Give me 12 minutes- I'll help you communicate BETTER and CONNECT with others more

[@DianeMoore]

Tell me about what you struggle with the most when communicating. We can absolutely work to speak better and be heard!

[@GENXERNAILSDIARY]

My problem is that my brain goes first to my native language and my delivery is slower than I would like it to be. I’m constantly translating and trying to make it make sense when it comes out of my mouth.

[@P1nkBanj0]

I learned lots from this video. I've always written better than I've spoken, when I write, I also don't swear to get a point across. If I could speak the way I write, I'd be golden. lol I WILL keep up with your videos for knowledge. Thank you. I can relate to reading fiction vs non fiction, I like documentaries too.

[@LaVoneHolden-j3b]

Diane, when i make a video can I add an audio to it.

[@1ReikiFloW]

as an imported Italian and a neurodivergent person I have to say....neurotypicals are very stuck in their ways of communication and lack the ability to learn our neurodiverse language so communication is much more complicated for those who are part of the minority. Thank you for sharing resources.

[@Tomboy-girlsplace129]

I had a KZbin channel couple years ago. I had about 10 videos on it maybe 100 subscribers. But I was always so freaking nervous about being judged which I know is I shouldn’t be like that. But I’m so worried about what I look like when I sound like an am I being presentable professionaland giving information that is informative to the viewers.

[@ClairenParkerontheRoad]

You are such a great speaker.

[@DianeMoore]

Aw thank you

[@mikesteele3721]

Great content Diane! Your presence on camera is engaging and credible! Your ideas are simple and easy to apply. I’m starting a YT channel with my wife and your videos are very helpful! Thank you and keep up the great work!

[@DianeMoore]

So glad that they're helpful for you, Mike! Best wishes to you and your wife for success!

[@TravelwithMAK.]

Hi Diane EXCELLENT your video keep it up 🎉🎉🎉

[@DianeMoore]

Hey there! Thanks so much!

[@GardenDiscovery]

I've started doing warm ups. Starting the video and allowing myself time getting in the groove of talking. I struggle at communicating. It's been a challenge, but doing warm ups definitely helps.

[@DianeMoore]

I do something along that line too! 🙂

[@SouthernSipsandIncomeTips]

This is a great video Dianne! So helpful!

[@DianeMoore]

So glad!

[@BonnieTheBeliever]

You're the BEST Diane, great video as always and thanks for starting my winter reading list. :)

[@DianeMoore]

I hope you love those 2 books as much as I do, Bonnie!

[@gigglewhileyoulearn]

Excellent video 😍 so inspiring. No1 is so true. Learning/reading helps us grow & understand other points of view ❤️

[@DianeMoore]

Hey thanks! Sounds like you've seen the many benefits that reading can offer!

[@sherimciver]

Nice eye contact lady! I’m learning a lot from you as well as you are confirming what I already know…thank you!

[@DianeMoore]

Hope it continues to be helpful for you, Sheri

[@BearNecessities-f3o]

You have so much confidence and I don’t. But I really dream about starting a utube channel.

[@marnalaapriyantihutabarat6470]

Thank you for your video. "The goal is get impressed and connected"

[@DianeMoore]

Connection is always key!

[@annetteselent]

Thank you for your book recommendations. I decided to order the kindle versions for now, because it costs less and I can read them immediately😁

[@DianeMoore]

Oh format doesn't matter - I'm just a paper kind of girl :) Hope they're helpful for you, Annette

[@MarianR1111]

You really hit on a mistake that I make, which is assuming that others know what I’m talking about. I often forget the details that help others understand. Thank you.

[@DianeMoore]

That’s a tough one for me sometimes too, Marian! Gotta keep that in mind

[@paperpagespossibilities]

Really good food for thought. Thank you so much for what you do to help fledgling youtubers like myself!

[@DianeMoore]

So glad it’s helpful!

[@TraciesLocalLearnings]

I appreciate your insight, Blessings 🙏❤

[@diannegowland8016]

Great tips! Thank you

[@DianeMoore]

You're welcome, Dianne!

[@simplybeautifulsourdough8920]

Such great information! Thank you! I cut out SO much of what I've recorded because it's just filler and wasting the viewers time. If I'm boring myself, it's gotta go!

[@DianeMoore]

Glad it helps!

[@sandrafoster2806]

Awesome tips…. Ah ah ah… Love them and ahm ahm ahm … your delivery 🤩💕

[@DianeMoore]

Right?!? 😅

[@Baileywabbit]

Thanks Diane. Supercommunicators is a great book. I truly loved it. Excellent video and guidance.

[@DianeMoore]

So glad you read it! It’s going to get a second read from me

[@shellyseverydayadventures]

You are absolutely right how we communicate is essential to everyone and everything in our lives. Great video

[@DianeMoore]

And it’s definitely something that can improve with work - Im exhibit A 🙂

[@glendapeglau4694]

I believe i avoid any conflict at all cost due mainly to upbringing.. avoidant.. ppl pleasing then get resentful ..

[@DianeMoore]

May you find ways to have more of a voice in many ways then

[@newventurenewday]

"Auditory clutter words". Love it. Great topic. I'm in your camp on this. Your points were right on the mark. I'm retired now but coached many people in my career on how to communicate effectively. Unfortunately, language and communication skills are too often ignored in school. You can be brilliant, but if you can't communicate any of it, that brilliance is of less value than someone with average knowledge who can communicate useful information to others effectively and get things done. Thanks

[@DianeMoore]

Yessirree!

[@AbideNowinJesus]

Yes, schools DON"T spend much time at all on effective communication skills. Education encourages us to listen and become BRILLIANT, like you mentioned. I love what you said about how effective communication is less valuable than someone else with common knowledge that gets things done by their communication skills. Unfortunately, we have away more followers but not many leaders. We desperately need more great leaders! There are great leaders but they just have not discovered themselves yet!

[@moniquelemaire5333]

What an excellent lesson 💯. Yes, without proper communication our society eould not function, and without proper communication our relationships don't function. Your point on reading a lot is very good. It's eady to tell if a person likes to read or not simply by the vocabulary or lack thereof. I think this is probably your best video yet!!🎉 Love your channel. Keep up the great work 👍. Miss Monique 🙂🙏🌷💗

[@Cali-64]

👍🙏

[@DianeMoore]

I’ll take a guess that you’re a great communicator, Miss Monique 🙂

[@nicholasvoyage5535]

This is so great! Can’t wait to listen to this video, as it has just begun. So positive and uplifting.

[@DianeMoore]

Aw thanks

[@wendyvarnerdesigns]

Thank you!!!

[@DianeMoore]

You bet, Wendy

[@hellostarshine-1967]

Thanks for your helpful tips.

[@DianeMoore]

You’re welcome!

[@AmandasPaperCrafting]

Great content as always Diane! Much appreciation for all you do. 💖

[@DianeMoore]

You are very welcome, Amanda

[@thegracecommandments]

Love your videos! Im learning.

[@DianeMoore]

Wonderful!

[@RinaValan]

Great tips, great video! Thank you for this 🤗

[@DianeMoore]

You're welcome! 🙂

[@PamelaGatens]

Thanks for your clear thinking and communication!

[@DianeMoore]

Hope it’s helpful for you!

[@SoloSecondHalf]

Great video! You are so right about communicating. It is definitely a skill that can be learned. It is everything and poor communication can quickly drive things off the rails or put things right back on tracks. Thanks ❤

[@DianeMoore]

I’ve definitely worked to improve. It can be done 🙂

[@empathy_is_only_human]

Howdy hi hi, I very much like the final point you put on your video about reading. One of the things I realized, while going through a very rough patch in my life was that I needed to change my self talk. My inner voice if you will. The things that we all say to ourselves. And mine was pretty negative. In more technical terms, when we specifically set out to say positive things to ourselves. It is called an affirmation. The first time I actually did one. It was a simple audible statement. Steven, I like you. Silly I know. But as it turns out, for me it wasn't so silly. I immediately guffawed. Something I don't think I had ever done before and have certainly never done since. A guffaw can be described as the laugh typically heard done by the Disney character Goofy. Getting to the point, with reading you are absolutely right in that it follows different neural pathways and can help to reinforce ideas and learning. What I realized with the whole affirmation story was that there are various pathways this can take. You can write the idea, read it, say it aloud, say it with your inner voice, use the first person and the third person( I think this about me, or Steven I think this of you. You can type it out on your phone or computer, or hand write out. The more varied the ways in which an idea reaches us, the more importance it will seem to have to our subconscious. One of the big things that our minds do when we sleep is to process what short term memories are transferred into long term memory. Having a thing repeated often enough is one way to ensure it is implanted into long term memory. But also via taking advantage of all the different perspectives in consuming an idea. So yeah, your final point is spot on and really important.

[@DianeMoore]

Love it

[@apainterlyhome]

I was in my 20's when a therapist told me, "the quality of your life experience is directly proportional to your ability to communicate." I told her she had lived in California too long. And then proceeded to try to prove her wrong. I'm 70 now - and I remember this...because, well....guess what?!

[@DianeMoore]

Ha! Well, it sounds like you've certainly made it a life lesson by now!

[@enduring_X]

this was a very helpful video...thanks !

[@DianeMoore]

Glad it helps!

[@brookemcgillivray180]

Thanks, great information! I’m ordering the books.

[@DianeMoore]

That’s great! I really loved them both

[@AgingOnYourTerms]

Great list! And I love #1!

[@DianeMoore]

Readers are leaders! (And good communicators!) 🙂

[@Cali-64]

I learnt how to communicate better as i grew old. It’s a skill to learn. Not easy to adopt. Good advice. I love to read since i was 13. I used to write the phrases and still use them in my conversation. Thank you

[@DianeMoore]

Clearly you worked on improving over time!

[@Cali-64]

@ Yes. I think I did. But sometimes it’s hard when i feel the other party do not understand what am i saying?

[@susiebyler5226]

Oh, Thank you so much for a great video. Those filler words. Those are a lot of the reasons why I have not started with podcasts and talking a whole lot in videos 😮

[@DianeMoore]

Oh, don’t let that be the roadblock, Susie! You can definitely overcome it

[@susiebyler5226]

@@DianeMoore Thank You

[@artisticthoughtsbyelena]

Great tips. Thank you...

[@DianeMoore]

Hope they help, Elena

[@artisticthoughtsbyelena]

@@DianeMoore Actually it does, I need to think about my words and presentation. So its all good. Thanks again....

[@mycraftyadventures]

More great tips. I need to work on not using the word ‘so’ as much. When I hear it back I cringe. 😂

[@DianeMoore]

We’re the same on that one!

[@Building_Success]

I used to say the word “right” a lot at the end of sentences. I asked my family to call me out when I say it and it has helped immensely, right?! 😂

[@DianeMoore]

Like, I know, you know?! 🙂

[@karlareadstheclassics217]

Yeah, you know what I mean? 🙄​@@DianeMoore

[@susankahn7219]

If I could just add another key point, in my opinion, it would be to please speak the English language correctly! I can't tell you how many times I hear misuse of words and not only do I cringe, but I also focus so much on that misuse that I zone out what the person is saying! Example, is and are. I was taught that is is singular and are is plural. Yet I continue to hear is used incorrectly. Ok. My rant is over! Thanks for reading!

[@DianeMoore]

Glad you got that out! 😃

[@LostJungleGardener]

ow that car screech, dont do that again lol

[@Stephaniesretirementjourney]

This is off-topic, but you’ve had this video off for under an hour. You have 56 likes with just over 100 views. That make sure engagement phenomenal.

[@DianeMoore]

So thankful that this community seems to be up early in fridays! 🙂 Truly, I’m grateful for the support

[@davidwhitcher1972]

I have the ability to communicate but i don't have the desire.

[@DianeMoore]

Well, to each his own David :)

[@ClairenParkerontheRoad]

Iike it my problem. The more tired I am the worse it gets.

[@DianeMoore]

I think tiredness gets us a lot!

[@Hillpeople-s1h]

When I start to make a video and turn my camera on I forget what I wanted to say, is there a solution for this?

[@DianeMoore]

Of course! 🙂 either make some bullet points to go by or write out a script. No reason to put all that mental pressure on yourself

[@Hillpeople-s1h]

@DianeMoore THANK YOU!

[@karenkearney9977]

Do I need permission to mention something or someone that is public news

[@DianeMoore]

Nope

[@shawneegrows]

So.... lol

[@DianeMoore]

I know, right? 🙂

[@ShannaM5965]

Great tips definitely 💯…🫣😵‍💫🤪just crazy shy that I am. Just don’t wanna make an ass out myself 🫏 and look stupid. I will try to read more and watch you more until I finally make the leap. I will make some videos and listen to myself and see. Lol I’ve have had everything ready for video making. Computer and iPad, microphone, iPhone 14, lg and sm tripod/ with ring light. Listening to my voice is definitely a hard one for me.

[@DianeMoore]

I understand that you’re building up, Irene, but I hope the day comes soon when you know it’s just time to start 🙂

[@annetteselent]

Listening to my own voice is a struggle for me too. I never enjoyed the sound of it😬

[@ShannaM5965]

Every day I say I’m going to make a video of a walk or something like where I’m from. It’s really pretty around here in the summer. But really cold right now. Lol And scenic with pretty lakes and mountains. I would love to share it. But like I said I’m just to freaking shy and I do think I sound stupid haha 😂 I will try and see what happens but I will have to wait until after the holidays. Happy Holidays Diane ❤️