Gilmore Girls Get Therapized - Luke Disarms Contention

[@loraleitourtillottwiehr2473]

Luke is not often polite, especially in early seasons, but he is always kind. I see so many people irl get focused on polite words rather than kind actions - we could all use a little more kindness.

[@srldwg]

Agree

[@VioletPersuasion]

Your comment made me think of an article in Natural Parent Magazine, called Nice Girls vs Kind Women. Changed my perception and decisions of allowing abusive men and people into my life.

[@VioletPersuasion]

Your comment made me think of an online article I'd read several years ago, called Nice Girls Vs Kind Women, in Natural Parent Magazine. ☺️

[@MaluCLBS]

Funnily though, I think Emily was very well spoken but what she said was in very few cases kind.

[@Ashguy733]

Lol that is me to a T lol. Im a very blunt, harsh person and have no time for subtlety or passive aggressiveness, but I will be by your side in the hour of need. And will help the best I can.

[@tiyabear]

Luke. He accepts Lorelai, eccentricities and all and no matter what's going on between him and Lorelai he loves Rory.

[@sean_mccadden]

I wouldn't say he accepts them. I would say he loves them. He may get grumpy and sarcastic with her sometimes, but you can see it in his eyes when Lorelai is telling that snow story that she brightens his whole world and that he would do anything to brighten hers. Scott Patterson truly portrayed him so well!

[@Narra0002]

@@sean_mccadden yeah, but by season 4 they ruined him. Screw the Gilmore Girls writers

[@lifelikelisa]

I get why people argue about who Rory should end up with but there’s only one right answer to who Lorelei should end up with. Luke!

[@EverythingOnIce22]

I think Luke was my first introduction into the grumpy guy with a heart of gold character type. Rewatching these clips has made me realize exactly where all my standards are coming from now 😂😅

[@Ghost-lt4sf]

saaame 😂

[@marlyd]

I've made many mistakes in that area because usually grumpy dudes are NOT good partners.

[@EmphaticNod]

Same. I ended up marrying a sweet, heart of gold guy who is super grumpy and curmudgeonly under the surface. Been together 13 years now 😂

[@suefields4254]

I love that Luke always stood up to bossy Taylor. Also, Luke had money, but lived humbly, and he was content with that.

[@RitsumoNagasa]

What always blows my mind in this episode is how when after he brings them coffee they ask for something else instead he's not offended or angry that he did something out of kindness and they asked for more, doesn't take it as a rejection and as if they're saying what he did wasn't good enough, but immediately and simply understand that what he really wants to do (give them relief from the cold) won't work for everyone in the same way. So he adapts to their needs. Honestly, it's so simple but it can be so difficult to do and find people who will do the same for you

[@avi.chan23]

I was and Always will be Team Luke. Thought He is very grumpy, he is kind, honest, direct and has a great sense of humor. He is probably the only man, able to keep Lorelai Happy, because Luke is not pushy or needy. He gives Lorelai her space, so she can stay the quirky sunshine she is. Also, Luke was the best dad to Rory, period.

[@madeleinereads]

“Have any of you ever considered the fact that you're glorifying a war we fought so we could keep land that we stole?” Well said, Luke!

[@jabyerackonstanza]

based

[@KarishmaChanglani]

Luke was an Aly all along

[@paulettewirtz785]

Can't wait to see your reaction to Jess, especially his relationship with Luke

[@voyance4elle]

yaaaassss :D hahaha (and that book!!)

[@paulettewirtz785]

@@voyance4elle hahah yes

[@larafranke1802]

The bridge scene 😂😂😂

[@ange76prkr]

yes! Jess was my crush for sure! Why am I attracted to boys like Jess even as an adult -- Milo and Jared the actors are both hot but Jess is a better character. Team Jess because he developed well like fine whisky and we needed his spin-off haha

[@srayj]

I think what people often overlook is that even though Luke is cranky and can be contrarian, he also owns and runs a diner, which means he chooses to be in a service industry where he has to be kind enough to get repeat business and he has to respect his customers enough to want to serve them, showing who he really is inside.

[@rhyanshelby6572]

Luke is my inner grumpy. Him and Nick Miller from New Girl. It's hard to watch others live out your dream. If i acted that way, I'd be called a bitch

[@missnaomi613]

I'm 52 years old and my filter has started failing, so I've started getting grumpy. The best part, I have fewer f***s to give about it. I may be a b*tch, but I don't care anymore. 🙃

[@mishthemaverick8607]

Oh my God, Nick Miller 😍 but yeah, we are not getting away with it!

[@samu6874]

Thats excactly why everyone loved Jennifer Lawrence! She said what we all wanted to say, but couldnt.❤

[@doesitmatterwhoiam8838]

Luke has no tolerance for ridiculousness yet he never leaves Stars Hallow

[@angelenapulis9083]

This is such an amazing arc for Luke in this episode. His kindness is why we love him. And his grumpiness too. :D

[@LittleCheebs]

Finally some Luke Danes appreciation! Everyone should try to be more like Luke Danes

[@betsywilliams3666]

One of my favorite scenes is when he gives Rory apple pie after she throws her pencil in his diner.

[@floragoodfairy168]

Team Luke all the way. Luke is a freakin' rockstar. We need more Lukes in the world. He may not be polite but he's honest and kind. As for the others? Max tries to go from 1 to 100 mph practically overnight, Christopher is a mess the whole way through and the other two were basically charming distractions. Luke shows up, every time, even when it's hard, and that on it's own says a lot. The show's theme song is basically the Ballad of Luke Danes.

[@Oscars_fur_racing]

🥲👍🏻

[@megjax1]

I think sometimes with Luke we forget that sometimes he is a dude that misses is dad.

[@corunax3212]

In primary school I got bullied by this one girl. A few years (maybe at the age of 15 or 16) later me met at a party in someones house in our village. I made a comment about her bullying me because she was lonely in school and she got mad and said she never was lonely and how dare I lie. She then his my shoes and I had to walk home without shoes in freezing temperatures, it was winter and there was snow. A few days later I was roller skating and I just kept thinking about it. So I stopped by her house, asked to see her and told her that we both probably said and did things we are not proud of and asked her whether we can please leave all that in the past and just be civil with each other from now on, because we may run into each other again or even have to work with each other at one point in the future and if that happens, I would like it to be peaceful and I would like to be able to cooperate. She was very surprised and said that this was about the last thing she expected to happen, but she agreed. This was about ten years ago, and I haven't really run into her since. I was only at her doorstep for about two minutes, but we made peace with each other and I am happy to know it wouldn't be a problem if I ran into her now. My mom really didn't approve of me doing this, because she doesn't think the girl deserved it, because she remembers how the girl used to bully me, but it is not about that. I believe that people can change and grow and we can encourage positive change by being kind.

[@voyance4elle]

Wow that's amazing! It sounds like a fairytale :D

[@thisismaria27]

come oooon, Lorelai and Luke are meant for each other. each grumpy guy with a heart of gold needs a sunshine personified partner. Team Luke forever and ever ❤️

[@songindarkness]

It’s Luke all the way for me. Scott is an amazing actor… the look he (as Luke) gives Lorelai after she’s told the snow story is almost the sexier version of this emoji. 😍

[@undefinedromance89]

To answer your question at the end, I'll just say this... not Christopher.

[@Tyrisalthan]

Well, if you just have seen season 1, Christopher doesn't seem that bad. And he and Lorelai have plenty of chemistry together.

[@anainesgonzalez8868]

@@Tyrisalthan😳

[@voyance4elle]

Beautiful! He is like this with Lorelai constantly. Most of the time he thinks she's crazy and he doesn't agree with what she does (what she eats, drinks, her quirky behaviors, her weird orders...), but still is very kind to her. Oh I am looking sooooo forward to you watching that episode when Luke reads that book.. xDD hahaha I swear, you'll react to it!!!!!!

[@LuisanaRamirez]

Kindness always wins. So Team Luke

[@1omarella]

If the show didn’t go the way it went, and Lorelai didn’t end up with who she did (which is how it was supposed to be), then Max. Will always have a soft spot for Max. Max is just good in every way.

[@kelliehorn1082]

I have always been and will forever be #TeamLuke

[@hannaharbuckle3042]

Luke is such a good guy. My now husband is very similar to Luke, and Nick from New Girl.

[@Okkkkkkk-ol5kz]

It’s always been Luke. That’s the beauty of the slow burn ❤🔥

[@tracyschmidt7929]

Luke for sure. He’s almost perfect. The only issue is that he doesn’t say what he needs, what he’s thinking or his true feelings. You’ll understand if haven’t watched the entire series yet. That is an issue. He needs to SAY things.

[@StephFish1004]

It's Luke and the reason is their foundation. He knows her, he knows what she likes, what she doesn't, how she thinks, and all the little idiosyncrasies that make her her. And he accepts them. (There are some that he finds ridiculous much like the men standing in the snow, but he respects them). And it's exactly the same for her about him. Chris knew Lorelei, but he doesn't know her now and more importantly he is not at the same place emotionally as she is. Max too, he knows Lorelei now, but he wants things in life that she doesn't. Neither one are particularly bad options for partners, they're just not the right one. And that's okay.

[@louisemalloy7540]

For your last question, its Luke ...always Luke. They just show up for each other most of the time and have such a good foundation from being friends for so long.

[@themadwomanskitchen9732]

There are two people in my life that I see extending kindness on a regular basis, my pastors, Pastor Theo and Pastor Gayleen Myer of Corralitos Community Church of Corralitos, CA. Not only do they serve their congregation with love and grace, they make a point of reaching out to their community. Among other things, the two of them volunteer at a food bank. I admire them so much!

[@trinaq]

I'm glad that Jonathan is Team Luke, he and Lorelai had the best chemistry. I hated that the writers created April to drive a wedge between the two.

[@marlyd]

I think I missed a few episodes when Gilmore Girls started airing in my country back in the day because I remember being surprised somewhere mid or late firdt season or early second when Luke and Lorelai were written as 'will they won't they' because I missed it completely. And then I watched reruns and it's specifically mentioned in the early episodes and I had no idea how I missed that queue and it made me feel like I missed a huge part of the show and it took me a while to get in the Luke and Lorelai train.

[@DaciaFauth]

My spouse is a "Luke" to my "Lorelai". He definitely rubs some people the wrong way, but he cares deeply and accepts people as they are. He always has my back, even though he thinks I'm crazy. I wouldn't know how wonderful he could be, if I hadn't chosen him. It's not always smooth sailing, but we're in this together 16 years and going strong!

[@WhatsaModderU]

3:23 Jono is the last person who I think would project in any way, shape or form. I actually appreciate the guy and how fictional works can be analyzed in a therapeutic, safe way. Just witnessing his well-researched insight really helps. Fellow ADHD bearer here sees imposter syndrome start to happen and I just gotta be like “no. Jono you are rocking at these Gilmore Girls episodes. Good job Jono!”

[@lmw716]

I always wanted it to be Luke. He’s the compliments her well.

[@petabulmer3317]

I always love how kind he is, even when he grumbles about it!

[@deepikawilson2709]

Please keep doing these! I’m so excited for therapized season 4-5 Rory

[@voyance4elle]

Yaaaasss

[@Ghost-lt4sf]

I always tear up in this scene 🥹

[@theopkingdom3433]

100% Luke. They love the same thing- the simple life of Stars Hollow- it's the life they both chose. ❤

[@kayisfish]

Always and forever Luke

[@ceceliam9014]

I have always shipped Lorelai and Luke. I think, as much as he's grumpy and "curmudgeony" as you say, he's caring and actually very emotionally healthy, secure, and there's mutual understanding and love there. Communicating his feelings isn't a strength, but I think he's capable of working through that. I always felt like for Lorelai the best choice was clear. For Rory on the other hand, I never really warmed to any of her options, personally. But I'll only say that much, which hopefully isn't spoilery 😁

[@Shannwo]

Jono!!!! Keep watching Gilmore girls and please therapize Rory and Jess

[@missnaomi613]

Luke reminds me of one of my friends. A real Mr. Crankypants, but a kind, generous human being. Team Luke, of course!

[@doesitmatterwhoiam8838]

One of my guy friends is Luke. He's grumpy and not much for joining but he cares about people when they need them.

[@summerrobbins5183]

Max! Always Max. He is kind, loves Rory like his own, can keep up with her on the wordsmith trend, intelligent, handsome, and doesn’t ever get mean when things are difficult like the other men do.

[@owl4260]

I would almost say Max is a bit too good/nice for Lorelai in the sense that she needs someone to tell her when she's wrong, holding her accountable for her mistakes, etc. Luke does this far more often, and I think it's good for her not to be put on a pedestal most of the time.

[@mkitten13]

Luke all the way. Max is a nice guy, but he and Lorelai just don't complement each other well, they like each other, but their differences just makes them less able to understand each other. Lorelai outgrew Christopher long before the show started, he clings to their teen relationship, and kind of pulls her back into old behaviours whenever around (until she eventually wisens up and turns him down) and then when she does turn him down, he kind of loses interest in taking an active role as Rory's father. Luke and Lorelai have more of a positive effect on each other. She brightens up his life, and brings out his caring nature, and he's this solid rock who's always willing to be there for her in whatever capacity she needs him to be. There's trust and friendship there, a solid foundation to build on. As for what I've done to build bridges. There was this librarian at my high school who outright seemed to hate the students. I knew I was gonna spend a lot of time in the computer section of the library and didn't want to be in the way, so I made sure to no matter what always listen, be polite to her, and when I left for the day, I always stuck my head in the door to her office (which was right next to the computer section) and said bye on my way out. Over time I noticed her behaviour towards me changing, like suddenly she knew my name (I had never told her), when I said bye at the end of the day, she started smiling whenever I said bye at the end of the day, we eventually just started chatting lightly. And I just saw a completely different woman than what I had seen at the beginning. And at the same time I learned some insight into her attitude towards students (not directly from her, but from other students), like the kind of things students did to misbehave in the library and I honestly felt it was no wonder she was so grumpy towards students.

[@eddied.3426]

From the very first scene of the pilot it's clear lorelai and luke belong together. They not only respect the other's behaviours like being grumpy or verbally hyper but relish them. They know each other really well and like them for who they are.

[@Ashguy733]

I relate alot to this. I got a lot of cynicism and bad past experiences that kinda molded me into this cynical grump and I complain and judge people heavily, but even the people I judge heavily I always end up saying in my head that they must have a lot missing in their life or hardship I am not seeing and I then grumpily, I want to make that clear, will often do something as an act of kindness. I have embraced that part of me for years. I always carry the saying to people who dare to try credit me or peel back my grumpy exterior that "No one compliments me and gets away with it." Its not a menacing threat, in reality it means I will get back at them twice in kindness for what they said with an action. Its always been my motto, multiply double your acts of kindness with your words of kindness.

[@MaluCLBS]

I’m so happy you’re watching Gilmore Girls! My favorite character is Luke, so I’m obviously team Luke.

[@kesamboette]

I was always rooting for Luke ❤

[@zhabtema]

First off, THANK YOU for making a distinction about hate groups. This may not be evident to others, especially if they are not on social media often, but there are still SO MANY spaces where people will weaponize either therapy speak or "it's just my opinion" to defend perpetuating racism, homophobia and misogyny, and particularly when it's brought directly to others. It can make the Internet stressful for a lot of us...

[@desireedaniels6945]

I am ridiculously excited for the Gilmore Girls series you’re doing! I love Gilmore Girls and rewatch it often! I also watch your other channel so when I saw this pop up I was like no way!!

[@aliciasipocz8406]

Ok I love Luke, I've always loved Luke.. but I feel like Max was actually one of the best options for Lorelai. He balanced her in a different way than Luke could. Max and Luke are 100% her best options.

[@songindarkness]

I really think Lorelei was still a bit on her “best behaviour” with Max - and he was a little bit putting her on a manic pixie dream girl pedestal. Luke 100% knows and accepts Lorelai’s faults and bad sides. It’s always been Luke IMHO.

[@marlyd]

Honestly thought Jason would have gone well had Lorelai kit made him keep their relationship a secret.

[@aliciasipocz8406]

@@marlyd I forgot all about him, but I think thats because he's a later season.

[@lizdestefano4905]

That epsoide is one of millions thats my favorites! The Dialogue in this show is so gold! I love this show, I rewatched a 1000 times and a 1,000s more! 😂😅! I'm glad I grew up with this show. Because it got me through some really hard years, I wished I had friends like them!

[@unicornclutter]

this scene with luke actually strongly reminds me of something my mother taught me to do and that i still do when people come to the door for whatever religion theyre pushing, because while I tacitly disagree with these people and what theyre doing and think theyre in a cult, theyre also People and if theyre at my door it tells me theyre deep in something, so im always kind and offer them a drink and will read their pamphlets if they need to sit down and rest a while, because at the end of the day them knowing of at least one person who is safe to turn to should they ever have need matters more than what I think about their organisation

[@florentinalestaru7273]

that was very moving ❤ i am definitely taking this thought with me 🌻🌻🌻🤗 thank you for sharing!

[@samu6874]

When I was small and watched it I could never really pit my finger on it. But for me Luke was the only sane person in this whole show even though he acted crazy, too. And I was impressed by how persistend he handled the crazyness and stupidity by other without ever not being interested. The energy...❤

[@OHsopositive]

The writers were masterful. Never once in any episode did I ever want Lorelai to end up with anyone but Luke.

[@sheliamoore3388]

I hope he eventually gets to the dinner scene in the Episode Friday Night Fights.

[@marlyd]

I want a Kirk story arc breakdown!

[@Senfree]

In this season, I shipped her with Luke. And honestly, I never stopped shipping her with Luke. Their the OTP for me in this show.

[@schokosholi1699]

Please do subtitles so I can watch your videos with my mum, thank you! Keep up the good work!

[@CaspiDrako]

That episode is one of my favorites because of the drinks scene. I freaking adore Luke 😅

[@yadiracamacho499]

Always been Team Luke. When I watched it as a teenager I always prefered the pretty, slick guys in shows, but Luke is just so good. He's solid.

[@doseofdicamillo1811]

Luke was always a good guy. He's gruff, but he has a big heart.

[@natalialenchuk1759]

Luke, and although I think she doesn't deserve him, he's her real chance for happiness, and that's what everybody deserves.

[@magistrafarrismagf1402]

Luke. Always Luke. I was lucky enough to get a Luke-type for a stepfather.

[@chrysanthemumspark5547]

I'd love to see you analyze Rory and Dean's arc in episodes 16-21. Especially through the lens of inner-generational family therapy. Scenes between Lorelia and Dean as well as Lorelia and Rory in episode 20 (I think) are good references for this lens. Trying to avoid spoilers but also be specific enough!

[@SUZE.]

Luke and Lorelai were always meant to be together. They were fun together, and then the writers ruined it by adding unnecessary drama and out of character decisions. They should just have had marriable troubles that they would have worked out, cause it's Luke and Lorelai. It would have been funny, sad and hella dramatic too! As you can read.... I still have strong feelings about that :P Keep up the fun video's.

[@karenfindley939]

Just love Luke and Lorelai. Love all the characters really. ❤

[@MarjamKhan]

I would like to see more Luke Content he is the best character 😊

[@stefrondi1339]

I love Luke, I've always loved Luke. Team Luke all the way ❤

[@dianetaheri1462]

I have seen this show so many times I’ve lost count. I do remember in the early days of watching it for the first time that it should be Luke. Max was a good guy but she just didn’t love him. And Christopher… we all have had that first love and still think what if but that’s as far as it would go. Chris and Lor got to find out what if but saw that it just wasn’t meant to be.

[@savanahmuses]

Luke is the best!

[@andreasolis85]

Always Luke, it has always been Luke ❤

[@thetoxicerror]

She was always destined to end up with Luke. Luke is her perfect counterpart. He needs her and she needs him. From the get go I always rooted for Luke.

[@anainesgonzalez8868]

Luke is my favorite character

[@kyattogallery]

I love Max and would have chosen him personally, but the person who I think fits Lorelai the best is Luke. The both have a lot to work on personally, but they meet eachother where there at and compliment eachother in such a distinct way which is why I always rooted for them. And also although Luke is flawed, he definitely is a good man and I love the side of him that Lorelai specifically brings out. I also love how he's grounded in a way that compliments Lorelai's chaotic nature without ever restraining the freedom that is so crucial to her as a person.

[@jlcollins14]

As I get older, I view myself less like Rory who is awesome, in my personal opinion, and more like Luke. He was the social critic we all needed but didn't know it when we were young. But he's also the most wonderful person who recognizes that community and friends and family are important. He is a fine balance of love and social consciousness. You asked a lot of questions but I'm just going to jump on one. I think Lor should be with Luke. I like Max. I think he is fine, but I don't love him. I love Christopher - Acted by David Sutcliff who is Canadian. Us Canadians stick together. But Luke, has always just had that 'it factor' for me. From the minute Lor walks up the the Diner and says Coffee, Coffee, Coffee and he says how many have you had today. I could literally write essays in response to your questions, but I have to head to work. This is my favorite show, I'm currently finishing a rewatch of season 4.

[@Evamarie41]

Luke’s other awesome moment of kindness is when he finds all the rotten eggs for Kirk.

[@janiefallout8]

There was an argument in my job that threatened to turn into a fist fight (the colleagues were mostly women) on the topic of communism - was it good or bad for our country and for the colleagues' families in particular. That often happens in my country, even in parliament (the deputies insult each other, put each other's hairs, and break each other's glasses). It got worse with every passing minute and the work day was far from its end. I have and opinion on the topic myself but didn't share it. Instead I reasoned that we should end this discussion and talk about something else, otherwise we would fall out irredeemably. They agreed and changed the topic. I'm not usually very diplomatic but I'm glad I could do this.

[@kateniaallen8670]

Luke for sure!!! I love him

[@chloe2264]

Luke. Always. ❤

[@hanakimi09]

I’ve always loved Luke for lorelai.

[@imperiajor]

this is awesome 😄

[@melissaruitersclarke1299]

When my daughter was 4 and in reception (JK) there was a boy in her class who was bullying everyone, including the teacher. One day it was getting really bad, hitting and punching. So my daughter went over to the bully, gave him a hug, and said it was okay, he could always have a hug. Apparently they stood there hugging for a while (several minutes). He wasn’t as bad, and every time he started getting mean my daughter would go over and hug him. Such a simple thing. Obviously randomly hugging people as adults really can’t be a thing. Consent is important. And there were conversations about consent with my daughter back then, too. But the point is that the boy had a rough background. He really just needed a hug. He needed unconditional love and he wasn’t getting it from any of the adults in his life. So my 4 year old, with zero prompting, gave him what he was screaming for. Maybe we all need to tap into our inner 4 year olds more. For the record, my kid is absolutely not perfect. That same week she smacked her best friend upside the head with her shoe. There were some big feels that week…..

[@florentinalestaru7273]

that was sooo moving ❤❤❤ and funny 😂. Thank you for sharing! 🌻

[@andromeda331]

Luke is the best.

[@debrosman]

I have been a viewer of Mended Light for a while and enjoyed all of it, I’m also a fan of Gilmore Girls but I want to go on record this specific video is my favorite and I agree we need more civility ❤ than you John 😊

[@MendedLight]

My pleasure!

[@paula3569]

I love Luke also love his grumpynes it's funny😅

[@Carolinagirl1028]

Luke. I didn't start off a fan of Luke and Lorelai. I felt he was too grumpy and negative for her. However as time went on I could see their chemistry and the way they evened each other out and then I became a Luke/Lorelai fan.

[@LoveValentineXO]

I have always been on Team Luke. It gets a little harder later on, but yeah. Luke.

[@luizalevy713]

Everyone should end up with Luke. And not just the women on Gilmore Girls

[@teesh871]

One of my best friends is like this. I love her so much but she has no tolerance for bs. One of those people where she just can't turn off her face when she's feeling what she's feeling. I feel bad but I'm so much like the girls in that situation. 'Uh oh...she's shifting in her seat....adjusting her neck...wow the laser eyes are out...stuff is about to go down...'

[@aprilkirkham6234]

Luke absolutely, he is rough around the edges. She accepts this and works with it. She can be herself around him as well.

[@vallentinac9513]

I wanted Lorelai to be with Luke since the very first scene of the show. (Java Junkie forever) He's the best man in the world.

[@asylumreject94]

LUKE! It has always been Luke. From the first scene of the show, it was obvious that Luke and Lorelei belonged together.

[@napoleonsgarden5162]

First season -like Chris-there’s definitely some good chemistry there, Medina is alright but I’m already team Luke at this point.

[@gfaithowens1790]

I ship Luke/Lorelai. The end.

[@NicholeRhav]

Who Lorelei should end up with in season one? Luke.

[@jillholmes5573]

It should aways have been Luke for Lorelei. Without a doubt