Giving Evidence at a Contested Hearing

[@moshazza5684]

"And the truth shall set you free" I've had every allegation thrown at me..been self representing mostly with odd direct access barrister. I was up against a legal aid funded barrister who also sits as a deputy judge.. child solicitor via guardian came in person. She was not phased at all. The truth is the truth. Now listed for a 2 day final hearing

[@debramoss2267]

Thank you for this. Court case over phone call tomorrow. You have taken a lot of fear away.

[@kimballentyne9069]

Thank your informative informatiion. Are narcissistic behaviour personality disorder claims taken into account?

[@lizb4156]

I got screwed over by the other side's solicitor. I didn't have a solicitor so their solicitor prepared the final hearing bundle and never asked me what evidence of mine I wanted including in it! I didn't realise they had to ask me so at the final hearing none of my evidence was included except my initial statement at the first hearing. Beware of this!

[@tlangdon12]

This is one of the difficulties of being a litigant in person - you don’t know how the process works. My feeling is that HMCTS should be proving the education contained in this video rather than it falling to a generous solicitor to provide it. If you are to be a litigant in person you need to learn about the court process.

[@semolinasemolina8327]

Something like 55% of women included in the women's aid research from 2018 said that their evidence was not heard or included in the court procedings.

[@derekfisher815]

Thank you.

[@TheKezmeister2011]

This happened to me at the fact finding. So much evidence was omitted.

[@helinajoevere1563]

Thank You - the hearing I am attending is way too complicated, but this is precisely why going over the distracting basics that cause the unnecessary overthinking is so very appreciated..! Thank You❤️

[@user-xg6zp4dr5x]

thank you so much for hope. stay strong

[@TheKezmeister2011]

I need to challenge the fact finding but I'm scared to.

[@hannacook859]

What do I do if the judge found a lot of my allegations true, but said they don't matter because it is not hitting the child and not screaming at the child

[@emmat8881]

If the Applicant has a solicitor & I, the Respondent have not, do I ask him questions / cross examine him? (knowing that he’s lying through his teeth!!)

[@Queen-of-Swords]

I can't see your name anywhere, but thank you. This is very helpful. Unfortunately I am in a position of needing to know about these things, fast. 😔

[@DaMam21]

I'm very worried. I have just come out of a 16 year abusive relationship. Emotionally, financially and sexually. I had the non molestation order granted in the 3rd of Dec, the contested hearing is next Fri. After waiting a endless amount of time for legal aid I have been told today that I am not entitled as he has bail conditions in place. I am not law literate and there are 4 children involved. I have no idea (even after watching this video) where on earth to start. The social services and schools have recognised him as a safeguarding issue. Do I need this on paper? He broke the order the day it was served via his brother. He then goes onto send an email full of lies and false accusations. He has a solicitor (I belive) but I am stood alone at the next remote hearing. What on earth do I do? I do also have somewhat video proof of my allegation and have submitted attached emails I'm still at a loss it seems so unfair to the victim who is not financially in a place to pay private legal fees

[@CJ-gp7ir]

Please know that you are not alone. Something similar happened to me in my case and it is absolutely not good enough, victims of abuse are being re-traumatized by this process. Don't encourage women to leave if society doesn't want to deal with it properly. I'm so sorry about your situation and I hope that you are in a better place now. If you ever want to chat give me a message.

[@jennyli365]

I have a contested hearing in Dec. My lawyer can not do the final hearing as she is not qualified, I was told I will need to find a barrister. I am thinking of representing myself, but English is not my first language, I am concerned if I can express myself in the court properly, can I request an interpreter? Can you please give me some advice? Thanks.

[@thezealouschristian9759]

How did it go?

[@mehr75noosh]

Yes you can

[@AB-bc3vi]

If you’re a female, you can turn up after an acid rave and they’ll still believe everything you say

[@jennyli365]

@@thezealouschristian9759 I did represent myself. The judge was very kind. It turned out fine.

[@somersetangel]

Thank you I have sent link to my daughter this is so helpful

[@lizb4156]

I applied for an occupation order and it took 13 months! There were 3 month gaps between each hearing and one was cancelled with NO explanation and made for another 3 months later. At the final hearing , (where the verdict would be told the next day), the Judge changed the verdict venue to another town and at both the final hearing and the verdict, there was nobody else at the court, so they weren't bogged down with work, so why so long between hearings? 13 months of my life!

[@tlangdon12]

Did you complain to you MP about the underfunding of the courts system?

[@lizb4156]

@@tlangdon12 No. They never do anything.

[@Beaumirabel]

Hello recently I stopped contact between my son and his father because my son who is 4, disclosed two allegations against him. He also said something similar when he was 18 months old but I didnt do anything about it, as I thought kids just say things. Social services and police involved. But son refused to give an ABE statement and so police can't do anything. Social services have put it down to inappropriate play and have promoted supervised cotact. I dont agree. Can I go for sole custody, or will court just go off what social workers have wrote in the assessment. I have complained about the assessment, because there's alot of missing information and very supportive of the narcissist ex

[@tlangdon12]

You can ask for sole custody, but you will have to provide some evidence as to why supervised contact is a bad idea. Can you do this?

[@hiaslayer]

Obviously she can’t as otherwise she wouldn’t have to use a four year old as a tool (an 18 month old told you….) to all you ladies out there: the statement of your manipulated toddler is not evidence

[@Beaumirabel]

@@hiaslayer and he actually said it to a nursery worker not me, judgmental bastrd

[@Beaumirabel]

@@hiaslayer and for your information his dad actually admitted he may have accidentally touched him whilst tickling him. So take your judgmental arse somewhere else.

[@hiaslayer]

Healthy separated parents do not make sexual abuse allegations against each other. how long was contact terminated? 6months? A year? Could you have your child all to your own. Seems like you are even proud of it. Did you say „no my ex would never be capable of doing that?“ you you took the opportunity didn’t you

[@skyali6895]

My abusive ex partner took me to court & he hasn’t attended one of the hearings. He isn’t submitting anything that the court asks it’s frustrating. Is there any way I can get in touch with you. Thank u so much for the information

[@DavidGranton]

How do i submit my statement when opposing a non mol? Do i iust email my statement to the other partys solicitor? Any advice is appreciated im on a short timescale and a lot of places i have rang hasnt got the capacity to help.

[@Mookiezbadazmach]

So crucial so crucial, thanks alot.

[@Johnmadix]

watch out for women that have aggresive anxiety and cant communicate and are in capable of loving anything or anyone. they will destroy your life if you let them...

[@rickyfouracres8546]

I’m representing myself with regards custody of our daughter. Roughly how long should be my opening statement in our final hearing? Thank you in advance.

[@number1hally]

This is amazing’ thank you so much!

[@hannacook859]

And is the judge of a final hearing the same of the fact finding?

[@vixen1143]

Thank you for your videos.

[@cazlee4493]

who is asking the questions?

[@jemmymadeleine]

according to research, narcissistic behaviour is more common in females. So when a man turns out to have these traits, it turns out that they're most likely to have come from a single mother household.

[@edanaoharamcaleenan8384]

Tue court have used me getting help from a crusus house for a week following year's of abuse from kids father now ongoing by him threw court ge has kept children against a court order and the court have let him keep them 😢

[@joeoreilly9169]

Frightening

[@booshallmighty]

I told the truth from the get go. She lied the whole time. I can honestly say that she fared better. Lying is the best policy for quality of outcome. Women know this and that is why most men are just thrown to the wolves

[@user-sm1ef2zy6y]

no bias here

[@user-sm1ef2zy6y]

Kerching kerching

[@martinkingdon6699]

Doesn't matter anyway if your a man your loosing she was a violant thug arrested many times I'm as clean as a whistle and she still has full custody always sexist then some people have the nerve to be femanist

[@user-sm1ef2zy6y]

At least your not a judge there is a god