Girl sheds “tears of grievance” after receiving exercise book as gift from parents

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A five-year-old girl from northern China shed “tears of grievance” after receiving an exercise book as a surprise gift from her parents.
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[@mitchbongy]

This is equivalent to giving mom a broom as a Mothers' Day present

[@kayellai5278]

How about a vacuum cleaner? It could do a faster job.

[@Baz.007]

What happened if the old broom is all broken and barely usable and now she's bought a brand new one that's much easier and enjoyable to use? That's the same arguement as giving your father a lawnmower, it can go either way and it's all up in your mind, only.

[@mayhare55555]

@@Baz.007 buy her a better thing, like vacuum cleaner or cleaning bot

[@mitchbongy]

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but there will always be one who got offended in everything.

[@ifykyk679]

​@@mayhare55555 what if the floor is made of tiles? Pretty sure you can't use vaccum cleaner on tiles.

[@joetan3863]

Imagine if this girl has been studying really hard to expect a reward on her birthday, but her hard work isn't rewarded. That would be heartbreaking.

[@fainafaina1940]

I guess she didn't...

[@jay0507denneo]

F her parent man she deserves what she wants

[@k.cthedogofficialtheog]

That is what's happening bruh, some Chinese ppl do it for internet clout, also all children there have to work hard

[@shushanto]

@Faina Faina Hahaha that's cold lol.

[@WilliamsPinch]

Disappointment would be expected, tears as well. But aggression towards your parents is never acceptable. Terrible parenting for several reasons.

[@randomthingschannel2833]

The way she was laughing made it worse, poor girl!!!

[@luishurtado2170]

happens to all right? my parents thought I was crying out of happiness...

[@asia_nzeako]

Ugh it’s not that deep you guys

[@miokaya4595]

​@@asia_nzeako it is that deep. How you treat your child will affect her character in the future.

[@liandoaethend2403]

​@@miokaya4595 true, i hated my family because of how they treated each other

[@unskillfulmaster]

she even tried to pin it all on the father as if she had no say in the matter

[@oreoorva]

Kinda rubbed the wrong way because personally, I remember my mom laughing at me while I cried. I don't think she remembers but it was hurtful as a child because I didn't understand why she was laughing while I cried. The mom says she knows her well so I hope the girl forgets about it when she's older. I think we don't realise how much of this impacts children and their unconscious memory.

[@yerri5567]

ghosting101 Alright then since we all dont know, why dont you tell us the impacts of this?

[@drj2220]

Absolutely. The brain always remembers emotional trauma and will seek this type of "love" when she grows older.

[@waichong9389]

When I teach my kids around 8 years old to ride a bike . I know the kids will fall over and would scratch their legs. I would laugh and tell then to get up by themselves. To me personally. It makes my kids stronger. I tell my kids everything you do in life you will need to work for it yourself ❤❤

[@user-in1yw9ty5t]

A loss for everybody. Child is crying. The parents don't console them in fear of creating bad behavior so they laugh it off in front of their child. You don't have to teach kids everything they learn that their mother is laughing so she gets ideas in her head that she isn't loved. So she compensates and copes with it unhealthily- in an immature manner. And later when the kids grows up day by day she will remember how she reacted to the situation and now it's subconscious and they say why she is like that. The relationship is strained. She fails at things. And the parents wonder what wrong did I do. Clearly the child is spoiled😮wow.

[@MomMom4Cubs]

Memory isn't needed when it's on the internet forever.

[@Nerfunkal]

Give the workbook openly and make a deal where finishing the homework gets the other gift, now you've just confused the heck out of the kid and recorded the whole thing. I think the parents behavior is being influenced by wanting to record and post to social media.

[@Williamshakespeareswig]

Precisely, there was no need to wrap it as a gift and confuse her like that

[@taniasultana843]

Right 😢

[@Nerfunkal]

@@nuraishah809 I think about how in the early days of video cameras there was "home movies" which could definitely be embarrassing but any one who saw them most likely had to come to your house to watch, so mostly family and friends might occasionally watch memories or moments during gatherings. In the US the clip show America's Funniest home videos was popular and offered cash prizes for aired submissions but people weren't anywhere near trying to make "content". The social media score system of likes and shares and views and potential advertising revenue is often a negative cycle of "content creation" versus life documentation with video.

[@ellak9322]

Um....a mom was recording her 2year old daughter on America while she had a temper tantrum. So yeah, in China, My parents Never EVER filmed stuff like u Americans.

[@cherp5837]

Absolutely There is no regard for children in this era of social media

[@waciao3967]

Don’t joke with kids because their heart is still so pure and innocent.. Give them the best that you can!

[@deekay13]

Soft

[@livingtorment7638]

​@@deekay13 oh golly gee I'm such a snowflake for not pressuring a 5 year old kid to experience the burden of the real world and make them traumatized

[@PaulPavloPablo]

@@deekay13 People like you are creating our future criminals. When kids aren't treated with love and kindness, they turn out like you and some people because of bad parenting turn out even worse than you.

[@quasistarsupernova]

@@livingtorment7638 *laughs in tiger mom,* excuse me?

[@PenguPlayz01]

Try being in a relationship with a Chinese woman who has a Mother who hates her existence 😶 lots of crying

[@ttt1986]

The most refreshing part was the little girl throwing the book right away without hiding her true feelings 😅

[@livelovelife32]

I was like: that's right my girl speak up for yourself. She absolutely right and told her mother off for the 'gift'. What a horrid prank to play on your lil girl for clicks and likes.

[@StarLight-sl9ok]

Cruel mother laughing at her daughter’s sadness all while filming. Shameful.

[@Tangvu]

That's how kids are supposed to react, with complete and utter honesty. I'd be worried if she had already learnt to suppress her emotions and deceive people at such a young age!

[@Liv21484]

I will do the same to her mother

[@haannguyen4402]

I feel as though the girl could use a lesson in expressing emotions appropriately

[@Al_Rey]

"But I know my daughter well. She has already moved on." Lol, that's all of our moms saying they know us best, but little do they know that we've actually collected memories of these types of things. We can move on cuz they're our mom, but we certainly don't forget. Idk how this little girl will grow up with this memory, it'll be up to her, so idk if it'll be damaging or not, depends on each person, but her mom certainly won't be the one to decide whether she'll be fine or not, so she really can't say the whole 'oh I know she'll be okay because I know what she's like'. Anyways, idk, we all have these types of experiences with our parents and we'll all interpret the experience differently.

[@arnavranka4510]

Bro, your comment hit a nerve...

[@KangJeiSeo]

Not me taking it personally as ive had these type of experience also

[@komit66]

Exactly

[@fighterinmkiwiscience3517]

Lol, do you go outside 😂

[@stankssmile5865]

Part of life, before life becomes harsh when you become an adult, the first pair of people who showcase how imperfect crass or honorable and beautiful human beings can be are parents. Keeping extreme toxicity aside, tough situations build strength and character, however this girl seems too young to cope with it. I would have a different stamp of approval/disapproval if the girl was above 10 years of age.

[@CrimsonEclipse]

The girl is 5 and she knew what the work book is about. For my 3 years old daughter her grandma gave her a preschool work book for Christmas and she was very happy because she doesn't know what studying feels like and there is no pressure.

[@jessicag630]

I'm actually confused with the girl's reaction. A lot of my tutoring kids like exercise books too because exercise books they have at home have interesting short-sentence stories, math activities with pictures and etc. They like to do them with their mom and dad a lot and have a lot of them. They are not cheap by the way. They are in bilinguals, or in English and imported.

[@jessicag630]

Just like your 3 years old, they like those books and like to show them off to me as well.

[@dian277]

@@jessicag630 there's a difference in how you teach your kids vs how parents in china teach their kids. you most likely taught them to love learning and challenging themselves because you've taught them that they're smart/hardworking/capable, etc. while most parents in china teach their kids to hate learning and doing chores (aka homeworks/practice questions) because they've taught them that they're dumber than their classmates, lazy, and punishable if they don't meet their standards. I was born and raised in china and lived there for 15yrs before getting out, throughout my childhood i've experience first hand and witnessed how messed up chinese education is. Even when I was in elementary school, i've heard people in china call the american education the happy education and chinese education the beating and scolding education.

[@hldo00]

@@jessicag630maybe your kids weren’t traumatised by studying yet. The moment I got into Kindergarten my parents pressured me into studying, but giving me little to study with. Each day I was taken home my mother would ask “Have you learned the alphabet yet?” Or “Can you count now?”. They would often shame me for playing, telling me I was lazy and why I wouldn’t study. If the “helped” me with “school exercises” it was just further traumatising, since they’d yell and become physical, when I made mistakes. From an early age I associated learning and studying with the pressure and stress. It wasn’t about learning but performing. I’m still carrying that today as an adult, but am rediscovering how to find the joy and fun in learning again.

[@alanzlinsky]

My dad tricked my brother into thinking he only got a card (he actually wrapped both my and by brother's gift in the same wrap to look like a single box). My brother was 9 and he was felt humiliated because my dad was laughing at his reaction. He still remembers that day 24 years later.

[@ArtelisStudio]

Thank you for this. Those who condone this behavior from parents think that what the parents did was just a small thing with no consequence and after effect.

[@moonyaan]

exactly

[@Guccicookie]

Kids remember all the negative emotions, they’re forming their personality from childhood memories. This is why we should give children the best we can.

[@kennethmays8059]

I remember my dad doing stuff like that to me. I laugh now just thinking about it. Honestly for me. Those were the best times. I always got what I wanted. My parents just liked to have fun. I remember the important things like my Parents always gave me what I needed. And if playing jokes on us helped them get through the tough times with a little bit of laughter. I am happy to have provided them with it. I haven't forgotten nor do I hold one once of anger towards them for it. As a matter of fact, I think it was awesome.

[@TheAshCooper]

This will stand as a memory in years to come.

[@andy8357]

Core memory lol

[@freescoring]

That will be the real trauma

[@charliepea]

If I received a cram book as a surprise too, I'd definitely be dissappointed. It's better to talk to her directly about her studies then fooling her. Spoiling her with toys later on will not help her with her studies.

[@tnmkr]

Like it or not, cramming is what gets you academic success in Asia.

[@yerri5567]

Charlie Pea Why not both? Books and toys?

[@ryerye6587]

Why are you commenting Charlie Pea? Are you mother of the year? Dumdum. It is their problem to deal with. For nobody like us, this is just amusing. Stop being judgmental like they should care about what you think.

[@parneetbanwait2000]

@@tnmkr yes, but it’s also the cause of many suicides. It’s best not to put so much pressure at such a young age.

[@MTC008]

than* not then LOL

[@kaberigomes2117]

So they conditioned her brain to hate books at an early stage of development. Genius parents.

[@ifykyk679]

Any kid would hate books as a present.

[@Isaac-gh5ku]

Unless the books are a set of a few manga or comics. Just saying.

[@shushanto]

It's not a book is it? Lol these cheap parents gave her an empty EXERCISE BOOK. Only losers would do that. Well, this particular lady probably meant it as a joke, but generically, as a principle, the child rejecting an empty gesture doesn't make the child wrong, it makes the parent a stingy idiot and unworthy of parenting.

[@mickolesmana5899]

​@@ifykyk679 Naaah, i am happy when recieving very COLORFUL and FUN encyclopedia from my uncle, but not fuking excer book

[@shodan2002]

@@ifykyk679not true at all actually there’s kids that want story books for Christmas they don’t hate books….yet unless you teach them that it’s a bad thing

[@acanthus_et_adonis8922]

My mum literally got me textbooks and sets of practice workbooks for multiple Christmases, I remember being very happy that the wrapping paper was nice, and nothing else.

[@ChandanMishra-ql1bi]

What's wrong with you?😂

[@user-he7lt5qe3n]

I agreed with you, @written_in_liLAC. Mine too. It’s what we put the value of the gifts.❤

[@jiyakuches220]

Everyone sees things different. Just majority of them doesn't like exercise books as a gift, and the minority of them like exercise books as gifts. Doesn't make someone abnormal; it's still normal and fine. And I agree with M and @written_in_liLAC about putting a value on the gifts. It's ok; you can create value even with or without presents based on what you think / like.

[@user-gb5ff7gj1m]

The kid is spoiled . I never received a gift from my parents who we’re already happy they were able to buy us food

[@littleleah310]

Lol

[@talesfromatiredmind4785]

I remember getting those books as a gift for birthdays. So disappointing especially since my grades were great, I can understand her frustration

[@justanawkwardnerd]

I didn't get them as gifts, but I got them both when I struggled and when I did well, and they weren't even that related to my studies. All they did was confuse and frustrate me and my parents clearly didn't have a clear plan of what they were even supposed to add to my education. Felt more like a "bragging rights" thing than "how do I help my child understand their learning in school" type of thing, and I'm STILL bitter about it 10+ years later.

[@mariapaulas199]

Dont do this to your child. Their emotions are not as developed as adults and their parents actions hurt them the most. You dont need to make them cry to laught at them. You have to make them smile and be happy for them to want to do what you want them to do.

[@jasonyau326]

As a Chinese Canadian, I assume that those who criticize the behavior of the little girl are not Chinese let alone Asian so they have little to no idea just how much her parents push her to succeed academically. Because if I was still 5 years old and got an exercise book as a gift, I would interpret that as punishment and be disappointed if not visible upset as she was. Nonetheless I do blame her parents for not instilling an interest in reading books at a young age and instead it appears only giving her exercise books to do all the time

[@ellak9322]

Ur right, leave The Asians alone, always Americans come here to Make negative comments about Asians, as Chinese myself, its The same thing For me too.

[@gameralove6418]

I understand this. my parent really worried about me all the time, and this always make me angry bc it means they think I can't take care of myself. I really hate it even nowadays. I think this is why when I give money to my little sister as a gift, I would say it's not much, and this is for your birthday too, I always try to find a reason to give her money, so she doesn't know I give her bc I worry she won't have enough money to use.

[@huus5682]

asian, you mean chinese korea and japan right.

[@jasonyau326]

@@huus5682 yes as well as Thai, Vietnamese, Malaysian etal in Asia

[@akiralee9934]

Malaysian Chinese myself, and I agree.

[@mrartdeco]

She should be giving her mom “parenting for dummies” book for her mom’s birthday

[@haannguyen4402]

The mum needs a parenting class

[@moonyaan]

lol

[@areyoumadbroxd6861]

Wrong. The parent is not the one at fault here. This child is a spoiled rotten brat. She should be grateful and thankful for ANY gift she was given. The fact that she is throwing this embarrassingly unsightly tantrum is proof she is completely spoiled.

[@afsaramehrin2993]

@@areyoumadbroxd6861 are you an internet troll ? Because that’s exactly what you sound like… where in this video was this little girl being, the “spoiled brat” ? specially when the mom’s parenting skills are poor ! Any kid would hate to have an exercise book as a present and it’s a fact. Just because this little girl’s class performance slipped a little, didn’t give her parents the right to make it worse by giving her, an exercise book as a “present”. Deny it as much as you have to : exercise books aren’t ’present’ material 🤷🏻‍♀️ When kids expect presents, they expect candies and toys. Never take the joys of childhood years away from kids who are growing up 🧸🎁🍭

[@mysticloverfairy1]

@@afsaramehrin2993I agree with you, so many people are saying the little girl is spoiled because she didn’t like her “gift” why should she like it, if it was her birthday why give her something like that and on top of that as a “joke” because you thought it was funny. Some people act like little kids aren’t allowed to have any sort of negative reaction if they receive a horrible gift. Little kids don’t know how to pretend they don’t like a gift . Also to the people saying “When she’s older she’ll forget it” I remember one Christmas my mom “pranked “:us by pretending we were only getting socks, I wanted to cry, my little brother got angry and went to his room, this was three decades ago, I still remember it, so no she won’t just forget it. I also think she will remember it better as she grows older because I remember random stuff from my childhood

[@dihexa7256]

Parents: **give exercise book as gift** Me: “Take me back to the orphanage” Parents: “But you’re not an orphan” Me: “I’m gonna make myself an orphan because of that gift”

[@kenrock2]

😂😂😂

[@MTC008]

just ask for another gift LOL, no need of that

[@bobbymoss6160]

Bye Felicia.

[@kendellfriend5558]

@東京都 off topic but your name is gorgeous. 我喜欢你的名字。

[@tracyyy.]

i mean… there’s no way stereotypical Asian parents are gonna take those news lightly (i speak as an Asian)

[@AL_EVOz]

Poor girl. She deserves something better for the first gift. As im sure she works very hard in school. Glad her parents gave her something better after.

[@Tomharry910]

She is such a cute kid.

[@StillGamingTM]

I love how she straight up just throws the book at them 😂

[@potatomatop9326]

Her parents wants her to be like Reed Richards, the smartest man alive.

[@rollinghippo2940]

but she's a she. no need to bring the lgtvhd+ western culture in asia

[@potatomatop9326]

@@rollinghippo2940 i'm sorry. i forgot that female asians are forbidden and don't have the right to be smart.

[@shqip_sumejja]

Who is reed richards?

[@Milkwoss]

@@rollinghippo2940 please tell me u made this comment when ur high because there is no way...💀

[@user-bt4ee2nq9s]

@@rollinghippo2940 excuse me..?? 💀

[@aultraman]

I reacted the same way as a 10 year old when I got a dictionary from my Dad for Christmas. My Mom, bless her heart, gave me money for a model tank the next day.

[@vvi6426]

Maybe you didn't like the dictionary but am sure your dad gave it to you thinking about you... it's not necessarily a bad thing

[@aultraman]

@@vvi6426Totally. I still have the dictionary after almost 50 years ago. But sure would have been nice as a kid if I got a real toy instead. LOL.

[@vvi6426]

@@aultraman haha i can relate to that

[@Kworks86]

I can't help but feel they did this for click bait at the expense of the little girl, really dispise this. BAD PARENTS!

[@yerri5567]

Kworks Nope. Parents trick or prank their kids time to time. This ones just recorded thats all.

[@yerri5567]

@@catea2551 Make up? Look again. Theres not one speck of make up on her face...

[@MTC008]

@@catea2551 best comment theory ever

[@JohnSmith-hs1hn]

Chinese people lol.

[@sleepyearth]

​@@yerri5567 for views and clout. Even worse

[@nicholascage3699]

The mother spoiled a young kid heart

[@theschatten2923]

In my birthdays I always received japanese pens, colored pencils and educational books, with cute stamps and shapes, to motivate me during the studies. Thanks to that I grew up liking to write, draw and learn. I think that mom should talk properly with the girl to show her how interesting studying really is. To be able to understand people from all over the world, to understand the nature, etc.

[@haannguyen4402]

Yes

[@haannguyen4402]

If you love learning you’ll definitely go far in life. I’ve tried to punish myself for being insensitive/inconsiderate by asking my teacher if I could miss lunch to further my studies

[@dian277]

i hated it when i was given a practice book as a gift, but i'd love some cute and sturdy pencils and fun books, cause you know why? a practice book means work, means scolding and comparing me to other kids if i get answers wrong, means i'll be forced to do something i don't like because if i don't do them the book would be of no use and money be wasted. pencils and fun books don't bring any of that

[@kimmoonson3386]

Beautiful daughter ❤

[@s._3560]

Look, many people on social media in China also admonished the mother after what she did. They felt really sorry for her. Some people prank their kids in US too, instigated by a host from a show! The parents pranked their kids by telling them that they had eaten all their Halloween sweets the morning after and film their kids getting very angry or crying in distress! Unfortunately, there are just some money grubbing parents who will do mean things to their children to gain more viewership revenue.

[@samuellancaster1305]

Yeah I can see that

[@liandoaethend2403]

Poor children, their reactions is filmed too... if youre bad, dont double it down bruh

[@livingtorment7638]

I don't know why y'all like to film little kids crying when they're clearly not emotionally stable and making fun of them for it on top of that

[@ultravioletgaia]

Why are you defensive nobody belittling your beloved China smh

[@shaylataylor9525]

Poor thing. My mom got me huge exercise books for gifts, but only because I actually loved them. I hope she got a second gift so she can have fun as well.

[@RadChromeDude]

bruh the mom is cold asf... imagine ur boss giving u additional assignments on ur birthday! anyone would die inside ngl

[@reves3333]

then they say "you didnt perform as well as last month this is me helping you work better by make you work more, practice make perfect "

[@kemonoautumnfall6331]

This is when her hatred towards her parents sparked brightly. The parents really did traumatised her, especially when the mother was laughing all the way.

[@powerfulberry237]

​@@manjuldubey9990 chill bro killing is normal in [insert a country where it's normal] No, it has to change. And I'm Asian. If you think this is funny I hope you never reproduced either

[@ThanhTran-dp6yh]

you sound exactly like some maniac would use to defend his or her madness

[@dariya1873]

Just because its common does not make it alright

[@ethanliu6911]

@@dariya1873 but it is a justification for the maniac

[@anton1713]

It would have only been bad if she wouldn't have received a nice gift also

[@se4foammermaid772]

Wow, my child works hard and is excited to see her reward but it’s just another exercise book? And she’s upset because she’s met with more work rather than appreciation? Who could’ve guessed that?

[@fikrutadesse7659]

I had felt the same at my childhood but not to the extent this girl felt. My dad used to bring me cookies, biscuits and sweets when returning from long due of from public service away from home. But one time he brought me an auxillary book to aid me in my first grade and I had indeed hard time at being grateful for that.

[@AFRICANTIGRESS]

I would cry too

[@zammmerjammer]

I don't understand the mindset of someone who deliberately upsets their child, then FILMS them being upset, the POSTS that video for MILLIONS of strangers to see. Parents of the year, right here.

[@solvorine]

I remember this happening to me when I was her age. A lot of people don’t have any clue how much pressure is on these young children. I remember learning characters when I was 4. I’ve still got multiple exercise books in my closet.

[@yudistiraliem135]

I remember when our German relatives stayed at my place when I was a kid and they wanted to give me parting gift. My parents said to give history books and they didn’t believe it 😂 When they hand me the books I was happy and their reaction was, “Oh, so he does like it.”

[@yooniverse0814]

That's adorable 😆❤

[@andrewpaul3130]

She's so adorable 💕🐰🐨🐷🐶

[@brucelee3688]

This is how you start to lose trust in those you love. It may be a joke but I believe she's too young to fully comprehend it. Like always with Asians. Waste not, want not. She still has to complete the exercise book.

[@markwalker4142]

Be like water Bruce …. Stick the book in a bucket of water 💦!!! 😂😂😂

[@nelsonyip1260]

Should have encourage and support their daughter to do well and at the same time reward her...

[@m.hidayatullohmustafid8596]

she is 5 yo but the way she expres the emotion is pretty mature..i believe she is smart..but their parrents are not apreciate her much and keep pushing her to do better..

[@mchan9999]

My mom did this to me too. She said we’re going to a special place and surprised me to a math tutor class. I cried and refused to get in the building for straight hours. But now I’m glad my mom did that to me, I’m far more smarter than my classmates academically who didn’t go to tutor sessions or couldn’t afford to go. It might seem cruel, but it’s for the kid.

[@alexandrachiritescu5352]

She could have told you from the beginning where you were going and explained why. It doesn't have to be cruel.

[@mysticloverfairy1]

@@alexandrachiritescu5352 Exactly why does a parent need to be cruel just explain to the child, “ I noticed your having trouble with your a (certain subject) , so I decided that it would be helpful for you to send you to a tutor class and a teacher can help you with you understand what you’re struggling with “

[@muselover9730]

Who ever did this to the girl is unforgivable

[@MiaKaiser-c5y]

luckily chinese kids arent as spoiled and ungrateful as yal😂they dont think like that

[@Dana-ie2bh]

If I was that little girl, I would get even with my parents when I grew up.

[@user-wr4yl7tx3w]

while she works on the exercise book, her mom should write a self-criticism essay, to never pull the prank again.

[@hannahgomez6716]

So gentle unwrapping the gift!

[@mikaNmiyu]

It is the phobia the society create that learning is not fun. If they can make learning is fun too, I’m sure the kid would be happy with just exercise too .

[@eliu868]

To be fair, we really don’t have context for this interaction besides what we see. It a child does many exercises over and over rote from a book, you can see how it isn’t fun. It isn’t just the belief that learning isn’t fun - it’s how we teach. Course, I don’t have any insight to provide myself - I grew up grinding with exercises just like the one shown in the video 😅

[@user-nq2sw6sg8q]

That is real EMOTIONAL DAMAGE!

[@jessica2brook]

I don't think you know what "real emotional damage" is if you think this is it

[@user-nq2sw6sg8q]

@@jessica2brook I do know because Asian parents discipline their children are worse than that in the 1970's, 1980's. The emotional damage is real, but we don't bear a grudge because they punish us for our mistakes, not for no reason.

[@jessica2brook]

@@user-nq2sw6sg8q I'm Chinese as well, just so you know. So I know how they are. This is probably mild to me because my mom was very abusive.

[@user-nq2sw6sg8q]

@@jessica2brook Abusive and Strict discipline is 2 different thing. Because parents, teachers back then discipline the young quite harshly, it become quite a common practice so the emotional damage is temporary . Sorry to hear about your case. My parents caned me often but with a reason.

[@RayMak]

Quite a cute reaction

[@akoyisangpinoy4705]

hello Ray Mak!!

[@justanothermortal1373]

What

[@akiralee9934]

This and the comments below are bringing back all the bad memories of being caned for getting a fail because I was bullied at school and couldn't concentrate in class due to the bullying. Of being threatened with a cane when I nodded off due to sheer exhaustion because I was still forced to study at midnight. Of being told I was a disappointment when I got 10As instead of 11 in my O-Levels, and again for 2As and 2Bs in my A-levels. To this day, I'm still a disappointment for not making it into an Ivy League university despite having graduated with honours. I'm still in contact with my mom, but guess what? I don't love her anymore. Surprise, surprise, when you ill-treat your children, they will never forget.

[@yananneteoh9818]

This is truly tragic and sounds like an unfinished business. It's not clear who was disappointed - obviously your parents - and you too? It's a shame you and your parents care more for your success than YOU all care for Each Other! Really, is nothing and Ko one can replace the bond bet.a påarents-child relationship. Hope you all realise this. Thx for sharing. 😅

[@dao-lam]

She’s so adorable

[@user-qq9pu9zs3t]

This is a common joke in China, especially among the high school students. But it hurts children's feeling very much

[@tracyyy.]

i agree, some jokes just aren’t funny when they hurt someone even if they weren’t meant to

[@vinasanjoyo]

I don't like the fact that the parent lied to her but I also don't like the fact that the kid literally threw a book to her mother... In my house, I would be kicked out of the house for being disrespectful...

[@yerri5567]

Vina Sanjoyo "Lied"? You must be fun at parties...ever heard of a trick or prank? But yes, the throwing book bit needs to be rectified.

[@user-in1yw9ty5t]

The kid did the right thing as a kid. This isn't a mistake. This is how kids should act. Now the parents should console them and say that it's ok and accept their emotions and say that they feel them and say that whatever they are feeling is natural however correct them with love in a mature manner with understanding of why and reason with them- love should be a guiding force in disciplining kids. Understanding them, loving them for that, teaching them what is right and thinking and caring for others but keeping them at the center. This isn't spoiling the kids. I think sometimes parents can't help but laugh but they should def make up for it and explain stuff and move on. To teach them how to react in an acceptable manner without losing their authentic emotions and feelings. The parents should ask for forgiveness from their child because children know they are being betrayed. To a child it's a serious thing and it should be. If this wasn't the case children wouldn't be taken care of. They would not understand how their parents could do such a thing if they didn't throw tantrums. As the kid grows up and naturally develops reason. They will correct themselves rather than berate them. First acknowledge their feelings and then address their problems. Se. Them where they are at.

[@darrenng1548]

​@@yerri5567 I mean when it's a gift or present, it's supposed to be something the person, or child in this case, likes. So in this situation the mother did lie about it being a gift/present since the child really did not like the exercise book. Of course, I would also say that throwing the book at the mom is not correct, instead throwing it on the ground or backwards gets the message across just right for getting her point across.

[@yerri5567]

@@darrenng1548 Same comment to you: '"Lied"? You must be fun at parties...ever heard of a trick or prank?'

[@unwingedwren9907]

​@@yerri5567 okay you don't like the word "lie." That doesn't make it acceptable to "trick" your child as you keep saying. She is young. These are her formative years. Even if she doesn't remember this incident specifically (though she likely might with the emotion here and them laughing at her distress) they keep doing things like this she is going to know she can't trust her parents and what they say. It means she might not go to them when she needs to because they are not a safe place for her. We need to stop acting like children are just tiny adults we can treat any which way with no consequences. It is how you make maladjusted adults.

[@hoanganhdao68]

She is so cute & emotional!

[@ImB-cp3xf]

This made me so sad. How she kind of tried to smile and be happy to mask her disappointment.

[@millenia08]

You can't expect a child to understand your adult jokes. Pranks aren't for children as they cause trauma and unpleasant memories/feelings. Also, you'll spend a lot of time explaining everything to a child after you're done with your joke.

[@death2putin718]

The video should be re-titled as ‘study/homework book’

[@Waddle_Dee_With_Internet]

Well she got the toy she wanted at the further video

[@retsuki2154]

yeah the tittle confused me for a sec

[@eliu868]

Yeah it a language thing. The direct translation of one of the more popular terms for this type of book is exercise book (as in homework exercise). It’s just not how we use the word exercise in English

[@wrightvcx2249]

Overloaded with cuteness.

[@bonchoituot]

I really love the way the little girl opened the gift package slowly, not even the outer packaging was torn in the slightest. She was raised kindly and lovingly. In this video, her parents probably just wanted to post it on social networks. Looking at the dress she's wearing, I'm sure her parents gave the best for their child.

[@yooneunhyesarang9245]

What a cute little girl ❤❤❤❤

[@sandyd6361]

She’s so ReAL I would cry too 😅

[@lancetruong3075]

So precious!

[@oivvv9218]

perfect example of 'Please watch the whole video'!

[@mejustme474]

Children want toys. Imaginary play is just as important on down time as constructive lessons. Let her have some time to herself. Even Adults need to have an hour of free time each day.

[@SiodogRehane]

Here's something for the girl, give your parents more work as a gift see how they laugh now

[@garimamohod]

Beautiful parents with beautiful daughter ❤

[@user-kw7xk5hj4f]

You just can't beat innocent smiles or cry. 🎉🎉🎉

[@alphadeltaarts5180]

i remember getting two exercise books as a gift on my birthday, i was totally heartbroken but wasn't allowed to cry as my dad said, whats there to cry about this, be grateful. the previous bday i got a geometry box as a gift. after that, i haven't celebrated my bday once

[@autumngarden4284]

Giving her the real gift after a temper tantrum reinforces that it's ok to throw things and she gets to have her reward afterwards.. just wanted to add. a lot of people already mentioned how awful it is already for the girl to have her mom laughing on the side.

[@ssaleem2]

Yeah…when I watched the entire video I was thinking MAYBE this kid is a tad bit spoiled. I got various gifts as a child and at her age I wouldn’t have gotten mad getting a book. And even if I did get mad that’s still very disrespectful and not appropriate to throw the book at the mother…regardless of what mood she’s in.

[@WeiYinChan]

@@ssaleem2it’s not a book it’s an exercise book, it’s equivalent to giving your mom a list of chores to do for Mother’s Day

[@ssaleem2]

@WeiYinChan watch the video again…before she even realized it was an exercise book she was already upset.

[@ssaleem2]

@WeiYinChan I have gotten various gifts over the years (including books at her age) and I was very happy with what I received. That’s not the first time this kid has ‘thrown something’ when she didn’t get her way. Crying I can understand but throwing a book? Nope, that’s a sign of a spoiled child …maybe that’s why she’s not performing well at school too because she’s too focused on playing and material things and used to getting her way.

[@haannguyen4402]

They should’ve made the girl apologise or take a timeout. When my brother and I were little our mum had a “naughty point” where we went after doing something nasty (e.g. call each other names) 1:33

[@celestial.dreamer7028]

Mother deserved that book thrown at her

[@sakurasoh]

Poor child. If the dad throw in another gift that she has been wanting, that would make her day instead of talking about studying all the time.

[@rayjaymoney1441]

I remember being taught to be grateful no matter what the gift is.

[@Vertex_vortex]

Cmon don't play with her feelings like that, you buy a horrible gift and then you buy her a awesome gift

[@fz8376]

She’s so cute

[@myeongwol]

I really feel for her. 😢

[@haileyt857]

That's like getting socks for your birthday as a kid 😂

[@justanawkwardnerd]

Socks can be made fun (lame, but fun) - they did this knowing she wouldn't like it or ask for it.

[@RaiunHana]

Nahh its different, socks are better. The exercise book is given with the expectation to do / complete it so it is essentially giving the little girl work to do. Very different from receiving socks

[@RespectOthers1]

Throwing the book back at her mother is no no behaviour.

[@eugenvonbismarck5029]

I mean she is 5 and already has to endure all these inhumane exercises. I think it’s understandable.

[@domar6274]

@@eugenvonbismarck5029 you're too sensitive

[@edgardjuarez7610]

​@Eugen von Bismarck that is not understandable at all. I will pull out the belt real quick if my daughter did that to me or her mother.

[@edgardjuarez7610]

@Louis Kingsta it makes perfect sense. In order for my child to grow up to be respectable and educated, I have to make her understand that kind of behavior is not tolerated. Now, I don't condone hitting your child for just any reason, but throwing a tantrum and slinging an object at her parents is a big no.

[@dqlHuiShi]

​​@@edgardjuarez7610ow how violence. U r only teaching violence to your kids cause her throwing the book = violence n the way u educate her = more violence. She won't learn to resolve this peacefully if u use violence to stop her

[@azanjamal849]

She's so cute ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@cr9072]

Look at how she unwrap the gift and not tearing the paper 👍👍

[@Maya-sv1pz]

I hope china love their daughters as much as their sons

[@gzuo5973]

actually in china many parents even prefer daughters than sons haha, I am the only child (girl) in family and I got so much love and support.

[@wynn3077]

@@gzuo5973 Really almost everyone there that I know seem just to have one son , except one couple who have twin daughters. At least the old practice of drowning baby girls has stopped .

[@eliu868]

@@wynn3077 You haven’t met a wife enough cross section of the population yet it seems.

[@daniellekelli6265]

Villain arc has started...

[@Pigeon274]

Ok that is the cutest baby I’ve ever seen❤

[@sakura.8138]

Do people not realize children don't have the same brains as adults. Especially at that age. It must have felt like betrayal to that little kid.

[@TheRainbowDragoness]

Pranking your kids is f'd up An exercise book is a symbol of your parents expectations She's a child, she doesn't need that sort of pressure.

[@quasistarsupernova]

you forget one thing: this is mainland china. (though it still is horrible to do this to a kid)

[@RaiunHana]

​@@quasistarsupernovaEven so, it sparked a debate in China therefore there must have been many people in China who thought that the prank is f-ed up as well. Personally, as someone who comes from a country that is as academically competitive as China, I agree that it is f-ed up and hate such pranks with a passion. Exercise books are not gifts.

[@sanjaykharkongor2400]

She is so cute 😊

[@web3wizard381]

Most empathetic and loving asian parent

[@atomixfang]

Those kind of pranks are ok when kids are older and understand the meaning of a mean prank. But as a kids they don't understand why they are being punished in a moment that is supposed to be happy.

[@justanawkwardnerd]

I honestly don't think she'd like it even if she was older. I'd think she'd end up learning to avoid letting her parents know she's struggling if she knows that her parents will see it as an opportunity to make fun of her first rather than helping her or letting her have something nice.

[@grandiora]

The little girl seems a little spoiled but of course the parent would post the fake gift opening online and then try to defend it.

[@fml3131]

Same sentiments. And she even got her nails painted bright RED.

[@jessamatus7286]

​​@@fml3131 Well if you're as pure and as innocent as 5 year old girl, you wouldn't think of anything about colors other than they are fancy and pretty. When I was young I would stare for a long time at my newly painted BRIGHT RED nails. To me, my painted nails looked sooo beautiful, like little red jewels I couldn't be more delighted. If I got a marker, my legs would be my canvass, I just enjoyed seeing pretty lines, patterns, and colors, just like a normal kid. And of course, I outgrew it all when I got older. Now as an adult, I don't use nail polish, or make up, not into bright colors and fancy things but I'm still very feminine. LOL So the point is, kids love things like bright colors, rainbows and unicorns simply because they are "pretty". It's the same as obsessing over candy and all sweet foods.

[@alice_595]

Which 'spoiled' kid get an exercise book as a surprise gift just to indirectly say you're not working hard enough. Here I thought spoiled means pampered and overindulgent. She was very greatful for the gift, even saying thank you to her dad and smiling very happily, until she saw what's inside.

[@haydenpaulmok4261]

The little girl is sooo cute! I bet the mama is beautiful too!!!

[@wolfshield2499]

Kids face a few disappointed in their period of times is really valuable moments for them, as they will quickly learn and realise that, the world is not always shining and rainbow all the times.

[@An_ony_mous]

She should have also gifted the toy along with the book. That would not make her cry.

[@silklavender]

I think the actual problem here is that her mother recorded her trying to grab a reaction out of her to post it for attention

[@mycoldheart]

Awww, poor girl.

[@NIAkikhabrein]

she is so cute

[@jaker3151]

2:15 Why is she crying so much when doing the exercise book a few days later? Parents pushing her or she really hates studying.

[@rimitagoni6023]

Bruh, I remember getting an encyclopedia book that was HUGE for my 9 or 10th birthday. It was A4 paper in dimensions and like the thickness was a little less than 2-3inches I feel like they gifted it to me because I maybe liked reading at that time. So the way I discovered it was kinda funny too, maybe that played a part. They opened the window and put the book beside the window sill. And asked me to close the window because it became too chilly. So that was funny too. And while I don't remember how I felt at that time, I fell like I was kinda happy. Maybe I wanted something else, but I was a little grown up to understand that my parents love me and they wish me well.

[@UCanDoIt_Love]

She is very cute! ❤

[@purplemist2779]

The expressions are amazing. She should become an actress.

[@bachvonam4640]

The funny thing is that many people think that her reaction is correct. The little girl threw the book at her mother's face. At that age, she had a certain awareness but took such extreme actions. Of course, a normal child can appear unhappy, sad and say "I don't like it", which is a straightforward way of expressing it. In this case, it's clear that this is a bad girl who needs to be taught

[@user-zv9hg2ul7h]

But you have no problem with the parents videoing this extreme disappointment to the point of crying and not telling her it was a joke? The parents are heartless

[@alien_0_0_7]

they are responsible for this behaviour atleast she is expressing herself unlike me who hides everything