rest of the dancers cheer them on.

[@Herzschreiber]

I (German) am not familiar with US traditions and because of that also not with the traditions of Black Americans. But I am familiar with some of the West African traditions because I've been married to a Senegalese and I guess that the "Soul Train" thing might even have roots in the traditions of some African ethnicities: In lots of them it is common (not only at marriages but at party events in general) that the people form a circle when dancing, and each dancer goes one-by-one to the center of the circle to perform their own unique dance while being cheered on by the rest. Sounds very equal, doesn't it?

[@Btrebor]

Jumping the broom is actually from medieval Britain. It must have passed to the Black community from the Scots-Irish. So much fascinating cultural mingling in history.

[@Logotu]

We jumped the broom at our wedding, from the Celtic tradition.

[@Logotu]

We jumped the broom at our wedding, from the Celtic tradition.

[@terrys2735]

I was a professional DJ for over 30 years in Los Angeles and Las Vegas specializing in wedding receptions for the last 20 years of my career. In that time I provided entertainment and coordination for over 400 receptions. The reason that there’s generally a time limit on receptions in the US is because the catering staff has to be paid for the time that they’re at the reception and the employees also have other shifts to work and are required to have time to sleep between shifts. If you want to see out-of-place wedding elements, go to a casino in Las Vegas on a Saturday and you’ll usually see at least one woman in a wedding gown sitting at a slot machine or gaming table!

[@hikingcook]

Kidnapping the bride is also a thing in Northern-Germany, not only Bavaria/Austria. Another (rather nasty) tradition is the "preparing of the home for wedding night": The couple's siblings prepare the house/apartment in order to hinder bride and groom getting into bed, - obstacle course! A bedroom filled up to the ceiling with balloons, yarn-spider-webs in the hallway, loud music from hidden speakers... It is shocking how creative siblings can be...

[@SoneaT]

We had our front doorsteps full of Kronkorken (Metal Beer bottle caps) who are pretty spiky and the indoor steps with hundreds of filled paper coffee cups ( pretty nasty, BC they were sucked with water and wobbly or leaking). In our floor we had a lot of yarns spun, so we needed to be Jackie Chan or crawl,step or even jump over them in full dress. In the Kitchen everything had tinsel and confetti 😂. ( I found them still ten years later now and then). And they freezed all of our cutlery 😂. The bedroom was filled up with balloons and the living room didn't have any furniture at all anymore, except the big cupboard. We needed to pay a symbolic fee in form of beer to get them back the next day. 😂

[@bufanda]

@@SoneaT We did similiar stuff to our cosuins home when she got married. :D

[@SoneaT]

@@bufanda 🤣👍💯

[@gertiepackbiers6578]

@@SoneaT My siblings used my clothing steamer to steam the labels off canned goods in the pantry and swap them around. I had no idea that could be a thing and called the store to tell them I had a can of green beans I'd purchased there that was full of peas. My siblings were extra pleased with themselves about that. haha

[@SoneaT]

@@gertiepackbiers6578 didn't know that's possible 🤭🤣🤣🤣. But thanks... My next wedding I will remember this for sure. What a great idea 👍😁🤣🤣🤣

[@jimmeade2976]

My wife and I got married on a cruise ship by the captain, which made sure we were in International waters, where he can legally marry us. We are older, and this was not the first marriage for either of us. Her best friend was maid of honor while my son and daughter were my best-persons. We turned the cruise into a kind of family get-together. In addition, her two sons and their wives joined us. Our wedding certificate is actually from Malta, where teh ship is registered, and in Maltese with English subtitles.

[@cathrinagroiss604]

Beautiful way to celebrate

[@Herzschreiber]

Sounds really wonderful to me!

[@nailsofinterest]

Wow. My niece was married on a Disney ship they legally had to be married on the dock before the ship left. Had a ceremony while on ship. State of Florida but I bet that's also because they had applied for a Florida marriage license I guess. Their parents were shocked only 1 could be there!😮

[@nailsofinterest]

Of course, in Florida, a simple notary republic can be the officiant. We technically were married by an auctioneer.😅But he was a notary, too (title work the auction company did). He was our brother in law. Married my now husband's sister the year before.

[@karlschneider9479]

I went to a wedding in Dublin, Ireland and the pints and whiskey was flowing like water. The next day I barely remember getting back to my hotel!

[@charlesgantz5865]

To say " Ireland" and "the pints and whiskey was flowing like water" is redundant.

[@vernieplummer5148]

I was worried I wouldn’t be interested in this video for the entire over 30 minutes, but it was just fascinating. Thanks for the info.

[@sewing1]

About 20 years ago my wife and I attended the wedding in New Orleans. After the church ceremony the wedding party and guests all drove about 10 miles to the reception location. The line of cars was lead by multiple police cars that had their lights flashing. The police ran all the red traffic lights and even stopped traffic on an Interstate highway so all the wedding cars could stay together!

[@mae2759]

Pittsburgh area weddings have a cookie table. Usually there are some homemade cookies there from both families. Everyone looks forward to this at Pittsburgh weddings.

[@timduncan6750]

I love this idea!

[@khaki212]

In Rochester, New York it is traditional to have "Italian Wedding Cookies" at your reception. Also, it is common to have a supply of small paper bags nearby so people can take cookies home with them.

[@uribove]

Safiya Nygaard went HARD on her wedding learning multiple dances to show off an amazing opening dance. And i respect that

[@chantellelandon85]

she did indeed, I absolutely loved the dance she & Tyler did that was from the Addams family.

[@ACEsParkJunheeWreckedMeHard]

18:45 Some people in Germany also book a horse carriage. My uncle had one on his wedding when I atended it with 2 beautiful dark brown gigantic horses

[@trophybuckle3235]

For my bridal shower, my friends had me complete a registry at my favorite art supply store and I got nothing but art supplies to mark the start of my marriage and it was the best thing ever 🖤😂

[@kathilisi3019]

In Austria, many regions have their own wedding traditions. Weddings in the Burgenland area are completely different to weddings in Salzburg or Tyrol. In Vienna, these days it's a mix of cultural traditions and things people have seen in movies. I got married in my husband's home town near the Hungarian border, which has really strong traditions, like walking to church in a procession with a brass band, and the bride and groom aren't allowed to walk together before they're married, so the groom is escorted by the "Kranzlbraut", usually a young unmarried female relative, and the bride is escorted by the "Kranzler", the male counterpart. The legal wedding is usually done as a 10 minute stop on the way to the church, as the courthouse is usually next to the church in the town center anyway. The wedding usually starts at about 11am and lasts until 4-5am the following day. Oh, and before the wedding a lot of usually female relatives get together for a week to bake "Krapferl", baked goods similar to Christmas cookies but more variety. At my wedding, we had 120kgs of these, for 100 wedding guests. They are served throughout the wedding, and every guest gets to take a small portion home after the wedding. Also every guest gets a few pieces of wedding cake, because we don't just have one cake. At my wedding, we had about 20! For the first dance, the bride and groom don't dance together: the Kranzler starts the first dance by asking the bride to climb across the table instead of walking around it. Then groom joins in with the Kranzlbraut, and only then do the bride and groom dance together. At midnight, there's a tradition of "Schleier abtanzen", where every guest tries to dance with both the bride and the groom for a few seconds each, paying for the dance by throwing a coin into a basket. The bride's veil is swapped for an old fashioned headscarf during this dance, and the groom gets an old hat. Then the bride and groom get handed a broom, a basket and a wooden spoon, and the guests stand in a circle throwing small change at their feet and the couple have to try to sweep it into the basket. The wooden spoon is to fend off drunken guests who run across the dance floor trying to knock over the basket and spill the coins again. 🤪 In the area where my cousin got married, in the West of Salzburg, both the bride and groom are abducted during the wedding and I have absolutely no idea how that works! They eventually found each other again though, so it's all good.

[@anda013]

In Hungary it's the same, maybe because long time ago that was part of Hungary and they kept the traditions.

[@brigittewinklmayr8329]

In Upperaustria the Kranzlbraut is called Zuabraut and the Kranzler Zubräutger (Zusätzlicher Bräutigam).

[@jeffreyhamilton7061]

"DiscoFox" is called Hustle in the US and it has been around for many decades. There was a version of it in the movie "Saturday Night Fever". I would agree that few people in the US learn to social dance (lead / follow).

[@ichselbst880]

My sister (Gernan) met her man at the volonteer fire brigade. So they married in fire brigade uniform, a honor gard of fireman and , of course, transport on the fire truck.

[@ChristinaMotzer]

Ich habe mal eine Trauung gesehen zweier feldjäger in Afghanistan, die Braut trug flecktarn

[@davidmehling4310]

Since my daughter and her partner met the same way (both volunteer firefighters) I'll share that with her and thank you for sharing

[@rafterwhomestead]

I attended a polish family wedding in Chicago. This was the first time I was at a first generation emigrant to the US wedding. The catholic wedding was nothing new to me, nor was the initial reception, but what was is that most of the attendees took a little break from the reception around 10:30 only to return after a quick nap and the party continued until sun rise!

[@babelwabel170]

Bavarian here, had a traditional bavarian Wedding, I wore a Dirndl, my Husband a Trachtenanzug. Most guest wore Tracht as well. Both of my sisters also married in Dirndl... we could wear the Dirndls on all three weddings, all were not white. And we did not have engagement rinds

[@arlettedumais5776]

We're from Portugal, but moved to the USA years ago. Some of our brides Americanize their weddings by choosing "classy" venues that boot us out by 11:00, when the fun is just beginning! 😫 But I've been to many wedding receptions at our local Portuguese Club and they go until all hours. They're the most fun of all! 🎉🇵🇹🇺🇲

[@katherinemurphy2762]

American here! I got married when I was 30, and spent less than $10,000 on my wedding. My husband and I knew very early on in our relationship that we wanted to be together indefinitely, but we didn't get engaged until 3 and a half years later, and then got married 2 years after that. This summer we are celebrating our 8th wedding anniversary. Our ceremony was on a Monday afternoon at a church, and it was pretty small: we had about 50 people total, and we each had two people in our wedding party. Our reception was at a favorite restaurant (which was opened just for us) and we played music on an iPod through their sound system instead of having a DJ. We didn't have any of the traditional first dance things, or someone to announce us as "Mr. and Mrs." but we did have a sweetheart table. Thanks for the side-by-side comparison!

[@ratchmbrbeth3215]

Most weddings I’ve been to are early afternoon, but back in the 70s, they were generally around 7 PM.

[@kenwalker687]

I am old and have never been to a wedding after 3pm

[@germangirlinthemid-west225]

My husband is from Augsburg, & he was watching this with me & said that you did a good job with the research & explaining the differences.

[@Alan-lv9rw]

I just went to a wedding in Arkansas where the ceremony was on top of a hill overlooking a large lake and the surrounding hills and trees. The view was stunning.

[@hameley12]

😍 How wonderful! Last time I was invited to my friend's wedding in Hawaii. We arrived at the reception area, parked the car and as we walked inside we felt the need to remove our shoes since the sand would eventually get into our toes. Ha! Ha! We looked over the top of a hill and we could see the ocean and birds flying above it. We asked a guest to take a picture of me and my boyfriend. It was a great experience. I hope you had fun as well! 💗💗💙💙

[@OLX_channel]

We are a German gay couple and get married four years ago after living together for about 15 years. We had a quiet traditional wedding ceremony and party with friends and family. The wedding party took place in a very nice castle with a big garden after the official ceremony at the „Standesamt“, which is a very nice location in an old villa in our hometown. Beside this there were all the traditional things that are aspected during a wedding party in Germany like a wedding cake, live music band, photographer, delicious dinner and a lot of gifts from our guests. The party lasted until the last guest left. We loved it so much. It was a perfect day for us. 😊

[@ChristinaMotzer]

Herzlichen Glückwunsch 🎉

[@OLX_channel]

@@JorgSingh-b3z No, we actually got married properly. In Germany, marriage for all has been legal for years.

[@OLX_channel]

@@JorgSingh-b3z Well, it can and does.

[@justgreta1796]

Congratulations! Thank you for sharing and best wishes to you both!!!

[@Aaron-hr5bb]

My wife and I have been asked to be witnesses at the wedding of a gay couple we know here in Mexico. The wedding will be at the municipal registry office with just the immediate family and witnesses. There will be a party celebration a few weeks later after the mother of one of the couple returns from an international trip. I never would have thought that the first gay wedding I went to would be in Mexico! But I would never have thought that Mexico would elect a female president before the US either.

[@Pegnitztal]

We had a small wedding, first in the Rathaus in Lauf an der Pegnitz, then in the Church and for lunch, we were in a restaurant "Altes Rathaus". In the church a friend of my wife sang a song that my wife composed for me: "Wo du hingehst, da will ich geh'n". My relatives who were the was my mother and one of my brothers. Sandra's parents were there and her sister, but all only with time for about 2 pm. We had an excellent meal in th restaurant and when Sandra`s relatives were gone, we moved to our apartment. And then Sandra and I walked to the supermarket's bakery and bought cake for our guests. The people were so happy to see my wife as a bride. And then we went back to the appartment and on the left side, there were houses under construction. The workers stopped their work and cheered! It was a funny day and evening. We are married since 1996 and every day ist a gift for us. And for Silver Wedding, we were in the same Restaurant "Altes Rathaus" (I you should be one time in Lauf, go there..) By the way: It seems to be a very interesting Item for You and Ben, am I right? 🙂 Greetings from the Nürnberger Land

[@leonwilkinson8124]

Feli, my daughter married for the first time at 36 last month. She and my now son-in-law have known each other about 6 years and lived together about 4 years. They made some nontraditional choices for their wedding, and some traditional too. Early on, they decided to have bridesmen and groomsmaids, or whatever you'd call them. After consideration, they decided just to call the collective group the wedding party. At any rate, both sexes stood on both the bride's and groom's sides. My daughter selected a color palette, and both men and women were free to wear whatever dress or outfit they chose so long as it was in the color palette. The result was quite harmonious. One man even dyed his jacket to match a color in the palette. This choice was a welcome departure from coordinated outfits. In her 30s, my wife was in an older friend's wedding who chose bright pink for bridesmaids' dresses because that's what she had always dreamed of--not the most suitable color for every woman. I did walk my daughter down the aisle, but we did not have a father-daughter dance. Another U.S. tradition I don't believe you mentioned is for the groom to give the groomsmen gifts and the bride to give the bridesmaids gifts. To save money, the couple made up a gift bag for everyone in the wedding party. Because the wedding was in New Orleans, gifts included New Orleans chicory coffee and beignet mix. At the reception, New Orleans-style beads were distributed to everyone. Two other features of the wedding were somewhat different. They had a memory table outside the reception hall that had family pictures, including several generations of wedding pictures. While there were both a traditional wedding cake and a groom's cake, they also had a cookie table because, in Pittsburgh where they live, cookie tables are common at events, so the cookie table was a nod to a Pittsburgh tradition. It was a marvelous occasion. I teared up when my daughter spoke the vows she'd written. Of course, men of my generation don't cry!

[@Lea-rb9nc]

Here in France 🇫🇷 weddings are generally at the mayor's office. If the couple chooses, they can also have a ceremony in a church or elsewhere.

[@jaytoser5212]

I find these comments very endearing! Just a side note: I married into a family that does dairy farming. Cows have to be milked twice a day. So our wedding was in the morning. And then my wife had to change out of her bridal clothes to work at the barn. Only once before, I was expected to milk the cows. You should know, that all the cows have names. All 160 of them! After that, we had to do a shower / bath, to attend the opening of the presents. And in full wedding dress [For what it is worth, I wore white, and so did my bride.] Apparently, it is unusual for the new bride & groom to look at their wedding presents on the day of the wedding. *sigh* we had already booked our honeymoon at Disney in Florida. The plane left at 2:30am that day. I am ever so grateful for my brother driving us to the airport. But we had to open our gifts before going to the honeymoon. My brother kept all the gifts for us later. Apparently when Disney discovers these wedding plans, they might send a shuttle to pick us from the airport, right to your hotel. On two occasions, the staff that cleans our room, called us 'Lovebirds'. Yes!!

[@craigcraigster4999]

Thanks Feli for this very well-done video. 👍 Looking forward to Part II: "American vs. German divorces". 😂 Love your channel!

[@Doroellisa]

😂

[@Doroellisa]

Wieviel mehr Kohle bekommt die geschiedene Frau on den USA 😂?

[@Cricket2731]

​@@Doroellisa, sometimes, the woman pays alimony!

[@Dragonshmm265]

@@DoroellisaI’m not sure about alimony, but for child support…the few men that I know that have been divorced usually have some informal party when their last child turns 18. Not that they don’t like the kids but some guys get really hit hard for the amount of payments. It’s expensive!

[@pigoff123]

We got married at Schloss Phillipsrue in Hanau. We had to put booties over our shoes to protect the floors. This was the justice of the peace. We couldn't get married on base because we didn't belong to a church. Same reason why we couldn't get married at a German church. My parents bought my wedding dress from the sears catalog. It was beautiful. They advertised our wedding on the announcement board outside. This was in 1979 before the internet. We took our pictures out in the garden by the fountain and gazebo.

[@loislewis5229]

I’m American living in California (my mother was from München😊). I’ve been to a Mexican wedding which had a Large wedding party of about 30 people and a traditional Mexican band. Also an Indian wedding where the bride wore a red sari 🥻 and the wedding lasted for two days.

[@jjboyd01]

that's cool, I lived in Arizona had a roommate who was Hopi. ,been to the reservation in AZ and Montana. but I never went to an Indian wedding.

[@loislewis5229]

@@jjboyd01 Opps , wrong Indian, they were from the country of India.

[@jjboyd01]

@@loislewis5229 NO Problem. lots and lots of spicy food and women wearing pretty colors.

[@IllyaKonakov]

Wait, is 30 people wedding party really considered large? Or it’s a mistype and it was 300 people there?

[@loislewis5229]

@@IllyaKonakov The 30 people were just the wedding party (bride, groom, bridesmaids, ushers, junior bridesmaids, flower girls, aunts & uncles, and even a junior bride) and then there were the guests, probably around 150 people.

[@spreizfus]

I went to an 85th birthday party in Germany that lasted into the wee hours. I went to bed around 2:00, earlier than the birthday girl. I got married the week that 9/11 happened. At least the airports opened that Friday, so most of our guest still made it. They said it was good to have something positive to focus on.

[@danischa1220]

I’m from Germany, but I attended a wedding in India several years ago. It began with the groom riding on a horse (and with his groom’s men dancing around him) slowly parading to the bride’s family home, to „get her“. The bride and her bride’s maides then joined the parade and everybody was dancing toward the wedding location (a hotel). The ceremony itself took very look (few hours), but only bride and groom and their families were actively involved. The rest of the wedding party took place around that just like nothing was happening 😅 After the ceremony bride and groom and the families joint in the festivities. At about 10 p.m. the hotel manager, where the wedding took place, stopped the music and announced the party to be over, because he wanted to go to bed 😂

[@stevencarithers574]

In the USA, among mainly rural people in the Appalachian or Ozark regions, it is not uncommon for both bride and groom's family to go to the place where they couple will live and play all manner of pranks. It has been known that they will place salt in the pepper shaker and pepper in the salt shaker. Place cornflakes in the bed. They will change the labels on the soup cans. On the wedding night, especially if the families could play a musical instrument, they would serenade the couple outside their window. It was not uncommon for the couple to look out the window because they could hear fiddles, banjos, and guitars to be playing on the wedding night. It was all done in fun and not malicious.

[@kenwalker687]

Western movies call it a chivary (sp)

[@christinashelby6083]

Well, you haven't seen ballroom dancing at a wedding reception because you haven't been to the wedding of a couple who danced competitively, lol. My youngest sister and her hubby, when they got married, they had a spectacular first dance and had the whole room set up so they could do their first dance well. And, of course, since they had friends from ballroom there, there was a lot of neat dancing to watch during the reception.

[@twentypdrparrott694]

My neighbor's son was getting married the bridal shower was held at his mother's home. As the bride to be was ripping ribbons off of the gifts, one of the elderly ladies attending the event mention that for every ribbon that the bride to be ripped of that she would have a child. The bride to be promptly pulled a knife out of her boot and cut the rest of the ribbons off.

[@stacycamacho59]

That's funny. How many did she stop at?

[@Widdekuu91]

@@stacycamacho59 Fairly sure she stopped (in real life) at the number she was comfortable with, because these days, we dó have birthcontroll.

[@DeanStorm28]

​@@Widdekuu91 the question was when she stopped when the woman told her that every ribbon means a kid. Could be 2 or 15

[@Widdekuu91]

@@DeanStorm28 Right, but I am here to highlight that the bride clearly did not want many children and guessing how many ribbons (a.k.a. how many unwanted children) she will have to push out of her uterus is not really fun, is it?

[@lyfandeth]

The bride promptly pulled a knife out of her boot. ROFL! That's a new one to me.

[@RPSchonherr]

In the US we get a mix of German, English, Italian, Jewish, you name it customs. It's pretty open as to what you do. We even have themed weddings where people dress up or reinact things.

[@pendragon2012]

Loved the photos of you and Ben from the weddings! :-) Hope you two have a great week of the 4th! Thanks for the great video!

[@paulamontoya335]

I’m American but a Hispanic American. We also, my family and other Hispanics where I live, do the kidnapping the bride thing. We’re from Colorado. Also we do a dance called La Vibora de La Mar .

[@Sissaimee]

In the self-unite ceremony in Colorado, my friends had their cats witness their marriage license by stamping their paws on the license.

[@hameley12]

Cuteeee!! ❤❤💙💙

[@TerryMcKennaFineArt]

Speaking as a former banquet waiter - you hire a hall and get maybe 4-5 hours then the waiters pack up.

[@jimwinstonwine4508]

In my son’s elementary school the students put on a production of a Gilbert & Sullivan opertta, and their was a call for dresses for the girls in the cast and Mom’s were happy to donate their bridesmaid’s dresses. It was hysterical!

[@MarkGerboth-ii8pz]

The wedding convoy, following the bride and groom to the reception, was very common in the US when there were more church weddings and receptions at other locations. I have only seen one wedding with games that the bride and groom had to play. The „Something borrowed …“ rhyme also requires the bride to put an old English sixpence in her shoe.

[@Wud-f2r]

Must be regional, I have honestly never heard of any of these things.

[@cassieberringer7427]

I find your comments about the length of the reception quite interesting. I come from a Protestant family where most of the weddings I attended were held in the same church, which doesn't allow alcohol or dancing. So our receptions were always pretty short compared to what you're talking about. It's usually still daylight outside (or barely dark) by the time everyone has left. Although, we always started our weddings sooner than what you're talking about. The reception is supposed to be for dinner time, like 5 or 6pm. So the wedding always started earlier like 3 or 4pm. Also it isn't like everyone leaves at a particular time at the end since my church has its own reception hall. We leave whenever we want, but there isn't any paid staff, just church volunteers, so a bunch of us stick around to help clean up and take home extra food.

[@JoelMcLaughlin]

Outdoor weddings aren't exclusively civil. It can be a pastor in outdoor weddings.

[@josephmckinney9660]

This is true. It is not uncommon to have outdoor weddings with a clergy officiant using the same liturgy used in church weddings. I am a Methodist pastor and have performed quite a few outdoor weddings over the years. My wife and I had an outdoor wedding also. Her family is Baptist and a friend of theirs who is a Baptist pastor officiated.

[@wildgeek1]

Proud Colorado parent here. I had the honor of officiating my sons wedding. It was small and very intimate! This was both nerve-wracking and a blessing!

[@johnvonsauers8867]

hi Feli,💗💗 good information, how ever I'm 80 years old and I think those days are over for me.

[@SKRaven]

Das mit dem Strumpfband haben wir auf unserer Hochzeit gemacht, da von unserem Freundes- und Bekanntenkreises nur die Männer unverheiratet waren. Vor unserer Hochzeit waren wir auf einer Hochzeit von Freunden eingeladen, bei welchen ich den Brautstrauß gefangen habe. Die Dekoelemente dessen habe ich dann in meinem eigenen Strauß wieder genutzt, was die damalige Braut natürlich freute. Was auf Dörfern in Mitteldeutschland auch zum Polterabend gerne gemacht wird, sind große Puppen aus Strohballen am Ortseingang zu bauen und mit den Namen der Brautleute zu versehen.

[@nordland2235]

The last wedding reception I went too was polish......it was great...good food.

[@yukki1425]

A head table is also common in Germany as I attended a lot of weddings with one.

[@stanadams5464]

Wedding DJ here, Washington State, USA. Thanks for sharing the German traditions. I find it very interesting to learn of traditions from other countries. It is amazing how the traditions differ from place to place, even different parts of the US. Here most venues have a hard end time of 10:00. Just a few miles to the North, in British Columbia, Canada, they go to 2 or 3 AM. As far as games and other activities, I highly encourage these. I have various games for the couple and the guests to play. And I really like it when the family or friends come up with special things like songs or dances.

[@gerhardma4297]

But I can also understand that in the USA, guests are more or less thrown out at some point. With the insane costs of weddings in the USA, every additional hour would bring you close to ruin.

[@juled79]

Here (north-west of Germany), lots of wedding traditions take place AFTER midnight, for example a midnight-buffet, the wedding cake, or the veil dance. It is very unpolite to go before. And the real party starts after this, because all "musts" are done and bride and groom can relax. So I never went home from a wedding party before sunrise.😊

[@kenc2257]

Thanks! You did A LOT of research for this video. Very interesting.

[@Wud-f2r]

Most weddings are in rented venues that close at a given time, which varies but is usually no later than 11 or 12.

[@deaniej2766]

My nephews car was marked "Just Marred", because his friends, all college graduates, couldn't spell. The poem has more to it. Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and a sixpence in her shoe. It's an old English rhyme.

[@serpifeu5836]

I think this rhyme also exists in German

[@mellifergold]

Marred indeed - As a child I owned a rubber skeleton wearing a wedding dress 💀👰

[@annbsirius1703]

I actually had a sixpence in my shoe when I got married! I think there were people buying up old sixpences and selling them to brides for a profit. This was in the US in 1998. It probably cost me $10 back then.

[@annbsirius1703]

​@mellifergold I just have to ask if you remember where you got the skeleton with the wedding dress? Did somebody just put them together or was that a Day of the Dead thing?

[@mellifergold]

@@annbsirius1703 It was me, actually, who dressed up the skeleton ( I originally got it 'naked' ) - ... inspired by our parents ' disastrous marriage...

[@jpflu3754]

Wedding reception parties end at specific times in the US is purely money. The event workers have to clean up and don't want to be there working 16 hours. The longer they work in a single day, the more money each must be paid. By some state laws, they must be paid 2x for "overtime" - anything over 8 hrs. The last family wedding a few weeks ago happened 20 miles outside the city in an old farm house that had been converted into an events location. Almost everyone attending was from out of town (or Germany), so a specific hotel block of rooms was arranged and nice shuttle buses were organized so people didn't have to drive out to the wedding+dinner+reception location.

[@otsoko66]

Traditionally in English, the bride and groom also said "I will" (as still happens in most church weddings), but on stage and in movies, the actors would say "I do" so they wouldn't accidentally get legally married. Then people started to think that "I do" was the thing to say, so brides and grooms started saying 'I do' instead of 'I will' in real life.

[@nailsofinterest]

It's probably because of the officiants' wording, too. As in "Do you take...to be your..." Answer would be "I do, " "Will you take..." Answer would be "I will" 😊 noticed it at a few.

[@websiteckron8591]

wedding photgrapher here in austria. I am right in the middle of editing images i took at a recent wedding. I can tell really, really funny stories about weddings i shoot. Thanks for bringing this topic!

[@nordland2235]

The hoky poky was a common dance song.

[@MichaelBrehmer]

So is the “chicken dance” or the “duck dance” in St. Louis.

[@jenniferpajor5365]

12:25 you may have just pulled random wedding footage to get this shot, but this is actually where I got married! It’s a wedding venue located in Tucson, AZ called Saguaro Buttes. That was nice to see, even though my marriage ended under rather tragic circumstances.

[@Nightguardian]

Perhaps things are not so different. You did mention that Catholic weddings are similar in our different countries, with the couple kneeling. Also, since it is part of a Mass, Catholic weddings tend to be at least an hour, and in the US are generally earlier in the day. I think this is common among Catholics worldwide, but I may be wrong. I understand that although giving the bride away is a common tradition throughout the US, it is originally a Protestant tradition. In my part of the US, in northern New Mexico, there is the practice of having the bride be kidnapped, and I thought it was an old Spanish tradition. Northern New Mexico was originally settled by the Spaniards in the 1500s. In m experience, however, the bride is not freed until the wedding guests come up with enough money to pay the "ransom" , which is a gift to help get the couple started. I suppose that the kidnapped bride tradition is an old European tradition that was probably lost in the United States over the years, but has survived in some areas.

[@donnaroberts281]

The amount of research that goes into these videos is impressive. Good job!

[@wayausofbounds9255]

Tying cans to a bumper used to be a thing but it's not so much anymore since the polices started cracking down on "unsafe" items attached to cars and trucks. The rule was really meant for commercial trucks, like pumpers, construction workers or electricians but the cops like any excuse to give a ticket.

[@1972Ray]

That was our wedding in 1987. But only for the drive away from the celebration, we didn't drive around the rest of the day with it.

[@May-ve6sr]

Lived in Germany for six years in the 80's & 90's and I miss it every day (not being over the top there) I truly do. I'm so happy to have found this channel. Thank you so much.

[@mh-jg4tv]

Something Old... is followed by "and a lucky sixpence in the shoe".For financial luck. I actually did this. An old brooch, a new clutch, a borrowed handkerchief from my best friend , a blue garter and a cent in the shoe.

[@judithtavares9431]

My German cousin from Bavaria had a Bauernhochzeit with a Hochzeitladler. So much fun!

[@michaeldunphy1923]

We did the wedding convoy exactly as you describe for Germany for my brothers' weddings here in Illinois, USA about 30 years ago.

[@TheCrummyArtist]

Been married almost 19 years (we are in Cincy but got married in Indiana) We did have a gift table. When we got married, most registries were done in the store and then people bought the gift and wrapped and brought it. Our whole wedding event lasted maybe 3 hours. Not a ton of dancing because even though there were a lot of people there, our reception was in the little church basement and tables to eat took up most space. I don’t think we had the money to rent out a larger space, and the church was free. Overall, I think our wedding cost less than 5k. We had a late wedding, because we were worried getting married on a Friday that people would have to get off work and then get ready. So we got married at 7:30pm! Guests didn’t get to eat until 9! I definitely would plan things differently if I could go back in time, but we were in our early 20s and my family made most of the decisions, and we just went along with them. One fun thing to mention is the throwing of rice or blowing bubbles or sparklers when the bride and groom leave an American wedding. During our wedding ceremony, the first thing we did was play a video a slideshow of photos. It was three songs. The first song was photos of myself growing up, second song my husband growing up, and third were photos of our time together. I had been to weddings that did this in the past and I really enjoyed it because there are usually quite a few guests that just one either the bride or groom, but not both. Is there a tradition in Germany where the groom and bride don’t see each other on their wedding day? Or that the groom doesn’t see the bride in her dress before the wedding? Some people think it’s bad luck if the groom sees the dress ahead of time. I know all of these things we do are based on superstitions or old traditions- but sometimes they are fun. Enjoyed the video!

[@fruzsimih7214]

I live in Austria, and yes, the groom is not supposed to see the bride on their wedding day. I'm not sure because it is supposed to be bad luck, or just in order to make the moment more special.

[@yael4444]

I'm in Nordrhein-Westfalen (North Rhine-Westphalia) and we have these gift tables in stores sometimes, too. Throwing rice is in most citys verboten nowadays, so people started the thing with blowing bubbles, too.

[@lefton4ya]

@23:02 Ben caught the garter belt, looks like you’ll be next to have a wedding!

[@mjgobet5601]

I've been to 2 German weddings and countless American ones. The German ones were much more fun, and actually simpler, the whole bridezilla syndrome didn't exist. The American ones, when it is a traditional one, tends to try to outshine others. Those kinds (at wineries, beach, church, etc) are boring and painful. While those American weddings that are themed, tend to be a blast. This year alone was a May the Fourth space sci Fi themed, and another one was DnD themed, both at exquisite locations and with all the traditional elements, but with things to do WITH the guests.

[@gerhardma4297]

The problem in the USA is that you always have to measure yourself against others. It's the "my house - my car - my yacht" syndrome. Competition at work, with neighbors and friends and even at weddings. It's mainly about pretending to be something you're not. It's extremely sad, but it's part of American society, which is unfortunately often very superficial

[@jjboyd01]

@@gerhardma4297 American? many ethnic groups,

[@jjboyd01]

@@gerhardma4297 when you get older no one cares about that....don't complain, enjoy now.

[@mar4kl]

LOL - a May the Fourth wedding! An acquaintance of mine from college, who was a woman of, I shall say as politely as I can think to do, enhanced proportions, and who happened to be quite the SF fan, decided to own both at her wedding. She had a scrim curtain hung at the back of the room, and when it was her turn to march up the aisle, she had the lights in the room turned down, the lights behind the scrim turned way up, and after giving ample pause for everyone to turn and witness her dramatic shadow, she walked up the aisle to the strains of the Darth Vader Death March. I wasn't there to witness this in person, but I'm told the scene was priceless.

[@Rocketsong]

Best one I ever went to was on Halloween. Just about everyone showed up in some sort of costume.

[@DaLander]

Great video with plenty of information. Regarding mentioned honking convoy (18:15): I grew up in Bavaria (Germany) in one of the many small villages. The next church was like 2 miles (5km) away. So there was also a convoy forming on the way to the church already, lead by the wedding car and followed by honking cars anouncing that an engaged couple is on the way to get merried. I can remember following tradition: As a kid (in the 80s/early 90s), in case we (and neighbours) knew the wedding car will drive by our home on the way to church, we (an also neighbours with kids) would fix a long rope at the opposite side of the road. Before the wedding car is about to drive by our home, we then raised the rope to make them stop. The rope was only lowered after they threw some sweets (ususally bonbons or lollipops) out of the window for us kids to pick up. As an adult, I never heard of this tradition to be conducted anymore.

[@nriamond8010]

A tradition in my North-Western region of Germany is "Kränzen" ("wreathing"): During they days before the wedding, the neighbours create a wreath of paper flowers and greenery all around the couple's front door and they get alcohol for this (also, sometimes a clothline full of baby clothes and a stork is put up). To do this, they need the measurements of the door and at the first day, they arrive with only one piece of the folding rule and complain about it being too short, but get a drink anyway! The second day, they bring the next part of the folding rule and so on. I don't drink alcohol (therefore skipping the bachelorette party) but I still find this quite funny! I got married in October 2022 and was in a few wedding groups in social media, international (mostly US) and German ones. It was so interesting to see the differences! What shocked me most was how super short American weddings are - paying so much money for only 5 hours?! With paying 10k on a 15 hours wedding you get a much better deal than with paying 30k on a 5 hours wedding ... But also, it seems to be so stressful with coordinating the bridal party. In comparison, my wedding planning was extremely relaxed: No wedding party, not being bothered with what other people would be wearing, no drama because some pre-wedding event was not planned the way I wanted (I had no pre-wedding events at all), not buying several outfits for several events. And: Here in Germany, if you rent a venue, it's the standard that it provides you tables, chairs, tablecloths etc. - and if they offer catering, you also get dishes, cutlery, napkins, often even candlesticks ... it's a bit shocking for me that many people in the US have to get those things themselves! But also, many people in the US seem to see a wedding invitation as something totally noncommital - I have heard SO many brides (or rather: wives) complain about lots of people not showing up on the wedding despite having RSVPd "yes". That usually does not happen in Germany. Oh, and what I found interesting is that registries and RSVP cards are still a thing in the US. Both of that have been out of style in Germany for decades! Maybe because the average age for the first wedding is much higher - you don't need many househould items at 33 anymore, but also, when someone gets married at age 20, parents are more involved and probably opt for a more traditional style. The 700-1000 € price for a wedding dress is outdated, unfortunately - the average in Germany is 1.500 € today, not that far away from the American price range. What I find interesting is that a lot more American then German brides wear a veil! I've seen many German brides without one, but nearly all American brides that posted pictures of their wedding had a veil. By the way: I once read an old book (from the 70ies or 80ies) and at that time, it seemed to be normal that the couple leaves their reception after about 2 hours to start the honeymoon. But back then, a wedding reception was more like a birthday party and not as expensive as today. Imagine spending thousands and thousands of € for a party, planning all those little details for months or even years and then leaving after only 2 hours! And: Diamond engagement rings LITERALLY are a marketing scam by the jewelry industry, there is a lot of information about that on the internet. I told my husband beforehand that I did not want an expensive ring that I only wear for a few months (wearing your engagement ring after the wedding is not very common here). Lastly: I'm so envious about the option of combining last names! My husband and I could have made the German poetic name for "fox" out of our names, but not allowed in Bureaucracy Land ...

[@whiskey5jda]

Me and my wife's ceremony started at 2 pm and the reception was done at about 5 pm. Good thing too, because when we got to the hotel we were tired.

[@danielphilipp5552]

Hey Feli, you're right, in north Germany it's normal to burn the pants and the bra at the ,,Polterabend''. Digging a hole for a box with schnaps, maybe some letters and dig it out again one year later. I'm from lower Saxony and we do have some more traditional things over here :) Do you know ,,Hochzeitbitten''? Its really fun, but it's hard you will meet your group on weekends a few times, depending on how many guests the bride and groom wants to invite. So the bicycles are decorated in coloured stuff, the ,,Hochzeitsbitter'' are wearing a hat and bring all the inviting cards to the guest. If you ring the door from the guest, first you need to read a self-made poem which fits to the bridal pair and then you have to drink lots of ,,schnaps''. That's why you need a few weekends for inviting all guests like this, because you just get maybe 5 different guests on one day or so. Its maybe not so popular anymore these days but it is so much fun and I love this tradition, after 3 weekends it could be possible then, that the alcohol doesn't taste that good anymore 😂 I did it myself for my brother's wedding in 2014 with 4 other guys and I think it was 6 Saturdays in a role, each Saturday we just got four or five guests, depending how far they live from each other. And on one point you are too drunk to drive further on your bike 😂

[@danielphilipp5552]

After you read your poem at the door, the invited guest will let you in and give you and your group a lot of food, drinks and of course much alcohol 😂

[@ACEsParkJunheeWreckedMeHard]

17:14 I did this with my cousin when I was 8 years old. My uncle who got married themed the wedding to be yellow and orange since his wife loves orange as a color and her wedding dress was full orange. My cousin and I wore a yellow dress and we trew out orange colored rose petalls

[@robertneal4244]

Discofox is a derivation of western swing, jitterbug, rockstep, or similar. These dances are common at wedding receptions but not usually organized.

[@edwardrhoades6957]

looks like the lindy-hop to me

[@Hauke-ph5ui]

@robertneal4244 That's incorrect. The discofox is a variety of the Foxtrot, one of the traditional ballroom dances.

[@michaeldunphy1923]

@@Hauke-ph5ui I'm surprised. Around Chicago, Foxtrot almost always entails travelling around the dance floor, if there is room to travel. The clip Feli showed looked exactly like the hustle (which is smoother than lindy-hop or jitterbug).

[@Hauke-ph5ui]

@@michaeldunphy1923 Well let's just say that the clip she showed was of a few people who maybe had a few dance lessions. Watch a few people on competition level (yes, there are Discofox championships) and you'll see a lot more movement. There are several different vatiants of Foxtrot as well btw - most notably the Slow Foxtrot (the oldest version) and the Quickstep. It should be noted that among competition level dancers it is common to use the term Foxtrot when speaking about the Slow Foxtrot. Beginners however usually refer to the Quickstep when talking about Foxtrot. The reason for this is that the Slow Foxtrot is a lot mnore difficult and is usually not taught in beginner classes.

[@yael4444]

@@Hauke-ph5ui According to Wikipedia: "approximately at the same time when the hustle emerged in the United States. Both dances were greatly influenced by Saturday Night Fever starring John Travolta. In various regions, it is also known under different names: disco hustle, swing fox, disco swing, and rock fox."

[@mirnacudiczgela1963]

In Croatia we have a marriage licence we have to obtain at the registry office a few months before the actual ceremony, either civil or religious.

[@robinshultz2927]

I’ve been to two weddings in Germany. Both brides rented their gowns.

[@mellifergold]

Why did I read " rented their grooms "🤫

[@gigglesmurf2004]

I would be okay with either option here in America 😂. Groom and gown rental!

[@roseytano6385]

Love your videos! We attended a beautiful wedding in Bavaria 15 years ago. You are spot on with the tradition differences. Loved the lederhosen and dirndls. The skits and games were super fun. The couple was well into their 30s, and they borrowed some American traditions for the ceremony and reception. Their child was the ring bearer. In the end, every country has developed gorgeous traditions - as the world gets smaller and we are all exposed to other cultures, comingled tradiitons are spectacular ways to celebrate and honor the bride and groom. ❤️

[@001looker]

Attended a weeding during the weekend. Had pre-weeding dinner a few days before the weeding. The weeding went all the way until 1 am. It was crazy, over 200 guest.

[@yankeetango]

Well, I trust your lawn and flower beds are now weed-free after all that weeding!

[@arnodobler1096]

@@yankeetango i was confused

[@grondhero]

*wedding

[@001looker]

@@grondhero hahahahahaha that is what i get for replying on 3 hours of sleep.

[@michellestmarentette.antoi5904]

I think things may have changed over the years. I’ve always been dragged off the dance floor as the DJ plays a last song around 2am (🇨🇦). When I was 13 , decades ago in Michigan it was the same too. They used a church hall or legion for the reception I think. Most weddings do take all day usually with the ceremony start between 11- 4 , with a break for photos and then the reception from 5-8 ( start ). If older guests come, they tend to leave around 10 and then the party gets going. I got to choose 1 pm for my wedding knowing I didn’t have to get ready before sunrise.

[@chrisbaertl5708]

Northern Germany here. Yep, the groom's pants and the bride's bra were burnt. Don't ask me why, this tradition was also new to me..

[@rachelgates509]

I used to be a rental coordinator at a popular site for weddings and the way it worked was that you rented the building for 12 hours (that included decorating and setup time). You picked when the event began and ended depending on what time the wedding was. But all rentals had a midnight deadline, so noon was the latest to begin the rental. That’s because, especially since most weddings were on Saturday and the staff wasn’t normally there, we had to hire someone to be there in case of any problems (and make sure that the renters didn’t destroy the place) and we found that the most we could reasonably ask one person to stay there was 12 hours!

[@Matahalii]

Father guiding the bride to the altar and giving her hand into the hand of the groom is seen as an ancient image of ownership over the woman in many cases, therefore several other styles have been developed here in Germany and other northern countries. Sometimes the groom waits at the church door and together they walk in to the altar to set a sign that it is THEIR decision to marry. Or the bride is guided to the church door and walks in alone to make sure that it is her independent decision. Or other variants. The "guiding father" is not totally abandonned in most variants to pay respect to the raising family except there is none or other reasons.

[@hazelreflection]

I from the US, and lived in South Korea for a few years, and attended two weddings there. In my experience, weddings are often in two parts, they have a traditional Korean wedding, where the couple wears traditional clothing, and partake in various traditional rituals, and then another more traditional “western style” ceremony in a wedding hall. I found the “western style” wedding ceremony kind of amusing. The bride would wear white, but the aisle was more of an elevated runway, and there would be spotlights and stuff as she entered. They’d do a typical ceremony, but then also wheel in a giant cake during the ceremony, the couple would have their cutting-the-cake moment with a sword😂, and then it was wheeled away again. After the ceremony, everyone would move to the reception hall, where there’s buffet style food, and possibly other wedding parties also eating. Wedding halls may have multiple weddings a day, and is a whole wedding package. Brides usually rent wedding dresses. It was like a much more glam version of a stereotypical American wedding, and the entire thing including reception was like maybe 2-3 hours?? Tho the traditional Korean portion was more for the close family and friends, not everyone attended that one.

[@undercoverblk]

Receptions have an end time because you must quit or leave the venue by a particular time to respect the venue and its employees’ time. Staying overtime results in exorbitant fees and financial penalties.

[@revgurley]

Thank you for this video! I'm a wedding officiant full-time since 2009. I do weddings of all types, religions, and traditions. I'm always learning, even after all this time, so thank you for another bit of information I can use for any German couples I may have in the future!

[@MichaelBrehmer]

Not sure how common this is in the U.S., but couples oftentimes do not cut the top layer of the wedding cake at the reception, but freeze it and then thaw it and eat it on their one year anniversary. However, it is good idea to make sure that it is a real cake in the top layer and not just a piece of decorated styrofoam. Imagine having this big frozen cake taking up freezer space for a year and finding out it was not real. Yeah, just imagine… 😝

[@JeanStAubin-nl9uo]

Yes. This is common in WI too.

[@keithhudson1358]

Are you trying to give us a hint Feli? this was interesting and did not know the Wedding traditions between the USA and Germany.

[@rediflow]

isn't it her Boyfriend, holding the Garter at 23:01 ... I thought the same, about hinting something

[@jaycee330]

Yeah, I'm getting the same feeling there is going to be another wedding they are attending soon...their own.

[@LlawenSeri]

I was looking for this comment, surprisingly it took some time to find it.

[@mikeanderson1722]

The first thing I looked for when she started talking was a new ring. She also ranted a bit against the folks who always ask when a couple is getting married, so I guess we're those people today.

[@schaerfentiefe1967]

@@rediflow it is definitely him! 😇

[@charsiubau1]

Here in Hong Kong the head table is always in round table format, one for groom’s family and another for bride’s family. Indeed in North America (as you also point out) head table is either long table on stage for wedding party + wedding couple, or sweetheart table for wedding couple only. Somehow I notice the sweetheart table setup is more popular even in Toronto area (where I used to live.) For Chinese-Canadian wedding, it would be like a special request to set up round table as head table, although restaurants would be gladly obliged to do so. 😅 (I had both banquets in HK and Toronto.)

[@pqrstsma2011]

23:02 is Ben trying to tell us something??? 🤔🤔😉😉

[@junjunjamore7735]

I'm wondering why I don't see anyone else mentioning this pic.

[@pqrstsma2011]

@@junjunjamore7735 😁😁

[@mirnacudiczgela1963]

In Croatia we only have two witnesses who also sign the marriage licence after the ceremony, one for the bride and one for the groom, no bridesmaids.

[@nordland2235]

They used to ride a convoy honking car horns....but I have not seen it done since the 70s.

[@desperadox7565]

I see this often at Turkish weddings in Germany.

[@arnodobler1096]

@@desperadox7565 Deutschen auch, ich kenne es nicht anders.

[@desperadox7565]

@@arnodobler1096 Bei uns sinds immer die Türken, keine Ahnung warum.

[@cocoaorange1]

I know what you mean, I recall seeing that in Chicago in the 90's and early 00's. But you are right, I do not think it is done much anymore. Those were fun to see.

[@ralfkruse7565]

In EU it is forbidden to use the horn of cars if there is no dangerous situation. Can be fined by the police. But if there is a marriage convoy, they accept it mostly.