Getting Out of My Depression

Getting Out of My Depression. In this video, I share what I've been doing to get myself out of depression which includes working out and doing so with CoPilot. Click my link go.mycopilot.c... to get 14 days FREE with your own expert fitness and health coach!
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"What would happen if I shamelessly promoted myself for 365 days?" My channel started out as a social media experiment, and now it's a lifestyle. I hope my journey from shame to shameless inspires you and others not to be ashamed of who you are and to share and celebrate that shamelessly. Here on my channel, you'll find videos on lifestyle, inspiration, fun transformations, techie vids for aspiring geeks, beauty, fashion, and so much more.

[@shanboody]

Mayaaaaa this is wonderful and raw and painful and beautiful. Whenever I tell your story to anyone they’re like 🤯 so the fact that you’re making such amazing strides despite it all is truly inspiring. You are taking care of business and I’m glad you’re letting us know that it doesn’t always look neat and shiny

[@Memkoh]

Shan, you are such an amazing friend! I still remember your sleepover episodes (OGs know this) and I look at both of you now, married, with your new family and both mothers and I’m just like wow! Love the strides you are making and even better to see you supporting each other from miles away. I hope you know that you inspire us, Maya and Shan. 💖

[@shamelessmaya]

It’s so messy! But I’m doing it. We’re doing it! 😩🙏🏾✨

[@n.g.l.]

@@shamelessmaya girl nah you’re blessed! Blessings always start out messy but finish strong! 🙏🏽💪🏽. I fr thank God for your success it’s truly inspiring ❤️

[@stephanierodriguez9769]

@@Memkoh Well said! Such powerhouses! OMG the sleepover episodes!!! 💗🙌🏽💗🙌🏽

[@lisajenkins7692]

I need to find a clique with people like you in it!

[@stacialavonne8870]

First of all, 40 WHERE?!😍 Maya, continue being the shameless woman you’ve always been! We admire your vulnerability and openness to share your life with us. You are an inspiration!💕

[@naturallyours21]

I never knew my depression could be triggered by life changes until a couple of months ago, when I was managing a new job, relocating to a new state, being newly married, and looking for a house. Had a whole breakdown in January, and actively recovering. This video was validating and so relatable. Thank you for being so honest and transparent about your journey.

[@MaiyaJade]

WOW that’s exactly what happened to me. I was triggered by life changes, the stress of managing everything at once. I hope things have got better for you💜

[@la54578]

Same!! I hit rage, needless to say. But again, actively recovering. 🙏🏾❤️

[@ADivaForLife]

I so needed this., I believe I’ve been depressed for a long time 😢, 55 years of age, no hubby, no kids , on disability (several auto immune diseases) had to leave my home & career in CA because of being sick 🤒, moved back to CT with parents while taking care of them., the camera 📸 has saved me however I’m still feeling it, definitely going to talk with someone

[@shamelessmaya]

You got this! One step at a time!

[@hendrick32]

Sending love to you! Stay strong!

[@ADivaForLife]

@@shamelessmaya .. thx 🙏🏽 🥰 you lil Sis 🥲

[@anndavis9764]

I move back to CT too! It's a learning curve coming back. I also have the RA and OS diseases. Stay present, involve, and pray.

[@ADivaForLife]

@@anndavis9764 .. thank you so much ❤️‍🩹😍😁

[@TheCShocka]

This video is giving be the push I need. I’m pregnant, from Atlanta, moved to Philly, living with a man for the first time, my ex being murdered, it’s a lot of rollercoaster emotions but my daughter deserves happiness and stability

[@vazyvas4712]

🙏🏾 sending you love, peace and strength

[@no2cheese]

So sorry to hear about your current circumstance...just remember that your situation is not permanent, even though it feels and looks so; this too will pass and you will be great again. Give yourself some grace and patience. Cheers

[@Memkoh]

Sending you warm, fuzzy hugs. I pray you are surrounded with all the family and love you need. It will get better.

[@ososandi]

Bless you!!

[@SaschaFitnessTV]

I understand you SO MUCH! Not feeling like yourself , not knowing who you are is very common and normal during postpartum, happens to me every time, and not living in your country, with your family during this time is SO HARD. But it gets better, you eventually find your new self , and its even better! Maya 2.0. 😉 Love you girl, you are doing AMAZING!!!! (And I also understand the anxiety of the big 40. Im 37 and I think about ir all the time😂… cause i feel like im 27 still😝)

[@ashleygomez4526]

Sascha no puedo creer que estés aquí 💕

[@n.g.l.]

I’m very spiritual and believe that saying scriptures like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” gets me up 😤😤😤. Incorporated this bc I suffered from severe depression and I went through a journey of rebuilding with God. Best wishes you’ve got this. As long as you have breath in your lungs and a tomorrow you’ve got another chance! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@Memkoh]

Thank you so much for sharing this. I was speaking to a friend recently about how I think we all need “battle verses” and you have yours. It’s nice to see someone else incorporating this. Your comment just taught me that it doesn’t only have to be a verse for challenging times, but we can have one to motivate us to get work done. 🕊

[@n.g.l.]

@@Memkoh sis it’s a battle for our souls and the word of God is a weapon, in fact it’s quick and powerful and sharper than any two edged sword (Hebrews 4:12). Literally when I don’t say it I’ve noticed that I’m more anxious and frustrated. Best wishes on your walk with Christ 🙏🏽

[@Memkoh]

@@n.g.l. thank you 🙏🏽😊 also holding onto “As long ad you have breath in your lungs and a tomorrow you’ve got another chance.” That blessed me. Be well.🤗

[@MSHARLEYDWOKEAF]

So true. It was God that healed me from depression. First by telling me to stop calling it "my depression". Likewise, with any other illness. He cannot remove anything we stay claim to. God is Good. 😉 💙🙏🏾💙

[@n.g.l.]

@@MSHARLEYDWOKEAF preach! We are eating the fruits of our words, and I stopped calling it depression and starting speaking the word of God and positivity over my life and eventually my perspective changed. Amazing!

[@pixigirl999]

Maya you are not alone. I have two 6 month olds (first time mom) and I just turned 40 a couple of months ago while going through so many life changes. Also I am an aspiring writer too! Sometimes I just break down from all the stress. It is easy to feel like we’re alone. Thank you for sharing my sister in Christ.

[@zahraleila8780]

I moved to Sweden 3 years ago and I can tell you that I have not met a single international person here that has not gone through a period like you're currently going through, including myself! I hope you know that you are not alone! And I love how you are focusing on the baby steps, that's also what helps me get out of the downs of life. All my compassion for you ❤

[@michellezevenaar]

Adding a remodel and a baby just makes it more intense! Thankfully winter is almost over! That should help too! Alot of my expat friends got a sun lamp and extra vitamin D to help with the winter sad.

[@zahraleila8780]

@@michellezevenaar Yes I have been taking vitamin D relentlesly. People do not realise jut how essential this is when you live in Sweden 😅

[@michellezevenaar]

@@zahraleila8780 in most of Europe it's a necessity especially if you have dark skin or grew up somewhere with alot of sun. Vitamin d make such a huge difference! The oils work really well!

[@Kimi-wo4nc]

Listen to your auntie! Women have given birth, and raised children for centuries and will continue to do just that. First and foremost, don't be so hard on yourself, you are wonderful 😊 stay in the moment and love on you big time, all day, every day. Both Saga and Max will benefit from it!!!❤️❤️

[@zahraleila8780]

@@michellezevenaar Didn't know about the oils, gonna look into that!

[@ShunaB.]

I had my now 5 year old at 39. I was extremely stressed and a worry wart but believe me, it's gets easier. Especially once they become a little independent (walking). Keep moving forward ☺️

[@shamelessmaya]

I am so looking forward to her gaining independence

[@sugarmamassthlm]

Maya, thank you so much for making this video. Our stories are eerily similar as I myself moved to Sweden (from Toronto!) 10 months ago to be with my Swedish partner. It's been a very, very challenging experience. I feel lost, scared, overwhelmed, tired, and depressed all the time. From trying to learn the language, to adjusting to living with a partner and finding a job, I feel like I'm carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders trying not to let down my husband, his family, my family, and most importantly--myself. Your public candidness helps me know that I am not alone and further validates my feelings. You know, when you voluntarily leave everything behind and start fresh, you can't help but feel responsible for your own feelings of sadness and dysphoria that come along with it. Thanks to you, today I have vowed to make a list of my own and start taking care of myself for real. From one Toronto gyal to another--I'm so proud of you and everything that you've become. I've been following you since your NY days and it's super inspiring to watch your journey. Keep it up. Sending you so much love and lycka till!

[@Shay.bae92]

I’m not a mother yet so I can only imagine the whirl wind ur feeling. Just remember Maya .. YOU inspired ALOT of ppl to be shameless and go after their dreams. Myself included. It’s all within you ✨ .. enjoy the moment/ride. Nothing is forever.

[@MsKeiWilson]

I remember feeling the same way after my first child. I cried for months and I felt like my husband didn’t understand why I was always sad. I realized that I need to find myself because I got lost in becoming a mom. So I started making me a priority and making time for myself. My advice to every pregnant friend or family member I tell them that you need to find time for yourself because as beautiful as motherhood is it does take a lot of you to do it. I now have two boys and after my second I created a nighttime routine that allows me to have time for myself at the end of the day. You will get through this. You are strong and amazing!

[@TheToppin]

This is so relatable. I was married to and moved to Germany, far from my family and had to learn a new language and became a mum! It is a lot, you lose yourself and as a older mum from immigrant parents we want to instill consistency in our kids and make our mother proud. We don't want want to complain, that being a mum is hard because we saw our mums doing it and they never complained. They stayed fit, they had 5 different jobs, cooked and cleaned, raised kids and still had time to socialize. Bottom line you are you, take what you can and make it your own and I know more than anything, even if you are 40,50,60 when it is your first child you just want your mother around you. It will be OK it will get easier babies do not stay babies forever and they will adjust to your schedule later on instead of you to theirs.

[@RivaTheDiva]

Transition is hard but you got this ! One day at a time! One step at a time! And Chile u not alone … as a first time mom we all loose ourselves … but there will be a day you find YOU again ..make sure you incorporate your self care! Think of it as a puzzle .. everything will fall into place! We love u girl!!! So glad to see you back

[@pennylee5180]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/qX7NmqOPepepr6c She reviews the Never Alone book from the Daily Grace Co. It’s pretty good. Recommend watching, especially if you struggle with depression

[@celiamartinez3]

Definitely agree as a 40year old mom w three kids ❤️

[@LisaAidoo]

I can relate to this SO much. When my son was 6 months old , i gave up my career as an LA realtor because my husband got a great opportunity in Detroit…in the middle of COVID we relocated. We knew no one in the city. It has been so hard adjusting but i can’t imagine throwing a language barrier on top of it all. We’re also renovating our new home as we live in it. You are NOT alone and you’re already on your way to a happier place. It took me a about 7 months to even realize i was experiencing depression. I have no doubt you will be more than okay! Take it day by day. This is your own unique journey, please give yourself GRACE. Give your body GRACE. I started waking up earlier to stretch, meditate and/or workout before my husband and our son. GAME CHANGER! Only con is, i knock out super early now. But the peace i experience throughout my day, having filled my cup is priceless! Blessings to you love! Xx

[@vlaptiste7476]

I too can relate I gave up my teaching career, had my first at 40, moving to the USA from one state to another then also there were my hubby's mean sisters who were nasty to me. I broke with post partum depression no one believed until the doctor confirmed. I took a risky trip back to my parents in the midst of the pandemic and sitting on the beach and just enjoying nature is where my healing begun

I am 38 weeks pregnant and going through the same thing. I am currently living in a foreign country, pregnant, without a partner or any member of my family by my side. I do believe that some consistency would help a lot, but it just has been hard to get there. Thanks for your videos because they do motivate me to keep trying. I do feel blessed for meeting people during my pregnancy that I now call friends that have been there for me

[@shamelessmaya]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I feel for you ✨ It may get harder but it will get better

[@michellezevenaar]

Just remember that after baby is here to actually take all the help people offer! Best tip i got was to make a plan right away when people offer. Like if someone offers to bring a dinner ask if they can make a specific thing and see if you can already plan when. The more details the higher the chance of it succeeding. Also if you can get a cleaning lady, or grocery delivery it will help soo much! Organise it now! I immigrated a long time ago to Europe so my family can't help and my husband family can't unfortunately. Some friends live in the area but most live a few hours away. The first 2-3 months are the hardest so see if you can get friends or family to xome stay with you then. Even if they are just doing laundry and cooking dinner it will be a huge relief. Hope you have a smooth delivery.

[@misscmontinat3837]

I send love yourvway. You will be ok.continue to surround yourself with good friends. 👍🏾. I had severe depression for 7 straight years. Save yourself.

[@msladypmodel]

Man Saga looks like her Dad. Hey Maya❤❤

[@palomaa2002]

Man I felt this one! I literally cried with you. Im originally from NYC now living in Georgia…. A very very remote part of Georgia. I gave birth two months ago and it’s been sooooo hard… not motherhood but motherhood-ing alone has been real 😩. I’ve definitely been in a funk myself so thank you very much for this video. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone and that things have been looking up for you so they will absolutely look up for me as well. Blessings to Maya!

[@cynealey933]

Oh my goodness, bless your heart! As a mother of 6 I go through this yearly! Please continue to take care of yourself and I will pray for you. ❤️

[@annettetheresiabrown]

I’m there right now... trying to combat the urge to just curl up in a ball and hide

[@andreapippins684]

I connect with all of this so much, Maya! Moving to Sweden, having a baby here (I now have two), becoming a mother/wife, learning Swedish, navigating a different culture, while trying to figure out who you are. It is a lot. Thank you you for sharing your story and for sharing your tools and resources for getting through this transitional period.

[@Linnsjourney]

You got this Maya! One thing that helped me figure out who I was after my world fell apart was journaling everyday. I got really in tuned with my thoughts. It allowed me to express my needs, wants, and heartache. Then after doing the steps my therapist recommended like developing some sort of routine, listening to audiobooks, working out, and just doing what I love…I found the best way to really hold myself accountable was to post on my ig stories to my close friends list and fall in love what I was doing by creating reels and tiktoks of my day. When I felt down all I had to do is look at the person I had become and keep striving not for likes or attention but for myself. -Love all the way from Chicago 💕

[@nieshat]

I found the thing that works for me is having a community or being apart of something bigger than myself. I am a military spouse and it is a bit stressful uprooting and moving around the globe every few years. I pray that your guardian angels continue to watch over and guide you through this journey. I know you don’t need validation but you are doing an amazing job. You are holding down your family, working renovating a house and I am sure many other things while trying to take care of yourself. You are amazing. Whenever you feel overwhelmed try and remember that you were created by the most high God and nothing is impossible. Stay blessed love!

[@priscathiru7590]

Maya, I stumbled upon your channel 3.5 years ago when I had just moved to Sweden for my masters. I've followed all along and when I saw you're moving to Sweden I got so excited even though we've never met. It gave me some sort of comfort to follow this journey with you and see you ace it (as you've always done) esp as a fellow WOC. Depression is real, especially transitioning to a whole new life as a woman over 30 in a new country, and Sweden especially. I went from having a stable professional career back home, to finishing my master in 2020 and then covid hit. Bundle that with language challenges (especially in my professional background where it's necessary to get a job), living in a small town, being a black woman, not having friends, struggling with my faith with no spiritual community, working min. wage jobs while still trying (and hoping) to grow professionally!! Whew! 🤯🤯🤯 It's been a roller-coaster! But we keep on moving and trying, giving up is not an option. You've got this girl! The language will come, living with someone/people who are native speakers makes the process faster. That, plus the classes, and making sure that you speak it at home and outside even when it's easier to switch to English helps. You journey is already so inspiring. One day at a time. Glad you've already found something to get you out of your mind into your body. Everything will work out. Lycka till! 🧡🧡🧡

[@luvious4u]

I feel you, I’m turning 40, I was big on routines as well, but I’ve learned in the past for a few years to go with the flow of life, and to remind myself that there’s no such thing as perfection. I need to be my best self for myself. Thanks so much for sharing your journey.

[@CelineAdobea]

Giiirl your Swedish is already soo good!! 🙌🏾 Learning a new language is not easy plus you're a new mother and you're living in a new country with a different culture 😖 I've experienced the overwhelm of learning Ghanian whilst being in Ghana and some days I would just want time off

[@shamelessmaya]

you understand the language struggle! but we just gotta keep doing it!

[@Brimarieddddddddd]

Hey maya! New follower from Shan’s video collab you guys did. I’m a first time 26 old mom. My baby is two months, I’m newly married, living with my in-laws while we fix our credit, husband is working 24/7 and becoming parents has been tough on us. I’ve felt so discombobulated 😕 I feel I’m supporting everyone else’s routine/ needs mine are last. Thank you for sharing! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ by the way you look incredible!

[@katiakyriakou3071]

SO extremely PROUD OF YOU!!! Yeah, its a lot. Even having a baby can change you, let alone a new country, culture etc. Take your time, find your pace (baby steps) and it will all fall amazingly into place. Luv you!

[@roseom2878]

Give yourself grace Maya🤗, it takes time to find your rythm in the middle of this "organized chaos". But it's worth it.Sending love and a warm hug all the way from France.❤

[@carrotsandpotatoes5019]

I don't know if you'll ever see this but I went through this. Same situation, different place and vitamin D really helped me a lot.

[@RyuguPrincess]

I‘m not a mother but in regards to the habit tracking, after going through tons of apps that would stress me out and big planners that I never had with me when I needed them I now use a tiny pocket planner that I always carry with me in a fanny pack (even at home). I’m using printable inserts from Etsy for yearly habit trackers, master to do lists and monthly, weekly and daily planning and I do feel like this has helped with my mental health! To me it feels much more motivating than using apps, the used pages make for a nice keep sake and somehow it clears my head more when having everything on paper rather than on screen :)

[@this-is-now]

First thing I did when I got myself out of a depression pickle was not claim it as my. WORDS are everything. You're stunning, honest and such a revolutionary in your own right. May the Goddesses and Gods smile on your journey. Your hair is goals ❤️❤️❤️ I had to add this... Us women have to start just focusing on one thing at a time. Quality over quantity. You have a small baby and when you find that flow, don't put pressure on yourself. This mindset is far more detrimental. You take 5 steps forward then 10 steps back. There is no time scale as everything is working in alignment with yiyr bigger plan and sometimes, we don't even kkow what that is and it's so for a reason because knowing us, humans, we'd want to start working on that too on top of all we have to do. Be easy on yourself lady. Break those cycles we may have seen our mums do. Business is not success, success is life itself

[@beautifulkingztv1318]

Mya! I’ve been following you for years! One of the things I have always loved about you is your ability to enjoy the ride. I am a mental health therapist and a mother and a wife etc so I feel your pain. The best thing we can all do is take definitions off the table and realize that we control our own narrative! You definitely have the grace for this period of your life so trust in God as you continue on! Lots of change takes time it took me two years after I had my son to get used to mothering etc. remind yourself your doing amazing daily and relax! I missed out on the first year of my sons life thinking about all the issues I had and it’s time I won’t get back. Sometimes the best this you can do is lay down! Lol all the best Mya! God bless you and your beautiful family!

[@stripedsweater520]

When you’re ready it be fun to see a video like “ speaking Swedish for 24hrs to my husband”. It’s hard being consistent because sometimes I have a good streak going then boom nothing for weeks. I need a system in place that helps me with that. The one thing I do consistently is wake up between 7-8am, give my cat bath tub water/her food, clean litter box, and go back to bed 😭😭🥴😵‍💫

[@marciabentley9557]

You are definitely in my prayers. Any therapist will tell you that the number of stressors/life changes you've had in the last couple of years could lead anyone to a breakdown. You've had SEVERAL moves, gotten married, gained a new culture and a new language, lost familiar people (friends/family), had to adjust to an entirely new set of people, changed between urban and rural, AND had a new baby (which brings a new schedule). You've gained love and support, but lost regular contact with almost everything that was familiar to you only a few years ago. PLUS so much of this has occurred during a pandemic! The fact that you can even talk rationally about it shows that you have retained an extraordinary amount of resilience. You can give in to the stress when you need to (cuss, cry, talk, pray, etc.), then give in to joy. The most important thing, though, is to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!!! I can't emphasize that enough. Work, work out, cuss, cry, relax, play, pray and SLEEP!!! I know that's tough with a baby, but relaxation (which is different from sleep, but the way), play and sleep will carry you a long way in the journey to balance. And know that others love you and are praying for you, too. I promise you... you are enough. It DOES get easier, but it takes time; don't rush it. Love you!❤

[@groovykismet]

Maya…you are right there, where you should be. Reduce it to this: (say it to yourself) I am a new wife. I am a new mother. I am in a new home. I am in a new country. I speak a new language. And now, I’m moving into a new decade. That is a lot of ‘new’ stuff going on at one time. The first thing you should focus on above all else: forgiveness. Forgiveness, of yourself. Allow yourself to stumble. Allow yourself to not be perfect. Allow yourself to be inconsistent for awhile. Allow yourself all the space and breath to be the ‘you in flux’…in transition. Self-forgiveness, or not holding on to personal guilt about where you think you should be, is so important in this space of your life. Something I learned when I turned 40: it’s a decade where you become more confident, but not because you are doing everything perfectly at 40, rather that you embrace this space of self-forgiveness and develop a type of unapologetic bravado and acceptance about your own shortcomings. And you’re willing to see the journey ahead and laugh at yourself a little bit if you stumble. You have such a great support system in your partner Max, and his family and your new home, even as it’s in transition. I will be 52 in a few weeks and I can definitely tell you that as a woman, every decade brings you closer to your authentic self. I think men embrace that earlier on, but for women, that wisdom of self becomes stronger at 40 and then 50…and talking with my mom and seeing her journey…it keeps getting us closer to that spiritual well of all that is womanhood. I’m not religious but consider myself a very spiritual person (we all carry a universal energy inside of us that we can tap into) …and the writings of Pema Chodron, a Buddhist nun, have touched spaces within me in a way that I found immensely healing. She’s written a lot of stuff on how to meditate and find your center, but the titles of a few of her books called out to me simply because the titles seemed like doors that I wanted to walk through. Here are a few: ‘Start Where You Are’, ‘The Places That Scare You’, ‘When Things Fall Apart’ and ‘The Wisdom of No Escape’ (each of them is a very thin to the point volume). The first year after a baby is born is when they’re doing so much growing. And all of that growth is like a proverbial pair of pants where the hem has to be let out every single week. There can’t be perfect stability in a place where growth is happening…you have to let it go left and right and up and down; successful transition requires the balancing act of strong roots and space for growth. You are exactly where you should be right now Maya. Take some deep breaths and walk head up into your 40th. You got this!

[@shamelessmaya]

Thank you 🙏🏾✨ I’m re-learning to ride waves…this time giant waves 🌊😩

[@soaplife3603]

You Are going to find your new rythme Maya! Life is so good when a woman finds out how strong she is.. then surprises herself and becomes even stronger. Woman, in a constant state of rebirth... let 💓go

[@Jamgirl2341]

I completely understand. Feel like I’m going through a similar situation in my life. You putting this out there is really helpful and giving me that extra push. Ur a great mom and take it one step at a time

[@MissJhane]

I do understand. For me it was having to "stay" in Canada. It has been 5 years now, it took me 2 years to now get used to (going from no sleep New York life to too quiet Montreal) as it was sudden and had to basically start over. Praying was the first thing, patting myself in the back for the "little steps" I was doing. I miss the fast-life but I did pray for stability, so here I am. Staying Real and being honest with ourselves is the BEST thing we can do. Thank you for sharing that side, but as usual, remaining Shameless 💖

[@veggielover100]

We love you Maya. I’m 46 years old. I moved from New Orleans to Houston. New Job, New House, New Friends. So…I’m with you. Sending prayers 🙏🏾

[@staygroovybritt]

I hope to be half as put together as you at 40 ! You are amazing, Maya. I’ve enjoyed following your evolution at each stage. ✨

[@athenaashleybates4363]

Wow, thank you so much for this! As a first-time mom I 100% relate to everything you mentioned.

[@Teababii1995]

The transition is really hard! I don’t have kids but my twin has 3 and i helped her raise them especially when we were younger. But the great thing is, you noticed something wasn’t right and you decided to make it better.. you got this. I will definitely start writing things down that i need to do and put up little reminders cause I know i have my days! But i want to be and do better. Thank you so much for posting this! I love you girl!

[@charmainephasoana6850]

I have a twin sister as well, we are 22 turning 23 next month (April) and she's already had her second baby

[@Teababii1995]

@@charmainephasoana6850 awww congrats to her, me and my twin will be 27 in may!! Our birthdays are kinda close thats cool! Happy early birthday!! ❤️

[@jennacarmela5991]

I totally understand what you mean about needing consistency. The last two years I’ve gone through school where semesters were 3 months long and my schedule was constantly changing. I feel like I’m craving consistency and I’m just starting to be able to get that again and it’s so much harder than I thought. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family during all this transition!

[@mamere7783]

You are doing a wonderful job as a new mom and wife. You are learning how to manage multiple scenarios with family life and are succeeding in making it all work. I had my first child at 39 too. It was hard trying to take care of myself as well and the family. I'm a taurus too. Perfectionist. Overwhelmed by everything not going as I expected, "Oh man the depression!" Before I knew it my child was in school. Ugh, it doesn't stop there. Every stage has its complications. Staying focused on the positive things really help. Communication is key. It's important to stop every so often and look back to see the beauty and changes in the moments shared. You are doing great and learning how to recognize the moments when you need some air. You and Max work well together. Keep finding ways to make sparks happen.

[@Memkoh]

Maya, I can’t wait for you to bless us with an episode of you speaking Swedish for 10 minutes straight. I rewatched those parts a few times, you looked so happy as your new language rolled off your tongue. It’s great to see you are pacing yourself and consciously working towards getting Maya back. Love your sticky notes idea by the bedside. You are doing great, mama 👏🏽👏🏽 Your story is so inspiring, everything in God’s time.

[@miya8922]

I’m so glad I found your channel! My name is Miya, I’m 19 years old, from the UK and I am currently temporarily living in a hotel. Lets just say I don’t have the best relationship with my parents and I have been dealing with depression and anxiety since i was 13. To summarise, a lot of trauma and bs. I am now working a job at the airport as a waitress and it takes me just under two hours to travel from my hotel to my job. Also I am young, on my own, I don’t drive and I am literally trying to learn how to “adult”. Learning how to save and not spend impulsively. Learning how to be on top of things and have goals even though I have no idea how to achieve them. I understand you when you say you just felt like everything has caught up to you. Thats how I feel now. A lot of the time I struggle with consistency, I don’t know how to do it, It’s like a different language to me. And sometimes when I’m trying to teach myself “how to adult” I’m hard on myself for not understanding how to do it even though I have no idea what tf im doing. Listening to you be so honest about your struggles and crying and being vulnerable honestly had me crying with you because you are what I want to be like when I’m nearly 40. I understand you in terms of the negative voices and the “dark side” tuning in when you feel like you’re not doing good enough. I hope we see more of your growth because it’s honestly so inspiring and makes me want to grow and prosper too.❤️

[@candacewilliams1822]

Try not to be hard on yourself, it`s difficult when there is a lot going on. Sometimes it helps me to just ask God, what should I do next regarding the flow of my day? No detail is too small because God cares for everything that affects your life. You may have to do that repeatedly all day long but at the end of the day you will feel refreshed! 1Peter 5:7

[@ExtendedStudent4Real]

Amen!

[@samanthiagoodleu5055]

Give yourself time everything will fall into place. You have been so inspirational to so many.

[@JKandCounting]

I am keeping consistent habits by having a habit tracker in my journal. I started off with simple habits like drinking water, saying a prayer...etc that I know I can accomplish. Then I keep adding on. It has helped this mama of three. I understand how you feel. My husband and I made a dramatic change in 2017 a year after having my 2nd child. I went through a lot in the last 5 years. I'm now getting to know myself again. It takes time, you'll get there. You got this Maya!

[@joanaandoh2557]

Consistency and habit building were my only news years resolutions this year. The pandemic had me in a loop. I find that setting both daily and semi-weekly habits really helps. Like ballet class every Tuesday, and I put it in my calendar (with notifications). Using my calendar and making and “errand” event with a running to do list has helped me too! Love your channels 💕, we got this!!!!

[@JP-dc6fu]

I totally understand where you are coming from. I am use to having consistency along with a routine. I am going through something similar. I just moved to the Bay Area from a smaller town and the change is so overwhelming. Not to mention our rent is double what we were paying before. I have a one year old and will be 40 this year too, on top of that I have 15 year old that thinks that there are two women in our home (me and her). You would think she has a job and is paying for bills. It’s been definitely a challenge trying to balance home life, daycare, work, being sexually available for my husband, cooking and cleaning, dealing with anxiety, and finally coming out postpartum. The list goes on and on 🤦🏾‍♀️ I am trying to seek balance but it has been hard.. Thank you for sharing, you are not alone 🥰

[@user-rt5ly5ij7t]

Mother to mother, you're still glowing. I used to watch you before I became a mother and afterward, so to see your journey is amazing. You are right on time and doing phenomenal! "Mamas 40!" What a line filled with two major blessings 💜🙏🏼

[@sunnypie2]

Congrats! Beautiful family. Lots of transitions and you’re so strong and inspirational! Thanks for sharing your journey

[@lrich0619]

Maya I’m so happy you made this video. I’m also dealing with postpartum and loving my new body, new husband, learning Spanish, and work, and dedicating time to your kids and husband. Most…(lies!) all the time I’m last. I’m learning to find me time. But thanks for the video and letting me know I’m not alone.

[@anaversoza2357]

Wow ❤️ Mrs. Maya years ago you motivated me to change my life to leave my miserable box and I did and I loved who I became!!! I will say I stopped keeping up with KZbin because I got busy/actually got a life all because of you! Your pockets of wisdom (shamelessness lol) would stay with me through the years and low and be hold I have grown into my next phase of life, but something now is off and I can’t quite tell what; I have all the wonderful makings of the life and partner I have always wanted and worked hard for but a cloud has grown over it... That same something told me to follow up with you and I am so happy I did. Thank you for acknowledging that back to back transitioning does take a toll on you. Not only that but even if you have these amazing people in your life, you can also lose touch with you… and it’s okay… and it will be all right ❤️ Thank you also for sharing you baby journey (she’s amazing), my fiancé and I are trying late in life and lost one but I know it’s not too late. All in all if you happen to have read this whole ramble thank you again for saving my life in more ways and more times than you could imagine. ❤️ Happy Birthday BTW!!! 40 and beautiful!!!

[@ValenTyne87]

The timing of this is so perfect! We’re in this together girl

[@Mel-ee1qe]

Its really just post partum depression/ baby blues that is lingering for awhile...cause you have dealt with more curveballs than anyone. Praying for you. Just know, no shame if u need meds, B12 helps too. I've been dealing with it for a year now.

[@Being_Malm]

Wel done Maya! Still rolling in the videos so you are hitting goals and targets. Try the pomodoro timer so get stuff done - I’m a teacher and I used it in when I’m studying and also in the classroom.

[@patriciaferrer6203]

I am a doula, postpartum nurse, aspiring lactation consultant. (Also wannabe writer!) Something I always say to my mamas is: transitioning to motherhood is hard under the BEST circumstances. Add any spice to the pot (no family around, new location, lack of resources, birth trauma, single motherhood, etc) and it is all the more challenging. You are in a spicy gumbo! And you’re DOING IT ❤️ I don’t know you but I see you and I’m so proud of you.

[@stxlady1]

Hi Maya, Ive been watching from waaay back. What I love is your transparency . The first thing in healing is realizing that there is a problem and getting to the root of it. I will say prayer, journaling or yoga may help on your road to wellness. Your daughter is absolutely beautiful, Praying for you, Be blessed!

[@tomikacox360]

You are getting up there beautiful! I remember you had your apartment back in the states and you cut your hair all off and you had staff working for you…. Now your life has changed so much and you are growing so gracefully!

[@loganw4686]

WRITING TIPS: create digestible/small-form goals. i've been trying to shift my relationship to writing...the thing about being a writer is that you have to write. often. and it's often very very shitty. it's a progressive habit. so i've been trying to shift my focus from outcome (these great ideas in my head, awards, etc) to habit: write consistently for 10 minutes without stopping, write for 30 minutes twice a week, etc. also! writing is hard for people who typically work in collaborative modes. reminding yourself that there's this whole legion of writers can be helpful! read the kind of shit you want to write, find a writer friend, sign up for a free workshop, etc. writing is hard. it's like working out where every moment up until you get into flow state (the ideas start taking on a ryhthm) is deeply painful. it burns. it's embarassing and demoralizing. you have to accept and be okay with the fact that the idea in your head is dead. something else will happen once you engage with it on the page, but it won't be what you have in mind. that's the whole point of drafting and revision, however, my biggest block is my unwilligness to let the pure and perfect idea in my head develop a different body. only way out is through! focus on establishing the habit first, and everything else will sort itself in time---community, creating a distinct writer's voice, writing on or for a platform, etc. im basically summarizing octavia butler (amazing black sci fi writer): “First forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you whether you’re inspired or not. Habit will help you finish and polish your stories. Inspiration won’t. Habit is persistence in practice.” This was hard for me to accept bc i am an energy-driven person (it has to feel or be or sit right in my spirit for me to want to engage) BUT this is what has allowed me to sustain any real engagement. if you ever want to talk about writing or get a supportive ear/eye from another writer, i'd be so down to talk with you! i primarly write creative nonfiction, but i also have a lot of experience with editorial feedback and technical writing. you can reach me [e-mail]. if not, there are so many online writing communities. find one! anywho i never comment on videos, but i felt you in this one! hope this ramble is helpful!

[@valentinacastilla3869]

Change and fast transition is not easy, but its not impossible. Learning to adjust is a process. Gratitude, journaling and therapy were great tools for me. My spirituality was also a great tool, it became my fountain of life. Take it one step at a time a year, two years from now you will look back at this moment an be so proud of yourself for all that you were able to grow and accomplish! Maya you already rebuilt your life once and you can do it again!

[@dragonflyhottie]

I remember your turning 30 video. You got me through some of my toughest times. Always appreciated you on this app. One of the few last real AF people on this website. Thank you for the open vulnerability and honesty. It’s an little ignorant however I am blindly faithful in you doing the absolute best for your self and your family. Enjoy this crazy new adventure... this seems so much like you cause your videos STAY having an “wonderful surprise in life” moments.

[@justdidthis]

Maya- speaks Swedish Me NOT knowing any bit of Swedish: You’re doing so good, girl!!!

[@VivianOlo]

100% get where you’re coming from. I had my first child in 2020 and it’s been 🤪 to get back to a satisfying routine. I definitely had postpartum depression. I’m pregnant now with my second and this time I have many tools in place. I joined a mastermind for other female entrepreneurs. I hired a therapist, acupuncturist, and I regularly go get prenatal massage. I even hired a personal assistant JUST to help me be accountable. It sounds like a lot because it is. Motherhood is a HUGE transition.

[@asojourner3534]

I FEEL YOU... Thank you for your willingness to be open and share. I'm working my way through as well. Stay ahead of the depression by continuing to do what you know works. Habits. Developing new habits and being faithful to yourself. Struggles.😔☺

[@rarelymary]

I'm born and bred in Sweden but both my father and boyfriend have foreign backgrounds and both have done SFI. Swedish. Is. Not. Easy! Portuguese is part of my heritage and I'm still trying to learn it at 47. This would be the third language I'd be learning and hopefully know at least semi-fluently at some point. I've found that picking up words you hear often, reading things of food packaging and just putting in the words you know in your everyday with someone you feel safe speaking the different language with. Whenever I speak English in Britain or try Portuguese in Lisbon I'm always amazed that the communication actually gets though. That they're actually understanding what I'm saying. So please keep at it, Maya, you're doing just fine and your Swedish pronunciation sounds really nice!

[@jasminesanders4268]

I'm a broken person right now, and don't always know what to say. I usually observe, take what I need, and be on my way....but you inspire me so much. I know its not the best thing to compare yourself to ppl, but I'll be turning 30 in Dec. and I often think about when you started your journey to becoming who you are today. Which, if I'm not mistaken was when you were 30? Anyway, I try to use that as inspiration. You are pretty much exactly who I want to be. You're amazing. And watching you give me thoughts like, if you can do it, why not me? I know all about depression, just not from being a mom. So I have an understanding. But you seem like you're on top of it and still glowing & thriving. I hope that continues for you. You're among the light in this world and must he protected at all costs 🌼

[@wandekagayleart]

Girl...same. Turning 40 in a few myself & it's a big number....chilleeee...but your girl is unmarried & childless so I can only imagine what it's like for you. You are juggling a lot of transition & you should really give yourself some grace. Your honesty & vulnerability are signs of maturity & self awareness. As a writer myself & a professor of writing, it's good to see you are being intentional about your writing.

[@psims3354]

Maya i know how you feel, I have had that PPD wheww and one of the things i used to do for myself to prevent overwhelm - pick a trifecta for yourself ( 3 things today that you do for yourself) and a trifecta for the motherhood/family -this has helped me alot. SIS MOMMY BRAIN IS REAL so dont be so hard on yourself !

[@belkiscandelario7362]

I felt this video so hard. I feel like I'm still in a stage of transition and that's 9 yrs after having my girls. I appreciate your honesty because it is hard to get back to feeling like yourself again. I personally started having a monthly to do list and focus on one thing at a time. I think as mothers it's really hard to remember we need to sow into ourselves in order to sow onto others. We need to give ourselves grace more often and just start.

[@anisaabdisalam8809]

Du är såååå duktig Maya! You are doing soooo well! And I love what you said about consisting habits, that is definitely something I need to work on. Ooohhhh I’m excited to see you self development 😍😍😍

[@marcellejosephine9119]

I so get it ! I’m learning Swedish since September, once a week , and speaking it is soooo difficult and I speak Dutch, English, German , a little French and now Swedish. So totally understand and a your new mom and living in a foreign country! RESPECT!!!! And renovating your house too?! 🤯 Don’t be to hard on yourself please. Sending much love & respect from the Netherlands 💚🌿🌷

[@HolisticManifesting]

I remember feeling like that after getting my phd, getting engaged, moving to a new city, I was like what the hell is going on? I felt like I was loosing my life. I was, I was stepping into a new life. But it was very hard to leave my old life behind, even though I loved the new life. I'm wishing you tons and tons of healing and ENERGY! It's like you have anew operating system and your system is processing.

[@VANESSASVANLIFEJOURNEY]

*praying for you honey we love you and miss you. Would love to see more videos from you on this channel. Maybe getting back in a routine of filming and sharing will help you feel better and feel more like yourself. You are not alone honey you have a whole support group here for you. Use it and make it work for you.*

[@jesssmvlz]

Gosh, you are so beautiful inside and out!! I literally teared up with you because this hit home and felt so relatable. Hang in there, the best is yet to come 🙏🏽💕

[@queenbbee2695]

I am in the same boat 🛶. So hard to keep a routine with the little ones. No excuse! It is just life. The struggle is real. A Mother’s brain fog 😶‍🌫️ is hard to push through. But I have notes everywhere and in various colors. I have multiple organizers and journals. I review them when I can take 15 minutes to remember my plan. Most days if you ask me so how is your business coming along. I draw a complete blank. But I know confidently that I have a lot of plans I am working towards one goal. It just takes baby steps, planning and lots of compassion ❤️‍🩹. You are doing it!!! Before you know it, you will be feeling on top of the world again. You will gain that time back to be yourself and still know you are a beautiful, smart mother who has been making strides towards your goals. Lots of mom’s feel the way you do. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing this🥰 sending big hugs

[@SweetULadY]

I feel so identified with you. The problem with us as women: we try to please everybody but ourselves. You are depressed because you're not doing what you really want to, not living your life as you want. I was there a month ago, but finally I opened my eyes and I decided to put myself first. I left my partner who I loved but our lives were totally different as our expectations in life. I'm trying to build my own life and I feel soooo much better. Hope you feel better soon

[@valerietg]

I still use the Habit app and I’m pretty sure it was your mention of it that put me on! Being able to look back at my progress definitely helps me. So maybe if the post it notes are working for now, you can do a tally for the days you do the habits that are just for you with no accountability partner? (And I know it may be frowned upon, but when I wanted to get myself back into the habit of yoga a few years back, holding myself accountable to posting about it daily on stories helped a LOT! And I love that I have a visual diary of that time for myself, too!)

[@chigirladventures5285]

It’s like you were speaking for ME!! I am a new mom too and most days I am running on autopilot. Plus I miss ME. Where did she go? I love the consistency/baby steps advice you gave. I’m going to try! It does feel better knowing we aren’t alone in this. ❤️

[@valencianewell155]

I know this has nothing to do with the subject of this video, but that color is gorgeous on you, hair is luscious & skin is glowing! You look fantastic! 🧡

[@janeenmonique9805]

Hi Maya! Your so feeling normal as a New Mommy! So wonderful to see you sharing and to be so Authentic. What your describing sounds Hormonal. I also had my 1st son at 39 and then turned 40. The 1st year was the hardest, BUT you will conquer it! Your a beautiful, strong and self aware woman👍🏽Glad you are getting your body moving and it will help settle the hormones and increase endorphins👍🏽Sending you love & light❤️🌞

[@homehelpheart7440]

Baby steps have saved my butt a whole lot! I used to have the "all or nothing" mindset--if I can't get it ALL done and done PERFECTLY, why start? I don't do that anymore. Kudos on your workout and language learning goals! One foot after the other!

[@CharisMaggieTV]

I use to use notes as well but I found that I use notes to make note of my random ideas to come to me at any time during the day so then I would forget about my list 😅 Using my calendar on my phone to mark down my to do list has been very helpful because I can put an alert for the day before and/or a couple hours or minutes before the task needs to be done.

[@MyFitgirlLifestyle]

I understand how you feel, wanting to just experience that stability and consistency that you are so used to. There so many systems out online, that promise the best routines or productivity hacks, but I'd just say focus on what works for you and accept help when you need to, so that you can find rest every now and then. Love you, Maya...xx

[@alidaarteagaarce8477]

I totally understand you. I moved to Sweden and have a child right away, it was too many changes to handle. Discovering who you are as a mother but not losing yourself in the process + adapting into a new culture and language. I study Swedish in Folkuniversitet and there is a program called kortavägen. It is very intense but you learn Swedish like in 8 months. Good luck and be compassionate towards yourself ❤️

[@mamarlucidity]

Mama Maya you are so inspiring and seeing you do the work is always a reminder that you're inevitably going to find the journey is going to ebb and flow but you are powerful and wonderful amongst the challenges. Give yourself grace because having a baby is such a game changer and I've got two that keep me on my toes, ALWAYS also 🧚🏽‍♂️ your reminder to embrace the body you have earned in giving life is so helpful. May your mind find peace in the process of redirecting your rituals. My biggest habit that I find helpful is making sure I take a vitamin, something so small yet a chance to nourish myself when it feels almost impossible with putting kiddos needs first all day 💞 much love

[@highlyfavored4rmG]

Gosh Maya, I freaking adore you. I haven’t been keeping up with KZbin and the people who have inspired me or those who I just enjoy watching because life happens as you know. I know that you had started a family and I love seeing that for you. I know that was a huge change for you because I would watch you in a time where I needed someone to teach me to be shameless!! Your video popped up on my feed and i was like omg I miss her what has been up with her !!!. Thank you for being so raw and vulnerable because I relate to you so much. Thank you for being you. 🫶🏼

[@KeeKeeSoto]

You're my new bff in my head. So much of what you said resignates with where I'm at in life lately. I find that when I'm overwhelmed with ideas, I put them in my notes or documents app in my phone so I don't lose them, but also so my mind is less flooded lol

[@missygreen2208]

Hi love watching your videos. I deal with anxiety at times. I am a busy self employed business owner. I found that keeping a bullet journal has helped me. Sounds super cheesy but I am able to have a brain dump section where I can just write my thoughts. Use them if they still make sense and keep track of my appointments and meetings. Hope this helps. Keep up the great work.

[@lamplightpath]

Mya! Love you so much! I was JUST having this conversation last night. 💚⚡️

[@TheRealCamillee]

Yes!!! I’m always doing the same thing. Just waking up and not following a plan, and wasting so many days not doing anything structurally productive at all!! The To Do Lists help a ton! But now remembering to pick up the To Do List is also another task!🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I relate to you so much Maya! I’ve been watching you over 10 years since I was like 14 yrs old omg! 😂😂 But I’ll never stop you’re an amazing human being, Love you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kindnesslives4209]

Oh! I feel you, Maya. As a fellow Taurus, I need a list and some measure of consistency to feel grounded. But, I've been working more toward balance and flexibility. And that's been a blessing. God's plans are much more dynamic than our own! Sending you love and light! You are doing the important self-work, and it's OK if that doesn't materialize in a tangible "product" or "results" right away. Doing the work is the work. Bless!

[@ktee4476]

Hi Maya! Been watching since you were in NY! Thank you for opening up. I believe I've been in the same boat since this pandemic began. 6 months ago, I started using MyFitnessPal to track my calories and making sure I get exercise. Since then, Ive lost 25lbs! I still have quite a bit to go but I've been keeping track of my weight with a little white board calendar I put on my wall. I've never stuck to something this long as a goal so it's been very encouraging. The white board calendar really helps remind me when I wake up what I have decided to prioritize. Additionally, I have other goals but if I get too overwhelmed I won't do anything because I'll be stressed about everything. I am learning that everything should be prioritized including your goals so you can incorporate them into your daily life slowly. Patience is so important when you are making any changes to your life. My health is my most important goal right now so I'm taking the time I need to make healthy habits a consistent part of my life for the long term. Wishing you and your family the best! ♥️♥️♥️

[@KLB1218]

Maya, I am a new mom to my first child (10mth old daughter) at 35 but now i am 37. It’s been hard the older she’s getting with being more mobile and me working from home alone since my husband has crazy work schedule, and trying to balance it all. Sometimes I don’t know if I’m coming or going. Add being forgetful too. I think women our age spent most of our adult lives independent but now are in a huge shift. Nonetheless, these are shifts we prayed for but I feel you. Just give it some time to let your new life settle and all will be well! 🙏🏽❤️

[@kharyzma4u]

Maya Maya ....THANK YOU for sharing and processing this in front of us all. It's helpful. 💗 YOU are growing. So all of the things that feel uncomfortable is a result of you doing something different than what you were used to. What I've been doing is putting God first and taking everything one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time. It's a journey. So yes, show up for yourself and take on small sized chunks that you can be consistent with. You got this 🙌🏾

[@ktinaj316]

Girl. Post partum depression is a real thing and it can absolutely be heightened by so many "moving parts" aka life transitions, occurring all at once. I empathize with you. You're so much stronger than you realize! Trust me, girl. You're going to come through this an even better, wiser and more beautiful Maya than you've ever been before (if that was possible ❤) We're rooting for you and learning so much because of your willingness to be transparent at the same time. Much love from the international Maya army! Hey, The IMA! 👋 💪 ❤ 😍

[@rosem.9807]

I love you Maya so much!! You are one of the most, if not the one and only, the most genuine and authentic and raw person out there on the internet! Thank you for sharing all the process and the struggle you are going through and the ups and the downs! Despite of it all, you are still there, loving and caring for your beloved ones, running a business and your family, and being here with your community! And your inspire us all a lot! God is with you always!